How To Overcome Social Anxiety - Quick & Lasting Impact

[@TheHalfList]

Hey, if any of u guys watched this vid, felt some relief, but then anxiety returned once you were back in a real life social situation, here's some advice that worked for me: although I understood wat Noah was saying, this new method of social anxiety wasn't really engrained in my head. When I entered a social situation, my mind would create anxiety, simply because that is what it has done for almost all my life. One weekend, I sat down on my laptop and examined every single social situation I could think of for hours on end. I basically did his mental process (compare it to a painting, u aren't the right fit, etc) for every situation I could remember feeling uncomfortable in. It's starts off hard, but u get better at it. Anyways, after a while this new way of thinking got engrained in my mind, and the social anxiety finally began to cease. It's basically training ur brain to think a different way using repetition. Worked really well for me, hope it works for u guys too.

[@greyasagoat]

That is a very very worthwhile perception.

[@earthangel5599]

Thank You...God Bless!

[@goldenssupplementstrategie5800]

Thank you very much for sharing this.

[@josereyes1148]

good idea. i found myself doing that as well. going through situations i remember feeling bad about. keep it up! question though. do you replay this over and over again? or just practice what you said. I try to engrain it into my head by replaying it several times a week. but after awhile i get sick of hearing it and it loses its meaning.

[@toosweet7237]

I sure hope you're right, because my social anxiety still hasn't gone away, even though I try to remember what Noah said.

[@CherryDNA]

As a person who has battled with social anxiety from childhood I must say that nothing, NOTHING I've ever hear before has ever made this much sense to me. I've always been afraid of people's opinions even though I knew they weren't true, but I didn't know what to do about it. After watching this video of yours I feel like I can now finally start a journey towards healing. I don't know how long it takes to wire my brain again, but I don't really care about that. All that matters to me is that finally someone in this world was able to tell me why all these emotions inside me won't go away when I think "I don't want to be anxious." It all makes sense now and I immediately felt better when I realized that what you said is true. Opinnions aren't real and won't have an affect if I don't believe them to be true. Man.... such a powerful video! Thank you so much for making this!

[@AaronKay97]

+CherryDNA How are you doing 3 months on ?

[@CherryDNA]

***** Better, little by little :) It's been a long journey, but I'm sure things will get better when there's enough will and hope. It's funny how something so obvious can be so hard to see. I'm studying to become a singing teacher so I perform a lot. So it's one of the reasons why seeing this video had such an impact on me. Hearing constant feedback about your work and voice can sometimes feel so personal even though it's mostly just oppinions of those who listen instead of facts or truths :)

[@joshwhite-pullerofstrings9518]

+CherryDNA I agree that this video is incredible. I used to think the only way to fix my social anxiety is to buy nice clothes to make myself more attractive then practice talking to strangers and practice body language and this other stupid shit. but now i realize all I have to so is lose my self image and just exist. I think we can all overcome this

[@20cashdotxyz76]

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[@jackdelaney4082]

Josh White Puller of strings. Very well said

[@joshwhite-pullerofstrings9518]

I have begun noticing what my problem really is with your help.. I am intimidated by people who I perceive as "better" than me. anyone who is more outgoing than me is automatically a greater person and their opinion of me means a lot more. but when I'm talking to a quiet introverted person I can strike up a conversation and keep it going hours on end. how do I go about dealing with this?

[@MrsJul]

I am the EXACT same way. I think the main thing is letting yourself know that just because they're more outgoing or confident, doesn't mean they're necessarily "better". But also its up to us to work on ourselves.

[@tigershav]

+Will McCormick "Once you realize that their really isn't any good or bad in the world, only in our minds and the way we see things, then you will see that it doesn't matter what someone thinks about you because there opinion isn't REAL, it's just an opinion." WELL FUCK.

[@PurpleSoma]

Metoo!!!!! And i found out some months ago..

[@LoxagosSnake]

+Josh White Aside from how helpful this video really is to most of us, I, as much as I'm as 'guilty' of this as you, can give you a small tip. I only tried it once, and did it work! I'll try to be quick with it. So, there was a really bad weekend for me, so I started googling 'what's wrong with me', 'why am I so shy' etc. Luckily, I stumbled upon the Myers-Briggs system. Now it *is* a labeling system, but I saw through that and long story short, seeing that there are other people like me, I spent the whole week doing little self-acceptance exercises and doing my best not to care about what others thought. Fast forward to meeting with my friends next weekend (my huge crush that has rejected me multiple times included) and things were so different. No, I didn't win her over. Just, for the first time since I've met her, I managed to be *there* with her, not thinking, not trying, just *being*. And guess what, I had so much fun. This is just an example and while it might not seem like it, it is related to your 'problem'. You see, when you like a person, especially in a romantic way, you automatically assume they are something better to be won over. You forget they're a person (be it your crush, your parents, your best pal, or your boss) who also has conflicting feelings like yours. As for talking to a similar person, there's nothing wrong with that. Adding to what Noah said in the video, and while opinions are subjective, there's always someone out there with whom you're going to align. The take-away from all this is not to *try* to align with everyone. At least that's what I got out of this video. I hope I've been of help!

[@joshwhite-pullerofstrings9518]

Dimitris Kokkaliaroglou you're spot on with everything. i've noticed the same exact thing. i never realized that the solution to my problems was actually to not try at all. up until recently i always tried really hard to impress people and it became tiresome and exhausting and it never works in the end. the solution is so simple and its amazing to me that now that i am trying less and just relaxing and being myself im actually the main conversation starter in a lot of groups

[@ivon8888]

I can not emphasize how much this video helped me. I locked myself in my house. I hated myself so much because I believed the other person's opinion to be true. I was scared of being judged. I truly believed that my "flaw"( the one I was told and I believed) makes me unworthy. Now I'm ready to go out in the world. And just be without the various labels I had about myself. Thank you so much 🥺🙂.

[@Kjames9951]

Wow brother, how amazing. You just don't know how much I needed to hear all of that. I have worked for my narcissistic father for almost twenty years and only recently discovered that narcissism is a personality disorder that many suffer from. A narcissist is extremely destructive to their victims via mental abuse among other tactics. Being one of their victims is a horrible situation to find yourself in and a very difficult situation to eradicate yourself from. There are many narcissistic victims that could benefit greatly from your teachings. The narcissist's victims perception of self worth and their self confidence is eroded because the victim begins believing the negative garbage they are continually being bombarded with by someone they care for. I am only scratching the surface of the true horrors of narcissistic abuse, but I believe you are striking at the core of narcissism by teaching the following reality.... You said: "others words and opinions can't actually cause you to suffer. Nobody can hurt you. Nobody can make you suffer. The only time you suffer is if you BELIEVE somebody elses words to be true." By first understanding what narcissism is so a victim knows exactly what is happening to them, then creating a mental barrier to the abuse by truly understanding and letting what you are teaching sink in, could very well help many in a dire situation find their way out. Thanks for your help and wisdom, Kevin

[@NoahElkrief]

Kevin James You're welcome Kevin, glad it helped

[@bendietrees]

Kevin James I can relate to you. My father is a narcissist as well and because of the toxic environment I grew up in where everything I did was bad in his eyes, I have suffered so much from constantly seeking approval and validation and love, it feels like a hole in my heart that is bottomless and can never be satisfied....but now I realize, there is actually. No hole......the hole is a story I believe about myself that was first dug there by my father, and grew because I believed it....

[@mumentageldin]

thank you so much believe it or not i just read first 2 chapters of your book THE PRESENT MOMENT and it has a huge instant impact on my positive and negative thought i can't thank you enough

[@singhizhem]

Accidentally stumbled across this video. I am a very confident at my work. I am told that I have a sense of confidence at my job tht radiates. The big secret? I am the complete opposite in social situations. I always feel left out or ignored. I feel everyone is better than me which floods my thoughts everytime I am in a social situations which paralyzes me to the point that I look awkward that only makes it worse. I am a very energetic happy person inside. I am trying my best to overcome this. I am 32 years old and I hope it's not too late.

[@lorintwede6342]

My life has been stage fright, like I have an audience I have to keep convincing I'm talented and funny. A lot of work, plus the guilt of feeling like a used car salesman trying to sell junk (because I'm not convinced myownself of what I'm selling). I love this fresh perspective, we become slaves to others' opinions, both positive and negative. Thanks for opening the door and allowing in some light. Being present seems to be the key, without all the mental time-tripping and incessant inner babble. Cheers!

[@josereyes1148]

this and your other videos on anxiety are probly the best videos on anxiety I have seen. thank you, but this is a compliment so please ignore it lol

[@josereyes1148]

because its simple and just feels right. but we all view things differently like he says so maybe you got a different view from this video?

[@TrucknGame]

Honestly I'm happy to see all you beautiful people here sharing with each other how to overcome this disease.. I've had Social Anxiety since forever and in order to do the simple things in life it's tough but here's the good news, there's hope for us! We aren't just some weird people with messed up minds, we're all unique in our ways and we just need to learn how to be us without worrying about opinions from others. I love you guys we are in this together!

[@jessicaclark1584]

That's the best video I ever watched on anxiety I think. I have crazy anxiety all the time since as far back as I can remember. And watching this, I can't even explain. It's just like it all stopped. It feels like the first time I haven't been anxious in forever. I just feel calm. Hopefully it lasts and I just don't go back to how I normally think. lol. I'll have to try not to.

[@Diplodocuses]

Did it last??

[@Diplodocuses]

Vicious Drissicious Guys we should do a group and talk with each other about our commun problem.

[@jessicaclark1584]

That's a good idea. And it wasn't really permanent, I mean it's something I'd have to work on. But I try to remember alot of key things out of it that help. I should probably watch it more often until I have it down.

[@MaryJane-tr6uc]

can e make a google+ chat ? add me if some of you would like to talk

[@Kevinproducciones2]

@@jessicaclark1584 Hello jessica, ho is it going after three years of your battle?? I want to know your experience I'm in bad moments :(

[@davidmonroy2509]

This makes so much sense, all this time I've been thinking I had to counter all negativity with positivity unknowingly I was playing a game I couldn't win.

[@ihatehaters6541]

I can never look people into the eye without getting nervous

[@0persona332]

I hate haters same bro

[@grilledcheesesandwich3458]

Same, I'm too aware of myself and get lost in the conversation then start panicking inside

[@sarabeaurain3299]

And I go red really easily and that “why are you blushing?” question makes me go red even more

[@mmosagaa]

Same, for years. But I overcame it with a little bit of practice and lots of uncomfortable forcing.

[@marielaure3726]

Same for me

[@sophiesworld1042]

I have the impression that 90% of the time I am ashamed and embarrassed I can't stand this anymore!

[@GlennB9876]

Sofix Sove Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes 😊 don't do anything you'll regret.

[@lilhumblebee]

Thank you for this video. I really needed to see it

[@NoahElkrief]

Bea Brielle You're welcome Bea

[@mundoinvisivelxd1936]

+Noah Elkrief I don't agree with "not wanting to like something from you with the fear of others opinions" you can like something from you totally depending on your OWN opinion to like that ..but only if that "something" you like about you is not connected entirely to the value of others, ,,not being like a job or something ...

[@kodolight]

This video really helped me get over my social anxiety thank you

[@adeyemisegun4946]

+Bea Brielle There are a few suggestions you can try Work out why you suffer from shyness - the first step in solving an issue is to understand why it is there. Be at ease with yourself - this makes it less difficult when you meet other people. Ju?t do it - you will become more confident by doing things - especially by doing activities that stretch your limits. (I learned these and more ideas on sebs shyness tactic website )

[@leonjones8860]

Wwee

[@guitaraobscura8802]

This video is amazing. So many people have tried to help my social anxiety by saying that something caused it in my childhood, but nothing did happen in my childhood. I literally just believe other people whenever they called me awkward or weird and the more I heard people say that the more weird and awkward I felt myself acting.

[@belle3055]

That's why we have to STOP believing what people say.

[@charlita25]

I love this "I just wasn't the right fit." Thank You!

[@amymorley9505]

this is seriously life changing. in all the years of therapy I've been through, nothing has made as much sense as this and resonated with me as much as this. thank you so much for sharing this insight. I feel like I have a whole new outlook on life and like I can safely go out into the world again ☺️☺️☺️

[@KezzaMacFezza]

Oh god, he's back to change my life again :D

[@NoahElkrief]

ScottishSwallow haha perhaps

[@wanderlust5742]

You're an angel sent from heaven, thank you so much for all your videos they're so helpful and inspiring for so many people. You're very appreciated.

[@robertkeiko]

I have social anxiety (SA). When I have SA, I have a hard time conversing with people; the conversation doesn't flow naturally. When I don't have SA, I'm outgoing, fun, interesting, want to be at the center of attention, the conversation flows, etc. And that is my normal self without SA. So if people think I'm boring, not interesting, anxious, or strange, I don't believe them because I know it's only when I'm socially anxious and that I'll get over it one day. But I know it is not my true self. My fear is that I will be uncomfortable sometimes when I'm around people. A feeling that sometimes comes when unexpected. And the feeling gets stronger to where I can see that they notice that I'm anxious. The feeling is so strong that they get uncomfortable also. So my fear is the feeling I get when I'm around people sometimes.

[@lordvenus7999]

Robert J omg, your case same like me. Sometimes my SA come and go, not sustainable condition. sometimes i feel great and another day not, any ideas?

[@punkeyengineer]

Have you been able to tackle this? I'm suffering from same.

[@effortless4588]

The fearless of coming off as anxious or anticipating that you will be anxious right so you get frustrated which makes it worse

[@jhns6744]

Ive had social anxiety for as long as I can remember. All I got to say is thank you im almost in tears but thank you so much.

[@theavastark6463]

Has this actually helped?

[@jackdelaney4082]

I feel so weird and like an absolute freak because of my anxiety.Mainly because I felt like I was alone and the only one.But looking at the comments below makes me feel better,as I'm not the only one and I'm not a total weirdo lol

[@maiaautumne2167]

its a very good video for mild - moderate anxiety but not for severe social anxiety. Its not always about what you think people think. Its an actual fear of people. The type of fear that you cant eat or start choking when you are around people. where you feel physically sick just knowing you have to be around them, even people you know, when you just get into a state of being unable to breathe and your'e not even consciously thinking of anything, or cant leave the house because you just cant face being seen.

[@Kuling98]

+Marwah B Then you are just not aware of the thought's that you have. With this belief you can't be free from anxiety, be open about it.

[@michael367]

You need to discover that no matter how strong the impact of your emotions, it's always thoughts that create your suffering. Even if you BELIEVE that it's not and that "it's something else", it always is your thoughts bro. You just need to discover, find out, this truth :)

[@hajeralmaliki7312]

yes but beneath this severe social anxiety lies the strong fear of what others think about the person suffering from social anxiety. Ask yourself why they do not want to be seen? isn't it because they are afraid of what people may think of them? I think this video is quite good but someone with that level of anxiety would benefit more from one on one help with a psychologist.

[@mkgabriel]

Why do you fear people? Probably because you are afraid of what they might think. It's very hard to "fear people" just because they are people.

[@effortless4588]

If you're having a fear of people look back in your past experiences that could of caused you to label people as threats, you for sure have stuck emotions and thought patterns that keep coming up unless you address them

[@katerinazrk2609]

This was the most essential and useful video I’ve ever seen about social anxiety . I have been visiting an expert for a while but he couldn’t achieve to describe my inner thoughts in such a precise manner . Your assumptions about positive thoughts is something I hear for the first time and got me really surprised . So helpful !!👏

[@y2taner]

Where have you been my whole life!! I LOVE YOU!! HAHA

[@GlennB9876]

taner raven He is such a beautiful man 😊

[@jonnymcmurra1651]

Glenn Bill he doesn't care about your opinion.

[@0persona332]

taner bu adam peygamber... Burda bir türk görmeyi beklemiyodum. Bu adamın her videosu inanılmaz etkili. Hayatımı değiştirdi kesinlikle.

[@bonnielee7134]

Glen Bill, he’s not a beautiful man. How do you know that? These things he says isn’t his originally. Because he delivers it to us. To help us. Is he good or bad? He won’t accept either because he doesn’t want to be tied to it. He wants to be free from it. He’s just a capsule in time; floating around; bumping into good or bad but not taking up either. There is a dualism of good and bad within us that we have gotten caught up into. You have to if you want to fit into society and stay out of prison, true, but, now all of that can be changed to free us from being a prisoner to the suffering that both causes us.

[@sannas1499]

@@jonnymcmurra1651 ki

[@lenelove89]

I have no social life because of anxiety. Work sucks too. ppl make me nervous. I thought when I got older I thought I would get over this but I have not. it's a process

[@sophiesworld1042]

Don't worry darling, think about the fact that you are not alone with this. Try do write down positive things about yourself everyday..that's what I am doing! Hope you have a wonderful day

[@bond7565]

Same here

[@Laura-po3yw]

I'm glad I stuck through the video, I understand what you mean. Thank you for taking the time to share this approach to life. Battling opinions of oneself can be so draining! You've made it so simple to understand. Thank you.

[@catherinelin3666]

This was the most eye opening video I have ever watched. Thank you so much, I truly needed it

[@cocoafreak7]

I wish I had seen this video before my freshman year of highschool. scratch that I wish I had this video to watch in fifth grade xD

[@arjinae5738]

Omg same 😂

[@arjinae5738]

+Tyson Sprinter I literally do the same things you did 😐

[@arjinae5738]

+Tyson Sprinter maybe we can be friends and bond over our social anxiety? Lol😅😂

[@rondamton5757]

same freshman year was torture

[@cairoweller8964]

Same

[@guessgirlshelley]

Wow Noah, you hit a nail on the head. I will give you a small example. Almost every single day my husband will tell me I am pretty or I look nice. But if there is a day when I do not "hear" this from him I THINK, I must not look nice or pretty today. THAT is just crazy! And thanks to your words I will be more aware of this now. The other thing that comes up is worrying about how others perceive me. . For instance, I am getting older and it is starting to show physically. So I do NOT like the way I am aging (and this is probably again from a lifetime of compliments on my "looks"), and so THIS IS TRUE FACT that I am aging it is not in my imagination. What am I supposed to do with this one? I worry "they" will be thinking...oh my she is really starting to look old. Something I struggle with every day now. Why should I care you may ask, but I strongly care about this one. I want to let it go. I need to.

[@ivon8888]

I came to this conclusion. After people had opposing things to say about me. Some said to me that I'm ugly. And some told me that I'm beautiful. Who is right? Nobody is right or wrong.

[@gloomis5579]

Great vids. I finally, after 18 years of hell am starting to feel good. I finally have tears of joy in my eyes instead of tears of sadness. I can't tell you how grateful I am and will try to help other people as well. Thanks again.

[@milenitaeu]

This can be really helpful for people working in show business. Thank you!

[@marymoore63]

it's so great to know that some people feel the exact same way. every time i talk to someone i just get so anxious and it's really awkward. everybody's so outgoing and i'm so shy. this video really helped, thank you

[@SorryCrane16]

Do you have a background in psychology? Your speeches should be prescribed as the main therapy for sad, you hit the nail on the head.

[@TheOutCasts808]

I just want to say that every single thing you said in this video, I understood 100 % I know exactly how and what you mean when you say to ask yourself these certain questions. And I really just want to say. Thank you

[@Laura-mx1cu]

Thank you so much, this has helped me to finally understand what I'm scared of. I'm not scared about bad opinions in general but I'm scared that people find me extremly shy or quiet. I know this might sound weird but most people I know know me as a very shy, quiet and nervous person. So I'm really scared of doing anything that makes them think so even more. When I meet new people I'm scared that they might find me strange or boring. So when I'm with people I don't know well yet or people who think I'm shy/quiet/introvert/nervous/socially awkward/..., I'm scared to do things that make me seem strange etc. I get nervous because I'm scared of getting nervous as I don't want them to notice I'm nervous. Then I desperately try to think of something interesting to say so I don't seem like a non-talkativw, strange person but that makes me even more nervous. When I give a presentation at school, I'm not scared about what they might think of what I say but I'm scared that I will be nervous and scared. Sounds weird right? When I'm standing in front of the class, I'm scared that I might shake, have a shaky voice, speak to fast and just seem very nervous. So obviously exactly that happens. I know I need to accept that it doesn't matter if I'm shy,quiet,... but I can't. When I'm in such a situation I start getting nervous and no matter what I tell myself, it won't go away. I don't know why it is so hard for me, probably because I've made many bad experiences with being to quiet and nervous. The funny thing is that when I've talked to people for a bit and said a few things that I think were interesting, I suddenly can relax and usually speak to them normally. I know that all sounds really strange but if anyone has any tips for me, I would be very grateful!

[@Zelda--]

The same thing over here. I've been pretty shy growing up but nothing serious. Reserved is more like it. One day towards the end of my primary school, we had to recite a poem in class. I knew it by heart. In class on the day of presentation,most of my classmates were panicking andsuch because they didn't know it that well by then. Despite knowing everything,I started to mirror their worries and started feeling as if I am not so ready after all! I got scared. During the presentation,due to my now reduced level of confidence,my voice started shaking. It had never happened before then. I couldn't believe it was me. Ever since that day,I had a shaky voice during presentations or public speaking of any kind be it with a small group of friends or a small gathering of relatives or family. Let me not even start on my university journey. Preparing for presentations took a lot from me mentally,physically etc. I would even feel faint;get cold,sweaty hands;dry mouth; sweaty forehead. It was bad. And the shaky voice. How I hate the shaky voice! My self-esteem suffered greatly. Keeping a long story short,I am more self-aware,I have started the journey of unplanting all wrong thoughts that have taken root in my life. The 'what are they thinking of me?' 'Am I being good enough?' 'Look at their faces.They may not like me!' 'Am I presentable enough?' questions and so forth. It is upon that journey that I stumbled across this video. I find it quite helpful. Needless to say,being a primary school teacher and uprooting SA is a constant daily battle. Thanks,Noah.

[@karishmasharma1753]

U just exactly described my situation !

[@thehonest14]

Change the place ore city. Start e new life new people. And accept yourself that u make mistakes every day as human . Dont try to be perfect for people.

[@effortless4588]

I noticed this in myself too, you should try eft tapping on fear of coming off as anxious / being seen as anxious and do it for a while long enough till you feel calm about it

[@wyattarent156]

Recently some peers I held in high regard have told me I'm a narcissist, I'm delusional, that everything I have in life is because of luck, that I'm a coward. It hurts because I always previously took their advice and direction to heart, so when things like that are said then I naturally took it very seriously. I don't want to be a narcissist, I don't want to hurt people, and I don't think that everything I've made is just a lucky tower that's all about to come crumbling down. I can be socially challenged sometimes, but that doesn't make me a coward. Some people seem to think my social anxiety is like some kind of serious mental illness because I have no anxiety at all when speaking with a business clients at my job, but they're surprised when I can't properly apply those skills to normal life outside of my career. Then my poor self image and anxiety makes my thoughts run in circles wondering if they're right. Thank you so much Elkrief. You really help

[@AL-lo8rg]

Just listening to your sweet soothing compassionate voice is automatically dissipating all anxiety. Thank you. God bless you

[@russelsteward3412]

Thank you Noah. For the first time in 6 years I sat in a room with 25 people and saw them in way that I'd forgotten I could. I am working to try and maintain that, and I have improved so much. Bless you.

[@kpopinstyle6365]

Thank you so much. The way you break down everything simply and make realise how I'm actually thinking subconciously and made me think about what I'm actually thinking. Please keep making videos I love them honestly.

[@purplecatpurring]

Mind blown.

[@ishaanahmed8998]

Hi Noah ! I got all my answers to my questions. I am very happy now and you have really changed and transformed my life and lives of many others like me. I was an extreme introvert and thought it was something relevant but this was only a idea and thought. Thanks a lot Noah, and applause to you and that you gave all this for free. Continue your good work brother !! Cheers !

[@NoahElkrief]

Ishaan Ahmed You're very welcome Ishaan, thanks for sharing. I'm really glad to hear it

[@meikmeiker2615]

Thanks for the video! It is really important for people like me to try to get rid of their social anxiety. It's just not really a quick fix because even if I understand it, my brain has drilled very much in the last 20-25 years of social anxiety to get happiness from compliments like a vampire for blood! I hope so much that if I stay tuned it will click one day! Thanks for that kind of videos Noah!

[@Joisu121]

13:30. I really liked the discussion of not fitting vs not good enough. thank you very much Noah. you helped me a lot

[@0persona332]

Noah i listen u every nigh for 1 year. Every night and day i listen u. And there is one thing i need to say. Loving others and not judging others also helps to social anxiety. More u judge more u fear of judge.

[@na1446]

This literally made me cry when I️ came to realization because I’ve been dealing with social anxiety for so long and have never viewed it in this way. Thank you so much for this.

[@cutezombiekitteh]

I watched your videos on social anxiety years ago, and I really didn't get what you were saying at all. After watching then again now, I am having a profound sense of relief at finally hearing what you are saying. Thank you Noah.

[@dinglee9870]

wow at first i clicked on it and was like 52 mins... (nah i am only gonna watch ten but i end up watching the whole video.... i liked it very much a lot of new perspectives being shared Thank you for posting:)

[@FELENATOR]

seems like a new perspective but this is really just Buddhism explained really well :D

[@theavastark6463]

@@FELENATOR Buddhism nah Buddhism is cancer this is therapy

[@0persona332]

Noah you cant know how u changed my life. Really... Thank u a lot. :)

[@hatsunemiku083]

I'm glad I found this channel! This was so helpful, not to mention very soothing to listen to :)

[@iggymach]

I'm so glad I discovered this video. I'm in my late 30s and I've been suffering from selective SA since I was a kid (i.e. I have no problems to meet and talk to new people in relaxed environments but being the centre of attention in a group of either strangers or friends just kills me. Also if I'm leaving a shopping centre and the magnetic arch starts beeping I go red, or if somebody talks to me out loud in a public area like a restaurant or a bus). Anxiety when somebody puts me on the spot also makes me blush in a way that it is even itchy. Then my head goes crazy thinking that everybody is looking at me and commenting on my blush, resulting in an endless cycle of body-shaking, worse blushing, sweating and dry mouth. Until now my great solution was avoiding any meeting (due to my fear of being asked something and having to express myself in front of everybody) and even stop being myself in public (i.e. being the quiet guy at the back) so I am not criticised for whatever I could say. I've just being promoted and have to do presentations to my Team in meeting rooms (the first one this Wednesday) and on my quest to find solutions on my SA an blushing problem I came across your video. You exposed a new approach that hopefully will help me change my mindset as otherwise my career could be in jeopardy. Does any of your videos or book "the present moment" touch the topic of blushing? if not, are you planning to create one? thank you again and Kudos.

[@kayla5386]

People always say "your face is red." I should wear a tshirt that says "my face is red" so we can just get that out there first thing haha. It's a struggle that comes and goes. I never really see other people blush, so i feel alone in that. How do we deal with this? Just keep blushing and not care? And why does everyone care so much about our faces being red? Its like first one to point it out gets five points!

[@kayla5386]

Why do i care about my face blushing? I dont even know why its a bad thing. Its just uncomfortable. But why do i hate myself when i blush? That doesnt even make sense. I dont understand myself!

[@TheHalfList]

I miiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight have an answer to your blushing problem. The truth is, if blushing is some wierd genetical thing that happens every time the spotlight is put on you, then it can't be stopped. The thing is, you don't actually hate the blushing itself, you hate the thoughts in your head which create suffering WHEN you blush. For example, when you blush you may be thinking in your head "oh no, blushing is bad, I look like a fool, why does this always happen" then you will hurt inside and you blame this pain on your blushing. The key to overcoming this is realizing that blushing doesn't mean anything about who you are. You aren't a social anxious or embarrassed person BECAUSE you blush

[@TheInnerSession]

i have never heard of the idea of not allowing Positive thoughts to effect who you think you are but it completely makes sense and was very eye opening. this was a great video.

[@garethrobbo]

After so many years of suffering and trying every therapy in the book, I think it finally clicked in my head. You have litterally covered everything I never fully understood. Thnk you so much for your help :)

[@Zelda--]

Definitely gonna watch this over and over again. I find it quite helpful.

[@NoMortgageNomad]

Noah, Your videos have helped me so much. I've been "chasing" enlightenement for so many years...through quieting the mind, and various other ways....then I run on to your videos, and find that I am opening up in so many ways. You have a way of breaking everything down to a level that anyone can understand (not some way-out-there mystical cosmic experience). Thank You so much!! Do you have anything on how to end an addiction?

[@NoahElkrief]

gary britt Glad my videos have been helping Gary. Rather than try to get somewhere, lets see what we're mis-perceiving in this moment right now. I will probably put up a video on addiction in a few months. I don't have anything now. But, broadly speaking, in the moment that you go to something, it is usually because you are trying to escape a feeling you don't like. Try allowing the feeling, meeting it, trying to get to know it, and question any judgments about it. Or, look to identify and disbelieve the stories creating it.

[@NoMortgageNomad]

Noah Elkrief That makes sense. When I get a feeling that I want a cigarette, the feeling is that it will give me some kind of pleasure (I'm having trouble identifying what) then after I smoke, I don't feel so good about it....so I guess the pleasure isn't true. Is it the physical addictive nature of it, or the psychological? Because I know the story "smoking gives me pleasure" isn't true...so why am I still drawn to it....so hard to figure out. Thanks for your response Noah!!

[@ouroborosnagyok9306]

Thanks Cesc Fábregas

[@guersomfalcon7544]

najajjaah true , lol

[@ivon8888]

This is the best video on social anxiety that actually helped me. The opinions that scare us are the ones we also believe to be true. I had such ideas in the past as well. I was contemplating what if someone told me I have ugly shoulders(not broad enough, like the modern standard) I thought I wouldn't care because I don't believe that to be a flaw. But this idea didn't go further. Now everything makes more sense. So the first and most important thing was to realize that those opinions in my head are not true just because I think them to be true. Then I went back and questioned the opinion the others person told me many years ago. And I realized that her opinion doesn't mean that it's the truth.

[@kosmatova3325]

Everytime he says "okay?" I can't help but saying "okaay" back with a goofy smile...

[@Moesie]

Today i was in my class and to much people where staring at me, I totally freaked out and started to cry and did run out of class. I did go to home. I really gonne stop this.... This makes my life really bad... :(

[@Uneekname]

I've been struggling lately with the phrase "being in the moment" and now I think it's finally coming into clarity with things you've said. This is also the first time I've been told that believing a positive opinion has a negative effect. Crazy but so true! Thanks so much!!!

[@thehonest14]

I have tried many years to recover my social anxiety, Iv been to many psychologists ,therapists, yoga masters and nothing worked. Im fighting this since I was a kid. Im trying to accept myself that I suffer from this anxiety and I wont be better. Noone recovered from social anxiety, those who say that they did, they lie.

[@juh6107]

Those who said that they recovered actually means that they learned how to deal with it. I'm also struggling with it and I think the first step it's to accept that this isn't you, anxiety lie to us every single second on our brains, and we need to learn just how to fight it and don't say yes to every single thought that come. In the end, we're not changing who we are in essence, we're just learning new ways to see things, this is gonna take forever, but we'll know how to answer with: "no that's no true" to some anxiety thoughts.

[@johnathank7583]

wow this guy gave me goose bumps... he's the anti-anxiety guru

[@steffjoy]

Thanks a lot for this. I just found out I have social anxiety disorder. I been having this since highschool, I thought it was normal feeling that way. Just last week, I thought what I was feeling wasn't normal at all. Every time when I get assigned to speak in front, do a report or a seminar I get constantly worried even if it's weeks away. I get sick to my stomach, sweaty hands, i get all red, shaking when i speak, and would suddenly cry from worrying too much about it. I will be starting my first job next month and I've been getting worried non stop. What if I'm bad at my job? or constantly worrying what my co-workers think about me or my boss thinks about my performance. I feel like my disorder is starting to get worse and worse. Even when I'm just walking down the streets I would think negative thinks of what people think of me. It's starting to really affect me.

[@shanjaliarul6077]

I feel lucky to have stumbled upon this video. Sending love for making me feel loved. ❤

[@kyledavis2437]

Thank you Noah. You have truly given me another perspective on life. I was someone that put so much value on others opinions, which triggered my anxiety. I believe just by listening to what you have said will help me speak by mind and be the true me. The videos you have posted have made an immediate impact in my life, and I will continue to question every positive and negative opinion I hear to be at peace in the moment. Thank you again.

[@craigslist176]

This is posted from my anonymous account because I am going to say what I am thinking at the moment unfiltered. I'm truly enjoying watching your videos so far, especially how you emphasize how to come back to the present moment. In fact I think that is the best thing that I have heard from you this far. However, this one makes me question some things. Sometimes I AM wrong and sometimes there IS something wrong with me. Sometimes others are right when I am wrong. I try to do things to correct the situation so I don't repeat my mistakes the future (this is not always successful). Sometimes others are wrong. Sometimes someone that you love REALLY doesn't love you back. At all. That hurts like hell. Sometimes your current situation in life really does suck in many aspects and it would be beneficial to you if your life improved instead of kept sucking in those same areas. You need to try to improve your life if you can (at least this is what I think). You have to have a conscience. There are things that are right and wrong and life has grey in between the black and white. Don't delude yourself. What about murder, rape, deception and other things like that? I KNOW that I'm not a murderer, rapist, etc. It's not imaginary. It seems like your saying "Yay! I can do anything I want without consequence since all that matters is ME." Have some empathy. Some songs perpetuate and promote hatred and many many other disturbing ideas through their words and imagery. Those songs suck lyrically even if their music and art is amazing. What do you all think?

[@alexgreig7918]

Thank you so much! You truly did change my mindset. I've always have had social anxiety, can't make friends, can't get a job and I struggle to go to school. But this video helped me a lot.

[@qiaddictandtheqiexperiment9280]

Noah elkrief I love what you have to say about social anxiety!

[@Yingzs]

Thanks for creating this video! The examples you used in this video are so on point! It really changed the way I think about all the negative comments from others.

[@leocarvalho3261]

An amazing video and hope you make more !!!! Like the enlightenment that you bring forth on social anxiety related to other people’s opinion ! So True! I think we grow up worrying what other people think of us so much that we become lost ! Love it !

[@wowrb]

bro i know you dont feel pleasure about that, but you blowing my mind with this video!! Thanks a lot

[@juranpark2342]

Thank you Noah. Great video. So I realized there is nothing wrong or right about me. I am just me. Just realizing this helps alot to be just my authentic self.

[@Julian.Jerusalem]

I used to be a shy and socially anxious kid. My skill was being invisible to people and I was pretty good at that. I wanted to connect to others but did not know how. People would make fun of me and I would hide at home playing video games. This went on for years. Deep inside I knew something was not right but I was afraid to face my insecurities and they just kept piling up. The more I tried to run away from these the bigger they got. At one point it got so bad that I knew something had to change. So I did research. I found out that there were other people, who used to be in a similar situation that I used to be in and they were able to overcome it. I followed their advice but kept sliding back into old patterns. The turning point was when I decided to get coached. Then the real change began. Everyday I was challenged to do three things outside my comfort zone. They got bigger as time progressed and something interesting happened. Firstly I found that the more I faced my fears the less they had control over me. I realized that the fears were actually not as bad as I had intended in the beginning. Something else happened. People respected me the more I respected myself. I exercised on a regular basis, took up a meditation practice and ate better quality foods. My life has taken a 360 degree turn and now looking back I am so grateful for how things have unfolded. Now to anybody reading this, I´d like to discover what your struggles are. How is this impacting your life?

[@devonstultz4529]

I’m going to try and watch these until it sticks 😂

[@jonathonjennings6310]

exceedingly impactful in my life. I suffer from PTSD and General anxiety disorder and I have a much better understanding of my conscious brain and how I can respect others opinions without it affecting my actual reality. Thank you very much Noah!

[@yugiohproplays]

im a senior in high school thanks alot for this video its helped me like crazy idont care about what other think about anymore i finally got over my shyness and talk to girls and finally got my first girlfriend

[@eurovisionspain272]

My anxiety has been so bad for the last years, it's just ruining my life and all my chances to become the person that I really want to be. Every week I promise myself I'll change, set unrealistic goals and pretend anxiety has dissapeared, but this is just making is worse. I'm at minute 25:00 of the video and I already have changed my mind set a lot, I just have to say, thanks man, I feel like this time it's just going to be different!

[@cherdaniels7775]

Thankyou so much , I have extreme anxiety and listening to you as made this day a less anxious day . I shall be listening to you again and thankyou for ur help :)

[@loridunstan1129]

I think your video may have just given me the way to understand this anxiety, that will help me break through it!! 47 years of it! I've done a lot of meditations on it, read tons, but I've never heard it explained this way before (and I have a psychology degree too). It totally makes sense!! Thank you thank you thank you! 💗🙏🌈

[@Wonderwita]

Ok noah..well noted.. U're so true.. I feel so vulnerable n so anxious with other people's opinion.. It's pretty matters for me.. Let's embrace tomorrow with high self esteem n let's give big smiles to anyone surround us 🌼 🌼

[@eylularif7812]

Thank you Noah, experiencing profound shifts after discovering your channel and videos, really appreciate this content

[@dancingdooners854]

I think you're an inspiration!! Thank you!!!

[@burgundyknight6826]

I subscribed and going to check out your other videos. I recently discovered I have high blood pressure and I figured out that it's social phobias that are increasing it, especially when I'm getting it checked. I have fears of blushing in public and eating in public, I just been dealing with it not letting it stop be but it has got to the point when I'm now hypertensive. You video has brought to my attention the errors in my thinking. I will put this into prqctive, thanks for the video.

[@AngelTheDuro]

Hey im 16 and suffering from social anxiety. Just wondering, did you cure your anxiety problema?

[@chayagurkov235]

I suffer from social anxiety and it's such a challenge to overcome it! I feel like i am so alone in how i feel..this video gives me comfort knowing i am not the only one that suffers from it.

[@naeltorres3554]

This is a great video, very very calming. Everything you mentioned did something to the way social interactions make me feel. I have been shy since I was a kid but struggle with social anxiety comes and leaves for a few years now. I had not understood what happened what happened until I saw this video. After receiving negative appraisals of myself from cloae family I guess my own opinion of self shifted. Believing what others said caused me to feel insecure and shaky around most people. One thing I find kind of strange is that there are some individuals who don't make me feel anxious even some strangers. We also read people's non-verbals and sometimes even that causes a reaction in us... thanks for your video I hope that I can overcome this and be me again.

[@na-on1wc]

Thank you it’s taken me 3 years to find the answer. I was devastated and crippled from someone else’s opinion who was very evil. I believed her. Why I don’t know

[@RealTommySal]

I thought this SA would just go away as I got older but it’s still just as bad, maybe worse. This video is definitely gonna help me overcome this once and for all, I’ll keep you all updated.

[@xBrittBritt22x]

Thank you so much for this video. i suffered from SA since i was 12 and am now 25. This was so helpful. I for the first time feel like i have direction and control in overcoming this disorder that has ruled me for so many years. Thankx again

[@xewi60]

+Brittany Turner Im also affected by SA since i was 12 im now 22 ,i though that SA defined me , but it's not true, you can fight it and win, let's destroy that shit ok?!

[@xBrittBritt22x]

+Nick danielz Yea im wit it..let's do it 😊

[@jalyrianboy7328]

Thank you, I feel unstoppable I owe many thanks

[@happymimi16]

I easily fall asleep to these videos! It must be that relaxing voice... :)

[@MrFuzzyscreen]

I feel happy after watching this video. I do consider this video to be inspirational in a way that makes me feel happy about the future. I have always tried to look at thinks objectively and now I understand a large majority of why that has given me peace. Thank you for your words of advice!

[@sethkordic5662]

Some of the ideas in this video have really changed a lot of the way I think. I really like the idea of seeing that people aren't inheritanly bad/good or strange/normal or unattractive/attractive but they may or may not be the right fit.

[@wannabeNikolaTesla]

This video has had a huge impact on my life. I could not even approach a girl I was crushing on without having a panic attack but now after watching video three times a couple weeks ago I am comfortable with approaching and hitting on girls I find super attractive. I do it with every beautiful girl I see now and I’m getting less awkward about it each time I do. This is awesome for me and life changing

[@rickygarcha1311]

You're saving so many lives w your videos. Good on ya.

[@NoahElkrief]

ricky garcha :)

[@larisaackov92]

Thanks! This one I think is the real key for me: not to be afraid to react spontaneously, and say or do what I want...in my case usually as what would be a natural reaction to someone's words or action, because of fear of confrontation, me being impolite, and causing bad feelings in group (and judged for it), so instead I swallow, and get anxious, and lose balance, which in long term doesn't serve anyone, specially not to the group. So better speak ones mind than lose the balance, and better be you than act, when it is possible

[@ava-qx9lo]

Thank you for taking the time to make that video. I found it completely helpful. I understand your teaching methods. I just have to uncondition my mind and get healthy by putting some of what I learned in to practice. Thank you!

[@PowerPuffGirl285]

This is one of the most helpful (for me) videos I've ever watched on youtube!! Thank you so much for making this! This is my first time watching it but I can tell that it will help me tremendously in life especially in school because that was always the most difficult place for me All of your other videos seem extremely helpful as well and I thank you so much for sharing this information I've realized and learned a whole lot :D

[@NoahElkrief]

Amber Paige You're welcome Amber

[@mggangel]

Thank you so much. Im overcoming my social anxiety after waching this video