How to survive HIGH SCHOOL as an AUTISTIC TEENAGER//meltdowns, concentration levels and masking

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@M0NKEYSEB Жыл бұрын

My catastrophic time at high school led me to getting diagnosed when I was 13 I barely made it out of school alive when I was 16 💀

@vichevy8320 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I've never felt more validated in my school experience so far. I'm currently undiagnosed but seeking an autism diagnosis and just hearing how closly your experiences are lining up with my current one's as an 11th grader is just making me tear up so much. Thank you for this video, i feel much better about seeking the appropriate school accommodations now.

@tuteca Жыл бұрын

Do you have a diagnosis now?

@steveneardley7541 8 ай бұрын

I had already been totally withdrawn in grade school. I was so lonely that I forced myself to try to make friends. I didn't understand any of the social codes, but became a class clown, and that made some people like me. Most of my friends were classical musicians in orchestra. They were kinder than most. Having friends allowed me to learn a lot about how to relate to others. Yes I was bad at social cues, but I did learn, and I didn't really mask much. My best friend in high school was no doubt also autistic. We would do things like trying to talk backwards and then see how accurate we could make it sound. We both got into absurdism really heavily, and that was actually very beneficial--Beckett, Ionesco, etc. We had both seen the same play on TV--Play Without Words. It basically just had two yokels, each in a trashcan, periodically popping their heads out and yelling absurd things at each other. it was such a comment on non-communication. I have a friend whose son was having problems in high school, and I gave him a five-volume compendium of stories by Daniel Pinkwater. It was like a survival manual for high school, with a lot of Buddhist and Dadaist ideas in it. I'm not sure whether Pinkwater is autistic, but it wouldn't surprise me. One of his stories is Alan Mendelsohn, the Boy from Mars. I could definitely relate. My license plate for years was KLAATU, the name of the robot in The Day the Earth Stood Still.

@juanvalenzuela1418 3 жыл бұрын

I hated school since I was a lad, I always felt ,didn't fit in 'cause I used to be ridiculed by some teachers and classmates( I'm not playing the victim), Schools are real killers of creativity. " Rich kid,Smart kid" by Robert Kiyosaki covers that topic on how Schools are like slaughterhouses. 18 years later I realised I wasn't broken I was just part of a system due to its central structure never evolved and to get to the nitty-gritty, School System is rotten to the core ., As an Autistic man I can tell you at heart schools are factories that have been made to create labourers who obey the rules without criticising the "status quo" they basically remove creativity and critical thinking from children's mind , Great video and glad in these times people like you are making real changes in so diverse ways, This generation is much more courageous and you are one of the leaders who's at the helm.BTW, Hollie, you should watch a film called "The Name of the Rose" which was taken from a book written by an Italian novelist whose name's Umberto Eco. In a nutshell it describes, how the Catholic Church as any Institution took advantage of people's ignorance to govern during the Middle Age.

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

Yes some teachers have habits of labelling there pupils which can cause further problems down the line. Try not to let school define you and thanks for sharing your experience

@juanvalenzuela1418 3 жыл бұрын

@@holliemabbott949 Thanks to you for sharing a piece of your life every Sunday :)

@Ashley-Bradderz 3 жыл бұрын

I hated secondary school, iv been in public schools in England but was in a Learning Support base for year 7 and 8 and had extra support prior for having an unspecified learning disability, when I went into the more mainstream aspect rather than isolated in the LSB I got referred to as the R word and the bullying was near constant which probably didn’t help with me developing schizophrenia later on when I was 17, I feel the voices I hear are inspired by the ableism I suffered as a child which I cannot get away from but luckily the medication helps with the hallucinations, delusions and paranoia. Truth is real people affect me more than the voices shout at me and I’m not that bothered anymore what people think about me. School sucks, wish people were a lot nicer instead of targeting those with differences.

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

That’s horrible! I’m sorry you went though that :( people can just be so mean and hurtful but your not on your own a lot of us go though bad times in high school

@Ashley-Bradderz 3 жыл бұрын

@@holliemabbott949 I know I’m not alone, just wish I could find more people like myself other than on the internet, iv met plenty of Autistic people and joined a support group filled mainly with people with bipolar, i choose to be open about my Schizophrenia diagnosis but never actually met a person with schizophrenia in person, maybe I have but we often keep it a secret because of misunderstanding and stigma. Im at peace with what happened in the past and with myself and my reality of having Schizophrenia, I live in hope I do get to have a fulfilling life and people understand and can see who I really am. Life’s hard but there’s always something good in life to endure the bad times.

@the-ko1cn 2 жыл бұрын

In Norway we might get into special schools if we have autism or any other disability with teachers who actually have experience with mental health

@Patxi1776 Жыл бұрын

I am over 40. I lost my mother during high school and the turmoil that came with that completely clouded my memory. Watching your video made me remember a complete meltdown I had while my mother was still alive. I could not explain to her how awful I felt at the time, but I do remember she saw for the first time how much pain I was in. I do remember that soon after that I went to see the school psychologist. All she did was say I was gifted and somehow enrolled me in the most pedantic classes that I absolutely loved, but the loneliness never subsided. I wonder had my mother lived a bit longer if she would have helped me figure out what was really going on. It took me another 20 years to figure out what was really going on. Damn there needs to be more education around this, and I thank you and other young people like you who have started to share their experiences because it really has helped a lot of us older folks.

@TheGatewayProductions 3 жыл бұрын

Big thanks for this video! Panic attacks are devastating but we can learn to fight them! Nice work!

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou! And yes they 100% are!

@lovinallthingsmac 3 жыл бұрын

Hope you make some more videos, it’s good to hear your perspective on things, helps me to understand my son a bit more 👍🏻

@lizzywhittaker 3 жыл бұрын

Ace video. Shared to all friends, teenagers. My daughter said she wished she had this Video when she was in primary school. Thanks for all the videos they are so helpful to parents/teachers and young people x

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

Awh that’s nice to hear! Thanks for the comment and hope you enjoy my future videos, your daughter too x

@LOL-dd3zk 2 жыл бұрын

Hoenstly like hs just been hard for me just hate my school I literally wanna move schools because I have no friends I have one in science who i tlak too n shit and gym but don’t talk to him all that much but it still sucks I’m just at my breaking point to just do to online school next year cuz I’m not trying to go back

@laurenamydavidson5117 3 жыл бұрын

As a fellow autistic person, I find this video very inspiring! Thank you for sharing this video and you right mental health should come before grades and people need to realise this!!! I was very lucky that my last two years of high school were great for me as I had a amazing group of friend by my side! But the start of high school was challenging for me as I struggling a lot with making friend and socialising so I can relate to this video! My coping mechanism in the classroom was counting things and it work for me! But you should be proud of this video you made it's really really good! ❤xxx

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

Awh Thankyou so much this comment really made me smile, I’m a lot happier as I’ve started college and have found amazing friends who understand me, it makes all the difference. Hope you enjoy my future videos ❤️

@laurenamydavidson5117 3 жыл бұрын

@@holliemabbott949 I'm glad you found some amazing friends as you really deserve them! Also I have a Vlog on my autistic experiences,you dont have to watch it but it might interest you :)xxx kzbin.info/www/bejne/hXyyiqttfs15rdU

@nikkilakin9256 3 жыл бұрын

As always amazing and informative video Holly I think more staff in mainstream schools should watch your video to get a first hand real life idea of interventions that could help their autistic students no book learning can give them the same information a nerodivesrse teenager or older that has lived it can give them! With my boys who are autistic aged 11, 9, 4 they are all highly intelligent and I feel they are punished for this and less support and options are available if they were behind academically or struggling or really violent and lashed out aggressively there are dpecialist schools available at secondary level but if the are academically achieving their only option is a mainstream secondary and it is wring there should be schools that offer both neurodiverse support for intelligent people too

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

I agree with this I feel like schools offer much more support if children are struggling more academically. It sad really. Glad you enjoyed my video and enjoy many more to come

@anncarroll9238 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Hollie, Your insights are amazing and life-changing. Grateful that you have decided to become a powerful and positive force for others. You are a superstar! 🤩

@mesholberatsonallibi 2 жыл бұрын

So I’ve always struggled in school in 8th grade it got so bad I got expelled and whent to a theprautic behavioral school ,as I did grow a lot as a person there the end wasent good and I got expelled for a year ,I am searching for another theprautic school but there all full,so now I have to go to a real high school for a. Bit and gonna be in a special classroom and I am gonna know no one and sit alone and idk if I will be able to have my comfort items or fit in or get bullied,or if they will exept me to do work for my grade even tho I’m grades behind I hope they understand 💖 thank you for this thank you so much your so amazing and generous for making this video you don’t realize how much this means to me and I’m probly autistic and rlly need my comfort items and I’m so scared for the lunch room to be loud and scary

@MrKeeley01 3 жыл бұрын

Best video by far. Your school years were so hard but u got through it ❤️❤️❤️❤️. So much love x

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou x

@mesholberatsonallibi 2 жыл бұрын

I don’t find throwing things funny but I did it a lot bc of my autism and emotional truama so plz don’t judge but I agree it’s not funny and I’m working so hard to be better

@nathansebolt7219 3 жыл бұрын

If it weren't for a couple of other autistic people, and my one crazy friend, I don't think I could've survived

@holliemabbott949 3 жыл бұрын

I understand this feeling :(

@audreynwa Күн бұрын

Also i love this video thank yew❤

@Sportcone06 2 жыл бұрын

I'm highly functioning autistic too on the spectrum. I'm very smart and went to one of the best business schools in the country Binghamton university school of management for accounting on New York state but my meltdowns are often triggered by perfectionism like when I don't get As and that has led to psychiatric treatment and bipolar disorder in recent months and now my life is basically in ruins with me on disability SSI and with pressure to move into a group home because I can't take care of myself. My life has not gone well. I'm sorry

@tuteca Жыл бұрын

School is killing me, I hope you're doing better