HOW TO FIND YOUR PERSONAL STYLE 3 WORDS | The Allison Bornstein 3 Word Method

Welcome to the journey of defining your personal style with the Three Word Method, a transformative approach created by stylist Allison Bornstein. At its core, this method is a simple yet profound process that distills the essence of your fashion sense into just three words.
Each word serves a unique purpose: the first is 'Practical,' reflecting the current state of your wardrobe and what you find yourself wearing most often. The second word is 'Aspirational,' representing the ideal direction you want your style to move towards, the pieces you admire and aspire to incorporate. The third and final word is 'Emotional,' which captures how you want to feel in your clothes-the vibe and mood your outfits should emanate.
By identifying these three pivotal words, you create a personal style mantra that guides your fashion choices, helps streamline your wardrobe, and ensures that what you wear is a true reflection of who you are, where you're going, and how you feel. Let's dive into how you can discover your three words and use them to shape your style narrative.
Sending you loads of love and thank you to Allison for coming up with this way of thinking of personal style. I love it!
Amanda
xo
Ps. So sorry I missed an "l" in "Allison" on her name plate slate!
Allison's Book | WEAR IT WELL
Canadian link: amzn.to/3QSOLsS
American link: amzn.to/3G81Kla
Her KZbin Channel: @AllisonBornstein 🫶🏼
VIDEO CHAPTERS
00:00 - 03:10 - What is the 3 word method by Allison Bornstein?
03:11 - 06:15 - How to choose your first word
06:16 - 08:43 - How to choose your second word
08:44 - 11:42 - How to create a style vision board in Canva
11:43 - 14:05 - How to choose your third word
14:06 - 18:24 - Key takeaways from the three word method
18:25 - 19:13 - Final thoughts and my 3 words
🎥 Subscribe & Turn on Notifications for more!
✨ Click SHOW MORE for all outfit links!
🌸 FOLLOW ME ON TIKTOK - bit.ly/38I7tRG
✨ SHOP MORE OF MY OUTFITS ON MY LTK
www.shopltk.com/explore/amandaweldon
My Website: amandaweldon.com/
#threewordmethod #allisonbornstein #personalstyle
↠ Let's have a deeper connection ↠
instagram ➭ @belowtheblonde
belowtheblonde
tiktok ➭ @belowtheblonde
pinterest ➭ www.pinterest.ca/belowtheblonde/
podcast ➭ apple.co/2CQ1fyU
below the blonde website ➭ amandaweldon.com/
*I use affiliate links and receive a commission if you make a purchase at no extra cost to you.

[@suewiebe6004]

Casual, feminine, artsy I also created 5 deal breakers in relation to my clothes 1. Natural fibers 2. Good quality 3. Non itchy 4. Fits well 5. Practical for lifestyle

[@AmandaWeldon]

These are the perfect rules! I love these three words too I think we have similar style for sure!

[@jbwest4618]

Casual, Classic, classy-I’m 75 and frequently get compliments on my style. You gals are keeping me stylish😂

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I love it!!!

[@kathyesargent9088]

Love her and her book. I’m 73 and have read it twice❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ casual,classic, chic

[@victoriad9483]

Athletic, timeless, composed. Thanks for distilling this method down.

[@gentlymade]

Comfortable, timeless, youthful

[@smalliesxd]

Oversized, Editorial, Fun ☺️ My goal is to feel like a character from The Devil Wears Prada while also wearing more random novelty pieces, like my dad jackets or Barbie earrings ♥️

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh my gosh SO MUCH FUN!!!

[@malegazeofficial]

this is such a mood

[@nnichole1]

Effortless. Classic. Inspired. Yay! I’m so excited to get dressed tomorrow!

[@carlijnterpstra]

Versatile, minimal, playful. I love minimal silhouettes in minimal colors, bold colors and prints which make me feel like I can do anything in them ❤️

[@AmandaWeldon]

OH I LOVVEEE PLAYFUL! I can 100% see this one too. Versatile is such a good word for being able to do anything in your styles!

[@terrypurvis2535]

Versatile, soft, cozy. I'm retired. I may be cleaning, working out, shopping, or eating lunch with a friend. I so like dark colors because I am blonde. But never harsh. But I am drawn to soft color. And I am a homebody.

[@AmandaWeldon]

I love this all so much! I can 100% picture this whole wardrobe and it just feels like a warm hug ❤

[@terrypurvis2535]

@@AmandaWeldon , you need to do a video for me. ❤️ I could use some suggestions.

[@AmandaWeldon]

@@terrypurvis2535 I sent my friend Sydnie some suggestions for her 3 words and this morning we were talking about how that could be a fun series. I'll be sure to include yours if I go through with it! I think it would be a lot of fun 🥰

[@terrypurvis2535]

@@AmandaWeldon ❤️

[@wrendor9465]

I was watching Alyssa Beltempo today and she made mentioned of you and Allison. These videos are so on time today because I literally came up with my three words last week. I am so excited about my new fashion journey moving forward. Thank you for this video! I need to get my hands on that book asap 😊

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh my goodness WHATTT! I love Alyssa! 🥹😭😭 That is wild to me she's one of my KZbin crushes! So happy you enjoyed it love. It's honestly changed the way I think about my wardrobe and creating my collection. All the best with yours!!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Allison Bornstein and the 3 word method are brilliant. As a personal stylist, I had a pretty good handle on my style yet it took me about 3 weeks to nail my 3 words down - they are classic, elegant, & sophisticated. It really helped me to fine tune my style; now that I'm applying these words I find that I'm experimenting more with my style in a completely different way and I love it! 😃

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh my gosh I love all of this! Truly just this three word method has helped me buy smarter and I've already started to see my outfits change because of them. Thanks so much for such a thoughtful comment ❤️

[@zingara76]

Your video is the best out there to help people understand the 3 word method. Thank you 😊 My and I’m still working on mine is •Practical • Timeless •Mystical I wear lots of black, and that’s exactly where I feel comfortable. I been wearing the same cloths since teen and I don’t think I’ll ever dress differently and when I do I feel so uncomfortable as I’m wearing a costume. So yes, black black all the way!!

[@Xenathewarrior83]

Layered, artistic, authentic

[@AmandaWeldon]

Love those one! Artistic makes me so happy!

[@catherinegardner8407]

Edgy, Artistic, Intuitive I wear color, as a teacher, my students wanted my clothes; my eye goes to the one that somewhat stands out.

[@AmandaWeldon]

So much fun!

[@batty.b]

Lets see.. Word #1. Comfortable. Jeans. T-shirt. Jacket. I've got to feel physically good in my clothes before anything else and that's definitely reflected in my current closet. #2 Thematic is totally new to but I think it fits, I love a good recurring theme/pattern. All of my favorite styles, regardless of whether I'd actually wear them, are super hardcore themed. Goth, Lolita, steampunk, all styles that are so themed they're almost costume-y. I used to say whimsical but I'm realizing that's because to me, really leaning into a theme *is* whimsical but whimsicality(?) as a style alone feels more "fantasy" based which isn't really me. #3 now this is where im really struggling. Authentic, confident, quirky, and playful all kinda feel right..ugh. At the end of the day I just know that I want Main Character Energy. I think I'll come back to this. Definitely subscribing tho.

[@DeborahM116]

Comfortable, elegant, and timeless

[@AmandaWeldon]

Timeless will always be one of my favourite words for this! I can totally picture these ones 🥰So good!

[@wrendor9465]

Just like you Amanda I came up with 3 words to identify my style fashion, I tweeked them today after watching Allison's video and yours. My 3 words are: 1- 1-Textured-layered because of my love for fabrics and patterns that speak to me. I take pride in my creativity, versatility and my roots 🌍 2-Timeless because of my appreciation for minimal and classic style that are priceless and timeless ⏳️ 3-Authentic because I want to honor my essence as a romantic by letting my curves swerve. I want to feel genuinely and authentically me in everything that I wear ♾️

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh my goodness well done!! Seems like you've really nailed down the perfect words for you! Love how much intention and research you've done in this process 🥰🤍 Thanks for such a thoughtful comment!

[@valeriemalenfant]

My 3 words is Tailored, Old europe and Quirky .... so if I look like an eccentric Lady in her old english Manor in the countryside that could only afford to keep the stable boy as an employee I achieved my look! LOL so think English equestrian style from the 1940s with a dash of italian exuberance

[@AmandaWeldon]

I COULD NOT LOVE THIS MORE!!! Also Valerie I can already tell you have such a fun personality. Truly keep being you because all of this sounds like someone who loves life and is confident in who they are ❤ Love it!

[@pinkskivvy]

Comfortable , bold and fearless. Great video x

[@chickaliciousnyc]

Thank you! I appreciate this exercise - and Allison Bornstein for her genius! I struggled A LOT with my fashion POV for this stage of my life, but I feel that "Effortless, 70's Boho and Grateful" most align with who I am.

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I love these! I feel like you these three words really must speak to who you are and your personality ❤ Love it so much

[@chickaliciousnyc]

🥹 Thank you! I look forward to learning and curating my perfect wardrobe with you! ❤️🙏🏾❤️

[@mhgrn2008]

Classic , effortless, confident

[@sandiscalmanini8096]

Sporty, Feminine, & Svelte. After so many videos I finally did the exercise and you are so spot on. I can feel my wardrobe & closet vibes much clearer by crafting my 3 style words. Thank u and AB!🎉

[@beverlyadams7667]

Classic, timeless and graceful. This was a fun and very informative video. I love hearing your words and reading the words others have chosen, too. ❤

[@brittanysaladino]

Minimal, Chic, Confident. Love this video💗

[@AmandaWeldon]

Aw thanks so much for watching! Love those words!

[@lovelylauz02]

Minimal, Luxurious and Graceful -- great video! Thanks!

[@AmandaWeldon]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@ljnoble5171]

Comfortable, Elegant, Confident Thanks for this!

[@AmandaWeldon]

You're so welcome! Thank you for watching!

[@luannasauvage]

😊😊😊😊😊😊 love it

[@itzysmiles]

Effortless, polished, and feminine -- Truly a fantastic and insightful video! I've been dabbling in figuring out what my personal style is for a while now (I've always felt I had 4 different styles for different moods, so it's been difficult) but this technique helped me realize how to make all four more cohesive together. Can't wait to watch more of your style content! I'm obsessed!

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh my gosh this has brought the BIGGEST smile to my face! Thanks for watching and leaving such a thoughtful comment! ❤️ Love the sound of your style 🥰

[@ervinsmoviecorner8748]

A very nice one, Amanda!❤

[@cjevans6365]

Comfortable, artistic & quirky. I also like slouchy, beachie & relaxed.

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh so good! Isn't it wild how just three words can help you envision a whole wardrobe/personality!?

[@wlammy3171]

Comfortable, artistic, authentic ❤❤ thanks for this video!!

[@AmandaWeldon]

My pleasure 🥰🥰 LOVE THOSE WORDS!

[@leetawse7657]

Minimal, Artistic, Fearless!

[@AmandaWeldon]

Fearless is such a fun one!! Great three words 🥰

[@ateliervjacques]

Cozy, feathery, secure :)

[@jiovannijimenez6154]

~functional ~timeless ~effortless

[@AmandaWeldon]

Absolute perfection!

[@zingara76]

Question 🙋🏻‍♀️ does your closet has lots of blacks? Cause I have the same two words.

[@margaretsabato2315]

Preppy, chic and quirky. Thanks for all the research! 😊

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I love quirky!!! Makes me think of Jess from New Girl if you've seen the show and her style just makes me so, so happy!

[@SarvWears]

Thanks for the video 🥰 loved it

[@AmandaWeldon]

So happy you liked it! 🥰 Thanks for watching!

[@slvrlady]

Layered, innovative, playful. Thanks for the video, loved the content.

[@AmandaWeldon]

Layered is such a good one for fall and winter! I am thinking more and more about how these words can change season to season and I'm curious if you think yours would be different in summer 🤍 I love this exercise so much haha

[@catherinedandrea4733]

effortless, elegant, and svelte

[@AmandaWeldon]

SUCH GOOD ONES!

[@HealASista]

Classic, Sophisticated, Vibrant

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I LOVEEEE Vibrant! Such a fun word especially when mixed with Sophisticated! Now I want to see your wardrobe 🥰

[@Ephatas]

I wish it was colder where I live (Australia) because I love autumn/winter clothes

[@colourmeright]

I feel you! The part of India I live in doesn't have winters and I haven't been able to layers at all.

[@colourmeright]

I think my current three words are: Comfortable, chic and strong.

[@lisacowan5582]

Effortless chic secure ❤amazing concept!

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I love Secure! Great words 🥰🥰

[@leetuki8166]

Classic, Edgy, Colourful

[@refinedefined]

Literally taking notes in this video ✍ btw been loving your content lately! I feel like you're really finding your stride

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh my gosh this means so much to me! Thank you angel! 🥹

[@katymcdonald5481]

Feminine, Textured & Romantic are mine. I want to add more texture to my looks with layering, jewelery and accessories. This was so helpful and informative. Thanks!

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I love that you used textured and explained further! Such a fun one!

[@madelisem4550]

Comfortable, vintage-inspired, playful 💃

[@LifeWithElyse]

Comfortable, Chic, and still debating in the 3rd 😅 Great video 💕

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I love it!! I can already visualize the look you're going for! 🥰 Thanks for watching beauty!

[@user-zl1hx3gj7h]

Effortless, sophisticated, pretty

[@pinadelmonico]

Casual, classic & cute ❤

[@AmandaWeldon]

Aw I feel like I can picture your style perfectly with these three words 🥰🥰

[@natsza7116]

Comfortable, feminine and chill :)

[@heatherframpton9693]

Brand new subscriber here...earlier today for Allison, too. 😊❤ I appreciate the content!

[@AmandaWeldon]

Aw lovely! So happy to have you here Heather! 🤍

[@littlelilykitty4527]

Eclectic, ethereal and fairy-like I was debating between mystical and playful since I want to feel like a fairy in clothes I wear. I think the word fairy-like combines those two nicely ☺

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh my gosh I LOVE FAIRY-LIKE how fun!!! That legit makes me smile ear to ear and now I want to see your dream wardrobe haha 🥰

[@littlelilykitty4527]

@@AmandaWeldon I have took a lot inspiration from cottage core bohemian style and different harajuku styles (in example, mori kei, fairy kei and sweet lolita) 😊 And I love colors 🎨

[@marissashantez6051]

my words would have to by cozy, flattering, and comfortable. And I have another one that I dont have anything that fits, but I wish I did, which is architectural.

[@MustardSeedish]

Functional, fun, and feminine.

[@angmansb]

Comfortable, romantic, beautiful …. Great video just subscribed!

[@AmandaWeldon]

So happy to have you! These are great words! 🥰🥰

[@amoto1501]

Love Allison, love this video! Well done! BTW: your hair is gorgeous.❤️ 3 words: Comfortable, Soft, Minimal

[@AmandaWeldon]

Aw thank you so much so kind of you! Your three words make me feel so cozy! I love them

[@anniielisa]

This inspired me to make vision board and now i am so lost 😂 we need some style support group where we can analyze each others boards lol

[@AmandaWeldon]

Aw I LOVE THAT! Maybe we need a cozy nook on the internet to talk style haha I'm on it 👀😂

[@Rodriguezmagaly1]

I am lost too….!!! This video inspired me but I am struggling to identify my 3 words, specially now that I am working from home and my “practical” clothes changed…. I used to have a clear picture when I was working in an office, but now, I can be in pajamas all day and that is messing with my mood😢

[@GGMKir88]

Casual, Edgy, Sensual Femenine ✨️

[@user-gx3bk3rs3f]

Monochromatic sophisticated bold 😊

[@AmandaWeldon]

OU I LOVE IT!

[@PadminiAshok]

Functional, Sophisticated and Edgy

[@AmandaWeldon]

Love "edgy" this says "Chic New Yorker" to me and I am livinnnngg for it!

[@PadminiAshok]

You know what's weird. We moved to NY in my early 20s and worked there for the next 10 years. After that I have moved to so many countries and cities but I guess NY stayed 😊 I hadn't thought of NY as my inspiration.

[@Piddeaux]

Casual/Classic/Relaxed

[@AmandaWeldon]

I can picture this perfectly! Love these together❤️

[@kristinaisaksen4907]

This was a such a fun and informative video :) My 3 words would be comfortable (I work in a kindergarten), scandinavian-chic (if that is a word) and effortless :)

[@Aliceimkaninchenbau]

Textured, vintage-chic and I’m still searching for the third one :D

[@MoneyWithKazeem]

Comfortable, effortless, Practical

[@AmandaWeldon]

Ou yes!! I can totally picture this! I bet you have great wardrobe staples

[@MoneyWithKazeem]

I'm a guy most of my wardrobe is filled with basics such as tshirts and chinos. But I experiment with colors and making sure things fit properly

[@MoneyWithKazeem]

And a watch enthusiast, so I experiment with that.

[@AmandaWeldon]

@@MoneyWithKazeem I feel like this is close to what Scotty's would be too! He is so good at finding great basics!

[@KerryGoldP]

Simple, put-together and then I'm struggling for my third. I know the feeling but can't find the word. It's like not-grown-up, optimistic, fun, comfortable in my own skin, anti-imposter syndrome - the closest fit so far is childlike, but I need it to be clearly different from childish!

[@DutchXFangirl]

Joyful? Joie de Vivre?

[@foxgloverose4788]

Playful?

[@user-vp8xq2by3b]

Eclectic/Artsy/ Confident (New & Vintage/ Monet to Mondrian/Wear it & Mean it) 😊

[@user-tz8xs3fp1e]

Comfortable, classic, feminine. I’ve added additional ‘rules’ though as I love breathable fabrics, so clothes are hardly ever synthetic.

[@annagreen8652]

Comfortable, vibrant/ adventurous and confident/joyful/creative I can't decide 😂

[@AmandaWeldon]

Hahah good thing we make the rules 😂 love all of these!

[@jo2666]

Enjoyed this so much I’m minimal luxury cosy 🤍 at the beginning you take a grey funnel neck jumper off the rail that you’re not keen on but I loved it and looks good for a petite. Where is it from?? Thank you 🤍🤍🤍

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh not to worry that was my rack of favourites haha! So that grey jumper isn't going anywhere! ❤️ It's one of my favourites from H&M 🥰

[@sallymasira5546]

Bold, feminine and joyful❤

[@AmandaWeldon]

LOVE THOSE!

[@Ephatas]

Effortless, femininine, cool 😎

[@10yearsgone]

Comfortable, Polished, Quirky

[@AmandaWeldon]

Polished and Quirky together are so fun! Great words!!

[@leticiastevens5883]

Comfortable, vintage, together

[@dr.hebagadallahclinicalpha9871]

Glamorous soft classic with a twist Glamorous 2nd word (goal) Soft classic 1st Word (foundation) A twist 3rd word (creative self expression)

[@AmandaWeldon]

I love them! "A twist" is such a fun way to describe your third word 🥰

[@annade2094]

Tailored, feminine, peaceful

[@abigailpmm1182]

Vintage Timeless Mystical

[@AmandaWeldon]

These words are so great! I feel like you have a lot of fun with your personal style and that makes me so happy ahha

[@malegazeofficial]

i'm finding it hard to pin the words down haha first one's around masc/oversized/layered second one's post-mature third one's i want to feel iconic, but i want my fit to feel like it has character :) so maybe just.. authentic?

[@tanyajacobson952]

preppy , feminine, polished

[@DutchXFangirl]

Oversized, Simple, Rebellious.

[@sylvieallard4820]

Modern, country-chic, different

[@RomiNa-wo6mu]

Minimal whimsical Not over the top I think i have to stick with the first and the third, and only when i'm feeling brave i can go for the second option🙄 Cuz there is no way i'm adding a little bold whimsical piece to a minimal outfit...it will look like it doesn't belong

[@gailkoeslag9885]

Basic, soft , feminine

[@GoldenTherapeuticStyling]

Rugged Vivacious Graceful

[@mikaelaenglund2025]

Effortless, Timeless and Edgy.

[@hdigalob]

Androgynous, romantic, joyful. :)

[@AmandaWeldon]

SO FUN!!!!

[@adventureswiththerobin]

I swear your words are also mine! So weird 😂

[@AmandaWeldon]

YAY TWINS!!! I love that 💁🏼‍♀️

[@chicalertng]

Monochromatic, Chic and Sexy 😊

[@8randomprettysecret8]

LADIES WOMEN!!!

[@user-nn2ej1pe4x]

classic edgy and sassy-sexy

[@justlaura7177]

My 3 words are: 1. Casual 2. Romantic 3. Confident. I want to borrow from @suewiebe6004 whose idea was brilliant to choose dealbreakers!!! My deal breakers are. 1) Polyester 2) Other synthetic fibers (nylon, acrylic) 3) Unflattering fit and colors 4) Itchy 5) I don’t absolutely love it

[@auroreavignon6514]

Powerful, timeless and majestic are my words. I like fashion that raises one’s confidence and gives you that extra je ne sais quoi.🩵

[@AmandaWeldon]

Oh I love that!! Those are super powerful words and they all work well together!

[@saranoad]

Vintage, glamorous, playful

[@AmandaWeldon]

This wardrobe sounds like SO MUCH FUN!!!