How To Stop Caring What People Think of You (6 Game-Changing Tips)

[@clarkkegley]

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[@DystopianSimulation47]

"Don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from"

[@hemiwithasemii]

Love that

[@karmasutra4774]

So true

[@isabellacardenasn]

Literally the best time in my life was when I was not judging anyone, not even myself, and discovered that no one wasn’t really judging me either but were supporting of a more authentic self

[@nittygrittyt2366]

You can never win against someone who doesn't care, who doesn't mind being alone. It's been my experience that most people are shit, and as such I need nothing to do with them...I'm happiest alone...

[@crbarnes001]

I always think if people have nothing better to think or talk about than me, then they must have very sad lives and I'm glad I can give them something to focus on. Long time of not giving a fuck what people think of me. I am respectful of me and them but what they think of me is water off a ducks back. Thankfully my 16 year old feels the same. She is one of the most popular girls and friends to all. Won't bad mouth anyone and doesn't care if others don't like her friends views or opinions. I learnt a lot from her. Life's too short to worry about other peoples opinions.

[@southernbelle2478]

And at the end of the day no matter what happens life goes on. Things will work out

[@casglow]

This video was a Godsend today. Thank you Clark. I'm 41 & crave to be at the point of my life where I just don't give a fuck anymore! Much ✌️💖🤗😁

[@willsieee]

Non judgement is definitely something I want to channel. I really overthink things when people react a certain way or they say something I wasn’t excepting but with non judgement I can just be a listener rather than trying to get the desired outcome 😊

[@Vladdicted]

Thank you Clark, you hit the bull's-eye there! I quit smoking and drinking for 75 days, 45 days of semen retention and I don't give a shit about anything anymore)) I've even started recording videos. Subscribed.

[@cryptosarcasm66]

That's awesome! I've been off booze for a week now and it's hell.

[@kladkava]

That's the spirit buddy, respect!

[@Wisdomofpersia]

Everything is falling into place. Some stranger somewhere still remembers you because you were kind to them when no one else was. Just a reminder. 😉

[@sleepconcentrationmeditation]

This is the kind of knowledge that everyone should learn. We must pass this on to the next generation. 🍀 Well done Clark, thank you.

[@OneOfAMineRocks]

Thanks for sharing your insight Clark! Your messages always resonates with me! I quit drinking 397 days ago! I found a higher power to assist me, and have been doing AA which helped in the beginning, & I love the fellowship, but most the people are always dwelling on their past! My Wife has depression, I've been attempting to get her to listen to you, take your program but she won't make the time, she's at the BOTTOM of that scale, in the RED! Anyway, I look forward to taking it someday soon myself! I was 14 when I started drinking & doing drugs and turn 65 in April! 50 years of addiction, although I was a high productivity producer so I couldn't be called on my addictions! FEELS GREAT TO BE REALLY ALIVE NOW! Love sharing with others, and working on doing that, I believe that someone may benefit from my experiences & journey! Gonna FLY ! Peace & Love...LOVE YOU ALL! 💯✌️😉👉♥️

[@ParvaizRaja]

Get your wife to listen to/ read the book "Ask and It is Given" by Abraham Hicks Publications available free online as an audiobook as well as a pdf file. Bless you

[@eamonnocarroll5866]

Excellent advice - what more Can one say - Thanks

[@thesnoopydance645]

Thanks, Clark ! Your tip about taking focus off yourself is GOLD. This is a little trick I've recently begun to adapt. I decided if I started to get self conscious in a crowd I would look around and try to notice things and people around me. It really works! It's great to have this tip confirmed !!

[@anchalagarwal5331]

Sometimes it is necessary to care what other's think of us so that we can understand their mindset. I ignored so many red flags just because I was like, why should I care what they think.

[@cancel12345]

Not caring in general and not caring what people think are two completely different things and not giving a sheit to the extent of ignoring red flags when you don't normally ignore yellow ones... An example for me is I could not give a sheit and drink everyday but I know that I'll probably die in ten years. Ignoring the red flags could be blood in urine or vomit or numbness or withdrawal symptoms, fatty liver...etc Not caring what you think about my self destruction is basically a cliff note in the self destruction itself...

[@Nael36536]

we are in the same energy the right topic in minutes.Thanks

[@maskedninja6883]

I’ve been going lots of guilt and anger in myself over something I did two months ago, piece of advice I can give to all is do not let guilt an anger take over your mental health. I let it happen to me and it completely made me so unmotivated to work at my job and all I wanted was to be with my family who are always there for me.

[@jamiewilliams8107]

Ever since I've stopped caring what others think its made me more independent

[@alimccreery755]

I’ve had toxic and narcissistic people in my life and went no contact and I will never be sorry for letting go. 👍👍that’s how I feel about my opinion 😊

[@TheMensRoom2024]

I stopped giving a fuck awhile back. Life/ game changer.

[@honestmichelangelo]

Definitely something I need to work on 👍

[@gabrielengle8710]

I love your stuff. I watched this while driving and now I feel less toxic.

[@journeyfurthur6396]

Keep your eyes on the road 👀 lol

[@ric6611]

So while taking some notes from this video, I kind of started writing my own thoughts about what self-acceptance is, and I thought, why not share them with anyone willing to listen? Self-acceptance and self-improvement are not mutually exclusive. They are two sides of the same coin, because they aren't really about change, they're about growth. I want you to think of the person who couldn't ride a bike when they first tried. You wouldn't say they need to change as a person to become a bicycle rider, they just have to work on it for some time. And that time might be days or it might be months, if he ever learns to ride a bike, the time it took doesn't even matter. You wouldn't say he's a different person because now he rides a bicycle. He didn't change, he grew to ride a bicycle. So self-acceptance is not about ignoring our flaws. That is almost the opposite by definition, but we often do this in two ways that almost feel like we are actually accepting ourselves. Those are pretending those flaws don't exist, and acknowledging they're there but thinking we have to act like they aren't. Someone who wants to ride a bike can't start by pretending they actually can, or knowing they can't but thinking that if they don't do nothing about it, it won't be a problem. Key aspect here being that they WANT to ride a bike, it wouldn't be an issue if they truly didn't care about riding one, and I'll touch upon this later. Self-acceptance is also not about thinking our flaws are permanent, and that we can do nothing about them. There's cases where there are things that are permanent, but usually we can still do something about it to improve it. Thinking "I'm just lazy" or "I'm an asshole" and "that's who I am and there's nothing to do about it" is not self-acceptance, because what you're doing is just showing no accountability. It's letting go of any responsibility to ourselves by pretending it's an external factor you can't control. That's a particularly insidious form of the previous lack of self-acceptance, but instead of pretending the flaws don't exist, we pretend it's not really our fault. So, self-acceptance is about understanding the level that we're at. It's about understanding we will have aspects and obligations in life, even essential ones like taking care of our mental health, or maintaining and forming new social relationships, that we will just plain suck at at the beginning. We just have to work on it, and learn how to ride the bicycle of life. It can take us days, or it can take us months, but it won't matter when we get there. All that said, there is an important balance to be struck here. If you're an asshole, you might not want to change it, but you probably need to in order to improve some other aspect of your life like your social relationships. If you intend to write creatively you probably want to be more creative even if you don't need to. But blindly thinking we can outgrow every single negative aspect of us is short-sighted, because it falls back on the wish to become someone else. Those goals might be worth pursuing, but not all of them are. The trick is understanding which is which. The example of Clark's friend with a "hole in the chest" from the video shows this. Sometimes, all we need to "fix" our flaw, is to not fix it at all and realize it's not one. Clark's friend had something that might be considered a "flaw", but he realized he doesn't need to change it, and he doesn't want to change it. If you have a flaw you don't need or want to change, it's not a flaw, it's a feature. Finally, how does one understand what to change or not change? Well, most of the time, we will only know the answer after we try. Over the course of trying to become a better person (i.e. the best version of YOURSELF), you will inevitably try to change something that you didn't really have to. That doesn't mean you shouldn't strive to improve, that's just part of the process, and in a way, a proof that you are actually working towards that best version of yourself. This is a process which you will never truly finish, because you won't ever be perfect. But that's kind of a beautiful thing, to know that it is always possible to be better than you were yesterday.

[@TheRogersLee]

I love your videos and they have helped me so much, I like to say your efforts on teaching and helping people like me, we appreciate your work and continue to work on ourselves with your guidance

[@harryukraine]

My problem is that I sometimes ask people what they think in different situations in the hope that they will agree with my plans. This is a terrible idea. From now on I will decide and tell them after so they don't try to make me change my mind. Some people I have met are jealous or don't want you to succeed. They will try and sabotage your life. Some people have almost succeded with that.

[@specialk1983]

It is hard to learn to train yourself to NGAF but it is a life skill necessary in a successful life nowadays

[@nextlevelsuki]

Loved this video, and really loved when you shared about your alcohol-free status. I'm currently on Day 81 of my alcohol-free journey!💪🏽

[@alienautopsy9326]

All these principles are spot on, if everyone on KZbin we’re to embrace this mentality , half of the comments on all channels would disappear

[@carsonrasmussen9963]

Being judgmental as a reflex is something I really want to work on. I know it says more about me and my own insecurities that it does about anyone I may be judging and I always feel bad when I look back on my thoughts. I’ll give it a go for a week.

[@michaeljeacock]

Mark Manson wrote a pretty good book on the subject, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.

[@katyreign416]

I definitely like his videos. As a musician, I live in a really crappy scene with toxic people who are usually jealous and crazy. I've had a lot of people talk bad about me who don't even know me, and I have been trying to recover from being emotionally scarred. I have many haters, stalkers, and many true stories, too many to count. Primarily a singer, I no longer join bands anymore because I hate most people, I think most people try to trash you if they can't use you, and get jealous when they see you doing better with other people. It makes me sick, and I really need to try to have this mentality, but unfortunatley in the entertainment world, as this guy probably knows, it's a different story. People do turn their heads, they do gossip. Hell, this guy is hot and very intelligent, but if he rejects someone I wonder if he gets the same thing? Whether or not your a good person, people who don't know you are going to talk bad, and it's sadly inevitable. I guess moral of the story is remember is the smallest dog barks the loudest, and you just have to shrug off the haters.

[@HumbledKiki]

This is very true , blessings to all❤

[@Stevenontheside]

Very well said with radical self-acceptance and self-development becoming antagonistic forces beyond a certain threshold. Thank you for the video.

[@MiaStayingCreative]

“People don’t relate to PERFECT.” - needed that! Thank you! 🔆🫶🏼💯🔆🫶🏼💯🔆

[@southernbelle2478]

Now I take it as a compliment when people talk about me lol like damn I didn't know I was that important in your life that your thinking about me all the time

[@RocketBeats_]

Clark you changed my life forever

[@specialk1983]

I've been trying to teach this to a very close younger friend, thank you for making a full- length video about it

[@lekipema633]

I am fun loving person with my best friends and family, but as soon as i am alone, my confidence drop to zero and feel judged. I care about people who doesnt exist also... Its too much.. 😢

[@crismay1981]

You and Dan Koe are the Best of KZbin! Thanks for your work!

[@nitika008]

Non judgmental towards people. Wow this is so true but it’s hard!

[@Confused.Collaboration]

Thanks Clark! Your message always hits when I need it. Much appreciated! ❤

[@southernbelle2478]

I was always told. People are as worried and focused on you as your are on them. And when I started realizing that I am always worried about myself and what I'm doing wrong and what others think of me rather then what this girl is doing and watching her constantly that saying was like well damn they are just as worried about themselves to they are not focused on me like I think they are

[@LudmillaParsyak]

Thank you again Clark! This is the wisdom worth passing on to our kids. Keep on your great work. You are a great inspiration and always a pleasure to listen to 🙌

[@aoifea6254]

I really needed to see this movie tonight. Having problems in my life with others and over caring about what they think. Great video ❤

[@Candiceemry]

The perfect way to start the day! Thank you, Clark! ❤

[@luiz_second]

thank you so much for you videos and your tips, you really help me

[@ramyeon_jjajangmyeon]

At work, there was a miscommunication and misunderstanding between me and my colleague. she thinks I did not stand up and supported her while she was on informed leave. but I gave my best answer to the senior who asked about her on that specific day that why she was on leave. she and other colleagues(who knows this matter...) thinks that I didn't stand up for her on that day. but from my perspective, I did support her with my words and didn't bring a bad name for her to seniors. What should I do? I cannot go and explain to each and everyone that “I didn’t say anything wrong and you guys have misunderstood “. Even I do get a chance to explain myself, they/she thinks forever that I didn’t support her at that moment. I cannot stop thinking that how can I change their perspective?. What if these ppl(they also follow me on social media) think and say that “she didn’t stand up for the person on that day.. and she is pretending to be nice and good, enjoying her life?”

[@MsLisa551]

This was great, thank you. I struggle with caring, so much so its not helping me with starting a channel. I want to and it would bring value. But I talk myself out of it,, the haters are so cruel.

[@ivaldisako]

Great tips, thanks man! I think you're talking about Brian on self acceptance right? Great example

[@eso_teryka]

thanks im goin to try this .

[@user-yd1ge2pv4e]

i am really scared of teachers at school honestly, I overthink so much because “everything i am doing reflects on my reputation among the teachers and my grades, my future studying in university depends on my grades and my future depends on that” and idk what to do about it, for example i wanna skip school tomorrow because i feel like i am just too tired and i need ti rest but i am shaking now because my teacher is gonna be angry and it will influence on my life and grades😭

[@lexingtonlad5745]

I think this becomes the norm the older you get, I’m nearly 48 and couldn’t give two fs anymore 👍

[@ansh0655]

greatest motivation of all time

[@hayatyahya3481]

One of the best videos that I've ever seen, thanks a lot

[@somicaspratley]

I'm almost 40, and that's not true. I care more now than I did when I was 26.

[@timovehkaoja]

Why do you care?

[@drvertiz]

Great video. It´s something I struggle with everyday

[@TheMensRoom2024]

Dude looks like Ryan Reynolds from waiting.

[@marniebrimhall986]

Great job making this video!!!! This is very helpful and extremely IMPORTANT!!!! 😊

[@janicetelfer6211]

Needed that today 😊ty

[@user-jq8jy8ld4u]

Soooooo important! Thank you for this! I follow you since months. You inspire me!❤🎉😊

[@Tuscani2005GT]

The laugh I had around the 6 minute mark was great. Thanks :)

[@naomib5220]

Hi Clarke. I find your content really interesting and it’s inspired me to do some self development. A question I have and I’d love see some content on is - can you be your own therapist?

[@alimccreery755]

Absolutely makes perfect sense 👍👍

[@tipstops5306]

Sometimes you get only one group where you can hang out but it's very hurtful if they don't include you or just ignore you and your words, they keep talking with other members of the group. Hence I have started living with my own still not anyone to share,talk or have fun. Is it my good decision to just not care about them anymore and start enjoying my own company?

[@TheMellichase]

Such a great video! Thank you so, so much for your work ❤😊

[@ogbobby89]

My problem is debating with people in not being heard if i dont get loud and aggressive im not heard

[@joaquinben4458]

Great Video!!!

[@pranayjain._]

Nice humour at the end, right there 🤣❤️

[@donspradley6912]

This video was epic!!

[@storm4515]

I love these vids. Such gold!!!

[@sandralulu777]

Yes find the fun when I take things too seriously.

[@travelpalz]

challenge accepted, I will start at work tomorrow!

[@beingofsymbols]

Fantastic video! Much wisdom. I dig you!!!!!

[@WhatTheColour]

Best thumbnail ever

[@happylifestyle7262]

I really needed it today😢

[@dorc_asmr]

Extremely honest and useful video… what an arc of self-improvement and quality… congrats! What’s up with the the jumper? Its color have popped suddenly? :) thanks anyways

[@ebolacerealpoof4906]

I needed this

[@Christina-yu3gu]

Service, Service, Service, Help others! ❤ get out of ur head.

[@AwakenedAspirations]

Awesome! love this channel! Agree 💯

[@linda.quirky]

Perfect timing!

[@JamesKonzek-xr5zy]

I like Clark! Clark is my friend!

[@cal_el]

That's day one stuff dude. I went against the whole planet and the first thing I said was I don't give a fuck what u think about me, I have a job to do.

[@jibrinhaliluyahaya8061]

Awesome

[@user-em5bz2uk5j]

Thank you very much for this video.

[@gonzoyamaoka4818]

Great tip thank you 🎉 really helpful

[@FreeAudiobooks4]

Bro you are best,you helped a lot❤❤

[@JaylaEmbaby]

this was AMAZING

[@lunamia8]

Thank you love this 💚🙏

[@stephaniewood7611]

Yes to all of this except the part about 40 and 60 year olds not caring what people think lol. 😂

[@mehdibelkadi1740]

Thank you man ❤

[@Ol_Red_Beard]

8:44 Be interested instead of being interesting

[@joycelatham6974]

I love your videos. Thanks

[@capntata.k.ak.metrist1192]

This hit

[@eileenstasczak6606]

Advice starts 2:34

[@yukishudo7691]

I will come back in a week! ✨

[@wadirtutakhail2289]

Thanks bro i learnd alot

[@Bigmikey369]

Hmmmm no judgement for a week....I'll lyk how it goes!

[@tung01vuongtri33]

okay, I will do the nonjudgement today(8/24/2024) and comeback one week later(9/1/2024) to showed the result

[@EdgarM-xo7ef]

Love these types of videos, thanks Clark!

[@Jayda08]

I might not be an expert, but im I can safely say that middle finger is NOT the solution.

[@RS-zl4vs]

BRO NOTHING WORKS WITH ME AM I BRAIN DEAD ? NOTHING HELPS I CAN TRY NOT TO CARE BUT I STILL FEEL LIKE SHIT

[@JeffMoore1984]

Don't give up there's always a way look at it from a different angle.. u probably got a good heart 🕊️🌏🙏 . Keep your head up