How to tidy a messy house when you just don’t know where to begin!

In this video I show one of the tidying methods I like to use when I need to tackle a very messy house and am feeling overwhelmed. I really hope it helps!

[@sharonhughes588]

I am a 68 year old woman, and I want you to know that this is probably one of the most honest, down to earth videos like this that I have seen in a long, long time! You had guts to show the "real" mess going on....and you really followed your lists so that you did what needed to be done! I thought I would quit watching not too long after starting, but you held my attention very well! Great job!!!! I think I will hang around a bit and see what the young lady has to teach this old one! LOL!!!! I loved that you made a matter of fact statement that you just didn't have the funds to do certain things.....no griping, no whining...just the facts....and I believe you will come out of this season to rise as high as you want....you have the real "want to", and that makes a big difference.

[@lushpaw1]

well said.

[@nicholethechronichousewife480]

Hi! I 48 and you said everything exactly the way I was thinking! Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. I'm also going to be subbing ... Just did. This girl is awesome!

[@jhutch1681]

Amen!

[@dawndocherty347]

I agree!! X

[@AngieLea]

Totally agree. A real mum trying to help others

[@staceydemory3845]

Procrastination is not really a sign of laziness. It is a person struggling with decision making and trying to do the “right” or more so “perfect” solution. You become so anxious that it turns into no decision, which affords you some relief at that moment. A job half done is better than a job done perfectly that never happens.

[@snl4742]

Well said and so true.

[@lydiasolanki461]

Finally a realistic cleaning video. I also get frustrated and feel paralyzed when things get too messy. It helps to see step by step how you manage the housework.

[@CesMoniqueVitan]

its comforting to know I'm not alone in feeling this Thank you

[@MySemiSortedLife]

#truth

[@ericaengle2500]

Sister, you are speaking my language. I, too, have gained so much weight since Covid, been ill frequently, and am overwhelmed by my clutter. Thank you for being genuine and providing some much needed motivation! This video popped up on my feed at just the right time. ❤

[@beverlybenson9981]

Love your transparency. I'm 77 years old, and there are days I feel overwhelmed. It's just my husband and me with three cats. Some days are good. Some days are bad. As my grandma told me years ago when my children were little, "In a hundred years, no one will ever know you had dust bunnies under your bed." ❤

[@bitrudder3792]

It’s true that in 100 years most people won’t remember us at all. But your quality of life can be affected by those dust bunnies, especially if they are under your bed. Why not treat yourself to a cleaner space that is going to have cleaner air to breathe? Indoor air quality is a health hazard people don’t think about. I’ve seen people get sick sleeping in rooms that have dusty books, and require asthma medicine. A friend of mine who got into essential oils started cleaning her house with an all-purpose cleaner infused with a powerful antimicrobial blend, and after one season she commented that this is the first year that her family wasn’t continually sick during the winter. Another friend has lived in two houses with mold issues, resulting in so many health problems that they ended up bankrupt. Even though I am a nurse, I’m not a clean freak: I do think we need some germs to keep our immune systems in good shape, but I can’t deny that people do get sicker In houses with cleanliness issues. Your feelings of overwhelm may not only be from being 77, they may also be from a body overwhelmed with sensitivities. Especially with pets and all the hair that they typically generate. I literally buy HVAC filters for one relative as a present because they have four dogs and one cat, talk about hair! Her husband is always sick, he’s allergic to pets and would rather suffer with allergy medicine. It is compromising their income, because he has declined promotions because of his health. Love yourself more, decluttering and cleaning are two great ways to do this. So are simple things like being outdoors to watch the sun come up and the sun go down, and it put your bare feet on the grass or the dirt, or last choice, on the concrete. Stay hydrated, take a touch of pure sea salt when you drink clean water throughout the day, maybe half a class at a time. Oh, and don’t wear glasses or sunglasses or contact lenses when you are enjoying these outdoor times. These actions help modulate the response of your immune system so that it doesn’t overreact or under react so much, and it’s perfectly free to do. Except buying the sea salt and maybe the filters needed for clean water. Your grandma gave you wise advice so that you didn’t worry about cleaning in an excessive way at the expense of things that really matter. But you can give your descendants both that same advice, and more, based on the wisdom that you have acquired throughout your life. Blessings on you and yours!

[@gailbarton9011]

Finally a real human being with real issues and how she is slowly but surely working to overcome them. Not these perfect looking house goddesses where the house is already in perfect order. Thank you.

[@amethystrocks6433]

Sometimes I watch your videos when I'm feeling a little lonely & want company. You cheer me up and help me feel better. You also help me get motivation to do some decluttering or cleaning when I need it. You're such a blessing to this world! ❤❤❤

[@AquaDarkReject]

Thank you so much for this video. Seeing other real houses and messes like mine are comforting. I'm not alone! And I always make a massive list and then get overwhelmed! Going to try your method next time ❤

[@veganmama2five397]

When I am overwhelmed I always wash the dishes first, that is usually enough to get me in the right frame of mind :)

[@remiclog]

I love this. It really is such a small thing sometimes that can spur you on to get more done isn’t it! X

[@kerriblick6899]

Dishes and laundry those are the 2 things that already make the home feel so much cleaner and soon as I hear that washer it gets me started

[@angelanailen8604]

Sorry meant trial medication ❤

[@carolinemottram9495]

You are amazing ...keep going you really normalize my life you are so honest and upfront..Another subscriber 😬 I can resonate with tones of your experience ..How you go far xx

[@levieenrose7646]

Me too.

[@d.c.copeland2137]

As someone with ADHD and a very cruel inner critic, hearing the way you talk about being compassionate with yourself is so heartwarming. Thank you for this video, I have saved it and will watch it often! Keep being wonderfully kind, and know that you are a fantastic mum!

[@BeckyGrimes-jf3jf]

I just found you channel and I’m so thankful God showed me that I’m not alone! When I listen to you I think to myself “I’m just like her!!” Things are making sense. Thank you for putting yourself out there to help people like myself. 💙

[@GraceNorcott]

The executive function and being unable to tackle a problem, now I can stop beating myself up. Also, looking at old cards and pictures, getting totally sidetracked, same. Weight struggles, so many similarities, at times I felt you were telling my story. My kids are grown but I still share many of the same struggles. You inspire me that I can make progress in decluttering and in life. I’m in a challenging season and I’m learning so much. I’m not sure why it took me 58 years but at least I’m learning and, like you, I can use it to have a better life.

[@mscupcakedreamson36]

It saddens me, when I see the mom doing everything in the house. Yes, these videos can be motivating, but I know the family can do more to help out. When I was a child, we helped dust and sweep on Saturday mornings. The adults did the heavy work. We played my moms records, as we cleaned. It builds character. It’s left lasting memories for us as adults. Best wishes lady.

[@RagdollsOfLasVegas]

I'm the sole cleaner in our home, too. My 17 year daughter and 9 year Son are more trouble to motivate to help, then it's worth. I k mnow, I've failed

[@mscupcakedreamson36]

@@RagdollsOfLasVegas You’re not a failure! You’re a great mom. I just hate to see mothers, stress themselves with everything. Growing up, my mom didn’t allow me to cook. She said I was in the way. I taught myself to cook. I don’t fault her at all. I know some children are lost when they get to the real world, when they’ve never been taught the essentials. I survived, because I had to eat! lol!!! You can probably get the 9 year old, to start helping. Maybe it’ll make the 17 year old, to feel badly and fall in line. ❤️🖤❤️🖤

[@bevee3711]

In a world of “fake”, thank you for your honesty and transparency. Makes me feel like I can do it too!

[@AuthorKatKaye]

First time watcher...thank you for being so open & honest with how your home gets! Working on a massive declutter/clean up over here!

[@princessleah341]

You are so sweet. When you said you didn’t have a dishwasher because of piano lessons for you child, I literally teared up. Good mama!

[@scalylayde8751]

I can't believe you get hate for showing your messy house. As someone who struggles to keep up on housework, nothing is more demoralizing than clicking on a video like this and seeing a home that already looks clean as the "before" shot. Your house looks like mine and I find that comforting

[@531katie]

Haha. I think those people who send her hate mail really need to get a life.

[@esthermeabh3771]

Omg. A woman who didn't clean her house before she video tapes her "cleaning house". Where have you been? Love this! Thank you! By the way- you're doing amazing!

[@crazynance]

It's nice to hear real talk about "who blew up my house?" It's nice to hear your accent too ☺️

[@BelvaGray]

I think this is the second time I watched you on this video. I’m so happy I’m not the only one who struggles with this. You do you hon, it’s ok to not do everything 100% every day! You are awesome! I found getting up a little bit earlier and I have the Bible on my iPad and I sit and read this first, and I pray, feel better the rest of the day!

[@stephanieoregan]

To anyone giving this wonderful lady a hard time: GET STUFFED Thank you for sharing ❤

[@LatishaEarnshaw]

As a young stay at home mum with anxiety, especially when I’m struggling to do the house, you’ve made me feel less alone with this so thank you 🥰

[@remiclog]

I’m so pleased to hear this 🥰

[@kristykanen9315]

I feel bad for your kids.

[@monica7143]

@@kristykanen9315 what an awful thing to say. I imagine her children are quite well and happy.

[@tamsin1975]

@@kristykanen9315 so you're miss perfect? Quality time with your kids and a pristine organised house hub? Not possible unless you pay for a cleaner!!

[@kristykanen9315]

@@tamsin1975 I'm a disabled 71 year old, never married no children. I just recently had to accept help for some housekeeping chores. I have had roommates who were lazy and or hoarded up my home. I must be " perfect " or an obsessive compulsive " clean freak", because there's nothing on the floor of my house but rugs. furniture and shoes. 🙄

[@sarahmoore1779]

People like you are rare and special - a gift to this world. I wish all the joy and happiness in life. What a wonderful video!

[@remiclog]

This is so lovely, thank you! 🥺 I wish the same for you! ❤️

[@tinabonilla8902]

@remiclog I understand your situation because myself and my daughter have A.D.D. I made the mistake of writing an all in one to do list instead of breaking into pieces like you did. I see how well they work for you and I think I will do the same thank you very much for that idea . I appreciate you for sharing your time with us and your tips.❤👍

[@gracious23]

I could not believe how much I related to everything you said about yourself!! It’s so comforting knowing someone even in a completely different continent from me, is going through the same exact thing I am but successfully and graciously getting it done. Like there’s hope!!! 😂🤗 I’ve been messy all my life (bad example was my dad lol) I have ADHD, PTSD, Bipolar Depression and Narcolepsy. Some days I am overwhelmed and paralyzed and don’t do anything and some days are better where I try to do at least 1 thing. It’s hard not to shame or blame myself for the mess and when I do shame myself, it makes me feel crappier and then more depressed and less motivated to do anything at all. It’s a vicious cycle. I also have a 7yo who hasn’t learned the best example on how to be tidy or stay tidy either, from myself, which makes me feel guilty as a mother feeling like I failed. My mom lives with my daughter and I right now though, and my mom is constantly overwhelmed by the mess and is not in the best physical shape to get done what she wants to get done either so the burden lies on me to do most of it. I feel so guilty for it, feeling that I am the cause of my mom’s overwhelmingness, stress and depression. I know it’s not me 100% but I feel guilty that I am a contributing factor in it. I’ve been trying to be gracious with myself though in knowing why I struggle with it and not shaming myself for it either. I’ve learned a cleaning tip that has helped me especially with ADHD, is doing 1 section at a time, rather than 1 task at a time. So doing all the trash, organizing and cleaning in 1 whole section and then continuing that in the next section. It’s helps it not be so overwhelming for me and even if another section is still messy, I did accomplish at least 1 section and that makes me feel good as that is better than no sections! Like you said about yourself, I also like cleaning but hate tidying! It’s the tidying that sucks! 😂😤 Figuring out which method or mentality works best for you and your capabilities and struggles too is so key! I learned a lot from a channel called Midwest Magic Cleaning. He’s autistic and loves cleaning and helps clean people’s homes for free as cleaning helps his autism and he loves helping people in need. He’s also hilarious and gives great tips for people who struggle. I highly recommend people check him out! Thank you for your video and being so transparent, it’s refreshing in today’s world of Karens and judgmental moms who shame other moms for messy and dirty homes who completely do not understand nor care to understand our struggle. I subbed immediately and hope you continue to accomplish great things! You’re doing awesome, Momma! 🥰💜

[@yvonnebuchanan5027]

I’m 54 and I’ve been messy my whole life. I absolutely love a clean and tidy home, it makes my brain go quiet. I’ve had high powered jobs which allowed me to employ cleaners but my husband died recently from cancer, I gave up my job to care for him and now money is tight and I’ve gone back to being as messy as I was as a teenager. Now I’ve watched your video I feel like I’ve found a kindred spirit so I thank you Remi, firstly for being so honest and secondly for inspiring me to give your method a go. Keep going with your videos, they’re great! X

[@elizabethjones2521]

🙏💞

[@jeanfoster8979]

I’m so sorry for your loss, don’t beat yourself up for being messy your dealing with brief, be kind to yourself. X

[@leaharchambault5796]

Girl, nobody should judge you for HAVING a messy house, they should be impressed that you’re cleaning a messy house. We ALL have had our homes get messy, the point is to get it cleaned so it doesn’t STAY messy. ❤️

[@LemonEyesNL]

Indeed!

[@annemariemaythews]

Messy house happy kids it only takes a couple of hours a day to clean up do it while the kids are at school love your videos ❤🎉

[@annemariemaythews]

I am not judging anyone all I said was mess house happy kids and u can tidy up when their at school or nursery I lived in a house with 5sister that wasn't tidy at all time not by a long shot

[@sallykelley3453]

Girl..I am soooo PROUD of YOU! And you're seriously speaking my story! I love lists too & thank you for all those supplements that helped you; I will try them too. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this amazing & helpful video. Xo

[@sandraramos6151]

I can not tell you how much your video encouraged me. It was deadly honest. Everything you said is the same I would say if I did a video about my thinking about my life and my struggles with keeping my house in order. God bless you and your children.

[@georginapreston4171]

This is so relatable, I too do laundry and then leave it on the chair in the lounge to 'sort later' I can be either OCD organised or in an eternal haze of procrastination and overwhelm and dont 'have the time' to do the things i need to do... one day my house will be completely tidy from top to bottom... one day

[@gailhawkins3134]

Don't knock yourself. Pat yourself on the back. You're helping others who feel overwhelmed too! Well done!

[@loribragg2947]

I am a retired cleaning woman; I cleaned houses for 27 years. Now at 62, even though I'm rather OCD, it can be hard to get motivated to clean, because I've been doing it since I started washing dishes at 4 years old! 😂 So, here are some helpful tips: Your list was a great idea. It breaks it down into smaller tasks. But daily cleaning is key to keeping your home orderly. So, what I do when I'm tired and overwhelmed is choose one relatively small task, like clearing a cluttered table and cleaning it. Then I'll reward myself with maybe a ten minute KZbin video. Or I'll clean a whole room top to bottom and then allow myself a 45 minute break. I have five parrots, a rescued Cottontail rabbit, and a large garden I maintain. I also run a small online business. But this method really works! Also, I'm a serious deep cleaner, so I can get bogged down in one room and lose time. I've learned to pick a room each week and deep clean it over the course of the week--baseboards one day, ceiling fans another, etc. If you need really good cleaning tips, I'm happy to help. I can clean just about anything, lol. For starters, get yourself a good quality spray bottle and mix one part dish liquid to about 5 parts water. As soon as a meal is over, layer the dirty dishes in the sink, spraying them with the dish liquid from the bottom up. Let them set about five minutes. Then come back with either a paper towel or pre-wash cloth and do a quick wipe and rinse and stack them next to your sink. This is a great way to keep dishes from overwhelming your kitchen. Because maybe you don't have time to wash all the dishes right then--but when you can come back to it later, they won't have food hardened on them. And start teaching your children to help. Use a reward system. I started folding laundry and washing dishes at the age of four (I stood on a chair). While this is a little extreme, children actually need to feel useful and helpful. It's good for them! 😊

[@ella-and-her-cup-of-coffee]

This are really good tips! Thank you very much ❤

[@nhabinezabudara8797]

Good wolker you are!!👏👏👏

[@sharonbryce7724]

Love me the power of a good “to do” list. The satisfaction of the crossing stuff off. Love listening to good music or podcasts too as I clean and tidy. Good on you! What a resilient growth mindset you have developed - your kids are lucky to have you as a mum 😊

[@user-op5bz7rw5m]

I find this very positive because I suffer from mental health and find it difficult to tidy up but she has helped me feel happy about my self and it would encourage me to alot she brilliant

[@judibyrne5839]

My dear, I am 74 and get sidetracked the same as you, procrastinating is my life, and I am living alone, no kids , and the grandkids come to visit on the weekends. You are a great role model for young women who have the same issues

[@meloniepluth5037]

I am 56, much older than you, and no kids left to keep up with, but I remember. I could not have felt more proud of you than if you were my own daughter. And so much of what you said made me think of my own life and others I know. You keep doing whatever it is that you're doing. You are a wonderful inspiration. And videos like this should not be shameful!! As a matter of fact, you inspire me to do something I've been talking to my husband about and that is videoing us cleaning our junk rooms! Scary thought. Because I feel more inspired watching people cleaning/clearing things that actually need it, then all the videos out there of people who are already OCD and near freaks showing me how to clean the already clean!!! Loved this video and you!!! ♥️♥️♥️

[@user-nl9rs5hr6x]

Just have to commend you for such a brilliant video. If ppl were honest we'd see there are lots more of us who struggle with motivation and procrastinating, like me lol. I loved the comment by the 68 yr old woman. I'm 62 and also watched your entire video. Great job! Thanks for posting

[@sylviaeneriz4808]

You are a breath of fresh air. You are so honest about what it feels like to be overwhelmed and I like how you are not taking drastic steps towards your health but more manageable steps with fit your lifestyle. Thank you for your candor and vulnerability. I know many people have benefited from this video, including myself. You gave me lots of good ideas. Thank you!

[@jas8815]

Just a suggestion for those who may be couch potatoes, or older, like me. When I'm watching TV, I make sure that EVERY time a commercial comes on, I get up and do something. I'm really good at cleaning or tidying in small bursts rather than longer sessions. I find that I'm amazed at how much I can get done this way. I wish that I could do a marathon of cleaning, like you, but I'm much older, and we all have to find what works best for us. You did an AMAZING job and should be really proud of yourself!

[@barbaramobley8845]

Remi you're not going to believe this but you have even helped me! Im 72 yo! Im messy but love to have everything neat. With complications from old age i can work maybe 30 min then need to rest. My problem with that is i get involved with KZbin or games and sit way too long. I know i need to get up and get out, do things, see people while I'm able but i spend all day trying to just get everyday housework done. I like to craft, sew, garden and get upset with myself that i don't allow myself time for those things. I truly believe that your list making suggestion completing one thing at a time will help me and encourage me to go a little longer before i stop for a rest. Then writing the next thing will excite me to get back busy faster to get it done! I'm going to start now! I moved about 1 1/2 mo ago and still have boxes sitting around. If i can finish my chore list (and its not as long as yours--no toys, and such as that) and then put up a few things or even empty one box it will lift my spirits so much! Then maybe i can get outside and get my flower garden going or go see an old friend!

[@emilythompson3605]

I’m 75 and I am inspired.

[@hp-cs7mx]

Using a kitchen timer set in the next room helped me move.

[@shag6414]

You sound like me. I hope we both get back to doing things we enjoy!

[@jemmathompson3190]

It is so refreshing seeing a house clean video that doesn’t make me depressed, by watching perfect dolly birds tidy their already perfect homes. This video is relaxing and takes the shame out of being Nuero divergent/messy. I’ve subscribed.. what a lovely lass. ❤

[@remiclog]

Thank you so much!! Glad you enjoyed it ☺️❤️

[@fullofhope2222]

@@remiclog thank you for the encouragement - Im 57 and up to 20 years ago I tackled the house similar to you but also enjoyed gardening, redecorating. I was very physically fit and strong.. But a bad back accident has made me increasingly immobile and when you get this needing of help you find, well, everyone disappears! (husband of 30 years included) I struggle to exist - actual living is out of reach. I live in dread of something breaking down or worse needing replaced! Yeah life can get tough but please remember this YOUR HEALTH IS YOUR WEALTH -

[@katkat5420]

Thank you for this video. Thank you for being so vulnerable. Im 53 no kids and no spouse, but my house gets out of control regularly. This video really helped me

[@MsObsidianReloaded]

Same

[@MadonnaGrogan]

Same

[@user-so6tg2zb8u]

I am 64 years old and I have struggled with executive dysfunction my entire life! You are helping me a lot! I am ok IF I can get started, but I am paralyzed trying to begin. You hit my nail on the head! Thank you thank you, and keep on truckin’ .

[@bitrudder3792]

I had an Epiphany when Flylady said “you can do anything for 15 minutes.” I figured if 15 minutes was good, so was five. And so was two minutes. The more distasteful the task, The shorter the time I put on my timer. Just dividing things into categories is brilliant. But if overwhelmed, it’s perfectly OK to say that you will only pick things out for two minutes if that’s all you can handle at once. Generally once we get started, we find we can do another couple of minutes and so forth. I use the 2-5 minute rule for the tasks that repel me the most and break those tasks down into the tiniest steps possible. And sometimes the first task is “Think about what the very first thing is that I have to do to do this, and write it down.”

[@annamcbride6163]

Thank you for the video!! I am 66 , and still struggle with my house!! I love your accent, and your personality!!! You did a GREAT job!!!!

[@h2h657]

I think I've found a kindred spirit! I can honestly relate to many of your tasks here. I wash dishes by hand because my kitchen doesn't have space for a dishwasher, either. I almost always have to do a little dance to get the bag out of the bin. And it must be a mom thing because I will usually use my hand to scrape off plates, etc, rather than using a utensil. It's just more efficient. Right. Now that you've inspired me, it's time to start my own cleaning/tidying. Thanks! ❤

[@janemacneil5575]

I noticed the plants along the window ledge,and it made me happy to see that you have an eye for beauty.You and I have sooo much in common as I listen to you.I've never had a diagnosis but lately,at age 73 (!!) I realize that I probably have ADD. I've been reading some things online that have been helpful. You are smart and wise and I'm impressed with your work and style.Yay You!!🥰

[@threelilies9453]

Here's something I learned from my elderly landlady: clean up your pots and pans while you are cooking. She always amazed me by how clean her kitchen was right after she finished cooking. Best advice and example I ever had. 😊

[@vonnie4781]

That’s what I was taught, do it as you go!

[@nancyinthegarden3160]

that’s what I learned after 50 yrs if cooking. I also learned during covid to cook the food you can before too tired after work. Cut veg, marinate the meat, get whatever you can prepared before you are too tired to cook. also have heAlthy munchies while preparing bc it’s sometimes stressful to have another thing to do. Don’t come home r dry night and work done more. take 2-3 nights and plan what you’re going to do. maybe all the laundry, maybe food shop, but do t leave all work for. the weekend. it leaves us drained and not rested. never stop learning how to do better. I’m now, making lists of chores and distributing them to others in home.

[@MsMirage171]

I cannot thank you enough for this video. The shame and guilt I’ve been carrying around. You have blessed me in knowing I’m not alone.

[@Mamafish68]

Right!!

[@NuckingFuts56]

Hi 👋 Ms Mirage. Ikr! You’re not alone. “Lynn’s video was the fire 🔥 that I needed! I went to both dollar trees yesterday. I’ll keep you posted. I have until Christmas… 🎅🎄 *Update* I gave myself a couple weeks to clean up and organize using both dollar “stores and I feel like I got a whole new home for 2023 leaving 123123 and a clean 🧼 🏡 Thank you!

[@googlemusiconly1138]

You are a REAL person, what a great video! I’m sitting on my bed with a house in a mess and I found your video. Thank you so much

[@o0o0ll0o0o]

The thing that helped me is a friend telling me to clean as I cook. So now I just wash dishes right away while waiting for food to be done or served and doing the dishes in these small chunks relieves so much stress and makes dishes manageable. It also makes cooking more enjoyable because you won’t have dishes in the way.

[@laurelsternberg5861]

Hello from an American ex-pat in Israel. You are sooo likeable! I appreciate your honesty and humility. You did a great job on your voice over, filming and editing. Your video is encouraging and helpful. But your sweet personality is what really shines through. I feel like I found a very nice new neighbor, albeit a few thousand miles away. God bless you.

[@colleenovo1084]

I cannot say how much I appreciate your video. You have spoken to so much of my life. The chronic disorganization, the guilt, the ADD, the low self esteem because of it all. The not being able to afford the helpful gadgets. Forget about any haters. People like me appreciate this so much!

[@louisadigi8733]

Your videos make me feel more normal, I feel overwhelmed at home with zero energy to do much at all and it feels like no matter how much I clean and tidy, the very next day it looks like I've done nothing at all 😢

[@danielcolvin816]

Thank-you for your vulnerability! At 50, executive dysfunction is still a major foible for me. I find this video so soothing and inspiring. You've just gained another follower.

[@stabbykat]

First, I think your doing great. People that don’t understand how the mess happens and judge you for it have never had to be in your shoes. I had to stop working for pay when my grandmother who I took care of after became completely bedridden (dementia for ten years before) I also have rescue animals including some I had to save from a feral heard of cats I try to care for they would have died by morning if I had left them. I have a husband as well who works all the time to make up for me not being able to work for pay anymore, I’m the only one taking care of the house, cooking, caring full time for grandma and the animals all the cleaning etc.. I was in an accident that almost killed me n I couldn’t move for months, I’m still trying to catch up now and it’s impossible when I’m in pain. My house went from order to chaos and has been that way for awhile. I also have never owned a dishwasher I am the dishwasher 😂 I also don’t like coffee and I’m very caffeine sensitive, when I need some caffeine once in awhile I will drink a Bai, it’s got about 55-75 mg caffeine depends on which one you get. I’m glad your phasing out the soda a little at a time it’s the best way to kick something so your body isn’t overwhelmed with detox symptoms. I lost my favorite kitten yesterday after two weeks of caring for her, she died at the vet n I’m so heartbroken I’m not motivated and tired but your video helped I’m gonna try to push through and get some things done💯❤️

[@paulinebarbour162]

It's great to see a realistic home & tidy up. Most of the time the homes you see on KZbin don't even need cleaning 🙃 you're fab 🙂 x

[@tastelessgestures460]

The making a small list by priority is genius!!

[@Delfini29]

I'm living alone, but have some paralyzing mental struggles recently, making it extra hard to maintain a tidy clean home. These videos are helping a lot, thank you!!

[@clamh84]

This was a really helpful video, not just because of the excellent content, but also for the honesty. It’s rare to see a content creator talk about the realities of working class life in a normal home like my own home.

[@renlish]

I think what I love about this process is that you don't do a huge long list to start with, but break it down and add on as chores are done. One less thing to be overwhelmed with.

[@CSRivers123]

You helped my mental health today so much. Truly, thank you for this. Why shouldn't we feel joy? Best line. Thank you.

[@anatolia0222]

God I love this idea of a small list that only gets added to if you cross things off. I tend to write out the whole list and either get overwhelmed or feel terrible for only getting a couple of things done. AuDHD here and 100% the executive function struggles are so real. Have also struggled with procrastination and distractions all of my life as well!

[@tnliz1448]

You absolutely have the greatest common sense attitude, so realistic. Thank you. Don't let people's comments bother you. You are wonderful.

[@lindamoreno6485]

i agree you are wonderful and realistic!!!

[@alexmelendezrolon872]

Ok straight up this is the best cleaning video I've ever seen for people with ADHD and Autism. Like...the list idea where you just start off with writing your first two most important tasks and then add others as you cross them off is so smart so that you don't get super overwhelmed just from the list. And as you cross things off, the house slowly becomes less and less overwhelming which makes it easier to keep going. Thank you so so much, I really appreciate this.

[@CourtneyLynn]

Thank you for being honest and relatable. I’ve been struggling for weeks and felt like I couldn’t possibly do anything about it. I put this on and watched for a few minutes and then turned to having it on in the background. It made me feel validated and less lonely. I was able to put all my laundry away while watching this.

[@user-pg2dr3pc3u]

I enjoy your introspection, your self-awareness and your honesty. You’re an inspiration! ❤

[@basinball1]

I was meant to find this today. Chronic clinical depression depletes my motivation and I often stay in bed to avoid the mess. I’m messy, my son is messy and autistic so both of us are overwhelmed. I love your method and am going to try it. Wish me luck - and motivation! I’ll keep following you to keep the mojo going. Thank you!

[@remiclog]

Wishing you all the luck and motivation! and I hope this method worlds for you! X

[@rc7659]

I love reading all these comments, look how many people are truly helped here.

[@carmendunklin6407]

I suffer from depression and no motivation. Be encouraged with the little things you get done each day. My mother would ask me, "how do you eat an elephant...one bit at a time. I take pride in cleaning one corner and if that's all I can do that's okay. The next day I take another bite at that elephant. We can do it!!!☺️

[@KissingTheCook]

Wishing you luck boo! You got this, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[@KissingTheCook]

@@carmendunklin6407 So true, and so beautiful!

[@jolynngood2746]

I battle depression and I have let my small apartment get way out of control. Watching your video and listening to you tell your story makes me feel like maybe there is hope for me yet. Thank you!

[@Ohhappyday764]

Me too.

[@nicholethechronichousewife480]

Same here! Enough is enough! Time to kick my depression right in the butt and put my mind on the right track again!

[@kamalove3388]

This is way more than a cleaning video. It is very therapeutic. Thank you for sharing!❤

[@clcotton26]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤❤❤ a lot of what you said about procrastination and being overwhelmed resonated with me. I'm not the best at keeping my house neat either and have been that way from childhood. Your system seems doable. Thanks for sharing!!!

[@conniemedlin09]

I'm 60 years old and have raised 5 kids. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 40. It helped me to understand why I struggled so much with keeping my house organized and tidy. I wasn't lazy. I'd be working at it all day but you çouldnt tell. I read many books but couldn't consistently implement their ideas. I eventually started doing almost exactly what you did in this video. Make a simple list and tackle one thing at a time: toys, clothing, shoes, garbage, dishes. Same idea for cleaning: all the mirrors, all the hard floors, all the beds, vacuum all the carpet, etc. When my kids were home they would do it with me. It might sound silly to some people but it worked for me. I liked your video. I'm sure it will help some people.

[@amieroberg9258]

Omg I love this video. Sick of watching videos of people cleaning their already clean homes. And your personality is fantastic. I could see us being besties

[@nikkigill7954]

Omg! I'm sitting here depressed with no children waiting on my bf coming home from work. House is a mess.. but just listening to you hunni im about 1/4 the way through my list. So much love you hunni im going to follow you and watch you forever. Thank you so much. Your an amsjng woman and don't ever forget that ❤❤❤ xxxxxxxxxxx

[@lisarodriguez194]

Thank you soooo much for this honest video! I, too, have struggled with this my entire life. You are so right about a messy person not necessarily enjoying the mess. I hate it so much, and feel embarrassed that my house frequently looks the way it does. IT IS SO OVERWHELMING SOMETIMES. I truly appreciate your ideas and the fact that you showed your house in a realistic way. It makes me feel a lot less bad about my own home to see that other people live like I do. 😊 I think you are exactly right right that it comes down to an organization problem. I have struggled with that my entire life as well. This was my first time visiting your channel, but your video was so honest and hey, I have subscribed and am already looking forward to seeing more. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! 💜💕

[@lesyarosa8091]

I have been there for decades. An insane amount of working hours in hospital, kept me on the edge, always remedying the damage. At a certain point, however, the method the Fly Lady method was a turning point to me. The best channel where I got the basis from, in a simple way is The secret slob, youtube channel. Easy and efficient.

[@TheMrsebanks]

Have to say to expose yourself and home like this is really commendable. Thanks for this .

[@irenemoreaux4446]

Dear Remi. What a fantastic video. I thank you. I am in my 70s and can SO RELATE to everything you said. I was a single mom for quite a few years and I felt so frustrated at times because my energy level was at a low. Working full time then working with my son. I loved helping him with his schooling, but I wish I had had a bit more money to spend on him and more energy. Please. Take it from another woman, you are absolutely perfect the way you are. You do so much for everyone else and like most women, we tend to not take as good of care of ourselves as we should. As Imaged, I too am noticing I can get sidetracked quickly. Very frustrating, but I quite beating myself up about it. I have learned to say no when I know I cannot take on a project for someone. Your candor about tackling a huge project is truly appreciated. I have one large room I absolutely must organize but I keep putting it off. Take good care of yourself.

[@ReneeSunflower]

This is one of the best voiceovers I’ve heard. I can relate to everything 😂 love the realism

[@emkay5284]

Really you are energetic and determined person. Fantastic! You inspired the the cluttered home members I am one of them ! Thanks I am 71 but I will try my best. Once in a week listing and cleaning will be my moto. Love you dear!

[@b1tchybee282]

hearing you say you would rather spend money on your child’s enrichment for him and his future instead of a dishwasher made me wanna cry. you’re such a good mom if that’s the mentality you carry♥️ hope things get a bit easier on you♥️

[@villagesteader3552]

Getting distracted is so easy…my solution used to be that my best friend and I would clean each other’s house once a week, dusting, floors, bathrooms, and that type of thing. It was amazing! Alas, my best friend is now waiting for me in heaven and I am caring for my Mother, which is a whole other challenge…I’m not young like you but watching your video made me think of good times in the past! You are wise beyond your years. Love from the USA!♥️

[@joelbennett1987]

I live in central british columbia. After working a long shift today and coming home, i could tell my wife was overwhelmed with the house and kids all day and I didnt know where to start. I found this video and have began cleaning up and tidying for the past 30 minutes and it helped me out a lot i appreciate it 🙏

[@louiseconnell5846]

I think you did a fantastic job in a short time. I am a housekeeper and I clean whole houses in 2-3 hours so I know it can be done and you did MARVELLOUS! I think you have a great understanding of yourself and wonderful attitude.

[@erinhurlock5521]

I greatly appreciate your candor ❤ As an empty nester who's nearly 50, I've finally found a way to make laundry easier. I sort my clothes based on where they get put away. All my hanging clothes go together, my folded clothes are together, etc. It's the only way I've found that makes certain all my clothes are put away. Blessings to you and your family!

[@alissagonzales735]

My husband was a pig as his family when I married him. When I met his parents I couldn't see a place to sit when they said sit down. So I stood while waiting for him to shower and change clothes because he was called to work and stuff spill all over his clothes while doing repair work. I gave him fair warning that there was a laundry basket and he better learn to use it. Also dishes were not to be left everywhere. Well after a week I picked up his clothes and threw it in the garage. The following week I did the same. The third week he ask where was the clean work clothes. I answered the garage. You better find someone to wash and iron because I am already picking them off the floor to carry to garage. He took them to a place that washed and iron and didn't like what they charged him. I said if you continue to leave dishes everywhere you will find yourself eating on paper plates or paper towels. He learned. He actually became a neat freak. He never was taught or expected to pickup or clean after himself.

[@foxnullz932]

Wow. You made that look so easy. I've lived this way for years.... Minus the beast mode 2 hour power clean. But you've inspired me! Thanks for being real.🥰 Minnesota, USA

[@rosemariesanchez1338]

It's so refreshing to see someone have a messy house and put it in order just like us ordinary people do. I hate seeing someone with a glamorous updated house saying they have to clean and in 5 minutes it's all perfect again. I often get distracted from one chore so your idea of the list sounds perfect for me. I'll be starting that tomorrow...thank you so much for this wonderful dose of reality!

[@huntresskyfire7]

Thank you so very much for posting a video showing what a real messy house looks like and real ways to deal with the executive dysfunction. This is so so helpful.

[@remiclog]

So pleased you found the video helpful! X

[@user-su5rv8bi7f]

I know you keep your house clean.....the top of your stovetop is spotless....might be messy but you clean.....the houses that gross me out are the hoarder houses.... kudos to you 😊

[@virginiamcclary7893]

I enjoy Listening to you tell your story, it helps me understand myself. You are such a delight. You sound so much like me. God bless you. I'm a 71 year old woman and gone through a lot of loss in my family, which has taken it's toll on me mentally. You make me feel like I can get things done. You are an amazing young woman and have every reason to be proud

[@katiemilton4821]

I love the idea of the list being short and then adding on another item as one is finished. This is SO clever.

[@amywesselman4298]

11:45 am You are enough. You are human. You are doing what works for you at this moment- you are inspiring many others by showing a real home and how easily messes multiply! Thank you for sharing!!! ❤

[@Plush-Freddys-Pizzaria]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one watching this right now! It just sucks you right in!

[@kayhelton3806]

How did you get so smart at such a young age? My daughter-in-law has the same difficult time trying to keep her house clean. After listening to you, i can understand how she feels and her struggles . Keep up the good work!

[@JAH-iu3yh]

Just have to say that dishwasher explanation was wonderful.☺️That’s how I feel about not having new clothes, home decor, renovations or going out anymore. It’s hard sometimes but I’m excited to enrich my kids’ life instead! Have 2 & 7 year olds myself. Signing them up for swim lessons in May! Hopefully we will not be paycheck to paycheck by then. But yes, same problems in the USA here hun. Keep your head up!

[@chaseferrellmusic]

I struggle with severe depression and bipolar disorder. My house looks horrible right now but this video motivated me to least do a little bit. I know I can’t clean it all in one day but I can do a little today and a little tomorrow. With depression, my motivation comes in spurts but most days I’m far too tired and worn down to do anything. I like how you said messy people DO mind the mess, we just can’t keep it clean. I felt that in my soul lol. Thank you for this. You’re a beautiful woman with a gorgeous home. You’re doing such a great job at it! And I’m living paycheck to paycheck too so you’re not alone 😊 no dishwasher here either haha!

[@remiclog]

Bless you, I’m so glad that you were able to find some motivation here! ☺️ and thank you so much for your kind words, I’m wishing you all the best, and make sure you take it easy and remember even completing the smallest tasks is an accomplishment to be proud of!

[@chaseferrellmusic]

@@Braymers2023 thank you so much! You have a wonderful day! ☺️

[@lottiestanley7696]

I’m 74, living in California, USA. Thank you for an honest video, and sharing things that I recognize in myself. Chronic fatigue, and physical limitations make clearing difficult. But, I believe your hints will help a lot. Hopefully, I can get through my mess as ‘easily’ as you did. Again, thank you!

[@samanthawyse8378]

Not me actually crying because your mess matches my mess and i don't feel alone anymore

[@ohmygodshoelady7425]

Hello, I saved this video to watch later, months ago. Watching today 4/9/24, and I'm glad I did. Thank you for being real with everything. Even when you opened up about your own struggles. I def can relate to a lot, if not, all of it. Definitely liked and subscribed. Looking forward to watching more of your videos/shorts. Thank you, from across the pond. Sincerely. ❤

[@thesmallestchurchinsaint-s4674]

Well done. Its bloody hard keepin ont top of a clean house when you're working full time. Can't imagine how hard it is with wee ans an all.

[@user-go3nq4uz8q]

Girl. I cried after the video. I thank you for your transparency and the encouragement thru your words, energy, and actions. This content was #1 for me. Thank you for sharing your content and deep rooted story.

[@TemperenceTheGinger]

I love your idea of only putting the most important tasks on the list and then only adding more after crossing the completed ones off! I think this could really help my ADD brain to not get so overwhelmed. Thank you for the tips and for being so open and posting. Women should SUPPORT other women, not tear them down. How dare they call themselves a “feminist” and then go after another woman for something as simple as how they clean their home, what they wear, etc., we MUST support one another and build each other up💜 Edit: grammar

[@laurencornell268]

Watching this video makes me feel seen and understood. I'm crying. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone.

[@wolfeyes1991]

I cannot express enough how grateful I am for your channel and your content. Please continue for as long as it suits you but just know, ive been binge watching everything you have today.. its exactly what i needed.

[@glkification]

What you achieved in 2 hours is extraordinary. Well done indeed!

[@remiclog]

Thank you so much! ☺️