How to Let Go of Resentment from the Past - Jocko Willink and Echo Charles

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Excerpt from JOCKO PODCAST 102.

[@victorespinoza6210]

I remember reading somewhere that...Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Let it go and move forward.

[@trousersnakemd]

Another one is lighting yourself on fire to smoke the other person out. The smoke might bother them a bit, but you're on fire.

[@thomasreiter2367]

Read also "Ressentiment" by Max Scheler

[@eliaskaser220]

@Victor Espinoza, hahaha. That is too true...and I still do the opposite of it...every single time. Pro tip from me to me: DON'T.

[@adamtheheavyequipmentmechanic]

spot on bro, leave the toxic people in the past. the people around you help you become the person you are, they can add to or subtract from you. your choice.

[@edwardpunales]

"There should be a class on social media etiquette." Seriously, this needs to be a thing.

[@TanyerLamb]

I went through hell in high school. They were horrible and racist, and made me feel terrible about myself. After a few years later, I still held a grudge, and they completely forgot who I was; so I was the one poisoning myself with hate, while they went around clueless. If they don't think about me anymore, why should I? Talk to someone, journal, get those bad feelings out. Get it all out onto paper, and burn those sheets up.

[@patmaloney5735]

Healthy transcendence

[@Stoic_Metalhead]

Jocko: 'I didn't know it was a big deal.' Echo: 'It's a really big deal man..' You can hear the pain in Echos' voice. 😂

[@amypellegrini1732]

1:06 "Don't worry about these... humans..."

[@chaosdweller]

LOL!

[@vincenzoaudittori1490]

Most relevant line of the centry

[@brendancrews7566]

Psychological Warfare, I thank you gentlemen. You're making the world a better place.

[@ryanslife4478]

Jockos wife: yeah echo and I are friends on Facebook Jocko:delete him Jockos wife: but wh... Jocko: NOW

[@cyndirymer7068]

Bossypants. *runs away and hides* 😁

[@drew6811]

This is touchy... I'll hit up a different perspective... my wife has anxiety... what if echo and his positive energy fixes that? Am I supposed to be salty and upset as a man that my wife is looking to be uplifted? Would anyone honestly say that they are salty because they befriend Jocko on facebook? We're here to better ourselves... let's all be better... f**k the norm...

[@patrickscott2914]

Jocko havin some insecurities?

[@thebullybuffalo]

@@patrickscott2914 maybe what you call insecurities is cuckholding

[@paulmurphy3922]

As much as I like Jocko, what he says he goes against his detach principles. Also sounds marginally controlling. But whatever.

[@TheNewLifeOfFienie]

It's definitely true: the older you get, the less need for drama! 🤓 I turn 39 in July and when I think about the things I made a fuss about in my twenties.... Jesus Christ! Pointless! The past 6 months have been about personal development and I feel at ease with my being and I'm happy and thankful for the life I'm living ✨ Some say life will only start from your 40's, so bring it oooon 😁

[@thomasreiter2367]

40s are great. You start to have real experience, still young and hopefully healthy. Great balance

[@AmericanSwede1992]

39 going on 20..how you doin? 😏 🔥

[@SKBottom]

We have been socially conditioned to attribute almost magical status to the high school years. All the so-called coming-of-age events such as the big game, prom, homecoming, reunions, etc. I believe this is because of all the Hollywood movies, up to and including those 1980s John Hughes teenage flicks. The truth is, out of a 70 to 80 to 90 year lifespan, we only spend a handful of years around and with these people. It is not special, it is not magical. You were only herded in with them for those few years because of a quirk of age and geography. Your life and the real world is much bigger than that.

[@koreymiller26]

Stephen Bottom 🙌🏻 couldn’t have said it better

[@CJ-zr7lb]

Awesome statement!

[@jstnhnh]

One of the best KZbin comments I've read

[@annettehansen6047]

I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make anends be happy for them.

[@flipfilms1759]

One of the hardest realizations is realizing that the friends you thought were real, really aren’t. They don’t really care, but they’ll still be your “friend” and want things from you.

[@theriddlerUSA]

Thank you Jocko! You always give great advice and tell it like it is.

[@sharkquisha3407]

I had to remove my entire old friend group I hung out with since elementary up until college because I realized they were or became toxic and they patronized me and put me down and would do the same to other people in a way. It hurt but I removed all of them but it was worth it and from time to time I remember some bad shit but at the end of the day I'm not involved in that anymore and I also remember that I called them out and moved on. Sometimes you think you are all good but are afraid to manage some aspects of your life that matters to you, you aren't fully there yet until you complete all of your problems and that means controlling your environment completely and taking your power instead of giving it away. Truth was that people are complicated and you have to experience them to get a better understanding of how people are different and work. But I would suggest you always tell people straight up and how you feel, for me I decided to be stoic about it and that was a problem.

[@ronmatheson8614]

UNFRIEND THEM. I moved on from high school and it was the best thing I ever did. Your life is bigger than the small social/political world high school holds. Don't get stuck in old potential. Realize you are worth more and can do more. Don't become a super senior who cant let go of the glory day. Or, from what it sounds like, in this case the days of oppression. MOVE ON.

[@vincentcrowley5196]

Don't be like that guy in the Bruce Springsteen song Glory Days , who talks about his season being the star athlete in high school.

[@jaredb3764]

Great advice, dont worry about these humans. I was picked on in high school and after didnt look back...havent gone to any reunions, and glad for it look forward for sure

[@LewisBowels]

After high school, I joined the Marines and hoped there would be less drama there. Boy was I wrong. Just walk into any Exchange, walk around and listen to different conversations. "Oh Becky said this," "Jim did that," "I heard this about Jennifer," "I saw Ashley do this with that person," blah blah blah blah. High school never ends, even in the fleet units. It is sad that people do not want to let go or even say to someone "Shut up."

[@BradPitbull]

MOST OF THE GIRLS FROM MY HIGH SCHOOL BECAME FAT SINGLE MOTHERS WITH SHORT HAIR DESIGN YOUR LIFE YOUR WAY SUCCESS ATTRACTS PEOPLE

[@TZubz]

Love the podcast. Get David Goggins on the podcast!!!

[@sikhbro5421]

I appreciate you guys don't make fun of these questions. That's not the first instinct I'm sure but it's tremendously helpful.

[@Nastyveer]

Dude you guys r rockin it.....helps so much but some People r just straight up bullies and no matter how nice you r to them.... They all always hurt you somehow

[@edsjourney5536]

I literally do not even send requests to people I didn’t like in high school. Just because you knew them doesn’t mean you know them.

[@AqKp09]

Thank you jocko and echo!

[@kaspersrensen132]

Jocko quoting napoleon dynamite.. this is amazing

[@ForgottenKnight1]

1. Don't. The energy required versus the benefits of the outcome are not worth it. 2. Unfriend, leave group, block. You do not need such elements in your life. Be blunt with whom has the privilege to interact with you. 3. No need. You are not obliged to make everybody happy. High school is a very small social bubble. You will encounter more people.

[@simbadkadric186]

Maybe delete your social media. I deleted my fb. Kept the messenger and I’ve been way more productive in these 2 months. It’s kinda liberating. Try it folk. It might help...

[@218maryland]

I deleted my FB and kept messenger for going on two years now... without a doubt one of the most constructive life changes I have ever made. I highly encourage others to do the same.

[@patmaloney5735]

Deleted FB and I am much more content, which is better than being happy

[@LTLooNeYTooN]

Me too. Everyone I know who deleted their's feels the same

[@quintfl]

Being bullied has created my adult personality. How do I move on from that and create a new personality that isn't alcoholic and scared of being out in public?

[@peterfichtner1]

Why dont you watch the video...and others man. There is a solution to every problem man you do have the resources to figure it out.

[@Brancovtn65]

It takes time. It’s the crucible. The ego is what’s keeping you where you can’t get hurt. Pain through suffering, on the other side is effortless satisfaction.

[@danielwalters2971]

I like how they say revenge. I mean, the ultimate revenge is moving up in the world via the field you chose. You're so called friends don't support you. Let them be. I agree with Jocko. That's the only acceptable revenge out there.

[@M.STAR.MEDIA1]

Dudes, there's drama in "communities" on KZbin such as 1A/2A, adults! It's actually worse than high school, I'm serious! Thanks and love you guys, Jocko & Echo💪💚💚💚

[@jamesadesino6974]

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

[@jamesadesino6974]

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

[@jamesadesino6974]

Whtsaap him"**

[@jamesadesino6974]

±2348140799323⏭⏭💕💕

[@suprimacy1]

Daaaamn Jocko was all insecure about his wife being friends with Echo on facebook... making her delete him🤣🤣🤣 guess we all arent what we are cracked up to be!

[@patrickscott2914]

That's what I was thinking. A little unsettling seeing him be that insecure...

[@MattH-wg7ou]

Seriously, why you that worried about it dude? I pay zero mind to who my wif is friends with on FB or whatever.

[@SakuragiLastname9]

@@patrickscott2914 you're insecure too. Pointing out his insecurities makes you feel better about your own.

[@OkOk-vj9db]

@@SakuragiLastname9 No he was just pointing something out chill

[@pauld4355]

How much you wanna bet I can throw a football over them mountains

[@dorseykindler9544]

Stop eating all of gramma's steaks!

[@marlonbravo9466]

Social media etiquette, imagine having to take that class in High School. 😂

[@shady473gamingcm3]

If young men had a place to just ask questions to other men without a judgment being passed or anybody knowing.... lots of crazy shit would be avoided in this world. Make friends guys and encourage honest conversation. Please.

[@markportnoy6290]

And, be mindful as your own bitterness as it grows. That has nothing to do with other people and needs addressing.

[@Ash_Hudson]

Nevermind the drama, I would just leave the group and unfriend them. Don't even associate with toxic people at all - social media or not.

[@BobSmith-pi5eq]

If your girlfriend's dad is Jocko willink, you are not going to be one for drama.

[@chaosdweller]

I could believe that

[@nancyfahey7518]

You said get on with your life, I say to get a life. Redefine yourself. And for those people, when they mature they will remember how they treated that nice guy, trust me they will punish themselves.

[@NickPDX22]

Great video, something many people need help with. My self included sometimes!!

[@shawarmageddonit]

_"These people that are not nice to you, you won't be thinking about them."_ Yeah, on behalf of emotionally scarred bullying-victims worldwide, I'm just gonna stop you right there...

[@sparky12261]

Sooooooo funny listening to you guys trying to explain intricacies of how to follow/unfollow people on Young Person Media!!!

[@Hayden-bs3oz]

Not gonna lie...echos body type does NOT match his voice 😂 ...just saying 👍

[@antoineb9371]

John Smith Lol fareal. When I was listening to the podcast I could of sworn he was a skinny kinda nerdy looking white guy.

[@SKBottom]

Neither does Mike Tyson's. Voices are deceiving.

[@chaosdweller]

Hmmm interesting , I don't see it or hear it I should say 🤔

[@chaosdweller]

@@SKBottom That I defaneyly agree on

[@BradPitbull]

I RESENT MY SKINNY KNEES!!!

[@WillJM81280]

Highschool is a by and large a waste of time full of people that are so as well. If I could go back I would have graduated in 3 years instead of 4 just to get away faster.

[@fiftyshadesofurban]

4:37 I think it's up to him, but I think he should go to the reunion. There's a potential for apologies and forgiveness there. You never know who might apologize to him and then he can forgive them a lot easier than if they didn't ... He obviously has not forgiven them.. I think it might be a good idea for him to go. He can always leave whenever he wants.

[@aaronramsden1657]

Jocko stays alive by unfriending the grim reaper

[@Yetipfote]

8:29 I'm no native speaker and I didn't know what these schools are. So when Joko says "They teach you which knife to use ..." I instantly thought "Huh? They teach you self defense AT SCHOOL??" o.Ô

[@benaiahwright937]

I quite thinking about highschool like the week before graduation

[@IceColdProfessional]

Believe it or not Jocko, there are basic computer courses in college and the first few weeks they go over proper online etiquette.

[@michael-xe7rz]

High School Drama is Training for Lifes Dramas...

[@vincentstouter449]

Lean life lessons from the past but don’t live in the past. On going success is your vindication to small minded losers!

[@FINALLYOUTAFTER7]

I love Echo “ that doesn’t surprise me” hahahahaha

[@MikeSpien]

I think it's pretty easy for you to say. But this is a real issue.

[@conversationstranglersteve9873]

Echo has that scary Tyson lisp

[@n3wgen9d]

so cool guys

[@otoyoto7153]

I just deleted a bunch of people off Facebook who I no longer have a reason to associate with, had no idea it was making a scene.

[@joehurt352]

His kids haven’t had drama because those kids are scared of Jocko lol

[@damngoodlife1307]

Agree. High school is not life. Trust me...

[@sheepdog695]

Life has it's drama but it's completely different than high school b.s. Real world stuff.

[@patmaloney5735]

Philosophy in highschool would change society 10 fold.

[@ParadymShiftVegan]

Jocko got it wrong, you don't remove unwanted food necessarily through the fork, but through the same method with which it entered the mouth.

[@jeffdekimpe1746]

Resentment is a container that eats itself.

[@doublem1971]

Jocko at etiquette school.....lmao!

[@thomasreiter2367]

Bad things eather teach you or break you

[@MikeMikeYT]

Lmao the Napoleon reference

[@pyramidion5911]

Keyword: Move on 🤔

[@mremington8]

the advice is not bad. but its incomplete, instead of saying just move on, usually its helpful to expose some kind of underlying philosophical premise as to why it makes sense, how and why it effects/effected them to begin with . Wisdom sets us free, anything else is just a shallow bandaid - Jocko, your a smart huy, and these ppl are giving you the perfect opportunity to show us that big beautiful brain of yours, not sarcasm here' i mean it sincerely, dont pollyanna over these topics man

[@acontecerdigital9411]

The only way we the bullies people have is learn to live with the insults.

[@harambe1331]

And in my experience, bullies have to live with the busted up faces and then get their personality changed by me

[@FlyGuy457]

Negative emotions geared towards you needs fuel to survive. Don't feed that fuel.

[@DarkAloneMan]

"you should teach it" Awesome joke ! :)

[@idbountyhunter]

:10 Echo had a hard part with the being “Love” part.

[@totoroutes5389]

high school is a very small vacuum bubble world. a waste of time. the world is so much more with so many more good people to meet. be glad you're done with high school and don't look back. Unfriend that high school social media group.

[@roadbully384]

Kill your haters with your “snap stories” of success and happiness..

[@blueplanet87]

Not sure how jocko held court with jordan peterson. Theres a grand canyon between their intellect.

[@alexw5183]

I would say they have different types of intelligence, but I think they held court since they found common topics to speak on

[@kennethkratzmeyer6731]

How hard would it be to talk to Jocko?

[@jph4770]

Why would it be? He's a solid dude, I'm a solid dude, period. What would be hard? Other than the fact that I don't go out of my way to talk to people...

[@heartsolesneakerclub7829]

I wanna know what these vengeful ideas were lol

[@ripshannon]

👍👍

[@ashcpas92]

5:28

[@JD..........]

Jocko doesn't understand the Facebook

[@wafflecrunch]

Do you like social media and its current state? Would be interesting to get your perspective Jocko. It is hard to gage if you tolerate it, like it or what your stance on it is. Maybe you don't give a fuck about it. Would like to know and why.

[@ang47]

Why is everyone so afraid of inflicting revenge lmao. THer's this "oh let it go" common agreement that's pathetic to be honest. Not Jocko's case, but most people saying that are just cowards. Answer to 1st question: If there's anything you have to say to any or all of them, say it. Insult them, call them out on shit they did, then block them. Nothing bad will happen to you. And you'll be relieved. Oh wait. I just answered everything with that. the other option is block everyone without saying anything or delete your profile and create a new one. Start fresh, you dont need this trash

[@ang47]

also high school matters like 0% in your life. Once you block everyone, you dont think about it anymore. YOu were a kid. All thats gone

[@ClearOutSamskaras]

Immature/Mature Forget about 'drew... Where am I still being weak, still being childish, avoiding being a grown up and a man?

[@endergomez2682]

This is so funny, but social media edicate doesnt make a fuck to me. I'm skilled at pissing ppl off in real life, i hate when they try to criticize me for that, last thing i need is someone trying to criticize my social media edicate. Fuck that shit. I'm already getting that now, from some of my closest friends, and they are taking it so personal, words cannot describe. They are literately jumping inside my soul and doing audits on my social media posts right now. It's scary.

[@alexeberhard9681]

Just delete Facebook, and see if you want to start fresh as you enter a new chapter in life.

[@brandensmith7703]

A digital scene LoL OOOH NO! HaHa Emulate the fictional character "Deadpool" just kidding, don't do that, it'll probably land you in a jail cell with "big Bob"!

[@timgallegos9491]

Facebook sucks! Funny ass story!

[@michaelgrainger9946]

How to let go of resentment from high school, is what this video should be called, you don't offer any more advice than that

[@playswithsquirrels3799]

WHY ARE YOU FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE I KNOW?

[@firerose7936]

Why not just delete the social media? Just keep a LinkedIn and say you're developing yourself professionally. Facebook is drama High School Central.

[@TheNewLifeOfFienie]

Hahaha, Facebook noobs!! 😝

[@lottolaughs9685]

Jacko... Does KZbin need another Guru? Does this world need another person that has a podcast that just talks about things words topics feelings past future. Can you please give us something new? Ugh does it have to be another f****** podcast

[@technom3598]

Lotto does the KZbin need another negative commentator? Does this world need another person bitchinf about free content? Do YOU have any content that's worth watching? Do you dedicate time to help strangers?