I’ve had fear of abandonment my whole life. That changes today! I came into Manifesting to manifest a SP but it’s become more of manifesting a better version of me ❤️ thank you Shelly
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
beautiful
@cristinakmartinez4 жыл бұрын
These feelings of abandonment are very real and play out exactly how you described. My parents abandoned me during my early teen years to comfort my sibling who was sick. During those formative years, I did whatever I wanted and I turned into a typical "Wild Child" but what I wanted most was my parent's attention which I never really got. Fast forward to my adult life, I have now turned into a typical "People Pleaser", needing to be the perfect daughter in my parent's eyes but in my personal relationships, the fear of people leaving turned me into a needy and weak individual. I see all this now, with the help of an amazing therapist, of course. But the manifesting part, that I could only see when it was too late. I pushed this person away with my fear and expectations for them TO leave. Lately, I'm not sure what's been happening but I have been making a 100% effort to live in the end. An email that was sent almost a year ago was suddenly read by my SP, the ring I wanted him to buy me is actually on my finger as I type this, his name is everywhere I look. I know it's happening.
@SublimeLullaby4 жыл бұрын
You deserve it! =)
@ganapatikitty3 жыл бұрын
Any update? How are you doing??
@shajwansworld2 жыл бұрын
Hello , any updates? How are you?
@athomewithhollie4 жыл бұрын
I'm intend to heal this. My parents were not there for my emotional needs. I want better for my inner child and I want better for my future kids.
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
🙏✨
@MegaLorenzo353 жыл бұрын
Trueee i'm with you
@charliemaryann16544 жыл бұрын
God Shelly it hurts right?.. I had this my whole life, but now I see myself as someone who is held cherished and claimed. The people in my reality wanna be present in my life forever! 😍
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
YES. Change your self concept and you'll change your whole reality.
@IntuitiveWanderess4 жыл бұрын
This one made me cry. I’ve been doing this practice and it helps a lot. Thanks
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
beautiful response
@daisy_scream94113 жыл бұрын
Feel the same … i have suffer a lot
@maureenburke37174 жыл бұрын
Shelly I believe this video is life changing. I dont remember the last time I really cried but THIS video peeled away layer upon layer of hurt and I have been sobbing for the last hour like a hurt little girl. The layers and layers of protection that my mind must have created to deal with my dad leaving were peeled back after watching this. My dad left when I was 13 and my mom to raised us 5 kids alone. I NEVER realized UNTIL NOW how HURT AND ANGRY I am at him for leaving. Hurt and angry kit just for me but for my mom, my sister and my 3 brothers. I literally became that 13 year old girl tonight, and for the first time she confronted my dad in my subconscious for leaving my mom, my brothers, my sister and I. I yelled cursed and sobbed as and I confronted him as if he was still here. I had NO IDEA how hurt and angry I was with him and his choice to leave until right now. I realize I have always been looking for my dad in every single failed relationship i have been in and I also discovered I always feared and expected my man to leave me because my dad left me. I am absolutely stunned at how this came up to the surface tonight when I had NO CLUE it was even there for DECADES. There will never be enough thank yous to you for helping me uncover this. I am absolutely stunned and still crying. It ALL makes sense now. Thank you💜💜💜💜💜
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
So glad you’re here💙💙💙✨
@lionesssai59574 жыл бұрын
Absolutely I've experienced this before.. my man in full passion pursuing me and then when I was invested in him he started ghosting me.. 😂 I'm no longer that version neither my man
@lionesssai59574 жыл бұрын
@le la I started affirming that he loves only me and he has nowhere to go but to come back to me every time. I'm the only woman he's madly in love with. I kept affirming for two months and he contacted me. I had positive assumptions about him about getting back. And also I wasn't too much focused on him I did my work I enjoyed my time. We're long distance and I had very bad insecurities that he might have got someone else etc all negative thoughts. So I decided not to think all that and rather redirect my thoughts. Mental diet is important.
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
good
@alfarisegail43234 жыл бұрын
@@lionesssai5957 This is very interesting. I hope your wish fulfilled. I want to hear good news about your relationship and manifestation sooner. 💓💝💓
@lionesssai59574 жыл бұрын
@@alfarisegail4323 Thank you so much for your kind words and motivation, means a lot to me. Everything is always working out in my favor. We must have firm beliefs about what exactly we want to Manifest. In my imagination it's already done deal I'm married to my beloved and yes it is Manifesting in my 3d sooner. ❤️❤️😊 I intend for you to Manifest all that you desire at a lightening speed . Sending you Loads of Love and Peace ❤️❤️
@alfarisegail43234 жыл бұрын
@@lionesssai5957 lt's my pleasure. I am crying right now and so emotionally feeling a lot of love and gratitude. I am so happy you got married right now to your SP and I am feeling my wish fullfilled and getting the most amazing marriage to my SP right now. Thanks you so much for sharing your story with us. It's so inspiring. I feel all my manifestations come true to the 3D reality. 💝💝💝💝 All love
@preethidsouza14 жыл бұрын
Omg this is all my past relationships!
@giselle_carly4 жыл бұрын
I literally have tears coming from my eyes, Shelly. Such a beautiful video. I 100% know what you're talking about and what it feels like. It's time that I show up for my inner child in the way that I want my SP and others to show up for me❤️
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
YES. you have to show up for yourself that way first, then others naturally will, too. My current partner is SO DEEPLY LOVING and has so much space for all parts of me. i manifested him primarily by learning to have space and love for all parts of myself.
@sweetsue42043 жыл бұрын
You hit home so often, Shelly. 😄 I was thinking this morning while drinking my morning coffee overlooking the bay, that I used to get panicky when the feeling of abandonment hit. My history from infancy set the pattern that I’ve repeated up to now - father left when I was 2, son walked away with his family, beloved husband died at 62, and here I am, working through this discordant energy to get to clarity at the ripe age of 67, because the man I pushed away at the end of our second year playing together is sooooo worth the effort to get it right. 😄 So..the first couple times I soothed my inner child she was pretty panicky. By the 3rd or 4th time she settled almost as soon as I touched my heart and started talking her back to equanimity. Around our 6th visit HIS little boy showed up asking for a hug. I mean, how do you turn away a child asking for love? Of course I invited him up onto my lap to join her. The gathering has become so sweet. 😊💗 When they’re sufficiently soothed they jump down from my lap and dash off across the field to explore the natural world together. He’s 8 years older, and knows everything, as boys do. Lol! He’s very caring of her. They’re having fun. This having his energy join the meditation, is that a normal or common thing? I’ve never had such a transformative meditation cycle come to me in this dynamic way. I figure that vibration tuneup must be working. One last share about this…..last night I had a fleeting thought that he might not be interested in me anymore, or will choose to force himself to give me up. At that moment, when the warm rush of panic and tears hit, both children appeared in our inner space and threw their little arms around me to tell me how safe and loved I really am. I still get moved writing about it, in a joyful way. It was a totally unexpected experience, but one that mirrored what my own children were trained to do if I lost my temper and turned into the Dragon Lady, so I wasn’t completely surprised at the emotional manifestation. Yes, it worked immediately, and off they went to play again. 😄 At night I kiss them both goodnight and recite the little singsong poem we used with our children when they were small. In the morning I greet them first thing. It’s a sweet little world of loving we’re creating together. I peg most of the credit to your inspiration. Keep it up, you’re doing good work. 👍🏻
@melc83884 жыл бұрын
..I've always felt anxious in my relationships. They chase me then they slow fade then I start to chase them...and from there it goes down hill. Thanks for the video
@Dinah58223 жыл бұрын
Mel C ...you are my twin
@melc83883 жыл бұрын
@@Dinah5822 Haha. That was me a whole year ago. Time for a change you know
@Dinah58223 жыл бұрын
Time for deliberate change 🥰
@portaljulia4 жыл бұрын
This video literally got me in tears as I watched it. I've experienced fear of abandonment my whole life and couldn't exactly put my finger on why. And then it hit me during the video that it was when my older sister moved abroad with her bf that I got my wound, because I was sooo close to her and too young to understand that she was leaving until the day she did (I was 6years old). She just disappeared and I felt that she left me,our family. But she was just following her joy and loved us, of course. Understanding that was freeing!!! I'm gonna heal myself now!!
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy you received that insight while watching.
@portaljulia4 жыл бұрын
@@ShellyBullard me too! Thank you for the video 💓💓
@vintagesparkles42894 жыл бұрын
i started crying when you gave an example of what you could use to comfort oneself. those are words I've never heard from my own parents before and it's what I've needed all along. i had resurfacing struggles with my manifestation, worrying if this other person will distance themselves from me or stop talking to me, but now I know I just need to do work from within and change my beliefs and be there for myself. I need to understand that I will be alright and loved no matter what happens. thank you so much shelly, you are wonderful!
@michellecrocco25884 жыл бұрын
Good stuff! My father cheated on my mother for their entire marriage and was never there much for me or my sister. This has played out in EVERY relationship I’ve ever had and has caused so much strife in my life! Thanks for helping me take my power back 😊
@NamiiiiWatts4 жыл бұрын
This has been my exact experience with all my relationships, a pattern that I just couldn't understand why it kept happening over and over again with different people. I started to believe that there surely is something wrong with me that they discover and run away from. If I'm honest I still believe no one will stay. The guys always said it wasn't me but would immediately jump into other relationships and stay in them, so how could I not feel its me. I've watched your other videos of manifesting and meditations and I have been able to manifest contact with my SP, but that fear still exists and I feel him pulling away again. This video was so helpful in making me realize I need to heal these deep wounds and learn to show up for myself if I do want to receive the love I've desperately been craving and searching for.
@Dinah58223 жыл бұрын
Make the change ..the aspect is as serious as youve experienced ...
@aileensavage44314 жыл бұрын
Ugh..... I knew there was a fear of mine that was making the scenario you described if our SP/partner pursuing us a ton at the beginning of the relationship and then distancing themselves..... this has been a pattern of mine sadly for a long time... and I never saw it as a fear of abandonment for some reason. And now I realize, this is exactly the wound I have yet to really heal. So thank you for this video ❤️
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful. Finally realizing that is a big part of the work.
@aileensavage44314 жыл бұрын
Shelly Bullard how are you doing this coming weekend’s self love event? How do I sign up?? Because I realize now that this needs to be my top priority after coming to this new realization and wounds I am in need of healing..... so again, thank you for all your videos and helping me acknowledge all this ❤️
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
@@aileensavage4431 Oh beautiful. You can learn about about the Self Love Workshop and sign up here: love.shellybullard.com/self-love-sunday-workshop
@Evelyndijkstra4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! I experienced this when I was around 7/8 years old. When I was holding myself, I felt the tears flow down my cheeks while I was telling that I am here for that part of me. I can give myself the love and I won't EVER abandon me. It is amazing what you do with these videos. I am sure lots of people can get so much out of life when they heal this part themselves.
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Yes. this is one of the most healing techniques there is. Truly. So beautiful you held and spoke to your Inner Child. I love hearing you're doing the practice and that it's healing for you.
@TrishaAyshe4 жыл бұрын
This has always been my number one issue and because of the long distance it became an internal struggle for me despite knowing how much my sp adored me. I followed a guided meditation a few months back for inner child healing which helped a lot. Things are looking better again since we reconnected and I'm manifesting us being in the same city so that the unfolding can be complete. ❤️
@thejesylee10 ай бұрын
Hey lovely I'd love to know how you went with this as I am in the same situation x
@Rachel-iStockholm3 жыл бұрын
This was one of the best videos I have ever seen on KZbin. You are pure love.i had tears in my eyes. Thank you for your energy and you are amazing
@nellynel30274 жыл бұрын
Shelly I love you. This video is so helpful and came at perfect timing. I called off work today because the person I was with left without saying anything or responding to my calls/messages. I’m so sad and very confused cuz things were going so right between us. Since I called off work I plan on doing this work and being with my little one, my inner child that feels abandoned. Again, thank you. I also got “Free yourself” this is going to serve me so much ❤️
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
So beautiful you're doing this deep inner work.
@birrahbani74034 жыл бұрын
I am feeling progress.... i am feeling good job by myself
@presentfuture75634 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, and for making it a longer video. I suspect many of us present probably struggle with this issue. I could make my own Dos Equis meme saying "I don't always get into relationships...but when I do, I get jettisoned almost immediately."
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
you're welcome for making the video.
@MsPensandpaper4 жыл бұрын
Shelly! I actually cried while watching this!
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
💙
@Cabbage334 жыл бұрын
i've experienced it in the past with an unwanted version of myself but im all healed now
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
beautiful
@Cabbage334 жыл бұрын
Shelly Bullard also I have a question, my sp and I were talking last week and his disappeared in the middle of the conversation. Yet ever since he’s been one of the first to see my social media stories and he started liking my Instagram posts. I see this as a sign but idk why he has yet to answer my texts
@djamb1174 жыл бұрын
Thank you Shelly I raise my hand😂😂😂 I started doing that and it works I learnt it from you
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
beautiful. so happy to hear this.
@djamb1174 жыл бұрын
@@ShellyBullard thank you Shelly You are such a beautiful soul❤
@mandyparkhurst97344 жыл бұрын
Made me cry...thank you.
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
beautiful. you're welcome.
@Vienna-qi9pt2 жыл бұрын
Omg! Yes I never realized this was happening in my relationships because of feeling ignored and not important as a child. I have to work on myself concept and tell my inner child that I will always be here, I’m never going to leave ever and that I am loved and important. Amazing video!! Thank you for this. I will be listening to all your videos ❤️
@norsolehamohddali15004 жыл бұрын
I experienced it before and now. Now he abandoned me and got to know other woman. I always wondered what did I do. Now I understand why. I am crying.
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
So glad you understand now.
@kaushiksn12074 жыл бұрын
I have experienced abandment. It's the worst feeling ever. I always had the fear. Such a powerful message to overcome this fear. Thank you Shelly 🙏
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Yes. It's a horrible feeling. It's so empowering to know you can heal it on your own... just you and your Inner Child.
@angelasmith28094 жыл бұрын
Yupp. My parents and lovers have left me😭 i have sent the intention to heal and prosper and through alignment your videos have came to me. Thank you, you're an angel and doing the right thing!!! Thank you!!!
@divinefeminine9474 Жыл бұрын
I can understand Sending lots of healing energy and love !⭐
@bryanfuchs15124 жыл бұрын
Yep, this has been my experience pretty much all my life. This video has been extremely helpful. Thank you!
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad it helped.
@michellemckenzie87244 жыл бұрын
I’ve always had a fear of abandonment since I was little. I thought I’d lose my parents, through a violent situation. The love of my life adored me, when we finally got together after 20 years, just 3 years ago. But now he wants out, after promising to always look after me. I’m so devastated and I’m scared I made this happen. 🥺
@marirose20324 жыл бұрын
Sadly this has happened to me time and again😞 and it took me this many years to finally put it all together. Thanx for shedding your light and expertise on this.
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
❤️
@melanieleone4364 жыл бұрын
This is 💯 what I emailed you about yesterday!! Lol I keep manifesting videos from you Shelly 💕 Loving the “Claimed, Cherished, wanted and Adored” program!!! Xoxo
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Awesome. Love that you manifested this video too. ;)
@dangerzzzone29254 жыл бұрын
But yes, I had this. This is a general belief about love I have that I need to work on🥺 but I'm so much stronger now💛💛💙♥️♥️♥️ Common theme in all my relationships. It hurts so much! I've had this with almost every guy I've loved. One even passed away... It's showed up in everyway possible. But I will fix my mindset!
@catherinesdiary29284 жыл бұрын
Real problem for me and experience again and again in friendship and love. They left when i need them. I feel panic so strongly. When i use ur method to heal my inner child i feel secured and safe. When i was a child my mum always lock me at a room and she go to buy food. She leave me stay on the street for hrs and she go to buy food. I finally realise that create feeling of abandonment. I feel scared i feel alone i even cry. But when i call for the existence of myself to stay with the inner self me, i feel so much better. Time to heal myself first thank you. This happens again and again for over 20 years. When i was in long distance relationship, i feel the abandonment and it ends. When i rotate at job, i feel abandonment with my original colleagues. I cry and scare. Now I understand what is happening.
@aureliecasier2972 жыл бұрын
For the first time, I understand what it is to really show up for yourself and how to heal this wound. Thank you Shelly ❤️
@taylorchase23464 жыл бұрын
Love this video! This is something I have struggled with majorly in the past. I have seen it over and over again the same patterns, everything you described. I always kind of knew what was being done wrong producing undesired results and circumstances, but I could never put my finger on it until recently. Thank you!! Blessings! ❤❤
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
so glad you finally put your finger on it! ;)
@IammilliondollarmonthMauimama4 жыл бұрын
I love this!! I have put a guard up because of my childhood and I am going to start this every day 😊 I started to get emotional after I said this to myself.
@johnguss6087 Жыл бұрын
I’m a guy, but just hearing you say that makes me cry. This video is priceless. Thank you. 🙏
@nikolhilario62494 жыл бұрын
THIS WAS TO REAL FOR ME
@arvj1234 жыл бұрын
yes! I love this so much. psychotherapy and manifesting combined again. thank you
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
yes. my path. ;)
@louelizabeth714 жыл бұрын
Wow Shelly this couldn't have come at a better time! All of your excellent videos resonate with me. This is literally my life RIGHT NOW!! Really rotten experience. I already signed up for your self love workshop, really looking forward to it xx
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful. We'll dive deep into healing this in the Self Love Workshop. As, the Self Love workbook has great exercises for healing your Inner Child.
@susanerickson92734 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video!! I could probably be a poster child for abandonment. My mother died when I was 3. My father tried unsuccessfully to leave me once in Holland with family while we were visiting and another time with a church family we were friends with. By the age of 8, the court took me away from my dad because they felt he was not able to properly care for me. I lived with a foster family for 5 years. They were my family. They were my anchor. Even after I went back to live with my dad. They taught me so much. I struggle with romantic relationships. I have been working on manifesting my SP. I see him coming around but want to keep him this time. Your videos have been so helpful. Thank you!!💜
@awhiterabbit54884 жыл бұрын
This just happened. Had a moment with myself. Showed up in 3d as fear. I did this real time. It did melt away. So simply and effectively. Thank you. I have some of your courses which is greatly helping me. I am thankful to see my empowerment. Thank you
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
beautiful. I'm so glad.
@emic86664 жыл бұрын
I know what you are talking about! Thank you ❤🌈
@BrisaniAshley3 жыл бұрын
Shelly thank you so much. When you started talking to your inner child I bursted into tears. I can't remember the last time I've ever taken a second to talk to that inner child. I've neglected her too, and as a result I've avoided healing for all these years. I'm going to start this healing journey. Thank you for your amazing videos.
@vivianmontgomery90824 жыл бұрын
Yes I've definitely experienced this. And even before I became aware of LOA and manifesting I suffered from depression and used this technique to comfort myself and to basically talk myself out of that feeling. So I know that this would completely work, it's funny how I've never used it on my relationship fears. Self love is so important and the key to having that wonderful relationship we all desire. I want to thank you Shelly, you along with other manifesting coaches have brought me out of the deep funk...I was treating myself so cruelly from the negative self talk and creating all sort of damage in my life. But now every area of my life has changed just by changing my inner world. Thank you so much for your help.
@morningstar97564 жыл бұрын
🧡 this one really stirred my emotions ... which tells me everything I didn’t kno I was still carrying around inside
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Glad you liked it🤍
@amanykhater61383 жыл бұрын
Thank you shelly... al what you said happened to me, we create our reality, I now know how to create Love
@Manifestwithsha3 жыл бұрын
Would love more courses on how to show up for ourselves!! I think that’s so important and why most of my relationships fail. Thank you for your knowledge!!
@paulasmith35774 жыл бұрын
You are amazing and you explain better than anyone. You have more class and grace than anyone on KZbin!
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you so much!
@porciadaweti83853 жыл бұрын
Thank you soo much Shelly for all your videos...i practiced this and it made me cry,it made realised that i have been abandoning my self for far too long...i feel very light on the inside know that i deserve love, i deserve to be appreciated. Because it all start with self love.thank you very much...when i was doing the practice of healing your inner child i was crying....i now know that what i create on the inside is what i'm going manifest on the outside...
@tmc1373 Жыл бұрын
WOW!! This is the stuff that should be taught in elementary school! This video is truly life changing and what I've needed to know and hear for soooooo many years to make sense of my own experiences and feelings. I, literally, broke down listening to you. You are absolutely spectacular at teaching and explaining. Thank you so very much for this video! You have no idea how much you've helped me this very day!!
@G29W304 жыл бұрын
Cried listening to this.
@sharonthomas8654 жыл бұрын
Thank You So Much Shelly for sharing your Video 🌹⚘🧸💕
@nessar51044 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video. I've experienced this abandonment in the past. Now that I don't have an SP, I'm focusing on working on myself. Thank you so much for this very enlightening video. Love it. 🙋💐❤️
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
you're welcome
@swatiduhan89632 жыл бұрын
O my god Shelly you are so right. I've faced the exact problem in all of my relationship and that's why I haven't had any long term relationships but now since I know the reason I'm definitely trying to heal myself and manifest SP. Will definitely come here to Thank you as soon for getting him back
@shreyasaranathan78494 жыл бұрын
I’ve experienced this before. I am ready to deal with these negative emotions. Thank you so much, I love your videos
@alfarisegail43234 жыл бұрын
First of all: your voice volume is low ; please in the next videos use another microphone or whatever method to make your voice clear for us ino order to grasp your amazing messages. Secondly: I experience abandonment many times during the last 4 years. I run my own business and it seemed my mom misunderstood me in some points so she abandoned me. Later on many of my friends also abandoned me when I shared with them the idea of my business and how they could become my partners. Later on one of my closest partners abandoned me and this time it hurts me very deeply. I agree with you, the fear of abandonment is in my subconscious mind and may be I don't think about it, but eventually it rises to the surface somehow. So your topic today is very interesting and helpful to me as usual and I benefit from it so much. I think I am on the right path of enlightenment because everyday I learn new important things about myself and my life and I appreciate this. You probably changed my life. I am so grateful to have someone incredible persons like you in my life. I wish to meet you sooner to say thank you to you. Best wishes, Yours, 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@thassan5303 жыл бұрын
"What is wrong here that people try to create it with other people before themselves..". Really stood out.
@thatgirlbrinna79274 жыл бұрын
My mom and dad left me, so I always feel every one will leave me even with my friends
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
You have to change your story, love. Regardless of your history, you have to learn to believe and know that you won't be left.
@thatgirlbrinna79274 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I took a class from you like 5 years ago about building confidence and it helped me so much! I really appreciate you ❤️
@navyant84154 жыл бұрын
This is so true. The fear of abandonment stems from your childhood and transcends into adulthood if not healed. I have been dealing with this since my childhood and it isn't easy at all. But I've never thought about showing up for myself and have always expected it from others (especially partners). And this could be the main reason none of these relationships have had a great ending. Thank you so much for this perspective, Shelly! Will surely apply it from now on. Self love is indeed everything. ❤
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
You’re welcome 💙
@Sharollchand3 жыл бұрын
This was really helpful. Thank you so much. I literally cried when I did this practice. I have me ♥️
@wonderwoman6244 жыл бұрын
You saved me today Shelly - thank you so much from all parts of my heart ❤️🙏🏻
@PS-tz5ir4 жыл бұрын
I am healing from this fear of abandonment by self loving consistently!! Thank you for this video. I FEEL the healing energy already 💕💗Thank you again!!
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
You’re welcome❤️
@AxleBoost3 жыл бұрын
I do know this feeling. I’m going through it now. Your inner child playlist is helping me heal!
@Magical_Makeup_UK3 жыл бұрын
I worked out what I needed to do to heal myself with this video, thank you Shelly, so much
@richalfernandes77264 жыл бұрын
This is very relatable and painful 😣 too. Thank you so much Shelly for brining up such important message and sharing it with all.Your amazing ❤️ much love to you 😘
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
thank you
@richalfernandes77264 жыл бұрын
Your welcome ❤️
@oranjenijntje83684 жыл бұрын
Yes, I do know what this is like and wow, how you described it is so spot on. I’ve been caught in that loop and lost some great people that way. I don’t want to do that anymore. I want to allow myself to be loved and not push people away because of old fears. This is a new moment! I’m going to focus on inner child work and expect positive changes in me and in others. As always, thank you so much Shelly 💗
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
You’re welcome 💙
@syky18374 жыл бұрын
Shelly you are a great teacher
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Aww thank you!
@MarielLV214 жыл бұрын
Currently experiencing this. And I’m now healed, thank you for this!!! 💖💖💖
@sweetsquirrxl2 ай бұрын
you have no idea how much this video helped me in this moment, thank you 😭❤
@ShellyBullard2 ай бұрын
You're welcome!
@yaarahaim61434 жыл бұрын
Thank you Shelly🧡
@kharenc51184 жыл бұрын
I had this feeling the whole day😢 and i saw this video.. Thank you Shelly this really helps me:)
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Glad you liked it💙
@jen99302 жыл бұрын
I can't believe I'm just now realizing how my childhood fears of abandonment are the reason for the cycle I've created in my 3D. When I was really young, up until about 10 years old, I was TERRIFIED to be left alone. I was never actually abandoned but for some reason I had extreme anxiety around my parents taking off forever, even if we were in the house together. I couldn't stand to have my dad be in the garage while I was upstairs without checking that was still there. Up until today I convinced myself I had no fears like that but it's deep rooted and was never properly healed. Now I can fix it, thank you!
@annamorfidis Жыл бұрын
This is SO Beautiful! I am so aligned with all of these truths! So nicely explained for your viewers to do!
@valandrea19764 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this moment Shelly. ...you change my life ....really. have a wonderful day💜
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
so beautiful to hear. thank you.
@lauraangelicalomeliraya46234 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Shelly! This is what I needed, girl! 💐💐💐💐💐💐💯
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
You’re welcome 🙏
@amolhatolkar94154 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for sharing such awesome video on Self Love!!!
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
you're welcome
@avc64554 жыл бұрын
Surely this is what I'm going thru right now. Thank you for this video
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
You’re welcome 💜
@laurenmichelle17824 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Just thank you. I know I've heard these words in so many places but this was unbelievably valuable for me to hear... I'm favoriting this video and never forgetting it. I'm taking this fully to heart today 😭 😭
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
beautiful
@t3rriblethings4 жыл бұрын
yes, i would look for him to respond a certain way in order to soothe me
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
classic response that unfortunately doesn't work.
@I_am_perfection4 жыл бұрын
Yes, Shelly, this is exactly how I feel and the chasing...spot on. However, I've never ever in my life experienced abandonment in any form. Maybe it's just something I fear could happen.
@tiaandrawis86344 ай бұрын
The most revelatory video on KZbin - Shelly you have saved my life! And I mean that quite literally thank you ❤
@ShellyBullard4 ай бұрын
You're welcome!
@blissfulnaturesounds4 жыл бұрын
Ohh gosh, I so need this! Just thinking about that pain makes me want to cry... abandonment has ruined so many parts of my life
@kariberry92144 жыл бұрын
I felt all of this. For as long I can remember I have felt this - everyone always leaves - Due to that I literally pushed my husband out the door, now that I am starting to understand LOA I can see how I created it all - from bringing him into my life to his exit. thank you so much this just got me all up in the feelers
@wildflowertarot54184 жыл бұрын
This literally always happens. And I watch it and am aware I’m doing it, it’s so automatic.. will look into your workshop, hope I can join yay 💕💖
@missgaegyan4 жыл бұрын
Just this evening I asked universe "I don't know how can I heal this or release this in a good way please help me". And here I found this 😍🙌🔥
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
So glad you’re here ✨
@JustBeingAwesome Жыл бұрын
I lost all important people in my life (my grandmother, my godfather, my cousin that was only 3 months older) at the age of 5/6. I probably experienced my parents not being fully present because of all that. What a way to start life...
@andreafarrington23674 жыл бұрын
This was the perfect video today 💟
@dangerzzzone29254 жыл бұрын
Oh I love this! I have had serious abandonment issues due to absent father issues. I had a weird upbringing. I thought my dad didn't love me and he was just an absent father who was still alive. Recently, found out my mom confessed to my younger sister (we have different dads) that my dad actually passed away when I was a couple months old baby and loved me very much. She just never had the heart to tell me. Now, I have to re-structure my mind and forgive myself for how I viewed my dad. That he did love me and would have been there for me if he could. Thank you for this Shelly!♥️
@ShellyBullard4 жыл бұрын
Wow, what a beautiful and profound story. Yes, restructure your beliefs to know you were (are) very loved.
@dangerzzzone29254 жыл бұрын
@@ShellyBullard Thank you Shelly♥️ It has been quite the journey.
@fatinahkhan60832 жыл бұрын
Hi Shelly please do more inner child work videos with your method of holding your self and spreading to yourself. You make it appear so much easier and simpler to take on. I have come back to this one video for that reason numerous times
@laurenc262 жыл бұрын
Mind blown with this video. Thank you so much! So needed!
@EA-jh7tf4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I didn’t realize how those early years affected me that much! When it came time to love myself I didn’t realize that I was shaking
@goldenluver332 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely my experience! It happened with my old, long term partner, who was one day talking about marriage and kids and a future and the next left very suddenly to move across the country and ended our relationship. Now, with my new partner, I am constantly hyper-analyzing every second of our relationship, and essentially expecting to be rejected or abandoned. It's exhausting, and it makes me fear that I am manifesting the abandonment!
@IsadoraDoll224 жыл бұрын
This made me cry. It feels so good to be there for yourself. You explained it SO well
@annanoordeloos86424 жыл бұрын
You're videos are amazing Shelly, but this one is the best yet! Thanks a thousand times... THANK YOU!
@debbiesavy4102 жыл бұрын
Shelly so beautifully put. Thank you.
@jaih66594 жыл бұрын
I had a serious break through...recalled a childhood trauma that I know was related to this....THANK YOU! 💞💕💞💕