How to make your INTERFAITH relationship work

[@Katkootahmed]

What a beautiful couple god bless you and protect you. Whatever faith you are you are beautiful, blessed and perfect. Don’t let others negativity and hate change you in anyway.

[@humayyyra]

Does anyone else see her face in his and his face in hers? Beautiful couple and beautiful message, thank you.

[@bookofthedeadinternet]

i appreciate this video a lot! i'm a jewish woman who started dating a muslim man about a month ago. my mom was very accepting because she's a jewish woman that converted to catholicism after she married my dad and i was raised in an interfaith family so i think i took it for granted that this is a normal thing. my jewish grandmother is a slightly different story 😅 it seems like a very taboo thing, especially right now, so i really appreciate your perspectives. thank you!

[@singhkingfamily]

Thank you for making this video! We need more of this :)

[@DeWonaTay]

Challenge comes when you need to decide in what religion your child will be raised, and I do not think anyone found a fair middle agreement yet. One need to submis to another at the end or relationship breaks. Reason is because, as much as one is open to raise a child with both religions, in 99% cases the other one sees this approach as non religion and this is the point from where it is impossible to move forward. Personally I agree that there are many ways to find a God and that children should be taught about all then when they are mature enough, choose for themselves, however aggressivness of all religions doesnt allows this. Unfortunately it is exactly religion institutions that destroyed more marriages then any other source of misfortune. Wish you two a luck on your your journey ❤

[@NaturallyFitNow82]

I like how you said... "find a God" cause that exactly what it comes down to.

[@DeWonaTay]

@@NaturallyFitNow82 this is how I truly feel. My marriage ended due to my husbands Muslim family not accepting our future child to grow in both of our religions (finding God through Islam and Catholicism) and my husband being convinced that His religion is the only way to find God. Sadly our life and our relationship was more then good until that point. We respected each other differences and didn't had any problems. But moment child topic appeared TA-DA there is not argue with Muslims. Their way or no way. (fact that we have the same God was not important at all) This is why I am deeply interested how this beautiful couple decided for their baby, but still I do not see that answer anywhere. And this is why I am deeply disappointed in rigidness of religion institutions who fail to put the most important thing as a priority and that is devotion and trust to only one God ☀

[@claudiameneghini8444]

​@@DeWonaTay how did you recover from that? The exact same thing just happened to me and I'm heart broken

[@DeWonaTay]

​@@claudiameneghini8444 I didn't 💔 I am sorry for what you are going through.....I wish no one ever experience anything similar.

[@DeWonaTay]

​@@claudiameneghini8444I didn't 💔 I am very sorry that you are going through what you are going....I wish no one ever had to experience what we are experiencing

[@Yolk421]

For anyone that’s a Christian; don’t do this. In the Bible it says not to marry a nonbeliever; meaning someone who does not have the same faith as you. It will cause you and your kids to stray away.

[@Onthecoach]

Please do a video how you tell you family and there reaction. I’m dating a Muslim girl for 6 months we are trying to move in to the next chapter of our life. But we don’t know how to handle the family situation

[@DixieFaukner]

what country are you from?

[@jh1362]

She probably has to leave her family. Maybe they will stay in touch after a few months or years, but you can never expect a peaceful solution here. Dating a non-muslim man as a muslim woman is sin, it’s even a sin for her father, wish you luck.

[@trendafile6356]

It depends on how strict the family is. How r u now?

[@aminaaden2921]

​@@AdnanAhmed-cp2fz Get her converted? Why would she convert as if she don't have her own beliefs? I hope she never convert.

[@aminaaden2921]

​@@jh1362Why leave her family for a man she just met and got to know? Whom also can leave her tomorrow? Someone that encourages a partner to leave their parents and family ain't someone to count on in the long run.

[@firdausali8470]

Sorry if this is too personal but have you guys discussed children and how you would like to raise your children if you choose to have them. As in will you teach them both faiths or will you guys let them choose what they want? I’m in an interfaith relationship too but for me the person I am with is Hindu. It’s different for me because he’s made it clear that he wants his children to be Hindu. He doesn’t mind if they learn about Islam and participates in holidays and stuff but he doesn’t feel comfortable with them growing up going to Madrasa and being devout muslims. He has also stated to me that he wants me to practice on holidays and his religious prayers. Idk what to do tbh. I want my potential future children to have the option to learn both faiths fully and to be able to practice what they feel most comfortable in. My partner and I have been together since we were 21 and I’m turning 25 this year. We met in college. I love him and feel comfortable with him, but I don’t want to give up my faith just to be married or compromise on aspects of my culture either like taking his last name . I also don’t want him to change his faith to be with me.Both our families are religious and traditional. My parents have made it clear they want me to marry a muslim man only. They are aware of my relationship but they told me that in order to accept a marriage proposal from my partner he needs to convert. My partner doesn’t want to do this, and I want to marry him without the conversation. We are both okay with each other our faiths and have discussed how we want our futures to be. The only fear I have is that I may loose my family for good if I choose to marry my partner and lead a married life. This would all be due to religion also. The other side of this thought is that I don’t want to marry any one else or get to know anyone else. I love my partner, I love our relationship and the respect we have for one another. Our relationship based on a strong foundation of friendship so it’s easy for me to talk to him about difficult subjects and like you guys mentioned the likes and dislikes. I think the entire religious and shunning a family member due to their choices is a stupid way to cut off your blood line. Honestly I simply can’t fathom how someone can call themselves a believer of their own faith and shun their own offspring. This is the part where I feel like even animals are better off then humans. But I don’t want to loose my family because of who I choose to marry in the end of the day. I also don’t want to live my life resenting the fact that I left a good relationship because of faith and how our families would handle our marriage. Just as a side note both my partner and I are not super religious but we both made it clear that we will not be converting to each other’s religions. I am muslim and he is a hindu. We both respect each other and don’t see an issue with practicing our own faiths. But when it comes to children, and our families reaction to marriage that’s what I fear will rattle us a bit. I am seeking word of advise given that you guys are in an interfaith relationship too. *I already understand what is stated within the Quran about marrying a non muslim, and I am not seeking dah-wah from any online scholar or self proclaimed imam so please keep your comments off if you can not relate to my situation.

[@aminaaden2921]

You might love but unfortunately he don't love you. Since he wants to change you and has little respect for your beliefs and want to impose his beliefs on your future children as if you their mother don't count or matter. If he's making those demands already when you guys are not even married things will only go south when/if y'all ever married. Please if not for yourself for your future children leave thus person and do not compromise on your values and hereafter.

[@CA-qw7qk]

That’s my I don’t believe interfaith marriages can work …the kids. As a Christian I want my kids to be Christian because….it’s the truth for me and I’m sure a Muslim man believes Islam is the truth too …otherwise …he is not Muslim or I am not Christian, that’s why I would never consider , marrying outside my religion even if it’s about the love of my life (it’s impossible since I don’t date for the sake of dating but for the sake of marriage) . The point of a religion is that it’s the ultimate truth ,from God, it’s not a way of life like a diet or a gym regiment…it’s God.

[@laernacharles-pierre7672]

I’m also in an interfaith relationship so I get it. At the beginning, I would cry just at the thought of leaving such a great man. Everything between us works great. We don’t really argue. We have good conversations. Both our families like each one of us. However, if I was to advice my kids, I would NEVER say that interfaith relationships are okay. The reason why is because in reality, they add an extra layer of complexity that isn’t needed. The only reason my now partner and I work out is because we had to sat down multiple times and talk about multiple religious subjects for houuuuurs. I had to do Bible study (I’m christian) for a whole year, 9hrs a week, so I could know what were truly my own beliefs. He had to do the same amount of research. After that, we went over our beliefs and figured out what was similar and what wasn’t. Everything that isn’t similar, we argue I’m with arguments if it’s really important. We’re continuously doing so and decided to do it for another year before getting into marriage. Look, I don’t like the idea of teaching two religions to kids. It’s confusion and we end up with weak believers. I want to raise warriors in faith. For that, they need clarity. So I’ll do the work needed and stay with my partner ONLY if we agree on same beliefs. I’m lucky, he’s Muslim so we have the same “roots”. After months, we finally agreed on who was Jesus. Now we’re talking of prophecies and fulfillment. Marriage should be two people becoming one. So my advice is: please fight for any sort of unity between you guys, but keep in mind that unity for you could look different for your parents and that’s okay. Make sure you BOTH truly agree with how things will be in the future. This won’t be a simple process, but it is a mandatory one for a fulfilling marriage. And keep in mind that at the end, your partner is who you’ll be sleeping in the same bed with, not your family. It’s sad, but if they don’t accept your final decision and you are sure of you 🤷🏾‍♀️ you’ll have to bare that pain (and make sure your partner will be with you in that mourning process)

[@laernacharles-pierre7672]

One last thing I’d like to share is how unity looks for my partner and I. He is Muslim so he prays 5 times a day. I’ve decided to pray at the same time as him, but not in the same way. I decided to do Ramadan too cause I believe everyone should fast once a year. I agreed for my kids to learn Muslim teachings/principles first, but that’s because Christianity doesn’t provide as much structure as Islam does. So they will learn how to do things as Muslim. However, I’m allowed to teach them certain values based on stories of the Bible. Note that those stories are often also in the Quran, it’s just easier for me to have a Bible that I already know. So for instance, they could learn the importance of standing up for your people with the story of David and Goliath. They will learn that Jesus is the Messiah. We won’t really go to church because I personally only know churches that have a lot of signing worship time and it makes me uncomfortable cause I don’t know where it comes from (never saw it in the Bible). However, they will hear many sermons cause The Word is highly important. Etc I wish you to have something as clear as that about YOUR definition of unity 🤍 and that you are truly okay and at peace with. We don’t compromise on peace of mind, never.

[@saneraalta00]

Going through the same situation right now myself 😭

[@vishnukamalsaini1735]

Wish you a happy Life

[@christinalammey]

Thank you!☀

[@latriciaswoope6383]

how do you pray together

[@uranienne52]

well... that's all veeeeery sweet and I've been there too but I wonder where you guys are at since the 7th of october.. this date started a nightmarish journey in my interfaith relationship with a muslim convinced and voicing that all israelis must die at any cost, blaming me for being brainwashed against the now "eternal absolute truth of his religion" ! chilling horror and sideration

[@E.y.e.w.i.n.u.l.o.s.e]

What are the religions?

[@ewablonska]

If muslim boyfriend tell that ,,u must cover body and hair, if no, I cant marry u" u think it s ok for christian to agree?

[@uranienne52]

if the xtian woman is on board with this and does not feel like her identity is being high-jacked by some dogma she does not abide by, then why not ! in my relationship it came suddenly although I'm a performing artist and literally on stage since childhood ! it has more to do with insecurity on their part with cultural/religious justification... it radicalizes conversations for even the most tolerant and peaceful relationships, I'm afraid...

[@serenequeen444]

YAYYYYYYYYYYYY❤

[@djoloffc]

Bro Rahim if you are Muslim you should believe in Surat 3:19. This is just earthly lust if you love someone really you want them to go to heaven with you.

[@davidblainex14]

would be nice to start the video w what the religions are lmao

[@hodabadri1271]

So what about the child

[@njpm]

You don't. Waste of time ahahah

[@abdulrazakabdallai3169]

Bro you were following your emotions because you didn’t into consideration about what Islam teaches when it comes to such marriages. All you are talking is your subject opinion not what Allah commanded

[@Katkootahmed]

Seems to me you’re having a hard time accepting others opinions and judging and treating others based on your beliefs. Very narrow minded and backward of you to judge others based on their beliefs and opinions. May Allah guide you and give you peace clearly you don’t have peace with yourself that you coming here deliberately to judge and make generalizations that are solely your opinion!

[@bernardSIG]

I am sorry, so say this, but there is only one way to God and that is through the Lord Jesus Christ : John 14:6. There is no different paths to one God. If that is true Christainty is the biggest CULT.

[@tai9528]

Repent