How To Master Time Management - ADHD Skills Part 1

[@DrTraceyMarks]

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[@MinkisVideos]

The Arabic and French sound a bit weird, but a great feature for now!

[@HomeboundLoveProject]

Excellent! Thank you!!!

[@AZ-cq3us]

❤

[@j.o.1262]

See the thing is, I estimate something is going to take say 20 minutes. In reality, it should probably take 35-45 minutes. And then it ends up taking me 2 hours. 💀

[@obgfoster]

Knowledge is power.

[@zara163]

Nooooo I feel attacked 😭

[@passionforhispeace1194]

That's an easy fix, just get rid of the zeros and replace them with hours and you have accurate time estimates! Sweet! I think I'm learning that I have to put lots of white space on my calendar to make up for my underestimating tasks, also just stop working on one task and go onto the next when he time has elapsed. But don't beat yourself up . . . all jesting aside, I haven't figured it out yet either. But I'm not giving up yet, I'll keep buying planners until I find a magic one that works :)!

[@conniefox2643]

@@passionforhispeace1194 ToDoIst is a great app for to do lists/time management system. The free version is great as well.

[@bridgit7330]

Welcome to my world bruhhh

[@caseyfaist7204]

I teared up a bit at the end when you broke down your advice into steps, so many ADHD videos and articles dump a big scary list of todos at people after spending a whole video explaining how easily complex tasks can overwhelm people with executive disorder. Thank you.

[@helenal4657]

Like the 75 tips for ADHD on the internet. Seriously not tackling that one.

[@JDubGirl]

I noticed that on other videos as well and I swear… It makes me feel like she really gets it! So helpful beyond words!

[@adeyosola414]

@@JDubGirl Yes, she's the best. She is detailed, articulate, compassionate and concise in all her video presentations . She's simply the best.

[@angusmorrison9433]

❤

[@kevincarter1212]

Absolutely! I always feel so dumb after videos, articles, and friends tell me to just break down things into smaller tasks and watch my time. Yeah, like that ever works. "Just do it." Ha!

[@kendigjl]

This is the most solid series of mental health videos I've ever found on KZbin. You're changing a lot of lives with the integrity of your work. Everything is science based, and you have a great demeanor which makes you a pleasure to listen to.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Nunya. That means a lot! 😊

[@fullmoonofus2683]

@@DrTraceyMarks just discovered your channel, thank you so much!

[@AngelicaKindheart]

I agree!

[@lianamorales6]

I agree.

[@pinkdolphinllc4737]

Exactly. It’s not only informative it’s a pleasure to listen to.

[@Gowaduv]

I'm guilty of the 25 minute "5 minute shower". I pick a song and try to get all my showering done before it's finished. It fulfills my need for urgency and gamifies the activity. I do the same for laundry with episodes of shows or podcasts (though I'm great at putting off the part where I have to fold and put things away haha). thank you for these videos!

[@hasj]

I also started with that, and at the end it turned into a whole playlist 😅

[@Marscandy1]

I do this too.

[@Ryker150]

Same, the song does the trick!

[@bananashortcake]

Omgsh I do this too!!

[@raissanjombog9063]

Wow, I do the exact thing

[@VladaldTrumptin]

Thank you so much this is so helpful. It’s so difficult and humiliating explaining this to anybody as a 34 year old 😔

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome McRA. It’s hard for people to understand the problem

[@natyalmighty]

Don't feel bad I'm 32 and it happens to me too

[@TigerLily727]

Im 33 and Im so over the struggle. Especially when I see myself teaching my kid the same behavior.

[@kraisri]

Im 45 and still stress with myself.

[@stoodmuffinpersonal3144]

Hey, thank you for being honest about this. I saw your comment, when this came in my "recommended" feed. I literally procrastinated on watching this, because of my own Guilt/ SHAME/Embarrassment. Without this comment, and reading it, I don't know if I would have ever come back to the video. So, thank you. It's hard to be vulnerable, but I appreciate you. Doing so.

[@mikailamccarthy6960]

Adhd culture is rewatching the video 3 times because I got distracted each time.

[@Magnoliablossom1]

Or rewinding each time you zoned out. 🙄🥴❤️

[@andymackie4279]

This is not ADHD friendly

[@3squareddesigns]

Yep or replying to comments while the video is playing. 😅

[@modev4163]

She is NOT add

[@Nemusyne-o9x]

Surprisingly accurate, I replayed this video a couple times cause I was distracted. :^)

[@snaxicakes]

Mental clutter gets purged without your knowledge, WOW. I never thought of it that way.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

😊👍🏽

[@sherylforsman8691]

Me either!

[@KyanneSummer]

That was truly true and golden. I felt so seen, it is the one thing I keep repeating.

[@flyingumbreons]

ALL THE TIME! Sometimes within minutes when I have a lot to do.

[@peppermintt3879]

That got me too! I didn't know that was possible.

[@briyemm6413]

I've always just been told "just use your time wisely!" and you have been the only one to explain what that even means thank you! 😭🙌

[@Star_Dusting]

Unfortunately people like us who truly suffer with this it’s utterly impossible to take that advice (good advice just not the right advice for us) and make good on it. It’s ok. You’re not alone. We are not alone !!! 😊

[@Sara10393]

As someone that deals with PTSD/dissociation I really relate to the loss of time. I’m always late and feel like I’m grasping at straws trying to stay grounded in reality

[@brooklynsbaby4367]

for me sometimes a few hours pass by but it feels like 30 minutes

[@sherylforsman8691]

Feel like my life is one big blur because I can't remember specifics of my life events! Its embarrassing & humiliating!

[@dumbgirl8]

This is called time blindness. You could try something called Vipassana meditation. While you focus on nothing but breathing, a timer goes off every 5 minutes. I've found that doing this for like 20 minutes helps me feel more aware of the passage of time.

[@Katie-qu9iv]

@@dumbgirl8 Thank you. I'm going to research this and try it.

[@Name-iu8bn]

​@@Katie-qu9iv Please don't fall for these "vipassana meditation"/yoga/chanting specific sounds and other occult stuff (Stretching is fine, but not the other aspects of yoga). They'd seem to give some benefits initially, but screw up ur mental health & cognitive skills in the long term. Have 1st hand experience. These are dark arts that are now given a sanitized appearance, and marketed to the ever gullible Americans.

[@luiv5860]

I’m so happy she understands the adhd brain. I was beginning to feel overwhelmed at the end. Making me question am I really retaining any of this information? Then she broke it down and listed it out so I could screen shot it. Love this series!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I'm glad you found that helpful. I realize I need to do that more. I often _forget_ to summarize 🙂

[@gaiadove]

You know what series I would like to see? How to improve emotion management. I feel like many people have a issues with how to control emotions, whether it be anger or tears.

[@daniellemartell386]

Me too. I struggle with this alot. Usually the reaction

[@AngelicaKindheart]

I am sure there’s a strong link between being very emotional which I am and ADHD. I am so aware of what I am feeling , but identifying the reason why I feel it is not clear. Anger, resentment, jealousy are the ones I would like to mange and heal from. I am understanding a little bit more of anxious and depressing feelings. But yes, a video would be great to watch and learn from on emotions. (I don’t want malice for anyone, the jealous, anger or sadness ect.. just comes up so fast and years of it is a lot on someone who would like to react in a healthier way.)

[@cellosubmarine]

Sad to see how old this comment is… I was hoping this had prompted a video.

[@Nirosha101]

Check out Thais Gibson emotional mastery on KZbin, she talks about emotional regulation in detail..she has taught me a lot about emotions

[@lbfaith]

Same!!

[@aytunayuken7824]

As a person with ADHD, time management was always the biggest problem my ADHD caused in my life. I've spent so many "oops i didn't do anything today" days before I was diagnosed. But then I realized that actually it's impossible to spend a day without doing anything if you have ADHD. Bc your brain keeps working no matter what. Even thinking about the things you should do is something. So I decided that there's no such thing as "wasting time" for me/my brain. Of course it doesn't mean that I keep thinking without realizing those thoughts. But the most helpful step for time management is to embrace the way your brain works. Bc when you know and admit that your neurodivergent brain is not supposed to work like everyone else's, you unlock the skill of saying "I'm just overthinking/paralyzed/hyperfocusing etc". This skill leads you to manage your time, too. Some of us might need medicines to stop thinking and start doing. Or you might keep having problems about your focus and execution. But embracing the fact that you're going to experience these so called problems for the rest of your life makes it much easier to live and be happy with yourself.

[@Neferterri]

Thank you x3! I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a teen. I’m 30 now and it’s still a struggle. Being late is the one thing I cannot stand about myself. I’ve lost friends because of it. I don’t like ppl feeling like I take their time for granted because I don’t. I just suck at time management when my brain keeps getting distracted by things I can do later instead of getting to where I’m supposed to be going. I’ve gotten better tho. I’ll never give up aiming to be better ♥️

[@stephanieodom5825]

I have lost a lot of people because of this also. It is horrible. I just cannot keep my concept of time well enough sometimes to keep myself even somewhat aligned. I just strive to be better, it is all I have found that I can do. Good vibes for us all!!

[@fleurpeffer5212]

Good on you! God bless

[@mortalkomment8028]

01:04 No. 1 Constant access to time pieces (watches, clocks, church bells...) 02:10 No. 2 Estimate time needed for tasks 08:06 No. 3 Keep a planner or two (daily AND weekly)

[@flyingumbreons]

Thank you

[@Autisticgyal]

You’re doing gods work

[@maiben210]

SEPT. 5, 2022 THANK YOU🙏❤️

[@wendyhannan2454]

Thank you, that’s very helpful. 😉

[@cosmicmuffin420]

Okay, I’m so messed up I started listening to this vid 6 months ago. Or, I tried, became overwhelmed & gave up onto something else to occupy that mind space. Only in the last two days have I had the discipline to really listen by breaking the vid down into increments. I started executing the plan today and it’s working! Thank you, thank you Dr. Tracy, I was going crazy and now I have hope I can turn this life around and be more sane. Much love to you for this whole ADHD series to help me.

[@robynhoney9681]

Bathroom clock! Of course! How have I never thought of this? This alone is going to make a big difference to my life. And save a lot of water. 🙂Thank you.

[@idocare6538]

Don't get the one that ticks... It will drive you mad! haha

[@kylaluv8453]

For my daughter I used a timer for the blind that counted down. Not every second buy it starts out at every 10 minutes and slowly increase frequency til l the last 10 seconds. Used that thing for everything for her. She is an adult now and an excellent judge of time.

[@Nirosha101]

I’ve had bathroom clocks for a while now ☺️, I have clocks everywhere, my dad thinks I have a clock obsession 😅

[@wendyhannan2454]

@@Nirosha101 Haha, good for you,I’m going to have clocks every where too. No ticking clocks in the bedroom though, that would totally do my head in. 😮

[@Sarah.VilasBoas]

When I was a kid I used to time every single task. Perceiving time was never an automatic task for me, I've always struggled. I remember being in elementary school and writing down exactly how you're teaching in this video. 15 minutes for shower, 20 to prepare breakfast, 5 to brush teeth, etc, and then adding it all to know how early I should wake up because I was tired of always being late and letting people down!!! I got diagnosed at 23 in the middle of MedSchool. Now I'm 27 and I still time everything, but now I know why I do it. My favorite planner is the weekly one. I NEED TO SEE my week in order to understand whats going on. Great video! You're an amazing doctor

[@Sarah.VilasBoas]

@@nnshiek5244 thank you!

[@kathutchison8567]

Oh my - I did the EXACT same thing to graduate college!! I had (undiagnosed) ADHD and received my BS Electrical Engineering by breaking down every day into 15 minute components. It worked.

[@monicasweer7253]

Elon Musk breaks his day down as well. Great information for people. Thankyou

[@ash20453]

Your voice calms me down when I am absolutely freaking out.

[@DrLizListens]

I was thinking the same thing!!

[@abdirahimahmed6449]

Yes. And the way she address gives me an energy to woke up from my bed and do something.

[@claired1336]

Another helpful tip an ADHD coach gave me is to specifically factor in time for TRANSITIONS between tasks! This could be 5 or 10 minutes, or be different depending on the amount of effort needed for attention-shifting, or time to get set up in another room, etc. Also factoring in time for breaks!

[@sherylforsman8691]

Thank you for mentioning this excellent point! Does anyone know of a ADHD coach that does pro bono work or a current free support group that could substitute for a ADHD coach?

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

Yes, and for tasks that you know you'll do regularly, it's worth having an additional separate copy of the related tools. For example, having all the mail supplies together, laundry stuff and beach supplies in their own containers makes that a lot closer to the 5 to 10 minutes that is optimal, rather than the half hour, or more that it can take to track everything down.

[@EsmereldaPea]

AND factor in prep and cleanup time. That gets me all the time.

[@red-winged_blackbird]

@@EsmereldaPea me also

[@MB-jp4hg]

Yes, break time is essential. I'm guilty of just taking a random pause to do who knows what in the middle of doing something time sensitive.

[@jcast1976]

Mental clutter, my brain purging without me knowing.. that’s been happening all my life. never heard it put like that, thank you.

[@BeccaTheBoring]

I started hanging my favorite clothes up so I don’t have to go digging for them. And I get up at the same time and get ready the same way no matter what day of the week it is so that I’m “ready” no matter what’s on the agenda. And I put everything, even silly things, in google calendar and have it synced on all devices so it yells at me repeatedly until I Mark it as done. I’m not quite typical since I’m also on the autism spectrum, but yeah. All of this works.

[@Tmcsinger91]

Same here

[@DonnaSP41]

Thanks for sharing. I’m about to give it a try. Suffering and losing friends and family.

[@melissadavis5954]

I didn't know you could have Google yell at you until it's done!!! I'm gonna check this out. I don't use Google calender because I always end up ignoring the alarms.

[@BeccaTheBoring]

Melissa Davis yeah, just sync all your devices using Google calendar (just download Google or Chrome for Apple IOS and sign into it) and allow browser notifications. Then, when you set up a reminder on one device, it’s shared between all of them. Then all of them will ping you until you mark it as complete on one of them.

[@melissadavis5954]

@@BeccaTheBoring Okay, I kinda forgot all about this until just now. I'm going to hurry up and try it right now. 😊

[@tunnasch]

I don't know if I've ever heard anyone, with or without ADHD, coach or doctor, articulate with such specificity how to most effectively sort myself and what's in my head so I can be my most productive. I've never heard anyone talk about having watches and clocks everywhere: I stay on task and on time in the bathroom in the morning - because I'm constantly checking the clock. Now, to surround myself wherever I am! 😄 I'm 55, empty-nested, and as frustrated as ever that I can't accomplish more with all the time I have, at work or at home. I actually did so much better with kids at home who structured my time FOR me. With this single video I went from being a subscriber and casual viewer, to a dedicated follower. Thank you so much for this, Tracey. I'm already looking forward to tomorrow so I can begin to implement these things. 💖

[@aja1108]

I am literally in the same boat, except I'm 41. These videos made me cry both tears of joy and pain. I'm so grateful

[@sarahplaisted5226]

And it’s the perfect pace and inflection and tone!

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” ― Steve Jobs

[@DrTraceyMarks]

👍🏽 great quote

[@CB-cj2fn]

Dr. Tracey Marks mmkk

[@thepoletutort8105]

You brought me to tears when you mentioned “Losing time”. I struggle with this often, and recently explained it to my therapist. Thank you for your videos!

[@emilyhenry8785]

I literally can drop an hour like it's an apple falling out of an overfilled basket. Drives me insane. Like, was I conscious for that hour? Was I just screaming into the void for a freaking hour and don't remember it? Because I know that task took 15 minutes. There is no way it's 1:15 later....😅

[@Name..........]

​@emilyhenry8785 That's a mood I've had the same thing happen for, like 7 hours. My adhd is so bad that I'll hyper focus on a book I'm reading and forget to eat, drink, ect, everything until I look at che clock and go eait a minute it's been 2 days and I didnt turn in that test.

[@Scooby-Snacks]

I've watched many of your videos. I suffer from ADHD and have since a child. I'm almost 40 now... I have some other issues too but the thing with ADHD I want to make changes and try to make changes but nothing works... I've tried every different organizational system I've approached it so many different ways. You make some new suggestions, I'm skeptical this would change the outcome for me since so many other things have not. I'm willing to try though. Hope to have something positive to share with the community here. Wanting to change and making change are different things. Once changes made maintaining it is where the impossibility always seems to lie.. this is where all systems are lost. Maintaining... something about ADHD, we cannot maintain a system. As soon as it's not a shiny fun thing anymore it becomes an impossibility....

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

Organization for folks with ADHD needs to come with lowered expectations. What organization looks like for us isn't going to match other people. In general, it's better to get rid as many of the things that you can before you start. A big thing though is that when you're organizing things, it's important to make it as easy as possible to put things back where they belong. If you've got a bunch of DVDs on a shelf, good enough is if The matrix is in the section that has the M movies. Eventually, if you find that you're not having trouble putting them back, you can consider worrying about the order, or you can number them, but that can cause trouble if you add or subtract any from the list. It's also a great idea to have a bin or something of that nature where you can just put things that you didn't get around to putting away, eventually it will fill and as long as you put the items away before the bin overflows, you're golden. Papers may have to be something that just get dividing into, retain indefinitely, retain until X and stored with everything else that needs to be retained until then. Indefinite retention ones are more of a problem, but they tend to be unusual enough that they aren't themselves an issue for most people. You shouldn't have a ton of wills lying around and there's only so many insurance policies that you need. But, really, the more of this stuff you just get rid of, or don't acquire in the first place, the easier the whole thing is.

[@hanskraut2018]

Russel Barkley (the guy that published the most about adhd) said: "Its not a informationdefizit disorder. They could be the brightest people in the world - its not about what they know, its about that they cant/have diffuculties (on a scale of course some more some have less DAT and so on) to use the knowledge that they have!" I know so much but somethimes i brain just forgets it blanks out or i cant remember most things, and somethimes im super good/fast and everything and i crush in onlinegames or when doing homework but that just shows me that I can do it but its extremly inconsistant and most of the time its just shut off. (happened also when i took the meds somethimes but it goes away when i cant find the perfect dosage, a friend found it and has a sixpack now and helps everyone and does tons of work, but he needs months to help other people to find it and its inconsistant and hard and everyone i know in my adhd group has different medication dosages and so on most of them unhappy but im the most unhappy of them all it seems because im bothered the most by the state of the medication / dosage tiltration help (or lack there of in my country CH one of the most rich countrys on earth -.-)

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Scooby. I hear you. This may not result in a total overhaul for you but even tweaking a few things may be enough to make some noticeable improvement. I have 2 more skills training videos coming up. #2 is in two weeks and the 3rd one on organization will be a few weeks after that. I hope you can get a few take ways that make a difference

[@tumblingrosesstudio]

Check out some of the ADHD skills videos on KZbin, they are great!

[@brindmusicnerd]

Hi there, you may like to look at the channel Clutterbug - Cas has a good system for working out what kind of organisation works best for different types of people... and she has ADHD. Another great channel is How To ADHD with Jessica McCabe - excellent resources for living well with ADHD Good luck 👍😁

[@chriskasper3914]

I learned more from this video than 20 years of therapy. I want her as my doctor.

[@jackiemasek8302]

I have ADHD. When my kids were young there was so much laundry! So I bought a ton of hangers. After that EVERYTHING but undies and socks got hung up. Undies and socks got put in piles and dumped in a drawer. As for towels and sheets, everybody got their own set. Then I taught the kids how to do their own laundry. They had their own day to do it. It’s so much faster to put laundry away.

[@litawi7869]

You were awesome. My mom just yelled about the Room being dirty even though she saw me trying to clean it up everyday!

[@jackiemasek8302]

@@litawi7869 thank you! I saw continuing to get upset and yelling as absolutely illogical. And time consuming. And a huge energy drain.

[@annegriswold9545]

This is, hands down, my favorite video that I've ever seen so far, on ADHD. I feel like you've helped me more in the last 11 minutes, than anyone else has ever in my life regarding ADHD. Honestly - I felt so reassured, supported, and relieved while listening to this. You put into words the things that I live through every day, yet have not EVER been able to actually organize into words to describe it.Thank you, thank you, thank you! I look forward to watching all of your other ADHD videos.

[@wendyhannan2454]

Dr Marks is brilliant, she’s helping me tremendously.

[@Urkowata]

>me, having ADHD >>Doctor: have a clock literally everywhere and plan things! >me: looking at 5 clocks literally everywhere in every moment >>Doc: plan little things! >me: will do! >me: want to wash the dishes, lacks sponge, goes to shop, get distracted, starting playing games, battery ran out, going to shop again >me: what should I do Done, Doc. Thanks. (Just kidding, thanks for another video about ADHD! You are great! )

[@johnkovary5121]

Emily F or Baron’s Wasteland A little red right return ❗️❗️

[@SharlenesJourney]

This is so relatable most times I just play video games and not do what I was supposed to do lol

[@pagesculptor]

I never felt understood in my life until I started to watch this channel.

[@dim7610]

As someone who’s still figuring out how to navigate ADHD, I can’t even tell you how truly important this breakdown was for me.

[@gosuperva]

The laundry example is perfect - it illustrates how breaking down a seemingly overwhelming task into smaller steps can make it manageable.

[@mkmcl5478]

Thank for this! You are the first person who descibed the time warp I live with. So glad this is neurological and not me being a slacker or a loser...Thank you also for the coping strategies as well!😀

[@Karenanneseven]

Why do I sense that fellow ADHD brains are my tribe ❤️

[@johnkovary5121]

There’s an exercise that I practice every Once in a while with a stopwatch. I sit in a quiet room and guess when five minutes go by. Hit the stopwatch And see how far off my internal clock is. I refined it by using different periods of time. Until I get my internal timing right. Dr. Marks what your point of view on this practice?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi John that’s a great way to develop time awareness. It can then help you stay on track with ordinary things like conversation, errands etc so that time doesn’t drift on you

[@johnkovary5121]

Dr. Tracey Marks Thank you for your point of View.

[@elisarizo5130]

After seeing one of your videos, I immediately subscribed! I have been doing research to understand my ADHD, which has gone bunkers with menopause. I am really learning about what to do to help myself. Thank you so much for your videos: they are very relevant and beautifully produced!

[@Mockduck2020]

Please keep making these videos for ADHD! The last person I worked with for 6 months not getting much accomplished finally said that “ADHD is a mood disorder.” Well, I now understand why we never got very far because evidently she was trying to treat a “mood disorder” when my problem is ADHD. This was one of the milder ignorant things “professionals” have said to me. I’m so sick of the ignorance of the “professionals” out there.

[@annap7678]

Agreed. It doesn’t seem at all to be a mood disorder to me. There are various reasons why mood disorders might accompany ADHD, but it’s not a mood disorder per se.

[@carolinewhitaker967]

I agree with Lisa. Teenagers can watch these videos and not think parents are nagging and controlling.

[@jasmineclair613]

You are a savior! I’m super driven but weighed down by my overly ambitious expectations for myself. I desperately needed this video. Thank you for all that you do, I am so grateful to have access to your videos 🙏🏽

[@SharlenesJourney]

I love how you speak it’s like you understand everyone and you put yourselves in their shoes 🥺 I love this it’s a struggle for me everyday I am just now realizing at 24 that I may have adhd I’m so bad with time being unorganized, I don’t prepare the day before and I think that also messes me up

[@summerdgaffney]

Dr. Marks - I wanted to share a piece of my experience trying to watch this video-- I am a woman of color who wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was 38 years old while trying to study for my nursing boards. Today I got home from physical therapy trying my best to remember that my therapist explained his thoughts on some issues I have around proprioception I really need to listen to my body when a task feels uncomfortable and then take steps to manipulate my environment to accommodate my body's comfort. Coming in the door, I walked to my chair and sat down next to my laptop. I pulled up one of your videos on food and mood..but then when I saw your face I remembered thinking some of your adhd videos also looked helpful. spying this videos title I got comfortable. I started listening and then remembered I should take notes and grabbed a notebook and a pen..when I sat back down and restarted your video I wanted to write in at least two different colors bc if the note catches my eye I'm less likely to lose it... I came back to my chair and restarted the video.(on my laptop).. My cat came up to my chair and did something cute and I remembered she needed her second meal - so I got up to feed her.. ... Finally 39 minutes after initially sitting down to watch this video I have made it to Breaking Down Tasks at marker 5:26. [of course that 39 minutes does not take into account the last 25 minutes I spent writing this/ revising this / re writing it.. (If I end up hitting comment I count it as a win-- bc usually I'm too loathe with fear of others' judgement to actually hit that button.). Now, whenever I see a video or audio book on ADHD or an ADHD life hack -- the first thing I've learned to do is check the play time length of it.

[@tia2484]

This series is such a blessing!!!! I had no idea my adhd was the core culprit contributing to so many of my biggest flaws!! I have tried so hard to be better, be on time, make a list and check them off. I felt so silly that I can't finish overwhelming tasks. It's like you are describing my situation, but with non medicated solutions! I am so excited.. going to listen to this series multiple times and buy my planners!!:) thank you!!!!!!!!

[@julieableschapin3178]

Excellent! Thank you! I have a daughter in college (second year) with ADD and I have watched each year as her difficulty with executive functioning catches up with her as the semesters carry on and she falls further behind and then stresses at the end trying to catch up. This is a solid series to help people work to improve their executive functioning. Those of us who do this automatically also can forget that this skill is a struggle for folks with ADHD/ADD so it helps us also to understand them better. Thank you!

[@Nirosha101]

I had the same problem in college

[@quoileternite]

This woman is SO intelligent ... I feel totally tuned with everything she says. Thank you. You are a gem. 💜

[@esperanzagene310]

Thank you so very much for this series. It is clear, comprehensive enough, yet succinct. Me & my ADHD brain thank you. I have been searching wildly for something like this. Your work is life changing. Additionally comforting, as a Black woman, to experience a Black woman professional in this field.

[@NothingLikeaLadyWithaBuzzsaw]

Looking forward to the rest of these videos. I listened to this while folding towels and I want to cry. I'm just getting through Judy's cycle where everything is clean and put away again, except there are two baskets of laundry left to put away. Sometimes I end up with 5-10 loads of laundry I do at once, and 1-2 loads of dirty dishes in the kitchen. BRB, getting a clock for the bathroom. Watch says the laundry took 10 minutes to fold and put away. I think this year is going to be better, and I may need to watch this video again soon.

[@mnr98.x]

I have ADHD, so I find your videos super helpful ❤ I've started setting alarms, pre completing tasks the night before (pack lunch & take out clothes) and using a bullet journal to stay organised! It's helped so much with my organisation.

[@stevensvideosonyoutube]

I respect the idea of moderative intervention. So more than one person can receive guidance at the same time, so answers can be present in light of confusing and pathological situations.

[@A_ndrea]

There are a lot of mental health KZbinrs but none are as straight forward and easy to absorb as Dr. Marks - What a total queen!

[@SparklesNJazz]

the most practical video i’ve found on adhd yet. i’m actually feeling my anxiety dissipate. thank you for making things easier 😭

[@lostvegaseve]

You described my entire life 🤦🏻‍♀️ even with medication! But starting this sounds so overwhelming!!! 😫😫😫

[@nicovalenzuela4044]

Is medication even worth it then?

[@lostvegaseve]

@@nicovalenzuela4044 yes, to be honest- medication has improved my ability to focus & handle life without multiple daily meltdowns. I still have this issues, but they are MUCH easier to manage. Medication changed my life.

[@nicovalenzuela4044]

@@lostvegaseve okay, I'm gonna start taking medication once the next semester starts so hopefully it helps with my issues😅 Thank you replying :)

[@jenjibur]

I do some of this already! I have my weekly chores written on a dry erase board to do on certain days. Laundry is always a big one that I would never finish, so I spread it over three days. It still doesn't always get done, but I can check off the parts that I did get done & feel a bit of accomplishment. I finally figured out how to keep a calendar that works for me. I keep a monthly one & have a separate app that shows me a day at a time, with the option to scroll through the coming week. And the clocks! I have them in almost every room! I don't wear a watch though. I just don't like having something on my wrist. But I'll consider it. I'm happy I managed to figure some of this out since my diagnosis 15 years ago, but I still have a long way to go! Thank you for your insightful & concise videos!

[@tillietiger1273]

I have ADHD and this video has some of the most helpful advice that I've ever heard - thank you!

[@PiccolaRabiosa]

Dr Tracey Marks your clearness and descriptive approach has helped me so much. Ive never left a comment but I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart. This is a 22 yo working girlie from Argentina that appreciates you a lot!

[@erikl4821]

In all seriousness, I have long wondered if I have ADHD that has not been diagnosed. When I was a boy, kids like me were just told that we were just "lazy" and/ or "aimless". I've learned many of the skills you talk about over my life from trial and error. I keep a daily task list and a quarterly "goals" (like an OKR) list that I consult weekly. If it's not on those lists, it generally won't get done until the task is put in writing. So I put them in writing! I still have issues, but no longer unmanageable. Not the same, but similar to your most awesome advice, which is probably better than my methods. My biggest hurdle was being honest with myself that I had a problem that would have to be addressed. Motivation comes from having a realistic task list and actually completing it. I love what you said about completing tasks as a motivator!

[@SowaScape_Premier_Landscapes]

Love the advice overall, and specifically the idea of writing out my tasks and timing each one. My main issue with that though… I have trouble staying on task, as my brain works to do “what’s most efficient” instead of what is most important. (I.e. today I went to make my coffee and morninf shake as I do in my daily routine. Instead noticed dirt I tracked in sticking to my feet in the kitchen. I grabbed the vacuum but the vacuum was full. I went to empty it but the trash can was full. I changed the trash but needed a new bag. I went to get a new bag and decided I should empty all the trash cans around the house before I tied the old bag. I eventually started vacuuming after several more related sub tasks. My shoes were in my way. I went to put them on the shoe rack but it was in shambles. I reorganized the shoe rack….. At some point much later I eventually made my dang coffee and shake… Imagine timing that. Seems to be consistent in my landscaping business as well when I do yard clean ups or big projects. The more moving pieces, the higher chance I risk going over time allocation and over budget. It’s really weighing me down

[@christamccool9993]

Thank you for taking the time to post this.. THIS is exactly my brain - allllll the time. And I work so hard not to get into that loop, that even when I DON'T bite, I'm still using that cognitive energy to STAY on task, or return, return, return to task... I haven't figured out how to navigate between the two states without all the energy wasting, but I really look forward to automating some of that process to decrease the burden... Brilliant breakdown. I am grateful!

[@roofoofighter]

Haha I can relate so much to this.

[@Tmcsinger91]

I can relate to this as I have ADHD . I’m medicated for it and time management is something I have been trying to work on as I find implementing planning and structure important . Also I can relate to getting bored easily , and having a hard time getting activities or tasks started . I find it helpful to make to do lists or planning my day . I found this video very helpful ! Thanks so much ☺️😍

[@noellerecoskie3008]

This breaking down tasks really helped me with doing big tasks that are more broad, like cleaning the house or just one room, as a person with adhd. I would just get overwhelmed by all the things that go into cleaning a room; vacuming, putting away clothes on the bed, making the bed, etc and either wouldn't finish in the time I thought it would take or just wouldn't start cleaning to begin with. Breaking down tasks is definetly a game changer for more complex tasks, to estimate the time it will take.

[@sjoestjerne]

Thank you! All those years I thought there was something wrong with me but didn't know what and why :( I don't feel passing time at all, I live in my own time zone so to say... I can't estimate how much time things will take, it's always longer than I think, when I do something I get engrossed and forget about time or get distracted and things take five times as much as they could, I'm often late and I procrastinate awfully, it's so difficult to start things, especially big, they feel so overwhelming, I also have difficulty finishing what I started, I get bored or distracted, I forget things, misplace things, or do something complex well but forget about an important detail, which is crucial, I'm impulsive, I do multiple things at a time, I get easily distracted, my mind is hyperactive, but my body is not, I'm told I'm acting slowly and undecisive. Could this be adhd?

[@tamekagilford8835]

Sounds like my life!

[@azahy26]

I've been dealing with ADHD for 40 years and this is the 1st time I find such a helpful video. When Dr. Tracey mentioned the laundry issue, I started laughing because she was describing me to the T! The information provided explains exactly what I go through each day...not finding my keys, or my debit card because I threw it inside my purse. I get so stressed out when I can't find something or when I can't finish a task because I got distracted with something else. My biggest issues are time management, organization and planning but after watching the recommendations of Dr. Tracey I feel like I can do this!!

[@alexe6406]

Thank you very much for this! I don't have an official diagnosis of ADHD, but I have trouble estimating the time it will take me to complete a task, and I'm easily distracted. I always have a fear to be late to an appointment, so I arrive extremely in advance because I don't want people to think I'm desorganised or that I don't care about the appointment.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

You may or may not have ADHD, but the tips for managing life as somebody with ADHD are just generally sound principles for just about anybody. The difference though is that for people with ADHD things like this are effectively mandatory if we want to get anything done and have it together; for other people it's just nice, but not essential.

[@Tmcsinger91]

Same here !

[@kristine95660]

43yr old autistic and ADHD entrepreneur here. I just want to say I love you 😂 Thank you for explaining things so I can understand ❤

[@sheenacouture7657]

Dang. Laying it out like that. Wish someone could have said it ten years ago! Super cool. Thank you. Also though, I have a major clock and daytimer avoidance. They both make me feel stressed. Any idea why and how to help with that? Having my day planned out feels like jail. So uncomfortable. Thanks!

[@JJSogaard]

Yeah, since I recently got diagnosed, I have been planning to see an ADHD coach when I have settled on medicine and doses. I know the coach will likely be helpful, but I still dread the suffocating and overwhelming scheduling I’ll inevitably have to do...

[@AlexaFaie]

I struggle with clocks and timers too (because I have zero concept of the passing of time, I forget to look at clocks, or have to constantly stare at time meaning I can't do anything else, plus dyscalculia messes with the numbers, and timers then scare the shit out of me every damn time because I have no way to estimate when they'll go off). The closest thing I have found to figuring out time is music. I find that I tend to be able to be more focused on doing stuff with the right music on in the background. I decided to see if it might help based on how I can remember exactly how many tracks off a certain album it would take me to walk somewhere, but to this day have no idea how long that is in minutes. lol I tried making myself a playlist filled with songs which were exactly 5 minutes, but unfortunately the styles ended up too varied for me to enjoy that mix, but I did notice that most of my music taste features songs which are close enough to being 5 mins (some a little shorter, most a bit longer, but good enough for me) that I can use a playlist of a set number of songs to sort of time me. Now I don't work, due to my various disabilities so its easy for me to be a bit lax with what I'm doing (not got any fixed appointments or anything like that) but in general music is what helps me. So yeah, try setting up a playlist of familiar songs that is roughly the length of time you want to take doing something and you'll know time is up when they run out. And if its familiar and always playing in the same order, you'll get the time broken down a bit too - like knowing that when a certain song comes on, you're about half way through.

[@sherylforsman8691]

Totally get that! I've always been resistant to time mgt., because I feel like it creates self-imposed stress! Discouraged when I don't meet unrealistic time deadlines I've set for myself!

[@sherylforsman8691]

@@JJSogaard Wish I could afford to hire a personal ADHD coach!!!!

[@p.serica]

@@AlexaFaie Late to this conversation but I also benefitted from using songs and not timers for helping me perceive time better! Sometimes I just blanket count the number of songs and assume each is 5 minutes to trick myself into building in buffer time (when they are all actually 3-5 minutes). I wanted to comment also because I recently found a way to have alarms go off and not scare me; I downloaded sound clips of bird calls, and use them as custom alarm tones. I dont get the same tense feeling waiting for them to go off and startle me so now I set custom alarms for everything (although music is probably still the most effective for me for perceiving time passing, so long as I dont get hung up on choosing songs). Having a whole ton of interesting birds also adds interest if my brain ever tunes them out or gets bored or irritated at hearing them but it doesnt happen too often. I hope that is of some help even though this comment is so late!

[@Tired_Night_Owl_in_the_Woods]

My suspicion of me having ADdHD grew when I spent 3 months without my smartwatch🙈 even having a phone with reminders always with me did not help to do some work tasks in time.🤦🏻‍♀️ I have two calendars: digital for time-sensitive and repetitive things, paper for goals and non time-sensitive. Reminders on the watch make my life so much easier😅 Quick tip: if you have a busy schedule mark the time for eating and set a reminder!

[@herrealhappiness3697]

Oh my gosh, watching the washing clothes bit of this is literally an accurate description of my life. Thank you so much for this. This really helps so much.

[@mauricelaxamana4954]

When I unfinish something and start multi-tasking, I never make it to finish my first task and ended up nothing finished at all🙂😢

[@transphotography]

Can you make more videos on adult ADHD strategies to common struggles? Your videos are so concise and helpful. Thank you!

[@SS-in1ts]

Exactly what I was looking for. I was starting to lose hope. Took a very long time to find this! Everything I’ve found helps me understand but I never got the actual tools to help. I have done most of what you suggest but over a long time of trial and error and lots of stress, this video gave me a better map in my head to understand and follow through. Thank you SO MUCH!!!!!!!

[@summerbreeze553]

That hit home! Thanks for producing relevant content

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re so welcome Summer! 😊

[@summerbreeze553]

@@DrTraceyMarks, you are most welcome! Can you do a video on compulsive gambling?

[@souvikkundu]

Doctor Tracey! I wish you a long happy life. This video is priceless. I wish someone told me this earlier in life.

[@lemoorian4549]

Are there any career choices, supported by scientific literature, that would be good or bad for someone with predominantly inattentive adhd symptoms?

[@Passions5555]

I definitely want to know. Deadline heavy work is proving to be nightmarish. But all work has some kind of deadline aspect to it. 😟

[@SaiyanShinobi]

It's definitely not receptionist work. Omg how I've been at my job for nearly 5 years is a mystery.

[@tinakendall6180]

When my mother was in the icu all her icu nurses proclaimed they had adhd. They said it HELPED in their career bc they used all their time at work mostly focused on keeping their one patient alive and improving their health even on tiny microscopic levels. They constantly had their share of distractions but everything was carefully synchronized at a level that worked with how the adhd brain truly craves organization and to be able to focus on one thing.

[@HibiscusHigh]

I find that lots of external deadlines help me, that pressure. I am an event planner and support a department head. During my slow season is when I struggle even more with staying focused and getting work done.

[@le13579]

@@tinakendall6180 Structured environments, maybe? e.g. hospitals, military...

[@mistergrim_official]

After 39 years and just starting college. I've just been diagnosed. I'm trying to set aside how angry I am. And these videos, while waiting for further treatment. Are making the whole thing a bit less isolating. Especially finding out, how many of us at this age who went to school in the 80's or prior. Find out because we finally start going to college and an older than average age. Thank you so much for the channel! Just subscribed! 💚

[@kristilee2323]

Thank you! Clocks! Watchers! This is the first time I’ve ever heard this. I hear recommendations about timers and alarms. But when I’m in hyperfocus, I absentmindedly turned them off. I’m going to buy some clocks tomorrow on my way to work. I sure hope this helps. It’s been pretty bad lately.

[@anacastillo9247]

Just don’t get distracted. I would get distracted

[@rachellecoughenour7491]

thank you for discussing this problem like it is. I have been talked down to my whole life about laundry, organizing, and time management issues. It's refreshing to hear advice from someone who understands and not judges.

[@jenng5925]

Thank you for this! My son suffers from ADD (ADHD) and his management skills are horrible. These steps are a great help.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Jennifer I hope the tips help him .

[@theequeenbeast2746]

Ma'am, when you said out of sight out of mind, my unsureness about this diagnosis was Confirmed. Thank you ! I can't purchase all those things now but I will save this helpful video for later. I was considering some of these things already so this is great !!!

[@natyalmighty]

Omg this video explains exactly what happens to me almost every morning and my issues with time management, I have never been diagnosed with ADHD, should I see a therapist about this?

[@marinecases4914]

Yes!

[@patriciadavis2514]

Not necessarily! It's your choice.

[@ophirmayer1]

How to cope with adhd you ask? Just master time management and organizational skills.. Basically just don't have ADHD!! Thanks so much Dr.!!

[@KasThinks]

That’s exactly how I felt lol

[@theotherway1639]

The small book "30 Days to Overcome Procrastination" by Corin Devaso is a nice book to have on hand. It uses a mindfulness and inquiry approach.

[@thystein601]

Thank you Dr. Marks! Personal notes: - Get watch and clocks - Create time log using watch and clocks - Get a daily planner to track appointments & to do lists

[@moarroz]

Thank you Dr. Tracey...I have to leave an hour early before any appt because of this. I'd rather wait and be early than be late. Thank you for the helpful video. I will try to implement these tools :)

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Good for you Mo! Some people can’t handle sitting idle while they waited or an appt. that’s how they can be chronically late. Better late than wait. I hope you find some use for these tips. I have 2 more skills training videos coming up. Stay tuned

[@moarroz]

@@DrTraceyMarks Indeed...I had many consequences before I learned to force myself to do it. I usually find they take me in early so i justify it lol. I look forward to more tips *I'll take all the help i can get* I really like the tip about splitting tasks into sub-tasks. I will work on that specifically.

[@TaniaPeterson-f9e]

Absolutely amazing! I just subscribed. So many of these ADHD traits I shamed myself over. In my 50s my son said, “Mom, you have ADHD.” I’m not officially diagnosed, but clearly have so many symptoms which explains so much. Now I don’t shame i just implement new strategies. Thank you for such amazing insight. I feel like you’ve known me for years.

[@ykubba]

This video has been a GAME CHANGER. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I’ve been wearing a watch since high school, but the clock in the bathroom/bedroom top is a game changer! Most effective ADHD-specific tips I’ve found, yet!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

WATCH NEXT - *HOW TO PUSH THROUGH TASKS* kzbin.info/www/bejne/r5uZkGSqZrV0mac

[@cowboycody8094]

Could you spice your videos up to keep the intrest of adhd people.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

@@cowboycody8094 If I knew what kind of spice to add, it would be in there. If you have a specific suggestion, I'm all ears.

[@cowboycody8094]

@@DrTraceyMarks Well I really like all the information you had and it was somewhat that Julie interesting I guess what I think of is a channel similar to how to 80HD. There's a little bit of background music some more energy in it and it's just a little bit funner to watch.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

@@cowboycody8094 yep funny isn’t my strength. Very true.

[@cowboycody8094]

@@DrTraceyMarks I meant more fun to watch. Anyways it's still good content and you make it more accessible than some of the ADHD videos out there. Have you ever considered doing a video on ADHD in addiction?

[@stephanietitler6318]

This is the most important video I have ever watched . I love how it’s science based.

[@ovalmuttz7479]

the problem i have with scheduling my time is that it seems like i'm programming myself like a robot and my "anarchist" spirit hates that, so I never fully follow my own schedules hahah

[@woopdee77]

Me too. It has gotten better has I’ve grown older, but I still struggle with incorporating things that would objectively make my life easier if the anarchist in me feels threatened by any sense of conformity. It’s annoying. :(

[@af-yz5fd]

Thank you so much. I'm Japanese who studying English,and ADHD. So,your video is very helpful in both of them for me. My life quality is improving day by day,because of you. I wanna say again thank you so much!!

[@jassmine3392]

Anybody else feeling anxiety about how this describes you to a T but haven’t ever been diagnosed? 😢

[@santiagobydesign]

I love how clearly you explain these concepts that might seem quite simple, but they get complicated for us with ADHD. Thank you! 🙌🏻☀️

[@anjaajane3719]

I do not have adhd (I don't think), but this video was very helpful!

[@SamuelHarrislandsgenesis2]

Yes. Very helpful indeed 👍

[@hanskraut2018]

If u dont have it u cant say that its helpfull -.-, thank u for the strategys of a non adhd person for adhd people why can u tell disabled people how to walk better next

[@DrTraceyMarks]

So glad it was helpful for both of you @Anjaa and @Samuel

[@andrew8337]

I was scrolling through KZbin 3 days ago at 2am and this woman randomly shows up in my feed. I have just had my entire life make sense in the last 3 days after watching this adhd series. I’ve watched every video 3 times because I keep spacing out in the middle of them, but I am picking up useful tools that are seriously helping me.

[@wendybaines4326]

Thank you for creating this video. I recently learned that I have ADHD and I am in the process of learning how people with ADHD get things done in their day-to-day lives. I did recently purchase a watch for the very reason that you mentioned. Yes, I will add clocks to every room help me be more aware of the passing of time. Yes, I do lose track of time, frequently. This video has helped me tremendously. Thank you, Dr. Marks, I enjoy watching your channel and I am a subscriber. Continued success and prosperity.

[@kuijiblob2539]

Just the comment about all the clocks has given me greater freedom, and makes me feel more in control of my apt which makes me feel happier. Thanks! Being in control of your routine once you have one is hard.

[@emilyolive3662]

Thanks these are really good tips. I've used many of these since starting college, but I've found that when I plan things (like how long its going to take me to leave to get somewhere on time) I've noticed that it causes my anxiety to rise and I'll start to over think the tasks which makes them scary and I don't want do them anymore. I know you said to break them down to smaller tasks but once I get into the anxious over thinking there is no way to stop it. Do you have any ideas to stop this or disrupt the over thinking?

[@bsteven885]

This video has me nodding my head in agreement so much that I look like a bobblehead statue! Dr. Marks, how are you describing my LIFE so accurately? THANK YOU for posting this advice -- many people like me appreciate the effort to help us live better!

[@xxelurraxx232]

Thank you for this. Because of you, I just learned that I have been trying to accomplish a goal in one day that would take 43 hours (of nonstop work) ... Needless to say, I will be making consistent use of my planner. Thank you again.

[@britlilbit]

Why did this make me cry? It’s like I was seen. Like you really understand my time management issues! ❤️

[@carleeppalomino4406]

Wow! This whole video spoke to me and was me to a T without time management. I have undiagnosed ADHD and I am so excited to find your channel to help myself. Thank you!

[@Tamaresque]

Oh, this is so good. I started using a paper diary in the 1980s and found it was a life-changer. Now I use Google Calendar to schedule, but I still miss out on doing the check it out at the beginning and end of the day bit, and I also get totally distracted during the day. How to stay on track is a BIG one! I love how you jiggle in place as you talk. ☺ It looks so friendly and natural, and because I play vids at 1.25 speed, it's quite noticeable to me.

[@Juicylock261]

WOW THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO I HAVE SEEN FOR ADHD SELF DEVELOPMENT. This is going to change my life. Thank you. I never knew what the problem was I thought I just needed to move quicker but the time planning and timing will be life changing

[@glitteryroses]

The best thing about you is just how accurately you have understood ADHD because this is literally EXACTLY what goes on in my head