HOW TO TELL SOMEONE YOU'RE INTERSEX!

[@ViolinTreble]

I'm going to show my daughter all your videos when she is old enough to understand that she is intersex

[@pazuzudxcx8423]

Carly Simms such an horonoble act 😀

[@woahwee]

I made a comment on your "intersex surgeries" video, where I noted how I am not intersex but have a similar condition which led to my reproductive organs (ovaries, uterus, etc) being removed. I remember being told by my parents growing up to not tell people I didn't have a period, or couldn't have kids, and to keep it quiet. For awhile I hid that side of me, but the past few years I have embraced who I am and learned to love it. Some girls I tell are even jealous of my lack of period 😂. Though I'm not intersex, not having a period or reproductive system is stigmatized and can make me feel like an outcast, or like people will deny me for it. Thanks for the tips and the solidarity 💖

[@MitchSears1]

Black and white filters are the secret to good acting. Great job. Favorite video so far.

[@Emilord]

I've FINALLY figured it out.

[@christinayates2496]

I’ve felt lonely my entire life, and it’s difficult disclosing this information. Thank you. I’ve always held shame with this

[@amandatucker6334]

Don't feel shame. This is how you were meant to be. There is nothing wrong with it. I'm so sorry you felt alone.❤️ I don't have it but I certainly don't look down on you. Think about the positives.

[@microbisho]

Thank you so much for your videos!!! I'm binge-watching them now! I'm not intersex, but I hate how society tends to invisibilise and patologyse intersex people... everywhere, but specially when it comes to sexual education at schools and medical care. That make us very ignorant people :/ I'm really learning a lot with you :) thank you so much for sharing this with the world.

[@Jax-zo8dl]

Yeah, my school health lessons didn't say ANYTHING about intersex people. I want to ask them to change that, somehow, but I'm not ready for people to know I'm intersex yet.

[@dorelmutica2360]

Ba da recunosc cu placere yntersexual îmi place vorbi despre mine și noi yntersexual homosexual heterosex bisex asex,activ pasiv afemeiat stopat spovedanie?

[@oo1Brian]

I am intersex and tell very few people. This has given me some confidence to approach the subject with my future daughter in law. I love your videos. You’re always fresh and beautiful. Sometimes I simply want to give you a hug 🤗

[@janeruby1795]

I'm four years, but thank you so much you don't know how much you've helped me. My ex boyfriend spilled my gender to the entire school when I was in secondary. The rest of the years I had so many questions, now I'm open about it. I'm me.

[@LouiseReeby]

i watched a documentary about intersex and since then i've been fascinated at how society has hidden this sex from existence. So often you hear the bigoted argument from some that there is 'male and female' and that's it, anything else is basically made up in their minds. We should learn from the get go that there are (at least) 3 sex's on a spectrum. I feel so sad for intersex people it has been hidden. I actually find intersex exciting and beautiful - i can't explain why, i think because it blows all of societies expectations out of the pan! i hope one day we can live in a beautiful world accepted of our differences and i feel like when i watch your videos we are already headed there. Also please continue making videos! X

[@samalsrei5089]

As a non-binary person I completely agree!

[@bellefontaine1914]

lol nice video, i have been really stressing over telling my boyfriend that i'm intersex cause i feel like i need to tell him and i'm ready to tell him i just have been trying to figure out how to tell him. i guess i'm scared of his reaction 0-0

[@bellefontaine1914]

whoa. sticky situation, yea for me i was at the hospital for some stuff that had to deal with my A.I.S. and my boyfriend asked what i was doing that day so i told him that i was at the hospital and i said that i would have to tell him why when i got home about what's going on now i just need to figure out how to get through telling him, without making him too confused. ;w;

[@bellefontaine1914]

Gianna Nicole Bernardo you'll get through it many people have done it we just have to be confident that they might be ok with it and might not. but there is always someone else and there are people who won't care about the things are body's have or don't have. :D

[@sharonannen8859]

Gia Divine t

[@danielpaez4210]

I'm so happy, and at the same time, I'm really sad to find the channel. I'm happy, because this is the first time I've seen a real intersexual person talking about this particular case of being intersex, but I've been watching some of your videos, and I found that it's been almost a year since you uploaded a video, and I have many questions to ask, but I don't know if you're gonna read this, so, if you read this, I hope you can upload more content here because it's very important to learn more about intersexual people and their interaction with the rest of the society.

[@jenniferross6755]

Thank You. I use to think I was Trans But my chrmosones are 46XY-45XO The doctors had all these names and finaly came to the name MGD. To me it was a relief to know at last who I was. When all the names they told me I was this or that, to come to know was a feeling of peace and weight off my shoulders. The names always sounded so close to each other it was so confusing. I did not even know what intersex was when I was first told. I did not know what Intersex was that's how lost I was. It was kept secret from me that I did not know allthough I knew I was not regular man or woman. To know is power as well. I finaly have a name I can say, but the journey was long and it is like now that I know I can put it to rest and take a first step in a new life.Hard to describe but good. I can take that first step knowing who I am at last.

[@abi_kord]

Thank you so much for your videos!! I am CAIS too and it's so encouraging not being alone!

[@dianalepe8040]

Before I came across pidgeons video, and then came across yours... I did not know about intersex people. I’ve learned so much from both of you guys! I think you guys are so awesome! Please make more videos!!! ✊🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼

[@katekursive1370]

Yay for dramatic reenactments!

[@vanas313]

Or just be like me, have it in your Facebook headline, and act surprised when they didn't know :p But awesome video I love this! ❤️

[@Emilord]

works everytime!! yeah mine's on instagram and twitter. easy. :D

[@adappercactus8294]

may i just say you're awesome and i'm glad your uploading again :)

[@Emilord]

Thank you, Misty! Your Togepi is adorable! :)

[@normalemoji]

Hey, so uh, [some number of] things: 1. Background music in this video is great. I'm a huge (okay, normal-sized) proponent of instrumental background music. Great stuff. 2. You mentioned having a lot of sinus infections before, so if you haven't heard of this wacky procedure that sort of expands parts of your sinus cavity, I have a few family members who had it done, and it's really helped them. (It'd probably be helpful if I had the name of the procedure or something, but I'm not that useful >

[@normalemoji]

(pro tip, me: if you open parentheses, remember to close them)

[@Emilord]

Thank you so much! I haven't done the balloon thing yet but I've tried pretty much everything else!! And yes! I would love to collab with Dr. Doe! She's a delight!

[@Innocuous1]

Recurrant sinus infections can also be a consequence of dental issues like impacted wisdom teeth. I sufered for years and then 'outgrew' the sinus trouble. I thought it was from moving to a different climate but when I read something about impacted teeth and sinus infections I remembered that before I quit my job with the dental plan, I got my wisdom teeth yanked out.

[@RobinPalmerTV]

Your voice is so calm. Love your channel. X

[@andiehernandez1995]

Loved this video. I hope you get better soon

[@Emilord]

Thank you! I'm trying!

[@ShotTheLast]

Hi, I discovered your channel recently and watched all your videos so far. I really hope you'll make others. (Also you are a really gorgeous and cute person, and I'm really jealous !)

[@bekd4550]

Something that may have been good to address (and if not, please correct me), but isn't safety also an issue? I know for gay/bi/pan people, safety is really pushed and especially trans people (because of the larger stigma, especially with partners). I feel like intersex people face stigma from a similar place as trans people (I know at least one or two intersex people are on some TDOR lists because of that), so it seems to me like safety would be a priority to consider. I totally respect you not putting that as the primary focus bc this channel is about normalizing discussion/overcoming stigma. But these are just some of the things I think about. Thank you so much for making this channel! I've been having a hard time finding intersex resources for my LGBT+ group and this channel will be a great direction to point people in!

[@Emilord]

Bekah D That's a great point! I'm surprised I didn't think to include that - I guess I was focusing on how to tell once someone is safe and ready...but I'll update the description to include that! and thanks for your comments! Let me know what kind of videos your group would like to see! 😘💕

[@bekd4550]

cutie pie TDOR is Transgender Day of Remembrance. November 20, a lot of people hold vigils and the like for people killed (usually murdered but some recognize suicide victims as well) from anti-trans violence

[@jameswest8280]

You mean there are people that would kill someone just for being intersex? WOW!

[@mgabss]

Hey! I love your videos, I'm not intersex but I really want to understand a liitle bit of what being intersex means. You have helped me a lot! Thanks :D

[@dionnefreitas89]

You are very beautiful I have been following your activism through the internet, you are a light for women with androgenic insensitivity. I am an intersex I am also an intersex woman and trans I am XXY. Kisses and I adore you

[@Emilord]

kisses to you!

[@dionnefreitas89]

no, why?

[@dionnefreitas89]

I understand its point of view, but as I was born biologically hybrid it makes me intersex independent whether I can reproduce or not (subjects born XXY independent if they identify with masculine or feminine in the sense of gender identidde, they are infertile).

[@dionnefreitas89]

Honestly, this nomenclature is not false or wrong, there is an entire intersex movement arguing and fair with science showing the existence of intersexual states, whether it is a third sex or not, we will see, but that is between the sexes is not We have more than 40 biological intersexual states. I am a woman and this is obvious, being trans is that I had to fight not to receive a hormone therapy that was not against my mind, I am intersex, my the condition that I was born is known as an intersexual state, but before anything else, I am a woman.

[@dionnefreitas89]

(If only from the biological point of view) would have to be xy and everything corresponding to that to be male, and xx and everything corresponding to that to be female, I see no other name that Would characterize people who are born biologically breaking this binarism, honestly. And in this sense I think of a third biological sex to name these people as activism has been doing and how medicine has been treating lately. Now the third social gender that has more to do with the juridical aspects serves to recognize non-binary social identities (masculine and feminine) where these subjects break this characteristic, as for example, the hijiras in India, the muxes in Mexico, the two spirits between The North American Indians, Kuntha in the Arabias, Fakaleiti in Tonga, Fa 'Afafine in Samoa, Kathoey in Thailand, Mahu in Hawaii, Virgin Sworn in the Balkans, transvestites in Brazil and Latin America etc, and also protect intersex children with ambiguous genital Mutilated as children and further on, thus being able to "opt" for the genre that most identify or stay as they came into the world, not including in this "category" trans / transsexual people who totally identify with the opposite sex assigned to the birth in order to re-designate themselves (Civilly and surgically in most cases) to this being not a third social gender.

[@Emilia7788]

thank you so much for your videos

[@emilydeleon2224]

Oml I love your channel, I've got CAH and I find you very humorous and helpful!

[@mx.anunnakiraymarquez6295]

You're awesome! Thank you! Sharing!

[@mendics]

I'm aromantic and can be a bit asexual at times, so if someone tells me they're intersex (which i'm already aware of), it wouldn't surprised me so much. I look at a person for who they are, not of their gender nor sex.

[@melodieetsonchat]

Thank you so much for your videos !!! I learnt so much thanks to you and I think our world is TERRIBLE on the intersex topic and now I want ALL THE WORLD to learn about intersex !! (And most of all to stop unconsenting surgeries. God. Please.) Anyway I'm waiting and hoping for other videos to come ! Xo

[@stefanmckannon1634]

I've mostly just gotten tired of telling people, mostly because I've found that no matter how I seem to tell people they always act like I might as well be some kind of alien from a far away galaxy. Hell, maybe I am but I'm still tired of those kind of responses like 99.99% of the time. Is there really a smooth sexy way of telling someone worthy of knowing or have you found just being matter of fact and straight up with people like you describe in your video to be the best way even for people you've known awhile and/or have become more intimate with? Is there any way to avoid the million questions at once based on the presentation?

[@2tall2handle1]

I wish my parents, both adopted, and now my biological were supportive of me finding out that I was intersex. Sadly they are not. It’s ok though, I am self sufficient, and I don’t mean to sound cruel, but I don’t need their negativity in my life. I will finish my transition in a couple years, and all will be great.

[@jameswest8280]

How could someone not want to support their child, and help them through any situation, no matter how tough?

[@2tall2handle1]

James West well really it’s simple. When they are ultra religious, and believe that God doesn’t make mistakes like me, then maybe it would be different. Sadly it isn’t, and this is also why I am why I am an agnostic. I’m transitioning, and I will be what I should have been if the doctors had not interfered when I was a baby. I hope this answers your question. Feel free to ask more if you want.

[@jameswest8280]

Greg Thompson yeah, I left religion because I was fed up with the way they treated anyone the didn't fit neatly into their picture perfect little world. Good luck on your transitioning, I hope you find a lifetime of happiness.

[@2tall2handle1]

James West thank you for your kind words. Yes I left the church for the same reasons also.

[@Julia-ov6wm]

My wife told me that she's intersex when I was like a kid probably about 5 or 6 years old, I found intersex awesome and interesting 🥰🙂 and I love your videos :=)

[@sonampal890]

U can sexual activity...or not plz tell me

[@mysticaltj2440]

"XOXY" omg too cute, and clever ❤

[@thecoolestgingerkid]

Missing you on videos and hope you’re well!!

[@marrun7708]

Very educational. Thank you for you sharing & your time.

[@ranidivyasharma7992]

Atleast im not alone facing same issue

[@zawzawaung8197]

Thank you for your good advice. I needed it.

[@asafupps]

Question: Is labial hypertrophy a possible characteristic of intersexuality?

[@seeetsweet6206]

No, but labial hypoplasia is one of these characteristics. However, having it doesn’t necessarily mean you are intersex.

[@asafupps]

seeet sweet Interesting, okay thanks

[@amandatucker6334]

I thought eventually everyone who has it had to eventually had to have surgery. It's good to know that not everyone has to have surgery. It's nice to learn because I've always found this so interesting but nobody ever talked about it in the past. I became really interested when I watched an episode of House where a beautiful girl finds out she also has male genitals inside of her. They said the most beautiful woman is also a man when they were talking about this girl. You look completely feminine where some people look masculine too. I wouldn't mind having it if I had it the same way you do. You don't have underarm hair, you don't have body odor... Etc.. I hate my body hair and I have stress sweat that makes my right underarm have odor and I pack in ten pounds of deodorant, I have hot flashes since I got off deodorant 15 years ago, my skin oils up..... I don't want to have babies so I'd be fine with your version of it. LAWD... These hot flashes....

[@marilynadams349]

Yes you have to know if they can be supportive.

[@Anne--Marie]

It's 2021 and your fans want to know how you're doing. Update please!

[@patrickwayodi]

Thanks for making and sharing this video.

[@pppiioo]

Hi Emily, I love your videos, I have so many questions! I hope you will post more and more of them. I hope none of my questions will be offensive in anyway. I was wondering as you say that you are intersex peron, do you see yourself as a intersex peron or as a female, who happened to be intersex or don't you put any label in to gender identity of yourself? Could you, please make a video about law, legal aspects and rights of intersex people in your country (what is USA, I guess) and maybe outside too. Like what will happen if a person doesn't want to be seen in documentation as a male or female. I cannot wait to see more of you. Much love. Pete.

[@stephaniemoore8013]

Shes technically biologically male according to science. Certain intersex conditions only affect males(like CAIS)and other conditions only affect females. According to sources no female has ever been born with CAIS. Its a sex disorder that affects ones Y chromosome. It causes testosterone to not be used in the body and that testosterone(created by the internal testicles) turns into estrogen. Im pretty sure this person sees themselves as a woman despite being male. Totally understandable actually.

[@yay6586]

"or spending it with your favorite book." me LOL

[@kedamafoe2240]

this never works for me i always get the "you don't exist treatment" or "i thought you were a woman" or "you have a benis♥"

[@katerae3016]

If you are intersex can you have babies? And if you can't have babies will baby born intersex as well?

[@sharonannen8859]

Kate Rae * It all depends upon what type of Inter-sex you have. If you have the anatomy, then you can have children. *

[@AffyGiraffy]

Cant believe i just found this channel. 👏🏼 i should have found it earlier

[@majaxy.2429]

your great, many thanks. your video helps me very much

[@andyisdandy5883]

I had no idea this was a thing. I'm a heterosexual single mom to a little girl and I try to stay really open so I can teach my daughter to be open and loving to everyone, despite any differences. My question... why does this not happen to animals? Are there animals who are born with both genetalia or varying degrees of male/female chromosomes? Why not? I always thought this was a deformity and I'm happy knowing it can instead be an embraced part of regular life. So just for the sake of asking the question that newly educated people are wondering (at least I imagine they are) "What is it that makes this NOT a birth defect or genetic abnormality/deformity? What changed that idea? Is it because people are embracing who they are? Or is it because they believe this is just another form of gender and this is as normal as any other gender?" I am not at all being critical or intolerant. I just want to really understand.

[@peepslostsheep]

" My question... why does this not happen to animals?" It does. There are even some that can change sexes. A popular example is clownfish. All clownfish start off as male, and develop into females later (Parrotfish do the opposite). They are fertile in both stages, but they only make the one change. Blue banded Gobys are able to change back and forth. Generally, you will not hear it called intersex among animals, but different types of hermaphroditism, chimerism, gynandromorphism, or simply by what condition the animal has. Emilord has AIS, Androgen insensitivity syndrome. This can also occur in animals. "What is it that makes this NOT a birth defect or genetic abnormality/deformity?" It is a genetic abnormality. In Emilords case, her body does not react to androgens, such as testosterone, so she developed outwardly as a female would. Despite that, it is still completely legitimate. As a side note, gynandromorphism is really interesting. Especially bilateral gynandromorphism. I highly suggest looking up some pictures, they can be quite stunning.

[@andyisdandy5883]

+peepslostsheep thank you for your insight on that!

[@immortal98638]

Intersexism is just a variation,not a defect.

[@Wuggins157]

You are amazing 😍

[@willowweeper]

i won't promote an exploitative company like buzzfeed to spread awareness but media is a good idea

[@SONORSQ2guy]

You're such a beautiful woman. Thanks for sharing this video.👍

[@daretkneeland5400]

You, make, being 'intersex', look like, THE BOMB!

[@ajfna]

like listen since i was a kid i identify as women my old is 14 yr like when i have reached 12 yr my lift breast started 2 grow up and my face was becoming feminin like i rly have feelings smt like im trans or intersex like i have no different parts i only have my breast like feel i have a whom inside or my chromosomes r different like i feel that i have chromosomes females chromosomes like i hop i have whoms deep their i rly want 2 be a gurl and get pregnant 1 day like the others

[@beyoudee687]

So jealous of your armpits! Lol xo

[@carolinejohn8061]

Best video ever! 💕💕🌗🌙☀️❄️

[@koisanx7490]

...so is there a "typical" sexual preference for intersexual people ...or are they sexually attracted to everyone intersexual or not? ...please advise...

[@ydgmdlu]

No, there is no correlation between sexual orientation and being intersex.

[@intersexgreece7330]

No, Intersex people can have ANY sexual orientation and ANY gender identity, the same as every other (non-intersex) human beings. Intersex is just about the body and the physical sex characteristics one has.

[@TilveranWrites]

Emily. You're cool.

[@mbcalderwood]

I love your hair short

[@Auggies1956]

Lovely personality. :)

[@marshaboody9069]

Oh

[@jossiechavez7594]

Lol your sketches (dramatic and surfer/skater). Yes, too much information all at once is not advised. Let them process the info, and if they have questions, keep the answers short. Time is necesary for them to process the information and see your humanity.

[@andrewfenn2916]

Awesome

[@Thecodexnoir]

I just tell them 🤷🏻 We’re both adults. If they’re ignorant & or weird about it, it’s basically the trash taking itself out, good riddance. This is part of proper Vetting & it’s to be done BEFORE any type of relationship begins, this includes txting & calls or actual dates. You humans really need to stop being so damn desperate, it’s pathetic & a MAJOR turn off.

[@theamalgamation5750]

1. 2. 3. *5.*

[@jameswest8280]

I can't believe you missed 73, never forget 73, it could cause a rift in the space-time continuum.

[@glenconley3530]

You're so beautiful

[@carleynorthcoast1915]

pause the video anytime for a funny facial expression

[@thermotronica]

Fig newtons always displaying his insides to everybody. We get it, youre delicious.

[@jameswest8280]

Those Fig Newtons are such exhibitionists.

[@MarkStCyr-vf7mc]

i would so love to be with you

[@bobbiegracewebb3812]

Nobody has ever talked so much yet said nothing worth hearing. And FYI I'm intersex too.

[@bernardthedog515]

Simply put be honest before hand. It would be a tragic to get yourself killed because you neglected to say you were born male xy with female features. Some people do not respond well to unwanted surprises.

[@jameswest8280]

That's how I introduce myself to everyone, "hi, I'm James, I have a penis".

[@audrxy4537]

[@jameswest8280]

How to tell someone you're intersex? How about, "I'm intersex". I believe in being straightforward. I'm not intersex, bet I can only imagine how difficult it would be in a bigoted society. People are gradually coming around, the internet (and outspoken people like you) has greatly increased awareness.

[@malek3719]

I like to observe you, Lol

[@barrybare1810]

Nice Tattoos, NOT. Perfect occasion for a long sleeve shirt.

[@DaskaiserreichNet78]

Nice Comment, NOT. Perfect occasion for you to take a hike.

[@Itz_Asante]

Emilord I'm learning lot and everything is applicable thank you so much maybe you should create a WhatsApp support group❣️