how to find your personal style & confidence

hi loves, welcome back! in this video, I talked about how to find your style. I define style as the way you want to dress and how you express yourself. I also dedicated the first section of the video to how to build your confidence. always remember that if other people can wear it, you can too! given that you are not harming yourself or others in that process :)
And yessss i saw how some of you guys wanted to see a graduation vlog. I didn't have enough content to film an entire vlog so I dedicated the last 3-4 minutes of this video to a mini graduation vlog. I hope you guys liked it.
I don't usually make outfits video since it's not usually the first thing that comes to my head when I want to make videos. I am well aware this video isn't an actual OUTFITS video (apologies if that's what you were expecting). But do let me know if you guys want to see my essentials, clothings I wear or creating outfits. I always like taking suggestions from you guys!
anyways thank you so much for watching. i also wanna know who actually reads my description lol. if you made it all the way here, comment a 🐙 (octopus lol). anyways I love you all! Hopefully summer is officially starting for you guys! hopefully you all are doing well.
Next week's video will be a start of a new series: the healing diaries. I will upload episode 1 of the series and be explaining in the next video what this series is going to be about. in a quick explaination: journal entries but on a deeper and personal level on sensitive topics I don't share often. I consider journal entries to be more advice giving (although ofc I relate it back to myself). Healing diairies will be more of things I'm still struggling with or working on or sensitive topics I don't often talk about on the internet. I guess the differentiation between the two would also depend on how comfortable I feel about the topic. so yeahhhhh. ok anyways I'll see yall soon !!
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[@via.ilyouu]

I’d like to add that: If i just had the confidence back then, I could be wearing the same clothes I wear now and still look so slay🩷 so this is why confidence is important 🌷or at least having the courage to wear them out. i love you all

[@redelightzzz]

YESSSSSS AND THAT'S ON FACTS! LOVE YOU MORE!! 🤍🤍🤍

[@JustABoy98]

♥️♥️

[@oIdricecooker]

LETS GO BIG SIS 😌❤️

[@linphyusinthant8045]

I really love your 2022 eye makeup 😭 can you please make a tutorial video

[@ri4eva]

hii 🌷 the term you used "so slay" is actually apart of the african american vernacular language but misused. a lot of black people feel uncomfortable when aave is used in the wrong way, so please be mindful of what you say!

[@nova4476]

‘’do it scared’’ reminds me of my favorite Lemony Snicket quotes ‘’Do the scary thing first and get scared later’’ and ‘’If we wait until we're ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives’’. This video couldn’t have come at a better time, massive thank you!!

[@emeraldwhite7506]

COUNT OLAF!!!

[@canthinkofagoodusn]

I have one more good quote "Being brave means that you act even when you are scared!"

[@moon-kc5bc]

YESS! Best series everr 🩷 i learned many new amazing quotes from that series

[@lilskronklbloop]

MY FAV BOOK SERIES im rereading rn

[@n07.3d]

Reminds me of Brook from one piece

[@listless0]

A small tip from me: don't buy a lot of clothes while changing your style. Since style evolves over time it's highly possible you will not want to wear some of the clothes in a future. For me personally it's easier to buy a few clothes and wear them out and then buy replacements instead of buying full closet of my new aesthetic clothes. I'm poor and still want to look good and dress according to my style so I depend on minimalistic wardrobe. I ask myself if I really need to buy X a few time before making a purchase. Also, I let clothes I bought sit in my closet for a few days (with all tags attached). A lot of times I decidec to return something because I stopped liking it for some reason. Before removing tags make sure your new clothes goes along with your other clothes and you can make outfits. It's what I do to make sure I buy clothes that can be worn with most of my closet and are practical.

[@via.ilyouu]

yess! def not buy a lot of the same items. a mistake i made in the past 😭

[@Stou_Stitches]

That's a precious tip when you're on a tight budget, have a small space or change your style often! I'm more of a hoarder but I should deffo burn your comment into my brain 🥲

[@amtra1778]

Agree on the don't buying a bunch of clothes at the start, but the rest is a bit of the opposite for me. My mom always nagged and bashed my choices of clothing ever since I was in elementary school because they weren't trendy. That's actually how fashion works; the populace always mimics what the rich wear, while the rich want the direct opposite to set themselves apart from the rest of the population. Plus, with social media, extreme niches are much more acceptable and even encouraged, so it doesn't even really matter if something's trending or not. Especially since fashion runs in a 20 year cycle.

[@jammyjammich]

You see.... im incredibly broke. And I have A MILLION WISHLISTS. So if I go through them over and over throughout the time I cant get anything, I can single out what lasts in my style choices. And those end up in the cart when I can get things 😊

[@user-gi4yi2yo8y]

this is so true! if anything i try to buy timeless or basic pieces that will always look good

[@blizzardhd6516]

"Do it scared" is great advice, pretty much applies to doing anything outside of your comfort zone. Great video Via :)

[@saphyrentg3223]

Don't follow trends, wear timeless pieces 📝

[@jcp5302]

I think it’s ok to dip into trends if any interest you. It’s only when you over-consume and only get trendy pieces when it becomes an issue. You then end up with a ton of trendy pieces that you may get bored of when it isn’t popular anymore since you over-saturated yourself in it to the point of disinterest. This doesn’t only apply to trends though; it applies to any type of clothing and aesthetic. In my personal experience, I wore so many academia/preppy outfits at one point that I barely wear my sweater vests and my long sleeved button ups now. I still wear them but not as frequently since they kind of feel overused to me. It’s like music. Sometimes you listen to a new song so much that you get bored after a while and end up dropping it. Don’t try to limit yourself to just one aesthetic and try to get wear out of all your pieces. It’s ok to have favorites but try not to only wear your favorites if you are anything like me. My taste in style is a lot more eclectic now that I tried different things and stopped trying to fit into only one category like academia. That’s the thing: people always try to box themselves up into one genre of fashion when that just hinders their creativity and stops them from discovering new things they like. Edit: And of course I typed a whole essay 💀 oops

[@carrotisalie]

and if you do, don't buy them unless you actually like them and not just because it's a trend

[@edwardhisse2687]

I mean, a lot of timeles pieces are kinda boring. Just find stuff you like despite the trends.

[@jasmintea8825]

Wear what you like, if it’s a trend and you like it, wear it 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lillian_arin]

You're like the elder sister that I don't have. You know it feels great to have someone who can teach you and tell you that it's okay to make mistakes. Sending virtual hugs cause I LOVE YOOOOOOOU!!!!!!!

[@via.ilyouu]

LUV U MORE

[@d.c.3346]

VOUCH omfg thats exactly the vibe i get from her :”) explains a lot on why she feels so comforting . dang

[@swisdom9117]

@@d.c.3346I agree. It’s the first time I’ve found a KZbinr that I feel this connected to

[@elisaindrawati4288]

I feel the same, eventho I'm much older than Via, but I still feel that she is more mature than me, idk maybe the way she's speaking. So yeah, consciously I already follow almost all of her social media after I watched just one of her video (the one about "growing up ugly", that was hit me, i can relate) :)))

[@gavisbarbie]

Few tips for keeping a sustainable wardrobe: -before purchasing a piece, think about at least 5 ways to wear it, or make sure that you will actually wear if often enough -when online shopping before you checkout leave the items in your basket and let some time pass, and if you really still want it after letting the initial impulse die down then go for it Lastly while fast fashion isn't cool, it's also important to not shame others for buying from these brands especially if it's for financial reasons. Shopping sustainably can get pricey. Thrifting/ buying second hand/ hand me downs are good ways to experiment with style that doesn't break the bank. Have fun with exploring

[@via.ilyouu]

this!! it’s so sad that sustainable clothing can be pricier. and yes don’t shame those who have fast fashion brand clothings since we don’t know their financial struggles. however always try to see if u can find good pieces in thrift stores such as goodwill! clothing there are usually under $10!!

[@jaenam5017]

Tbh I know the reason why my confidence rock bottom. My mother keeps on bashing me everytime I'm trying to dress myself, saying that it doesn't look good on me, I'm too fat and it will look trash if I wore it and such things that really hurt me to the core. I'm really grateful to you because you gave me the confidence that I needed 💙

[@courtneysunnight2318]

me too, my mom does say stuff like that and it hurts. I’m very self-conscious and have lots of social anxiety, but I know I’ll get the confidence eventually as I grow up. I hope you continue having confidence as well ❤

[@nicolejanke6757]

Relateable

[@TCGrey]

Same for me, although she never said xyz looks like shit on me. It was always more like a "Are you sure? Are you really gonna wear this? Don’t you think this is a little bit to [revealing, short, tight, black, …]? 🤨" I‘m so much more confident and comfortable in my body and how I dress since I moved out.

[@RabbitTeacup]

@@TCGrey Same here. She would keep asking until I changed into whatever she wanted, usually. Even now I live far away and when I came home to visit she STILL did it! It's exhausting and it wore down my self-esteem so much that to this day I still feel rock bottom a lot.

[@skye387]

I used to be the same but overtime I'm realising that my mom sense of style isn't really a good judgement either (since she's from older generation with different kind of fashion taste) so now I just wear whatever I'm comfortable with.

[@LaguBudakKuching]

the way i relate with you is CRAZYY. I grew up feeling ugly for the first 16-17 years of my life, and now to feel confident and wear whatever I want feels so good 😭

[@abrilcorominajavier9150]

Three simple questions that help me a lot build my closet are “will i wear this at least 30 times?” “Does this match with any othe peaces I already own, and does the color match with my personal colour palette?” And finally “does the fit of this peace bother me or make me uncomfortable in any way?” This way I’m building a closet without consuming too much and I can wear comfortably every single peace. And all the peaces go well togheter so i dress up very fast!!! Love your video ❤

[@artemisliah]

As someone who has always been having a hard time finding my style because of my lack of confidence, its really nice hearing the advices that you gave. Thank uuuu luvya xo

[@via.ilyouu]

ilysmmmm and i’m so glad i was able to help!!

[@paulio3o]

“do it scared” is one of my all time favorite quotes from you! i think of it all the time. especially when it comes to things like style and things like going on solo dayes i try to apply it

[@amii.xi1]

hey via, i've been watching a few of your videos, and i seriously admire your personality. you're a role model for so many. thank you for creating this content for us.

[@via.ilyouu]

i love uuuu🩷🩷

[@stop.itlena]

Yes I agree!!

[@AUGUSTMJ]

your storytelling is stellar. your editing is so engaging too ugh 🎀🏅

[@LeonSKennedy2002]

I’m so grateful you popped up on my recommendations because you’re so relatable! I used to wear basically the same basic outfits, just jeans and a tshirt and it just looked awful on me and I was so scared to wear what I wanted. I’m pretty much past that point, especially since I realized how many complimenting looks I get since I dress how I want to. A guy even asked for my number (that never happened in my life) because he liked my energy and guess what, it’s because I knew what I wore looked good on me and I felt like it. Take what she says to your heart because it’s amazing if you can get past this and feel confident!

[@lithpickett162]

with #8 (being happy in your clothes) this has taken me (and is still taking me) time to find a balance between a clothe's comfort, safety, and happiness. after being SA'd, i sometimes feel like i have to wear more masculine clothing to protect myself or be safe, but wearing really feminine clothes (whether like y2k/barbie or emo/goth/alt inspired clothes or sweet lolita) makes me the happiest. i wonder if other people have shared this struggle and what their personal safe/happy ratio is

[@skye387]

I have never been SA'd so I wouldn't claim to understand you. I grew up tomboy-ish but at the same time I happen to have more curves than most so I often feel the stares. Both of these fact made me feel that I had to wear long pants and baggy clothes all the time when growing up but then I'd also be called fat when I do that, so every clothes just felt wrong but I still wore it because being called fat was better than the stares. At the same time, I somehow found out about the lolita fashion and fell in love with it, but I have never worn it myself. I would imagine myself wearing lolita while actually wearing unflattering baggy shirt. Now my going out clothes is still mostly covered up long sleeves but they're more fitting that my body curves still shown and I'd either wore fitting long pants or short skirt-pants and feel more confident because with revealing clothes being more common nowadays, I still get stares but not as much as before but the other key point is also the fact that I will only wore those when I won't be alone by myself until I'm at home otherwise I'd still wear the unflattering clothes. That's my personal safe/happy ratio. When I'm alone or will at places that gives me bad feelings I'd prioritise the feeling of safety but if I'm with people and places I feel safe with, I'd prioritise the happiness. When in doubt, I chose safety.

[@zakeernalir2871]

You can either incorporate both styles and then slowly shift to feminine clothes. I am not even comfortable to go out after multiple sa’ but yeah I think it’s about starting to heal and building the courage, it’s your life after all. Slowly but surely you’ll get there

[@hatsuneyu_]

I'm sorry for what you've been through :( I 100% understand you, I love feminine clothes but I'm scared to wear them but when I do, I feel so happy, I hope you can someday have the confidence to wear them, wear whatever you want

[@SIMBI_MUSIK]

You just have to believe in yourself no matter what people tell you and I guess that will helps

[@nathalik1]

Leaving high school was one of the greatest things I could do to my style! I really like alternative fashion, and honestly I feel out of place when shopping, doing groceries or just going out in general.

[@via.ilyouu]

yea leaving high school was so so healing for me! glad we can relate on this 🤍🤍🤍

[@fluffpuff320]

"clothes are made to fit you, not the other way around" I feel like this is so obvious but so easy to forget. We get so caught up on what the number says on the label for sizing, like oh I should be a 6 so I'm only gonna buy size 6 clothes, but then you either never end up wearing it, or when you do wear it all you can focus on is how uncomfortable you are. PICK CLOTHES THAT FIT AND ARE COMFORTABLE you shouldn't sacrifice either of those just to wear things you think look nice. And yeah, it can be hard to find clothing you like in sizes that fit, but that's what makes finding that one special piece all the more special. You love your clothes more when they fit you well and feel comfortable.

[@a._d02]

Your content is so different from the ones I watch, yet it's so good. I learn a lot from you because I'm still on the process of learning about myself. I can relate a lot to you and your experiences. Thank you for sharing your life with us. I hope you stay happy and healthy. You deserve so much love❤

[@sei-g6987]

I really agree when you said that we must wear what makes us happy. Back in college, I'm into KPOP styles but I'll hear a lot of 'she's so trying hard', 'koreanang hilaw which means trying hard to look Korean', and I'll admit that it kind of undermined my confidence. I'm not trying to change my nationality. I'm just wearing the clothes I like and make me feel confident and beautiful, but why do people have to step on the little hope I have? But fortunately, there's more people who say that my style is cool and I'm brave to show my personality. And they helped me realize that I should wear my style for me and not for others.

[@caty2847]

As someone with a bunch of different aesthetics and a fav one forming now (cyberpunk), I always viewed myself lost because of the quantity of different clothes I had. But what you said, "style is what makes you happy," really helped me. I am not lost just cause I am not always wearing the same style. I like all of them, and as an emby, having different styles actually help me when I wanna go for more of a feminine style, or masculine, or more androgynous or just everything and nothing in one. I have been taking this journey without even realising in the past 3 years, and only now I'm finding that it's OK to use different things and finding my fav one. 3 years ago, I started this journey. I still like my first ever style but just in a different way. I have always been the tomboy and always felt that I could not have different interests cause that would be weird for others who used to perceive me in a certain way. I could not like "girl" things, I could never be interested in fashion and so on. Via's vídeos have helped me so much to just do what I want and like what I like, even if its weird for others, and for that I can only thank you.

[@himanshiibisht]

i only wear clothes in which i feel pretty, confident and comfortable and for me its wide leg jeans and some amazing graphic baggy tshirts with sneakers on. My mother tells me to wear more feminine clothes but living here in india im afraid or uncomfortable to wear it. eve teasing and staring at women walking down the street is so common in here. so its always the style in which i feel good and comfortable. thank youuu via!! i relate to you so much and you are like a big sister to me!!!💗

[@Hehehuma]

Via reminds me of Kim Go-Eun and her role in Goblin I love Via, you’re my inspiration

[@princessxjellyfish]

“Do it scared” has become my new motto im so glad I found your channel

[@via.ilyouu]

YESSSSS

[@yeahidc]

Wore an outfit today that i felt actually good in after a decade. It was just a plain black shirt with pants and my fav boots ofc but just those simple clothes gave me so much serotonin when i looked at myself in the mirror. Currently having my meal watching your videos , best combo 10/10 🤍🩷.

[@via.ilyouu]

SO PROUD OF YOUUUUU!!!🩷🩷🩷🌷🌷🌷

[@yeahidc]

@@via.ilyouu THANK YOU 🥹 💞💞

[@purpleviolet9046]

I love black clothes my family gets on me because of it 😂 but idgaf

[@Li-kx8ps]

Honestly when it comes to finding styles it’s just like she said, just wear whatever makes you happy! I discovered most of my style through Pinterest and from there i discovered that I love the simple/minimalistic aesthetic. But I only found that I enjoyed this type of aesthetic through trial and error. Constantly wearing oversized clothing because I was insecure of my figure I realized that it wasn’t flattering for my body. But through time I realized that just a simple tee and baggy pants are what really suit me best lol 🐙

[@RosePhantoma]

I really appreciate that you put it as "this doesn't look good on me" and not "I look terrible in this", I need to try and think that way more

[@kalinawebb8867]

that white dress with the black hair bow fit is *chefs kiss* !!!

[@hxpponaut197]

It is really good to emphasize that you should NOT buy from trends!! People end up buying a lot of fast fashion to keep up with these and that is EXTREMELY bad for the environment!! Find a wardrobe that you love and KEEP IT!

[@methusharavi5136]

Via's vids are truly helping me heal part of myself that were broken, and i'm grateful ❤

[@alfiabranwen3495]

Growing up, i had my mother to choose outfits for me so it didn't really bother me what style or what i look on it as long as im comfortable, however, looking back before those styles never actually suit me. But now, i get to choose what will fit me. Although still had that problem about self-confidence, for i get really anxious when it's time for me to go out of our house. I felt like, my neighbors would talk behind my back and say something about what im wearing. So, yeah what you really say actually moved me and somewhat inspired me to just wear what i felt like.

[@julieonthemoon]

Your videos feel like a hug

[@gaia930]

Exactly we keep on changing with style, comfort and vibes, and if you want to find your style and clothes that flattered your body you gotta experiment with lots of clothes, styles, and colours, the design pieces because the more you understand yourself and the more you build your style which looks best on you

[@pan_munchies]

Seeing your videos really comfort me. I like how real you are and dont sugar coat everything. I just started my youtube channel and your videos give me the confidence to try in everything I do. Thank you!!!

[@80sforevergirl]

I feel also came at the right time when I currently growing so much and changing my style to reflect that.

[@Heart1nParadise]

*I remember after quarantine I had gained a lot of weight and insecurities, I would always wear baggy sweaters and pants all the time with my hair always covering myself since my hair had grown below my knees (indian genes). I had really severe acne and had went into depression because of family problems so my whole time back in middle school wasn't the best, and because of my low self esteem and confidence I struggled a lot trying to get back to the cheerful and carefree kid I used to be. After I began to see how my friends and other people online were so confident in wearing what they pleased and being what they're comfortable with, it made me question myself "Why am I wasting time being insecure when I have much more important things to worry about?" It was after asking that same question to myself over and over again that I had made up my mind to try and dress more like how I would want to see myself when I look in the mirror, and slowly I grew out of my baggy clothes phase and developed a style where I wore my real fitting clothes, started working out to lose weight, and cut my hair since it was only further encouraging my insecurities and also making my acne worse by covering my face. After that I felt more confident in myself even though sometimes I would get insecure, but no matter what I pushed myself to be comfortable with my body and myself which later on in highschool helped me gain more friends and help those out just like me, my grade with were in 60s boosted up to being in the 90s since instead of trying to worry about my insecurties like before, I focused more on my studies and friendships/relations. Clothes really can make someone a different person both mentally and physically*

[@demilynn4179]

This is very true... I struggled for a long time to wear what I wanted to wear.. leaving school helped.. also moving to my own place helped😂... But even now I am still growing the" style" and the comfort zone .... to having the confidence to wear it ... some days I do not... and I might feel much better in a long-sleeved shirt or whatever ... and that is okay😇

[@lilu3371]

It takes so much courage to try different styles! I love how the video is edited, it's super relaxing and comfortable. Congratulations again on your graduation!! 🥳Lysm Fun fact: Your name ''Novia'' in Spanish literally means girlfriend hahaha

[@via.ilyouu]

yeppp been told since i was a kid 🌝

[@burr1tozilla34]

Im so gladddd Ive found your channel. Literally for the past few months, ive been feeling like something’s wrong with me for enjoying being alone and staying in. Ive been constantly being compared to my sisters who’re going out with their friends every now and then, and then pitied by my mom and aunts as “ oh poor her, she’s got no friends, thats why shes always cooped up in her room”. So when that becomes constant, i started to feel depressed and bad about myself, feeling like im not enjoying life , like im a black sheep of the family. But what they don’t understand is that I dont enjoy going out and party all night every single day. Its so energy draining for me. Ive been very depressed and having anxiety attacks at nights because of that. i know you might not see my comments amongst others, but THANK YOU.

[@flameygacha]

I found your Chanel not to long ago and I’m so glad I did. It feels like you’re actually having a conversation with you which makes it more enjoyable!!!

[@Hopischwopi]

Style is so personal. Like sure I could go and get compliments by wearing what is seen as fashionable and fitting for my body but in the end I wear my clothes and I want to feel good and like myself. There will always be someone who likes my style and aesthetic and someone who hates it.

[@MikkiD10956]

living for your taste in fashion rn fr

[@via.ilyouu]

i love uuuu

[@greyee0005]

Priortising basic pieces is the best piece of advice from this vid! I recently cleared out a lot of old clothes as I didn't like the style anymore, but you can wear a basic piece forever

[@skye387]

Basics is when clothes accessories shine. Adding different accessories makes the same basic feels completely different.

[@TheMartianHasLanded]

I also was afraid to try new styles when I was in high school but after I left, I started experimenting more with my looks (hair, makeup, clothes, shoes, jewelry.) Now people always tell me that I can get away with wearing anything and I tell them it's because I just do it without caring!!! I wear things because I like them and that's it!

[@ivvwq]

omgg thank you so much, sweetheart!! I have just realized, that I can wear whatever I want and it doesn't matter, what other people will think about it. TYSM!!!

[@Saksho-pm1jq]

I love how you focus on what 'I' think my fashion and my own confidence, happiness,satisfaction not on what others think about me. ❤ Your videos always make us be more confident thank you

[@avasushko]

omg i can’t find my style so l am doing everything i can. but this is first video that tells me the most important thing: “if u are happy, it’s fine”. omg thank you so much, you really helped me to make a move and learn new things 💗

[@thana5372]

you're so pretty tho, with or without makeup girl you have a very unique cute charme. Happy to see you're getting more confident with yourself ! from France

[@multifandomstan412]

This video helped a lot I can say I’m in the same situation I’ve never had the confidence to dress the way I actually want to dress now I’m 21 and slowly building up my confidence and trying to find my style

[@starei]

thank you for this, i just really have to say that. for as long as i can remember, i find it difficult to find clothes which look nice on me. im not overweight not am i underweight, im just there. Im in those in between, awkward stages of my body becoming a bit more grown, ive hit puberty when i was really young (9) so ive always had this insecure image of myself. yesterday, i found this video and watched it in hopes of it actually helping me find clothes which make me look nice, but tbh, i was kind of not getting my hopes up because usually these typed of videos dont help me, but this time it did. Today, i experimented a little bit and i found myself being more confident and i really enjoy that feeling. From this video, i learnt to use these tips and they work really well. thank you again 🥹👍💗

[@donalpaccio4233]

I find the korean color theory very useful. It's a great tip to see if you look better in warm or cool tones. If you're more summer, autumn 🍂 or other type of beauty. Also, invest in good quality classic items. I don't have a lot of clothes, but some of my sweaters are from 7 years ago and look still amazing.

[@OurBlueOcean7]

Although it was never too severe, I’ve always been insecure and anxious of what people think of me. That’s why this video (especially your first point about not caring what people think as long as you’re happy and your personal experience of growing self confidence) really resonated with me and almost made me cry😅 thank you because this is exactly the advice i need since I’m trying to improve myself through starting a lifestyle refresh including finding my personal fashion style💙

[@peridotpattern9193]

I love the way you articulate thoughts so clearly and the motivational self-love messages 💛 I find your videos so relatable

[@htmlstephie6470]

i've watched a few of your vids now and i'm absolutely in love with your vibe and style!!! our experiences are super similar and i found myself relating to a lot of what you have gone through, i'm still on this journey of letting the "you're not pretty enough to wear this" mentality go and growing my confidence, but i can say that i'm becoming more comfortable in my own skin every day. thank you for the encouragement and inspiration, it's comforting knowing that we're never alone in these situations

[@Nina-bh5jj]

Something that helped me a lot was learning that just because I like something it doesnt mean i would look/feel good in it. Learning to differentiate between clothes/styles that I liked and would wear vs ones i liked and wouldnt wear was a real moment of clarity for me.

[@morfechristinemaec.7852]

I just found out about your channel 3 days ago and I already love it sooooo much! I enjoy your content and I find comfort in your videos. Thanks Via!

[@qaya_truestepper]

I was having a literal mini-breakdown trying to online shop and my older sister was like ‘just get what you like’ and I’m like ‘but how will I put it together?’ Lmao this helped neutralise my turmoil. Ly Via! 💙

[@joyloebs846]

I just want you to know that your vids are ALL i've been watching every morning before college for this whole week. I love them all!

[@via.ilyouu]

STOP I LOVE UUUU

[@teunissenstefan]

I literally just found your channel about an hour ago and I can't stop watching your videos, they're too relatable. Pretty funny that you uploaded another video just now haha

[@nobodysloth3050]

Stumbled upon your channel and never realized how much I love this style of content! Thank you for all that you do! 🐙

[@altheajulienne3345]

I love the way you talk, it's like I'm talking with my bestie and she is comforting meeee✨🫶🏻

[@rachidarachida04]

I had these sunglasses my sis bought for me I never wore them because I feel awkward and weird when I do but today I did it and wore them anyway. Now I am less scared to wear them again :) that why your advice "do it scared" is really good.

[@via.ilyouu]

yesss!! confidence takes time to build! so so proud of uuuu

[@rachidarachida04]

@@via.ilyouu yes you are totally right!

[@李siri-y5r]

thanks Via ♥ your video made me rethink the relationship between outfits and life and my views on clothes. In the past, I always wanted to try out as many new pieces as I could, which has frustrated me because of an inadquate budget. What's worse was that spending too much on clothes would made me feel ashamed and anxious. I've attached excessive importance to external appearance. it seems to me that clothes I wear is the only way to express myself. "If I don't put emphasis on what I wear, I'm not take my life seriously."- such thoughts used to trap me. Nowadays, I'm still interested in various clothes and have the desire to try them on, but I've already realised that there are other things in my life that are worthy of attention and I am free to choose different ways of showing my attitude to life. Clothing is just an asepect of life but reflects many things, it's a thought-provoking topic. Looking forward to hearing more of your opinions on this. Hope all is well in your life! 😗

[@asty2661]

'do it scared' has been my mantra since your latest journal entry haha🐙 I really like how you dress now because our style are kinda similar so thanks for the video!! will try to do more mix and match to my dresses 🐙

[@ankita_shalu]

one thing i wanna say here is because these words and advices come from the 'you' who has been through it yk.. it feels like you're just talking to your past self.. where some of us are, so you're kinda the evolved self. guiding us to be the better versions of us. your old self would be really proud of you. thank you again. 💖 and your mini grad vlog is sooo cute. 🥺

[@Me_July]

i literally just love your videos so much, and it brings me a huge comfort feeling while im watching. thank you for being so nice and relatable. also you r soooo pretty !!

[@shambhavi1357]

"Clothes are meant to fit you and not the other way round" woahh something so obvious but it is only recently that I have started to think this way. I've started trying to do things scared, probably not done anything much yet but I have started and soon hopefully lot more will be added to the list.❤

[@softerhaze]

ever since starting uni ive gained more confidence to wear what i want and started finding my style, however i still sometimes feel super self conscious and awkward in public even though i was absolutely digging my outfit in the mirror lmaoo

[@via.ilyouu]

this frrr!! i feel so good about it in front of the mirror but when i go out i feel so self conscious😭😭😭still struggling to djsjsjwjjwjw

[@luvofurlifelanasver]

DW Y’ALL R STUNNINGGGGG

[@ilanakochmann389]

Your videos are really good, you post very often and keep the audience engaged, the shots are very aesthetic, the way you talk is very pleasant. Please keep loving what you do and you’ll succeed very much❤️❤️

[@daughternature2171]

she just like me fr😭 i’m so self conscious esp when wearing clothes, i rlly needed this video thank you 🫶

[@shanayekh9345]

I always recommend thrifting when you want to build your style. There are so many different kinds of thrift stores from goodwill to Buffalo Exchange and even high end consignment stores. Really inexpensive way to try new styles and build out your wardrobe. Most of my finds still have the original tags!

[@Midget-lc5zc]

This is the first time im watching any of your video and can i just say your vibes are immaculate ?!? Thoroughly enjoyed this video and its genuinely helpful

[@neonbarnowl]

Perfect timing, havent finished the video yet but recently discovered your channel. Love your sense of humor and your ability to be so vulnerable about your experiences! Relate so much even with me being 25 oof 😅 still learning how to become into my self and developing a sense of style

[@yymmas]

thank you so much for this video !!! bless the algorithm for throwing this vid at me just as i'm trying to figure out my style :') and damn, it really does boil down to confidence + trial and error, both of which i did not have/do during HS and college :< but now, as i'm graduating college, i've been slowly trying to push myself to actually go to the fitting room to try stuff on + take pictures, and i think its going well so far ! still working on the body image thing tho but i have started to buy one basic piece at a time :')

[@stephp3455]

I commented on your video last time because I never related to someone so much. I have not gotten the confidence to wear what I want. Which I’m still trying to get because I’m scared of what people would say and my body. But looking at videos like this it gives me a boost towards the right direction.

[@celeste5401]

Omg Novia is such a cute name. Loved the advice you gave on finding your personal sense of style❤️

[@ahqso]

I’ve discovered you a few days ago, and the past few years have been a bit complicated! but your videos are sooo comforting and it gives me the motivation to move on and to work on myself. I’ll definitely often leave a comment under your videos! love from france btw 🫶🏻

[@us3r003]

Ok i love your way of explaining things,the first minutes of the video were exactly how i felt and dressed. I'm trying to change it,i'm just really conscious of myself outside.. and well,inside my house as well. I always feel like everyone is watching me and judging me,which i know it's probable but not necessarily bad;i'm being perceived but i know people are not as horrible as my mind makes them out to be you know (at least not all of them,not generalizing things is.. a hard concept for my mind to grasp,i need to keep repeating it) Personally i'm insecure about my butt and chest,maybe my belly as well,which ruined my posture. When i entered highschool,i had a perfect posture,which seemed to annoy a girl in the same class and she was hell-bent on making it clear;;"what,you wanna show off how big your chest is?" And other comments similar from her part were the ones that made it hard for me to sit straight as before,i don't even have a big chest,but i wished it was flat thanks to her... i began to make myself look small,ruining my posture,besides everyone sat as if they were sleeping on the desk.. and i didn't want to stand out after that The same girl cornered me and while her friends held me from behind she lifted my shirt and poked my belly,telling me i was kinda fat,giggling and mocking me. She had anorexia,i found years later,so i guess i was her way of relieving stress as well,i dunno,she was horrible to me And lastly i used to use regular shirts until i heard one classmate of mine ( thought we were friends but i guess that wasn't the case,he kinda bullied me as well) saying i was flatter than the child actress in the movie,he was whispering to his friend,making fun of me while we were on the cinema all together. So i started using baggy clothes cause i hated people looking at my body after those kinds of experiences.... I know a comment section is not a place to rant,i apologize,it just kinda hit home since i was already having a bad day and this got recommended to me (i'm better right now though) Ah yeah i guess the rant will overshadow my question but... this is a really cute plushie,where could i get one? 6:30 (this comment was all over the place i'm really sorry,i really liked the video)

[@loserm847]

A couple hours late but CONGRATS ON GRADUATING!!🎓I also wanted to add that I love the way you talk like I feel like we’re having a conversation and this video was very helpful in opening my eye as well as the advice you gave so thank you

[@sumayathatsit4676]

seeing my favourite youtuber back with a new video was just the thing my week needed

[@seramoonirl]

My mom and sister have a great sense of fashion, but I struggle so much with it. Thank you, Ms. Via, for helping understand fashion better and giving me the confidence to choose clothes. (Btw, I love your level of enthusiasm. You're so fun! ^^)

[@jujules450]

I’m glad that you made this video. I’ve always struggled with what clothes to get/wear and especially with matching clothes with eachother. I feel like some of my clothes don’t match, and I end up not wearing those clothes. It’s also because I’m self conscious of what I wear when I go out. I love how you make your videos, they are comforting in a way. :”) ❤️

[@sugarsweetberry]

Needed this because I've been suffering with an ED (in recovery) body and facial dysmorphia as well, and I can't accept sometimes how I look but I know I need to adjust (a tip is to shop at thrift shops more because you get more,save more and there's less pressure on sizing.

[@chafles7481]

I love the chill vibe of your videos! Feels like just hanging out with a close friend 😃keep up the great content! 🧡

[@bokuwatoki5983]

Just found your channel after I searched “personal style” and voila! You have a new subscriber ❤ I’ve been catching up on all of your videos and you’re so relatable and genuine. Yay!

[@phi180]

pls do outfit essentials!

[@asha3681]

I’m actually obsessed with your content!!! Your videos are soo pretty and soo relatable, and your GORG. I ❤uuuu

[@moonbvnny]

this is around the second or third time i saw a video from you and i just feel so comfortable watching you talk about certain topics. i feel like i am having a talk with a big sister and honestly i love that. keep doing what you are doing! thank you for posting videos and sharing your thoughts and experiences! ♡

[@AUGUSTMJ]

you can do anything via. you’re a star

[@bread5947]

just wanted to say thank you for this video because it was very comforting and motivating to watch :-) imma try actually wearing things i like and be more confident, wish me luck!!

[@its.caroline8096]

I just got some new clothes for my birthday, and a few of them are some pretty different things from my regular style. I have always worn pants at school (straight leg jeans that basically look like skinny jeans on me), but I got a black maxi skirt and platform-ish Mary Janes to go with them. I was walking around in the skirt, and I got nervous and felt weird thinking about wearing it in school. Like, I'm going to be sitting in a school desk in this super flowy skirt and then if I have to get up to talk to the teacher, it'll be like super obvious that I'm wearing a skirt? 😭😭 Im really excited about the style, and I'm going to try to build up the confidence to actually wear it to school in the fall ❤

[@lvnnnnn]

I swear crocheting on my little chair, sipping tea and watching these vlogs/videos is how I love to spend my afternoons. Im abt to scramble through my wardrobe as u speak this is advice I needed way earlier

[@vaish_diarys]

This is my first video of yours. I watched 2 of your shorts and liked how honest you were w your vulnerable feelings, and also the funny attitude. I subscribed indecisively and am finally watching the videos. I must say, your words literally have so much impact. You are just a ytber miles away, don't know where, idek who you are, and don't remember your name as I'm writing this comment but that single "do it scared" changed my mindset. I'm not exaggerating. I always felt that i am not defined to just one style. I find street style cool, i look good in my indian traditionals, i love academia but don't find myself that aesthetic yet, i don't really like wearing girlie clothes but wanna try it once to see if actually suits me or not. I hate pink but that colour goes the best w my skin. I wanna experiment w different clothings, diff styles, diff colours, diff aesthetic, diff trends and diff emetions. This just doesn't apply to clothes. I really wanna make daily life vlogs on insta and yt but am too scared to upload those. What if my friends find it cringe, what if they think I'm such a dumbo, what if my 'cold guy' crush doesn't find it interesting??? I won't say that i will start making that rn after watching this video but I will definitely try to be more confident in what i do and less interested in what others see of me. Thank you so much for this video it really REALLY means a lot. And yes i won't be apologizing for my english here. I know it's not the perfect and i definitely have made mistakes in here but who cares?? I tried and will improve w time :))

[@camz629]

i relate a lot bc i used to wear the same type of clothing that you did back in high school. I feel i'm a little bit better, but still don't know my style, just go to comfortable and more big clothes. My problem is that i'm not that super confident rn and clothes are so fucking expensive here where i live, its annoying. I realized lately that i've been using the same pant every time i go out (i work from home, so i don't really go out much) and that kinda made me feel sad, cause i don't have more options. I'm not comfortable going out with dresses cause i'm overweight and don't like showing off my legs, but i love long dresses and use it most of the time when i'm home. I'm looking foward to start being more healthy and having more courage (and money) to wear what i want. Thanks for another great video Via!

[@extremesubtlety]

Really good vid, thank you so much for sharing your insights

[@st.michaelthearchangel7774]

You can never go wrong dressing modestly, ladies and gents.

[@thickyoonglesinwhitedenimi9920]

i love the off the shoulder tops/dresses you're showing in this clips; I think they suit you so well! Just a question on where you bought those loafers from in 10:15? I've really been wanting to wear dresses with loafers too but the ones i find on asos have so many bad reviews that it just seems almost impossible to find a good and affordable one. oh also that bit about high school being toxic and how your environment affects you and all that is SO FREAKING RELATABLE and now in my early 20's I am finally excited about trying different style i like that i see other people wearing. It definitely comes down to thinking you deserve to look good in something that makes you happy and empowered, I for one can atest to some part of it being a mental block and a remedy to it is just allowing yourself to experience that - give yourself permission babes 🥰

[@cyrinebzn5570]

So far this is the best video I've ever watched love you and u're content a lot 💗💗

[@mac8124]

your feminine style is so cute!!! i'm glad you gained the confidence to wear what you want because you look great

[@ikonicbostonterrier]

This was so helpful, I’ll watch this again to note things down❤ I’ve been getting interested in fashion and started to buy ‘things’ but it’s all just individual items that I like and have been struggling to build style… how you explain it made so much sense!! Thank you so much for this and just love the way you are too 🫶