How to stay Classy and Elegant whilst SINGLE | Behaviours to Avoid as a Single Woman

[@nicoobrowner]

What I did when I was single: ☝🏼Worked on my hobbies and talents ☝🏼Became very discrete and never complained about my singleness in public and to others ☝🏼Worked on myself and my character (eg. I was once short tempered 😂, through God, I fixed it!) ☝🏼Focused on others and loving them, especially those who felt lonely, like me 😊 (widows, the elderly and shy teenagers) ☝🏼Focused on giving and generosity! ☝🏼Prayed to finish a higher degree that was lingering for too long 😆 ☝🏼Prayed for a good man, everyday and prayed God molds me for him. ☝🏼 Prayed for gratitude and contentment in my Singleness. That was the hardest. But man came and he LOVED the woman that I had become! Singleness IS A GIFT when you use it wisely 😃

[@MJWINNER_Sketchbook999]

Proud of you WELL DONE

[@warnacreamadeicecreamskool6305]

A great one

[@nattyb2924]

1. Stop giving off an air of desperation 2. Stop telling everybody you hate being single 3. Stop giving wife privilege to a man who is not your husband 4. Stop trying to make yourself the center of attention 5. Stop subscribing to every single dating website in existence 6. Stop lamenting about past heartbreak at every opportunity 7. Beware of the singles club 8. Beware of the jealous streak 9. Beware of not setting boundaries 10. Surround yourself with happily married people

[@fideliachiamaka5620]

@@mementomori1022 I don't think that was the motive, she was only trying to take notes and it was nice dropping it here so someone can screenshot.

[@SandraSmith-fp7cr]

Thank you.

[@drcynthiabmcneill]

Nicely summed. ❤️

[@fluffyhedgehog7963]

@@mementomori1022 who is being rude here? I don’t think it’s nutty

[@angelaamadi2120]

Nice

[@octaviabraye1654]

Yes 👍! Take it from a woman.who has been married 25 years, haste makes waste. If you marry the wrong person it can cause a lifetime of pain and misery. Single woman have opportunities of dating and selecting. Take your time with relationships and marriage, there is no rush. Be very careful it is a lifetime commitment. Never enter a marriage unadvisedly and without wise counsel. Ladies the long engagement is a bad sign. Never stay in a toxic relationship just for a wedding ring 💍 Perfect love cast out fear. You will know in your heart when it is truly right. Men will show you two sides. Learning which one to believe takes wisdom. Time eventually reveals the person behind the mask. Take your time and let time reveal. Best wishes ladies.

[@wachiraofficial7619]

God bless you!

[@habibahseguga3285]

Thank you 🙏.

[@naomicampana]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@achommiriam9665]

Thank you for the wisdom

[@sakuraesther6309]

Thank you miss

[@flygirl3544]

I’ve been single for six months now after a long term relationship and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life! I’m dating myself, exploring myself, educating myself, loving myself; setting standards for myself. Thank you my elegant sister for reaffirming this today!

[@billybobbybill2924]

Amen To that I also too been single these 6months, it’s been so eye opening, I can’t even bare to be around toxic energy I know I want to be in love and married but I am really REALLY enjoying my solitude lol

[@LovelyVibrations]

Me too!!!

[@maggief1851]

Enjoy Honey,single life is the best don't let these couples deceive you.No one can love you no more than you and God.

[@boicom7]

When you find someone that truly loves you and you love him too, you will know the difference.

[@Weelsa]

Yessss! Ditto here!!

[@IevaKambarovaite]

*A lot of the times a woman sees the signs when she's being used, but she chooses to ignore them.* This is so true.. I think very often if we look back we'll realise that we saw those signs and so called red flags as early as the first few dates, but we just chose to ignore them. Women are so intuitive. We've got this immense gift. We have to learn to trust our intuition and not ignore it.

[@Nkeabands]

Yes I feel this same way!!!

[@purplelove3666]

Everyone is intuitive, it depends if you want to use it or not,

[@miglinejean2057]

Agree

[@wollywood2012]

oh my god yes

[@MJWINNER_Sketchbook999]

Gift of fear by Gavin De BECKER

[@blktauna]

LOL I'm 62, never married and while I would not mind a partner, I have no need of one and do perfectly well without one. We need to break the cycle of having parents and society beat us up over it. There's nothing to beat yourself up over. Cultivate your own happiness and enjoy your life. Living well is the best revenge.

[@chidiekpeluchi9413]

Oh my gosh! Living well is really the best revenge. I am giggling like a little girl here because i am living well with my three handsome sons after my ex-husband cheated on me. I am divorced and blessed. This is getting sweeter 🤩

[@sbella6719]

Well said! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@GoddessOfLove-pr7ek]

Yes absolutely agree with you and feel the same way as a woman in my mid 40's.

[@drcynthiabmcneill]

You are just pure awesomeness! I have been happily married for 10 years and counting, this is my second marriage. You nailed it about valuing self and enjoying your single life. You have to be a happy “me” to be a happy “we.”

[@PrizzT]

I am 42 and I am so fine with singleness. So much fun and so much freedom, I love the "me" time whenever. And you are right, being single is a blessing.

[@tennilledebysingh5819]

Absolutely on all points! It's a special time in a woman's life & I hope more women see that. It's a time to grow, evolve, have fun & develop your personal principles, values, & boundaries to live by, especially within dating. Stay true to your desires & be authentically happy. Single or in a relationship, you are still you, full & complete with or without him. We women live in a special time that is meant to honor us & it's time to understand how much power & weight we have with men. Technically we call the shots, but some are so weak & desperate they choose an unhealthy relationship & they can't see this. We have the power here, please please don't give your feminine power away!

[@tracyburroughs9695]

Enjoy singleness. Yes, it is a blessing.

[@luciaiglesias1456]

Ladies, being single is just polishing time as you become the highest caliber woman imaginable and take your time picking the best suitor!

[@GoddessOfLove-pr7ek]

Exactly

[@sarahdesimon5781]

Chastity is a treasure. Thank you for the very high standards of dignity you teach women 🙏🏽

[@shavonnelogan5026]

This is the advice I’ve been looking for as a single 42 year old woman! I’ve been doing it all wrong and I knew it. So glad Vivian was able to address this.

[@misbahailia3345]

Your positivity is contagious. 💖

[@beckybanks2952]

Same to me at 40 I've been so worried

[@pinky-ud1rt]

Same hun shes made me see something diffrent

[@GoddessOfLove-pr7ek]

Same here too.

[@ifunanyaokonkwo943]

This is coming to me at the right time. I was recently promoted and deployed to a semi urban village to work. I was truly devastated and the only reason to bring me back to the city is marital ground. I felt so awful with my life, imagining starting a new life in a strange environment. It was the only moment I regret being single. But honestly It’s making sense to me right now. My mum encouraged me so much to work there instead of seeking for redeployment. Coming here, I’ve been reassured of the positive part of it. Thanks so much for sharing.

[@Autumn_Deerfield]

Thanks!

[@jacquelynb4222]

My divorce is almost finalized and these were perfect points that I tell everyone myself. Singleness is so important. With it I've learned so much about myself, the importance of a family unit, trust, and marriage. I'm in no rush to get there but I'm so glad there are other ladies in this world who cherish singleness. It is an opportunity to learn and grow so you can meet the man of your dreams. Remember ladies, you can only offer what you are. So if you aren't at 100% then you don't have 100 to give. Heal and grow in your season of singleness.

[@imusingmygrandmasaccrnsoye9440]

These are great ideas, no one should sell themselves cheap! We must love ourselves as single women, then we will attract the right guy for long loving valued relationship! Above all, we should pray for what we exactly like in a man!

[@SLEEK1-c1r]

This is so inspiring thanks for sharing your story. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I'm now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone "you can start anytime to have a reset it's worth it! I'm striving to continue growing cus it's a journey❤

[@monica64340]

Congratulations sis! Thanks for encouraging others with your story, I will love to get tips from you too.

[@SLEEK1-c1r]

@@monica64340 Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you.

[@lunamoon448]

@@SLEEK1-c1r How did you grow to 6 Figure? I'm honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year.

[@SLEEK1-c1r]

@@lunamoon448 ¿l learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.:)

[@mariana23273]

Congratulations to you that's so brave of you thanks for sharing🥰

[@tmichellewalsh6230]

I'm actually more elegant than I thought..54 yrs old ..never married..too many offers..I have similar views..love it ..was always a different type of person..thanks for clarify..class and elegance

[@GoddessOfLove-pr7ek]

Me too. I am the same way. 💯 I enjoy my freedom, my time and space very content with my own company. Just being free-spirit, single woman. Continue with my healing, recovery, meditation and spiritual journey. The positive side of spirituality. ❤😊 Peace, love, light and blessings to you. 🙏💫✨💜💜🌺🌹

[@favourmonday5515]

Your videos are the most educated I have seen on the internet. Thank you so much ma’am 👏👏

[@maggie3315]

I am 60 and I have been single all my life. Relationship always short term for me it's my destiny I know now. I am going to marry myself and try to better my life by myself.

[@vds4252]

You nailed this video All true Thanks for helping all women As a single mother who comes from a country that values married women more than single womena

[@realpristine]

I had friends who wanted to basically trap their boyfriend with a baby and didn’t care about marriage. I had to remove myself from those women quickly 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@starrjohnson1327]

I work with two women who did that. One has 2 children. The other has 3. Both are still running around. They "date" married men and brag about it. They asked me to hang out. I always make an excuse😂

[@AJ.943]

You look beautiful in that gold color Vivian! ♥️ And wonderful video! Stay classy ladies!

[@carolineurpatyan1713]

Thank you Vivian for your education. And by the way, you resembles Serena Williams!

[@ruthbraden-l6h]

Excellent points. Marrying just to be married or to have someone who can help you escape from a miserable situation are no longer are valid points

[@loisthomas5465]

Thank you for this. Awesome message.

[@gugumazibuko6275]

I like the way Vivie said "Stop it" She doesn't say avoid. Avoid can make you stay in the omfortable zone even if it things taste sour.

[@Meesha-Gay]

Refreshing talk as usual, thank you. Numbers 1 and 3 is important for women over 40 because it attracts narcissistic men. They spot desperation from miles away and charm their way into our lives and once they find what they can get from you they begin to play on your insecurities and desperation, manipulate your thoughts and try to make you feel off balanced and dependent on them for rescuing. Then they take whatever you have and dump you and move on to the next 1 and 3 lady. I've seen it so much nearly caught me recently but I knew the red flags and I wasn't as desperate as he thought plus I wasn't about to give him any spousal favors but he tried. I got help because I talked about him to my close friends and I was able to hear myself think when I talked about my concerns; little things I overlooked accumulated and I was able to walk away from what I thought was a God send.

[@juliettekigundu147]

More girls need to hear this!. So true and many can’t quite articulate it like this.

[@parveengordon9524]

I don't know why women including myself, we might spend so much effort taking care of ourselves only to be railroaded by men who have no respect or care about women on a whole. The onus is on us to value ourselves more and to always find ways of adding value to ourselves by being independent and self sufficient thereby taking our lives in hand and be accountable for who we give the chance of even holding a reasonable discourse with.

[@Wiiniihvlog]

Personally I am single and I enjoy it. I want to know myself better before being in a relationship. Thank you for these advice ! Your videos are always of good quality.

[@jasminemwanza9586]

You're like a big sister that I always run to for advice 😊

[@rejoicennedi]

This came at the nick of time for me. Definitely watching again so it sticks. Thank you 🙏

[@fazeelafazal8615]

Love this topic and I love your British accent. You are right women should not give themself to men if he is not their husband. I respect myself, I will never give myself to a man unless he is married to me. 🙂💃

[@savinthesun]

I have been struggling after leaving an abusive relationship, thank you for this video. It makes me see the good in being single even when I struggle with loneliness. Waiting for the right one is better than being with the wrong one.

[@gingerb9997]

Thannnkkkkk youuuu my dear....I pray desperately that a lot of women watch this!

[@user-co7tt6bl]

I love you from Saudi Arabia. Thanks for the automatic translation. I enjoyed your videos

[@onadejibunmi400]

God bless you real good ma. Stumbled on your video today and am stock... Watched 4videos already and would watch more later. And YES, I am COMPLETE and being single is but a passing phase of life.

[@lifemate3962]

You gave me the most important lesson at this moment 🙂.

[@bethzaidasanabria8280]

I agree with all you say. Your wisdom is a blessing to me and my daughters. I wish I had you when growing up. But I’m still young and it’s never too late to learn. I have been single for years and I love it.

[@annabelkalai7610]

“It takes a refined mindset and a heart of love....”. So well put!!! 💯💯

[@angelicwoman9245]

At long last Vivian..someone who doesn't think dating sites are the only way to meet a man.Thank you for talking about this. I'm a professional 61 year old very trendy and independent woman I'd love to meet the right guy but after 9 years I'm not prepared to have anyone in my life..he will need to bring to the table what I do...I refuse to put myself on a dating site I want the old ways of dating getting to know a person...before listening to your video I truly thought is it just me not wanting to date from a site but it's true its a lazy way of finding the one...Thank you

[@rebekaewusie5388]

I agree! Many younger KZbinrs that have a large audience of women advocate for being on dating apps, saying that 'everyone's on them' 'just get with the program' but I don't believe it's the only way to meet a good person!

[@MiniLee-v2o]

You are a 61 year old grandma why do you want to date at this age?

[@joyfuje2021]

Thank you, you look so elegant.

[@dogopatience9163]

You just shared liquid gold, ma’am🥰 I always feel refreshed watching your videos, it’s like a natural cleanser for a woman’s soul.

[@jessicaboisabi7905]

Hey viviane I love your hair. Can you share your hair secrets, what hair you wear and how to style it so elegantly like you do❤️

[@emerald2046]

I do not believe the lies, Vivienne. Thank you for always being a big Sis 💗

[@manelgamaeathige6857]

Thank you Vivian. As a single , I am having a happy life. Learnt a lot from this vedio.

[@JOI.with.an.i]

Can you make a video of some boundaries elegant ladies must have ?

[@007Agate]

Thank you so much for your guidance. I really appreciate this page. Even my son ask me “mom you’re watching a video on how to travel?” I said “Yes, I always want to work on being the best version of me.” 😊 I have learned a few pointers from you on how to be effortlessly chic & pleasant. Last night I went to prepare my taxes and the gentleman was really taken back by my politeness. He said he wasn’t familiar with someone who says thank you so much. He brought it up several times & even asked where my parents were from & how did I get like this. I was honest & said that there have been many times when I was negative, crass & rude but I intentionally & actively work on myself. Thank you 😊 I look forward to hearing more from you of some examples of dating boundaries & standard. As a single mom a boundary of mine is to be home by 11p. I’d love to hear from others what are some of their top boundaries & standards.

[@buzzlove8437]

i am on a dating break & have taken the decision of chastity i.e 'no sex outside of marriage'. since i took this decision, i now seem to be attracting them even more.😃😃😃 ladies, be careful men can be real opportunists!!! my prayer 🙏🏽 now is to have business / job so i can be financially independent

[@fazeelafazal8615]

I always listen to my intuition and it is always right. Yes, we cannot change a man. He will not change for a woman. I don't like online dating. This is not real dating, real dating in life is meeting someone and getting to know them. I agree with everything you say. Love your videos ❤

[@naomikennedy6472]

Oh how I love your videos ....They are so educative . Can you please do a work place etiquette??? Let God bless you sis , your videos are really helping me to be the classy woman I desire to be. Thank u so much for always sharing.

[@LotachiFitMum]

Thanks for this. I’m focused on my fitness channel and inspiring people to be active. 💪🏾

[@SpiritnSoul360]

Your mind is amazingly healthy and sound. God bless you, Vivian.

[@jacquelinesmith-gaston2071]

Very good advice...once AGAIN! Thank you!

[@anabeskriva2455]

Thanks Vivienne. Excellent video. It would be great that this one could be the start of a video series of elegance for single ladies.

[@KandiKane2022]

I love these videos... Thank u so much for sharing.

[@rubynewby3519]

Well said,Thanks for your informative, inspiring lessons 👏

[@dianambabazi-cy1hw]

Wow! Thanks a lot

[@empoweringmindsforgreatness]

This is an all round amazing message. Thanks Vivian for this. I love every point. More likes and loves for you….

[@omoladeshittu5335]

Thank you for always communicating elegantly and posting beautiful videos that are extraordinarily applicable.

[@karencollins2440]

Excellent tips, Vivienne! Especially giving "wife benefits" to a man who's Not your husband. Your elegance and wisdom is inspiring. I love your videos. Thank you..

[@kaylac.4797]

Love the wisdom you shared in this video! Thank you!

[@jamiepaulse9898]

Awesome video, as always! Please do a video on how to handle unpleasant/jealous people and relationships.

[@mumjarra]

I just subscribed this video was everything. I am ready to grow and change my ugly ways and the single section also applies to married women as well. so much valuable infor thank you so very kindly .

[@HayleyMarie72]

You said nothing but facts! Even though I knew this info, I'm glad that it's being restated!!

[@mekdesayene887]

Thank you so much! I really enjoy your videos! It's great information

[@broadwaystar2b]

I am forwarding this to every fellow single woman I know 👏

[@barokaholayide1109]

incredible and insightful! well done

[@Bella_Taw]

Totally totally agree with number 6.

[@ijeomanwichi1242]

Plenty of sense in all you have said.I appreciate.God bless you💲

[@nahambohilma8598]

❤❤🙏

[@estherinyang4779]

I wish I can like this video 1 million times. Thank you sis.

[@marlscarmona3205]

Please post more often! I like your videos

[@Yieldedtojesus]

Thank you so much

[@eloncano3743]

On point! Wise thoughts. I hope more young women come accross this video :-) Thank you for building this content.

[@ShenaWittic]

Great video! I've learnt so much ❤️

[@blanchendifor1809]

So nice to here from you today. Am loving every word

[@theorganicladyofthe757]

We love your videos! I have two girls that faithfully watch your video

[@ndyndy2785]

Thank u so much☺️

[@lolajacomino6574]

Thank you so much!!! Love your videos, ❤

[@sandraburkey5931]

Good tips Thank you! You are helping me.

[@GinaArch]

Agree... singliness is a bless and marriage is also a bless if you find "the one"

[@elohoroghorodi196]

Wow..I’m really inspired by this. God bless you

[@carollim7497]

Hi Vivienne... very good and wise advice from you. 😊

[@GabyDee7]

Become your best fabulous self while single. Enjoy life!

[@teenah2494]

I like how you pass your message in a classy and simple manner.Thank you Viv❤

[@rhemamensah6582]

Thank you soo much Ms Vivienne . A new subscriber and am loving each of your videos.

[@meldatv]

May God contine to bless you as you share your wisdom with us. I appreciate and love you!

[@maryakinyi6685]

thank you so much I have learn God bless you ❤ beautiful lady

[@elizabethosomo9999]

Vivian, it’s always sweet listening to you

[@beatricechelangat4777]

Thank you Vivian

[@mutheumary]

Thank you for highlighting this gal. Being single is not a sickness & I'm happy where I am. I choose to enjoy every bit of it & not allow desperation to check in.

[@ifyn.7810]

Thanks maam...This is so refreshing 🙂

[@gibranaapsara490]

Thank you very much!, you are a light for woman, I love your channel, your energy, your elegant and timeless self. Than you from MEXICO 🇲🇽

[@djeanmose9719]

Hello Vivienne, i just love watching your video. Im obsessed watching it actually😅 your advice are amazing since i start watching your video i apply it to my life i consider you as my big sister who give me advice and your video give me confident.

[@gwentoomalatai9379]

You are so blessed with words and you are my role model for an elegant lady❤

[@RhodaK.Kollie]

This is so touching Vivian

[@vivianapiga8108]

Amazing as always

[@abisey943]

You inspire me to better myself every day, thanks Vivian.

[@vanessatanke2657]

Oh Vivienne, how I love you!☺️

[@nancyphilips3837]

I love ur teaching

[@nancyphilips3837]

Av been single for 10yr but this the best

[@Megan-thedreamer13]

So glad I found your page. I love it!!!

[@talkwithbliss8637]

Point number 3 ,wow 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿