How To STOP OBSESSING Over Someone & Start LETTING GO...

[@andreasrydell]

Being obsessed with someone means that you are trying to get something out of them that you could actually give to yourself first which is acceptance, love and appreciation. But the stories we tell our selves from the experiences of our past that are written into our unconscious programming makes it very hard to come to that point of being able to do that. Cause we are acting outside of our conscious awareness which means we are not in control. Old repeating patterns that we picked up. To break the pattern, become aware of what you are feeling that first preceeds the behaviour of obsession, (maybe inadequecy, loneliness, shame, etc) and heal it at it's root. And you'll be ready to let go.

[@spiritual-sanctuary_sharoni]

Glad you explained it so well ❤️❤️ I get attached to people very easily and end up getting hurt! But currently working on my self concept because i have lived my entire life trying to make others happy and living up to for their validations....it's so addictive and I am aware of it! I have tried loving myself but somehow miserably failed....still don't understand why! Maybe the urge to have that one person who would love me the way i have loved and cared and always understood everyone.....or that craving for the companionship has made me loose everytime! I still don't know how to say NO.....it's a big challange! I am trying and i know i can do it! These videos and comments like yours helps me a lot! Thank you once again! God bless you! Love from India ❤️🤗

[@johnym.8878]

Rejection breeds obsession.

[@axentelivia]

well said! 👍🏻😊

[@kevinfrederick2306]

Thank you!

[@natashialee6632]

@@spiritual-sanctuary_sharoni Everything you have said describes me perfectly.

[@JohnM...]

You have to let go completely, with your heart and soul, and be ok with probably never seeing them or hearing from them ever again. Wish them all the best, because they and the quantum field know that you care for/love them - even if you accept you can’t be with them. That’s what love is.

[@apekshagandotra1192]

It's actually the emotional attachment that creates all the ruckus. Once you learn to control emotions, half of your life gets fully sorted.

[@valeriebrown9947]

Ur good! I was emotionally attached to this guy, then not, now he's around again, & I'm attached again. Except this time, he's doing Meth. Got thrown out of where he lives. But (I think) I'm an Empath, so this is my glorious new pet project. He REALLY did have a shitty childhood. Went to get drugs for his mom at 13, got caught, so he went to Reform School from 13 to 18. His dear Dad surprised him w Heroin on his 12th birthday. (That's not in the pic. But Meth is.) Really liking him + his helping me + his needing female nurturing? This is the dream situation for an abused Empath herself. TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!

[@nmania3]

@@valeriebrown9947 read "women who love too much"

[@bigenergy3880]

and how do you control them. ive tryed recongize them etc still think of the girl fucking another guy and getting butthurt sad and angry

[@samuel.snowdon93]

Facts. I went to therapy to work on these things and it's made such a difference in progressing my life.

[@Leeohlin89]

Emotional is given. That’s part of the embodiment of what he’s explaining.

[@Ayhaninho892]

It doesn‘t make sense to stay at a place where there is no curiosity, interest and love. You have to let it go. Observing beforehand, whether they give it or not. If not, then let go. That‘s the only job to do. And frankly, I don‘t care anymore if that certain person comes back or not. It just that we are trained to act like saviors and forcing things. But We don‘t have to suffer like that.

[@esmeraldablossom]

Then, if you let them go, you lose interest and if they come back you are not interested in them anymore, which is annoying to think how much you were suffering back then because you wanted them badly but you could not have them, and now that you don't want them anymore, they reappear, and sometimes for the wrong reasons, not because they all of the sudden became the person that you always wanted. There should be a Twin Flame for each person, someone who you can be yourself and love each other freely without getting hurt, no games. This topic about trying to get back with an ex and trying to manifest a challenging SP should be substituted for becoming the best person that you can and on that path meet that Twin Flame who is supposed to be with you. If an ex and SP wants to come back to you effortlessly and kindly, then you could give them a chance, but don't wait for it, and if so, deal with them cautiously until they show you that they have changed to better. There is no point to keep on obsessing. I wish that there could be a painkiller pill that could eliminate heartbreaks instantly, then, life would be much easier for everyone with a path free to manifest the right person.

[@barshamalla7729]

But why the hell you show interest to a guy who isn’t showing in the first place ? As human we just have to reciprocate, no need to ask, chase or beg. Interested person will show they are interested from the first day, in between if they loose interest we should be okay

[@meaghanross9843]

So spot on! Letting go is also knowing you have to be aware that this person may not chase you. But also knowing your worth, that this person is probably not right for you. That the right person you would never have to fight for their attention or seek validation. Biggest lessons I’ve had to go through. Realising that the people I was obsessing, chasing, felt a “strong connection” to were really just showing me that I had abandonment issues, childhood wounds, and self love that I need to work on and heal. And it was a pattern. A lesson that would not go away until I was honest with myself and done the work and trust me, the attraction you feel for those you feel so connected to but don’t choose you, does fade the more you heal, and you will attract less of those people who don’t choose you or show up for you. But these people are also wonderful teachers if you allow them to be. Love your content, thank you for this! ❤

[@gracestead5908]

Thank you for this comment, I really needed to read that today ❤

[@meaghanross9843]

@@gracestead5908 I am glad it came to you at a time you needed it and were ready for it, believe me I used to convince myself otherwise and keep myself stuck in these painful, addictive cycles. It gets so much better once you are honest and true to yourself ❤️

[@Iloveshihtzus]

Makes sense completely. Me too I passed this some years ago

[@lovephotographybycarainc.5650]

Screen shot this comment for when I need reassurance thank you so much ❤

[@daeclipse03]

This comment is entirely me as well. Glad I'm not the only one with the same struggles. Hope your doing better now!

[@knowitintobeing]

The only way to really manifest your SP is you let go completely. You love them, yes, but love them unconditionally. And that means to let go. And then the chance that they come to you, get so much higher. Like 10x. 💖

[@abhishekfxmondal]

Yes agree with you totally. Letting go is the key.

[@jporter8684]

do you really believe that... (in a good attitude , an honest question) have you experienced this?

[@Kareena1988]

​@@jporter8684i think he may or not but letting go is the only way because people cannot handle being ignored

[@HugoR022]

​@jporter8684 I can tell you this is the only way to go. Energy is real I can approve this. I can tell you they ALWAYS came back after letting go .. just stay strong and be patient

[@Kareena1988]

@@HugoR022 really? Every one of them?

[@deec411]

The basis of being "needy" I believe is fear of abandonment. We need to realize WE ARE ENOUGH. Love yourself first!! 🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤

[@leesanderson6885]

Fear of abandonment. 💯% is at the heart of the matter

[@snoopynasosu]

Ah, yes.. that god damn devil feeling.. i think it's this life karma something..

[@ollieewin4757]

This shot runs deep. There was a time when I thought I was free of my parents little did I know my sense of safety was still on that foundation created when I was young, stepping into one’s frame can be a crazy shift on an energetic level I also I have comedy skits about all the infantile devious I’d made in avoiding these facts of responsibility and carful planning in balance with spiritual knowledge that you might like too 😈💪🏋️‍♀️💥🔥

[@sage5585]

If you’re not ready to lose her, you’re not ready to have her

[@RN25899]

"Any day now...any day now...I shall be released." Sometimes it's hard to let go...scary... abnormal...but it's good for you. Whoever you are... it's time for you to grow. You've got this.

[@TheVaultwest]

You’re right, I do. Thank you 🙏 ❤

[@OmegaBlackRage]

Good song

[@ollieewin4757]

This shot runs deep. There was a time when I thought I was free of my parents little did I know my sense of safety was still on that foundation created when I was young, stepping into one’s frame can be a crazy shift on an energetic level I also I have comedy skits about all the infantile devious I’d made in avoiding these facts of responsibility and carful planning in balance with spiritual knowledge that you might like too 😈💪🏋️‍♀️💥🔥

[@Dray.TheChosen1]

Finding your passion isn't just about careers and money. it's about finding your authentic self. The one you've buried beneath other people's needs.🙏🏽🖤💫

[@waterlily938]

So spot on. Buried beneath other people's needs.

[@nikolinajakic9037]

So very true. Find your one self and be happy. Most of people want to see you miserable

[@Chic.Geek75]

I saved your video and keep playing on repeat until my pain goes away.

[@daphne3717]

3 months since the break up. I don’t know if I’m obsessing or just grieving the loss. He’s always on my mind. The break up was for the best but I miss him terribly. I want to cut the cord so I can heal and move on.

[@Itsdeenicole]

Bring your energy back and let go

[@MandyJRoss]

If you're reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve the best.💗🙏🏼

[@mariamerchant373]

I wish the same for you ❤

[@paklaiflores]

I need this

[@starbeauty672]

Thanks same to you Loving Almighty Dear Sweet Loving HEAVENLY FATHER GOD through Loving Awesome Wonderful JESUS CHRIST forever bless.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇😇😇❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇🙏🏾😇😇😇😇😇❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇😇❤️❤️🙏🏾

[@Naahh.imgood]

You too 💖💞💞

[@will_i_am29]

Thank you ❤ and likewise 🙏🏽

[@NaomiGong]

I got chills when you were talking about nice vs. kind, because I always say this! Kindness if from the heart. It’s pure. Niceness is behaving, doing, saying what is expected of us and is inauthentic. A person can be nice but completely inconsiderate. Total pet peeve of mine..

[@matimproves]

I have to do that now, I'm currently so obsessed with my ex, I lied to myself and said I moved on, but today I realised I lied to myself I didn't move on.

[@ascensionqueen]

have you moved on ?

[@sophiedehrarehaggis]

I really needed this I’m so glad I came accords this video like right now lol. I’ve been obsess with him without noticing and it drained me so much I was constantly seeking for help because I literally put him on the pedestal and he made me an option lol. Thank you so much and I hope whoever is going through this as well gets their closure and be their own king and queen again because everyone is a king and queen in their own way 👑

[@abhishekfxmondal]

Yes totally agree with - All of us are king and queen in our own . The star of our movie.

[@chamroeunkim8146]

I’m going through the samething!

[@realme888]

you got this! you are a queen ❤

[@dunkwiremu8360]

This is mind blowing for me to. Listening to this is like counciling. And yes going through obsession too for years now. Different ones over the years. I can relate. I'm greatful now though that the lord has healed me from all these things already 😆

[@dvo84]

"because we don't feel like we can be loved for just being us" :( I can relate. Thanks for this insight and for your channel. God bless.

[@taracassidy]

Yes had to change myself to feel loved ugh

[@Mary-hq2xb]

I really needed this video! I am letting go and realized there was some toxicity. I need to put that energy back into me. If he comes back, that’s fine, if he doesn’t that’s fine, too. But, by focusing on me, I will be a better more confident person for the next relationship. Awesome video.

[@shawnadeyo]

Loving yourself is not being a narcissist. I think people need to realize that. Narcissists DONT love themselves. They actually hate themselves.

[@Gratitude337]

The fact that listening to you can just make me not care all of a sudden

[@lilsumpn]

Being able to grieve, sit in the absence and your longing accepting the loss and knowing for your well-being. Loving yourself more

[@tracyyalanty3520]

"You are that which you have been searching for" Homie you fuckin broke me with this, one. Thank you for being you. For opening up and having the hard talks about our true selves. I didn't know how much I needed this. 😌

[@johnk5503]

Meaning... my wife We're going through a rough patch . Im letting go because because i love her and we'll see what happens ... i had to become comfortable with whatever goes down

[@thechancellor-]

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Just allow grace to let it in.

[@akshitarai2130]

I'm so glad that I came across this video. I finally decided that I need to let it go, not for him to come back but I want to see him free and let myself be free. Thank you Aaron.

[@jessicaagosto3633]

YES IM THINKING ABOUT HIM NOW, AND YES THATS WHY IM LISTENING TO THIS VIDEO NOW

[@Liam_240]

I have been seeking validation from outside of me my whole life that it has become a personality which I'm trying to break. Everything you've said in this video has accurately described me, it's scary. Like I find myself agreeing with someone who I don't necessarily agree with just so that I don't upset them, even if they are a total stranger. Why I clicked on this video is because I have been obsessing over my ex who clearly is content without me, the fact that she doesn't choose me has gotten my self worth taking a nose dive. Which goes to show my self worth and happiness is tied to this person, I have become a slave to her, a cameo in her movie. All because I have convinced myself that she is the one and without her I am unhappy. I have wanted to be in a loving, satisfying and happy relationship for so long, I have obsessed about it and identified her as the one who would see this come through. You have helped me to confront my own vulnerability, which I've been too afraid to heal. I am scared shitless of facing myself but it's the only way I can heal.

[@paigetrees]

i’ve craved attention from people who weren’t available to give it to me in order to gain approval and i’ve pushed away people who want to give me love because i don’t want someone to be anxiously attached to me. even if the person i used to obsess over did come back, there is no guarantee that i would even be truly attracted to them because my attraction stemmed from validation seeking tendencies. i love all of your insights so much! thanks for helping me think about things in new ways!

[@dennisstrahl6151]

October 11th, 2023 .... well done, Aaron - PERFECT TIMING for me - was sent to me by a female friend on Facebook, who knows that i JUST went through a "separation". I like how you address the "Energetics" aspect ... and how the other person "knows" telepathically that you have not let go (yet) .... and then this AGGRAVATES the situation. Fortunately, I have RESISTED making ANY phone calls / text message(s) .... or whatever. Complete silence from both parties. Now my Heart and Emotions towards her will STOP, (I really Loved her) .... because you enlightened me to aspects I had not considered!

[@gavinspeaks]

When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction KZbinr💜

[@ghosted843]

Detaching from outcome also means detaching from your comfort zone…… once I realized that it became much easier to let go now I am can say I am experiencing and enjoying my true self and enjoy being inward. Peace and love

[@scrfred]

I detached from my ex girlfriend moments after discovering this channel bringing all my energy into my own frame why is it that as I started to feel better I felt her thinking about me and immediately felt repel and began to struggle with bringing my energy into my own frame

[@lesleybrady3948]

I actually love how much you relate to your story! With a fun vibe! With awareness not distraction!!

[@Pas-t8z]

Dear universe I let go today for my best . thank you for showing me the way . thank you thank you .

[@lisalefemine1880]

I had a stepmom from 13-17 . I send you a big hug . Thank you I needed to hear this video ♥️♥️

[@cristi8995]

Thanks for making these videos. As a person with anxious attachment I think I have plied people with love and adoration that they perhaps didn’t deserve. I always put myself last. I’ve been seeking information out a lot to help myself grow. Very helpful videos 🎉

[@daeclipse03]

Same. It isn't a life long prison sentence though, we can break free from it and live happy and love ourselves. Once we do it will unlock so many opportunities for healthy relationships in our lives going forward😊

[@arrenjaymeabel946]

Same

[@iptisamal-alak6920]

I’ve listened to this i on repeat ..I’ve cried because this is me. I think it’s tears of realisation , relief, hope that I can learn to not be like this anymore. You probably won’t even see this but thanks.

[@jeantuite-actress--imdb]

Sometimes I obsess over jobs and careers too and it adds to my indecision as well as decisions re dating or with problematic friends. I used to try to fix people too or difficult situations instead of just moving on and working more on myself. now I work on myself

[@Peanut22222]

The whole “twin flame” journey keeps a lot of people stuck in this energy. When it could be deeply rooted in trauma.

[@basarunsal3639]

Letting go is not not thinking of them, not dropping the desire. Letting go is letting go of fears and doubts. If you know it is already happened or living in the end (those are different) then you don't need letting go!

[@jonathanbyrd4724]

Agreed, letting go of fears and doubts, thats the key!

[@laurayates4033]

THIS. Wow. Even therapists cant' get this real and candid. Excellent points.

[@chrisgrove7829]

This resonates deep. I was with my ex for 9 years, made a bunch of mistakes. Have reached out several times to heal, but not being overly obnoxious about it because, since I’ve been single for the last 2 and half years, I’ve had a new woman in my life put that energy on me in a really needy way. So I get both sides. I understand what it’s like to want someone soooo bad, and to also be chased when I’m not really feeling it, and dealing with the obsession with the ex of course. It’s like being in a bizarre stalker sandwich situation. Lol. And there really is a difference being vulnerable and being needy. Vulnerability is a way better and more authentic way of expression:)

[@JustinAlphabet]

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measurement

[@mafmaf82]

One challenge with learning to be more authentic is that you start drawing toward you a lot of people who become obsessed with YOU.

[@TeamCadenceStamper]

Big game changer was being honest & vulnerable to myself. I would say I forgive my mom but subconsciously - I didn't at all - I'm pissed and angry at her, she hurt me, I was raised to fail because of how she programmed me. I was never good enough, I'm a perfectionist because I tried so hard to go above & beyond to please her but always failed. But I so want to "let go" of that anger - I'll meditate and say ok mom, I forgive you but I still don't feel better which makes me more angry. The fact is - I didn't or don't forgive her therefore- I get stuck because I'm not even working with honest feelings. I'm STILL saying what I think I am supposed to say, I'm not being honest with myself. So if awareness brings healing - the healing does not come because I'm not even aware it's even there. So I have to be 100% transparent & vulnerable to get there. I finally broke down and started therapy because I couldn't be honest with myself on my own. After being stuck for so long, I'm finally making very small progress - wish it could just go faster and be over it but not how it works.

[@TheSnupix]

I have no idea what I am doing, but will trust you, God knows why. At least you prevent me from sending a message to him. Hope is an intuition to follow your words. Since I believe everything happens for a reason, thank you. 💛

[@Tatjana.B]

I was obssesed with narcissist and that was disaster. It was special way of that, worst as could be, resulted with depression and loss of myself that I barely survived.

[@ghenaghanem2265]

I agree on this concept " Drop the manipulation".

[@Kandyrose0108]

Send me hugs- I find it hard not to be obsessed

[@daeclipse03]

It was the trauma bond for me. She was a narcassist. I broke up with her but continued to text her and project all my pain onto her giving away all my power and energy. Ultimately made me look like the bad guy and an idiot. We live and learn.

[@codyhiphop4284]

This one really hit home man ! It's true I was trauma bonded in and the abuse felt familiar and this is one of the reasons it's been hard to let go. After 3 months since I left her and using your letting go videos iv came so far man. So close to switching my whole mindset and attachment style. Thanks I needed this .

[@miryana79]

Hi Cody. I'm sure your partner is a lovely person. However,in my experience and previous relationships,I have realised that It's important to: Communicate with your partner,never assume,give her compliments,ring her everyday,be very faithful.if you like her,than spend time with her, don't listen to your friends advice( cause they are usually jealous).and gossip. Do not listen to gossip. So Cody, being attached to a special person can be ok,as long as you are ok. Then you can communicate and be free,be yourself,be open. You sound like a shy person ( I left my ex cause he didnt know how to Communicate and avoided serious conversation eg( his values of cheating while being intimate with me,which is very wrong) It seems to me u miss your partner. ( Or ex) Go out and buy her a gift and communicate. Do not not ring her,cause if you don't call her,she will loose interest. Be honest. Tell her how you feel. A lot of guys I have met don't know how to talk, they ignore their partners,and go off with their mates ,and soon they start cheating on their intimate partners,cause they don't know better. If you don't like her at the start, don't start anything at all. And never use girls either. You will only feel bad yourself. Good luck 🌹 If a male doesn't do these things,a female will realize that he's not mature for a proper relationship.

[@codyhiphop4284]

@@miryana79 yes your absolutely right about communicating , and I'm actually not shy at all the problem with this relationship was that she would not communicate with me period. I would try and she would turn it into an argument because she was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and narcissistic. And some how the toxicity was familiar to me and I kept going back to her off and on for 4 years even though she treated me horribly. So what I learned from Aaron is that I have or had an anxious attachment style where I allow abuse from someone for a period of time and that I need to let go and let in what better people and things the universe can bring me I never have to be with an abusive narcissistic person again, and would never ever take this abusive person back into my life because I know I deserve better . I hope that sheds some light on my situation and toxic past relationship that thanks to Aaron's videos i was able to man up and leave the long term abuse. Thank you for your response.

[@miryana79]

@@codyhiphop4284 yes. Cody. My ex would ignore me when I asked him questions ,simple like "let's go out"? and once he left me alone in a park,and when I returned he never said anything.He used to show off with his running,not realizing that I had broken ankles injury from years ago and can only walk now. No apology from him, nothing.Not a person who cared about me,. And he used to think a lot of negative thoughts of me. And he didn't understand ❤️ heart mind connection at all. In fact,his attitude was very standoffish.I tried to make him see what he needs to fix,I'm not an expert,but the fact he will now go find someone and be nicer to her sickens me. Also, I would watch Netflix shows he liked,but when I showed him my country songs etc...he ignored it. And always used his mobile in front of me. When we were having serious conversation about our lives,he would stop in middle of conversation in front of me,and ring his father for advice?! Rude. Also once I asked him to take me to a restaurant,his body language got weird. Like he didn't want to take me out in public. Awful guy.Narcussist and a sociopath. I'm so grateful for these good meditations we are doing,. It's sad because he doesn't realize his negativity. Anyway hope you have a great day wherever you are and Cody,when you I wake up,say to yourself: today I will have a wonderful day. It's ok to be by yourself too for a while .You can think more clearer with no interruptions 🦘🌏

[@codyhiphop4284]

@@miryana79 awe thanks Mica I wish you the best also I'm in Phoenix Arizona BTW, and I plan in letting go of this relationship for good and allowing nothing but posotive people in my life from here on out . Have a wonderful weekend 😀

[@miryana79]

Hi Cody. It's always been my dream to go to America. I'm in Australia,born in Europe. Anyway, I honestly think Aaron has done great. There is a meditation Aaron has done,on healing,heart,it's great,helped me a lot. Because I have always been a sensitive,shy person earlier in my life,when I met this ex negative,I was just myself, genuine person, at least I learned to heal my heart,.If my friends become jealous of my goals,I dump them( just don't contact them at all).. Just proves they don't care for me. Narcissist nature isn't good. These people don't change their habits,and that's their thing. I didn't need to meet people like my ex,I wanted to help him because I loved him,and he didn't return or respond to it.( My love). So if you love someone and they don't respond back Cody,quickly asap,walk away, before anything starts. It's better to be alone and healthier.. I have a beautiful relationship now,and don't tell many people cause people get jealous and it's none of their business.. You and I Cody,we learn to be stronger, focus on our lives,and thanks to 2022 ,we live in a world that people like Aaron can help us with good thoughts.. Unfortunately,it isn't our fault we get involved with negative people. Because we have a trusting nature,there are awful people out there who do not know what is wrong and right in this world.. And today's society people judge me and others now because of our age etc,so to me it's sad that the society mentality is still leftover in 18th century. Take care Cody 🤣 and if the planets align we may meet one day. 😊 People like us Cody,we learn in life,and so I predict that you will meet a special person,and try to interact with smarter people. 🎶 💜

[@HunterBelkiran]

Aaron, I've been watching about one videos of yours everyday, and it's been helping me become aware of a lot of my previously unconscious self habits that were no longer serving me. Thank you!

[@angelinasamson6996]

Its cracy after 11 years of being single that I could say that I could possibly be enjoying toxic energy I cant go back to that toxic energy though because I deserve better ♥️

[@fayecarey540]

This resonated on whole another level.. can’t begin to describe.. you made it over a year ago but only came across it today.. have obsessed over someone for 18 months and each and every single word you have said called me out entirely.. I am guilty however innocently (That’s an oxymoron right there) but I am guilty of each and every single one of these thought patterns.. Very appreciated-Thanks X

[@SpiritualDrifterDave]

Yes. Good advice. Being a life coach, I find most of my clients are very reluctant to let go because they find themselves comfortable with the pain of keeping them around provides them.

[@angelachanellehuang5663]

Success is doing stuff that makes you happy

[@weavorjjohanna5619]

I thought you were one of those people who give some crappy dating advices, but as a therapist, some of your research, advice is quite helpful, spot on and accurate

[@VenomCloud-v19b]

Wow, your 💯 right on. Needed to hear this. Trying to break generation curses. Thanks for sharing ❣

[@jessgirr1728]

You're so emotionally vulnerable and open in your videos, it really sets you apart. 👌💝

[@axentelivia]

What about this: what if you don’t know the reasons why you’re being needy/fearful, not trusting yourself or people pleaser? What if your childhood was pretty much perfect in every aspect. How can you heal something if you don’t know where exactly it comes from.? You know it’s there, but in order to let go… your brain wants to understand first. Maybe you might have some guesses, ideas about where you picked that up unconsciously, but if it doesn’t makes sense, or if you doubt yourself or aren’t really sure… what do you do? You might find yourself in a loop, struggling to find out. Is it really necessary to know the first trigger, so to speak? What if you’re ex mom wouldn’t have been that way, and everything during your childhood would have been perfect and you would have still turned out like that, (people pleaser, trust issues etc) What would you have done in this case? Letting go of wanting to let go. :)) I’m stuck in a loop… endless loop.

[@KimVa]

Maybe it wasn’t that perfect after all ! Because if you feel that way maybe it was your teenage years ? But if you have a wounded inner child then most likely your teenage child is wounded as well .

[@brianyerger583]

Thank You Aaron for this messag I'm listening to tonight while laying here going through a bad breakup with a girlfriend that is a narcissist, multiple times cheater, pathological liar, and keeps secrets. I've been obsessing on thoughts about her.

[@KmNry]

This is hard. I don’t chase or am needy just really fancy this guy. I really want to let go of this it’s making me ill and I can’t sleep.

[@Rosecherry348]

Aaron, can you be my brother I never had? You’re the BEST of explaining things that many of us struggled with.

[@SageGuy1806]

I just discovered your channel today, and I started binge watching your videos and I feel like I'm having a therapy from my situation now. I'm looking for a positive vibration and here I am. After a few videos I feel energetic like it was magical. I just listend and pondered in my heart what all you have said while taking notes. It is true that energy is contagious and we should be really aware about it. Thank you so much!

[@i9avici7a5]

I don’t think I’ve ever connected a self-help video before… or self-help person. So many amazing talking points which all resonate with me. Even your friend’s story… I wish I could understand what trauma I experienced- but maybe it is just my personality

[@lizalaartistka]

Thank you so much for this! I had a knot in my stomach from being anxious about someone and now I feel more free from it and will make myself the star of the movie! I will take a break and be more honest with myself.

[@beautyofjamaica85]

Woke up and chose to let go ❤

[@evakaba3594]

This is free therapy right here 😫

[@KP-tr9zl]

I relate to this 100%. I’m writing about my life and experiences. By doing so, I have dug up a lot that I had hidden away. Love your videos

[@teresaw9668]

This is incredible and I very get it what's messed up is what I hear you saying you're manipulative because you feel insecure or unworthy but somehow you can FIX the other person. Oh that's terrible.

[@robertoacevedo3805]

Wow man! The last 5 minutes of this video changed the way I look at this obsessive dynamic. I will begin to look at it from the stand point of my values and my vulnerability.

[@angele4890]

When we attach to things it is our obsession to better who we are but are blinded to what it means to do so. We are revolved around others always looking at our relationships and having a hard time moving on is us realizing we could have been a better person overall for ourselves that would have allowed us to not fail in our relationships. We are aware we are simply also blind.

[@pinkypie445]

I have this issue big time, I know I need to let go so I can Grow. And that's true the more we have a connection with something the more it's hard to let go,could be someone you love,something you own or even someone who has been giving you attention that you like. You are so bang on tho with all your videos you share, that's why I like you.

[@nicolesamnarine3368]

This video was so spot on, I guess I have abandonment issues from childhood. I hear you but I still feel stuck, I change for a while and then I keep going back to my old ways.

[@goodvibezonly2285]

Holy cow! Really switched sooooo fast. In less than 24 hours the person messaged me and we had a decent conversation. 🎉

[@isabelmatos2796]

JESUSSSSSSSSS I am still watching and you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. SUCH WISDOM WORDS. THANK YOU

[@johnlopez5531]

Recently came across your videos and they have been hitting home for me. These have been eye opening, the truth in these have made me want to cry and release what I’ve been holding in.

[@luayh9605]

Dude, I suffered for two weeks ! Where were you before !!!? thank you I just recognized that yesterday. When I went out for a long time, my friend text me where are you ? come here. I used to stay at home all the time even on the weekends, but that was wrong I didn't give him a space. Good bless you.

[@Cindy-w8p]

This was very powerful. So much truth told in this. I've had issues my whole life because of poor parenting. I've never really learned who I am only how to survive. Thank you for opening my eyes.

[@ranjeethamanoj4033]

Coming at the right time for me , currently obsessing over someone who does not even care for me .

[@ivonnefee1566]

I love your honesty and sincerity... your enthusiasm and humor. Thank you!

[@westcoastmike5937]

No guess you love them more than they love you, and then you realize by their actions they don't give a FUCK about you. And that's where I'm, at.

[@jazmckenzie]

I like your point about reassessing your values and setting boundaries. That allows you to feel differently about the person as they clearly view you differently & feelings are important at this point.

[@Nooshimii]

"Maybe, just maybe, there are some toxic parts there that feel familiar" BOOM. Hit the nail on the head, resonated like a bell.

[@Laughs_Loudest]

Can’t even lie. This guy knows what his talking about 💪🏽

[@breerivera3887]

Thank you for sharing this .. I see now my abandonment issues stem from the loss of my father at age four … I needed to hear this today .. 💛💛💛

[@carolinaamnell5577]

I don't know why I keep paying my therapist if this guy tells me more revealing things for free. I feel awfully identified. Thank you! I'll save it to watch it again . There is a lot to digest Ps: Aaron with long hair looks like an enlightened Kurt Cobain. 🤣 I love him!

[@zizancat5995]

Excellent! Now I really regret why i chased him like ridiculous dog. I never did it anymore. I realized tht he is not as special as tht. The key is love urself enough. Do the best to love urself. Heal urself..ths wht i am learning, doing n maintaining.

[@ismarcus00500]

Im now 9 weeks of NC. The first 4-6 weeks were so tough and honestly, i thought about her non-stop, hoped she might reach out but nothing then last week on a night out I met a stunning, funny girl, been out twice with her. Now at the start of the break-up nothing like this entered my mind, I was struggling to let her go, mentally that is, and no other 'new' girl was any of interest to me, and now I have met someone. Just goes to show, life does move on and NC helped me get back to the man I was, and I'm looking forward to getting to know this new girl. I never broke NC in that time frame, I went with dignity and distance. Morale of my story and something I realised as time in NC went on. As dark and low as I got in those initial phases of NC they were not for her, they were for me. I thought vanishing would make her miss me, when in-fact it helped me to move on. She lost me, I didn't lose her. Stay strong people, trust your journey.

[@queenbronx3153]

I really needed this, my anxiety makes me obsess over people sometimes

[@its_dade]

I let them go, they came back and I obsessed again. Seems like I drove them away. I know we're toxic and maybe I like the toxic energy. I had enough and said I'm done so I'm trying to let go again. I'm obsessing and it sucks. Your vids help. If she comes back I need to be avoidant attached like I was in the beginning. I can't let gooooooo. Shit is so hard because our attachments switched roles. I was avoidant most of our 4 yr relationship. When she left I lost my mind and became anxious and she became avoidant. I've been out to prove myself and I keep messing it up. I just gotta let go and play cool if she ever comes back or just completely let go and know my real worth. She doesn't deserve me but I can't let her go. 🤬😡🤬

[@eddylindseymusic]

Hey James, You said she doesn’t deserve you, but do YOU deserve her toxic energy? You seem to still be entertaining the story of “if she comes back”. Letting go means choosing to let go completely so someone new can come into the picture, but if you don’t truly know and feel your worth yet, you’ll attract toxicity again. Just wondering if her number is still in your phone. 😳 ☀️✌🏼

[@its_dade]

@@eddylindseymusic of course it is. This just happened yesterday. I'm holding on to "hope". The shitty part is knowing all of these things but doing it anyways. Deep rooted issues that I wasn't even aware of until recently. I'm taking the steps in the right direction. Therapy etc.. but I'm just starting. Hopefully I can look back at this comment in a year and be proud and blown away but this is how I feel in the moment so commenting took some of the power out of it. A big part of me wants her to show some initiative and action. I just hope I don't fall for a trap. It's all bad man

[@doaa2521]

From previous experience to similar situation you have to end it and not wishing her back and try to be avoidant bc you simply can't act for long time if this really doesn't come from inside. Such toxic relationships hard to let go hell to live in we deserve to be in peace

[@its_dade]

@@doaa2521 thank you

[@zizancat5995]

U have to love urself first enough. To get detachment from her u focus on urslef first. Heal and love ur self total . If thres stilk attchment like tht u not love n value urself enough.

[@axentelivia]

When I was little,about 8 years old, my father used to tell me: “go look into the mirror and ask yourself who you really are?” And I did so, many times… And honestly no matter how hard I try this is someone I can never see… The more I get to “know” myself the more I find out how little I know…

[@gerardomiguelalbarracin7096]

Start thinking happy thoughts and start being happy.

[@foot5224]

Funny this guy's videos popped up a long time ago and I never wanted to watch them. Now that I have I am very grateful because he resonates so much with me

[@c4ketown675]

Whats keeping people from letting go is being vulnerable and looking at aspects of yourself.

[@OnyxSoulAlchemy]

Oh my goodness this is so me yes to the 'abandoning self to make others happy' and then thinking of the flow on as manipulation wow what a mind blowing moment. Yes to not being chosen... The Worthy meditation brought back a key moment of this in school just the other day. You are amazing... the massive growth and realisation you are helping with is unbelievable. I will be spending my spare time watching your vids instead of stalking my latest obsession... 🙏

[@dhanyajasnair6507]

Just remember all these years what we did didn't work in our favour.. Just take a minute and recap... Then how can we expect it to work now...what could be a better proof than this that detachment is the key...then what is the point of even sabotaging yourself and doing the same thing .Let's now try something different, let's detach and be just ourselves... Not expecting something.. But anyway attaching won't work... We cant do the same thing over and over again and expect a change.. Anyways aron is really a blessing.. One of the thing I am really greatful for... U r doing a great work... Can't thank you enough ❤

[@honey23b2]

I find this level of honestly is refreshing and up lifting. Thank you.

[@juliannaseirey9011]

Cannot believe this popped up for me today 🙏🏽 thank you for this. I felt like this was for me within this moment