How to Survive Character Assassination

[@shawnski001]

"By Any Means Necessary".... lie, cheat, steal, violence, threats, etc, etc, etc. There are just some people that don't have a moral compass. The worst part is that they THINK they do.

[@sunkeyavad6528]

I think it's even worse than that. Just no moral compass should still leave people only morally blind and neutral, not actively harmful. Looks more like a dysfunctional moral compass rather than none to me. Ime they very often think they have the strongest moral compass of all. *Moral Dunning-Kruger effect perhaps?* en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect It may be that unshakable believe in their certain moral superiorty that enables them to do all the worst things "for the greater good" and without any remorse.

[@Psycorde]

Moral compass is a social construct

[@r.blakehole932]

Brutally Honest Bear "You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor." Exodus 20:16 But, of course that is primitive nonsense from 3000 years ago and has no relevance in our modern, sophisticated age. Funny thing about human nature however...if you want to be trusted, you have to be trustworthy.

[@carefulcarpenter]

*FEEL GOOD* --- the individual's moral metering device. "If I feel good then I am right. If I don't feel good it is your fault." 🐡

[@carefulcarpenter]

*@Brad Roberts* *_One shall be known by their causes._* 🐡

[@whiteraven7777]

"People of integrity expect to be believed. And when they are not, they let time prove them right." - Terri Brady

[@russiane.lection-hacker2057]

Excellent advice. One thing to add: people who commit character assassination attempts usually have a habit of using that perverse tactic. So one easy way to counterattack is by finding other victims, previous and current, and take down the assassin together. And another thing: MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THE RIGHT PERSON! Character assassins are cowards. They will often work behind the scenes, using other people to do the dirty work for them. Make sure you know who the real instigator is.

[@russiane.lection-hacker2057]

@Dana Davison Stalin called them his "useful idiots".

[@scorpiointutivesoul]

M struggling m life for this stupidity

[@ContrarianExpatriate]

I withstood a character assassination campaign from two underperforming female subordinates at work. I survived, but I had to invoke legal counsel and internal grievance process to defend myself. HR was all female and unmoved by my complaints about the unrelenting character attacks. I eventually retired as planned a few years after, but there was a black cloud over my head from the months of vicious falsities used against me. I did not have the benefit of supportive family or friends around me at the time, but I plowed forward undeterred from my mission to bring these employees up to speed or get rid of them. They were mildly disciplined but they survived my tenure. I was later promoted and transferred, but it was a hell of an ordeal.

[@AzureSymbiote]

I'm sorry you had to go through that.

[@SaintNobody]

I've had similar experiences. Some people object to those who do not compromise. Consequently, I document and maintain a mental leaderboard of the worst actions by those around me. Once, a superior levelled accusations of an impropriety made by a group member. I laughed derisively and produced a photograph of the person asleep at work, and suggested they were asleep and couldn't have seen anything. After their termination, I called my group together. I advised them that they should ignore rumors and work. Another one stole company property to which I had almost exclusive access. Surveillance cameras led to their dismissal. I called the group together, again, and advised them that if anyone was tempted to engage in this behavior, they should occupy their time by outworking their peers and leading their own group. I had no further difficulties. Do as I have done. If you find a better method of mitigating threats, I'm eager to hear of it.

[@AzureSymbiote]

SaintNobody I have a hard time understanding you. Do you mean we should form cliques in the workplace? Or just outwork others? The case of the man mentioned in the video... he couldn't outwork his evil boss.

[@SaintNobody]

@@AzureSymbiote The case in the video describes an individual who outworked and outmaneuvered his immediate supervisor to the satisfaction of the company.

[@middaysun3553]

Women are terrible, honestly. Especially towards other women. I'm a woman and I'm deeply convinced that women should stay st home with children take care of the house maybe doing some little jobs like dressmakers, nurses, florists, home decor, kindergarten teachers and so on. They should never be put in important decisionale places. Less than less in the army where they create an additional problem to the male soldiers that eventually have to help them.

[@1977Yakko]

"Never apologize" is a must in these situation. Those who engage in these sort of attacks are filled with hate, will hate you for your views regardless and apologizing implies your guilt. My debates/arguments with the Left over multiple issues has always been intense but it's only gotten worse. Advocating for enforcement at our borders for example has resulted in my being refereed to as a "Nazi, bigot, racist, etc." more so than ever. No amount of advocating for legal immigration and merely wanting to enforce our sovereignty was enough to sway these fanatics.

[@1977Yakko]

Well played sir. It's not enough to simply advocate for what you know to be right and just but you sometimes got to use their own "logic" against them and throw it right back at them.

[@SaintNobody]

Move your self as a chess piece, with quiet dignity after due deliberation.

[@rebellucy5610]

Nazi!

[@rebellucy5610]

It is like reasoning with Lion. They are going to attack you even if you explain that a herd of Gazelle is right behind you. They cannot think that deeply.

[@christinesarkis4029]

The far left don't respect personal accountability, they see it as a weakness. Any apology, any admission of a mistake, is nothing more than an opening for them to dig in and tear you down even more. This is why you never apologize to them.

[@toreshammerecelt861]

My incompetent boss ruined my career by character assassination. I tried to fight back exactly the way the man did in your story. However, it went south for me and I lost my job. I’m glad you illuminated this very real problem.

[@jasond7176]

Great video. I had my teenage daughters watch it and we’re going to have a family discussion on how to deal with people who lie about you.

[@sunkeyavad6528]

There is another reason to fight back other than self defense. Social duty. You will not be the last target. Letting them get away with it means rewarding them and allowing further abuse, by them still being in a position where their word is believed.

[@charlesadams1035]

Sun Key Avad: I just happened across this vid. and agree with most of what blonde is saying. I strongly agree with your statement, being a target myself of this narcissistic act. (non other than my professor and my ex in collussion together) I lowent through this for months before i realized this type of conduct was not going away and if i didn't stand my ground it would happen to someone else. After that wasn't about saving face anymore, it was a challenge and a duty to halt this type of behavior and exspose these two sociopaths before they claim another victim. With that being said it appeared that my decision was correct as others began to come forward with their run in with these two.

[@deveelvraat3404]

Character Assassination is above all psychological warfare. Learn about it, learn how to counter it.

[@susiesa8295]

yes!

[@dystopia-incognito]

Your hair looks lovely up like that.

[@BlondeintheBellyoftheBeast]

Why thank you, Nathalia! :)

[@MrThumbsofThunder]

I was thinking exactly that too. Looks really pretty like that.

[@coolrog7564]

Yes and oh those lovely cheek bones.

[@rickconnolly5006]

Yeah real purdy

[@rebellucy5610]

She is very attractive and If she wanted she could get a spot on Fox. Like Tomi Lauren. Looks and brains is a rare combination.

[@thestranger6835]

Really? Because I saw Blonde kicking a puppy as she boarded her private jet.

[@nickc3856]

even worse, it was a BLACK lab

[@jeffmcgraw7652]

As long as she isn’t abusing cats, who cares?

[@geoffrobinson]

Black labs matter

[@jeffmcgraw7652]

Yes, but they’re not cats, the supreme beings (and only good for being cats)

[@jeffmcgraw7652]

Geoffrobinson, “Black Labs Matter”, quite droll, I just got it - well done

[@everydaypatriot1083]

Agreed, NEVER apologize.

[@j2thek903]

somebody was jealous of you BACK IN COACH lol

[@nickc3856]

the peasants get riled up from time to time, it is what it is

[@davidburnell6889]

Yeah, it was probably the ugly feminist fat broad who was hating on a beautiful, blond feminine woman loaded with (…first) class. Ugly fat broads ALWAYS act out that way… because vitriol is all these leftist people have to offer.

[@wcresponder]

I reported a franchise operator that had been scamming public with a inferior product that didn't meet industry standard. The CEO of the company attacked me on many personal levels( calling me fecal matter, bragging about taking contracts from me, mocking my living situation[I was taking care of my dying mother] and assailing my character during a phone call. They even tried to coerce a different employer to get met to take back my report, or they would do something. When reported to the certifying body they said that my report of this CEO's actions (breaching the anti bullying and professional act) were not what they recalled happening during the call. Thanks for the support certifying body(that promotes it's own anti bullying programs/training). Yup doing the right thing gets you gut kicked, but you are stronger for being the for for truth. Cheers!

[@jopiet821]

When you do no react the energy has nowhere to go so it goes back to the sender. It is also called detachment. It works. This is being in control of your emotions. You still have emotions but are not bound by them.

[@adox8574]

High quality as always blonde! I learned a lot about this issue due to a horrible experience with my ex. She did this for years to me and I still struggle to understand why. She not only twisted anything I said into the worse possible way but she completely demonized me. Not going to go into detail but she had a way of doing it like no other person know. At first its easy to resit you know its bullshit. But after years of this it really starts to mess with your head and really takes toll on your mental health. It took me a while to see things clearly again. Its a long proccess of regaining your self image / confidence. And understanding the true mistakes you made and what was her just trying to demonize you

[@bham7bh]

President Trump is the best example of how to endure character assassination. Great video, blonde.

[@Kathy-20J-73]

He is NOT president. He is a scum bag criminal

[@tomprokes5881]

I learned along time ago, not to care about what others think about you. It truly creates freedom. Social concerns, only imprison you if you let it. Here's a tip for those that are bold enough. "If you can't earn their respect, make them fear you". Respect, fear, what is the difference, if the outcome is the same? It works for me!

[@D97mgtow]

I would define character assassination as an individual pointing out flaws in someone, which exist and are real, and use these characteristics of your personality to humiliate and destroy you in front of others. I’ve had this done to me several times and it’s not easy to fight against. Unless of course in a professional setting ignoring it, and the person responsible, is often the best method to deal with it. The individual responsible will soon tire as they aren’t getting the reaction they hoped for and do something else.

[@KRISHNAWARRIOR]

You once complained about your inability to perform on a level like Faith Goldy or Lauren Southern - and you don't have to. Your videos are right on the point, and for sure, a valid and important contribution to the community.

[@AD-hh6dd]

I was just falsely accused of saying something racist which I absolutely did NOT say. I’m dealing with serious repercussions that are potentially ruining my life.

[@shooterdownunder]

I have had numerous character assassinations from my school years right into my work life but one which was the worst was an incident in high school where I had gotten into an argument with someone who was spreading rumours about me behind my back, I went to confront him and it got to the point where he decided to run for it and he had a couple of girls that came to his defence without any understanding of the situation other than that they hated me for some reason as I had never met them prior to this. I told them to stay out of it as it was none of their business but they instead decided to stick their noses into it but they also decided to crowd around me to block access to the guy who I was confronting and I decided just to walk around them. Their leader then jumped in front of me and bumped into me and fell back. She later screamed that I had assaulted her and immediately everyone came to her aid and started to pile on me. I later had to endure the character assassination that took place after where everyone had either believed her story that I had attacked her or numerous new rumours like 'how I like to rough women up ' to 'push them around' and that I was a thug. It wasn't the first time that happened and sadly not the last time either.

[@VancouverTVGuy]

Hopefully those liars got their stories and false accusations - as well as themselves - exposed for what they really were.

[@lobo1928]

Well your better than that now keep your head up we know the lefts tricks.

[@Mythicregard]

This woman should be flying nothing but first class.

[@kimberlytyler1560]

This was good. Gossip is an insidious weapon. Thanks. 🤲🏾

[@Ferien7]

Keep on keepin on As the saying goes, if you have haters, you must be doing something right.

[@PoGirlShines]

Jealousy is a real thing. This is what drives evil people to do strange things that don't really seem to make sense such as people saying terrible things about you so others won't like you or just to ruin your life. They especially love doing this to those who are self assured.

[@sunkeyavad6528]

*Psychologically* speaking it makes sense that you will always be attacked more if you give in. It's usually *not the actual person that is being attacked for what was done, but functions as a stand in to project things onto them and then attack those.* In the case of that feminist *she is probably attacking those abusive boyfriends of her mom after she projects them on other men.* *It's the need to lash out because of previous trauma, not about the thing you're actually being accused of and are apologizing for.* Because of that need they are alway in search of a target. Rolling over means you've just made yourself a more attractive target to lash out against.

[@hugh-johnfleming289]

My Mom pulled me aside when I was young and told me I was smart. She warned me to be humble and wary of others because of this ability. I was also the biggest kid in school and a reasonable athlete. Being large tends to attract the wrong type of attention. People assume you are stupid. I have lived with it my whole life. I grew a spine, thick skin and a decent sense of humor. Build strength in the soft spots.

[@absentmindedintellectual8465]

I once had a bad performance appraisal, and at the end my boss said this isn't a character assassination, which meant it was.

[@laszlob.u9351]

Stay strong! - We are with you!

[@bucketspree4952]

I feel like all these points also apply to people who are just generally very manipulative it sucks when you are isolated and don't have a network of friends and family to rely on, because there is lots of very real pressure applied to you psychologically I dated a girl that ended up being really manipulative, but I didn't stand my ground because I was so alone. I had a group of friends at the time, but not a lot of people that I had known for very long time. I also had the disadvantage of having a very mercurial personality at the time, which isn't exactly an asset in situations like these I could perhaps have relied more on my friends and tried to reach out more to people I knew from when I was younger, but I felt so shitty at the time that it didn't even seem like an option. I had tons of other stuff I was worried about also Looking back its pretty clear how I could have altered my behavior to make it much more tolerable

[@the_mighty_kc]

Not giving a damn what others think helps a little.

[@liaminrio5463]

I also listened to Molyneux interview you mentioned. That was nothing to what I experienced. Im super outspoken on social issues and in particular anything to do with gender related issues. The upshot? I literally ended up in gaol [only for one week] after one of my co-workers trumped up an assault charge against me. Her evidence was strengthened by other gender confused supporters who also hated my guts....:) It cost me my job plus 80K in legal fees to clear my name which was made easier given the fact that I was the third person she had used this tactic on. The end result left me jobless and broke, bloodied but unbowed and more vocal than ever....lol. Eventually the weaklings who attacked me turned on each other but that was after heaps of damage was done to myself. I was even approached by a national magazine to do a story on my case because of its level of weirdness and injustice. My advice to anyone reading this is to make sure you can handle major blow back from gangs of mentally weak people before you push an unpopular [factual] agenda. Keep fighting the 'good fight', but only if youre able to cope with things going pear shaped as they did with me.

[@TheMillerMilitia]

Liam in Rio I respect your courage.

[@twotime88]

This is the best advice on how not to bend the knee. Be willing to lose substantial material possessions. It will not make it easier, but will ultimately lesson the blow if you are prepared. I think you are right. If you are not ready to die on the hill, don't engage. It does no good to be destroyed and not have any fight left. Take courage and find yourself and then mount up. Thanks for the insight.

[@liaminrio5463]

Thanks for your [and other] supportive comments. Just hope my 'unfortunate events' tale doesn't deter others from stating what they know is true.

[@departfromevil2000]

I had a customer one time said I talked about her sick husband and was laughing and was trying to get me fired. The good thing was in this case I had a good reputation at work and I told them veimently I did not do it. And they believe them me. So manager after the customer left end up playing with me about and joked about it, so it was cool. That's why I tell people always good to at least do your job and doing good enough, so when your challenge you have some kind of leg to stand on, because if I goofing off at work all the time, it could of gone wrong real quick

[@LaceyLynn]

Thank you for this video! This is very helpful. It's hard not to get defensive, but I love that you put it in this perspective. They don't have good arguments, so they must resort to this tactic. Also, bringing yourself out of the conversation and answer "methodically" like you said. Also, great advice to not apologize if you've done nothing wrong.

[@SysterEuropa]

Excellent discussion Blonde. Stay strong. We need your intelligence and voice.

[@contrarianduude3463]

The brighter the lights, the more sustained the character assassin. And you will find this in very competitive work environments. Just be prepared for it and be beyond reproach. Few organizations are willing to part with their greatest assets.

[@cx3268]

Know who and what you are is the key Don't let others that don't like you or even hate you to sway your opinion

[@utkarshanand9706]

Amazing. Really impressed to see sane women alive. I’ve been a victim multiple times as well. How I deal with it is that I keep working on improving myself and let them bite the dust and get pissed off. If your employer or supervisor goes against you, quit immediately. You will certainly find better places to be in. Never stick to it or get afraid. Just focus on self improvement. Ultimately, the world will recognise you.

[@goremall]

Thanks for the advice, I’ll keep this in mind. I’ve had musicians completely try and destroy my name with lies of false copyright claims, saying I stole music from them, etc. it’s hard being a musician and not be left leaning.

[@lighthousexiii2391]

Excellent speech, great advice.

[@rockfish1000]

I saw Blonde outside the Seattle Center For Curing Sick Children yesterday. She was throwing eggs at kids and threatening to kill their puppies. It was so disturbing, gize.

[@BlondeintheBellyoftheBeast]

You should have seen what I did to the poor kittens... and the Mexican babies.

[@carefulcarpenter]

I was there. I gave her a hug and told her to go home and take a nap.

[@rabudman]

I thought you were yelling because the black guy got a affirmative action ticket for free and you had to pay for yours. ;)

[@jeremyrainman]

That's nothing, I saw Bonde swimming in the waters off Southern California the other day, shooting her .50 cal at blue whale babies near the surface while tanning in a bikini and trolling mancheeze. It was glorious. and then I woke up.

[@rockfish1000]

"You're Mean, Mad, White Woman"---Michael Dyson.

[@DouglasMoran]

Surviving character assassination: I failed twice (in my 50s). Both were the result of substantive differences. Both failures were the results of my personality: 1. People expect me to be strong and protect them. When I needed their help, the notion that I could protect myself provided them with the rationale not to jump in. Or they might of figured that if the attacker was strong enough to pummel me, they had no chance. 2. Both came after an injury that subjected me to extended periods of chronic pain that chewed up so much time and psychological energy that my friendship networks had badly weakened. The first was disillusioning and the second psychologically devastating, lasting months. Some of that was let down from the emotional involvement, but the bigger part was disappointment in people I expected better from. Both are relevant for social media today, although the first was before social media and the second only peripherally involved social media as the subject of the disputed policies. In addition to my character being shaped during childhood and during political and professional battles during college and grad school, many of my formative experiences relative to social media occurred in 1990s and early 2000s dealing with trolls and other miscreants, especially during en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eternal_September (originally called "Black September", alluding to a terrorist group). I saw many Usenet groups collapse under the assault, but more importantly, some survived because they were strong communities and had strong, trusted leaders who could *count on support* from community members. I had the advantage of being able to learn how to deal with online character assassination when the attacks were small and contained to a few hundreds or thousands people, with limited leakage from one aspect of your life into others. I have friends who have distinctly different personal and professional names -- not the simple variants that the search engines know to equate. But I was too early to the Internet for that. ----- *In my first failure,* it was a case of despite having a strong instincts to fight, recognizing it would be futile,. I was the president of one of the largest, most active neighborhood associations in the city and was widely mentioned as a strong candidate for Council, and I was actively exploring a run. A developer who was connected to another candidate took out a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) against me alleging the potential for violence, meaning that the TRO was granted at a hearing before I was even informed. The actual hearing was 6 weeks later, but they withdrew the application the night before (thereby canceling the TRO). But the hearing postponements allowed the local daily paper -- which backed my opponents -- to run multiple front page stories pushing their narrative. The regional newspaper followed that narrative. The local weekly -- yes this is a 3 newspaper city -- presented some of my side, but largely ignored my witnesses and the many factual and logical errors in the TRO application. *So what support did I get?* Lots of "We know you didn't do it" paired with advice to not fight because I (not "we") couldn't beat that newspaper and the opposition (which was the local political establishment). In politics, when people believe you can't win, you can't. So I didn't run. I have since worked on local campaigns, including lending my experience to those candidates. I'm a blogger on local politics, providing arguments and phasing for other to adapt for themselves and in providing one of the "impressions" (marketing term) needed to get an idea registering with people. My meager consolation is that a decade later my accuser was arrested on multiple counts of financial fraud and arms trafficking (sniper scopes...). *WTF:* A few weeks later, an Assistant DA running to become DA came asking for my endorsement, but his attitude about what had happened to me was "The system worked." He didn't get my endorsement. *Q: Why at TRO?* Because a TRO falls outside strong state laws against SLAPP suits (Strategic Lawsuits Against Public Participation). It is inexpensive to file, and there are rarely penalties for losing, and even then, they are minimal ($1-2,000 according to my lawyer) and far less than the expense of preparing to defend against the claims. As with character assassination, it is easy to make a claim, expensive to refute it. ----- *The second failure* was in a volunteer organization to which I had given 19 years, including over a decade as VP and president and then back to being a board member. I endured 10 months of character assassination by three of the board members. Two wanted the organization to exit a function that they opposed but that membership polling had found to be important. The third was partially that and partially seeking power. The Board passed a motion declaring me guilty of multiple major and minor ethical violations, although the evidence was fraudulent. *How did they get a solid majority?* There were some on the board who had only very limited interests and were unwilling to even discuss/consider the evidence, either before or during the meeting. My sense was that they saw the best way to get the issue to go away was to vote with those that had been making charges. What is called today *"Feelings over Facts".* I think I also detected an attitude of some that *"Accusation is Proof"* (a key component of successful character assassination). There was at least one board member who acknowledged that the evidence was false, but had the attitude that there must be *some* good reason that they were attacking me -- "we are all good people" -- and that it was up to me to "solve" the situation. She refused to recognize that the 3 were openly striving to subvert a policy that had been reaffirmed by a board vote only 2 months prior. I resigned. Partly it was a forced resignation: Having been declared guilty of serious misconduct, I felt I could not remain on the board. But also, I was unwilling to be part of an organization that made decisions that way. (There are a plethora of famous quotes about such situations) In the aftermath of my resignation, two board members who had been carrying major loads "transitioned out" of the organization.

[@testmctesty2610]

Blonde, you're on par with Styx and molyneaux when it comes to analytics and delivery. Excellent video.

[@rickconnolly5006]

I was once accused of putting milk before cereal. My family, closest friends and my colleagues all closed ranks and turned against me. No benefit of the doubt, no justice just shame, gaslighting and death threats. My grandmother even stabbed me...

[@xenatron9056]

I got investigated once because I wrote a report in an empty staff room instead of the computer room.

[@jamesharback1760]

You won the intellectual argument when name calling begins.

[@frankieeschweiler1142]

Me: “wow what an intellect, her words are so powerful and inspiring, I really love the ideas and sound advice she gives” Also me: *secretly wishes for a makeup and hair tutorial from Blonde*

[@frankieeschweiler1142]

jussaguy1 no

[@frankieeschweiler1142]

jussaguy1 that’s awesome of a dad to say to someone else’s daughter. You have no idea that pic is from like 7 years ago when I was like in 10th grade and I may look completely different now. Hope your daughters never get that kind of verbal abuse you just gave me, from you or some other piece of shit “dad”

[@davecarsley8773]

@jussaguy1 hear hear!

[@SuspiriaX]

@@frankieeschweiler1142 Agreed. Your hair your style. You don't have to be like his daughters, lol. Personally I find your bright hair color on the picture intriguing - and the styling a bit like a lioness, RAWR. Do you. Please.

[@Ultack]

If someone at work is screwing with you, always remember there is nothing a crowbar to the knee cannot fix.

[@willnill7946]

Ultack you talk a lot, as cowards do

[@stevenkoehler6018]

FANTASTIC video! This is all SO TRUE. There has been so much of this in my experience, and your common sense (yet not so "common") approach is so doable. GOSSIP is a HUGE force in the world. And, as you've pointed out, it can destroy you, if you let it. (Isn't it amazing how our President seems to do exactly what you're saying, in terms of dealing with it?). You're an inspiration!

[@the301champ8]

you tackle these issues head on and with intensity. i respect you for hosting this channel and i hope you keep it up. i'm sorry you have to carry such a burden for doing what you're doing. but you ARE making a difference by being defiant. society can't fix itself with a silent majority and those who do not stand for anything will fall for everything. The antidote to this is taking responsibility at the individual level. And i admire you for doing exactly that.

[@alexandrapavlyuchenko3567]

Omg As a person who had a friend who spread a horrible things about me in university behind my back. I just want to say, don't worry people will forget this.

[@travislee3203]

This can happen anywhere. My sister faced this in the local PTA. As difficult as that is, when close friends or family turn against you, it can be a life-altering event.

[@paulcwalina7910]

Yes, yes, yes! Great advice. Never fold. Never back down. Never apologize when you are not wrong. The attacks are hollow and will dissipate. Relax and come back even stronger.

[@HelpingHorders]

I've been attack for saying in an awkward situation where the office jammed me and another worker in a closet for simply saying it is cozy in here. That was literally the only thing I did wrong. I was fired the next day and the other employee got what she wanted. A closet office to herself, if only for a little while. The other time it was a very similar situation, a lady wanted to get an office room assignment with her friend, so she accused me of being a racist. I ultimately prevailed in this case, but it was super uncomfortable. I was stressed out every minute of it. I didn't even know what had happened and why I was being ostracized until a company wide email came out, clearing me of any wrongdoing.

[@mickeypopa]

So smart and so beautiful! A rare 'full package'! :) Your disambiguation of the character assassination tactics is spot on, I've come to the exact same realizations some years ago. And just like you emphasized - the most important thing is not to budge, not to apologize for being who you are, for being honest and using facts in your thinking and your actions. Doing so will only make you look weak and a hypocrite and ultimately the very person your attacker is trying to portray you as. Although I do believe there's a number of actions you can take to defend yourself without asking for help from outside people of credibility. Mainly, it's simply reversing the attack and using the same tactics against the person that is attacking you. And since your attacker doesn't have a firm ground to stand on like you do, eventually they will feel scared and back off. Of course, this probably won't work against sociopaths and egomaniacs but it's worth a shot if you know the person you're dealing with very well.

[@therubicon]

I always smile when I see your push notifications. Also I smile bigger when I check your history and I was sent notice for all your videos, and not just one in 6 because they're shadow banning you.

[@meganl4054]

Thank you for this and your channel!!! Seriously...just moved to Seattle from Phoenix and never have I lived in a city where character assassination is such a high priority in people who don't share my views (maybe it's in more liberal states, but I also used to live in CO and never encountered it to the extent it is here). A few weeks ago I was at a brewery for a school social and some girl brought up the extreme tensions between Americans to which I replied I didn't understand because we should all be able to hold different view points and still respect each other. She immediately called me out as a Trump supporter (so because I'm talking about respecting people liberals know I'm a conservative...tell me again how intolerant we are haha). She walked away but her partner sat there for the next half hour shoving her liberal agenda down my throat, and in the attempt to "be tolerant" and "open-minded" I sat there and listened. I thought that would satisfy them, but now I'm being excluded from social events with the school group because now everyone knows that I'm a supporter of the president. So, basically I'm just saying thank you because hearing you talk about this makes me feel like I'm not alone in dealing with these issues. Finding your channel and knowing another conservative lives in this wretched state was like a kid finding out Santa Clause actually exists!

[@rbrowne2998]

He, he, he! The fanatical liberal! I know the type. I guess you can be grateful for small mercies, though. This fellow, an Olympic competitor for America in the borefest, did not mandate you to attend reeducation classes. What a pi-jaw!

[@valhar2000]

There is a big difference between apologizing to people you have harmed, and apologizing to people who have harmed you.

[@robertcgage]

Thank you for the upload.

[@starkiller23610]

Great video! I don't know why I dont watch you more often. My general approach to character assassination is either responding in turn if the culprit has obvious 'misdeeds'. Or ignoring them completely and bolstering the points they tried to attack me on - such that if they call me out as a racist, I will demonstrate how I am anything but (without apologizing or directly responding to them). I am a uni student, so I have to be careful with what I say and do - and I work in a legal firm which means I have to be even more careful. I generally try to avoid posting off people with more power than me for the time being.

[@mpoulin8104]

You are amazing, Blonde! Silence is a powerful tool that I often may use.

[@walterpsotka278]

I really like your straightforward approach to this issue. My experience with such matters involves family court .... and happened many years ago. I had a judge .... read me the riot act... about what a terrible person that I must be. I kept putting my hand up ...and kept asking ...may I speak ? When I was finally allowed to speak .... I observed that the judge had not read my file and that the proceedings indicated that this was a case of " extreme prejudice " ..........I was basically saying that the judge was full of shit ! The courtroom hushed .... what was going to happen ! The judge called for a lunch time recess...... On returning to the courtroom that afternoon ... the judge called me to the stand ! "tell me your story" he said ....I did .... and all our issues were resolved that afternoon ....in his courtroom. That was the proudest moment in my life !

[@therabidpancake1]

Its difficult for me being disabled my folks or family are probably my worst critics as well as my best advocates. I am bombarded by people telling me that I am lazy, I have a horrible work ethic, I am incompetent etc... These family members that say these things are people that I do not even talk to on a daily basis. You have no idea or maybe you do just how painful it is but the way that I deal with it is that I just brush it off like its nothing or I confront the person that said it. In most cases it doesn't do a whole lot but leaves me with information and dignity.

[@moneyluser5711]

You also must punish a false attack harshly and relentlessly to make the cost to the attacker higher than the cost you had to bear defending yourself.

[@BeckyMa9482]

After an acquaintance dumped me as a "friend" after the election, I was really worried about what she told our other friends (because she was psycho and always trying to paint herself in a better light). I thought I was going to lose all of my friends, especially my best friend of ten years. Thankfully, none of that happened, but it's a genuine fear, especially when you spend your life trying to build up your integrity and reputation as a decent person.

[@timothywashburn9551]

You are articulate, well educated and can think for yourself. I am amazed that you could do this on the left coast. I'm an older person in my 60's, but you and I know you are "spot on" with your analysis. Bless you and your stand for normalcy. I enjoy listening to you, not so much with what you say, but the age you are saying this with.

[@nancymuncy7359]

I am lucky to have a skill that is high in demand. I will always be able to get a job. I also think having an informed argument helps. Case in point, I was bombarded at work by a whole shift when trump banned transgenders from the military. They were all smugly asking me if I thought he was a bigot now? Knowing the criteria that gets everyone else booted from serving and asking why they should be any different shut down the argument fast.

[@TinyDancer250]

What is the other criteria?

[@Alexis-wh2de]

This list is long. You can actually be too short to serve in the US Armed Forces. www.military.com/join-armed-forces/disqualifiers-medical-conditions.html

[@ChurchOfNotNothing]

right on.......personal experience can be unparalleled. Just keep adding value!

[@spiritwolf9194]

Your commitment to your beliefs is admirable. Pls keep making videos. and you are a beautiful spirit! :)

[@EdiChiArt]

More people should be this articulate and smart. Good for you!

[@nikij83]

Sorry, not sorry. @Blonde in the Belly of the Beast is an intellectual badass and role model for women on the right in their prime. I'm saying this as a non-public figure and a woman 30 years old. Keep up the great work

[@WRPUS471]

I feel so much better listening to you.

[@johnnie2638]

Wonderfully said. I am a firm believer that the truth will out but what is vital is that one stand their ground. If one is innocent & the attacks are unfounded it's just as you say, attacks are resource intensive. In the office example just the vitriol expended to maintain a full fusillade will become exhausting & eventually people move on. In the mean time it's still necessary to walk right into hostile territory every morning & do your job. Here it's important to be the best "you" you can be @ your job. Oh yeah, congratulations on your marriage & welcome back.

[@thecrownofpoland3500]

I thank God for strong people like you

[@danielmarker2001]

Good subject, I know it all to well. Thanks for hitting on this topic, a lot of people in the work place go through this type of abuse and there's nothing you can do about it. I had to go through almost 11 years of it and I haven't been the same since. Great channel, I watch a few of your videos every month, keep up the good work.

[@NaturaBreeze]

Blonde, we love you :) put it this way, you KNOW you're doing something right when the lunatics try to go after you...

[@sergedaney3511]

It's really great you didn't quit after being doxxed and all. Moral strength is always inspiring, so thank you.

[@lullabi3234]

So Character Assassination is a strategy employed when you are "Clean". "Right". "Competent". By opponents who are likely infected with Insecurity. These observations alone do much to equip a "victim" of such an attack, for their defense. Thank You, beautiful.

[@karlcardona8381]

Very good video. I admire your strength. Another thing is that if any friends stop being your friend based on false rumors and lies, then they never really were your friend to begin with. Loyalty is key when talking about friends, and their first reaction should be to ask you about it, with a sympathetic ear bent towards you, not towards your enemies.

[@shannonshenanigans4576]

I LOVE your videos. Stay strong and keep up the awesome work!!

[@speabody]

My takedown of Blonde: I once met her at an Owen Benjamin show....and she was even more awesome, charming, and babe-ly in person.

[@nickc3856]

_cringe_

[@andrewgray1965]

Babe-ly is a word??

[@speabody]

@@andrewgray1965 Why not?

[@speabody]

Cringe? I'm just saying she's cooler in person. I'm not some beta fanboy

[@ringspanner]

Babe-ly, perfect description

[@bartpearston6456]

What a GREAT video, Blonde!

[@selohcin]

Gosh, she is such a good writer! I love your scripts Blonde! I practice writing every day, but I can't match your sophistication in deploying arguments. If you ever write a book one day, I'll be glad to read it. KZbin may be gone in 50 years, but books can easily last ten times that long.

[@harleysrule2176]

Here is my rule: if someone lies about me (or about someone I care about) deliberately and I find out about it... they had better run and hide for a long time. Many of the problems of today are caused by men handling things like women would.

[@Lilas.Duveteux]

Remember: you are worth more than what people think of you.

[@insanecuckooman8342]

In all cases if you outline the physical location of any individual with the intent to harm, shame, stalk, humiliate, endanger, or otherwise compromise the safety and security of ANY individual you have placed that person in a position of risk and you are in violation of ALL State Stalking laws. It is illegal to announce or disseminate or post those listed pieces of information for the purposes listed in the law (18 USC § 119). Those are purposes such as threatening or intimidating or making it so others can harass or harm the person. This law is about acts that endanger the safety of or encourage attacks against a person or a person’s family.

[@sheilad613]

I never unsubscribed from your channel but somehow KZbin did it on its own? NOT cool... Glad to see your new video. You rule!

[@christy0misty353]

I survive by sticking firmly to what I know to be true, but doing my best to clear up misunderstanding (if that's truly what contributed to the vitriolic feedback), and yes, taking time and letting it all blow over. Needed to be reminded of this. Thanks!

[@BlondeintheBellyoftheBeast]

Thanks, Christy! You're a legend. Glad to see you back.

[@christy0misty353]

Hah-- coming from you, that's quite gracious. And thank you!

[@johnrildo2325]

Yeah, that works too. I like it better when my opponents end up in unfortunate accidents or take a vacation in a foreign country, never to return.

[@elke4646]

I was attacked at a job via character assassination, from a Chinese young woman. When I was on my shift at the cash register, she daily removed $30 when I was absent from the register. It happened so much that the owner of the business warned me, then fired me. I knew I was being framed, but did not know who or why. Six months later she said to someone else there that displeased her for whatever reason, "You better watch out or I will do to you what I did to Elke!" That employee telephoned me and told me that she now knew I had been framed.

[@hemmel777]

Never apologize, they frenzy if you give them the taste of validation.

[@BrokTheLoneWolf]

I love how blatantly intellectual blondeys personality is. Like no emotion. At all. I swear she is an intj.

[@BlondeintheBellyoftheBeast]

ENTP

[@LannaDru]

Paulo Likes Cheese It's either not genetic, or extremely easy to nurture people out of. Also, she mentioned a DNA test that resulted in her being mostly Irish.

[@LannaDru]

That explains the occasional-yet-not-as-bad-as-sweden cuckening.

[@SaintNobody]

That personality model, Meyers-Briggs, has poor reliability and validity. The Big Five model is better, and the MMPI best.

[@Arcessitor]

Brok Homz cringe

[@PoGirlShines]

Also, please document anything that you can at the workplace that seems illegal or unfair because you might need it for a court case later as I did. The more documentation you have the better your chance of winning.

[@davidhuihui8382]

Another brilliant contribution! Well done!

[@DavidCrossman1]

Whenever I read or watch something insane on the internet - of which there is no shortage - and I get upset, it's a pleasure to know I can play a Blonde video and take a deep breath of common sense. Thank you!

[@cstcomputers]

Great video Blonde. I listened to that episode as well and he also "documented" everything. You give excellent advise but I have no stories to tell about my character being assassinated because everyone loves me ALWAYS... See ya!

[@thesarcasticcontrarian1642]

How to survive a character assination?...Do what I do, have no character

[@plutralias]

You must be spying on me. You bought out this vid a day after I had a character assasination at work. Thanks Blondie!

[@impedimentas9782]

thank you blonde. I've watched your talks from close to the beginning and always marvel how level headed your advice is. My personal worse was in AA. Six years of sacrifice and dedication. All it took was an admission of love to a women above my station. When the white knights and betas were thru with me I had lost all. people openly shunned me as a homosexual. Nasty comments were made openly. I had no one who stepped up to support me. They even convinced a one particular poor soul I was sponsoring I was grooming him for sex. He killed himself two days later. Welcome to Cape Cod. I have never experienced a more viscous group of people. I am still hounded 13 years later. Worse decision i've ever made was to trust those soul sick people. Not all alcoholics are narcissus but all narcissus-es are alcoholic. And to be clear, AA is full of drug addicts. And it is anything but anonymous. I am not a homosexual, As if that has anything to do with it.

[@jeremyrainman]

That mancheeze/MenR the problem channel is amazing. It's hard to imagine people like this exist.