How To Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (and feel GREAT about yourself)

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Julia Kristina Counselling

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@juliakristinamah Ай бұрын

Share your experiences with comparison in the comments below and let’s support each other on this journey

@shormarl Ай бұрын

I don't compare in physical looks or body composition, but it's in my professional life and my spiritual practice that it comes on strong. I see other people in my profession who are engaged, active, and have all of this knowledge that I don't have. Why am I not more like them? Why don't I care as much about issues in our profession as they do? I see fellow meditators who are seemingly more engaged with their practice and are rising in status in our spiritual community.

@jermainecharles6116 Ай бұрын

I'm seeking a therapist to help me with my social anxiety/depression. I've been living most of my adult life in complete isolation, no social life, no friends, and I feel cut off and out of touch with society/reality. I crave a connection with someone but I'm afraid 2 put myself out there out of fear of rejection can you help me😔

@lesliengo8347 Ай бұрын

I compare myself in works of creativity, like designing and drawing. I realized I rarely compare myself in how I look or my body composition. When I do works of art and design, I would be sure to look out for comparison.

@kimvanniel2117 Ай бұрын

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@tringo999 12 күн бұрын

Yes, that bulb lights up , be myself love myself because I'm right where I'm supposed to be👍

@CharlieandSabastian Ай бұрын

I catch myself comparing myself to others, in how I do things from how they do things in their lives. Thank you for the inspiration Kristina. Will be listening to more of your videos

@audreyestelle687 Ай бұрын

Yes 🙌🏾! It leads to negative intrusive thoughts like, “They are so much better than me” or “I’m not good enough” Rehearsing or feeding into those thoughts leads to anxiety and depression if not dealt with. Galatians 6:4 says “Focus on your OWN work, for then you will receive the SATISFACTION of a job well done, NOT COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! Thanks for this❤

@fahadjo920 Ай бұрын

Love you so much Dr Julia 😍💖 You really know how I’m feeling towards myself and others 😣🥺💔 I’m so happy I got someone to understand me & can help me improve my life 🌿🌸💖🙏🏼 Fahad, a Junior doctor from Kuwait 🇰🇼 I watch & follow your advice in every video you posting 🥰 So much appreciating you Dr Julia 😍😘🌸

@vdyson9655 Ай бұрын

Great words, Julia!

@sarahzottl4940 Ай бұрын

Generally, it comes down to my looks. You are right, I can’t change my face without surgery which is not within my value system. I can make impact on my health and how I take care of my body.

@bonbutler5039 Ай бұрын

Needed this. Thank you

@randitruitt1671 Ай бұрын

Exactly! Thank you for the confirmation.

@LisaLang0816 Ай бұрын

Thank you Julia! This is great!

@TeresaWarnock-n3z Ай бұрын

I was having a rough morning. Was all up in my head and you showed up. I am going to watch more of your videos so I can get back on track. ❤

@chrisdigitalartist Ай бұрын

My thoughts and notes on Julia’s KZbin video (10/31/24): How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (and feel GREAT about yourself) This is one of my favorite topics. I enjoy this topic because it is one of the things I have struggled the most, and now one of the things that I am overcoming! To me, I have always struggled when I had a crush on someone and yet that person is with someone else and I would compare myself to that person. “I am not as attractive as that person. “or “I am not good enough.” Although, there may be some intrusive thoughts, I can take a step back and overcome them by reminding myself, “Chris, look at all the mind management and inner work you have been doing. This feels good and makes me fall in love with myself (in a healthy way) and I am starting to believe because of this work, I am attractive enough. Good job. I am proud of you!” Here are my notes: * Ask yourself what is it that you are comparing yourself to that person? * What it takes for that person to get or have what you want? * Am I willing to do the work and put in the effort it takes me to get to that similar outcome? * Be honest, do you really want that outcome? Do you really want to do all that work and effort? How to overcome the comparison trap: * Be happy for those that you have compared yourself with. Create a list that makes them great. * Be proud of yourself and acknowledge the things that are great about you. * Make a list that shows what is great about you. * There are things that are great about them and there are things that are great about me. * Keep your eyes on what is important to you and focus on that: * This is where I'm at. * This is where I am growing. * This is where I am showing up intentionally. * This is how I am investing into the things that are important to me. * Be proud of that and grateful for focusing on yourself for doing that. * Keep the eyes on my own journey. * How do I want to show up today that aligns with my values and my goals? * If you are going to look at other people, look for them for inspiration, and NOT comparison: * Look at the possibilities and get excited! * Be intentional when scrolling through social media: * Check in with yourself after using social media. Does it make you feel good? * Look at who YOU are and what YOU have to offer: * No one can do you better than you can do you. * Only you know where you are at and what you have been through and what's important to you. * Fall in love with yourself, be proud of yourself, and be your own best friend.

@tundenagy1367 Ай бұрын

Thank you, Julia!

@josa720 Ай бұрын

Encouraging words. Very logical advice. If only we were equipped with an off switch for our feelings. And most of us who play the comparison game intuitively know it's illogical. But just because we're *told* to feel proud of ourselves and not jealous of others doesn't mean, ding, it happens in a blink.

@Gingerbread_Man23 Ай бұрын

I’m proud of despite how hard it was to be in this rollover van accident I’ve came so far. I haven’t let my trauma become suicide. Even though at moments it feels like I have and I’ve kept going.

@staceychavez7864 Ай бұрын

Thanks for being so open with us and honest. You got this!

@LotusOuest Ай бұрын

Thank you Julia.

@lesliengo8347 Ай бұрын

Whenever I compare myself to others, I completely forgot that I compare only certain things. I never compared myself with someone who has a "better" tooth brush, haha. I often compare myself to works of creativity, like design and drawing. I also sometimes compare myself in terms of productivity. As a recovering perfectionist, I take longer to complete tasks and when seeing people complete tasks quicker than I do, I feel terrible. However, I have been able to catch myself comparing myself to others and reminding myself to focus on my own goals and accomplishments. When I look around for references I tell myself to look at things as inspiration, not comparison.

@jeffhodge3279 Ай бұрын

every time i go to church i envy those two income couples, that are active in the church, raising a family, nice homes, and i am on the other hand am caring for a sick wife, dealing with recent losses of siblings, and constantly keep getting knocked town, and getting back up

@johnfarago3363 Ай бұрын

I just walked to my desk thinking everyone does things better than me. I pickup my phone and see this video. Julia, how do you know?

@giangbui7088 Ай бұрын

Thank you. I guess we all have one of those days that we make a full show out of ourselves. Taking everything so personal. Feeling behind and unworthy. Lonely and small.

@Ragh.B Ай бұрын

felt accepted, felt better after watching this, thanks ...

@CharlesRBiggs Ай бұрын

Abilities. Charlie, here. Thanks very much.

@pamwatkins4855 Ай бұрын

Inspire, you!😊

@micheledaley2085 Ай бұрын

I compare everything I have never felt good enough

@captaindan1000 Ай бұрын

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -Theodore Roosevelt.

@ValtronW Ай бұрын

I would really appreciate a video on how to deal with jealousy. I have a hard time dealing with unfairness. I have a friend who recently inherited a ton of money and was able to buy a house. Meanwhile I'm stuck in a crappy apartment. It's hard not to feel envious 😥

@pamwatkins4855 Ай бұрын

Important tasks

@PM-eg9qu 10 сағат бұрын

I always compare myself in the workplace with some coworkers. I always feel like they get all the attention and I don't know why I care, as I don't like alot of attention. Hopefully, this will help me just accept me exactly as I am,

@altynaistauss7682 Ай бұрын

Status, career, money, body, face.

@thegspotblog-everythinggen5460 Ай бұрын

I'm an island. 😊

@NoFaceJourneys Ай бұрын

John from Africa 🌍

@stevecatanio8532 Ай бұрын

Hi Julia.😂❤

@tracypigden2502 Ай бұрын

Relationships

@stevecatanio8532 Ай бұрын

Hey blinky😂😂😂❤❤❤❤😍😍

@pamwatkins4855 Ай бұрын

My life

@pamwatkins4855 Ай бұрын

I'm good with,Me! Dont give up, keep going😮😮 love Pam, funny, so said, loved, says I'm good, loved like, pudding the proof in it, well see, not impossible

@morgenkottke Ай бұрын

i’m morgen, i am in my first year of college and to be honest i am really struggling… i was unfortunately born with achondroplasia (a form of dwarfism) i constantly get stuck in my head and think of every single negative thought, i feel like everyone is judging me and i feel really left out and thinking everyone hates me

@staceychavez7864 Ай бұрын

I would be your friend! I'm sure there's a lot of people who will like you if they got to know you.