How to do the Festive Season Sober

[@danielw5434]

I bumped into this man last Friday as I'd just finished work and thanked him for how much this podcast helps me stay sober. He really is just a lovely normal and humble man. Took time to talk to me and give me support. Thank you for you for that, you really helped me. 24 days sober now and looking forward to a sober Christmas with the Mrs and kids.

[@AlexeiCrawley]

Nice story thanks for sharing. Hope you're well tonight 🙏

[@EJWEST333]

Come on lad 🎉🎉

[@whatthemoondoes3568]

🔥

[@MyLiam22]

Great work mate. Keep smashing it

[@ComedianDanielOReilly]

Mate im blessed to have people talk to me about this stuff i need the help just as much as you mate its a lonely road. Good to bump into people as we walk it. Thank you

[@StonedApeAesthetics]

Going to my first AA meeting this evening. Wish me luck.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

good luck mate

[@StonedApeAesthetics]

@ Cheers Dapper, went really well. 2 times per week for me now. More if needed through this festive season.

[@instantdismissal]

Respect Dan. I was in a similar spot myself a few years back. Clawed myself out of the void and have remained sober since. Like you, my social life has disappeared but i accept it as a better outcome. Messed a few Christmas up and smashed my own mental health to oblivion in the past, and i dont know why. Lot of regrets but I'm on a better path now

[@ComedianDanielOReilly]

All good to look back mate to see how far we come

[@JamesC1988-i7g]

To anyone who needs to read this If someone like Dapper Laughs can drop his persona and show you Daniel O’Reilly just know you too can drop your persona and show your true self. I’ve battled with mental health and addiction for 21 years I’m only 36. Started listening to season one when I was trying to get clean and it helped me now I use this podcast as part of my healing been So thank you very much Daniel !

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thanks mate appreciate that

[@samanthawood5960]

I relate to this 10000% Dapper, a year sober still goong strong and my first oub visit bext Saturday! I can do this, thank you for the episode..really helping me ❤ what triggers me is everyone showing me their drinks, dancing and games...my family have always been big drinkers so I can relate.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you and well done on 1 year sober

[@alexartist173]

312 sober, wow this really is a fantastic one. Going deep into the confusion and untangling the web of our crazy minds. I have a 3 year old who I guess is going to start having her first memories soon, ‘note to self’ let’s make them good ones hey Alex! This podcast brought a tear to my eyes on my morning walk. Thanks Dan

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

awww cheers mate

[@feelinsupersonic1606]

This will be my 4th sober Christmas not gonna sugar coated its a tough gigg

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

it really really is... no two ways about it

[@highflameKO]

Big respect mate can see this is a hard topic for you. Not missing anything in those boozers anymore mate those thoughts are an illusion. Keep up the good work 👊

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you

[@tomwebb7218]

Saw you on Thursday night where you briefly touched on your sober journey - your vulnerability and honestly is inspirational….already booked tickets for Chelmsford in March!

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thanks mate and see you at Chelmsford

[@DavidTemperley-lt9xb]

Hi Dan, really appreciate your doing these podcasts they are helping me out big time. I have stopped drinking and smoking, and the white. Feeling proud of myself. Keep up the amazing work.💯🙏

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

you should feel proud you just did the biggest thing you could for you life

[@jasantkvl]

I love how a lot of the things talked about in this podcast goes for many other addictions and disordered eating as well. That would be overeating for me. Trying to unlearn that "habit" and knowing the holidays are coming up where people are basically shoving food and sweets down your throat everywhere you go.. it's making me nervous too man. Let's all get through each our struggles together 🙌

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

the festive season is hard. Unlearning isn't easy but keep at it

[@Sam-hr3dp]

These podcasts are brilliant. They are really beneficial for me personally. I've been trying for a few years to get life back on track from the booze and packet. Having a family with young kids really make what you say resonate. Your mix of humour and honesty really help support my journey in sobriety. Thanks bro

[@cherryhollow7810]

Thank you for speaking about these issues 🙌 massive help at this time to have someone relatable to listen to

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

No problem, I love doing them

[@yeahbower]

Yet again another amazing episode, thank you so much for what you’re doing, I hope you realise just how much what you’re doing is quite literally changing lives, it certainly has mine. All I can say is Thank you brother ❤

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thanks man appreciate that

[@jonnym7926]

I've just started to stop as a binge drinker and I've actually been thinking what I'm going to do at Xmas. Great timing for this video. You could actually see the sadness in Dan's eyes and I felt worried for him. However 13 mins in you hit the nail on the head were in control of our kids memories which is far more important. Thanks 👍

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

cheers, appreciate that

[@bonnydrinkwater4346]

Brilliant, will be my first sober Christmas it's also my birthday on Christmas day - but I'm in such a positive place right now I'm hoping that will carry me through - weirdly and suprisingly not dreading it but looking forward to it! The shame and guilt of the past maybe 🙈 I've made sobriety plans in place of where I would be drinking I've also focused alot on previous years feelings and embeded that in my head when I get the iggle - the thing I will miss the most is the festive baileys whilst doing my Christmas tree with the Christmas music playing, except last year it turned I to a whole bottle and more and I hated myself.. that's the only trigger I have that I'm dreading - not that I think il drink but just worried about the emotions of it. But as Dan said it's just a moment! My story very much relates to yours I was not a daily drinker but I had such an unhealthy relationship with it. Thank for these Podcasts, they are my Friday go to! Thanks for helping so many of us in our sobriety journey. You look so healthy and happy now Dan and you have the most beautiful family - well done to you on your sobriety! Thankyou for sharing that with us, the highs and the lows and using your platform so beautifully to help others. It is so very much appreciated ☺️

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

You did the right thing thinking about the bailys then thinking about what it turns into, its just routine and habit mate, well done on your journey

[@AndyWheeldon-f9p]

Great podcast, really helpful!!

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you! Really appreciate it

[@rub1tan679]

WOW 🤩 DAN .. Honestly ..truly inspirational… only a person who has been on your very personal journey can get this important information across so well👊🏼😎🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿❤️

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you

[@matthewprice2084]

This will be my second (🤞) sober Christmas and I am DREADING it

[@jamiehopkins4353]

Your a legend mate

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

cheers man

[@benwright1097]

Totally relate once again, definitely loads of planning and preparation for the festive season and i can’t wait for January 1st 2025 to say yes I’ve done it all sober 🎉🥳🙏😇

[@chrisfawden9226]

Hey Dapper been following you since just before covid. I was going to say a bunch of things here, but I rather give you my thanks for this pod cast. Many of us out there are having some hard times and listening to someone like yourself and coming down to human level give us all that brotherly support that we need to hear to push on through our shitty problems and Xmas is a big thing but also brings alot of pressure. So thank you truly and good luck to all those guys trying their hardest to combat themselves to push on and swim above the water. Big 🫂 Daps. Chris from Gibraltar 🇬🇮

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Cheers man, that means alot thank you

[@alexpaulm1988]

Brilliant Dan. Some great bits of advice on here. Very real 👏🏼 coming up to 90 days on Thursday and you’re podcasts started me on this journey so thank you 🙏

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Wow, it started you on it, I love that, well done mate x

[@alexpaulm1988]

Yeh mate. Over the summer I listened to all of your podcasts. I can relate to your story and journey so much, similar problems and personalities. You helped me see my issues and that I could change. Hopefully catch up with you at your show mate 👍🏼

[@Charles-vz6up]

These pods defo help people Mate keep it up👍

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you

[@jackd7925]

these are gold mate

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you

[@ciaranoneill6397]

Thank you for this its my first sober xmas and even 1st of November i was thinking of the festive season. Haha😂 ur a legend man the way u put things

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

appreciate you watching mate

[@bexmalone3015]

Evening Dan. Really appreciate that you have done a podcast on this topic. Thanks for sharing your triggers. My triggers are people places and things. People being together I spend Xmas on my own. I really struggle and get down about it. Knowing majority of people are spending good times together. Get really into self that triggers me. I know it’s selfish and self centred I get full of self pity. Any ideas to help appreciated. Am hoping working a programme will really help. Love what you said about making it all about self. Difficult to be there for others when I have cut majority of people out. All best have a great week!!! Xx

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

yer people trigger me, I get that too. its all so confusing .. Thanks for the comment very kind to chip in

[@deonevans4757]

That was a phenomenal podcast …🙏

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you

[@philgadd1115]

Great podcast mate. Keep up the good work. I'm haven't given up drinking but can relate to a lot of the sess stories from my old life in London working in TV in Soho for 16 years. My solution was emigrate to a small ski town in the Canadian Rockies, with my young family back in 2009. I think if I hadn't done that it would have been a very different outcome, not one I would have loved I am certain of that.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thanks for commenting mate, I appreciate it, and yer some changes are great, glad you are good.

[@nikgreen30314]

I couldn't give a crap about Xmas lol.. or nye tbh... 1st sober Xmas for me. Gonna go for a walk on xmas and nye 🎉😊 No hanging or comedowns or still awake at ridiculous times for me😂

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

good strong vibes

[@f1spencer]

3 Pints & all logic goes out of the window with so many things that you wouldn’t usually do when stone cold sober !! Swerving the booze is the way forwards 💯 …

[@dendog13]

Id recommend a couple of books, on audible or if you prefer reading. The chimp paradox and atomic habits. Both are great for understanding your mind and they help a lot. Good luck everyone 👍

[@tkaygg]

Thank you Dan♥

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thats ok

[@leebrown5464]

We normally stay at my mother in laws as it involves the sesh, last year we drove there stayed for the day and drove home. Helped masively.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Yer lots of things like that can help, defo avoiding the heavy seshers

[@oonaghcleary3645]

I think it would be a good idea to focus the next few podcasts on coping with the triggers of Christmas I feel Christmas is a terrible time for all addictions not just drink and alcohol and our brains will tell us go on spend more gamble more or eat more the list goes on it really heightens every addiction. Also people have more time on their hands so bad news for addicts. Christmas is truly the worst time for all addictions thanks again for such a helpful podcast for addictions

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

I will keep taking about it if I can for sure, thank you for the kind words

[@whatthemoondoes3568]

Dan, if your mates don’t pop round or vice versa for a cuppa, were they ever your mates or just drinking buddies? Keep it up mate

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

You know.

[@AntoineW100]

Hero

[@CommanderBond-g9b]

❤❤❤

[@andrewjohnmaplesden3234]

Triggers defo xmas music , And an event with sll my pals Christmas hat day at 1 point there were 60 of us rolling out with Christmas hats on 9 o clock meet, a pint with breakfast then it turns into complete carnage , that feeling walking through town smashed like an army untouchable , I even got a xmas hat tattooed on my arse ,that is now effectively pointless, I use to whip that out for photos , giving that up is hard

[@georgearthern]

will you have guests on again? I think it helps when you hear other sober people’s perspectives on sobriety.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Maybe yer when I have time, I don't at the moment

[@avertismentguy62]

Hey Dan, I'm 22 and I've just started my sober journey again. I've been a heavy drinker since I was about 15 and recently over the past year I'd started doing gear regularly. My big problems with alcohol is my inability to set a limit on how much I drink and using it to be sociable. Was there an amount of time of sobriety where you were able to say to yourself "I'm over the worst of it now."?

[@MyLiam22]

This will be my first sober Christmas and have to admit I’m dreading it. Luckily i have the tools with AA and my sponsor etc

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

make sure you talk to people as much as you can

[@MyLiam22]

@ Will do thanks mate 👍🏻

[@MedlinMark]

Hey man…….trigger for me around Christmas, drinking and getting on the taste is the fear of missing out! You tried the 0% Stella? Granted it’s not the same but it works for me and only have one! ✌🏽

[@MedlinMark]

I’ll add to that though, I run ultra marathons now and hit the gym a couple of times a week, therefore recovery is important to me and decent sleep. Booze buggers my sleep up massively and I love sleep now, having disrespected sleep when I was smashed in my early 40s. So, I’m pretty on top of things now but had the odd beer/glass of red, however now is the times to address this I’m going sober💪🏽. Well done Dan, you’re smashing it now but in a different way👌🏽🙌🏽

[@vinomeknow6100]

Good job bro!

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

@@MedlinMark thanks mate yer all good stuff

[@oonaghcleary3645]

It's almost like Christmas gives our brains as excuse to do more of our bad vices and addictions as we feel everyone else is enjoying themselves

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Yer 100%

[@robertflanagan1364]

Near 4 months sober now Its concerning me now approaching Christmas

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

stay focussed, it will be fine, read lots work on yourself

[@andrewjohnmaplesden3234]

I'm only a month in so this will be hard going, but I feel I can do it il never drink again I feel strong

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

keep at it mate, a month is a great achievement

[@andrewjohnmaplesden3234]

@@menacetosobrietypodcast I only told my wife this morning that it was a forever thing as she wasn’t aware , I’d got to the point where I was hiding when I was drinking … big changes coming mate

[@andrewjohnmaplesden3234]

@@menacetosobrietypodcast I made it a month 🙌🤙🏼

[@georgepayne-gill8763]

john mcafee and the hammock

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

ok

[@georgepayne-gill8763]

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[@jenlt5125]

Is it okay to drink 0% drinks just to blend in? Or better not to risk it?

[@patrickmuir9690]

Zeros don't work fir me its the taste. Fizzy water the ones for me

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

whatever works for you :)

[@RichardPonsford-kv2uy]

Naaa! 1 drink and it’s all over.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

yep

[@Andy-gd9fu]

91 days sober from booze n sniff

[@dendog13]

How did you do it mate?. Tough when the opportunity is right there 😮

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

well done on 91 days mate keep at it

[@casper1240]

You'll never find real Peace while your drinking

[@chukzn17]

Sounds like you are triggered by life Dan 😂

[@simondobson4667]

You have loads of money 💰 wife and 3 kids, you don't have a clue

[@adrianmitchell3230]

If we have a drink then we have no money,wife,and kids,but there’s still triggers.

[@ComedianDanielOReilly]

How does that attitude help you or me mate? Give your head a wobble, being horrible to people will make you feel worse. But, undeniably, you are right, if i had lost it all and all i had was the drink it would be harder, so much harder. But dont get it twisted, when i went sober id lost my mrs & kids, i had to get sober to get them back. But. I feel your pain, as much as your comment triggerd me, unfortunately it’s probably true to a certain extent. Love mate, im sending love x Pls try get better x

[@adrianmitchell3230]

@@ComedianDanielOReilly I agree