HOW TO TELL A MAN IS FEMININE

[@MinistryB4Industry]

As a man, I understand completely what you are saying. I spend time in my home gym, but certainly not obsessed with it, and I do NOT take offense to what you said at all. You are right on point with this video. Keep up the good work my sister.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@miloudivyne]

Love to see responses like this

[@maricelg777]

@@miloudivyne love it 🤍🌸

[@whotube7978]

I wanted to watch this but the fannn Chile, we couldn’t have turned it off for 10 mins?

[@sodia5558]

Some men think their anger issues make them masculine and it really drives me nuts.

[@denetriawright9100]

That part honey! It’s all about that cool, calm, collected, and quiet Strength in his Masculine as well!! Like baby just sit back and watch me, I got it, oooooh weeee , Not anger issues!!…

[@elizabethowen8559]

@@denetriawright9100 but that’s an emotional problem, I would argue that men with anger issues is more on the feminine side.

[@borngreat-4-life930]

The Bible says be angry but do not sin.

[@angelicaa.3062]

What about women with anger issues ?

[@TheOriginalBillyYO]

@@angelicaa.3062 They just psychos lol

[@HaleyMary]

I realize watching this video that all the men who have shown interest in me in the past tried to move super fast, quicker than I felt comfortable with, now I realize they were in their feminine energy.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️

[@FashionTechNora]

YES Move fast and then quick to walk away fast. Real Relationships happen organically and Real men know this and enjoying the friendship as well.

[@ms.parker4880]

I’m learning now that it’s good to have friends, a notebook or therapist to share deep conversations or anything along the lines to discuss my emotions with rather than with my man....masculine man. Let him lead, provide and do what needs to be done.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️

[@ameliagray1618]

It's good to have friends to talk too but I think that it's also good to let him know what's going on with you? Even if it's brief

[@tiland03]

Yes friends

[@Barr.JoyO.]

😅 this is interesting

[@Sarahhenderson11]

Masculine dominant people DO. Feminine dominant people ruminate and look back a LOT. Feminine people cannot let go of things - be it people, places, anything! Masculine people easily let go and release. Masculine focuses on external world, feminine on the internal world.

[@itn-nq5tn]

"The glory of a man is seen on his lovely wife" says Proverbs of King Solomon.

[@kathleenking47]

Also, if you notice, we're the opposite of animal kingdom, this way Or should be.. (My ex bro in law, dressed very fancy, and would beat my sister) In animal kingdom The males are fancier More colorful Women, should be more colorful in dress wear It could bring out the masculine, in men

[@ScorpionPrincess1989]

As long as men stay in their feminine and women in their masculine, they can both never have a happy fulfilling relationship

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Some can but most won’t no

[@botodin6979]

Proof?

[@thomasjust2663]

Not all Darling, I'm feminine and I'm quite happy

[@Reschedules]

Thats not good men need to be masculine

[@Reschedules]

@@charlieberry7562 if theres to many feminine men out here america gonna look soft plus people are gonna test us plus how men gonna go to war thats why masculinity is a thing

[@ak-47intelligence75]

You're like the big sister I've never had. Thank you. I love this.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🤗🤗❤️🦋

[@eclaire1]

Omg ur describing my daughters husband 😫 and I also used t be attracted to the hot guy ...older and wiser

[@brandonlindsey8557]

A masculine man stands by a code if I shake your hand and tell you I'm going to do something it is done

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙌🏽🙌🏽🤗

[@miloudivyne]

Also ladies this describes water sign men, especially Pisces men. This was my ex, I hyped him up with his looks because he was tall dark and well broke isn't handsome. He is so focused on the strong independent women so he can use her for sex.

[@TaKyraMoonlight]

Why am I here because I started dating a man who happens to be a Pisces 😂😭

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

Kevin Samuels is a Pisces and he’s feminine af to me😂 Idk why people act like he’s qualified to talk about traditional relationships and masculinity/femininity

[@Healthycellph]

Bruh, I’ve been dealing with Scorpios! They’re like the last master demon at the end of an emotional video game 🎮 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@soystef]

I also find in my experience Pisces men are very feminine (maybe because I am a feminine Pisces as well..?)

[@soystef]

Scorpio men however are typically very masculine (in my experience)

[@casey5535]

You know they are feminine when they are asking you about your bank account, 401k. etc. Yikes. what a turn off.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Yep!

[@maricelg777]

Yikes 😷 😫

[@casey5535]

@Cary Sontag pretty much. 😆

[@iaf4454]

And they even want a kiss after a date. That is draining!!

[@victorylapp]

The feminine man you describe is what has been pushed to society as masculine . That’s what half of celebrities represent, and almost all men on instagram that are always posting their pictures seeking approval like women

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Indeed 🙏🏾

[@delinapham7677]

Thank God I came across your videos, I just got out of a relationship with a feminine energy man and everything you described is on point. He has all of those traits. He cheated and I never went back. I’m glad to understand a lot more about feminine and masculine energy. This gives me so much insight on how I view things and people. It’s crazy how I even try to change him and it never worked. I was mentally and emotional exhausted. Thanks Chengi for your work. I love it!

[@mvelomt6015]

Yep.. im definately dating a feminine man 😢😒 another thing ive noticed about him that i think makes him feminine is he is very comfortable with asking for things from me, asking me to do things for him. He asks for money, asks me to buy him this and that, bring him food on my way to him etc... That annoyed me so much i had to tell him to stop asking me for things coz that made me view him as needy, lazy and unattractive. He was very offended by that and has since stopped. I told him that i should be the one doing all that. He asks so much that i barely have the opportunity to ask him for things too. It doesnt give me room to be needy and feminine 😒😒 All these signs are spot on. Thank you Chengi ♥️ this made so much sense.

[@deroforever]

Maybe you tell him that you need to give yourself first ;)

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Oh no! Definitely femme. Proceed with caution 🙏🏾

[@dimediamond]

Run. He is dry begging and broke hun.

[@LifeLessonswithDee]

@@charlieberry7562 you just exposed yourself here.

[@LifeLessonswithDee]

@@charlieberry7562 I get where you're coming from. Let's work with the info she's provided. The guy 'asks for money, asks girl to buy this and that for him, asks her to bring food for him on her way to him' now imagine a girl asking a guy to do her dishes when he visits her, clean up her house and iron her clothes. Maybe I'm too traditional but it just doesn't sound right to me. It's something I would appreciate if he does but I would never ask of him. I would also buy things for my man, bring him food but if he if he feels too comfortable asking for it and does it too often then that strips me off of my femininity. Men and women will never be equal. Although we may take each other's roles from time to time we are designed differently, which is why one provides the sperm and the other carries the baby. If we were meant to be equal we would be designed to take turns to carry the baby and produce sperm.

[@YessiU-uv5xz]

I can't take it anymore ,my husband is like a woman !I hate how emotional, argumentative, the old with his wardrobe and controlling of how I have to dress .He is always crying because his boss or coworkers don't like him ,he is dramatic and easily grossed out ,so picky with how things are arranged. I feel like I have to constantly be pleasing him because he is moody and fights about the dumbest things like a bratty chick who wants it her way .I can't step into my feminine energy because I have to keep stepping into a masculine for our family .it's messing with my self asteem yet when I cry he says I'm too sensitive .Then he says I'm not feminine like other woman.

[@naavajo]

Oh no! Get out if you can. I am also bisexual and that is why I tend to try stay away from women (not all women are feminine but a lot are), it can push me into my masculine

[@nelimaliz4881]

This just helped me realize that I have a masculine high value man and I need to do the work

[@AltraTara]

I’ve had one of those, dumped him after three months.The worst thing I could tell him was « don’t compete with me, I am the woman » and he would go ballistic. He was a narcissist with major mommy issues, who literally terrorized me emotionally but I got him good cause I’d always fight back. Watching your video gave me violent flashbacks though lol. Now resting in my feminine and I have hit the jackpot. Just need to secure the deal.

[@savvylady7890]

Sounds like my story. 🙄 it's so sad to have to remind them that you are the woman

[@annesmith1491]

@@charlieberry7562 ive notice the younger generation of men such as yourself express their emotions more than our stoic fathers. i think most of what she is saying is does he want to protect and provide. especially if the couple has kids. as much as possible the woman should be allowed to spend more time at home with them. No Mr Moms to be wanted.

[@AJ-uv7qg]

Wow. I never knew what was wrong with my ex until I watched this. I thought my ex was just extremely narcissistic and abusive, but this just added an entirely new layer that was so spot on. Thank you!! ❤️

[@melvaspence17862]

OMG Chengi, I really wish I had known all this from my twenties. Then again these types of men appear to be more available NOW than back in 70/80s

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Yes, the rise of feminism has created this effect on men.

[@melvaspence17862]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy it really is a sad state of living Chengi. Women's choices for a masculine man has been cut drastically, really sad

[@iaf4454]

​@@blackswanrelationshipacademy well, it is the absent fathers which create it. Feminism is another thing.

[@bhawnarkr2531]

God wanted my masculine energy sucked out of me, fully gone, maybe that's why he sent my feminine narcissistic ex and within 2 years of doing everything I could for him I ran out and broke up burnt out.. stayed exhausted for 2 years but now I'm grateful because I see my inner goddess returning, and this time my faith in her sources my faith in myself too.. Can't stress enough, how much our ugly experiences are most potent of leaving us with the riches and self love..

[@harlanwilkinson3142]

A few female coworkers jokingly said I was feminine. After watching this video, I can see why. I have all the masculine traits mentioned, BUT I do care about my appearance and spend time in the gym to look and feel good, and to push my limits. I also groom. I've realized that on face value, because I'm "good looking," I come off as feminine. I'm also charismatic and a good conversationalist. Other than that, all my interests, mannerisms, and values are masculine. I think most people have a mixture of feminine and masculine.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Everyone has. It’s all about dominant energy not the absence of one or another

[@kristenmoonrise]

Wow this video 🔥 I love that you say men that play the field is a feminine aspect. I always wondered how it's considered masculine but the way you explained it makes total sense!!

[@sheallwhimsical3738]

A thousand thanks✨✨. This message is so important & needed. The NARC that I dealt with had feminine energy. He was indecisive, emotionally immature & pathologically selfish. However if I made a decision on anything he became insolent & defiant. Like a disobedient teenager. That’s when I knew something was wrong but back then no was talking about feminine & masculine energy. I also started to notice his inability to lead. I assumed it had to do with him being raised by a single mother. One day I read this book “Getting to I do” by Dr. Patricia Allen. She breaks down the importance of understanding feminine & masculine energy. It finally made sense as to what I was dealing with in that situationship. I realized that my default setting was that of a masculine woman. If I didn't want a repeat changes needed to made. Immediately. So 7 years ago my true journey as a feminine woman emerged.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Wonderful 🤩

[@dimediamond]

Bring masculine men back in 2020.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Yes yess!!!

[@sagilady523]

I agree. These feminine energy pretty boys act like gigolos looking for sugar mommas'.

[@durece100]

Why?

[@freshclean8649]

It 2024 and they have vanished.

[@daaliysia]

2024😢

[@elimamandaza]

Oh Chengi! 😹i laughed so much at ‘He’s getting pretty for you 😅” This video just confirmed a lot of things for me.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hahahahaha 🙌🏽💕

[@reneecrotty6910]

Oh my goodness... I am literally laughing comparing all my past boyfriends in tbe past!! You are SO RIGHT!!!! My very successful partners were never ripped!! But manly personality and actually very loving and ignited my heart...and my very good looking "pretty boy" boyfriends, I had to end very fast because I remember feeling like I couldn't depend on them in the future and alot of other terrible qualities...wow you are so right and I never thought of it like this hahaa

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@tailu9719]

my dad was a feminine man... what a living hell I have to live thru

[@oneofyou6773]

You are hugely under-rated! You're incredibly right! lol

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@theerainilee]

Feminine energy = attracting towards the self; passive; emotional; inspired; introspective; like water Masculine energy = Directed outwards; aggressive; logical; grounded; driven; like fire

[@Thagomizer]

Some men are introverts and some women are extroverts. Great job alienating them.

[@justmi_girlie7983]

This video helped me to check myself. I now have more insight on why I attract certain guys AND why I've been attracted to certain guys. Very eye-opening video for me. I'm thankful for this.

[@YGabi333]

I swear you arr thr mother I havr never had, the sister I have never had, the girlfriend I have never had!! It took me 47 years to hear this and know why I have been atracking the wrong ones! Chengi, God bless you!🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@April-tn7zz]

Spot on! I’m glad I’m not with ex anymore! It was like dating a women! No shade! Dating guy who is very much masculine

[@trollzynisaacjohan1793]

Human beings need to balance both energies, Yin and yang. I'm very masculine but I have a hidden feminine side as a man which allows me to be empathetic and kind.

[@kathleenking47]

I consider it polarity We women, need to get more feminine..wear dresses Get daughters in ballet.. However Never for BOYS..

[@wip3z531]

I'm raised by a single mom without a father im telling you its hard without a male role model that can influence good masculine traits. I'm not against women by any means I've been taught of all the women influence cooking, clothes, fashion, including clothing, etc. I'm now 20 looking like luka urishibara from steins gate trying to learn all of masculine traits and working on being a better person mentally and emotionally. Its pretty hard in this world when everything makes me cry like a bitch 😪 💔 😕 I need a male role model since I don't have any male friends at all.

[@Remy4556]

Same here brother, I am hitting 19 and I have always dreamt of being that " flawless man " .......I am very emotional and overly sensitive....and the hyper masculine guys out there have made me feel like an alien Nobody would understand this problem. Nobody

[@Ol1v1as_world]

Damn, I have 3 boys...is this why my male friends keep telling me to stop always crying in front of my sons?

[@usualdosage7287]

@@Remy4556 your gonna have to step up and stop bitching, and have some self respect, your more capable than you even know, recognizing your problems is the first step, the hardest problem is actually doing actions to fix those problems, but you can start small, really small, things you can do right now like eliminating your instant gratification, things like videogames, porn, drugs, addiction, anything that rewards you by a shortcut without working for it will lead to abuse and eventually a cycle that's hard to get out of, like i said start small, but stay committed, if you really want something bad, your gonna have to put in effort that's going to uncomfortable, it WILL feel uncomfortable to go outside your comfort zone, because the true good things in life require work and no "shortcuts" like in videogames and fapping, this is called delayed gratification, doing things now to benefit your future self even if you don't feel the reward immediately, use your willpower to resist temptation, temptation is everywhere, it's how i feel god tests us, we have to use our free will and will power to resist these temptations and willpower is like a muscle, you can put in more or put in less in each situation in life, but if you generally put in more life will reward you

[@usualdosage7287]

@@Ol1v1as_world exactly, of course their feelings are valid but being able to control such emotions is a very useful skill in life, telling them to stop crying especially from a small problem is good, telling them to never cry is bad, people say to let your emotions out but as a young boy all that did was lead to self pity and men looking down at me

[@LaChanceuse]

If you are single and interested in dating women, let me know.

[@Nobody800_]

Yes feminine men do think women want handsome guys lmaooo. I’ve never went for looks and the one time I did it was a feminine man who swore he was an alpha. Raised by a single mom

[@sodia5558]

We all think we know what we want. I think what we want is a certain specific balance of either masculinity of feminine. And there is no perfection.

[@starrjohnson1327]

I dated a foreigner who said it was normal for men to be told they're handsome😑 He brought it up so much! He was handsome but only 5ft tall 😆

[@Blank85289]

And what is wrong with being raised by a single mom? Like you really think we choose for our life to be like that?

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

I'm to the point where I don't want my grandkids dating dudes from single mothers

[@bibinthomas5282]

@@starrjohnson1327 stop blaming short men

[@hmj1504]

Had I known this information sooner I never would fallen for the high school player that broke my heart. Loving every word!

[@kimberlysanaa25]

Omgggg you were spot on. Married to one and unfortunately now separated(btw this is our 2nd time being separated). Wouldn’t say the first two but everything else, yessss! And it was a journey, constant headache and explaining to console feelings. I will definitely subscribe to you . Thanks!

[@christianarias4850]

Not all men who are ripped are actually doing it for women, some men just love working out. So I guess your only half right on that area.

[@christianarias4850]

@@mrsmum6752 I doubt the majority of men who work out are doing it for other men. That's retarded. Men work out because, First they Love it or health reasons and second they do it to look good for women or to look good in general.

[@joeydoherty368]

That’s true. It’s more of a hobby for a lot of guys. Now if you’re constantly posting pics of yourself shirtless or flexing, that’s another thing.

[@Gintoki_Madao]

@@christianarias4850 the shame on guys trying to be fit is insane You're right on the money

[@christianarias4850]

@@Gintoki_Madao men can't do anything without being criticized. The war on men in general is insane.. We cant even have standards let alone have an opinion because we'll be called every name in the book and I blame the femanazis for this.

[@jay07261986]

Working out is therapy...helps you keep a clear head...plus u get the endorphins n dopamine....n it's the most fundamental thing you can to live right...

[@thevenusian1314]

As a feminine energy dominate male *who dates men* I actually agree with all the points in this video. My feminine energy has always served me well in life, and I'm just now beginning to see how well it's served me from childhood until now.

[@brotherbear1036]

Wow.

[@Athirdofthem]

​@@brotherbear1036 LOOOOOOOOOL

[@seanminkins7701]

Great List. A Star Is Born.

[@RaiderDeepBall]

My 7th grade gym teacher told me that there is a massive difference between weight lifting and bodybuilding. He said weight lifting was about general physical fitness and having a competitive edge in sports. Whereas bodybuilding was a way for effeminate/closeted homosexual males to admire men’s bodies in a sexual way. I never understood what he meant until I got older, and noticed a lot of these bodybuilder/personal trainers always had tons of pics of other bodybuilders all over their office or gym walls.

[@ewg86]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@living9377]

Interesting

[@morountodunokedara]

LMAOOO

[@CharmedUnicorn]

Back in college (when I was operating in my masculine energy) I attracted a body builder….ahh! Makes sense now 😩😂

[@Zelly2001]

So all bodybuilders are closeted homosexuals?

[@Mo-bq8lz]

“For those of you committed to misunderstanding me” -Chengi ❤️ your part of my new daily encouragement regiment

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🤗🤗💕

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome Angel 🤗

[@shreegoddess4735]

The man who ask you on first conversation first question what do you do n too much into your career

[@GG-rk1bu]

I like feminine straight men. My man is a gentle giant, who provides well & takes amazing care of his kids. No need to slate people for being different. Otherwise there's a lot you got right.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

He sounds masculine to me. Gentle and caring are masculine traits. Clearly he provides, protects and cherishes you. Sounds to me you have a high value masculine man.

[@GG-rk1bu]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy LOL i think this highlights the difficulty of masc and feminine traits. I still don't get it Because by a lot of people's standards I have masculine traits too. Very interested by your videos though. Just confused about gender.

[@packleader1215]

I HATE talking on the phone and texting. I'd rather see you in person.

[@herual-ameen6984]

I will say this: there is nothing wrong with anyone putting in effort into the gym. Men go there and stay fit to whatever degree they choose and for whatever reason. This does not take away from their masculinity. Women are attracted to strong and healthy looking men, and rival men usually don’t challenge those who they perceive as strong. Since ancient times, survival of the fittest has been in out DNA. Provision and protection depends on a man’s fitness and capabilities to do so.

[@fergiemon18]

I’m mad because I just realized I’m a masculine man by your definition but that’s what I’ve been looking for! 😭😭

[@kathleenking47]

Try wearing more skirts/dresses.,

[@Love_Lacie]

Wow! This was so good and so enlightening! Thank you for this content! ❤

[@Payel5]

I focus on looks.But the aim is to look good in a fashionable way and not in the natural feminine way. The look obsession is to show how much wealth and power I have , it is vanity. If there is a day when I feel defeated or not able to have wealth, there would not be any desire to look good either. I don't know if most women are the same way, or why at all they want to look pretty, but for me, it is to distinguish myself from low quality folks.

[@Mindbender55]

I was 19 and had a affair with a 37 yr old woman who taught me the game! How to be and stay masculine! Best info I ever got

[@ribaker822]

Sista, you do well to observe these things and put them together. Your words are wisdom. Thank you. I'm sharing this within my network. Not to be cheeky, but for some reason I keep recalling the men in the lives of the Kardashians 😂

[@kevin15776]

Love how masculine men have to be all about making money and being dominant. What are women bringing to the table? Emotional, looks obsessed personalities?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

If you were sitting in masculine energy you wouldn’t ask this question 🙏🏾

[@Thagomizer]

​@@blackswanrelationshipacademyThat's like Antia Sarkeesian telling you that the less you think you can be affected by the intersectional influences of pop culture, the more you are effected. Or maybe a Christian explaining that your lack of belief in the Devil is proof of the Devil's insidious influence.

[@fazeelafazal8615]

You look gorgeous. I love your British accent:)

[@tareqeg213]

all in all good video honestly lotta things make sense. took the time of your day to help people 👏🏼

[@philipk883]

I realize that Im super duper feminine compared to last couple of years to the point I am considering transitioning. This video really resonated a lot of masculine things back in the good old days and i strongly feel I shouldn't transition and instead I should get in touch with my masculinity. The question is how do I integrate all the good things of my femininity with my masculinity, without stepping on each others toe. For example, I love fashion and spend a lot of money on it, however I do it for the sake as an artistic expression and not for the sake of attention from either sex. Is this something I should let go to become masculine or is it sometiing that can be integrated?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

First deal with any underlying trauma or emotional wounds then you will be more in touch with your authentic self. The journey to your essence is primary. The rest will fall in line

[@marilynbradley8487]

Ahhhhhh! I am totally masculine. I have always chosen with my eyes. I didn't know it was that simple.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🦋🌸

[@hlroth2101]

Everything she is saying is facts 💯

[@shesonfire_]

I have a question. Do u know if there has been any resesech done on wherher or not the man or woman is an Artsit? I am one myself and I admire beautiful things because of this trait. I am.very sensitive to the appearance of things as well as how they make me feel. So initially i am going to choose with my eyes but if they say something that turns me off then their appearance no longer matters.

[@joangordon8225]

Changi you are the best I love how you bring your points across in your videos....humor but serious at the same time

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

So glad you like the delivery and enjoyed this video. Please share and kero watching. We appreciate you

[@kkbabybratz3874]

My man doesn’t really have nothing and I complain about wanting things but he claims he doesn’t have even have money to take care of himself… is it me or is he being selfish ? Thoughts …… but tbh idek why I stay ….. I agree stop looking at looks, when a man can take care of you it makes you way more attracted

[@chianty13]

I tried not to focus on appearance, but is actually reflects how you feel on the inside. For example, I’ve been overweight, I had problems with meds and with situations in my life that unfortunately led me there, but when you are healthy on the inside (in your mind and feelings), your outside is healthy too. So if I see an overweight or (worse) obese man in his 30’s, single, with no kids, and a regular job, it is definitely a turn off for me, because how can a (masculine) man comfort himself with food to the point of compromising his health? Am I being too masculine?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

This is different and no, it’s ok to not want to be with someone who cannot care for themselves and their health. We are talking about an eligible man whom a woman would disqualify purely on the absence of chemistry and nothing else. This is masculine

[@durece100]

Zodiac signs are either Feminine or Masculine. Masculine:Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius, Aquarius. Feminine: Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn, Pisces.

[@christophersegura7514]

I watch the videos because I like looking at beautiful intelligent woman like you.

[@christophersegura7514]

Thanks

[@christophersegura7514]

Thank you.

[@rmg2419]

Ive experienced many men always trying to over power me, or put me down/knock me down, or one up me in some way. Isn't this abusive behavior? What makes them feel the need to do this?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

It is abusive x

[@peacefreedom4930]

It’s abusive. They are insecure. They are trying to knock you down a peg to make you unstable. A person who is unsure is easier to manipulate and control

[@salg6351]

They do this cause a lot of boys are born with feminine features and traits but all that feminine energy is ruined and suppressed when a feminine boy is sexual or mentally abused by a toxic overly masculine man or woman. When those feminine tendencies are suppressed for years it can manifest into toxic behavior and anger towards you or others. Cause when a feminine boy is broken and forced to live a masculine lifestyle with machismo beliefs and values. He’ll go crazy tryna be something he’s not. You understand. There’s a lot of broken men out there with unsolved issues and trauma.

[@dark_bull67]

Cause your the reason for it

[@iaf4454]

​@@dark_bull67 no, abusers are abusers. It is engrained in the man's family.

[@AshtasticAcrobat]

Agree with most of this but the gym thing I can see that actually as masculine because he’s wanting to be strong and fit so he can fulfill his role as a protector. If someone is coming at me I don’t want a fat out of shape dude falling over and can’t throw a punch or knock him to the ground. 😭 Now if a guy is posting gym mirror selfies all day with his shirt off then THAT is feminine 100%! 😑

[@bloodmajesty414]

I think it is in the how they approach the gym thing - if they do it because they want to be stronger and healthier so that they can be a better father, partner, son etc. - it is a masculine energy. But if they are obsessed on how they looks and how others look at them - it is feminine energy.

[@tareqeg213]

we gotta think science too i think im the only one that mentioned 💀

[@tareqeg213]

see now that makes sense. when i go to the gym i do go crazy but i do me and i dont focus on showing off or taking pictures like that lol. i go and gtfo and get that bread

[@Katrn30]

Nooo, a masculine man gets fit by doing manly things that keep him fit. Most of the men I see in gyms are either narcissistic, or not into females. That’s just me, I like a man that can build things and fix things and doesn’t need to pay others to do this. Sports keep masculine men fit too.

[@davewadkins4322]

Hi Chengi, thanks for your effort here. I'm fairly new to your content, so forgive me if I haven't found this detail yet, but it seems to me this video (and a few others I've watched) are putting "feminine" and "masculine" on a diametrically opposing binary scale (if you are feminine, you are not masculine and vice versa). Apply the binary genitalia someone possesses (penis or vagina), and you have an overly simplified system of "feminine woman", "feminine man", "masculine woman" and "masculine man". While individuals surely exist that precisely embody these four architypes, I believe many more will fall someplace in-between. Reality is far more complex than this. E.g. Someone can be very successful in their career [masculine], but not by pushing over others to gain that success [feminine]. They can balance their career with time for family and themselves. They can be in touch with their own emotions and empathetic (and cry at movies) [feminine], but not be an "emotional mess" [masculine]. They can love art/dance/music/theatre [feminine], but find popular fashion/style horribly uninteresting [masculine]. They can be highly assertive about their beliefs [masculine], but still be open to discourse and collaboration to give me more perspective to influence those beliefs [feminine]. I am (genuinely) interested in your take on this. What advice would you give to all the people watching that don't directly relate to any of these 4 categories? Do they have to choose where they and their significant others fit, or are there other tools these individuals might need to best get along in the world?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hi Dave, Thank you for this question! Its intelligent and a delight to respond to. We are all both feminine and masculine and both energies are necessary to experience healthy, happy human lives. This channel is about romantic relationships from the perspective of women and their priorities. We have to choose a dominant energy in all aspects of life. At work we need to choose masculine energy otherwise we simply won't get tasks accomplished nor make any money. In this we are in DOMINANT masculine energy and this applies to male and female. The work place is dominantly masculine because we get paid to produce and get things DONE. The issue is when we are in relationships and we are not in complimentary energy we lose attraction or become competitive. In relationships it is important to choose one's dominant energy. In brief, will you be either the Provider, Protector and Cherishing Masculine or the Available, Receptive and Respecting Feminine? Whilst this may sound regid in practice there will indeed by moments of exchange but these must be upon agreement and smart communication. The rabbit hole goes much deeper and as you can imagine I would need a few hours video to explain this in depth. The long and short to your question is that there is a great deal of flexibility only when one becomes proficient with the rudiments and masters the elementary which I touch on in this video. Balance is ALWAYS the desired outcome xx

[@davewadkins4322]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Thank you for your detailed reply! I like this detail about the dominant energy and how it's going to be necessarily different in various contexts. You "show up" differently at work than you would at a bar with your friends, or when you're with your kids or when you are alone with your partner. Thank you for your time and insights.

[@Cekatu]

@@davewadkins4322 and @Black Swan I appreciate the intelligent, thought provoking and respectful exchange between both of you. 🥂

[@marilynwarbis7224]

Thanks for this video, it confirms my instincts on the matter. There are a lot of feminine men out there, is it partly social fashion? Partly all the oestrogens in the water? One masculine trait which I find in very short supply is mental virility. This is nothing to do with sexuality, in fact, men who emphasise their own sexuality fall into the feminine category. Nor is mental virility anything to do with aggression or cruelty. Mental virility quietly manifests itself as a definite vibe the man carries, a specific approach to the world. I can't define it, but it's instantly recognisable. The unfortunate thing is, it's not always generally popular and it takes a truly adult and mature woman to respond to and appreciate it. Many women prefer the cosiness of a more feminine man. Occasionally, mental virility is found in a woman, but it is definitely a masculine trait.

[@phalynwilliams4119]

There’s videos are so helpful. This is my second time watching the video. Things are clicking and making more and more sense to me. Thank you.

[@victorylapp]

Feminine men post their whole day on instagram for likes

[@monvici]

So does this mean that a masculine man doesn’t have deep conversations, because I like deep emotional connection in relationship?

[@Melly16yr10]

Same here

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

They can but this is not constantly

[@ewg86]

Probably not at the frequency you’d like. Emotions are draining to us. Lol

[@monvici]

Sad to hear. I think I wouldn't come along those kind of men, because even I'm feminine I'm deeply social and sensitive. I really need that deep emotional connection in relationship. Otherwice I would search that connection from another man. Not high value perhaps, but connection is must.

[@ewg86]

@@monvici and that’s ok. Everyone’s balance is different. But I think that’s good news for you because I think modern men have been conditioned to be more feminine & emotional. He’s out there but the odds of him being very masculine are pretty slim because although all men have emotions, masculine men tend to not prioritize them. Most masculine men value simplicity. Emotions are very complex so for us to tap into that part of our brains at a frequent rate takes energy that is usually applied to getting things done in the physical world. So by the time we get home we’re tired & want to relax & be at peace. That’s not to say we can’t have deep conversations, but timing & frequency should be considered

[@Oddpistachio1]

I'm not that masculine or feminine, but more in the middle. In some ways I'm feminine and in other ways I'm masculine. I wouldn't say I'm too much of one or the other, though.

[@thomasjust2663]

I'm a feminine, gay man, When I was single I dated many men, that were supposedly masculine, according to your definition, in the bedroom, it was something else

[@virginiarush8541]

Please seek the Lord Jesus Christ before you leave this earth. You are not a woman, so it is against God's word for a man to lay with a man. Every last one of us have sinned, but it's important that we acknowledge it and repent. We must turn away from our sins, and move in the right direction. I'm coming from a place of love; please understand that your salvation is the most important thing. God will send the holy ghost to help you get out of that life style if you ask and seek him. God bless💕

[@zippyblessed839]

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[@chriswoodz2629]

Just had a female friend share this with me because we always like having conversations about various topics, and I’d be curious to see you to make a video comparing toxic masculinity to feminine men. I’d like to hear this from another female perspective.

[@kayliathequeen9612]

Ohhh very interesting. I would like to see that comparison too

[@Katrn30]

As a female I don’t believe toxic masculinity is a thing. If a man is abusive, that is NOT masculinity. I love true masculinity…it is protective, strong and a perfect complement to femininity. Modern women want weak men they can run over…feminine men.

[@Katrn30]

I wish I had your videos years ago, lol! You are so right on!

[@lightlydark416]

I have a feminine male coworker, he is muscular but his mentality and personality are feminine though he is straight. He whines, complains and is very emtional. And lastly, they will speak poorly of women or a woman they dont like

[@iaf4454]

Very emotional men are dangerous!!

[@kathymickulik8657]

Thank you for being my role model and helping me define these things and know. I appreciate you so much 😊

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️

[@ivnoormann7151]

A masculine man only splits the bill if he doesn’t like the girl that much or something is of about her

[@jacobyaware6918]

She’s most definitely not talking about a balanced man with a balance of masculine and feminine energy

[@ashleykathryn9038]

This explains so much!! Thank you ❤

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Neoteny-j4z]

My wife's GFs call me controlling (in front of her) and I guess I am, next to their men. We have a dynamic you could call 24/7 D/s and we're both comfortanle and happy. My wife isnt stressed out like her GFs are.

[@keniasharpe1610]

Love how you get right to the point new subscriber 😊😊

[@godwillbongani5240]

I agree mostly with what u said especially in terms of looks mature feminine women dont really care bout yr looks if u have qualities she is looking for that won't matter plus the gym thing a man needs to gym it helps with discipline and it also means he is taking care of himself its another thing if he becomes obssessed with how buff he is

[@kathleenking47]

Guys from the 1930s-1960s..weren't really buff But we're STRONGER than modern men

[@boomdat3493]

@@kathleenking47most men don’t workout for Strength physically it’s more so a mental thing

[@iaf4454]

​@@boomdat3493 it regulates their emotion specially anger, depression etc. The gym is good for men as well as doing sports

[@danielst.4386]

And I don't pretend to be a masculine man or high value person around anyone so I feel like I'm not deceptive in the way that some people are pointing out feminine men to be. I believe that is dependent on the individual. It is a choice they make to be deceptive or honest. I do not feel hostile towards the points in the video that were stated as they make quite a lot of sense to me. I'm only describing myself and how I fit with the idea of what feminine men could be like.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

To thine own self be true! Identifying your dominant energy in relationships is the key to understanding your compliment. There are plenty of masculine energy women ready to cherish you in exchange for your respect x

[@danielst.4386]

Thank you very much for your reply and advice. I struggle to understand what I should do and how to act but it helps when people give their advice which makes it easier to look at things from different perspectives and solve my problems. I really appreciate it.

[@danielst.4386]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy I left a reply. Just forgot to properly do it through selecting your account name. I'm still in slight confusion but it's okay I guess as long as I'm persistent to try and understand certain things better I will mostly progress even if I struggle. That quote; "To thine self be true" is quite a straightforward reminder and we sometimes forget it when we worry and over-complicate our problems.

[@FashionTechNora]

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[@makenziepolston1220]

❤ much needed message great message

[@krystalsam6229]

Omg sis this is SO on point!!lol

[@tycatfish1260]

Men does this : toxic Woman does this: high value ... Mmm idk Chengi I’m a huge fan but I’m noticing double standards in your videos, again no hate just a fan who enjoys your stuff and and getting mixed messages about how to act like a high value man. I kinda got that all I need to do is make money and be on top of my game 24/7, and idk I enjoy doing other things in life. I do agree with most your stuff, and keep up the good content. 👍

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

I believe I explain in this video or my latest one that when a man sits in feminine energy it is distorted and same goes for women. When a man acts from his feminine in a relationship it shows up in a toxic way. Just as when a woman manifests masculine it shows up in a toxic way.

[@Thagomizer]

​​​@@blackswanrelationshipacademyThat's a cop-out. If someone points out examples of aggressive/toxic masculine behaviors (i e. abuse, violence, control) you can't just chalk that up to a man "sitting in his feminine energy" while at the same time lumping in men who are sensitive, introverted, meek, artistic, unambitious, etc. This is a completely incoherent vision of what feminine energy supposedly looks like.

[@samantha198607]

I am here after my male co worker yelled at me 😮at work … I simply said you are thriving In your feminine energy and walked off

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

😂😂😂

[@jonathansoko1085]

I've have flamboyant and feminine traits my entire life. In hte late 90s and 2000s it was alot more frowned apon though. I was wearing skinny jeans back then and i used to get destroyed in school every day, family and firneds. But even today when i show up in tight short shorts i get some looks. I must say, i look incredible though so i know it isnt them thinking i dont look good because i know i do, i dont mean to be arrogant but my legs are quite feminine, as is but butt and women on a regular basis tell me they want mine LOL. Idk why im even here i think im tired and thats when i look up odd things, like if theres people like me. I dont try to be feminine, its just what i always did. I was raised by brazilian and french women, i shaved my legs and arms because thats what they did. Relationships are quite hard though, me being straight and all. I need a woman who can stand up when i do not, i am who i am and if i force it, its hilarious. If she wants macho man randy savage, i aint it baby. Unless its in the bedroom of course but il leave that there LOL. I spend 90% of my time working out on my ass and legs, i get straight men staring at me, im doing something right, i cought a dude while i was at the atm the other day, from behind i dont think he realized im a dude LOL he panicked

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Perhaps book a call with one of our coaches ❤️

[@benhartart9487]

I dress well, but only shop once every 2 years, I was raised by a single mum, but I’m more masculine naturally being a male with a decent amount of testosterone being created internally , and I’m dominant and a natural leader

[@versacegirl805]

Men that are all ripped and stay in the gym all day is a complete turn off!!! Thank God I don’t attract those guys!

[@bibinthomas5282]

Do they even want u, lmao.... Look at ur face and speak lady

[@edgarbenjoseph3879]

I'm both very masculine and very feminine. It's very well balanced, it even surprises me. There's nothing wrong with having feminine energy as a man and women have to stop thinking he's less of a man, it's pretty sexist girls. And there's nothing wrong with a woman having masculine energy. As for masculine men, they definitely take care of their looks lol they're just not obsessed with it.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

No one said there was anything wrong because we are professionals here. There is something distorted however when a man sits in feminine energy predominantly it makes him impossible to love for a feminine woman.

[@edgarbenjoseph3879]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy You can't say there's nothing wrong and then say it's distorted lol As for feminine men, there's more and more because of the rise of feminism that makes many men suppress their masculinity and feel guilty about their masculinity. Another thing that destroys masculinity, is toxic mothers and toxic feminine women. Maybe you can talk about that. Toxic femininity, look it up, is a huge problem that women such as yourself have an opportunity to talk about and educate other women on. Being a non controlling and surrendered woman actually gives a lot of space for men to be masculine. Many women are so hard, independent, difficult and controlling that men don't have the space to be masculine. Also, masculine men are not comfortable with ball busting controlling women.

[@MR.Nobody9.11]

So most women pick feminine guys over masculine men

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Yes, because they are really good at emotional connection and attractiveness

[@r.a.montgomery8873]

I would ❤ to hear your thoughts on how a single mother can prevent raising her son to be in his feminine energy.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

I have a video on this channel called “raising boys into masculine men”

[@susan6390]

You described a leach someone I am unsettled about. He wants me to turnaround the roles.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

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[@jay07261986]

This might be an outlier question but where do u place the guys who prioritize their faith, religions or spiritualities or their beliefs in God over money in the measure of masculinity???

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Feminine energy men usually hide behind religion or spirituality.

[@jay07261986]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy well...there is a broad range of faiths...in alotta spiritualities in the east....materialism, egoism n vanity is frowned upon...n things like mental independence, prayer n meditation, spiritual, mental n physical health, discipline, dedication are more so the ideals regarding not just masculinity but righteous living...i just can't see what's supposedly feminine about having the discipline to follow a faith when society in general tries to pressure you to consume things n do things that really doesn't suit your way of living...theres plenty of brothers that went thru traumatizing experiences n their guidance back to sanity or peace was thru their faith...personally I believe the faith in something bigger than humanity is good....it may not be every1s way...but for some people that are serious about their beliefs without being too haughty...its a savior...i just think society and faith defines masculinity different...in society the capacity for being violent, powerful n high status defines men...thats why governments, armies n police are the figures that holds things in place...in faith a man is defined by his resilience, his wisdom, and his discipline...that can translate in2 alotta things....but ur right there are people who hide behind their faith...but I was speaking on the people who are truly defined by it..

[@kalvint5602]

You're so beautiful with your wisdom, knowledge and understanding I love the way you explain it by the spirit omg your on point. The word say: Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh I gather from that is to pray and ask God how to speak to a womans heart not her body my concerns are what's going on, on the inside let's go beyond the clothes and the makeup lets look at the heart to get an understanding on what's really going on now we can communicate....

[@thelovelyone2663]

This is so true this is what I’m going through now. Thank you, I’m understanding what I’m dealing with.

[@teriballa6282]

Thank you very much .Such a good leson .Thank you again

[@portugalbeachlife9796]

How to be a woman who runs her successful business and still be feminine around men?

[@krishnathapa1122]

Feminine man here. Make ups, ripped not resonated but others reaonated.

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