HOW TO KNOW IF YOU'RE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP | RELATIONSHIP ADVICE / BOY TALK

[@Patti-1962]

I actually grew up in a "toxic" household. So, I was determined to have a calm, peaceful relationship with my soulmate. I met him when I was 26. He was a "smart, nice guy." That was 32 years ago, and I still love him more and more everyday! I am very ill, and he has taken over shopping, cooking, cleaning etc. He is amazing. I am also so proud to be with him, and I can see friends of mine who are STILL in toxic relationships. My husband and I started as friends for quite a while because we took it to the next level! Em, your almost at 1M subs!!!! WHOO HOO!!

[@Zoe-ki5qe]

I’ve had a boyfriend for 5 years but when a guy hits on me or asks me out I never say “no, I have a boyfriend” because often men respect another mans “property” more than a woman’s right to refuse and that annoys me so much so I never give them the opportunity to be like oh ok fine I respect the guy they should respect your right to choose!

[@zoryw6022]

How someone cheated on you two blows my mind totally their loss. It's great you've both taken bad situations and are now trying to help others x

[@Emshelx]

YAY!!! So excited. Loved filming this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Em and Em haha! Xxx

[@EmilyCanham]

This was such fun!!! So glad with how they came out xx

[@robloxskateboarding762]

Emily Canham ❤️❤️💘 I am 7 and I watch you every day

[@Sandra-zj5bu]

I love how honest you were throughout the video, really enjoyed it.

[@abbibaigent3408]

thank you so much for doing this.. i’ve been in a relationship almost 4 1/2 years and even though we’re really happy, some of the things mentioned like the ‘overthinking’, i can really relate to! however, it’s nice to know that i’m not the only one that’s experienced this and your advice is so helpful that i hope to take it onboard and hopefully become a better partner❤️

[@karolinase7000]

why would anyone cheat on emily.....like for real whyyy? she is so beautiful inside and outside

[@emmajoseph9216]

emily hands down this is the best video you have filmed. when i saw 30 mins i was like ugh as much as i love watching you, i really can’t be bothered, but this video is so relatable and so just incredibly said that i’m said it wasn’t longer 😂 xx

[@avista100]

I don't think you guys understand how much it helps to hear you girls talk about and share these experiences as it helps to know we are all going through the same thing and react the same way and that is ok. It gives me so much strength! This is a very important video! thank you!

[@ellieconnerty]

Can’t stop watching this video honestly one of the best videos with the best advice honestly really is

[@HansWorld]

As a 22 yo girl who follows you both I looooved this! It was the kind of chats I would have with my bff and this style video is great! More of this style please xxx

[@moagreen4405]

You guys should totally do a podcast!! Or even just more vids together. I love the two of you and listening to your boy talk just makes me totally laugh! The best girl combo for sure!! xx

[@tahminabegum7238]

who thought this collab was gonna be with lucy flight lool loving the uploads em!!!

[@mikedonington7578]

I hate arguing in a relationship I can’t stand it. 😠 to be fair though I’ve only had 1 relationship, I’m single now and im very content with my own company.

[@EmilyCanham]

That’s lovely that you’re at that point x

[@mikedonington7578]

Emily Canham thanks Em x

[@maddiephillips1937]

This video has come out at the most perfect time. Thank you both. X

[@muminah910]

can you do a friend version of this please? love you Em x

[@its_katiejones]

Its funny cos i knew this, i knew everything you were saying BUT i just needed to hear it from someone else. Love this so much.

[@EmilyCanham]

I got you babes!!!

[@YazJane]

You two gave such good advice! I’m so glad that I watch people who are inspirations and help so many people 💗💗💗💗

[@hnnh2005]

I dont even know why im watching this. I have no relationships with boys. Never have. Never will 😂 Anyways, I hope this is helpful to those who need this advice

[@EmilyCanham]

Ahah I hope you enjoyed none the less

[@hnnh2005]

@@EmilyCanham I sure did enjoy it :)

[@hnnh2005]

@@sashamckay6146 Hahaha

[@hnnh2005]

@@katiek2163 👍

[@muminah910]

both Em's have such soothing voices i could listen to you guys all day😭💕

[@georgiaholligan]

ahh Em & M 💖💖 love you 2 together, definitely wasn’t expecting it to be Em haha x

[@EmilyCanham]

Such a good pair, right?!

[@hayleyallannah5990]

unbelievably relatable!! it hit me last night when i seen my cheating ex on a girl’s Snapchat that i know, away together for a romantic weekend and I just hope he doesn’t treat her the way he treated me😕

[@fenella3071]

I love videos like this! I’ve got out of a relationship where I wasn’t treated right and the hardest thing is moving on. Despite him doing things I don’t agree with part of me still thinks he could change or there’s hope when I know that isn’t true. Thanks for filming this video. Love you Em 💓

[@RhiannonClough9896]

I actually love your hair shorter! Looks so much more grown up!

[@carismiles]

This is the video everyone needed ! love you so much ❤️

[@Ali_lamb]

Loved this so much xx

[@sarah-rr9hf]

such an important video. thank you so much for doing stuff like this! i love you

[@EmilyCanham]

Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment xx

[@SianaMorganx]

Thank you so much for this video! After seeing your Instagram post when you split up with your ex about not taking anyone’s shit it helped me to realise how bad my relationship was and made me sort it out. I’m now with somebody new who treats me amazingly and I completely agree with everything you said, it just feels so easy! Love you lots and thank you both for the amazing advice! 💖💖

[@nairbvel]

Sometimes it happens to those of us with a Y chromosome, too... When I was (a lot) younger, I had a girlfriend who I began having questions about but I kept telling myself, "I'm in love with her and she's in love with me" so I kept trying to make it work. Eventually the issues and tension and other problems just became too much to ignore and I broke up with her. She was terribly hurt and upset, and absolutely let loose as much pain & guilt and sorrow as I think any person could express... and I felt like crap but knew the relationship could not work for me. The big surprise was my entire family and almost all my friends telling me afterwards that they had been biting their tongues and trying to not blurt out they could see it would not work out. I made a deal with my family that, no matter how much they thought it might hurt, they would be honest about what they saw in a relationship. (Epilogue: Less than a year later, I was a lot happier & healthier and my ex was happily married to someone she met a week after our breakup.)

[@strangeequark]

I'm sure so many people will find this video helpful and there was really good advice ! Also Emily you look stunningg

[@holly4488]

I’m 18 this year and I have never had a boyfriend, never kissed anyone, never had a crush, never been asked out, never been crushed on , never been on a date , never hung out with a boy = no problems

[@AshleyChiaraEuphoria]

Awww I’m so happy you filmed with Em! 💕

[@jessicacharlotte2178]

This video was soooo helpful!! never been in a relationship myself but have been in a situation where I really liked someone that I was at certain times close friends with them and flirty with them but they didn't like me back and this video was really helpful in showing that I'm not the only one in them situations and so many other people have been through it and come out stronger!! your advice was amazing thank you so much!! xxx

[@rhiannegarrett4202]

Loving the low shade towards the exes🤣👏🏽👏🏽

[@mamaofparrots2914]

I love this! What an amazing video! Wish I'd seen this a couple of years ago, I'd have definitely learned from it and finished the relationship I was in. Having said that I've learned a lot and now know the signs of a toxic relationship. :) xx

[@444selma]

U guys should make a podcast!!

[@moonz-9761]

i don't get why everything in the beginning is always so great and then people starting changing.

[@strangeequark]

Thisss

[@LunaNova1122]

Do you know what I’ve realised it is?! They kinda realise that they “have you” and so they stop having to put on an act almost to impress you and you start to see their true colours 😣

[@moonz-9761]

@@LunaNova1122 i know its such a shame and it hurts si bad because u fell in love with who the was at the beginning and really made u feel like u deserved to be treated like a queen and then like u said end up showing there true colours and u just feel like uve let yourself down all over again because uve let someone fool u and then u get in a cycle where its so hard to get out off because u hold onto how they was in the beginning so bad. Ngl my heart hurts. 💔😢

[@naila612]

Super happy about the length of this video, just know I’m gunna love it by the title

[@anastasia_um]

Thank you soo much for this video. And Em's voice is so soothing❤❤

[@GAWD1997]

what i really don't like is when you're with someone and it's always the person that is in a relationship that forgets their friends, but what about the friends that forget about their friend that's in the relationship... if that makes sense?? such a good video i really enjoyed it

[@jennagugliuzza]

Great video you two! Emily, I would die to see you do a podcast

[@tinacarmichael3495]

Bless you girls deserve happiness. I also feel like people Chuck away good things to quickly x

[@abbeyftmcvey]

Never needed this video more than I do right right now, so helpful

[@gggamingoscarbossca4522]

You should do a primark grwm only using primark products ect. Clothes makeup and skincare 💖 btw love you em 😍😍

[@EmilyCanham]

Yesss coming so soon

[@sharna.clarisex]

Love this idea!

[@izzybetts8186]

the best vid i’ve ever watchedddd❤️ty helped me so much xox

[@butterfly42857]

It’s sad how much I relate to the stuff mentioned about toxic relationships, but it’s definitely so much better when you finally manage to let them leave your life 💯

[@LeahJayne]

Love you guys!!! Xxxx

[@jadegreenwood1520]

100% I find if they do it once they will do it again!!! I have had so many relationships where the trust is broken and i found it sooo hard to trust again! but I'm now in a 2 year relationship with a guy who is my best friend and i can trust him with everything and it was worth going through all the bad relationships and broken trust to find someone who you know treats you right

[@KatieFrancis]

Ahh i love this video with you two! YES girls do another topic please xx

[@mkmk3369]

Love this video and how grown up you are💛

[@aliciaward6931]

This was perfect timing I really needed this right now💜xx

[@Lola-rf6nj]

Loved this video! Where is your top from? It's gorgeous😍😍

[@alba23]

I'm here from Em's channel and now you have a new subscriber, yay ☺️. I loved the video and you girls could literally talk about beddings that I would listen to it! Lots of love ❤️

[@HxmbleLuc23]

I know you probably won't see this Em, but I have loved since your first video popped up in my face then I kept watching your vids and I love you! Your my TRUE IDOL!!!💞

[@Ni_kki__]

Great advice from you both two you tubers I firmly trust! ❤️

[@Lillysadventures749]

I loved this.. got cheated on as well and this really helped. Have you ever thought about starting a podcast?x

[@alidamagnussen]

Where is your little necklace/choker from? LOVE it!

[@tvandfanvids]

Em where is your top from? It's so pretty! Love the video :)

[@eves5245]

Literally the best advice video on the tubeeeee❤️❤️

[@nowam9071]

Literally my big sisters 💕🙏🏻

[@laras-mj2st]

they should defiantly do a podcast!!!!! xxx

[@lorigallagher6855]

Love this. Great to see u both share your experiences. X

[@KaneAndPia]

My faves ❤️❤️

[@EmilyCanham]

😘🥰🥰

[@jenniferyau2546]

one of the best videos she has ever done !! 💗💗

[@whitequeen6712]

Wow they give good advice in such a easy way to understand

[@its_katiejones]

The question about the best friend - PLEASE DO IT. Me and my best friend have been so close for 5 years (like extremely close). He fancied me for 3 of those years and i kept saying i don't wanna ruin it etc. But i thought why not, what's the worst that could happen one day and i just did it, we got into a relationship and I HAVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER. He treats me better than anyone has ever treated me. We both know what we want and what we like etc and its honestly so perfect! ❤️ Lifes too short. Its the best decision i ever made.

[@meganmartin1422]

Needed this video ! Thanks Emily and Em - this has helped so much. Love you ❤️❤️❤️

[@EmilyCanham]

ily so much more!

[@lizmac11]

Fave video ever filmed♥️

[@sharna.clarisex]

Me and my boyf are all good but I still need to watch this just because I love Em😂

[@Minniejas101]

Where did you get your top Emily?

[@user-wq6bf4sv2t]

Thanks for the help 😉

[@EmilyCanham]

Thank you for taking the time to watch

[@amyanne5299]

Thankyou guys so much! Really needed this for a friend ❤️❤️❤️

[@brittanylane4016]

My two fave you tubers!

[@zosiahoyland9848]

Where's your top from ? I'm obsessed 😍😍💓

[@CourtneyBekah]

absolutely loved this video

[@oliviasmith3217ofs]

Love this video! And lovely advice ♥️

[@stacielowe3233]

Just what I needed- thanks girls😌

[@lisadiamond9636]

I really needed a video like this 💔 thank you xx

[@hannahburke7470]

I have no relationship whatsoever😂 But i think this video will really help me in the future, thankd Em and Em❤️❤️

[@HiHi-dq6wg]

Emily=everything 😍

[@tirilskale]

Thank you for this video!

[@clocollins3163]

While you guys were talking about overthinking, I swear to god, i was literally in the middle of overthinking something😂

[@oliwiabiernacka8971]

Such an amazing video and so helpful. I love you both so much 😘❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@EmilyCanham]

Thanks a ton babes!

[@ColeyRules]

Hey girls! Absolutely love this video, I feel like I took a lot out of it! I was wondering if you could talk a bit on, being the only single friend in your group of girl friends? I have like 3 close close friends and they all have boyfriends and I feel guilty when I ask them too hang out cause I hate taking them away from there boyfriend, but then at the same time, im 25 and still living at home with my very old school parents who I have never been open with about my dating life. (Were not a very close family) all of my past relationships, (four) I have been cheated on or there has been another girl hanging around and when we broke up they got together straight away. So I have definite trust issues and when it comes to ‘dating’ I’m not very good at it cause I just feel so blah and down and I think some of it has come from past relationships but sometimes also cause my friends are all coupled up, they forget about me and I just live in this little bubble by myself and am starting to become such a home body that I hate having to leave the house :( Sorry to go off on a tangent, but what I would like you to discuss is about being the only single friend, but at the same time not actually having that many friends. Love you girls, can’t wait till the next video! xxx

[@natashafisher2211]

I got dumped on valentines day nearly 6 year ago and have never had a bf sins am so scared it will happen again I blame my self as I think he was to good for me I did tell him I had a disability and I think he must of thought I had money and he was a model how do it get back in to dating xx

[@Lyn_DS]

Natasha63323 hi girl, I have a chronic illness (which made me have even more chronic illnesses, some I’ll have for the rest of my life) but I don’t find it fair that we’re being judged on that. We are NOT our disability/illness so never settle because of your disability!

[@natashafisher2211]

Agree but when it comes to being in a relationship I get juged because I look normal and then when I meet a guy and tell them I have a disability they don't want to know xx

[@Lyn_DS]

Natasha63323 I get it.. I’m sick but I don’t look sick, i look normal except that I’m in a wheelchair if I have to walk for more than 5min because I get too tired and have too much pain but when you see me, I’m just a normal girl. I don’t know what your disability is but perhaps there is a FB group, specifically for your disability, and you could ask people there how they handle the dating situation? Almost 2y ago I got dumped after being together for 8y and I haven’t dated yet so I can’t give any tips.. just know that if your disability scares people away, they are not true friends or the right partner for you. But I 100% understand you. Know that you’re not alone 💜 xx

[@natashafisher2211]

I have hydrocephalus mild form of spine abifida I don't have a wheelchair I all so can't feel my feet no one gets it I understand we're ur coming from am 30this year and hate being single dating sites do my head in the fb group they all stay the other side of the world a don't go out xxx

[@sharna.clarisex]

A guy that is worth it will love you no matter what disability you have! I'm mentally ill and my boyfriend is the best with it so just wait and you will find the one eventually!xx

[@taraphillips869]

You’ll make it to 1 million subscribers by 2020!!! Defo x

[@megan_gr]

hey em, just wondering will you get back to weekly vlogging at some point. just curious tho as i love all your vids. ❤❤

[@poppyf13]

I stil cry over a toxic relationship that ended 7 years ago. Even though I am engaged and love my finace more than anything the things that were said and done still hurt me.

[@amypriestley9583]

After watching this i dont feel alone anymore! 😊 x

[@Letitia-Smith]

Loved this, love you both ❤️😘 xxx

[@flea8637]

Lovely podcast👏🏻like video

[@taslimahoque6234]

This video has come at the exact right time in my life 😂

[@rabbitquartet9273]

Love this Emily your such a good person

[@EmilyCanham]

Thank you so much!

[@madeleinesten6282]

Really liked this video!x

[@sophmclaren5409]

Hey em ❤️ love you so much, hope you’ve had the best new year. Just want to say thank you so much for my tarte package I have been using all the products every day non stop !!! So excited for this video 🤩🤩love you xx

[@EmilyCanham]

Ahh so glad you loved it!!!

[@sophmclaren5409]

Emily Canham ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@caitlinsharp5638]

Love you x this was amazing x

[@BeautyByJulia]

I could listen to this all day😅🙌🏼💞

[@LORAAND]

I just watched this with my girlfriend, amazing video just got a question, I had a look at what camera you use, and I would just like to ask what lens you use, is it the standard 18-55mm you get with it? I love how you two are in focus and the background is so blurred out! Please let me know as I am willing to invest in this! Many thanks and keep up the good work!💥😊

[@louiser598]

You are both so stunning and very helpful thanks so much xxxx love you loads x❤️❤️❤️

[@EmilyCanham]

ily so much more!

[@zoesmiths0.62]

You’re so pretty! Love you, and the video. 💜

[@EmilyCanham]

ily so much more!

[@miawatson1359]

Intrigued, do you think it’s bad or classed as cheating if you are in a relationship but you send an ‘x’ occasionally at the end of a text message supporting your guy best friend that’s not the person you are in a relationship with??

[@LunaNova1122]

Mia Watson no that’s not cheating or bad if it’s just one. But I’d say more than one is a bit much but still not cheating!