How to Set Boundaries Like a Pro & Stop People Pleasing

[@Verenaaschulz]

I've luckily learned to say no to things I didn't feel I have energy to use my time on🌟 What's a boundary you've set? Reply to this comment with your story🌸

[@shahjhanhaider26]

@@Verenaaschulz I would like to say sometimes yes and sometimes no to a person.we are living in a world where sometimes we have to comply with the wishes of our loved one,one has to say sometimes yes to them instead of no.I am yielding person, cannot say no to anyone,if someone is really get along with me then I am ready to go with him ,and I love caressing persons,and shut up my door for demanding person or annoying one

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@shahjhanhaider26 you are right that we sometimes need to say yes to care for other people but it’s also important to set boundaries when we don’t get anything in return or when it stresses us out when it effects our mental health 😊

[@shahjhanhaider26]

@@Verenaaschulz This happens mostly

[@victorabiel]

My sister has a daughter, I can't care of my niece while she goes to the party with friends. Some days it's ok I can be with my niece but not every day I have my won life to live. I said if you can go out I can too I will go out and be with your daughter.

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@victorabiel it’s always important to be able to balance this the best way as possible I think 😊

[@MonirulIslam-mq9uc]

Unmatched brilliance! This video is a shining example of excellence.

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@MonirulIslam-mq9uc Thank you so much! I am grateful to read your message 😊🙏🏻

[@MonirulIslam-mq9uc]

@@Verenaaschulz Welcome 👍

[@user-ic6ql2wz9w]

Yes, setting boundaries is something I keep working on, in my life. Good encouraging message, thank you.

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@user-ic6ql2wz9w I am happy you keep working on setting boundaries. Thank you so much 😊

[@CreatorsBurnout2Brilliance]

amazing story, it certainly can stem from childhood and lead into adult life. Its good to recognise and choose to do something about it because it can become so exhausting. Never feel guilty or over value others thoughts and opinions because the most important opinions of you are your own, self talk with repetition really does help "i am enough" "i feel great about my boundaries" excellent thank you.💯💯👏🏼👏🏼

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@CreatorsBurnout2Brilliance Thank you so much for your comment! ☺️🙏🏻 You are totally right! It’s so important to do some positive self-talk and really realize that you are enough 🌸

[@victorabiel]

You are more than good enough, you aren't a just a human, you are a true goddess!!!

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@victorabiel Aaw! Thank you so much 😊🙏🏻

[@timmyshroyer5628]

The boundaries I set today are things others might not find socially acceptable, but knowing exactly what I am, what I was, and what I am becoming, I have decided to embrace myself and my Self and to live exactly how I choose. I am a Sorcerer and Alchemist, and my boundaries reflect these and are geared toward my own personal goals. It's an extremely exciting coincidence/synchrony that you've made this video and invited me to comment on the exact same day 🙂🙃

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@timmyshroyer5628 even when others might not find it socially acceptable you still need to listen to yourself which you are😊 I am happy for you that you keep listening to your boundaries 🙌🏻😊 What a coincidence that you got this message today 😊

[@timmyshroyer5628]

@@Verenaaschulz it's absolutely perfect ♥️😘🤘

[@stevehogan9241]

ThaNk you for your information about how you like to approach boundaries. It is helpful to see how you have set this process for your life and how you can help others in this way with specific steps and also a worksheet they can Follow. I honestly think that you are super helpful and Love to listen every time I am online and feeling that my own boundaries have been breeched. It's Super easy to forget that your time matters as much as everyone elses. Your time and your feelings need to be prioritized and taking time to think about how you feel about a request is totally acceptable AT ALL TIMES not just SOME TIMES .

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@stevehogan9241 Thank you so much for your kind message 🥹 this means a lot to me 🙏🏻 I am really so grateful for this! Thank you! ☺️

[@stevehogan9241]

@@Verenaaschulz ❤️

[@billm6294]

Wisdom from a wise and beautiful young lady. 💖💖

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@billm6294 Thank you so much 😊

[@shahjhanhaider26]

It's beautiful video we are having much stress, unable to defeat the stress

[@Verenaaschulz]

Thank you so much ☺ You are completely right!

[@michaelj2528]

I am 70 years of age I have spent my whole life saying yes to things I did not really want to do. If I was asked to work overtime in my 20s 30s and 40s I would say yes because I just could not say no even though I didn't want to do it agreeing to go social occasions which I personally just cannot cope with but I would agree to go because I couldn't say no. Social occasions give me great anxiety I just feel completely overwhelmed can I end off standing in the corner alone and thinking why the hell am I doing this. It's only now when I got into my 60s that I said enough is enough I'm not doing these things that I hate any more and I finally after a lifetime I've learnt to say no . Although it is still and remains difficult to say no because I feel guilty I know it's Madness but I do. As always a interesting and informative and entertaining and thought provoking video . Always great to see you

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@michaelj2528 wauw! I am so happy and proud that you learned to say no. That you even did realize this makes me so happy for you. You did the right thing 💪🏻 It’s just not worth stressing around for everyone else ☺️

[@michaelj2528]

@@Verenaaschulz unfortunately now I think the stress and anxiety of all those years I know have now caught up with me healthwise

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@michaelj2528 I can understand this since you have been in a lot of pressure. It’s important that you take good care of yourself 😊

[@stevehogan9241]

Verena. I also love the way that you Deliver the messages that you speak. You speak clearly and calmly . So many young people do not respond to Yelling or the people that do not meet them at their level. No - your communication will not work for all, but for those that love to listen and behave in a very calm and respectful nature your way of communicating is refreshing for sure.

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@stevehogan9241 I am deeply grateful to hear this since I normally can speak very fast but I try my best to speak in a calm and clear way😊🙏🏻

[@jacquelinemcgowan8164]

I wonder why I was bullied and fear was another thing in the equation, no one has ever liked me for standing my ground and never being able to stand on my own two feet hasn,t helped either, being at the mercy of someone or others has left me in that position, on a one to one I am ok but they always have others to back them up or pick on me, I am sticking up for myself alot more, I walked out on a job once when I was so bullied and from then I was no longer going to be that push over, agoinglthough it was painful, so is resentment and being got at all the time, I would rather be on my own than going through all that again. Thank you for sharing and this was so good to know and keep on with because it not just a one time fix, its a belief.

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@jacquelinemcgowan8164 I am very sorry that you did go through all that! All the bullies should be so ashamed of themselves. I hope you know that people who are bullies, has a problem with themselves. It can never be your fault that you got bullied. I am proud to hear that you now stand up for yourself and I know it’s not easy, but you do it and for that you should be proud of yourself 😊

[@jacquelinemcgowan8164]

​@@VerenaaschulzThankyou for your kind words and wonderful insight, what you said in the video resonated with me and i have learned so much, have a great week ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@jacquelinemcgowan8164 I am so happy that you have learned something from my video. I appreciate your message ☺️

[@MartinMorris-wz4gx]

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[@sinenkaari5477]

Sadly boundaries do not work in a way couse you can tell a person no but they will still cross your boundries and act like nothing happened. I was reminded of this fact today. There's nothing you can do but leave. Nothing will change them and you have to take it from them in every case couse they are not gonna give that space for you where you'd want to be so you are forced to leave

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@sinenkaari5477 If they behave like this then it’s the right decision to leave them I think. Some people will stop when you show your boundaries but unfortunately not everyone. It’s important to stay strong and remind yourself that you are not wrong.

[@sinenkaari5477]

@@Verenaaschulz Life is unfair and the ones who do not care win the evolutionary game. Makes me sad

[@Verenaaschulz]

@@sinenkaari5477 it’s sad yes but we must keep fighting for ourselves 😊

[@sinenkaari5477]

@@Verenaaschulz I wrote longer comment also yesterday but youtube swallowed it so i'm gonna rewrite it now. The situation was yesterday that i had invited this guitarist to play at a jam session in a bar and other players came to play to the stage over us with amps turned up so loud i could not clearly hear my drums or the guitarist i invited. I said to them clearly that i'm gonna play only with the guy i had invited there but after we started they just came on the stage. The point i'm trying to make is that couse you can't make people respect you if they don't care the only thing you can do is to leave the place or stay there and take it and you end up loosing both ways and the one's who don't care end up winning. So in my personal experiences boundaries do not really exist. I figured out why they were so careless to just "bomb" the stage and play over us, badly, it was couse the players get free beer tickets after each time they play. I see no way to "fight" in these type of situations. Only thing you could do is punch those people in the face but that would be just getting yourself in trouble so you can really only leave. No way to really "stand up for yourself" like people many times say you should do. But yeah anyway i think you understand what i mean. I watched this video couple days earlier and had the feeling of wanting to give you a hug couse i've been through same kind of stuff you were talking about

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If this is the only reason you unsubscribed, then I’m happy you unsubscribed! 🙂 Bye 👋🏻

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[@timmyshroyer5628]

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