How to 'Feel Real' again | How I stopped derealization and depersonalization symptoms.

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[@matefazekas3107]

During one of my googling marathons I found this definition for reality: what doesn’t go away when you stop thinking about it. I think it’s useful for DPDR recovery. If you’re going through DPDR right now, please have faith, you can overcome it 💪

[@araiq7005]

6 years ... expriencing

[@ChrisLooman]

@@araiq7005has it gotten better

[@gowthambalsamy4630]

The real video starts at 4.25... if you don't have patience.

[@Sam-stats]

thanks lol

[@p1x3ldreams]

THANKS

[@jeremy472]

"We should take our perceptions seriously but not literally" - Don Hoffman

[@minax142]

Hello Robin! I can say that I'm totally recovered. From time to time I experience some anxiety and I come back to your videos because they're so comforting. Thank you for everything!

[@robinschindelka2117]

That's amazing!! I'm so happy for that 😍 good luck to you further Martins!

[@sarahwalkertunek3095]

Amazing video Robin❤️ So easy to grasp yet not something you think about yourself, really helpfull!

[@Fujlw]

4:25

[@MsValerie6]

Amazing video Robin. Im stuck in the analytical stage of life, intrusive thoughts about it. This helps a loooot. I cant thank you enough for your videos

[@robinschindelka2117]

You're welcome! ❤️

[@ollie8555]

Hi Robin! i usually don't leave comments on videos, but i've been watching your videos for a while. You're the only person on youtube that has truly helped me with my DPDR. I really appreciate this video and the other ones you've made on this topic. My DPDR is still very much there 24/7 but you've really helped me with it, i've finally felt some relief from it after having it constantly for 3 years. I hope you'll consider making more videos/meditations on the topic of DPDR , i really appreciate them :) I'm genuinely so thankful for all the work you're doing, thank you Robin.

[@robinschindelka2117]

Thank you Ollie! I'm really happy to hear that 😊 good luck to you further in your journey 💪

[@Jaydn_bjj]

Thank you so much, you just helped so many peoples mental health, such as me, a 15 year old boy.

[@robinschindelka2117]

You're welcome! Good luck to you

[@fancyou3115]

tho i still feel asleep

[@LikaShagashvili]

I don't know who i am😢😢😢😢😢its so bad feel because i lost my head😢😢😢❤

[@gabrielamacias7195]

Been struggling with feeling very disconnected lately. It comes and goes in waves. But bc I’m stuck in this “analytical” phase, I have a hard time surrendering to the experience and therefore a hard time connecting. This video is exactly what my brain needed lol. Your videos are amazing! I’m so grateful for them, Robin. Thank you. Thank you

[@gabrielamacias7195]

There is definitely fear that comes with surrendering though. That’s where I struggle

[@kirstencorbett2289]

If you give the lion something to chase, it'll run after you! 🦁 Very informative video Robin!!! Always appreciated!

[@eddiesec]

Great explanation, your videos have been very helpful. I came to realize that most of our angst is not about the things we ~know~ to be true, but instead those we ~feel~ to be so. From a few months back I started feeling existential anxiety, which I translate to this ~feeling~ that life is pointless, therefore not worth the effort. The curious part is that I always thought that; from a distanced enough perspective, life is indeed kind of pointless, but that idea never actually affected me emotionally before. I guess the way to counteract is to force me - or rather, teach me - how to ~feel~ otherwise, being really connected to all little wonders that turn something that I call a "cosmic accident" into a little adventure.

[@zakorig]

ive been not doing anything for so long because i feel like everything is pointless. now i try to have goals, i drink water everyday, i try to keep in touch with the people around me, keep my hygiene up, etc.. and i think it is helping to keep my mind off of how is any of this real.. i wish i could appreciate the world more, but it all feels so unreal and crazy i want to feel like its all real 😕

[@ashleyfeinberg2988]

This process of over-analyzing reality is exactly what triggered my DPDR in the first place. I have a history of anxiety and have always been very interested in self-help. I love learning about and exploring spirituality, philosophy, have been to therapy for years, etc. I could read tons of books and absorb podcast after podcast on these subjects happily. Then I read a book that presented the idea of nonduality. I hyper-focused on the ideas in that book. The book also claimed that when you transcend to a certain level of spirituality, life becomes so vibrant and real and you feel so incredibly connected to everything and everyone around you. The more I focused on all of these things, trying to figure out how to have these extravagant experiences of life, the less and less real my life started to feel. I kept trying to "fix it" with more and more reading, obsessively analyzing how I felt moment to moment. I begin feeling terrified of my own existence and death. Thankfully I didn't have to live like this for years, largely due to KZbin channels like yours. The concepts I know from years of therapy and self-help, such as "what you focus on grows" and "what you resist persists" were luckily concepts I have applied in other areas of my life. And although DPDR feels so extremely different and much scarier than other types of anxiety, the same tools apply. Those several weeks of the most intense DPDR were the worst feeling ever. I wouldn't say I'm 100% better but now as soon as I feel the slightest feeling of things not being real, I can just tell myself "this is how it feels right now." And continue living my life. It goes away. I hope and pray I never have a severe relapse, but I'm not afraid because now I know it's not real.

[@DrBlakenstein]

Yo our stories line up almost perfectly. Had poor mental health as a teen and fell into the enlightenment grind because everyone was talking about it like you'd become invincible. I was looking for god like a bounty hunter. Im realizing I may have made a mistake and burned myself out trying so hard

[@mindofdory]

I’m scared.. I left the house today to spend the night with my nanny and now I’m questioning how I got here as if I woke up and have been dreaming all day. I’m so lost it’s scaring me I never feel real I feel like everyone around me doesn’t know me and hates me and can’t see me

[@PavleJovicic-b8k]

Hey Robin! I have dpdr for months at the moment, sometimes its better but its still there. It surely is better than it was, but its still there. Alot of times through my mind I get question like "What is life"? Or "Who am I" because there are factor like genetics + influence through our childhood, then parents, school etc etc. So do "I" Really exist or we are just mix of experiences we got from other people and their knowledge? If you understand what im asking? Also I often feel disconnected from reality. I work with psychothherapist and I think its all in side of us. When I find out why I get those questionss, when I bring content from unconscious mind and I start to understand myself better I guess it will go away. There are easier and harder days, but im still fighting. This all started after one-night bad drug experience, overdose. I lost myself and all beileves I had about life. My therapist said I must build my self again and build my new belifs. He says i will get out of this smarter and stronger, but I must accept that thiss is all for my good and eventually it will be gone. Whats your opinion? Thank you very much and your videos are great!

[@freeviebee]

I've had all this thoughts about ten years ago. It felt like it broke me and I won't be a "person" again, but somehow life goes on if you want or not and if you let your body process the emotion (anxiety, pain, anger,...) - without fear all the thoughts are gone at some point and you continue with life and go back to normal. It's indeed strange when I think back, but I guess that's life. We will never figure all this stuff out in this 3D life and I guess that's how in the end I kind of surrendered and from there it got a lot better. Hope this happends for you too or has already happened.

[@emmapottberg3279]

why I got it tattooed the famous philosophy saying, "cogito ergo sum" or, "I think, therefore I am". is the same point you are making at 5:09. it really helps!!

[@dudedragon7528]

Hiya Robin, i have been experiencing exsistential anxiety/depression and DPDR symptoms since i was a Teenager, I can actually recall when the 'light bulb' moment happened, where i questioned reality around me. I was 13 years old, at Stonehenge, i admit i was quite the smoker of cannibis when i was younger, and half of me believes that might have been a catalyst in my issues i have today. Now after i cut that out of my life and went cold turkey from it, it took a while but through my teens i was basically symptom free, but now i think that could have been just because of partying, drinking , socialising ect. Fast forward to just before covid and it all came back with a passion. Added with it was the depression, which i never really felt before as i didnt understand what being depressed was. But this time i had full on depression, i gained weight, i turned to drink to just fall to sleep, and after a year of being a shit partner and a shit new time dad, the lockdown ended and i began to venture back out. The symptoms began to fade, and was manageable. Writing now, it seems in my mind that they had vanished, but it didnt feel like it at the time this was 2022. Now fast froward to 3 weeks ago. I am a gamer, i have a social life with real life friends and also online friends on our discord channel, and i think in all honesty i have a gaming addiction. Perhaps this was the buffer in the time the symptoms faded? Anyway, 3 ish weeks ago, a game came out, which involves a heavy amount of time invested in it. To put that into perspective, i have spent 300 hours in the game, in 3 weeks. On around the second day in, i began thinking in a way i hadnt for while, which was to do with reality, the analyzing you mention, what i am, how is all of this possible, as in exsistence, why is all of this happening and everyhting that comes alonng with that. It attacks me nearly every second of everyday, where i actually have to shout to myself to shut up. I have 2 kids, a very patient and supporting partner whom i have such guilt towards as they all dont deserve this side of me. They need a father and a partner, and i have no idea how to get my mind to be content with life and me? As in the being behind the eyes i see through. As i felt like i was prior 3 ish weeks ago. With 2 kids under 2 and one of them being autistic, its stressful as hell, but it was managable. I must also add that the game i began to play 3 ish weeks ago was a remake of a game i played heavily the first time the symptoms came about just before covid. Could this be linked? A subconcious scar associated with playing it, or meer conicidence? I feel like i start to lose grip on realty completeley and it honest feels like on set demntia or seomthing like that. Where im confused at what i am. It gets so much sometimes that i just want to sleep, it isnt quite at the point where i want to sleep permanently (shudders) but im afraid i dont connect with things the same this time. And when all hope is lost, well its lost isnt it? Any advice or thoughts on the matter would be honestly and potentially a life saver..., i would personally purchase your course but im afraid i simply cannot afford it, regardless as i know its worth it, as we are barley getting by as it is. Side context is im 32 years old, male, with a father who also had some anxiety problems.

[@emilkling7850]

This video really helps me, watched several times when iv'e had a set backs, Thank you!

[@leticiafroes5811]

Hello! I'm from Brazil and your videos help me a lot! I no longer feel DPDR and rarely when I feel it I know how to control it, but I feel depressed, that feeling of things not making sense still remains with me even though DPDR is over, do you think your course can help me with this?

[@jaywalker.]

Yes, her coaching is amazing for depression, "things not making sense," so many other things as well. I worked with Robin during the height of my existential anxiety, and she is an angel. I couldn't find anyone who understood what was happening until Robin.

[@leticiafroes5811]

@@jaywalker. Thank you so much for answer, I'm glad for your recovery 💕

[@OrlandoVega-lf8gu]

Thank you so much this is the first time i heard of this acceptance method. Thank you

[@p1x3ldreams]

In short form: Stop over thinking

[@lillia3680]

This is veryyyy helpful for me, thank you.

[@LikaShagashvili]

What was this symptoms?

[@alissacampagna7564]

❤thank you soooo much!!!!!🎉

[@GoodnewsKemeke]

I love you❤❤

[@theneonavacado8802]

It's hard finding answers for DPDR but your videos always give reasurring insight to my specific issues with dissociation. I have grown used to the feeling of DPDR and can live happily as it eases out of my life but the feeling of surreal and dream-like state hasn't gone away, no matter how calm I am. Thank you for helping us, I can't put into words how much you have helped. ❤

[@theneonavacado8802]

Also I think it is great that your videos are on these topics like DPDR, your content is from the heart and it is authentic. Which is perfect

[@jeremy472]

Exposure therapy will bring you true recovery

[@theneonavacado8802]

@@jeremy472 i have tried exposure and its worked wonders, i need to get back into it.

[@alienoverlordsnow1786]

Robin, depersonalization and derealization are not experienced by most people and most people find the topics unrelatable and uninteresting. I wish you would do videos on problems that everyone can relate to: burnout, depression, self-doubt, self-love, hopelessness, aimlessness, passive SI, positive thinking, positive attitude, optimism, happiness and suffering. Thanks Robin!

[@robinschindelka2117]

Hi! Thank you for the feedback 😊 this is mostly a dpdr recovery channel as most of my followers struggle with this topic. But I will keep it in mind for future video's.

[@Everyday.homemaking]

I would have to disagree. Many many people deal with dpdr. If you haven’t had this symptom yet, give it time lol I could t even understand what this symptom was when I heard it. It wasn’t until few years into my anxiety/depression issues that dpdr came on.

[@Monson_the_last_true_prophet]

Are you entirely unobservant? She started this video explaining that she’s struggling to help everyone that desires her help. I’m very thankful she takes the time to do these videos, it’s very difficult to find someone like her.

[@nour6540]

You seem to have lack of empathy. Put your shoes in someone who has DR/DP for months/years and you’ll feel hopeless and desperate because not every doctors know about this. Im sorry but I’d rather have common problems like “low self-esteem” and whatever shit that DR/DP because it’s a nightmare, it ruined my entire life in a very short amount of time. Be grateful that you ain’t into this.

[@hellucination9905]

The problems you listed are actually non-problems - the causes of them are clear and the remedies to them, too. People just need to enhance their self-introspection and finally reflect on their own life (maybe with a therapist), instead of being a deflecting NPC and everything will fall into place. There are thousands of channels for these exact normie problems.