How To Reduce Or Avoid Bitterness In Life ?

[@shimankumaheshwari6904]

Topic is good...sir you have identified the problem well...but more solutions are needed...some suggestions: 1 Go to a govt hospital and see the patients and staff...when you see so much suffering patients and see that still world goes on your pain may ease (I am a doctor)... 2 Give charity...give simple Parle G biscuits to ten needy people/beggars whatever...do this regularly...biscuits worth 100-200 rs per week...you may feel better... 3 stay away from news channels, political, religion news , messages, forwards etc... 4 learn to play a musical instrument...not just listening to music... 5 play with small children at home if they are around... 6 go for morning walk daily... 7 eat more fresh fruits/vegetables (salad)

[@chandanamaitra5692]

Bht sahi bola apne..... I am 50....bht saal maa k khne pr sb shti gyi... Apna sb kuch sacrifice type ka kr dia.. Pr ankhen khuli during covid.. Itna kaam and no help... Tang aa gyi me.. I started my career again.... God helped me... Working since 2020 .. After 20 years... Bht bht khush hu... Shikayat nhi Kro. Apne comfort zone se bahar ao... Beautiful Life is waiting for you

[@jityensharma3832]

As all ways very nice knowledge sir... Kindly make a video on employer and employee.

[@indu192]

Om Sai ram ji 🙏🙏 great words this is fact we all are in same condition aabhar Dil se 🙏🙏

[@joyfullifepractice9269]

Bhut acha lgaa aapke liye

[@mamtalele5674]

Awesome

[@preetiscorner8853]

Kaun sa business start kiya apne?

[@jaishriiyer1563]

Big time Urja 😊. I am a working woman of this generation and I completely agree and relate to what you said sir. I have seen my mother and grandma just working all the time in kitchen, managing home,kids and men think that's their duty. Indian men are not raised to connect emotionally with the females of the family - mother, sister or wife. I see that it is changing now with more women working and taking care of themselves and dont give a damn about men. Women need to prioritise themselves, dont wait for someone else to take care of you. You are your own boss. Order from a good restaurant once a week if you dont want to cook, go out on a spa day. Relax your body. Keep a maid if you can afford and if you are working. Go for a walk, watch a funny series. Take break, rest your body and mind. We are as special as anyone else in this world. Self care is the best care. On an ending note, I would like to say the same thing to men as well. Don't work so hard to impress your boss. Your family is more important than the boss. We are forgetting self care and family time in this time. Just money and no health is zero happiness.

[@astharatawal9783]

Sir, my husband started seeing your videos. Fir mujhe dikhaya, ab pura ghar dekh raha hai. Just awesome. Ek ek baat sach!

[@butterflybush8981]

Yes - you're 100% right about "psychological issues lead to physical problems".

[@JyoSco007]

It's a spiritual truth - The body follows the mind.

[@geetachourasia3045]

I have these bitterness in my life... To remove these I hear songs to change my mood. At least for sometime I forget my worries. Thank God we have nights when we can sleep and forget everythings. Who knows next day maybe better than today. Hope is life. 😊

[@ushakshirsagar3466]

सर, ये आपने बिल्कुल सही कहा की 1950 वाली औरतों में बहुत ज्यादा कड़वाहट भरी है। मेरी सास का जन्म 1947 साल का है। वो हमेशा बडबड करती रहती है और ना जाने क्यों नाखुश रहती है। मैं उनके तानों से परेशान हूं। लेकिन मेरे पति मुझे ध्यान न देने की सलाह देते हैं। जो हरबार तो मुमकिन नहीं है। उनकी शादी 14 साल की उम्र में हो गई थी और 25 की उम्र में 4 बच्चे हो गये थे । मेरी तो शादी ही 26 साल की उम्र में हुई। अब उनकी सास ने उनसे कैसा बर्ताव किया इसके लिए मैं भला कैसे जिम्मेदार हूं....? और तो और उनके पति में और उनमें उम्र का अंतर 17 साल था यानी कि 31 साल का दुल्हा ..... जब के हमारा age gap 5 साल का है। मेरे ससुरजी की मृत्यु हुए 27 साल बीत चुके हैं, मेरी शादी से कुछ साल पहले लेकिन मन की नाराज़गी मुझे बातों से महसूस होती है। URJA

[@DonthekeyforJ]

Ek baar apne saas ko gale lagaakar dekho. Shayad unki andar bhari hui dukh bahar behkar Kam ho jaaye. She needs an acknowledgement that yes there was pain. Tell her you understand.

[@ushakshirsagar3466]

@@DonthekeyforJ धन्यवाद चिनू.... आपकी मासूमियत भरी reply के लिए... लेकिन वो बहुत खुसट और लड़ाकू है। एक बार उनकी कलाई को मेरी उंगलियां touch हुई। क्यों कि हम ने एक साथ दूध का बर्तन उठाना चाहा । मेरे हाथ गीले नहीं थे और ना गंदे थे पर उन्होंने आंखे बड़ी कर मुझे देखा और मेरे सामने एक टॉवल निकाला और रगड़कर साफ करने लगी । और कुछ बडबड करने लगी । ऐसे व्यक्ति को क्या गले लगाना ..... मेरे पति बिल्कुल असाह्य महसूस करते हैं। वे चूप रहते हैं। लेकिन उनसे ५ साल बड़ा भाई आधे घंटे की दुरी पर परिवार के साथ रहता है। वो अपनी मां को साल में दो बार गणपति उत्सव और लक्ष्मी पूजन के दिन ४-५ घंटे ही लेकर जाता है। जेठानी से उनकी नहीं बनती। मेरे पति भी ये बात मानते हैं कि उनकी मां का स्वभाव विचित्र है। लेकिन वे कहते हैं कि मां ने जन्म दिया है। अगर दोनों भाई एकसे हो जाये तो क्या उसे वृद्धाश्रम में डाल दूं ...? किसी एक को तो धैर्य दिखाना होगा और उसकी अर्धांगिनी को भी.... शादी में साथ निभाने का वचन जो दिया है। तो हमारे घर में साथ निभाना साथिया ये सिरियल चलता रहता है...

[@richasharma5342]

Uncle apke jaise parents agr sabke ho jayein humari generation ki zindagi hi bdl jayegi aur depression se hum sab door ho jayenge. Meri soch bilkul apke jaisi hai... I accidentally came across your channel n m your new subscriber. N yes URJA mil rahi hai😊🙏

[@gopalmali1087]

Same I also think 90% like this..now got confirmation 😅😊😊

[@kalpanakadiyan]

I loved what you said. My sister in law ...worked very hard n lost her health....i was always compared to her ....but i was this modern woman who thought it was better to earn well and keep a help. I am in good health today and my SIL ...has many health issues. I love the fact that you have the courage to say it as it is. Keep doing the good work. I felt really good today....thinking i did the right thing.....and that everyone who compared me with my SIL and how hard working she was were wrong.

[@anik1614]

You are absolutely right. Apni samajh se chalna chahiye. Do not become the football of other's opinion. Naye raaste par chalne Wale ko criticism toh jhelna hi parta hai.

[@cheemaokeree]

It is not an apple to apple comparison always. May be, it was not her mistake but her situations and sacrifice. May be, you might not have been able to do as well in her situation. So be kind to all, everyone has a different story.

[@nehaankolekar3621]

Sir, you said very right thing helplessness and hopelessness. Bitterness comes when life seems out of your control. Bringing back control is d remedy to bitterness. Thank you🙏🙏

[@kiransharma7848]

Me myself next month going for a knee replacement. I'm 61. Sure life is bitter till date. 🙃 I love this word ' Heplessness

[@imho99s89]

My mother in law and sister in law who is just 2 yrs older took a lot of hardship mostly out of dependency social n financial and when I did not do the same, my "Sanskars" were questioned by the same ladies and then later on picked up by mens in the family.

[@jonam2608]

Sir thank you for being our friend, philosopher and guide! Breath of fresh air in today's spiritually and socially polluted life!

[@diptipatel3833]

Haa yhi hota hai. 60's ki saas yhi kheti thi. Ham to bukhar ME bhi kaam krte the to tum kyu nhi kr sakti. Yane unhone jo saha vo tumko bhi sahena hi hai

[@priyankadhar2325]

Meri mother in law ko arthritis hai..c don’t forget & forgive..c fight with everyone..husband, brother,brother’s wife, 3 sons, 3 bahus, her mother in law,her bhabhi,her devar,neighbor,friends,bahus family…c has many health issues..c fights with everone..her hobby is fighting..

[@poonamsoni-cr1rr]

😄

[@DonthekeyforJ]

May be there is some fact in what she's saying. Don't go by public opinion. Observe carefully if you really love her.

[@onehappytortoise]

Hobby is fighting 😂😂

[@pranatipatra23]

Take away: Acknowledge the helplessness Use resources to overcome and feel good Accept yourself with broader perspective and general situation Like shatter your illusion that only you are unfortunate to suffer Take knowledge and practice and observe the positive difference .

[@geetham8967]

great to see your summary thanks 👍

[@archanamishra2275]

Bitterness is because of helplessness and hopeless. When have to do what you don't want to do, made to comprise. Like have to go somewhere you Don't want to go. Helplessness is in current situation and hopeless Ness is that this will not change even in future Need to acknowledge it, say no , we need to value us more.

[@bubmumluv]

Sir, hats off really this is the story of my in-laws family. And seriously because of my husband & my in-laws I think I am also turning bitter.

[@alkadeshpande6628]

actually you have solved our puzzle because we were wondering why our children are so ill mannered when we were so obidient and 'sanskari!'

[@indukhurana1738]

You have said it in a very precise manner. Arthritis is a direct consequence of family burden and help lesness. on ladies specifically.even doctors are prescribing to avoid bitterness if you want a healthy life for the rest of the life. Superb analysis. Thank you for awakening the society.

[@NeerajKumar-rl8cz]

Sir ji....JAAT hote hi hai urjawaan kyonki ye reality ko acknowledge karte hai....isliye inki originality se URJA milti hai....u r a realman

[@vikasbalhara659]

True 👍

[@Avarniya]

आप वास्तव में एक सकारात्मक माइंडसेट समाज में ला रहे है, कोटि कोटि प्रणाम,

[@ajaykumar-banker]

Extremely insightful video.All bitterness springs for helplessness in the present & hopelessness for the future. A certain lack of control over life's circumstances. A nugget of wisdom. Understanding it and taking charge of other areas will help us cope with one's bitterness and frustration and live a life of peace with ourself.

[@archanaverma9976]

Sir, I can relate each and every word of yours to me.I was married when I was 22 and I had to look after my kids as well as my in laws (no support from their side) since then.And this helplessness continued forever.Whenever I tried to make my point,I was declared 'sanskarheen' bahu.My health issues started when I was only 32. I have taken treatment of more than 16 docters but my condition is not much improved and I know this is because of stress I have gone through.Yes,sir your videos give us that ऊर्जा which inspire us a lot . Thanks for making such unique content,🙏

[@pollytheparrot8929]

So sorry to hear about your story.. Regarding your health you can try Ayurvedic treatment.. Thers a Ayurveda shala called ' Kottakal Arya Vaidyasala'.. It's from Kerala..they have branches all over in India..they have their doctor..you can consult and take treatment..It's very good and recommended. . There are many other Arya Vidya Salas.. But I feel Kottakal one is genuine

[@archanaverma9976]

@@pollytheparrot8929 thanks

[@pollytheparrot8929]

@@archanaverma9976 Most welcome.. You might not see immediate effect with their treatment, but in time you will.. Tc😊❤

[@simply_wow3593]

I have tears in my eyes 😢 reading ur story.. may ur future life be very beautiful

[@PS-oy1el]

❤

[@om6980]

Itna raw and useful content youtube kea zindegi me peheli bar mil rahi hai! Thank you sir 🙏 God bless u

[@ashrafnm2448]

This is a talk from senior friend. This will solve many of our problems.

[@kamlasharma5134]

Urja

[@shejwalkarhemant3110]

Sirji, you have brute strength to talk about things with such an honesty and clarity.

[@pushpakhaitan1044]

Yes it's true. What u r saying. I'm suffering fm many ailments. Due to not being able to talk and express myself. Now I'm fiercely open in my thoughts.

[@Sarkaribehanji]

True.. my mother has this bitterness.. and I can connect very well.

[@amrutak4945]

Very true Sir 🙏👏 Once you take responsibility for your life and get out of the helpless-hopeless state, you can actually move to the next level in your life.

[@Kama_makeovers]

मैं 86 बॉर्न हूँ और मैंने अपनी नानी, मम्मी के साथ चक्की पीसी है और अपने घर पर गाय के लिए चारा भी काटा है कुट्टी मशीन से। और खल मूसल से धान भी कूटे हैं। ये सब बहुत मेहनत का काम है लेकिन अच्छी यादें ताज़ा करने के लिए आपका धन्यवाद। आपके वीडियो सचमुच ज्ञान वर्धक होते हैं, हम ये सब जानते समझते हुए भी इन बातों को फॉलो नहीं करते और कई बार कई सारी बातें हमारे लिए नई भी होती हैं। मैंने अपने खास लोगों के साथ आपकी के सारी वीडियो शेयर भी की हैं।

[@preeyanshisharma5225]

Apki jaisi soch har insaan ki ho jae toh har ghar swarg bn jae sir🙏

[@positivethinking_369]

अपने आप को भी ऐसा ही बनाने की कोशिश करते हैं और अगर हम भी पहले ख़ुदको संभाले फिर समाज में भी इनकी बातों को समझाये हमारा भी दायित्व हैं😊

[@ashakothari7905]

Sir..when the daughter is not being heard and understood and discriminated against Son and Daughter in law...it leads to helplessness and hopelessness...and time flies leading to bitterness

[@AllrounderSrishti]

U hit the bull's eye sir... Very right said... Every small things in our life.. Causes bitterness.. Aur hume patta hi nahi hota..why we irritated or frustrated..most of the time!! Excellent sir.. Like always u did!! 🙏

[@AshuRajdor]

Your videos have touched a topic that is rarely discussed in the society and which is affecting personal lives of so many people. Thanks for atleast starting this and trying to give solution to it.

[@baijuv3]

Nurture good sanskara of Live and let Live without being too judgemental of others. keep learning, form new ideas without being contradicted will keep bitterness out naturally. Good topic Amitji.

[@Poonam-og6uu]

I can relate to every point of this video... Kabhi apne man ki baat kahi hi nahi gai.

[@Phoenix77766]

Love the tongue-in-cheek manner in which you put those unspoken truths out there!😊

[@nidhikhurana6746]

Sir please aisa video banaye ki horoscope se person ka nature pata chal sake. So that aisi mother in laws ko pehle hi avoid kar sakein. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏i am a big fan.

[@sneha09341]

Mother in law and husband both se kundli match karani chahiye 😅

[@viveksangwan9640]

The content is so good uncle ji…really appreciate your work🙌🏼

[@indubalasoni4894]

Thank you so much Bhaisab aane to jeene ka rasta bta diya,aaj aapki jarurat h samaj me.

[@kamakshisaxena8808]

Hello Sir your videos are too good . Since 1 year I was dealing with many things and everyone used to shut me out but today when I am hearing you it feels so right and good .

[@nandinibehera5966]

Yes sir urja militi hi apake video se mujhe

[@sudhasharma4212]

Aapke thoughts bht clear hai. Ultimate 🙏🙏

[@edeboor]

Sir, bohot practical gyan hai aapka. Hats off to you!

[@dkbaghel123]

bitterness causing arthritis is a very good input, i never knew this was a scientific finding and mostly affects women.

[@RekhaSharma-ye3ut]

mere ko to bshot urja mili great sir ji . ap ekdm papa jese samjate ho.

[@ArjunGolar]

URJA - You are just awesome !!!

[@Usha-fb2cj]

Mere neighbour h jo puri raat nahi soti unko itna pain hota h knees ..Roz pain killer leti h...bhut bitterness h life m. Aur appke videos dekh kar bhut urza milti..thanku so much🙏 sure will Share

[@Usha-fb2cj]

App se request h ek program app parents ki fight par banaye ....bacche bhut suffer karte h unki study's par aur aane wale jiwan par bura prabhav padta h .....🙏

[@dj4583]

This video was bang on bitterness. Helplessness is the source of it and not acknowledging it is the biggest mistake which people generally do. This was powered pack conversation.

[@milibaranwal]

Helplessness and hopelessness.... Very true.... At times we know the reason but still we dont take stand for ourself due to various reasons. Per paani naak ke uper se jab jaane lagta hai to kai baar ya to hum doob hi jaate hain ya tairna seekh jaate hain....per is prakriya me jhel bahot jaate hain. Wring situation pahchaan ke jaldi hi stand lena jada uchit hota hai. Shayad humare bacche seekh jaye.

[@raghurams131]

Vey wise and nice soothing to all those who suffer mentally. Ur talks like this on various topics should for sure reduce stress and depression in ladies May u please continue to talk on such very subtle topics Thank u

[@aartibhalla845]

Your video is definitely showing the reality of present times. Your are vocally telling the actual reasons for men or women turning bitter.

[@wtkc1290]

Urja hi urja . Sir, you give us a new way of thinking.

[@nandinibehera5966]

Yes sir apake bata sune me acha lagata hi

[@giftingtrends9739]

I am 80s born but I am still going thru a lot of bitterness… being brought up in a very conservative family has only pulled me back further…

[@sanjanarana5401]

Sir please make a video on bitterness given by a husband to wife on daily basis…how to avoid or overcome ?

[@nandratan]

Sir, you have great knowledge in several subjects and the best thing is your capability to explain. Keep up the great work in improving the society standards.

[@vishakhasagar5505]

Urja and clarity… superb videos

[@nehapremmohan7609]

Aap itni easily kaise explain kardete ho sir heads off to you❤️🙏🙏

[@brij_deepdiveanalysissolutions]

Sir kaha se sochte ho ye real painful topics. Your explanation is brilliant 👏

[@shardasingh1573]

Even I was thinking so.

[@rekhajoshi30]

aaj phli bar aap ka video dekha aur bahut pasand aaya tarif ke liye shabad likh pana muskil lag raha he .

[@nileshpatil586]

Beautiful video Amit Sir.. Urja aur wisdom hai aapki baaton me.. contemporary issues par aapke perspectives bade anokhe hote hai.. kaafi samanya baate hai.. par Jo acknowledge nahi hoti hai.. more power to you

[@crimsonlyyours]

Very true sir. Every word is extremely right on.

[@vandanarai7018]

Mahtvapurn jaankaari! Dhanyavad, Sir! 🙏

[@shrikantmama52]

Superb... ऊर्जा मिलती है

[@satvikasingh81]

Uncle it's 100% TRUE what u r saying!

[@deyana1319]

Energy booster video. Really thankful for making such most needed, useful contents. Eye opener for us.

[@sadhikakumarisingh1037]

Experience ye hota h thank you dada g namaskaar from Bihar

[@diprajbehere1327]

Yes sir we get energise and inspired while lisening. Thank you sir.

[@funnlearnforkidshi5]

I can relate ...my Mom is now 56 and she worked rigoursly as a House wife trying to save her Husbands hard earned money....SaaS sasur k saath rehti unka bhi suntii...apne Har ek iccha ko maara unhone...once me and my brother were grown up and her responsibilities reduced she started Tutions at home...but after few years she got Arthritis and now it's painful for her to even move her hand.... No one would acknowledge the work she did...I also have toxic Gaslighters in laws trying to mess my marriage...but I give it back to them..mann main nahi rakhnekaa kuch bhi

[@KeshavKalsi-z5l]

Yes, Many women are suffering from arthritis around us.

[@utkarsh_108]

if you learn to protest/ raise their voice/ speak for yourself, your life will be much simpler, better and clearer and simpler.

[@captainjack5846]

Love u sir too much. Sir parents ki vajah se or unhi se bitterness hai.

[@kiransharma7848]

Thanks for sharing your wisdom & educating all Appreciate you.🙏🌺

[@sachindatt4045]

Simple and profound!

[@pdbelle]

The way you explain life topics in depth is a fresh approach. Thanks

[@thesoulonquest]

I guess I have arthritis even now at age 28. I have body aches here and there. I guess helplessness has stayed for longer as my father died when i was 11 and my extended family was not good to us. Also, i stayed in boarding school for 7 yrs.

[@anitavijay1295]

Sir you are right. I also feel this now after watching your video. We should do something about this only then can we live peacefully and happily😊🙏Thank you for motivating people like us to understand our problems 🙏🙏

[@motivationtoexcel2757]

Perfect video my mom suffered a lot and has arthritis due to extreme bitterness

[@suryasmitadashsenapati8731]

Great no coloring no spice only kadba sach

[@shaveta1688]

Whenever I try to discuss your points,there is a fight between me and my husband According to him,people live I just give free ka gyan .Apka kaam yhi h gyan dena

[@sumanagarwal216]

Same with me😂

[@cpvenkatanathanparthasarat4182]

Useful guidance. Will benefit if followed in stages.

[@gautamvishwanatham7512]

i like your videos. 15 minutes and not too long and to the point

[@jasminemody799]

Majority of the diseases are related to the thought patterns

[@rohinidhanwade1874]

Urja milti jain sirji aur aap hilakar rakh dete ho.. and you give this will and courage to change the situation.. atleast start thinking over it and to make life better

[@ruchirapant8540]

I get lots of clarity & logic from your vedio

[@safenhappyperiods9418]

In gratitude to you Amit ji

[@power.88]

Shandar sir😮

[@kamalagarwal5082]

It depends on your schedule Nature of work

[@jasminemody799]

Our thought process is exactly same

[@mamtaSingh-mu8qx]

Great advice . Very commendable social service

[@jasminemody799]

You explain so well

[@prashantdabas7357]

Urja 🙌🏼♥️, god bless you

[@alkadeshpande6628]

thanks sir!your video is very usefull and should be appriciated!god bless you!our generation have gon through such type of iorny.and top it of it was called achche sanskar!we were compromising our self respect.if we dont then the lobby was there to describe us as we dont have achche sanskar.helping somebody who is needy good thing but every time going through just like exam tenssion was very burdensome.fullfilling everybodys ego and compromising our needs was tiresome.may be because of this our next generation is reluctunt in following rituals,costoms,belifs and even sometimes arrogant also.they have seen their mums going through unjustice.

[@shrutimanchanda5201]

Well said.I totally agree with you

[@shakuntalajena6309]

Absolutely right video,gone through all these situations

[@pitu048]

Yes thanks for clarifying.. after child birth I am not able to sleep properly or go out for anything, all I am doing is taking care of child 24/7 without anyone help ,, I am bitter 😢

[@shipragarg321]

Sir u are right..i faced the situation from many years..now few months i realise and trying to sort out all

[@shakilamohammedi8049]

Very much true..... Hatts off