How to Get a Girl to Like You (in 7 Steps)

[@blimeycow]

"How to get a guy to like you (in 5 steps)" coming next week! :)

[@avathepanda3394]

I'm excited!

[@elshine3464]

Oh cool, we get less things to do🤣

[@mynamesnotimportant6941]

Less things, I love that 🤣🤣

[@karls7uh641]

YESSSSS WOO I hope big head kid makes an appearance

[@bandee903]

Oh thank goodness !!

[@conspirasister5945]

As a girl, I went into this thinking, “alright, let’s see how right and/or wrong he is,” and expecting some weird, hyper-specific advice. But instead, the advice boiled down to “Be a healthy, decent person” and is applicable to anyone regardless of sex or situation. Great work, Blimey Cow, and can’t wait for the next video!

[@madeleinecarson7262]

My Grandpa used to say “do you have bad habits?......good! You have the capacity for habits, that means you can make good ones”

[@rachelw3533]

Love that!

[@pance_9912]

Dang, that's actually pretty good.

[@Darktacomic]

Dang

[@jonathanprice4046]

Really appreciating the fact that this channel is addressing porn! I remember years when all guys assumed that they were the only one dealing with it, and I've had to talk a lot of boys through the struggle and let them know it was no secret and should be dealt with.

[@piercejenkins13]

Yeah, I wish the church, and men, in general, weren't so cavalier and awkward about porn. My parents were honest with me even in the midst of me learning at a VERY young age and I honestly think that was huge of them. I think there are too many parents that are so obsessed about making sure their kids stay pure and over-shelter them from sin when that honestly is a bad thing (to some extent). You can't shield your kids from something so monumental about sin. It's so much better that a parent tells their child about sex than the kid hearing it from their best friend's older brother like I did. I think just that would help the young generations.

[@RosheenQuynh]

@@piercejenkins13 Agree

[@AmericanIdiotPolitics]

@@piercejenkins13 wouldve helped if my parents would have properly taught me sex ed when I was 12 instead of me going on the internet and getting a porn problem. For goodness sakes, teach your kids about sex early please so they dont find out in ways they shouldnt

[@beccag2758]

I agree with all of these, and I especially love the “pursue a hobby/interest” one. Not only because it’s just good healthy advice for everyone, but also because I (and a few other girls I’ve surveyed) just find it really cute/attractive when a guy is really passionate about something that maybe isn’t the most normal and could talk about it for hours.

[@juliarunn5009]

As a girl, I agree. Nothing beats the feeling of watching someone get really excited about something they’re passionate about. Bonus points if you’re both passionate about similar things.

[@taytaythehufflepuff8532]

Just made a comment about this. I LOVE seeing people get excited and put their heart and soul into a project.

[@reaganharder1480]

See the thing is, outside of music and life stories, what I get excited about is pretty nerdy stuff that none of my friends understand. I'll be going off excitedly about how my new car has an electronic throttle and how I could almost certainly use an Arduino to hack the CAN-Bus and create my own cruise control, and everyone else in the room is just like "uh huh, cruise control, I know that word". Though also the time I dated at bible college, that girl quite enjoyed watching me play guitar on the school's worship band, and even managed to convince her rather conservative best friend that an electric guitarist was worth paying attention to.

[@briankinney1871]

I guess that bodes well for me!

[@grace2u626]

As a guy, I would say this goes the other way too. It's very attractive when a woman is super passionate about something, and let's it show.

[@emlaur3000]

This is so true. I recently went on a few dates with a guy through a dating app. He was a good guy. Very gentlemanly. Goes to church, bought a condo, said all the right things and I think he meant them. Literally read my favorite book between date 1 and 2. But when I asked him what he was passionate about, he could only say he works and plays video games. And he wasn’t very passionate about either. Through more conversation it was evident he had no hobbies or interests he was actively pursuing. It just ended up not sitting well with me. I’m someone super nerdy with niche interests that I invest in and am very passionate about. We don’t have to have the same interests, but you gotta give me something lol

[@TheKathrynpowell]

YEP! This happened to me too! A very caring guy, but it was all external. He didn't take care of his own routines and habits and passions, and after a while it was just boring to be around him and we had nothing to talk about. Very kind and thoughtful guy, but true devotion takes a lifestyle of holistic dedication to self and others, not just good date ettiquette or fitting into a certain mold of "success," imo

[@zauberholz8357]

This is exactly what happened with me and my ex boyfriend… I got into the relationship too quickly, I didn’t realise that he had no hobbies - he literally studied a subject he hated, played video games, and went to the gym (he didn’t even enjoy that). He slept poorly and ate junk food. He didn’t get why I was into my hobbies either. So conversation was stilted and I didn’t know what to talk about anymore :/ He was mostly kind and respectful and clearly smitten with me, and serious - but I want someone I can really talk to, with interests, who looks after themselves.

[@andyscoles46]

Josh: the thing that I think can help improve relationships is to talk about things we agree and disagree about. Don’t avoid conflict! Work it out together and perhaps agree to disagree (if appropriate) without letting disagreements cause division.

[@rayofhopeee]

I know in the movies they want to think “you are my everything” is romantic and the ideal, but if you want a relationship to succeed, you need to be at the point in your life where you are happy being single, you don’t need someone else to complete you, and you have your own interests and personality (not just what you think your significant other will be attracted to). You have to be truly okay with and willing to lose that other person if it is what is best for both of you. This is my advice for anyone who wants to be in a relationship: stop looking for a relationship. It will happen naturally. Trust me, I’ve tried it both ways and I’ve heard the same thing from every other happy and healthy couple that I know. My credentials: started dating my husband in 2016, married in 2020 :) Best of luck to you!

[@reepicheepsfriend]

I think there is a balance to be maintained here. I can understand the sentiment, some people are just too desperate and hanging all their hopes of becoming happier or improving as a person on the possibility of having a relationship. But, on the other hand, I think you can rely too much on things just “happening naturally.” Like Jordan said, you need to take initiative. If being in a relationship is one of your goals, then you should do something to achieve it. There are a lot of people sitting around single not doing anything. Trust me, I was one for ten years, and shockingly, no relationship “happened naturally”. Saying things like that can mislead people and set them up to be disappointed.

[@rayofhopeee]

@@reepicheepsfriend good point! I totally agree. I was mostly trying to get at the fact that you shouldn’t be looking for a relationship to complete you because you’re never going to find that. And not to force things or change who you are and what you like just to be with someone. But I totally agree, it does take some effort! If you are interested in someone, tell them or ask them out! But also always be prepared for rejection. Definitely is a balancing act! Thanks for pointing that out :)

[@sackettfamily4685]

@@reepicheepsfriend I kinda went on the line with that, and kept my foot in the door. I was on and looking in online dating, while not expecting to find anyone to even consider. And I was focusing more on trying to prepare myself for moving out and being independent. But I ended up finding my husband and marrying him 1st. I went to our first date with absolutely no expectations at all! But we ended up being perfect for each other....in that our baggage and healing needs fit together.

[@noahhernando7167]

Thought this was going to be one of the silly videos, but glad that it was an actual helpful video. Love this type of content from you all.

[@jrios109]

Haha! Same here! Same here! :)

[@FairyTalesAgain_]

This is really awesome advice!! I’m a girl, and for a while I became too focused on a guy, and that damaged my life and our relationship. So I took your advice from a previous video about becoming the kind of person I want to date. I began eating better and exercising. I’m working on getting away from screens. I’ve been devoting time to my passions. I’ve been looking away when girls in movies and ads aren’t dressed properly - just because I’m “allowed” to look because I’m a girl doesn’t mean I should. I did other things too, and now my life is better and so is my relationship with this guy. This advice is definitely appropriate for girls as well as guys!!!

[@FairyTalesAgain_]

That being said... you are going to do how to get a guy to like you, right??? 😁 Even if this is good advice for girls, it would still be fun to see the other video!

[@Susannah.N]

This is awesome!!

[@jaguarsgotwings5148]

AMEN!!!:)

[@BagelGabe]

Big Head Kid quickly turning into Big Head MAN with that beard

[@MasterEth]

hey gabe lol

[@MetroAnimates]

Not wrong.

[@captainminnow]

1- Eat Better/ Work Out 2- Curb Phone Addiction 3- Do Things You Love 4- Stop Using Porn (Now) 5- Listen to Her 6- Encourage Her to do the Things She Loves 7- Take Some Initiative

[@kelseyregank-drawproductio9510]

One of the biggies I’ve found (that has made me a better friend, idk yet about romantic partner) is to work on your stuff via mentorship and therapy. No gal who’s worth her stuff is going to feel judgmental about a guy who sees a therapist to work through family-of-origin things, or current struggles. And it’s super awesome and reassuring knowing the person is invested in their life and faith enough to have actively found a mentor/director. And by having mentors and a counselor/therapist it allows your friends to be your friends.

[@TB3hnz]

That sounds very valuable! Noted!

[@FluentWithHayley]

Honestly, I'd be more attracted to any guy if I found out he was in therapy. (Not saying it would work out, but my respect for the guy would go up significantly!)

[@thelonelydragon8768]

I think this can apply to a lot of females, too. You should try to be the kind of person you'd be attracted to. And even if you do get rejected in the end, hey, it isn't the end of the world, and your life is probably in a much better place anyhow

[@tashaforbes6274]

"Be the kind of person the person you're looking for is looking for." Agree with your comment 100%

[@reganbarnes6424]

I’d like to say that the actual asking her out is important. When I was single, there were a few guys who acted interested, but they would never put it out there. I’m totally worth it. I want the ask. Now married for 8 years to a man who wasn’t afraid to go first.

[@lizajane2971]

Yes! When I was single I hated the guys who tentatively flirted or seemed overly friendly I'm guessing to see if I'd make a move on them, but wouldn't actually say in as many words they were interested. My husband did a great job of pursuing me without seeming desperate or pushy. I'm so glad I held out. But honestly I'd rather have a guy just express interest and ask me out even if I had to turn him down than to hint around and make me wonder.

[@Jesus_Nursing_Rachel]

When the notification for this video came up on my phone, I thought it said "How To Get A Girl To Like You (in 7 seconds)" 😂😂😂 Edit: step 4 is like so true yet pushing the "new level of Christian edginess" that was given to us in the last episode of Messyages!!!

[@blimeycow]

more like "in 7 years" haha

[@manguy01]

#1 relationship killer: how you fight. There are going to be fights in a relationship. And if either person doesn't fight fair, then it's a recipe for heartache and despair. It doesn't matter how good the good times are. The bad times will kill the relationship eventually

[@ceciliahorner2664]

100% agree. It should be both of you against the problem, not against each other.

[@acrylicgodoy]

I found that being unapologetic about following your conscience is the healthiest step I have taken on my journey. People have called me naive and a prude in the past for not being ok with some things that slip by in day to day life. I tried to go along with it, but ended up hating myself. These tips were great life advice guys!

[@tampatime3515]

Jordan: Stop staring at your phone! Everyone watching the video:👁👄👁

[@jeanettejenmeredithdohmen3386]

Working on having a good attitude and patience. This is huge in any relationship. 😊

[@Jameson_Ussery]

This should be called "How to be a better you" Great life advice Jordan.

[@btdtpro]

Yes, but my only motivation to better myself is to get a girl, as you'll see once she marries me and I stop following all this advice muhahaha, my plan is fool proof!

[@MasterEth]

When i got this notification, I thought I was in 2011

[@victoriafraiser5869]

PSA: Girls, if you're struggling against pornography, you're not alone! Follow the same advice given to the guys: find a trustworthy, godly adult to help you overcome it. Addiction to pornography is detrimental to your self-esteem, but know that you can beat it. Just because guys might struggle with pornography more often doesn't mean that girls don't have the same struggles.

[@cp-cookies840]

I appreciate you addressing this. Its not just a guy problem. Girls struggle too. And it is a struggle. Give yourself grace and commit to changing. Its damaging to yourself and your relationships. But you arent. less. valuable. because of it.

[@Choco_Taco]

Initiative is my "word of the year", not just for relationship stuff, but just life in general

[@alexzitro5866]

Every single one of those points is spot on, work on yourself first before trying to force a relationship out of someone and expect them to “fix” you. That’s not their job. They will see the effort and good you put into yourself and will help you elevate yourself and be better as a person and be better in the relationship. But they won’t “fix” you

[@hannahvelier]

3 things I’d add to the list (from my short 9 months of marriage lol) Be quick to apologize when you are wrong Be patient with people Practice selflessness everyday. Very attractive and makes life a whole lot better.

[@allisonlucas018]

I think the best thing to do to succeed in a relationship is to ensure that I'm putting God first. If I'm not right with God, I'm not in the right place in a relationship.

[@Jesus_Nursing_Rachel]

Amen!!!

[@isaiahmumaw]

Absolutely. As you grow closer to God, you grow closer to each other.

[@Jesus_Nursing_Rachel]

@@isaiahmumaw I see it as a triangle. God is at the top peak, and we are the other two peaks. To get closer to each other, we must get closer to Him :)

[@noahhernando7167]

Philippians 2, prefer others. All relationships work best when you think “How can I be a blessing?” and not “What can I get out of this person?”

[@ferdinandthefamous]

Personally as a girl, I see Guys at my youth group who are the " heartthrobs" and they are strong Godly men who have their life together and then there are the "simps" who like any girl and are so desperate and they don't take care of themselves. Thank you for this video I would like to know what I should be doing too!

[@bandee903]

Ya I'm not really an expert at romantic relationships, but I think the one thing I could do to make myself more successful in a relationship would be to express my genuine interest in the other person and show that I care about them---knowing that you are loved is one of the best feelings---if not the best feeling in the entire world.

[@mecheyne]

This is pretty accurate. I'd add for the Christian dudes, take your faith seriously. With all the time you've now gained by following Jordan's advice, you can invest a decent chunk into daily reading of the Bible and getting seriously involved in a local church. Be held accountable by older men. It's SUPER attractive and will set you up well for life as a single man, as a hubby, as a dad... Whatever you end up doing

[@spottyfawn]

I wanted to add what I learned the hard way... just because you’re both good Christian people, it doesn’t mean you’re automatically a good match. You still have personalities! Don’t rush a relationship because there’s nothing WRONG with it... take your time in a relationship because of how RIGHT it feels!

[@abbyk8mc]

As a single girl I can confirm that this advice is worthwhile.

[@Asharra12]

Really good video with really solid advice. Definitely wouldn't have become interested in my husband without him doing the above before we started dating. Got turned off by a number of guys when I realised that the porn thing was an issue. I'm not going to be with a man who thinks supporting sec trafficking is okay!

[@jesselehman8]

100% agree with all these. Currently working on... most of them. And my confidence alone is skyrocketing!

[@louisaneudorf1661]

"Let the wooing begin" 😂 I can totally see an epic t-shirt with that phrase.

[@Abby_Colleen]

2:00 …oh well let’s put my phone up *turns off* …. Jordan? Josh? I can’t hear you now

[@JoshuaMorgan]

As someone who's in a long distance relationship at the moment, intentionality is the name of our game. We can't afford to just sit around and hope things work out, we have to work at it. It's not easy, but it's very rewarding.

[@ninajackson8889]

As a girl I appreciate it when a guy tries hard to make me laugh. Something I do to get a guy to like me is to smile. Smile both makes me happier and makes me more attractive looking. Plus if he already likes me then he loves to see me smile and if he doesn't then he won't have any negative thoughts about me smiling. So there are literally zero downsides

[@JusticeBackstrom]

No matter what you do, you're still dealing with another human being, with agency. You have to be able to be mature about thet.

[@taytaythehufflepuff8532]

As a girl-even just as a human being-, I shall say… I love seeing people get excited about a hobby. Me and my best friend obsessing over fictional characters? Yes please. My youngest sister showing off her new Minecraft build or drawing? I love it! My dad going on and on about his fish tank…? (Okay, that SOMETIMES goes over my head, and I no longer care, but it is COOL that he loves his fish and puts so much effort into this hobby!) Anyway- Just gotta say that if anyone wants to win ME PERSONALLY over, you have to have some passion, and a love for Jesus (oh and also, yeah, a guy… let’s be clear about that too). That’s not to much to ask, right? Just an interest you can ramble to be about, and an ability to go deeper than the Sunday school lesson. (And I WOULDN’T turn down a guy that could sing tooooooo- but I understand that’s going a bit ambitious.) That’s all I have to say. But I’m also a high schooler, who’s not allowed to date yet. But if I COULD, that’s what I’d be looking for. (P.S. I love video games… though I don’t play that many different games… so if a guy likes a game, that they can tell me all about… that’s perfect! Bonus points if he writes fanfictions/creates fanart about it!)

[@CaptainJess1994]

Wow, this channel has been gettin' more adult lately. I like it. Tell it like it is.

[@jmfriesen]

I think the best thing anyone can do is ask themselves, "Would I marry/date/hang out with me or someone like me?" If you can honestly answer yes, yay! If not, work on being the person you want to spend more time with.

[@MeMyselfAndKgore]

Here's what I did to make most women throw themselves at me. 1. Be very intentional and methodical about basically everything including simple things 2. Work out and take protein 3. Watch blimey cow, charisma on command, and athlean-x 4. Be humble, understand that even after learning and improving yourself that you still have infinitely more to learn 5. Learn the basics of style and wear nice fitting clothes 6. Accept not everyone will like you, not only that but a lot of girls just aren't interested (this should probably have been #1) A lot of guys will hate you if you do this too. It maybe sounds too simple to be true but it's very difficult especially at first. Also I'm in a 5 year relationship and plan on proposing so this isn't just for thrills or whatever

[@FluentWithHayley]

4 & 5 though... can confirm

[@thefaceofbobby509]

I haven’t been to this channel is a little while. I’m so happy I came back for another video. The energy is unreal

[@jonashartman3059]

Hey, Josh. I would say one big one for me is to get myself established in something. Maybe it’s flat out owning a home, or having a steady job, but I don’t feel that it’s good to try and pursue your girl until you yourself are in a solid place. Kinda ties into the “finding a hobby”.

[@GinaA]

Yup!

[@meganflorance695]

Good question, Josh! 🙌 The biggest way I can grow is getting purposeful and responsible about my life 😁

[@OneWay4D73]

Yes to all of these! I credit your advice from similar videos for helping get into my first relationship. Asking her why she does what she does, and not just what she does, was a big one.

[@Ithenna]

Lol, this just sounds like general advice on how to be a likable human being of any kind 😆 In answer to your question, Josh, COMMUNICATION. This is my number one rule. If you can't civilly talk about the things you struggle with, or about the things that bother you that the other person does, or about hot topics in religion and politics, about finances, life goals, etc., and if not enough time is spent listening, understanding and cooperating with the other person's thoughts and feelings, then a close relationship is basically impossible. I have often seen married couples driven apart or living with each other in a very stand-offish or argumentative way just because they don't take the time to talk about things and listen to each other. Conversely, my husband and I talk about EVERYTHING, even if we sit and fumble with words for a bit over a difficult subject, and it definitely prevents arguments from surfacing as well as a lot of unnecessary tension. The second major thing is willingness to improve and change your life. You can talk about your thoughts and feelings all you want, but if there's no effort to improve, then your words are meaningless. And if you are Christian, then above all, God is first. He will be your best guide in discerning your relationship, in working to improve your life or work on your struggles, and He will give you the grace to get through the rough times you experience together.

[@hannahscarlettsmith7651]

I love how the only chips Jordan has hanging around have avocado oil in them.

[@lancedocken121]

He is so right. All these guys were staring at their phones, and only one was looking around, and I though it was so cute!

[@JDawg-4]

Practice healthy communication - if you don’t have a significant other, you can practice communicating/conflict resolution with siblings, friends, parents, literally any other person. Get a book and start putting those skills in place now so it’s second nature when you find “the one.”

[@Chris-qc2kd]

Guys, speaking from personal experience here: if a girl rejects you, just accept it and move on. Its a lot healthier for friendships and not moving on could potentially destroy what friendship you had with her.

[@lauraparrillo5365]

This video is awesome!! I want more like this! Reminds me of a time when I liked a guy in high school. At that point I was sick of having crushes that went no where and wasted all my energy. The guy was into art (and I was too by extension, or at least in listening to him talk about art), and so I decided, I’d use the energy I had to try and learn how to draw! That way, if it worked out, great, maybe it’d impress him and give us something in common. But if not, at least I gained a new skill and spent time focusing on my own growth. In the end, it turned out he and I weren’t a match, and because I took time to figure that out, we never dated, but ended up still being good friends to this day! And I’m now happily engaged to someone who is perfect for me that I met in college. But I still have a huge passion for art that I never would’ve discovered if it weren’t for that experience, and draw all the time, thanks to that one kid from high school and that I focused on some positive way to show interest that helped me grow as a person. Some things just take time too! Like with health, or art, or whatever. It’s all in the practice. I was awful, worse than a kindergartner in some ways, at drawing, when I started at 17. It’s been 5 years now, and while I still have lots of room to grow, my illustrations are something I’m proud to share! So always keep at your hobbies and passions too. The more you put into yourself, the more you’ll have to give in life

[@mintyhippo8125]

!!! You forgot one: basic hygiene. Wash your hair and your butt, brush your teeth, and wear deodorant. Also, wash your hands. It’s a plus if you can wash your hands in front of her.

[@kidsonblackops]

Ive been doing my best to be more gracious to the people around me. My life is spiraling out of control in some ways but at least I can be a good friend.

[@Dinoguy7719]

Didn't think I needed this at 26. But I do.

[@TheBlacksuitspider]

My wife asked why would we watch this? Then you started going through the list and she agrees with everything. All this applies to husbands as well.

[@TheBlacksuitspider]

@@BriarRoseA I can vouch for this. She speaks the truth.

[@andyscoles46]

Number 4, ladies and gentlemen! Thanks Blimey Cow for talking about that one!

[@biblesonabudget213]

One thing I can do is stick with what I have started (specifically a hobby). I recently started a Bible review channel and already have five videos up. My plan is to post a review every Friday and try to film a review on a Sunday. Being consistent in key in any relationship and I hope that being consistent in this will help me be consistent elsewhere. All that and going the counseling helps a whole lot. I am no help to myself or anyone else if I don’t know how to control my emotions and responses to situations that trigger them.

[@mintyhippo8125]

Yes, being consistent, thoughtful, and caring about the person you’re with and the other things in your life are very good. But, make sure to not get too consumed in one thing since it could end, and then where would you be?/don’t take on more than you can handle

[@biblesonabudget213]

@@mintyhippo8125 A👏men👏

[@shawnboahene5231]

@@mintyhippo8125 amen. Moderation is key in any hobby

[@treeofblue4923]

Aye aye captain Jordan I'll do it! I'll be back in 6 months to report the results.

[@treeofblue4923]

Well Jordan I walked away with my head held high. Wasn't perfect but I can genuinely say she wasn't the right one for me, we had very few overlapping interests, different communication style and completely different goals. But after all that when interest was lost I still had respect for myself and what I managed to achieve and instead of bettering myself for a girl to love me. I do it for myself so that I can love me.

[@isabelm5438]

My priest was talking once about how, we have this I idea that, when we get married we’ll be a good husband/wife, and when we have a baby we’ll be a good father/mother and how, that’s not how it works. You don’t just magically become someone else when you get married or pregnant, and who you want to be then is who you need to be now, and that the choices you make that shape you now are going to affect who you are as a spouse. I think about this all the time now 😅 Like, there’s this mentality that things will fall into place and “I’ll be better in the future” and “things will be easier” and “I’ll be more equipped to get healthy and do the right things” etc. I need to work on this.

[@AchanCham_]

Thanks Blimey Cow! This video reminded me a lot of your older videos. Thank you for the awesome entertainment and advice.

[@jedimario8860]

These are actually some good tips. First, focus on being happy with yourself before you focus on a relationship with someone else! That covers your first 4 tips, just focusing on self improvement and developing healthy habits. Then the other 3 just amount to finding someone you enjoy being around and being a genuine friend, and being honest about your feelings. No fancy pickup lines, no faking confidence, just good, healthy advice that could really apply to anyone. God bless.

[@isaiahmumaw]

I’d say it’s less about being happy with ourselves and more about striving to be more like Jesus. Being happy with ourselves focuses too much on emotion, which can bring trouble down the road. Fulfillment and happiness can still occur, but they should not be the end goal, just a side effect.

[@hannahbell1612]

As a girl, I just wanted to see how accurate it was! Hehe Main things for me are a guy being more independent from his parents (not in a rebellious way), and just a kind and friendly personality.

[@jr52990]

I would add: Be Confident Don't be timid or indecisive in asking her out, just ask her not expecting any outcome. If she says no, she says no. If she says yes, she says yes. And to answer the end question: Consistency and switching up who messages first. A one way street in both regards sucks.

[@canna5623]

Thank you for this! I feel like so many people need to hear it!

[@abigail9206]

Great video, definitely agree that this is great advice, especially as a girl. Working on these things will definitely improve your chances a great deal. Josh: Some thoughts I’ve come to about relationships: -Be in a place where you are so healthy that you don’t need a relationship or desperately want one. Learn about yourself, deepen your understanding and love for God, work on improving and healing yourself where you can. This goes along with the first four steps in the video. -Know what your goals are in the relationship, make sure that your goals are healthy, and realistic and double check that you are in a good place to be able to start dating. Christians are more in tune with this usually, but it’s something that is easily overlooked. Be intentional. - Learn about healthy ways to communicate and be respectful, be able to disagree and discuss issues, be honest and straightforward but gentle and sensitive to the other person’s feelings. Treat then with the kindness you would want to be treated with, and make an effort to put them ahead of yourself like Jesus would have.

[@unknown-ks3zv]

As a girl, I approve this message

[@jimmyking8074]

Although I've never really dated anyone before, I would say it's honest communication and respect that'll probably get me far. Loved the video guys, taking it to heart :)

[@reaganharder1480]

Honest communication isn't so much how you get a girl as it is how you keep her. Respect is critical at all stages.

[@jimmyking8074]

@@reaganharder1480 yeah, but was trying to answer Josh's question at the end haha

[@abbywilliams7063]

Women are attracted to confident men who take care of themselves and are emotionally available. Excellent advice Blimey Cow! And to answer Josh's question at the end... Honestly, I'd probably be more attractive if I got out of my house more lol! When I go out, I dress nice, I try to be present in the moment, I'm friendly with people... So not really sure what I could be doing wrong??? So I'm choosing to just not overthink it and get stressed. I've been told that guys are too intimidated by me, but there's not much I can do about that... So I guess I'm just waiting for a guy who can take the initiative.

[@brileycrisafi4391]

Very proud Unbound student here

[@BeUnbound]

Ayyy Let's gooo Briley!

[@annesharp3642]

I think to be more successful in a relationship I need to one, hold higher standards for the guys I'm dating but two, I need to hold myself to a higher standard. I think I either compromise on the necessary traits I need in a partner because I myself cannot fulfill them. I do need a man who will fulfill my needs (to a healthy extent) but I also need to learn how I can fulfill their needs.

[@laneyyyyyyyyy]

as a teen girl my best tip for guys is: find out who the girl’s favorite fictional characters are. chances are she is mourning the fact that she can’t find anyone as kind/respectful/with a similar personality as/etc her favorite fictional dude.

[@lauranelken1848]

That's good advice but all of my favorite fictional characters are dead.

[@stephentroyer3831]

"curb your phone habit." But I'm watching you on my phone

[@klairajones6042]

1.Confidence is EVERYTHING. Now, stop for a moment and think about the people you’ve liked in the past. How many of them were those who sat in a corner, wore black/dark hoodies over their face and baggy shorts, stared at the floor all day long and over-analyzed every word they said if they even said anything at all? Most likely, very few if any were like that. That’s because both girls and guys like guys and girls who are confident. But how can you be confident around someone you like?! If you say something wrong, you could totally ruin your chances with this guy/girl! Except, it doesn’t work that way. Assuming this is a kind and understanding person, they don’t even remember the one tiny mistake you made 2 weeks ago which you’ve totally blown way out of proportion. I speak from experience guys. Trust me, he/she doesn’t even remember it by now or at least isn’t gonna dislike you for it. (If you want to know the story behind this, Lmk.) 2.BE YOURSELF- God made you exactly how he wants you to be and you are fearfully and wonderfully made. If a girl/guy doesn’t like you for who you are, it’s their loss. You did the best you could and if they don’t like you, they just aren’t who God has for you. I know from experience that it is extremely difficult to try to be yourself about someone you like but do this, and it will change your life. When you are with your group of friends and your crush happens to be there, pretend he/she isn’t even there. Now I don’t mean for you to ignore them by any means but if you are always secretly stressing out about what he/she is gonna think of you, you aren’t going to be able to enjoy the few precious moments you have with them.(or with your friends for that matter.) Just don’t worry about what he is going to think of you, if he likes you, you want him to like you for you, not for who you’re not. But if you do that, the true you will shine through and the right guy will love you for it.! You’ll thank me later. 3.SHOW him/her you care. Ok, so you know you care about this guy/girl but do they know that? Ask them about their week, give them a shoulder to cry on, if you are a guy, bring her flowers, just anything to show him/her you care about their well being. Let them know you are there for them.(and not just because you like them, because you genuinely care) Also, if you ask him/her if she like you/will go out with you and they say no, don’t stop being kind to them. First of all, it shows you didn’t really care about him/her, you just wanted their attention and second of all, girls can change their minds and guys can too! If they see you were just trying to get your way, they aren’t going to change their mind easily. And even if they do, it’s gonna take a lot of work to earn back their respect and trust they had for you. 4. Listen to Jordan and Josh’s advice. (Aka: Blimey Cow) Do this, and the RIGHT person will love you! 💕

[@Zaph501]

Jordan cutting me deep with the Elden Ring diss 😫

[@vashtiwalters99]

I think I can be more confident in what I think is right for me, and not try to act like I agree with everything a guy I like might do and say

[@jaguarsgotwings5148]

Josh; My step that I need to take to be in a better position to date is being more faithful in my walk with God.

[@sayimonetati4038]

Answering the question at the end of the video, I think I should make myself more available and less scared of failure and overcome mistrust to better succeed in a relationship.

[@DogmaGirlAD]

Married with three kids here, one of the guys that I ended up rejecting ask me why. I wanted to be nice but at the same moment because he seemed to really want to know and he was asking, I gave it to him straight. This wasn't the only reason but one of the biggest reasons was that I served at our church in several different capacities and was one of those girls who tended to have a somewhat busy schedule because I was actually doing things - cuz this was and still is really important to me. However, he was a guy who had a whole lot more availability in his schedule in part because he did almost nothing to serve the church or the community etc. Frankly, he seemed kind of lazy. Guess how I got to know my now husband? We were working on different areas of Church set-up. And I needed help with some heavy stuff, so I would try to find a random guy to help me from the other area. He ended up frequently going out of his way to volunteer before I had a chance to ask anyone... Yeah, if you have just asked without my seeing that he was actually ready to be helpful in community (doesn't even have to be directly helping me), I probably wouldn't have given him the time of day.

[@hargy13]

I can personally pursue strengthening my relationship with God. It never fails that my marriage gets better when I spend more time reading the Bible and seeking God.

[@WestonNey]

I don’t normally get so depressed watching a Blimey Cow episode lol

[@burburkang]

Self-improvement works! Become a high-value man if you want to be with a high-value woman.

[@HandmaidenofGod]

To succeed in a relationship I going to be me. Authenticity matters.

[@legomeaker101potato]

I would say: to succeed personally i have to not be afraid of growth or stepping outside my comfort zone.

[@ajmarkle96]

Best thing I can say about this video in terms of best advice (Like the advice btw) I would say just being there for the lady even in her worst time. That how I have my girl.

[@thebliboshow4279]

This was awesome thank you,guys

[@Roescoe]

The switchero on "the talk" was hilarious.

[@FluentWithHayley]

The moment you yelled "FOR ONCE" broke me hahahaha

[@hoid123]

ngl i thought it said posted 11 years ago not minutes

[@Drea538]

1:09 Yeah but he's got the Boulder Canyon avocado oil chips with no PUFAs. 🤣

[@andrewsarchus5853]

This is great advice to give! Creating good habits and breaking bad habits not only is attractive it is good for you physically and spiritually. I would never have gotten my amazing girlfriend if I hadn't stopped watching porn. Research all the problems it causes not only for you personally but also as a society. Take initiative in your life, conviction and integrity are important but rare quality's in men that women look for. Also all 7 points are great advice to do even after you began a relationship.

[@Miriam-ob8tz]

I feel like this video should be named "How to live better" for everyone!

[@sharonwilson9077]

I’m 14 and do not intend to date until at least 18 (honestly before then what is even the point?) but to answer Josh’s question, my best advice for dating a girl (take this seriously I’m a girl myself) is to give them some space, if they don’t respond to your text immediately, they don’t hate you, they are just busy or too tired to talk, if they don’t want to call or hang out sometime, same thing, if they want to sit with their friends instead of you sometime let them. When you are constantly trying to talk to them and sit with them and hang out with them all the time you come off as creepy and obsessed not romantic. Let them have a life of their own and they will want you to be in it. And also, when you talk to them, find something that you both love, if all you do is talk about sports or cars or something than you seem 2 dimensional and boring.

[@friendlyneighborhoodathies5229]

Omg they still make videos. Yay 😁

[@joyofmomentsr144]

This is the real deal. Things got serious!!!

[@StarzytheHybrid]

Remember that these will not guatentee you a specific person, respect her if she says no. There was a nice guy who followed most of these but I am just not really interested in a relationship, and never felt an attraction for him. He called me his best friend and didnt have other close friends, so he was kind of fixated. It made me feel a lot of pressure after he tried to get me to go out with him not once, but twice, and both times were after telling him I was not interested in a relationship with anyone. I had to end our friendship after that because I have anxiety and I didnt feel "safe". Not that I beleive he would physically ever raise a hand against me, but I was not not feeling like I could trust him anymore. I hated feeling like a romantic object rather than a chill friend... So, if she says no, please just accept it as a final answer. If she changes her mind she will approach you, in the meantime do NOT hold onto that hope and do not consider her an option anymore, please. You will be able to find someone else if you're looking. Best wishes, bros. :) God bless!

[@IgnacioVS]

I love point number 4 and the delivery xD Perfect xD

[@andreasimon6370]

I think that having in general a longer friends/talking phase and shorter dating phase and even shorter engagement seems to work well for ppl

[@andreasimon6370]

Because, partially, temptation gets harder to deal with as the relationship gets more serious

[@sackettfamily4685]

Figure out the important people to her, that need to like or at least tolerate you! Best friends, siblings or parents. My husband memorized 5(+?) Names and personalities of my close siblings. Because I had stressed their importance to me, and I was watching interactions between them.