How To Know If A Woman Sees You As A Simp | Why You Need To Stop Being A Simp

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[@Simo-d3t]

If she doesn't want to settle for a simple date, she doesn't want you, she wants the date.

[@JostenJ]

Exactly! They want to take pics of the food and be picked up and blah blah blah they don’t actually want YOU 🧠💡

[@FACTZ973]

They also want to post the location for clicks, likes, and validation

[@unapologetic1413]

More than likely she just "settled" for the date out of "boredom," then she paid more attention to her followers on Social Media than you.🤷🏾‍♀️ Some women can be ruthless! But, the majority of women figured out a longgggg time ago that MOST men only come for her "😺" so she decided to ONLY care about his "wallet" and "beta-attention."

[@damonthompson3633]

If she really likes you and sees you as that guy, she will literally meet you anywhere anytime and do whatever activity you wanna do

[@johnn.marshall4566]

💯

[@13sprintuser]

Truth right here. Women will MOVE MOUNTAINS and MAKE TIME when their attraction is high enough for you

[@lilseveno]

Driving her to other dudes is crazy So They Have “SIMP UBER NOW😂😂”

[@mannysevero1985]

LMAOOOOOOO

[@JostenJ]

🤣

[@NUFF-SAID33]

Its crazy out here bro

[@stefanofabian8305]

Shiitt😂

[@barryirvingj1813]

😂👏

[@CoachMusaTv]

Never pay anything on the first date, just get coffee, ice cream , something very low investment

[@callidus5586]

For those that immediately disagree, ask yourself. ( who's more invested you or her? )

[@JostenJ]

Facts

[@dudleyviban2764]

Relationships are transactional these days after all.

[@Litty.uglygod]

Honestly bro I’m okay with paying on the first date, especially if I’m the one planning everything. I’ve spent $50 on a top golf for a first date and ended up bringing her to the crib. That’s a win in my opinion

[@YesIagreeBut]

​@@Litty.uglygod No. No no ...she just SIMPly _'came to ya crib'_ out of _OBLIGATION!_

[@Giga_Chad758]

It's taking YOU a little longer because YOU aren't lying, using people, scamming, manipulating, or selling your soul. Trust the process 💯

[@JostenJ]

💯

[@Giga_Chad758]

@@JostenJ "Sadly a majority of these modern day women just be HOES looking for high value simps to turn them into house wives so they can leech off him, get as much as they can from him so they can bounce and be good on they own!".💯

[@A21842]

Facts💯

[@barryirvingj1813]

Yes indeed, taking heed 💯✊

[@EseShad0w316]

Man I remember being simpy with this one chick that was interested in me first. To this day I suffer from embarrassment just thinking about the shit I did. Won't make the same mistakes ever again though.

[@JostenJ]

Bro let it go it was a learning experience you got this 💪🏾

[@braydenbledsoe3252]

same here. same here.

[@harrishvarman]

Same here brother...

[@bigtstyle123]

I used to simp haaard over a girl. Everything you said she did to me. I drove her to the airport one time. Moved furniture things like that. Talked to me about her boyfriends. Took gifts. Everything. I had to learn the hard way to see the truth. Confronted her she couldn’t take it and sees everything as my fault. Thankfully we no longer speak to each other anymore.

[@tokyo9766]

If she doesn't escalate at all is another one. Breadcrumbing for a long time over texts making you think you have a chance just so you can give her more attention. It'll save you lots of time and money if you just don't let it start to begin with. I've learned from personal experience, that if she asks for things she can do herself, she's probably using you just for that. I stopped giving her attention, stop asking to hang out, and just stopped texting her in general and she cut me off because she had no more use for me because i learned my worth. If she actually likes you, you won't have to do shit. If she likes you there will be 0 hesitation in escalating things. Unlike guys she uses she uses for attention(Simps) she will not escalate and will breadcrumb you constantly and squeeze you for all the attention and money. If she actually likes you she will NOT hesitate to pay with her own money. Please don't put women on a pedestal, or she will treat you like a peasant.

[@JostenJ]

💯

[@rbenoit1978]

I have a hard no-texting rule... it forces them to show genuine interest.

[@tokyo9766]

@@rbenoit1978 Definitely, and you can kinda tell now since they just bring up pointless shit instead of anything about meeting up

[@robertparral4298]

Gentlemen respect yourself and you won’t take disrespect from anyone. That’s where it all starts. Once she gets angry with you she knows she has to respect you.

[@johnjunior7873]

This is the powerful message that I ever heard in my life.i was once a simp but not anymore.

[@JostenJ]

I’m glad you woke up brother

[@johnjunior7873]

@@JostenJ thanks.it was a wake up call for me.

[@stayblessed471-v5p]

I think we all were at one point in our life.

[@skippy1012]

Most of us were groomed that way from young. Thank J for the these videos.

[@johnjunior7873]

You have to love yourself and respect yourself.

[@JostenJ]

💯

[@100JK]

Josten simplified the game. Being a simp is just purely disrespectful to yourself.

[@davidstreit433]

Who are these simps who treat these women like queens? It's a first date, if they not interested in spending time with you. You the prize!! If they want the world, you bounce

[@JostenJ]

Thanks for tuning in

[@Mason13245]

Growing up with an older sister. She used to ask guys in the club to buy her a drink cus she was pretty. And then take them over to her boyfriend She would come home hungover and brag about all the guys that bought her drinks. That was one of the first lessons in my life about how cutthroat women are to simps

[@MarStoryTime]

I used to be a #BelieveWomen simp. But eventually, they all burn their friend zone dudes for the dudes they want. That’s when I woke up. ✌️

[@JostenJ]

Stay aware always! They will always use you if you let them.

[@TheRelaxingWind]

Girls lie unfortunately, to get back at someone or when they are mad. Shit, my mom and grandma told me that. Its really sad honestly, cuz dealing with a girl who had PTSD from rape. Really makes it disgusting when you see women lie ab harassment and shit. Like deadass

[@johnjunior7873]

When you simp she doesn't respect you.

[@JostenJ]

Facts

[@trillmix0652]

Last week, I had a chick ask me to buy her a pair of heels she liked. I told her "No. I'm more of a I'll buy you things when it's my idea kind of guy." I nipped that in the bud real quick.

[@joshuawalker4846]

Magnificent video Jay! The power of self confidence! We gotta get on another video call soon! You are the truth! Never simp for any women. They will put you last like she did with her guy best friend smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@JostenJ]

I look forward to it brother! And yes never simp it just makes you unattractive.

[@rastafit23]

HIM ENERGY ! Focus on you make money hit the gym 💪🏾🤙🏾

[@JostenJ]

Exactly it’s so simple 💪🏾

[@etodillerx2095]

the girl from the last clip will make cookies from scratch with her simp friend and then flip in her bed with that cold motherf***** who declined it

[@JostenJ]

Facts

[@ivan_k_art]

Thank you for your extra work to select vids that actually hammer the point home! Him gang💪

[@JostenJ]

That’s what I’m here for brother! Keep being HIM 💪🏾

[@griffin499]

These broads really got the game fucked up too many of them of think that their time is more valuable than yours therefore you should pay for it 🤨. They want you to put yourself in a position to get finessed by getting you to spend money on them and give them your time and resources while they sit back and choose who they want to deal with . When you don’t do these things they realize they can’t play you and get mad and most times will either leave or come correct most times they try ti find a sucka and before they leave they will try to shame you saying stupid shit like if your broke say that or cheap and not a real man bs

[@davidtaylor1164]

That dude took her to 3 restaurants and 2 beaches on the first date??? What was he smoking?

[@Apologia14]

Exactly. How do you follow up on that? Now you’ve given her unrealistic expectations and it is all down hill from there.

[@EpticityOG]

Haha right? Imagine the money he blew on that chick on the first date. Bet you they’re not together or she’s still playing him lol

[@samuelmikoungui7629]

one the most useful video i've ever seen, keep up J !

[@JostenJ]

That’s what I’m here for brother 💪🏾

[@FACTZ973]

Unknowingly, I was a simp at one point also. Once I transformed, I turned into Megatron though.🤨 I'm on the verge of applying pressure, even to my own 15yr old daughter. Baby girl gotta be raised and prepped for the future.

[@mylesmackey2430]

Stray cats can feed themselves just fine. Don’t feed the stray cats.

[@remysteal1]

5:33 I almost threw up my lunch dawg. Oh my that’s weak lmao could never be me. Sad world we live in. Stay up J! 🤘🏾

[@JostenJ]

It’s crazy out here a lot of dudes are idiots. I got you brother keep winning out here 👊🏾

[@ustinovclarke7293]

Jonsten j I love your content bro I’m watching all the way from the Bahamas

[@makhiaustin754]

Another great video, providing the knowledge men need! 👏🏾

[@JostenJ]

That’s what I’m here for I have to spread the word so guys can wake up!

[@jeremyneiderhoff]

Truss and believe that chick in the beginning talmbout dudes sending her money ain't letting a single one of them hit. Being bluepilled in 2023 is a death sentence fr fr

[@JostenJ]

Facts! She said “if he doesn’t do this he’s not taking you serious” but my question is “are you taking him serious?” Notice she didn’t say anything about that though….

[@EpticityOG]

With my ex, she was the one who was interested in me before I became interested in her. Our first dates were simple ice cream, in n out, hikes etc. Nothing fancy. She made it obvious that she liked me, but I still took my time to ask her to make it official almost 3 months later. She made the effort to get my attention to go out with her and well during the relationship I turned into a simp for her and 3 years later maybe that’s was a reason that made her have all these doubts about us and me probably. So now that I’m reflecting on it, I gotta do better next time. Right now I’m just focusing on myself to get a better job, go back to the gym and get into the shape of my life, continue listening to this wise man’s lectures so next time I don’t do the same mistakes. But all in due time I’m not gonna be ready to start dating until I feel confident and pleased with myself, until I fully know my worth and what I really want with my next partner.

[@windury1]

As always spoken the eye opener truth G, going straight up to the point and not sugarcoating shit, very humbling gotta say big props and thank you brah, keep doing and washing away the simp out of true man.

[@TheRelaxingWind]

Vids are important, I think it comes down to being honest with yourself and controlling your desires and wants. Its hard though starting off ngl

[@joshuawalker4846]

Magnificent video Jay! The power of walking away! How have self respect for oneself. The first step is to always walk away for you and the person who would treat you better 💯

[@Tupacshakur-e7f]

Much love to you from Nigeria 🇳🇬

[@skippy1012]

Thanks bro. This is appreciated. Great reminders.

[@skymakertv2300]

a chick will ask u money to “pay her rent” and then she’ll use that money to buy Chinese food to a guy she actually wanna bang! Thanks for the message bro! You are awesome!

[@doctoralla2067]

I had this one girl I was friends with in high school(this is why I DESPISE the concept of male-female platonic relationships) she told me THREE times that she could not meet me at the LIBRARY of all places because I was 16 w/o a car and I even got dropped off there to meet her by my mom because me and that girl love books this was not a date like I said we were friends but it is absolutely ridiculous that every single time I asked her to meet me it was always some dumb excuse and btw I liked her but she wasn’t like my all time crush I just found her cute yeah guys don’t have female friends you’re just that idiot who wastes his time laboring to build her pyramid sized ego by giving her all this attention and compliments and shit like that

[@doctoralla2067]

Not to mention this just confirms what Josten said about low to medium interest women. I’m not only referring to her not meeting me but on top of that she mentioned this one time that if it ever came down to it she would never kiss me because of my mustache yep stick to high interest women and go no contact i went no contact with her and she did not reach out in like 2+ years seems like I wasn’t shit to her despite her going on about how great of a friend I was and im not salty im glad she’s gone that was a waste of time im trying to become HIM now

[@bobbywiddattool6966]

These vids r gold

[@jamanu223]

I notice that a simp is also a dangerous individual/character just for the fact they would do anything include fighting like you. Said just like Thanos for Lady Earth in the comics. And one last thing…”Buy me a pair of Yeezy for Christmas!!!” | “I don’t get my sister Yeezys.”; they would throw sort of tests like that towards you and it tells that they had previous guys or current ones catering to their needs.

[@jamanu223]

Lady Death[*]

[@doctoralla2067]

Nice video bro

[@L.C.5]

Been there gents and I am glad it happened. Cause now it has happened my eyes!!

[@johnjunior7873]

I learn a lot from watching this video.

[@JostenJ]

💪🏾

[@oupasephone1478]

That jacket 🔥

[@onur-a-k]

Words of wisdom. Thanks for sharing, brother

[@AR-dj3yw]

Social media and rap music has destroyed women in my community

[@EpticityOG]

Especially social media

[@kennethyoung4892]

Great video this will become a classic

[@rellthomas-q9h]

I use to spas when girls get dropped off by a dude. and they'd say its cool I told him we friends 😳.

[@wavestation999]

2:24 I'm not interested in you because you've given me zero reason to be 😂

[@mr.atheist8848]

8:25 Happened to me too. No more simping!

[@VisionarySolutionsExpert]

Dope truth ty

[@pimpindistress101]

He just doesn't want a gold digger... 🤣🤣🤣

[@nonenone6884]

I talk to this girl on line @ 10:30 am. The she hit me up @. 3 pm. Will I pay for her to get her nails done. I'm like what the hell I just met you. Your not my girl and then I still won't pay. So she got mad and we blocked each other. Wow.

[@yungdynamic471]

When they see you as a pimp, you win. When they see you as a simp, you lose.

[@paytonmeeks9559]

"Some will take love over respect" how can I subscribe to a channel twice?

[@dosemulero3963]

LET’S COOK FELLAS 😎💯💪

[@JostenJ]

HIM GANG! 💪🏾

[@davonjones9489]

Another jostenj video while I have an intense plank session LMAO fuck it let's cook boys 🔥😎😆

[@tevinhenderson2412]

Entitle to a strangers resources. The audacity

[@deepsoundrecord3096]

I n my girlfriend we used to play candy crush, but this other girl says its childish. Matter of the fact. A person who loves you loves everything you do.and you also loves theirs

[@victoraaron5924]

We men are the PRIZE !!!! , my momma ain’t raise no simp!!

[@fyingstarhaytham4852]

🔥

[@JostenJ]

HIM GANG!

[@humanearthlingman]

What grown man has a celebrity crush?!?! Lol that think we think like they do.

[@RyanMiller3039]

Maybe sort of a love triangle. Girl has a guy that treats her like absolute shit. Girl and I work together and went out with friends. She got a little drunk and on the walk back put her arm thru my arm. After a minute of that I picked her up over my shoulder and carried her. She was more than cool with it. In some ways I feel like she moves towards me but in other way I feel like I'm in the triangle you describe. I agree with what you said about 90% of what women say is garbage. It seems like what they say never lines up with there actions.

[@El28z]

2:20 😂

[@Liqo315]

💪🏿💫

[@JostenJ]

HIM GANG!

[@joshuamouton3825]

I used to be a simp and a nice guy not no more.

[@GENERALYT-gm5pr]

Now once a girl approches me in the gym, i introduced myself and went in my way doing my workout, was doing leg curls and there is the seated version near me , she asked for my help cause the seat is not budging, i told her to hold the handle she complayed(told her to do stuff (listned to you on telling her to do stuff)) and adjusted the seat then i told her what to do with the handle and went on my day. Now when i am in the gym i am in my zone and if someone talks to me or askes me something i usually answer cause i like helping others. ( i am him in the gym and outside of it thats why) Do you think i am a simp for helping this chick? I saw a young dude maybe a teenager help a girl with her weights and she just came in(i dont know if shes his sister or what) Now she just talked to me to tell me what are the weights in the leg press i was going to hop on(even though i can count) then i introduced myself and askes for her name then her family name. Thank you. Keep up with the videos.

[@jdilla4591]

Bro 😂

[@FlRElTUP]

So I am a little confused about this situation that I'm in so I thought I'd ask the community, I've known this chick for quite some time and she really has her s*** together. We've spent a lot of time hanging out but she just got out of a 2-year marriage back in January and has told me that she doesn't want a relationship right away which is understandable. Whenever we go out to eat when it comes to the check either I pay it or she does without question, shes 33 (I'm 36) with no kids, great job and ambitious but my biggest hang up with her is that she has a guy friend who she works with, goes to the gym with and goes hunting with. When I spend time with her whenever he texts she responds immediately, she does the same for me but its still eats at me.

[@EpticityOG]

If they’re sleeping together, then it’s simple move on and find someone better. If they’re not, stop giving her so much of your time make her earn your time and energy. This guy friend could be a simp that is probably trying to get her to get with him, she definitely has him in the friend zone back up plan spot. Stay busy and don’t give in to her, make her give in to you.

[@zegy8454]

The guy who took the Asian girl on that first date is the simp final boss

[@aminatabarrie9518]

Please tell me were you got this jacket from.

[@rickyfactz]

So all about experiences

[@robertshade8631]

Darn this video was on tap and target.

[@Krispy4real]

If you have a little respect for yourself you won’t be able to be a simp.

[@drewmcintyre7870]

WHAT?! Sending u money🤯 dafuq

[@bmoresweetz7023]

Hmm is there any ways this guy thought about putting this in a book or something

[@johnmoran3204]

Josten. You need more experience. A woman will ask for a favor because she wants an excuse to be around you. The difference is, is it something she could actually do easily without you? Is it the beginning of knowing her or the first contact? Displaying kindness is an asset, displaying weakness obviously is NOT! She needs to know and feel that you are letting your guard down, but can remove the kindness as soon as you choose. Then she feels that she won you over, which she craves, as long as its not too easy. Part 2 ..... if a woman is bitching about her old man to me..... I know I'm in there! She is signaling that she views you as the better option, and setting the stage to make a change but avoiding accountability because it can't be her fault. The rest is right, but the first 2 can only be in the very beginning and not continued behavior. You must show what you are capable of, which is what she craves. Love triangles are for the girls who you just wamt to smash and keep on a rotation while her BF deals with the bad side of the woman, and you get the good side, until you have used it up. If she will do it to him, she will do it to you, so never invest in her. Use her like she is using him and thinks she is using you. (You owe it to all men including her simp, to play her until she learns from her miatakes, its Bro code!) Having a girl in the background removes that single stink that women subconsciously pick up on, you just act differently because you have nothing to lose. Her friends will wamt you. Nailing a simps woman is a feeling like no other. Its like robbing a bank without a mask or a gun amd just walking away with a strut. I am the guy that women have simps drive them to meet,and think about me whenever she is with him. I am the one their friends and sisters try to steal.

[@JostenJ]

I never knew I’d be so important that I’d garner this type of attention it’s insane. Dude if you know more than me just ignore me and live your life or start a KZbin and teach guys “the real” 🧠💡

[@XtraCryspy]

My ex hit me up when she was stranded on the road about 2 hours away and needed a ride. She was stuck wit her brother and sister after a car accident. I picked her up and was feelin real simp-ish on the way. But when I seen she really was fkd up and they needed help frfr I felt better. She was butt hurt when I asked for that gas money at the end and didn’t chase her. Now she in my pocket even while she wit another nigga

[@iananderson606]

I just went on a first date recently. We had a couple drinks at a Mexican place and made out a little afterwards, we're planning on dinner and a museum. So far we've been doing half and half on bills and having conversations about Japan and stuff of the like. How long should. I wait to start really putting the moves on for bad room action? I like her enough to want to get to know her, but I don't want to come off as a simp either. Any guidance someone can offer?

[@spiritualgod2798]

You already are a simp bro, she’s running game on you. & your already in love

[@iamdjgwiz]

Let him cook 🗣️