How to deal with toxic people

[@stevehill3102]

I've found that most toxic people will belittle others in an attempt to make themselves feel better. By making others feel bad they feel better about themselves... Poor angry souls.

[@andrewsweeney1869]

i agree.Usually very sad lonely people

[@Newstripper27]

@@andrewsweeney1869 It’s 100% Jealousy. Sad lonely people have toxic people around them that’s why they are lonely and sad, besides these sad people don’t take out time to hurt others.

[@patrickl7212]

What stinks is when those toxic people are in your family. It gets old constantly having to draw boundaries with them. I think your advice is useful. Thank you Bjorn.

[@crusadershuakbar]

i have a couple in my immediate family, I eventually had to brush them aside, for my own sanity, they are the worst

[@binky5172]

I have toxic people in my immediate family as well. It’s painful to realize that as much as you love them, you have to distance yourself. 😢

[@milhouse8166]

You have to put yourself first. Don't ever try to reason with them, it only makes it worse

[@victoriaevelyn3953]

I found a very good video on this it went through all the levels of how to deal with a toxic family member

[@crusadershuakbar]

@@victoriaevelyn3953 do you have a link, i`d like to watch

[@daniboy0812]

Stay away from toxic people. Best way to deal with them - don’t

[@trooperodst6880]

Bjorn is amazing! Yes exactly! Recently I got bad in terms with not even a friend. But it's gonna be great to not even think about it

[@resarm5007]

Exactly Joel. The best way to deal with them is DON'T

[@brooklynn52dee38]

Joel Tillyer That is what Bjorn said in his video!!!

[@notyou1821]

I've got a better suggestion- stand up to them and don't just cower like a wet wipe, that's how they win.

[@brooklynn52dee38]

@@notyou1821 They can bring you down to their level and beat you with experience. Walking away imo is winning..

[@sksupply]

Coming out of denial in the past year or so I realized how toxic I can be. The past two years did not help, but It takes courage and integrity to defeat negative thinking, being judgmental and cynicism. Thanks for the honest analysis.

[@donaldnelson6198]

Detoxify you can do it and your comment really helped me Don USA

[@sksupply]

@@archenema6792 Being quick to judgement is obviously a strong point of yours and completely out of context of what I was saying. Love your dental work by the way. Great channel.

[@platesomeat]

@ArchEnema 67 in all fairness to Schteve, good judgement and being judgemental are different things. In all fairness to cows, they're more intelligent than you think.

[@thewayfarer8849]

Almost all people never do something about it, and that awareness tells me you'll be far from it very shortly. Respect for your humility.

[@jonbob9875]

It takes a huge person to admit they've been in denial....

[@whereswendy8544]

Take note of people who react negatively to your boundaries because that is the edge of where their respect for you ends.

[@kimerickson1353]

Well said!

[@robc5135]

My Grampa always said: "Own what you say and own what you do and hold everyone in your life to the same standard, if you do that then there is no room for anyone or anything else."..and man he was spot on.

[@borealiswan2363]

Excellent line of advice, hold others up to your set of values

[@darkhorsehillfamilyfarm2148]

I love this quote, thankyou for sharing

[@Zachary-]

That's a good saying. It puts the responsibility on you to decide what standards to hold others to. It's dangerous when toxic people start calling everyone else toxic.

[@velvetindigonight]

The Wisdom of ‘Elders’ ……….. never had Grandfathers……. One for the fridge door! Thank you for sharing Go well

[@kimerickson1353]

Our elders have so much to teach us! My parents & grandparents also passed on such wisdom.

[@dfuss2756]

You sure have that right. Toxic people, toxic t.v., toxic shows. They have all been turned off.

[@texashorserescue3934]

One more reason I'm happy to be living with our animals & like minded people in the middle of nowhere! There is nothing more draining than being around toxic people. They drain your energy. I find it's best to consciously put up an emotional wall while around these people.

[@Niels357]

Bjorn is dismissing every one with a different opinion! using the word troll to easy! Who is the toxic one? Bjorn!

[@amandaduggan9051]

Animals and nature can show us so much more than any human. So many people are selfish and narcissistic these days, too materialistic, we need to appreciate the simpler things in life. Moat people look but do not see.

[@Niels357]

@@amandaduggan9051 so are animals. better look at animals before your statement animals fuck with other animals all the time so we are exactly like animals. hell we are animals

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@stacywalden850]

My new year's resolution was no more toxic relationships. I'm feeling so much healthier and happier now ,especially emotionally.

[@laramatthews2082]

It is difficult to enforce personal boundaries w/ppl (esp toxic ones), but the personal peace is well worth it.

[@victoriaevelyn3953]

Yes your own mental health is the most important thing and if a relationship with someone upsets that balance then that's not healthy

[@sinceresong9907]

Same

[@stacywalden850]

@@jonlebel93 Amen BROTHER! I love them but I had to let them go.

[@John.M.Gannon]

Does that mean ,you're on the prowl?

[@gypsyfaded5907]

You are correct, Bjorn. Those who disrespect others lack self-respect.

[@igitahimsa5871]

@Gypsy Exactly.

[@TheSaintedOne]

I've NEVER clicked on a video with 'No Views'. Feels like I just unlocked a trophy.

[@davidburland6576]

Most people don't want to deal with toxic people.

[@handleyourface]

Yes sir, this gentleman youtuber is on par and seems to have his finger on the pulse on what millions in the world are thinking.

[@jakekarr9733]

Toxic people are constantly looking to fight you in a verbal argument. When you react emotionally you give these people power over you. If you argue with them to the point of toxicity a week later you will forget about it and move on. They remember for life and tell everyone who agrees with them every last detail. They’re obsessed over debating it’s like a fetish for them.

[@Merciless_Banana]

When you are too close to radiation you, yourself become irradiated. This is why it's best to minimize relationships and interactions with toxic people. You will start picking up their traits if you are not careful

[@kathrine266]

i tried to excuse all the behaviour because if i admitted how toxic it was it would be so awful to admit the friendship was no friendship at all.

[@BaiMengLing]

I have decided another way, I'm educating myself professionally to handle them. Just like professionals wear special equipment and follow strict procedures around radiation to avoid contamination. It is possible to interact safely with toxic people, but it requires proper knowledge, and adhering to some standards, any well trained psychologist, psychotherapist or psychiatrist can do it.

[@ewetoobblowzdogg8410]

I don't struggle to keep toxic people out of my life. It's easy to recognize a narcissist, a liar, a pessimist or a thief. Then you just say no... to everything.

[@merlindodson7562]

As someone who was involved with a narcissist in my early 30s who grew up with very healthy and loving relationships prior to that, I would say that in my personal opinion, spotting a narcissist can require having had some exposure to one before. I was completely stunned, at least, with my first encounter with one because I had never seen anyone express those behaviors so I thought for some time that I was the one who must have been doing something wrong to trigger the cruelty. I think I did grow from the experience and learn how to avoid that type in future but just wanted to share my experience because I think some of us really so get blindsided and even entrapped, for a time, with very unhealthy people just because we maybe were too sheltered and fortunate in our upbringing to realize that people like that even existed.

[@defaultytuser]

@@merlindodson7562 excellent observation. Most narcissists are masterful liars and deceivers since a huge part of their survival relies on keeping their masquerade pristine. It speaks volumes of your wisdom to not only be able to spot the manipulation, but also learn from the experience. A lot of people fall in denial. Cheers

[@BaiMengLing]

Why say no to everything, you are denying yourself opportunities! Narcissist are easy to manipulate, they want admiration, you give it to them and then use them for whatever they can provide you. As soon as they start the drama, you shut down and remain stoic. They'll go away, until they miss your compliments ;)

[@ewetoobblowzdogg8410]

@@BaiMengLing I require a higher standard of behavior from myself and have no needs for praise or compliments. I only need a drama free life

[@jameswhelchel102]

I had certain “friends” that I got along with well at times, but ultimately I had to cut them out. I realized that I’m happier when I’m not around them or when I haven’t talked to them in a while, because despite our “friendship,” they seemed to have to shit on me any chance they got. Best decision I ever made.

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@randimochamer6284]

Bjorn… my empathic heart feels your sorrow. I’m watching this a bit late, well into the new war crisis. Like your disappearing forests, our lives are changing. It’s hard to find a peaceful place. May we all find that solace within our own hearts, and a like-minded tribe of human support….

[@moenibus]

Remember boys: not everyone that is hard on you is "toxic" or a "hater", nor anyone who is friendly or nice is your friend.

[@jonstainerr5340]

agreed 100%. To snowflakes everything is toxic if its not from Netflix (only there they feel good and strong)

[@BaiMengLing]

@@jonstainerr5340 toxic people love to insult people with the term "snowflake", as soon as we draw boundaries. Remember girls ;)

[@chuckwagner76]

I got rid of my good friend of 25 years because of his toxic , angry , bitter , manipulative wife , it was like walking on eggshells covering hair trigger landmines that lay on top of nuclear bombs , plus constantly trying to gaslight me over the last two years

[@LilyGazou]

It’s sad when these friends can’t see this and save themselves.

[@fourtails1192]

Great advice Bjorn ...I started cutting toxic people from my life a few years ago ( a few were family members that didn't respect my need for peace of mind & tranquility) I feel much better for it ✌️

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@fourtails1192]

@@Niels357 you don't have to be with like minded people , to not have toxic people in your life. I know a lot of people that don't have the same opinions or beliefs that I do (& that's great ! They have every right as individuals ) & we respect eachother . I don't think that they're toxic just cause they aren't like me...but if they are negative , backstabbing , lying , gossiping people that don't respect my need for peace & tranquility...then they are toxic ( to me ).

[@Niels357]

​@@fourtails1192 (to me) is exactly the point! you are in the same situation as the person being toxic in that moment so your actions and their's dictate the situation. your action and responses makes it possible for them to be toxic. that moment and your actions gave them the possibility to be toxic to you. and yes if you are not there its not possible for them to be but that is to simple of an action cause you never know with the next person you meet. therefor your actions in that moment allowed them. therefor you did . that is why i say use the situation not the people in it the situation if you handled it right the other person can't be toxic to you cause you control the situation and therefor the people in it. in order for someone to be toxic to you is because you gave them that chance. people can call me whatever they like its up to me if i let it effect me not the one calling me name. same calls for the backstabbing you decide if you let someone near your backside. every interaction there are always two people involved, this case you and the toxic person. it takes two to tango and there is always one who tango's better so that person leads. be the one that leads. and you only learn to better tango if you tango. by avoiding the dance the next dance will be shitty too

[@Niels357]

​@@fourtails1192 and response to the like minded people had nothing to do with toxic people but being in a like minded bubble

[@stateofbalance5509]

As I say if there not for you then they are against you and if they are against you then get them to fxxk

[@alexisalexander9037]

When I had enough of toxic people, I gave up everything and left a big city with a car load of camping gear. That first night camping in a park brought me the best sleep I had in a long time. After 2 weeks camping I was more balanced. Now I live around good friendly supportive neighbors. The only ones that mess with me are squirrels when they have dance parties on my roof and the deer use my garden as an all you can eat buffet. Freedom is peace.

[@lat1419]

I know that some of us are happier when we are in contact with nature. Like Bjorn. Away from the pressures of modern life we can be the good people we were born to be

[@alexisalexander9037]

@@lat1419 I see modern life as highly dysfunctional and I can grudgingly tolerate that. I had enough of the deadly people. In my apartment complex people would fight each other constantly, commit crimes and murder to the point it was 24/7 chaos. The whole city was a cesspool with tiny pockets of decent people. To leave was life saving because it was sucking my life force out of me and no war zone is safe.

[@lat1419]

@@alexisalexander9037 you did well to understand the forces acting negatively on your life and find a solution. Too many think they cannot do anything, and give in. As the advert says, "because I'm worth it" , and every human really is, but you have to like yourself enough first to be able to make those changes. I knew aged 8yo that my family was dysfunctional and my job was to survive and then get out like a bat out of hell as soon as I could. It has been risky at times, always hard work, but so worth it to be here now on the other side.

[@yukey2587]

I did not know you were a therapist. Now I know why your commentary is so calm and common sense. Thank you.

[@vickieboudwin7781]

I love that you can walk in nature and be alone. Reminds me when I was a child . Very soothing.

[@Jetmab04]

I agree 100% 😊

[@binky5172]

Thank you Bjorn. I sure needed this today. I have toxic people in my immediate family as well. Very painful. Thank you for the reminder that there are good people too. You’re one of them 😊

[@apextroll]

What people don't realize that we are participants to the toxicity. We in effect enable it by playing the game through control dramas: Intimidator, Interrogators, poor me or aloof. Once you see the game and stop playing the toxic individual has no recourse. Look it up.

[@zaidacrechel4459]

Yes indeed, he has a very clean heart. Zaida Puerto Rico

[@evabuehler9905]

Toxic family is so hard and so painful.

[@DaytonaStation]

hi miss mc sweeney

[@jimbo2834]

@@apextroll This is very true! Good advice👍

[@confusedwhynot]

Thank you! You have such a peaceful spirit about you. I'm having to let go of my husband of 30 plus years after suffering from emotional abuse. Our children have also suffered emotional abuse. I can't be with him the way he is.

[@desertsky9886]

Best thing is to go ‘no contact’ with toxic family or others that are unbearable.

[@sue7621]

I’ve met quite a few of them in my nursing career and I am highly intuitive! I always take note of the signs and read between the lines! They are weak fragile people and are always projecting their insecurities on to others! They take my empathy /compassion for a weakness- big mistake! That’s it once I’m done I’m done! Sending love from a strong Geordie from Newcastle living in Wales! ♥️ 🙌👏👏♥️😍🥰👍✊🙏🌍

[@bobhead6243]

Hi Bjorn , I have no time for Toxic people , been avoiding them for years ! Also would just like to say that I feel Honoured to be part of this Tribe , Be well my Friend , Strength , Honour and Respect .👍

[@Jetmab04]

This sure IS a good tribe Bob...you made me smile big time with your comment here 😊

[@DavisAplaylist]

Bjorn, thank you for being a voice of common sense. I have no time for toxic people, and I know this attitude well because I was raised in a home with a toxic person. Keep up the good work, my friend. Hope to be able to $$ support your channel, at some time. Glad that I found this tribe!! By the way, what kind of knife are you using in this video?

[@BrianSmith-fe9he]

You are refreshingly direct and real. Your advice is solid. I find it calming to listen to you. Thank you for your beautiful photography as well. Your videos are a positive experience in a world gone nuts. Peace and God bless you.

[@fearthehoneybadger]

The best way is to just avoid them.

[@gx8841]

I know this is true, but I struggle with letting them have the last word. They then confirm to themselves that they are right and I am of lesser intellect. Why can't people respect another's viewpoint without being nasty?

[@curseofsasuke]

As a stubborn person, I’ve only recently realized the power of quitting. Quitting certain activities, ideas, feelings and letting go is just very healing, before I become toxic.

[@NoctLightCloud]

I kicked my 2 best friends in 2020. We've been together since 2004 but that was mostly school (8 yrs together in the same class) and we grew together because we were all nerds. But after finishing highschool, they became extremely toxic. (They both had mental problems but constantly refused to see a doctor!) They were creating gossip constantly and also one of them was passive agressive towards my sister which I was not having. They are still tyring to reach to me occassionally (every 2 months) but I am not in the mood. I am in a happier mood since I kicked them. I've invested 2004~2020, and you'd think "such a pity, you already know each other for so long". But NO. It would be a pity to let them continue being toxic. They've been toxic since 2013 and 2013~2020 was already enough patience and time I was willing to sacrifice for that "friendship". No more. 2020~2022 was a much happier time, without them.

[@ObservantPiratePlus]

With all of the coof madness that's been going on, we are all discovering that there are people that have been with us all our lives, sometimes very dear people, that are extremely toxic and even closet authoritarian, and that this whole world situation is bringing that out into the light. Allegiances are changing very rapidly, yet newly created families are being formed, from the folk that remain grounded and know who they truly are. Thank you for being a guiding beacon along the path of finding this Truth.

[@allen_p]

Thank you Bjorn. Important topic. I am the youngest of three sons. My mother was toxic with rare glimpses of love and nurturing. After my mothers death I found out her family life was similar. Children should be seen, not heard. Celebration of birthdays was rare and hearing, I love you, was something on tv and movies. I always wanted to have children, but now, grateful I never did. I would have passed on destructive behaviors. I'm nowhere near as bad as my mother, but I was raised to be tough and firm. Touchie -feelie might as well he a foreign language. Not all, but often I think toxicity is learned. Unlearning takes many, many more repetitions than learning the toxic behaviors in the beginning. I taught adults to swim for fifteen years. Adults who had bad experiences in water took much longer to overcome that fear.

[@HosCreates]

It really is passed down from parents to children the toxic behaviors . Having to unlearn them take time and therapy so you don't pass it down ..

[@harvs7051]

Before the 1st lock down in the UK I used to have a very large social network of both in-person and online friends. Due to my health I had to isolate myself completely and despite my efforts to maintain those friendships, I found myself identifying more and more toxic people amongst that group. 2 years on, I now have a social network of 6 people, including my wife and 2 children.... I'm happier and less stressed now than I ever was, especially because I no longer have any social media accounts and live mostly in seclusion in my (now) beautiful garden and my truck

[@laramatthews2082]

Toxicity abounds when not dealt with [properly]. It's not easy to enforce personal boundaries, but the peace is well worth it and it's the only way others will learn if possible.

[@bradg1440]

I feel like I'm becoming more negative, and want to be left alone, because of everything happening right now in our world, but it's been building up over time. I really appreciate your videos! Thanks!

[@ryanjonestownmassaker5943]

Exactly the same for me. I just want to live in a cabin somewhere deep in a forest.

[@oscargustaverejlander.]

Thanks for the video, Bjorn! Great advice. I've had to do this with my brother sadly. After years and years I finally realised he is a toxic presence in my life and no matter what I do, achieve, or if I'm struggling, he would always find a way to hurt me. The last time I saw him he physically attacked me, and that was the last straw. I've only ever wanted a supportive and productive relationship with him but I know it's just not possible, so I've blocked him completely out of my life and made it impossible for him to reach me. Sad, but ultimately it's for the best.

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@oscargustaverejlander.]

@@Niels357 ​ Your comment is totally irrelevant to my situation... Considering I've seen you post the exact same comment in response to other people's thoughts and personal circumstance involving the content of Bjorn's video, it's reasonable to assume you're the kind of person he is referring to. If the solution to a "problem" that cannot be solved by facing it (i.e., having that person in your life in any way) is to remove them from it, then that in itself 'is' solving the problem. This isn't about creating echo chambers (which is what your comment suggests and actually propagates considering how much you've spammed it). It's about protecting oneself from negative and destructive energy.

[@Niels357]

@@oscargustaverejlander. exactly, protecting ones self! before all this happend to you and i'm sorry it did you never knew about it until it did what is exactly the thing that gave you this knowledge now! we have to experience it to know about it. you can tell a kid a 1000 times not to put his finger in the flame cause you will burn yourself and still the kid does it why? because that's how the brain learn it for real. everyone that knows fire is hot has burned themselves at least ones. you learned it because you experienced it! like me and bjorn probably! someone had to be bitten by the snake to know its dangerous. people who have not experienced it do not know about it. i dislike it too yet without the experience i would never have known about it and to deal with it. i don't avoid them anymore i hold them a mirror in front and let them experience the same and then the normal conversation starts. suddenly they look human like everyone else

[@Niels357]

@@oscargustaverejlander. how to handle toxic people: Look at the situation you and they are in. the situation calls for someone to be toxic or not. Not the person itself. deal with the situation not the persons in it then your eyes will open and see what is actually going on. people react to the situation they are in what dictates their actions and all previous actions dictate their next move towards the next situation . all those situation makes up their personality. change the situation changes their personalities with it

[@springcrocus7flower635]

@@Niels357 - your response does not apply to the original comment. Seems negative. Perhaps you should do some self reflecting to make sure you are not falling under the umbrella of a toxic person.

[@tabajoe3636]

Very true Bjorn. I have always gotten strange comments (since 14yrs old) for my taste of music , that has caused me to love being a loner and understnd why I'm misanthropic.

[@SeekTruthOut]

Shalom from Oklahoma, sometimes the best way to love your neighbor is to just leave them alone.

[@SimpleEarthSelfReliance]

Love the guy behind the huge fence. I agree with you there.

[@OmasHouse5976]

I'm so thankful you did this. You are actually the FIRST person who is a therapist who I have ever heard that validates people removing those that cause poisonous emotional pain form your lives.

[@wildbillgordon960]

the world needs more calm wisdom as yours, thank you. faith and hope are thin these days

[@jimjones4644]

As someone who has anger issues and pushes people away a lot... there's times I feel like that toxic person. Which just makes me push harder.

[@discodroid]

I too have that same problem & feel like the toxic one.

[@lancashireandyorkshireadve6965]

i'm the same, but it takes a lot of guts to admit you have a problem, it's not easy so fair play to you

[@SolarSailor1967]

I can relate, sir.

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@kurbiskuchenliebhaber]

i resort to isolation and self medication, feels like everyone is always poking and prodding me and then holds some bullshit view of me after i lash out in response, makes me hate them, its an endless loop and every person is the same

[@robertling9872]

Thank you Bjorn for this clear message. We live in a society that is taking increasingly strange forms. Chronic diseases, over-deaths and violence are taking on alarming proportions and numbers. World peace, love and health is the most beautiful thing we can give each other. I wish this on everyone in our shared world.

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@PaulTheHermit77]

Sounds like your "miss world" speech. How about ending hunger too. And climate change.

[@ellenj8896]

I just blocked a toxic “friend” who, as you said, came across as kind, open minded, etc. She called a few weeks ago and I mentioned my belief in the importance of free speech. I said that I believe that those we disagree with (such as a former US President) still have a right to free speech, as long as they are not inciting criminal behavior, etc. She got really mad and told me that if I continued talking about allowing free speech to someone like that former politician, that she would hang up on me. My response was to tell her in no uncertain terms, that she was welcome to hang up anytime she wanted. We ended the conversation on a positive note, but I blocked her in every possible way. Since I believe strongly in free speech and she was trying to shut me down by not giving me free speech, that was it for her. She’s “outa here”. And I’m happy. My tip of the day: If you block someone and feel a sense of relief, then in my opinion it means that blocking them was the right thing to do.

[@desiderata333]

Good for you! Bravo!

[@darylthompson9974]

When you think of a toxic relative after the break shows how mentally manipulated you were. Takes awhile to deprogram.

[@acenath8643]

I made the mistake of not only letting my mother live with me, I let her choose where we would live. We are both toxic for each other- I developed OCD & she has borderline personality disorder. I think it's best if we separate. If you're the praying type, please pray that I can come out of my darkness, improve myself & come out of this situation. Thank you.

[@chaddy2409]

Maybe you can distance from her step by step. For example moving out and still keep visiting her on the weekends etc. Then you can evaluate if it is the right step to take. Or you move out directly and stop the contact for a while. Just some ideas. Hope you can make it, im in a somewhat similar situation even though i live without my parents.

[@natantataii8195]

BPD is one of the most toxic personality disorder. If you have it yourself you have you have a hill to climb where you will never reach the peak. I have a person with BPD in my close family I have no contact and will never have again. Only thing left for me is the decision if I will attend the funeral when the person dies. I have come to the conclusion that I will, because there is something very sad about a person with abilities, competence, and not being "at core" evil or sadistic that can sabotage and wreck so many peoples lives. If the BPD person had been a real evil or sadistic person, the havoc they inflict on other people would be their reward, however for the BPD person it only sabotage and destroy their own life. BPD is for me female psychopathy, but without the malice. So for some reason, maybe because I am a Male, there is at least the idea or the possibility of an idea for redemption. That I do not believe for psychopaths. I will not pray for you, I would just say: Move and cut off contact. If any contact, max 1-2 times per year.

[@dramir5635]

Can't remember who told me it, but when I heard something similar 3 or 4 years ago it honestly made ME become a better person when I thought about it. I used to be a very toxic individual, but now that I'm a bit older, I can see my own mistakes and I've learned a ton from them. Anyways, thanks a bunch for spreading so much positivity and keeping the community strong. Cheers from Slovakia!

[@darylthompson9974]

What a great thing to hear!

[@LilyGazou]

Hi, Slovakia. I have a niece who moved there 2 years ago with her fiancé. They love it.

[@tlamiczka]

So funny to find Slovak bro in comment section of Norwegian writer :-) We truly are international tribe here :-) Cheers from Czechia!

[@joanscott9465]

Thank you so very much! My oldest brother is a sociopath. He has been beyond hurtful to me and my family. I blocked him from my life after giving him many chances. A good decision. Thank you for affirming that. God bless you!

[@gregholman2930]

I know what you mean Bjorn when you say toxic ppl can be friendly & charming. I started a new job this week & my co-worker who was friendly, helpful & charming stabbed me in the back by telling my boss what I said to him in private, that the 4th commandment says not to work on Saturday's & my job requires that I work one Saturday one weekend out of the month. I felt betrayed as it was my intention to work Saturday's when called upon, but I think this gentleman wanted to score points with management. Fortunately I found a better job the very next day. After management called me into the office regarding my remarks, when I exited I was nice to my coworker & didn't show him any hostility, I just accepted him as being two-faced and that he can't be trusted. I also realized that it's a good idea to be cautious when intermingling with strangers for the first time no matter how much they smile & seem to be sincere ..Great vid Bjorn!

[@MarenW21]

I think too Bjoern that a lot of people are currently not in a good state of mind. The last 2 years have taken its toll. Last week our people fighting the mandates in New Zealand have been crushed by brute and violent force and even the most peaceful person is struggling with their emotions. I am angry, an angry person who trusts nobody, this is the result of the last 2 years. Everyone feels like they need to lash out, its all so much frustration bottled up.... I am NOT defending the ones that are rude and offensive, 100 percent not, but let's keep in mind that there are a lot of raw nerves out there. Let's focus on the good.. We all need a big dose of goodness, love and care right now. Your videos helped me get through things during the last 2 years of despair. You might never read this Bjoern, but for the record :you kept me going and I enjoyed not just your words but also the beautiful trees around you. You have a family here Bjoern, not just subscribers, we are family to have each others back and support ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@di9italzero500]

There is two schools of thought here. There will always be bullies, you have to learn how to deal with them. We have to learn how to interact with people that make us uncomfortable. Our skin needs to thicken, words cannot hurt you.

[@natantataii8195]

I fully agree. There was no problem for this approach around 15-20 years ago. The problem today, especially with the female culture around, at work places etc.. is that healthy push backs and dealing with bullies might jeopardize your work, livelihood. The contemporary bullies of our time have learned to play weak and victim, which means that they play the crowd/tribe and use them in their efforts. So, again, agree with you 100%, but there are real life risks these days who where no present or minor many years ago. In my former job I had what I consider a surreal/reverse incident, where a female worker claimed I was using domination tactics in an interaction. It was reported to my supervisor. Her claim was only merited on the basis that domination was my intent, the objective analysis of the situation/words etc held not merit to her claim. You could argue that I am an assertive person and being direct, but that's it, I am also very polite and are always professional at work. My personal opinion of that situation is that the young female have some type of personality disorder, because if I believe that she was honest, she must suffer from some kind of paranoia (typical for people with personality disorders). Anyhows, to finish this off: I told my supervisor that the claim held no merit and was false. My supervisor said that it doesn't matter, because this was how she (the young female) was feeling. I told my supervisor that it doesn't matter, then she was in the wrong. I didn't say she was feeling wrong. Just that there is no other truths and that this female was wrong. My Supervisor then fully understood what assertive means. I was assertive because I was right. I was not right because I was assertive. An important difference I hope my supervisor learnt-

[@ShadesApeDJansu]

Thank you Bjorn in exchange for you're thanks and to add validity to you're speech i am a 30y old man from Finland and have only one 40y old man and his 17y old son as a friends/family friends and this is due together cutting toxic people. You will be happy even with 1 true friend, peace is worth it. Cut trolls instantly on net too

[@Messymy]

When you can finally admit that you have a problem settling for relationships with toxic people, it is a major step forward.

[@briansalazar7397]

I had so many toxic people around me it drove me to a strong Bible believing church and I’ve met so many great new people who want the best and pray for each other. Praise GOD!!!

[@Rinyotsu]

I've been having a little more trouble lately controlling my emotions and watching your videos I feel like I'm getting told what I need to hear in a way that I can actually listen rather than feeling judged. Thank you!

[@Holio88]

People who judge you only because their scared of being judged themselves. God Bless you.

[@charusharu]

Good talk, Bjorn. For every 1000 comments I get, around 20-30 of come from people who simply want to spread ill will or who are shadow boxing against someone who isn't me to live out some kind of bizarre fantasy they have. Since I reply to as many comments as possible, I used to interact with such people and try to understand them, but have started doing the same as you. We are not obligated to put up with abuse from weirdos.

[@vickieboudwin7781]

I am glad that you aren't stopping the videos because my daughter started watching you and she told me she enjoys your videos also.

[@lessevdoolbretsim]

"They want me to say what they think", that's a good way to put it.

[@hadleygodden2323]

Huge respect for this guy

[@debralynnbailey6527]

Thanks for that good advice. And know it ok to walk away even if it’s from your own family.

[@wolfgangmikeleit4630]

Dear Björn, I agree to 100%! I had my experiences with toxic people, people who wanted me to tell all about doom and gloom, that it would be nice to have the jab, or crap like this. I did what your advice says, I blocked them all. Especially all those guys who want to tell you that everything is over, we are all bound to die and nonsense like that. I love nature, I love positive feelings and emotions, I know, that our thoughts and emotions can create our reality. And I´m going to dream a new world, without war, nuts running politicians, without hatred, crimes and all that terrible stuff I don´t have to name here, I dream love, optimism into reality and I know, that the amount of people doing the same, is becoming more and more day by day. Therefor I say, we are at the dawn of a new era, we are the ones, we have been waiting for! It´s up to us, if we want live in a beautiful, new world, or if we remain in the old, polarizing crap... Thank you for your beautiful videos, all the best for you and your country, many greetings from Wuppertal, Germany, yours Wolfgang.😃👍👋

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@MediaFilter]

​I can't agree with this,@@Niels357. I see what you're saying and am old and young enough to have seen both sides of the fence (not a millenial). There are people who drain too much energy to be worth it. Sometimes the most sensitive are also the most productive in various ways. A thick skin is good, but there are limits. There are also plenty of folk who will never, ever expand your horizons.

[@Niels357]

@@MediaFilter before you now someone who drains to much energy you meet them and the energy is been taken in order for you to know they take to much. Too Know, the deed is done

[@bl8680]

Great advice Bjorn. BTW the woods are beautiful and peaceful. Great place to clear your mind.

[@Kathleensailorgirl]

Thank you Bjorn for your great advice, I had to block my ex because I was being emotionally abused . I feel much better taking back my peace of mind. 🙏 blessings to you and your family. 😊

[@kevinwykes5501]

They say that you reap what you sow, you put good videos out with good honest messages and that is why you get good feedback. Keep up the good work.

[@sarojaband4664]

Disengage at the first sign of disloyalty. Betrayal can destroy you.

[@kazzj62]

Took me years to get a toxic freind out of y life. It was so difficult and painful to realise and then remove myself .. it was familiar to me .. its not easy but after 15 years of being emotionally abused by this so called friend I realised they were making me feel ill every time I came away from them. I seem to attract them! Because as you say when you are open and friendly they see it is an invitation to just come into your house!

[@toddolson573]

To react constantly to a person that has a negative outlook is only feeding the fire. In other words, it's justifying their position.

[@milhouse8166]

You cannot reason with a toxic person because in their mind they are always right, and everything you say only makes them more toxic.

[@Niels357]

like bjorns mind! only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@milhouse8166]

@@Niels357 thanks for proving my point

[@Niels357]

@@milhouse8166 you can reason with me, so proof your point. people use these words like toxic and trolls etc way to easy without a reasonable argument. like calling someone a troll without an argument backing it up is trolling its the easy blame game and most people that are out of a toxic upbringing become toxic themselves. it takes two to tango. a person who has less experience can easily call someone who has toxic. if you have live skills in dealing with toxic people you can get skill to not give them the opportunity to be toxic to you and go over to less skilled people taking another victim. i lived a toxic mother when i left she just took it out on my little brother when i came back i took the toxicity back on me without it bothering me or effect me so i could teach my little brother the same if i had not done that my little brother would have gone down with her toxicity.. now make your argument

[@Niels357]

@@milhouse8166 avoiding toxic people only saves yourself! the toxic person just goes on to the next victim so is just saving yourself not narcissistic by itself?

[@milhouse8166]

@@Niels357 you see how little regard you have for other opinions? It's almost like I'm talking to a wall. When you cannot understand my point of view then you have no business talking to me. Please move on to your next "victim"

[@lovebeamsoutward]

This is medicinal to hear. I left my 50 year old abusive boyfriend yesterday after I discovered he cheated on me with a mentally disturbed twenty year old woman.

[@LilyGazou]

I hope life is vastly improved. 💃

[@CircleofShit]

Plot twist-you left him because he slept with your alter ego.

[@MuskratOutdoors]

I have family like that.....they stopped talking to the rest of the family. It hurt at first, but looking at things now, I think maybe it was for the best.....still I miss them.....and they live just one mile down the road from me....

[@Nonejustpbfm]

I have been working all day and this has been the most sensible thing I have heard all day well probably all year.

[@benfoot4212]

Sound advice, I finally removed a toxic person from my life after years of abuse. I feel much better knowing they cannot bother me anymore.

[@johncarroll9085]

Thank you for all you do Bjorn. I needed to hear your message today. Sometimes I feel so alone in this lunatic asylum we call our world. But even small candles burn the darkness away.

[@dragonslayer7587]

I'm tired of hearing negativity. It's everywhere I go. No smiles anymore, no hellos in the line at food store.. I think locking down & masking the world has had more of an effect on people than they know.. I STILL smile, wave and do my best to help others realize it's ok to be nice. I HOPE people begin to respond in kind soon..

[@chaddy2409]

I feel the same even though overall i have some toxic parts in my personality. It would be good if everybody was a bit friendlier.

[@anncarr6510]

You are so right😊 I did that 2 years ago with a friend that harassed me for many years - finally had all I could take! She needed to move on.

[@evabuehler9905]

Listening to you helps to calm me and I’m glad I found you. Good people are uniting.

[@ruthcrawford3015]

Yes, your home is your life..where we should be joyful and safe, supportive and loving. A toxic person makes you crazy, frustrated, just so unhappy. Thank you for all you do Bjorn! Your wisdom is treasure.

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! any interaction always needs two people, before the interaction how do you know? avoiding toxic people never teaches you how to deal with them so how would you know if you encounter one? if you never have experience to detect them how will you counter it, they will walk all over you and you will find out after its done! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@ruthcrawford3015]

@@Niels357 When you realize that what you are eating is killing you, quit eating it. When weeds are choking the life out of your garden, pull them up and throw them away. When you find a snake in your HOUSE, get rid of it. When people are toxic, walk away and close the door. You do NOT need them. When you live in a HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT, you thrive, you and your group are exceptionally productive, creative, inspired and full of happy life. Like when you put your foot on the gas pedal and GO! Your adventure is an exciting journey and you reach your destination and celebrate success! . If your engine won't start, get a new car.

[@Niels357]

@@ruthcrawford3015 bacteria constantly eating there way in to your skin, your skin constantly build up defenses to keep them out! its an endless battle. same goes for the Mongolians trying to break the chinees wall down and the chinees keep building it up to keep them out. a clawed animal keeps evolving to break down an other animals defenses a turtle keeps evolving a better shield to keep those claws out. live is an endless fight until you you have no more power left and then it starts all over with your kids. live is a constant transition of nutrients from the weakened and old to the strong and new

[@Niels357]

@@ruthcrawford3015 healthy environment? someone had to die before you knew what in your environment is healthy and what not. before you knew a plant or animal is toxic someone had to try it out first. they got sick or died for you to know

[@Niels357]

@@ruthcrawford3015 When you realize that what you are eating is killing you, quit eating it. you mean what make you sick because if its killing you you're already to late

[@satchitananda9477]

Hi Bjorn, from the Woods O' Maine [USA]. I find all your communications very wise and comforting. Please, remain true to yourself, and continue your valuable work. Thank You, and stay free, safe and based. [Earl]

[@weissblau]

Hi to Bjorn and you from the often toxic part of Maine. It is like being on a different planet here in southern Maine compared to the sane north, Stay strong and free!

[@bkktirak]

Narcissists - ignore them. That makes them crazy! 🤪😬🤯🎃

[@SilverSunPublishing]

Thank you for all your good videos, Bjorn. You are a good soul, and we appreciate you!

[@ragmanx6256]

There's a lot of wisdom behind the meme-level statement: Do not feed the trolls. These people crave your negative reactions. Don't indulge them. If they refuse to listen to reason, it's better to just shrug and move on, because these people don't deserve your time or attention.

[@grdelawter4266]

Yes, I’m subscribed. I really enjoy your videos, as well as the calmness in your voice. I’m currently dealing with a toxic problem now in my adult daughter that cussed like a sailor even though I am a very conservative Christian man. Today she sent me a text with vile language that I despise talking about the politician that most don’t like. She has 2 children that I want to see often but it’s just so hard because I lost this battle with my youngest daughter a few years ago and she has never spoke to me since. It’s as if I have to accept their cussing and bad behavior with no feedback or they are out of here! Their mother divorced me 25 years ago when she got caught with another man and they grew up with her thanks to the clown courts!

[@krisjustin3884]

Great to see you out in the woods again! I find these surroundings as therapeutic as your words of wisdom. You’re really helping a lot of people. Please keep going with these talks!

[@1492dv]

This is good advice, Bjorn. I'm grateful to have received it because I've dealt with a toxic person in my actual house and the stress got really intense. That was last October/November.

[@MrCow579]

Great video, Bjorn. Thank you for your knowledge.

[@Niels357]

only be with like minded people is a bubble, never expands your horizon. how can you learn if someone is toxic if you don't let them in , in the first place. avoiding something does not teach you anything! avoiding the problem never solves them! any interaction always needs two people, before the interaction how do you know? avoiding toxic people never teaches you how to deal with them so how would you know if you encounter one? if you never have experience to detect them how will you counter it, they will walk all over you and you will find out after its done! small like minded communities ? what are they gonna be called districts?

[@harrish6]

I watched an earlier video from this gentleman which I came across by chance. Entitled ("I've had enough of this" ) Myself I don't believe I am a toxic person though no doubt I may have had my periods of toxicity in the past. My thoughts about that very personal and revealing video were as follows. I find it interesting particularly the large number of comments. For me it shows that many people are being mentally and spiritually challenged at this time which is in my view all for the good. Personally my view is that running away from issues that we find difficult and that are perhaps telling us something about ourselves and from what we all have had a responsibility in creating is not the answer. We need to look inside ourselves. The answers are often there. All the more reason for all of us to look at our shadows and perhaps work on that side of things We need to look inside ourselves and not be to quick to blame others

[@handleyourface]

Ty Bjorn the world is ripe to learn all aspects of truth since it seems our people are in a vehicle being driven towards one disaster into another. Blessings to all & be safe

[@alexcorder2063]

Thank you Björn. Let’s also remember we were all good beautiful babies once. Even the traumatised toxic people. Respect, understanding, love.

[@desiderata333]

Kind of hard to to when one is raped or severely abused and assaulted.

[@alexcorder2063]

@@desiderata333 Yes it is. But it can be done. I know from experience. I’m not making excuses for anyone’s words or actions though.

[@aztlanplay]

I sincerely appreciate you Bjorn for your huge Heart and great Spirit! Thank you for everything you do for the improvement of Humanity!

[@matth7272]

Apart from KZbin I don't go on social media. Being an introvert I find human interaction takes a lot of energy. I only give my phone number to a select few people, and email for the rest. I try to be mindful of people's own space because I like my own company a lot. Keep up your videos I like to hear your take and try to learn from you.

[@Herrdeskrieg]

I really enjoy hearing you share your wisdom. Keep them coming!

[@MommaARA]

I don't deal with them anymore. I simply cut them out of my life. At this age no friends are better than toxic friends. Isolation is not as damaging as people who drain the life out of you.

[@HIPPIETHUG92109]

Love you Brother Bjorn! Prayers Strength Love and Freedom

[@laurieklaass452]

Great advice, Sir! Cutting toxic people out is just "maintaining peace and quiet in your house." It's so essential for Empathic people! 💛

[@northengirl2884]

Thank you again. This come just in the right moment. Things feel pretty heavy at this moment. Was just thinking adout relationships. People seem to see and valiu each other just as political views and agendas. That is creating a huge separation. What I want is to have a "clean house"🙏

[@mikehat1949]

I pray you and your family are being safe in the light of what is happening in Eastern Europe. Safe safe and keep up the good work of putting out the truth.

[@seanorrick8921]

I struggle with being able to identify toxic people. I haven't had a girlfriend in years. Mostly because they always make me feel horrible about myself. I've even distanced myself from all my friends. It's all my fault though. I'm a doormat most of the time. Social distancing and keeping a good distance from people has made me seem less strange to others. Thx covid. Maybe I need to travel the world to see if there's like minded people somewhere else. Thx for ur videos. I really like them.

[@thewalkingdude7464]

Hey Sean, There are plenty of people that think like you, just read these comments 👍 🇨🇦HONK HONK🇺🇸

[@stephaniedegange2737]

but people today, Sean, don't know how to communicate in person with people. they are so influenced by evil social media and addicted to their computers.

[@seanorrick8921]

@@stephaniedegange2737 you got that right. I'm addicted to KZbin but that's about it.

[@stephaniedegange2737]

I understand how hard it can be in the world. I was a military dependent and had to travel wherever the Air Force sent us. In my last year of school, I went to Enid Oklahoma. There were 650 seniors. I had lived in England and in Germany and in Montana and in Texas. But the biggest challenge was going to the 12th grade when everyone knows each other, and you don't know a soul. And also, you don't know anything about the city and the state that you have been assigned by the military

[@whiteswanrs]

The number of toxic people has certainly multiplied over the last two years.

[@crazyscott2646]

Good day our brother's and sisters. May all of you be blessed. Thank you Bjorn for this little sit down. We are in very trying times. It is nice to have a steadfast person to listen too. Skaal!

[@terryranger5525]

Agreed. A good person going no contact with toxic people like psychopaths and narcissists is vastly different to the sort of trolling and cancel culture mentality we see from toxic people who just want to rant and silence everyone who disagrees with them. They will never get better because they can't. It's not that they don't care - they literally can't. Ever.