How To Save My Marriage Despite Limited or No Contact (Is It Possible?)

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@gayeyelman5336]

Geoffrey hi I would like to get in touch with you regarding to my relationship (in my case I’m the lady and my long term partner left me) I would love learn more ways to bettering myself

[@davidkalyabulo1318]

I will keep saying this ur the best relationshipe expert i hav ever seen so far...hav struggled 9yrs until I met u this year.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

I appreciate your compliments and your support. I will keep making quality content for you all.

[@michaelwilliamson7590]

She only calls or texts when she needs to use the vehicle or a ride. Ive done all the wrong things beg, cried , argued and was blaming. And I did everything wrong in life and married. I appreciate your words. I missed so many signs. I need help.

[@DannyMartin3z]

Whatever happened in your story? I can relate. I missed all the signs. I made myself the victim. I destroyed emotional security. She’s in self preservation and doesn’t believe I can change. And now I have no way to demonstrate any of the steps I’ve taken. I hope you were able to make it work out.

[@markbearden7581]

Love this. Safety and trust is what I did wrong. 5yr married we're separated was in constant talk and see ...until an argument now she distant . hard to rebuild if we not talking

[@Unxpekted]

Same boat Mark. Any good luck, either reconnecting or finding someone new or finding peace?

[@Chrom_LV]

Me too man.... Hard as hell

[@davidyarnell3125]

I can appreciate the idea that you need to make changes and communicate and have trust, and I simply don’t believe that anyone but that person can change their mind. You simply have no control over what another person thinks or does, which is the frustrating part. With that said, you could actually make the changes, but if they don’t want to believe it, they simply won’t. Will is a powerful thing and a man or woman who wants to think something of you will continue to think that no matter what you do. The proverb goes like this: a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still

[@bestbigbros1102]

Love all the nuggets of gold you leave behind in every video Geoffrey. I appreciate the work you put into this business!

[@lawrencechristenson7653]

This video is 100% accurate! Geoffrey, have you been listening in on my entire marriage?!?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it, so glad you decided to join the program.

[@cocoacastsdjgod]

I just broke through this with your information. She sees my changes, still doesnt believe them but we were able to heal a wound today. She wants to cook with me tomorrow 🎉

[@Magic_Marieh]

What I have realised about most of Geoffrey's theories about how you should treat your partner from an inner good intention independent of the other person's response, this basically what Jesus encourages us to do in the Bible. To respond from a place of love even when faced with negativity.

[@jimdemichele5479]

There’s a divorce looming over my head as we are separated now for 5 weeks..we are spending time, but it’s all small talk and nothing personal as I don’t want to go there yet even though I’m in limbo. 22 years of marriage and we are now strangers…she said exactly what you said, she tried and is tired

[@hdshjs]

How are things now with you? Please, update us.

[@jimdemichele5479]

@@hdshjs …on month 9 still separated and she wants to proceed with the divorce which will be a year in June since she filed, even though our communication is really good

[@S1lverspike]

@@jimdemichele5479I hope things worked out and you are back together .

[@RossBayCult]

@@jimdemichele5479any update with you? I’m going through your situation now

[@miguelcespedes3841]

Thank you!! I’m not back wit my ex but your videos have help me grow as a person!!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

This is great, so glad you are using my videos to help you grow as a person and in turn making yourself more attractive to your partner.

[@Bebob85]

You know your video always come out in the right time

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

So glad that you find my videos helpful. What did you find most eye-opening about this particular video?

[@neverknowlol14]

You’re the goods!!! Thank you for your content

[@DannyMartin3z]

It feels like limited contact was the low hanging fruit on examples to demonstrate change. If someone blocked you and said leave them alone and your inner don’t overlap you have more limited options. I understand what I have to do. And where my past behaviors caused her to go into self-preservation. But if you don’t have an opportunity to get shut down it’s challenging to show you’re different.

[@TedFegal]

Every little bit of knowledge helps. I hope mine can recognize at the end of the day I am a flawed person but a person who works on that daily.

[@yo123harshal]

Will follow what you are saying , Hope everything becomes better 💞

[@Mixdreamer]

In another video you mentioned to sit back and let partner reach out to you and in this video you mentioned to be able to create opportunities out of thin air… are you suggesting it’s okay to reach out during separation?

[@dnavas7719]

Geoffrey, need help. wife and i been married for 12 years. 2 weeks ago we had an intense argument. she said that's all the patience she had left. she said i broke the last bit of love she had for me and now needs to leave (divorce) to heal and care for herself. i managed to convinced (beg) her to stay. she said she'll try to see if she can feel true love for me again but doesn't guarantee its gonna happen. i asked her how long? she said "i dont know". but sometimes i feel she's not trying. she avoids me, doens't talk to me. i'm afraid for the worst :(

[@bad_hozer5937]

How is it going??

[@Rbear266]

I am in a spot where anything I try that directly towards the situation during this “space” makes things worse because she says she wants to focus on school until a date we set to meet up 😪

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Why not take this time to work on building your product "Your tools and mindsets" and grow your value, then let the sales and marketing work itself out. Remember the goal is to become, not appear.

[@Rbear266]

@@GeoffreySetiawan wow hey man thanks for the response, you’re videos are one of the few things soothing me in this time. And I agree, I have been working on myself and this has been a wake up call. But the long distance makes it hard for her to see the new and improved “product” 😪.

[@magaleans]

@@Rbear266 Hey Jack. How is it going? Could you update us on the situation?

[@Rbear266]

@@magaleans yea bro mentally amor stable for myself still in like a limbo state with her we’ve had a lot of back-and-forth back-and-forth. I can’t let her go and she can’t let me go. I keep trying to respect her decision to move on and they stop contacting her then boom she starts contacting me and I can’t let go and just ignore her so we’re still in this limbo state. The one thing I would say is for me I have to, and I am working on controlling my anxiety and control. I tend to explode a bit when I don’t have a direction or an answer and that’s set off my anxiety, so just wu wei stay calm and go with it

[@ConsKing]

I understand your point however what is missing is the actual technique that engages your partner i don't have kids I'm blocked and I've blocked her I'm no longer tethered I'm better confident and grown emotionally on the journey to mastery but how do you engage without being seen as needy here he goes again type of energy?

[@jothishkumar5970]

Absolute no contact, in long distance and blocked in all social media nd Calling, how shall I invite her to talk or how to approach !?

[@Dwazii]

Same page bro, just move on easy she Will see thriving and come back

[@SDSingh1989]

Any update? Going through the same situation.

[@nensielisova8276]

So how do you make them talk to you back? If my husband is completely do not wanna talk to me and ignores me there no contact with him

[@FLS713HTX]

It's not that refuses to talk to me she just ignores relationship question and I don't have the right process to approach her on it, she stonewalls even small question regarding how her days was or how work was, or anything having to do with me asking her how she is, we've been separated 6 months and I've really been working on building those inner qualities Geoffrey talks about in his videos and trying to break through but she'll just ignore the personal questions, however if I don't reach out she reaches out and through this time we have been intimate and she has told me that sometimes she still thinks about me and our family and that i probably view her as being cold which innerly i do but I don't want to bñame character there's something that i haven't understood yet that I'd keeping her from commiting to me again, but as she resists I persist

[@victoriaoshea4865]

Very encouraging

[@aleahadelito9791]

Thank you for new video.. god bless you

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you for your comment and support.

[@josephquesenberry1034]

Hey Geoffrey this is Joseph quesenberry I am going through this situation as we speak! We talk to each other but it’s very limited and she doesn’t sound happy when we talk it’s just bland and not fun! I work out of state and I am gone for months at a time! She has told me that I’m trying to text her or call her to much and as much as I understand this I still have trouble holding back from messaging her! We have been together for 7 years and we just recently 6 months ago split up for a while now we are trying to get back together but I think I’m pushing her away even more! We actually live together and have bills together but not married so it’s tough for me to just stop talking to her! What can I do to change myself?

[@davidyarnell3125]

Furthermore, this curriculum indicates that you as the man is the only one who needs to change. Is it at all possible that the woman needs to do some growing? Is it possible that she is reverting to bad behaviors simply because she will not do the work and go through the hard conversations to experience that growth? I would really like to hear about where you are on this, because we all have places we need to grow and it is not always the man’s fault that she is running away. It may just be something she does any time she is confronted with something that needs to change for her greatest and highest good.

[@Thriving_in_Exile]

No, you're absolutely right about that. Same as them, though, the best you _can_ do is work on yourself, because expecting anyone else to grow and change is a pointless fixation. If that's a dealbreaker for you, the question becomes whether or not it's worth it to you to have that woman in your life.

[@Croonina]

I think, that when you have gone through the program for a bit or following the videos you will soon realize once you have changed your mindset, and learned to be like water ( Able to adapt your mindset and emotions ) you will lover her qualities like never before.

[@brianstoops7612]

How can you display change when spouse won't talk to you or see you?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Brian Stoops, I have many videos that talk about this situation. I will link one below and will remind you that your focus should be on building you best product, the actual changes themselves. Take me for example I know my content is miles beyond any other on YT yet I have a low subscriber level. But I know my if I focus on my product, my program, if I make it freaking awesome that the applications will always come. I enroll nearly 1500 clients a year and a small portion of who applies actually get extended an invitation to join. This is again is because I work on building an irreplaceable product and not about the marketing. I teach my clients to take the same approach. Make the changes so massive and so permanent that your partner has to see them eventually. kzbin.info/www/bejne/sJ65Zqt4hpaXq80

[@bnewman3712]

kinda vague, especially with family members. Why does it matter with family members? Are we impressing them?

[@Dwazii]

Please would you tell me the ways in which you can change

[@808Corsa80]

Start off by changing your routine. Do new beneficial things. Read books, go outside, be apart of a community. Just change of routine is good to start with. It’s not easy but if you want to change then that’s a good way to start.

[@jeramypowell3991]

How are you building conversations out of "thin air"? Admitted fault, doors been left open. Haven't spoken in three weeks, in no way shape or form am trying to rush, push, be needy. Is no time frame for growth. Just curious what really creating conversations out of thin air means when you aren't supposed to be pushy or needy, doors already been left open.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Feel free to watch my interviews with Michael, Eve, or Scott. We talk about dealing with stonewalling and resistance a lot in those interviews. "Is no time frame for growth." - That's precisely the type of thinking that leads you to twist and bend what I am saying to fit what you want to hear. I've also made a video about this. kzbin.info/www/bejne/kKLQfZSHobdogZo

[@DJ_PHILCO79]

Thks 😊

[@jacobreed126]

How do I get into your class, I could use the help in a very big way

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi jacob reed, Before you consider working with me, come join me in my free 90 min master class to see how I teach men and women to create thriving relationships. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@nerdkink]

She said something about her mental health issues," then time will tell "and then shut me out a bit but hasn't blocked me.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Nerd Kink, Please check out this video to see how I teach my clients to go about dealing with their partner's going through mental health issues and major life events. kzbin.info/www/bejne/rYPbfoZqhtGoarM

[@S0RELOSER]

And what if her concerns, that she has been expressing, are totally irrational? I originally tried to listen to her. But after 10 yrs of patronizing her concerns, resentment builds up.

[@irongloves89]

Relationship went to cr@p 10 years ago. She refuses to talk about the cause. Doesn't recall the trigger correctly, won't listen (talks over the top of me when I'm talking claiming to be listening which is IMPOSSIBLE.) What do you suggest before I walk out leaving her with nothing..

[@hdshjs]

You sound like you really hate your partner. Well, logically, if you stop speaking then you won't be talking over one another. How about listening to her and maybe parphrasing, sth like "you sound really hurt and angry and I understand that you are tired of reapeting the same/feel like I don't listem to you... Etc". Watch Geoffrey's videos on creating save environment

[@jasperkim5945]

Uodate please

[@joesottilare609]

A bit to much like walk on egg shells kiss there ass a lot ..and hope she doesnt find somebody else while you doing all the work to save the relationship.. Good insight but the approach is as if men are the problem Without adding in the toxic nature of modern women. And there role in the failure of that relationship..ghosting ignoring stonewalling are immature childish reactions ..a lot of the time we never understand the true issue she is having because we cant mind read. And life has us busy...it takes two folks to make it work ..but only one to break it..success stories are usually from the rare woman that actually works with you constructively..

[@joesottilare609]

Women rarely try to save relationships..to many options.. There not going to do the work..

[@adventureman1986]

Im having a hard time finding your facebook group. Can you please help?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Adventure Man, Use this link down below. facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329