How to Find a Good and Godly Spouse - Gary Thomas

Couples often decide to get married for the wrong reasons-because they’re infatuated, feel sexually attracted, or feel very compatible with each other. But Gary Thomas argues these factors will fade away all too quickly over time and leave many married couples feeling stale, broken or unsatisfied.
Instead, Gary urges single adults (and their parents) to look for character attributes in a potential future spouse that are based on the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). Specifically, he recommends looking for someone who handles conflict well, who would be a good parent, knows how to pray, shows humility, who is a giver, and is a solid Christian.
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[@jackjones3657]

"Character sustains sexual satisfaction in a marriage." What a great message for a time where moral relativism appears to rule supreme.

[@kstromm6361]

I wish someone had sat me down and told me this. I have never navigated something so difficult.

[@rufiennaeem1770]

Such a powerful message and I wish someone would have told me but it’s never too late to make changes even when you are married.

[@sharilynledbetter]

Such a great message! I’m listening to lead my four unmarried children. “If only...” Thanks for wonderful instruction.

[@soliderforthelord364]

That was an Awesome message for singles. Praise Jesus for this message. It has really blessed me

[@NB-ky5ol]

Thank you for this. It not only helps me as I date but it's a reminder that if I want a Godly man I have to be equally as such. I've come across a lot of "Christian" men who bolt as soon as I tell them I will not have sex until marriage. It lets me see exactly where their heart is and I let them know right away so as not to waste my time.

[@karinteeples9715]

Its so concerning that many men who claimed to be Christians didn’t want to date you because you were not going to be sexually immoral~which as Christians know~ is A sin. Proves they are not genuine Spirit Filled Believers but “Church Goers” that are not being truthful . You’re awesome standing for your Faith!! Stay strong! Your reward in Heaven will be great! Bless you!

[@FletcherBoston36780]

This all sounds wonderful- and I agree 100%! Now where can I find a man who matches all this criteria?!?!

[@trojanmusic7859]

Church...

[@anthonyadikwu1849]

Thank you so much FOCUS ON THE FAMILY. This message has made me better. Thank you.

[@aureliere]

So powerful! Thanks for this. I learned a lot.

[@jennalillywho]

Wow, thank you for this.

[@isonmthombeni8017]

Great message👍

[@oar-N-oasis]

Honestly listening this makes my heart very heavy but I would let my son learn this while he's still young. I wanted him not to have a same story like me.

[@trinibwoyjr]

I love travelling and seeing all the different cultures and how some cultures are still focused on core family values. There is a channel Filipina Destiny that interviews ladies from the Philippines that are looking to meet friends that could develop into long term relationships. Neat concepts, I'm wondering how it will do.

[@BlessedForever888]

So important thank you!

[@soy.ingrid]

😂 I’ve been thinking about buying this book... & this video comes up. (: also about to make life changing decisions... who to date! Thanks !!

[@toykawilliams9817]

ingrid L Ramirez So fun how The Holy Spirit works! 😉❤️

[@joshouaceaser7759]

IM LOOKING FOR A GOOD GODLY WOMAN

[@monamouroxo]

ingrid L Ramirez I’ve read the book, and it SOO WORTH IT! highly recommend reading it. I’ve learned so much and definitely became wiser by it

[@CrazyWatcher670]

11:45 nailed it!!!!!!

[@rosiegz66]

LOVED THIS VIDEO - AMAZING

[@missrd395]

He is so funny haha, I have been reading " Sacred Marriage" super serious and helpful funny to see the personality behind the author!

[@tomsalzano8120]

SO GOOD !

[@didiudoaffah4359]

Point 1 is really important

[@sirribeckline6844]

I am enjoying this

[@davidc8560]

🤣 Ok, that cat story was hilarious!

[@citytrees1752]

Pre-marital counseling seems like it should be obligatory in this day and age.

[@ruthvansandt9713]

30 min... uh my dads nickname was often Eeyore... but watch out for the over-enthusiastic ones too, make sure they have self control and are not controlling of others. Wish my parents had this, but then, maybe I wouldn’t be alive. Lol

[@annatevesbanzon1359]

Preach

[@RSmith1982]

Only one way. They have to have two things: 1. They follow The HOLY BIBLE not they're desires; to the point that if they hate something they still do it because it's written. 2. They have faith based on miracle testimony so that they will never fall away from one. Any other reasons could cause adultery out divorce. The above two will ensure they will be a GODly spouse even if they fall out of love with you. As long as they do not misinterpret The HOLY BIBLE. If they marry you because you are just what they wanted it something similar then when you are not at all what they wanted they'll divorce, so only the two numbers above work. Ask old couples, of they didn't divorce anyone you'll hear something to the effect of they stayed married because of covenant or that just what you do or they don't believe in divorce, but never because they clicked well or because they loved them so .much

[@kellyj.azania4371]

I've been married and divorced twice to two men, each of whom have been remarried for over a decade...the first for three decades. At the time, neither of us were believers. I became a believer a few years ago. Must I remain single? Does 1 Corinthians 7 apply to me? I'm 56 with Lupus and other health issues. I don't want to live out the remainder of my life alone without a companion. I also do not want to sin.

[@martinab2055]

You can confirm with your pastor, but since both men are married now, yes, you can marry again. If you want to get married again, go for it!

[@hectorrodriguez1730]

Amen 🙏🏽.

[@MelissaRocks1977]

Great message but I’m 42. Got anything for us middle aged singles?

[@NB-ky5ol]

It still applies to us.

[@beckyc3127]

I completely understand what you mean. Most messages and books for singles assume you’re in your 20s. I’m 46 and have never been married. I purposely don’t read books for singles because they don’t speak to me as an older single.

[@MelissaRocks1977]

Becky C I agree. It’s always “young” adults. There’s no room for us middle aged singles in the church. Think about it. There’s groups for young adults, young marrieds, married, & of course the kids & teens. It’s almost like it’s taboo to be middle aged & single at church.

[@alanstevens1296]

@@MelissaRocks1977 :: What about someone who is 60 and wants a godly Christian wife? Any churches have a system to provide opportunities?

[@benrex7775]

​@@MelissaRocks1977 What is the difference between a 26 year old single (me) and one of your age? The only thing I can think of is the kids part. And perhaps the kind of work we do. Why do you think the tips of this video are not applicable to you? I'm actually really curious.

[@jimb3093]

48, never married, no kids….I’m done looking lol!

[@maricoryoutubevlog]

same. but i am looking.

[@jimb3093]

@@maricoryoutubevlog I just saw your videos. Where are you from? Jim

[@maricoryoutubevlog]

@@jimb3093 Philippines. Videos are now private.

[@jimb3093]

@@maricoryoutubevlog ok

[@acharich]

12:43 PRISON MINISTRY.. ....FROM THE INSIDE.. 😤🤣😤🤣😤 - @Acharich

[@prof_danieladewole]

❤

[@jackyloudoble808]

💓

[@TheCondescendingRedditor]

What if I see a Godly woman and there is compatibility and you find here attractive but there are no feelings/infatuation and it's preventing you from proceeding because it's not that exciting being around her...?

[@greenrogue07]

What exactly do you mean by compatibility? Are there maybe things about her that are stopping you from liking her?

[@TheCondescendingRedditor]

@@greenrogue07 Compatibility as in we have common interests. Nothing objectively is stoping me, just don’t really feel anything in the subconscious level.

[@GenuineMtech]

She fat?

[@TheCondescendingRedditor]

@@GenuineMtech no, she’s beautiful physically. Just no feelings

[@mchristr]

@@TheCondescendingRedditor Continue to spend time around her, preferably in group settings so there's no pressure to make something happen. Your feelings may change but if not, she's not for you. The other issue might be the openness of your heart to a serious relationship.

[@user-cx2hq8og6i]

Where are the godly men???

[@stevemacinnis5000]

Right here! 🙏😂

[@1978boba]

😂

[@NewLayersPodcast]

Church! If he aint in church, then what makes anyone think he’ll encourage you to go there?

[@xxavierlavell2180]

He just spent 30min talking about "WHAT" to look for and what not..but he never said "HOW" to find..this videos should be "What to look for in a spouse". Smh

[@parler8698]

Remington cheated death.

[@marshachesbro5969]

You must be in LA la land.There is no man to date.

[@emilyingridlaura3419]

Any updates?

[@joshouaceaser7759]

IM LOOKING FOR ME A GOOD GODLY WOMAN IF ANY GODLY WOMAN SEES THIS COMMENT MESSAGE ME

[@Pedro-of4tn]

How has your search for a wife been?, Have you found a godly woman yet?.

[@caribaez5711]

Are you a godly man?

[@felicitypaulse7965]

Godly women look for Godly men!!!