HOW TO GET YOUR SPOUSE TO PLAY DND WITH YOU!!

[@chrishunn3872]

I'm so jelly and I hope you 2 have great campaigns together! I could only get my wife to start watching Anime so far...slowly but surely, I will get her to play TTRPG one day!

[@fullarmorgaming]

All in all we were together for 7 years before she finally gave it a try

[@jonathanstafford9053]

This was a great video and great subject. I'm so happy to see that you're both enjoying TTRPGs and other nerdy things. I'm also happy to have been recommended your channel as I see that your channel is pretty new.

[@fullarmorgaming]

Thank you!! I appreciate the kind words

[@samburchard9921]

This is very real for me. Thanks for the great video. So my wife is not nerdy, so I know this is up hill battle. I got her to play one time. I pre-made the characters and just did a short 3 act adventure. I gave her a rogue so it would be easy. I was not very rules heavy. I had some of my kids playing (adult/teen kids), so things went a little wild. She laughed and appeared to have fun. Her rogue danced to distract the bandits, etc. Afterwards she said that she did not understand the rules, it felt like I was making it all up as I went along and she would not want to play again. We do play a lot of board games and card games together. I am the one that reads the rules and she usually picks them up as we go along. I know that sitting down and trying to teach her the rules would go no-where. She is very hands on. But she also likes structure and rules and winning. (Not that she always wins, but she does like to win.) Any ideas for how to get her into D&D would be appreciated.

[@fullarmorgaming]

Keep it up!! You can totally get there. She gave it a shot which is always a huge win

[@armartin0003]

The social side of D&D is something that doesn't get covered much. Navigating how to get your SO involved was a first for me and something I had to learn how to do on my own. What really trips up spouses/girlfriends and gets them away from the game (even if they've already joined you) is when flirting between characters starts coming into play. I found I had to make a hard rule that unless you're partners in real life your characters can't flirt in game. Just don't do it. NPCs are fine, but if you're not a professional actor like Matt & co, then it can cause hard feelings. In fact, I believe that one of the guys left the game because his flirting with Marisha's character became too awkward and he started catching feels for real. So even pros have a hard time with that and there's not many guidelines about emotional role play out there that leads to trouble. People lose interest in the game that otherwise would have fun. Having female voices in the game is vital. Though, it can be a bit awkward to play a female character as a man when there's an actual female in the group (unless she's playing a guy, then it's gravy). My friend's wife quit the game after her ranger's pet panther kept getting approached by another character and he kept saying, "Let me pet your pussy cat." It was super gross, and we eventually kicked him from the group, but she quit shortly thereafter and never came back. I feel if we'd had a hard rule of no flirting between characters unless you're together in real life that it might have been different.

[@fullarmorgaming]

That’s a very good observation, I normally try to keep flirting to a minimum in my games as well

[@armartin0003]

@@fullarmorgaming I'm a romance writer so it's especially hard for me lol. My characters usually have a love interest in an NPC. I also had a real fun time one game where I played the girl and my wife played the male and our characters were together. That was an interesting game. Gave me some ideas how she might want to be approached.

[@Qui-Dad-Jinn]

I love D&D. My wife, not so much. She's played but it's just not her bag. Glad you two can game together. Take care.

[@fullarmorgaming]

I really appreciate the kind words

[@danacoleman4007]

I LOVE your choice of words and sentence structure for the first two sentences! hilarious!

[@Qui-Dad-Jinn]

@danacoleman4007 first person to pick up on that. 😁

[@Surfer669]

I was lucky. My wife's friends were interested in DND and some of them had GM experience. So through her friends, she and I would play DND. We've had two playgroups. The friend groups grew apart. Life got busy. I want to get back into DND with her but we don't know when or how or with who yet.

[@fullarmorgaming]

Just keep looking its totally worth it!

[@justinmorse1883]

Awesome video.

[@fullarmorgaming]

Thanks Bud

[@philipshively7377]

I love it!

[@fullarmorgaming]

Thanks bud

[@RIVERSRPGChannel]

Well I've been playing with the same group for 33 years or so and I've been married for almost 32. My wife has no interest in playing. She doesn't really have much of a nerdy side. The Princess bride is about it.

[@fullarmorgaming]

@@RIVERSRPGChannel we will take what we can get

[@GeoFry3]

I suckered my wife into Pathfinder by way of my boys. I started with 2e and my 7 year old. As we were both learning the game, I dumbed down the rules to basically AC and 1d20 attack rolls and DMG. The next game I let my 5 year old play. After that the boys asked their mom to play. Each time we play I add in another rule or feature. After three games they all made characters and my oldest made his Mom and brother mini's out of legos. I wouldn't call her hooked, but she enjoys the tell story aspect of the game, the social skills employed, and how excited the boys get during an adventure. We call it "game night" and we play every Wednesday. (The real secret to get her to play is make sure her glass is filled with a generous serving of wine.)

[@fullarmorgaming]

Its Truly's for my wife and it works like a charm haha.