How to Tell Your Child They Are Adopted

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@saoirsecox4350 4 жыл бұрын

me watching this to prepare for when i adopt a child when i'm older: 👁👄👁

@mommybloggerlila 4 жыл бұрын

Literally same

@user-ch2hl4er6s 4 жыл бұрын

Haha same I'm 16

@lizzyrhodes1019 4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha same

@questionsxxquestionsxx776 3 жыл бұрын

Same I'm literally 13

@calicoraven7332 3 жыл бұрын

You read my mind

@aprivatechannel1152 5 жыл бұрын

Lmao why is this video on my dad's history? *WAIT*

@user-ch2hl4er6s 4 жыл бұрын

🤣 fr...?

@calmq-tips8367 3 жыл бұрын

Fr?

@Little_ladybug2 3 жыл бұрын

Noooooooooo!

@bunnygirlmantra 2 жыл бұрын

Wait this is how you found out?

@WHITE-pz8sv Жыл бұрын

Bro 😂

@Guerilla30892001 6 жыл бұрын

I'm 64 now, found out I was adopted (from my dad) when I was @ 10 or 11. Did'nt really understand, so, yeah, good to keep the discussion going. Especially telling the child how proud you are to be their parent (which my parents didn't know to do).

@ChrisShyam 5 жыл бұрын

because they werent proud

@AliaEvera 4 жыл бұрын

Would you have wanted them to tell you in a different way?

@venoxin 5 жыл бұрын

Okay now how do I tell my dog hes adopted

@dergutehut3961 3 жыл бұрын

He won't believe you anyway.

@WHITE-pz8sv Жыл бұрын

Its very hard

@DatMetalBoi75 6 жыл бұрын

I actually have a freind who was adopted and his parents had had a biological child after he was adopted. His brother always tried to hold the fact that my friend who was adopted against him. My friend would always retort with "at least they wanted me"

@sweetscream2764 3 жыл бұрын

Boy,that comeback

@shubhampratap5992 2 жыл бұрын

That's toxic which is huge worry, the adopted line

@stephanierosa5930 5 жыл бұрын

So many mean comments here .... Such a shame how hateful the world is becoming

@justcallmee7854 6 жыл бұрын

Me: We need to talk.. 9yr: hmm? About what? Me: You're adopted I understand this might be a bit if a shock but I didn't give birth to you.. 9yr: What's adopted? Me: Oh yeah.... Forgot to tell him what adoption is..

@WHITE-pz8sv Жыл бұрын

😆

@wisdommorepreciousthanrubi8321 4 жыл бұрын

I was told when i was 9 i was going to be adopted. It was a horrible experience, to find out my mum didn't want me. I remember my dad shouting, Don't tell her. she kept me. My sister said it unforgivable to tell a child you don't want it.

@jincs151 2 жыл бұрын

Hard to believe anything with that name lol

@Wedontloveemhoes 2 жыл бұрын

Wow

@sumedhkapoor3436 2 жыл бұрын

Very helpful info. Thanks

@QueenSavage1030 2 жыл бұрын

How do i tell my 5 year old i am her real mother that i never gave her away and that i wanted her and still do and that she got stolen from me by criminals

@rayanneflorence1830 7 жыл бұрын

I would wait till my kid has grown up a bit so maybe they’re in kindergarten or 1st grade by now and then I’d take him to the pound where we’d pick out a puppy and adopt it and then I’d explain to him that I adopted him in a similar way but just because we aren’t biologically related doesn’t mean we arnt family and that we don’t love him the same as a child that I physically would have.

@meredithlouise3415 5 жыл бұрын

Wtf seriously? That’s terrible. That would really screw up a child’s mindset especially at the age of 1st grade or kindergarten. Please don’t do that because that’s just cruel

@dergutehut3961 3 жыл бұрын

No offense...but as a adopted kid I think thats a horrible idea. Why let the kid grow up and believe something that isn't true...and hide something that must not be hidden? The point...is...when would you tell your kid that his grandparents are your parents? Probably a bit earlier...you wouldn't even make it a big thing...because it isn't. You feel absolutely not ashamed about that and don't see it as something that needs further explanation or justification because its normal for you...but you have to understand...whatever your kid grows up with will be the normal for your kid. And not being ashamed or feeling different or unnormal is essential for accepting this kind of stuff. Compare it with glasses if you want...or being blind. If you are born blind or wear glasses since early childhood...that is your normal. If you are 9 and somebody puts weird shit on your face...or you can't see over sudden thats WAY less fun. I worked a lot with disabled people...and there is a major difference between those who are born that way and those who had accidents or illnesses. The biggest problem if you can't walk is not that you can't walk...its to accepting that you can't walk...this process is unbelievably painful. But if you can't walk that process usually happens in early childhood and those people mostly handle their fate with ease. You know that video from that boy without legs who refused to get artificial legs? Why? Walking with his hands is his normal. And for me it was always normal to be adopted. I know that as long as I know anything about my family. Its not anything that ever bothered me. Its part of my identity and part of my normal. Like some kids have Uncles somewhere...I have a biological mother. So what? Because I knew that from the start, thats nothing to confuse me who my real parents are. The people who raised me...duh. Why should I need some demonstration to know who my family is? The entire life of the kid (that far) demonstrated that. I actually was very proud that I was adopted. I loved to hear all the hardships and bureaucratic bullshit my parents had to go through to get me...or how they fell in love with me when they finally got me, and how I was saved from living in a shitty orphanage. I had no world that broke down and no identity I forged I had to completely redefine, which would definitely be the case if you tell your kid about the adoption at the end of kindergarten. An Adoption is a normal noble thing. It was never a negative thought for me. Not a dirty secret, not something that needs comfort, not a surprise, not a problem...not the feeling that my parents lied 9 years to me about something essential about me and them. Other Kids are with their parents because they got stuck in an elevator, or they bought cheap condoms, mine had to fight for years, had to invest, money, time, nerves, even had to fight relatives ..knowing that the reward would be a fucking nightmare. Adopted kids are often not easy...often scream, freak out when left alone, trouble sleeping, troubling trusting people, trouble accepting changes...but they did it anyway...spending sleepless month dealing with my mannerisms and I think it didn't got much easier, but they knew what they where getting and they never regretted it (at least I hope so)...so why should they keep that great story of love and dedication a secret from me? Or the fact that my biological mother was unfit. Not my fault. Your kid don't need a puppy to understand that you love him. You chose him. You saved his ass. You don't owe him an explanation..you owe him the truth...right from the start. Also...lets say your lessons works and the kid sees the relation to the dog as picture for your relation to him what if you have to put the dog to sleep? I mean...even as a metaphor thats kind of weird...if you are the kid...and the kid is the dog...than who is your biological kid? The thing is...adoption is a 100% thing. He is your kid, period. How he became your kid doesn't fucking matter, and if you don't make it a thing...it won't for be a thing for the kid...at least not a thing to ever worry about, but if you DO make it a thing...it WILL be a serious thing for the kid and probably very painful and unnecessarily complicated. So if you want to compare your love for him with someone, don't use a dog...use your other kid (or if you don't have another one...a hypothetical one that you gave birth to.) The love shouldn't be different...and you wouldn't give your other kid the puppy treatment would you? Btw...adopted kids often want to adopt themselves..so don't worry...you CAN totally buy them puppies...keep that part of the idea.

@quamrunislam6881 3 жыл бұрын

@@dergutehut3961 Ki

@chrissy1042 8 жыл бұрын

If I ever adopt I'd keep on telling them I'm not your Mommy, I your Ymmom

@lovesalsa69 6 жыл бұрын

Lmao 😂

@manuelmigueltulod8782 4 жыл бұрын

Me seing the creepy baby doll in the shelf

@WHITE-pz8sv Жыл бұрын

Lol same

@youhideslow130 2 жыл бұрын

Than you

@funfoodiesp3872 3 жыл бұрын

Why is not answering clearly...and to read books and figure it out ourself!!! There is a reason she is called a doctor to consult🤦‍♂️ i would be disappointed to get a psychologist like her