How to DETACH and LET GO (98% Get This WRONG)

[@clarkkegley]

Here's a paradox: want better results? Stop caring. In this video, we're diving deep into the power of detachment. Let's unlock that potential within ya. Ready to change your life? It all starts with asking yourself the right questions. Get the 11 questions to change your life now (free gift for yt subs): www.clarkkegley.com/free-questions

[@alvingill9892]

I really need help in detaching

[@alvingill9892]

Ppl hurt me all the time ..I love hard but I always get my heart broken..so what do I do

[@Consumer001]

bro write about islam.

[@carlorizzo827]

Interesting re the paradox. I found i'm unable to stop caring. I do not equate detachment to caring less. The change rather is an absolute acceptance of the utter futility of caring. I can still deeply care, just detour my energies to places where I make a difference. It kinda hurts to stop caring, life is bleak enough.

[@marguskiis7711]

Detach and you remain alone or find only worse women.

[@elizabethlasseigne5361]

“You don’t have to wait for things not to be hard to decide to be happy..” Said by a woman with cancer. Focusing on gratitude and joy of the moment rather than attachment is the key to peace. GREAT VIDEO!

[@EB9RMIE]

Night birde on AGT

[@marguskiis7711]

Bullshit

[@Pearlstrand]

Attachment to an outcome blinds you to other possibilities that may be better for you or the situation. Great video, Clark!

[@alaalfa8839]

You may practice doing attachment and detachment at the same time 1. Attachment, by action, intention, inner dream, plan, passion, creativity 2. combined with a detachment of emotions You are attached by your intentions, but detached about when and where it should happen. Not trying to predict every move. Otherwise you would act like a robot. Then you experience oneness, wholeness, and balance. Oneness is the opposite of dualism and polarism. Robots and artificial intelligence never experience oneness, because robots still work without a break, and conscious thinking.

[@Snapsta123]

💯

[@Jewelsessences]

And soemtimes theres NOTHING good at all that’s why you attach

[@marguskiis7711]

I detached and looked for another possibilities and found only crap.

[@ssbarchive_]

I love this. My key take away. The more we chase someone or something is the more we get attached and sometimes even lose it. Learn to let things flow. What's meant to be is meant to be. Otherwise, learn to let it go

[@bodruzzamandhrubo]

what does it mean by letting go? the work I'm doing for that goal or the outcoms/planning?

[@jojob_clips269]

Amen to that

[@bernardoaguilargt3763]

Easier said than done, but it's an absolute must.

[@mementomori5374]

They highest technique is to have no technique ‘ bruce lee ‘

[@sanatvij6327]

'it takes less effort to be your true self than to put on a mask and behave a certain way' - this line really hit me hard

[@Trisof88]

But what he forgets to say is that people who put on masks and facades seem to benefit better in life with opportunities which is why it's so prevalent in society

[@marguskiis7711]

Be true self and you remain alone.

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

"It takes more effort to deal with the pain of rejection when you know you showed your true self"- Me

[@dave63rd]

*CLARK KEGLEY - THE BEST SELF IMPROVEMENT KZbinR*

[@eliasrisberg2893]

I love him!

[@U.V.247]

Wha..... What about Hamza?

[@dave63rd]

@@U.V.247 he's for ya'll kids...some of his information can be misleading too...third he expresses his own views and what he thinks of certain things and what he will do in those certain situations but he don't really teach you how to be you he teach ya'll how to be him...but do you really wanna be somebody else or you wanna walk in your own shoes? And also he does feels himself only a few people may see that his pride and ego is over the top...he's not a bad guy I do agree with some of the things he says...I've seen a video of him mocking another KZbinr's working out routine in a bad way it wasn't even right at all its not Sneako by the way the guy is white.

[@zenobiadecrespin7561]

Amen

[@AxlAX]

There's others but he's good to

[@sayanibhattacharya8268]

I messed up this one potential relationship due to my attachment and abandonment issues. But I am glad now I know which parts I need to heal.

[@HeavenlyAmil]

Same

[@ericeric463]

Same girl happened to me 2 days ago, he was giving love ❤️ but I realized I need more then love. I love myself but did not feel emotional support from the partner. Love is great but you need emotional support more than love.

[@Jewelsessences]

You don’t mess up a real thing. If it’s so fragile because you’re struggling and not perfect it’s just weak and not worth it and I promise you the other person was not even committed

[@Justineyedia]

In Buddhism, desire and ignorance lie at the root of suffering. By desire, Buddhists refer to craving pleasure, material goods, and immortality, all of which are wants that can never be satisfied. As a result, desiring them can only bring suffering. Because desire can involve a wide range of negative emotions, suffering is almost self-evident. Desire can put you in a constant state of anxiety about the desired thing and then lead to frustration if it's not fulfilled.

[@itsmylife8164]

Detachment is possible the moment we are aware of our shame and self concept and family unconscious patterns. Thanks, dude

[@andreasrydell]

Letting go of attachment can be hard. Why we crave change, to be somewhere else and obsess over things, is because it is uncomfortable where we are right now. To not have that relationships makes us more aware of our inadequacies or maybe our lack of self love, to not have that success, might leave you more aware and present with the pain of your low self-worth that you lived your life trying to escape. Our natural state is peaceful, joyful, and not in need of something to feel amazing, that's just who we are, we are designed to be detached and it's the most simple thing. So why are we not there right now, in that letting go state? Why are we stuck in this complicated state of obsessing? Well... being in a state of letting go is being in a state of feeling like "you have it" already. But when you feel like "you have it" what does that mean? You feel whole and complete within yourself, you feel like you're good enough, you are loved, that you are connected to your heart and true self. This is when you let go of the endless game of looking for some external thing to convince yourself that you are loved, worthy and all things you currently believe you lack.

[@yng27]

societal pressure

[@farojaco]

Really mind blowing. Hopefully we can apply this teachings in our society

[@kjkilojoules]

The way you put letting go makes so much sense. Thank you for putting in terms that align with Neville Goddard's teaching.

[@Mandance]

That’s a great thing to strive for but we still live in a traumatic reality so we will probably continue to seek things outside of ourselves

[@RyanChow1989]

Amazing ❤

[@Jimmis_93]

WELL, IN REAL LIFE IS DIFFERENT WHEN YOU GET A CRUSH WITH A GUY AND TRY TO LET IT GO, BUT EVERY TIME YOUR MIND IS THINKING OF HIM, YOU FEEL YOUR HEART PAINS LIKE A HEART ATTACK AND A PANIC ATTACK.. APPEARS

[@adamlark8631]

Your videos arrive at just the right time, Clark. Thank you

[@brycesage610]

The phone analogy is great. I've heard some actors talk about maintaining "fuck-you" jobs until they make it big. The idea being that when they go into auditions they know they have their back up job so the stakes of landing the audition don't seem as high and effectively gives them confidence. Which makes it easier to let go.

[@00Shaiya00]

This is the perfect response to the "you gotta have no plan B to MAKE IT" mantra

[@alaalfa8839]

Well and even better is practicing empathy helping friends with little things, and then get more opportunities. I mean the friends may start the business together or support each other. RAther than depend on some stranger.

[@marguskiis7711]

Most women you met in your life are pretty much crap, so there is a reason why losing a valuable woman is a huge loss.

[@eleanorhammond]

This is hands down one of the most important videos I’ve ever watched in terms of self improvement. And I’ve watched a whole lot. Thank you

[@H01143]

I definitely messed up my last relationship by how attached I was, and my abandonment stuff that came with the surface. Still getting over the heartbreak. Hard to not attach to what could have been if I had let go and let it flow.

[@parampreetrai7093]

This is probably one of the best video I watched on KZbin and I'm not even joking. This is a true self help content.

[@sophiaisabelle027]

Thanks for this video. I do believe in the fact that we need to let go of things that no longer serve a significant purpose in our lives.

[@alwaysgreatusa223]

There is no real paradox here. Caring too much only comes into play when it adversely affects your performance and/or the performance of others. There is nothing paradoxical about this because caring too much really just means putting too much pressure on yourself and/or others -- in other words, putting more pressure than is required. It doesn't seem to be a magic formula to success to stop caring altogether. Everything requires a certain amount of care and pressure in order to be achieved. The trick is in finding and applying just that right amount -- no more, no less.

[@geneg3776]

Constant and ongoing pressure leads to unhappiness, burnout and getting sick. Excellent and important topic Clark👍

[@eugeneramatu2489]

Hands down the best video on KZbin just changed my whole perspective on relationships

[@mahmoudsalam1326]

The most important speech started after the 5th minutes as he started to talk about the self-confidence and its reflection on the human being

[@madhurmotwani9935]

I can personally attest that indifference and detachment are one of the most underestimated and overlooked traits that helped me achieve what I wanted to :)

[@Jewelsessences]

Any shit will know its place once you treat them with indifference.

[@marguskiis7711]

You achieved nothing.

[@07trailshredder]

Dude this video hit home for me. I get nervous in presentations at school, meetings at work, and I just possibly botched the chance at what I thought was my dream girl. Definitely wish I would've heard this sooner.

[@nicknovakk]

Love the videos on detachment. It is 100% the biggest thing I'm struggling with, but I've gotten a lot better at it these past months.

[@marguskiis7711]

But you are still alone.

[@innerlightvalley8888]

I am grateful for all the blessings & protection from the Universe! I DETACH from anything that weight me down, take away my peace, happiness or under my value. I come back to my zen garden (my soul) to practice meditation, tea meditation, be silence, self-care, “create my own sunshine”, live in the PRESENT MOMENT with life purpose, dance with the universe, cultivating a grateful heart & peaceful mind to find true happiness & inner peace.

[@Angad_Thakur]

I am grateful for this video so much watched it twice to let it sink then journaled for an hour and those worries and thoughts that were bothering me for weeks just vanished

[@Candiceemry]

That’s so funny that you mention your struggle with KZbin metrics at the beginning of your journey, because you are one of my favorite KZbinrs who I now come to watch just for his/her presence, information & entertainment is a second thing. So thank you for YOU, Clark ❤

[@sofieinn781]

Thanks so much Clark! You have been a strong influence for so many years. Doesnt matter where in life there is always a video of you showing how amazing we can be and actually are! People like you make me possible to believe in becoming my best version no matter what. Thanks!!

[@crow_feather]

I just really wanted to give you a wholehearted thanks for both this, and the follow-up video you link us to in the end. Thanks to them both, I had what was truly a lightbulb moment in my head, in which I realized just how much I've been holding onto negative scripts within my own mind, and making them my life story, thinking that those scripts are the only way I can ever be...are the core of who I am. Yet nowhere, anywhere, is it written in stone that that's who I need to be...that those scripts can't change, when they absolutely can. I don't have to hold on to these scripts as the core identity of who I am. And then, by changing the scripts, I can change my life for the better. This video and the one you link us to in the end, outlining the technique, are exactly my way of how to do change those scripts. Thank you so much for this, Clark! It's not often I have a truly lightbulb, life changing moment through a KZbin video, but I certainly have here! For that, I honestly can't thank you enough!

[@marguskiis7711]

Lol

[@BenMojo.]

I wasn't into your videos at first, because I was fed up with youtubers that just wanted the views and didn't know if you were one of them. Then I realized your videos were often prompted to me about subjects that I care about and want to learn more about. And then, after watching a few of your videos, you've become one of my all time favorite inspirational guy ever. Thank you for existing.

[@Sabts11]

Attachment to an outcome blinds you to other possibilities that may be better for you or the situation. Great video, Clark! My key take away. The more we chase someone or something is the more we get attached and sometimes even lose it. Learn to let things flow. What's meant to be is meant to be. Otherwise, learn to let it go

[@Dynamics556]

Just detached from everything and everyone and build more self love

[@fernandomata3614]

One thing that really stuck out to me is when you said about you don't know a person in 2hours and that is so true. if I don't get a vibe from someone I usually ignore them with out giving a chance.

[@tamatharawls637]

Certain videos of yours always makes it into my life at the right moment I need to hear your message(s). Always when you let go and know it unfolds perfectly.

[@PROofHAPPYWHEELS]

Im always skeptical with these kinds of channels with their own business, but I've seen a few of this guys videos and I agree with a lot of what he says and what I've read self-help wise in my own time. This is great free content

[@adam-vy6rk]

Tbf KZbin is really in and out of consistent earnings. So creating a business is the best thing a lot of people can do

[@PROofHAPPYWHEELS]

@@adam-vy6rk of course

[@Mike-j1f2l]

Eventually, we realize that we become attached to detachment and the only thing to do is surrender all concepts. The most impactful surrender, is the concept of “self” of who and what is doing the attaching and detaching.

[@Apokalypseplease]

The bird of paradise lands only on the hand that does not grasp.

[@esraarageh4141]

I have just come across this video coincidentally and you can't imagine how thankful and grateful I am now 🙏❤️ Love and appreciation from Egypt ❤

[@lindazeisky3845]

Thank you...most difficult thing to do in some cases. One tries to let go, but it's so hard in some cases to do in your head...even if in action you have been able to do. Sometimes in some cases it's easier to do, in other cases, ufff really hard. There's always one thing that makes it hard to detach.

[@prolificprofoundpoetry5381]

I never really looked at the scale of caring… this really breaks down what I was doing wrong.. thank you..

[@namehere4954]

With regards to happiness, One's internal state of being is reflected into the world. Your perspective & judgment of reality is 100% your choice - emotional response to what "is", is within your control unless you give that control to autopilot pre-conditioned responses. Happiness is not dependent on ANY external factors but rather merely a reflection of your inner world.

[@FaithFashionFinances]

This happened to me recently I had a few potential project partnerships go wrong and I started to detach and got an opportunity so much bigger and better

[@kangasoftware3409]

thank lord for your virtual assistance

[@dawnfreshour8425]

I usually watch multiple videos, on the same subjects, done by different coaches. I find several of yours to be the easiest to understand. I'm glad that you didn't give up You Tubing. Thanks!

[@alexxxran]

Now in love I actually think it is more complicated than how you put it, particularly in the reality of some people. Don’t get me wrong, I completely loved your illustration of being attached via holding a phone over the edge and I agree with lots of other things you discussed. Though, in dating, there are several factors that determine the desired outcome or your general chances to get what you want, and lots of dangerous behaviours too; especially in the gay community. The problem for me personally starts out already at the beginning, actually finding someone who will commit and start dating you properly and exclusively. It even results in developing a low measurement for a potential partner, meaning the next time someone even shows the slightest interest in wanting to date you, you jump full in; which yes, is extremely detrimental and can leave you shattered if things go wrong. I think it’s super hard to navigate through this complex gay world, and I’m still learning how…

[@cadineshsharma4002]

Thanks Clark for making this video, much needed ❤❤❤

[@littleripper312]

0:59 Genius analogy I need to remember.

[@arminschoeni7911]

Why is this talk about "love yourself so common these days? I deeply respect myself and l respect others the same when l feel them in the way that is good for me. I dont love myself, what for??? I love to give love and receive it! If you love yoursel( most people seem to see the holy grail in that) one day you end up love Only yourself and nobody loves you, because your self love turned into a black hole. Respect yourself, give love, receive love. Love is there to share. Like a beautiful flower. What joy can it bring to watch that flower every day alone in your room? Share the view, let love fly free, stop loving yourself, but start to respect yourself and others when deserved and let this love myself free to love others who will smile when your love arrives at their doorstep ❤

[@UnyieldQuest]

If you want to do great things in life you need to be obsessed. It’s just a requirement…else be a mediocre. It’s also perfectly fine to be a mediocre. But obsession is a hard path, requires persistence, requires high level of endurance.

[@carlorizzo827]

Nice work Guy! Creative approach. I'm not young, the bod gets tired, the heart gets tired. Letting go is easier cuz holding on is too darn exhausting. The intense holding on in youth was driven by deprivation. Comments re happiness are interesting. In youth i grappled with suicidal depression. Found great therapy and reasons to live (the arts) But continued to be haunted by dark fatalistic moods. After quitting drinking i recognized those moods were flashblacks. What an epiphany! Required different handling, and cleared the way for actual happiness, the ability to take pleasure in little things. Even when working through tragedies

[@footinstirrup4948]

that was a lot in 11 min. Keep going Clark

[@tania_yt]

Finally, someone put it in a way i can easily understand ❤

[@cashpay50]

Wow, i get it now, to do anything, i still need too set out a goal somehow, but be playful and light at the same time. It's about being consistent, in the journey, not the end results.

[@deleon3747]

I couldn’t imagine making videos like this constantly

[@BlueBerry-uw5cw]

Thank you I’ve detached from my ex and I believe it because how good you’re as advisor

[@themagescorner]

I have so much self-love I'm not attached to anything! Single for 6 yrs running lol

[@lorelienacis5295]

What helped you?

[@alwaysgreatusa223]

Happiness with outcomes is different from happiness with oneself. People who are truly happy (and not just momentarily happy) are happy with themselves. They are not more or less attached to outcomes than others, it is simply that their foundational happiness is with themselves, and, therefore, does not depend upon particular outcomes. It is okay to feel attached and even to desire things in life, so long as your foundational happiness is with yourself regardless of whether or not you get what you want.

[@ValentinaGulpe]

What a great channel to stumble upon! From one creator to another great work!

[@troylane229]

This - is - brilliant! Thank you for the great advice.

[@zm759]

one of the best videos on detachment 🙏

[@digidrum2003]

Detachment in a 20 year marriage where she left me and 2 teenage kids at home for another man is so hard!!!! Its been 1 month....i am trying.

[@relaxjq]

Suffering can be good....in fact everything that's powerfully good for you comes from suffering. Examples : Fasting - Bodybuilding - Evolving is the outcome from Suffering.

[@nirupamavenkatesan8757]

Thanks a million for talking about this particular aspect of life and the human mind. This was very helpful and extremely relatable. Please post more such content!

[@DilCardyn]

The speaker's advice to focus on the present moment and practice mindfulness resonates deeply with me. Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future only robs us of the joy and opportunities in the present. By staying present, we can release the burden of unnecessary attachments and find greater contentment.

[@luiz_second]

you help me so much Clark!! Hugs from Brazil, you're the man

[@joannacabunce8154]

Just what i needed right now. Thanks a lot🙏🙏

[@RituSharma-wv3uo]

You have all the wisdom of spirituality. All the best for your future. Namaste 😊💫

[@Blue_Eyed_Boss_Babe]

Yesss we are chasing that feeling

[@c-mad6364]

Given this title, I want to thank you for getting me hooked on Michael Singer´s books this year. Thank you for all this, Clark!

[@mulantisreunitingall888]

Very grateful you didn’t quit, because from the videos I’ve watched so far (recently started), you’ve been CRUSHING IT💥💥🔥🔥🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 like a BAD@💰💰😎. Thank you 🙏🏼 Clark for generously sharing Full-Potential 🌱🪴🌿🌲🌳, Multidimensional 🦄, WHOLE ☯️✡️🌓 You 🌚/🌝 you, and being an inspiration 💝 to humanity 🌎🌏🌍 🎼 beyond 🌌🌠♾️.

[@harnishghataore7043]

This came in the time when I needed it. Thank you Universe ❤

[@edwaaard46]

This stuff about attachments was some genuine master Yoda wisdom 😂

[@Soulcraft_with_Pritha]

The analogy was on the dot! 💯

[@MelanieJoules]

Heeey Clark! been watching since 25k and always loved ❤️ ur loa and personal development vids the best. Glad to see the channel on 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 since you decided to soley make this type of content!🤩🥳

[@martabrodsky585]

Great insight and advice. Thank you Clark.

[@MickBergeron14]

This is a really good video! I just finished reading The Surrender Experiment - Michael A. Singer This book is exactly about what you talked about. Letting go and let life guide you.

[@davidbowry3756]

Love a good metaphor and you nailed detachment / letting go with your phone over the edge example 👍

[@rijd2304]

Letting go is a oxymoron, because the mind cannot let go of the mind. Which is why practices like meditation, mindfulness, prayer, etc are great. A few minutes of silence each day does wonders. I like the workbook called 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels.

[@franthevan65]

That relationship part hit hard took me 29 years damn near 30 to finally get this to click in my head

[@pamadams53]

When you were talking about getting your diploma it reminded me of those wise words from Spock. After a time you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting.

[@salorostov576]

I totally get it. For instance I initially check all the boxes and generally get the "your the one" constantly, but then there's the whole " why are you digging in your backyard at 3am " and wreaking of bleach, that's the monkey wrench in my life

[@tanmaykolte7799]

i just wanted to share my opinion i am a student whose pursuing engineering and ill just tell one thing that people are temporary in your life no one is permanent. if you are giving a lot off efforts in a relationship then just stop do it for urself get a better job or do something that would benefit you. its my experience, see i have the best girls (according to all friends, colleagues and people around me), everyone feels we are the best match for each other but what i feel is, this isnt working out. its been 5 and half year i am in this relationship and am not enjoying it, people often tend to value other things, they dont prioritize you and that hurts a lot. now am i a situation where i cannot leave her but still i have to deal with it😔

[@philthyrich1433]

APPRECIATE ALL YOUR WORK BRO

[@KaiMelodic]

Im starting to feel like me and this man lived the same life as I keep watching your videos.

[@hodgeyfitness6058]

This is helping me already the confidence bit I have autism so I don't know when I'm being confident but you explained it in a way I understand self love so basically self love

[@northscape3593]

The best one yet! Thank you man❤

[@worldview730]

You Da Man Wit The Do It right Plan, for sure😎😎

[@annabanzon313]

I have to say that in marriage, it works. The less I care the better my husband responds to me. Maybe that's all men though even outside of marriage 😆 🤣.

[@lasedricchaney787]

I really do appreciate this video Clark Kegley you gave me a whole other perspective on detachment thank😊

[@aj.14]

Man, this content is excellent. I'm proud to be a new subscriber from Malaysia 🇲🇾, Southeast Asia.

[@sonialoves444]

you started with an awesome analogy

[@BarrengerFynar]

I'm the first in my family history to get a college degree, I remember the day I got it. I looked at it with pride, there it was with my name on it. Then I put it away and I have rarely looked at it since.

[@Pep1t0o]

Great video! Thank you for your great work, keep it up!

[@Woodwose88]

Set it and forget it.

[@hkronin883]

Just discovered your channel. This is gold brother. Great analogies. Thank you 💪

[@angelroyale6185]

Great delivery!

[@lilliza83]

Excellent advice. I’m always working on the last two. Business/happiness 🙏

[@HenryPedia]

These are great advices. Thank you so much Clark. I really appreciate and grateful. 🙏🙏🙏

[@CamilaRenaux]

Loved it!

[@tomobrien2628]

thank you Clark Kent