HOW TO TOALLY MENTALLY DETACH FROM A RELATIONSHIP by RC Blakes

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This KZbin video is a detailed discussion by RC Blakes on how to mentally detach from a toxic relationship. He talks about the concept of "soul ties" and the importance of breaking emotional attachments even after a physical breakup. The speaker emphasizes the need for a self-worth audit, anchoring oneself to a growth mindset, and reframing loneliness as an opportunity for personal growth. He draws parallels between solitude and spiritual growth, pointing out how times of loneliness can be a fertile ground for self-discovery and deeper connection with God. Blakes provides practical advice and affirmations to empower individuals to move forward from unhealthy relationships with strength and resilience. He shares personal stories and biblical references to illustrate his points, highlighting the importance of self-reflection and self-improvement in overcoming emotional attachments and achieving personal growth.
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[@BecomingaQueen]

LADIES „ be more in love with your future, than with your past” 🌺💐🌸

[@tammyevans5799]

Very well said...hit my heart gently with colored flowered arrows ! 🏹 💐 💐 💐 🏹 I needed to hear this. Thanks~

[@barbaragary5479]

Easy said for saying try saying I'm here for the hurting one I pray strength for you God did it for ME....❤❤❤

[@kiashachisholm4011]

]9 p po😊l⁰😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊​@@tammyevans5799

[@kiashachisholm4011]

😊😊

[@audreymickens4390]

"Don't look back, you're not going that way."

[@joshgen8533]

A lot of men have no true understanding of the Bible when it comes to their sex life. They think the men of Israel were celibate and had to wait for marriage. Men and women aren’t the same and there were no modern pagan marriage ceremonies back in the time of ancient civilization. Men had multiple wives, they had sex to initiate marriage. They weren’t doing any of what the modern society teaches today. It’s totally backwards, everything is from back then.

[@yadahahlayasharahla467]

1. Self worth audit. 2. Anchor yourself in a growth mindset. 3. Reframe the loneliness. 4. Take the occasion to actually define your needs. 5. Forgive and flourish. 6. Was this happiness or was this just comfort in familiarity? 7. Develop future oriented goals.

[@SuccessBug]

Thank you 🏆

[@AngelaNzilani]

❤❤❤

[@CarolynAmos-l1m]

Thank you Pastor Blakes for the confirmation. God actually guided me through this process!!!

[@myworld5600]

God bless you more coach rcblakes jr

[@lwarfield52]

Thank you. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@leahpaauwe514]

I watched a video by you about 6 years ago and was able to leave my toxic abusive ex.

[@lala5061]

Amen hallelujah 🙌🏽 🙏🏽 👏🏽 🤗

[@shatajshinabrock1680]

Do you remember the name of the video?

[@Bri-nc8yp]

@@shatajshinabrock168099% of his videos are dedicated to empowering women to leave a toxic Man. You don’t need to find a particular title to a particular video if you actually listening

[@shanquitamariah]

Amen!!!

[@msm3668]

Good for you! 👍🏾

[@lelackey1157]

This type of breakup is a blessing IF we choose to see it.

[@jbreezecoleman5345]

A SELF WORTH AFFIRMATION “MY SELF WORTH IS NOT DEFINED BY MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS, I AM A VALUABLE AND COMPLETE PERSON ON MY OWN.. MY HAPPINESS AND SENSE OF SELF COMES FROM WITHIN ME AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE”

[@ilissawalker7051]

🫶🏾Yes🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@angelindisguise58]

@jbreezecoleman I bought a Pendant with a similar Affirmation, it says All I Need is Withhn Me

[@katrinapritchett6241]

Amen

[@supersizeT1]

Amen

[@keliakilpatrick5038]

That forgiveness is where I get stuck because even with friends I feel if you forgive them they got to be in your space to see it when I don't want no parts of being in their presence even church but I don't do hateful things like roll my eyes and spit on them or want to fight. I just stay out from round them and that's a problem

[@LifeLessonsforWomen]

I start the detachment process long before I physically walk away! It's a very effective self - love tool I taught myself when I decided to leave a marriage to an abusive narcissist years ago. I never looked back! Ladies, know your worth! ❤

[@resha4599]

I’m going to try this

[@viviancheek8044]

I understand the tool 2017 still loving my peace seasoned serenity joy forever giving the most high thanks for saving me.❤ ❤❤❤

[@cw8365]

I agree I do this as well. This process allows me to close the door and continue on with my life.

[@Queenn928]

Can you help me

[@monicakomugisha]

I don’t even know why I was still fighting for a dead relationship, I didn’t even have any good memory to hold onto in that relationship .

[@etcwhatever]

The most important is not to blame yourself. It is a long process of healing. But its essential that you move away from the guy and stay away. I made the mistake of trying to come back several times. Its like rubbing salt on a wound.

[@MartineMombrun]

Same here I just want to let go it's so hard don't have the strength yet

[@monicakomugisha]

@@MartineMombrun it takes time. Be kind to yourself

[@carolannburke5450]

Don't be hard on yourself. It is very difficult. Your self-love and self-worth trumps all. Remember you are # 1. Once you affirm your self-worth, you'll feel so good. Won't need validation , only for/from yourself. Good luck sweetie....

[@jan854]

SAME!! I reflect on the deadend relationship and ask myself what am I really holding on to? There was nothing really great going on, no memorable experiences or events. It's embarrassing to even think about.

[@vernitadavis4115]

I thought that loneliness was going to be the death of me but I survived it through God’s grace.

[@lapricesanforded.d.6897]

I’m experiencing that now but it will pass

[@Teesugarfree]

😊​@@lapricesanforded.d.6897

[@jennifersmith1886]

Thank you for addressing loneliness. I'm traveling and going to concerts alone rather than being bunched up with friends. I enjoy alone time during my hard, lonesome time. I'm also focusing on starting some businesses.

[@WillieBerryhill]

❤

[@paulinerauwe0085]

I can't wait. I am going a time of letting go. He almost killed me. I have to let the love go and move on. I miss him but I have to remember that he is my enemy.

[@TanzytheglowupG]

Wow you sound like me missing someone who was cruel to me .we have empathy even when hurt but we can't waste it on people who want to destroy us and thus no one can be helped by us caring healers of the world 😢we must go no contact

[@axamarquez2771]

Yup

[@carmenneal532]

Yes indeed you need too pray hard and ask God to step in the mist of it all and trust me it would get better remove yourself

[@LATANYAL]

You are worth your life and time heal all wounds I’m having a hard time healing ❤️‍🩹 it’s been 8 months

[@jeanettehamilton5125]

I wasn't married to my ex but I spent 12 years of my life with a selfish human being OMG .As much As I love him and care ..I just walked away I was definitely tired of all his foolish stuff..I don't get even...I just let him set right there and feel his pain forever...I'm not going back...Im not mad, I'm just done...I need healing and deliverance frm God....I'm working on me now

[@eulaboyd2204]

Solitude is a divine opportunity for growth!

[@Blissful_Gia]

I’ve definitely let him go. My mind knows better but I need my heart to catch up 😊

[@londontyler6598]

I always say this, it’s my feet that are moving, but my heart is not

[@spicydragonroll88-wd2jl]

This 💪🏼

[@edithhall-4456]

Love it and I am going to borrow that affirmation 😊

[@mariselnegron9817]

The sound of loneliness is silence and in silence we can hear God the best.

[@geneaparks5909]

Amen 😂

[@aksatgeorge_1684]

Amen❤

[@cherylclarke5351]

When you value yourself , others will value you. Myself worth is not predicated on another person's perception of who they think I am. Hallelujah!

[@monica3787]

Truer words have never been spoken !

[@Candaco2000]

Yes. EVERYONE LETS LIKE AND SHARE YALL! This man of GOD has truly blessed us in the Kingdom!! ❤

[@stefblanco3887]

I am still dealing with total detachment from an ex. I don’t understand why I’m still mentally attached to this guy. It really sucks 😢💔 His mission was accomplished. Help me Lord 🙏🏽

[@twyspencer1288]

I understand completely, and I just prayed for you as I am in the same boat. Father God, help us both and keep us close to You. Amen.

[@LisaMarie1112]

The fact that you are here with us,shows you the The Lord us helping you.

[@Queeneve78]

We BIND those ungodly soul ties in JESUS NAME!!!

[@Yellow-oc4sl]

Narc daily on youtube

[@KeeBee-wk4cf]

Seek God, Binge watch RC videos and you won’t go back. I’m commenting a month later but I pray you are still on your healing journey!! 🙏🏾

[@relenciajefferson8563]

Some people just don’t know how to be by themselves. But it is so important! It allows you to discover and become aware of who you are.

[@ladielox]

The Holy Grail "self closure" to the end of a heartbreaking elationship. Especially, when you're still in-love with him or her. I await this one....patiently. Pastor Blakes speaks with such profound, priceless and valuable wisdom and he speaks in truth! 👑♥️🙏🏾

[@heatherbeeser1549]

Pastor Blakes, thank you for being my pastor and for changing my life for the better.🌸

[@rosiegirl4228]

This is uncanny. That you should speak on this subject tonight of all nights! I am literally going out of my mind at this very moment, having broken my “no contact” and now having to deal with the fact that I am back in the same situation ship. I am having such a difficult time letting go of him. Even while I know it’s not good for me, I made contact with him again. I need help to detach once and for all

[@chalice1981]

Same here!!! I fell for the bait again. But I’m about to wiggle off the hook and pray the Lord breaks these chains… blessings to you and everyone

[@marymuya9916]

story of my life 😢 Soul ties are truly demonic.. It's just crazy how You know someone is not good for you but you can't let them go. May God help us to detach... coz it's not easy. Holy spirit please take control and set us free. 🙏

[@londontyler6598]

My God! I too have broken no contact. I’m praying for strength

[@onevenus6040]

They lose whatever respect they have left for you every time you go back to them. When you don't establish and MAINTAIN boundaries they view you as a SUCKER TO BE USED.

[@MYLIFENOW9706]

Ladies we have to GO THROUGH THE PAIN .. Sit in it and it will pass .. I’m not 100% there but that hard part is over and it was very bad for me going through it .. Never thought it would end and it’s only been 1 year .. But I SAT in my pain … not easy but keep fighting please 🙏🏾 . No social media, I moved, or if you can’t move change your routine.. KZbin learning about what I went through and my bible helped me tremendously

[@exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198]

I have detached already or else i would have gone insane and go into mental health facility....i am going to listen to this episode to learn more......

[@katevans4616]

Proud of you. Peace is yours!

[@kathywalker9546]

I definitely understand it felt like coming off crack for me

[@realtalk64]

Almost 3 yrs now since my last relationship. I told them to leave. I'm glad I did. Staying single now.

[@Shiekhempathpowers]

Same ❤ we got this !😢❤🎉 heal selfcare journal and pray

[@taniathomas7353]

Same

[@msm3668]

1) Self-worth audit. Take inventory of your self-esteem levels. 2) Anchor yourself to a growth mindset; reset your thoughts. 'What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.' Be strengthened in your 'new normal.' Romans 8:28 3) Reframe the lonliness. Learn about yourself and your own interests during this period. It (lonliness) may be a Divine opportunity for growth. Mark 1:35, Deut 31:6 Embrace solitude. 4) Take the occasion to define your needs in your relationships. Establish and enforce boundaries. Proverbs 4:23 5) Forgive and flourish. Let it go. It will free up space in your soul emotionally. Colossians 3:13 6) Ask yourself "Was this happiness or familiarity?" Familiarity can be comforting confusion. Jerimiah 29:11 7) Develop 'future' oriented goals for yourself. Where are you going? Envision a positive scenario for yourself. I've enjoyed this session of teaching. Thank you, Bishop!

[@wonderful7090]

Thank you

[@kimberlycece1426]

Thank you

[@nakakuava1361]

Thank you a lot for putting all the points. Wonderful job. I really appreciate it 😊😊

[@msm3668]

@@nakakuava1361 You're welcome 😊

[@elizabethcodner5788]

Thank you very much

[@jbreezecoleman5345]

“FORGIVENESS IS AN ACT OF SELF EMPOWERMENT “

[@andreawinton6797]

PASTOR BLAKES YOU HAVE TRULY BEEN A BLESSING TO THE WHOLE WORLD THESE TEACHINGS HAVE HELPED SAVED MY LIFE AND HEALED PARTS OF MY LIFE AND IM GETTING STRONGER AND BETTER EACH DAY LOVE YOU AND THE FIRST LADY SO MUCH SEE YOU AT THE TOP

[@RCBlakesJr.]

Thank you for sharing this with me. 🙏🏽♥️😊

[@carolyn8387]

I’m so Grateful I’ve been delivered from such an abusive, narcissistic marriage. When I reflect, I go into a Hallelujah shout! Look what great thing GOD has done for me! My Xhusband was undeserving of me.

[@Ang-ie3qy]

Completely understand. That's where I'm at as well 🙌🙌

[@chrishinson7081]

I want that victory shout that you have. Please keep me in your prayers. I'm leaning on the Lord for my strength.

[@tammyyoung8034]

I wasn't married, but I was in a 5-year relationship with a liar, cheater, and narcissist. He cheated with two other women. He betrayed me and hurt me. I feel pain, yall. With the help of my heavenly father, I know that I will make it through. Keep me in your prayers.

[@teresa28ist]

Hunni I know you are right. I thank God often.

[@empresshunt7280]

I’ve learned to look at the benefits of singleness. There’s so much peace in singleness and I’m enjoying the benefit of learning about me and working on me. I had already began seeing my accomplishments as a connection to my self esteem. I’ve accomplished so much. But, the Lord has given me new goals. He showed me that if I focus on my goals, I don’t have time for TV, less known a relationship.

[@stefblanco3887]

The “She” (Queenology) theme is EVERYTHING! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@steph_steph876]

EVERYTHING!!🔥🔥

[@steph_steph876]

Everything!!🔥🔥

[@lyndah.]

Yes! Is it available for purchase or stream?

[@patriciamitchell1924]

It took me years to let go of my ex husband after our divorce, i had given him 20 years of my life with 3 children and I step daughter..I honestly didn't c it coming...Yes he did end up marrying another woman..it tore me apart mentally and emotionally...One thing he did ask of me before leaving out the door(That I would forgive him,it took awhile for me to forgive him but i did after 3 or 4 years but it still bother me everytime i seen him with someone else..so thank you Pastor Blakes for speaking on this subject 😇😇😇😇

[@ntandokazimanqele9462]

I'm so sorry you had to go through such a horrible thing may God still remain with you throughout your life's journey. Love and light mama❤

[@Msjltriplett]

Detachment from all toxic and toxins sooooo very vital thank you in advance Sir.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@missfishburne]

I bought the book. I cried and tossed and turned all night last night. Begging God to take away the pain, the feelings of low self-worth, to take away the thoughts of what if, to forget the man ever existed in my life. And then I decided to fast and only watch Christian videos. This popped up on my feed as soon as I got to KZbin. I needed to hear this, so that I can stop being a victim and find divine opportunities through this break up. It sucks because he used God and religion to manipulate me into being with him and staying with him for far too long--only to turn out to be a lying, deceiving, womanizer. My healing and deliverance is mine!

[@jayreed772]

😢😢😢

[@Naluca1988]

I understand. Been through that and going through it currently.

[@BrendaBaBoom]

Prayers to you sis 🙏🏽 You are divine and defined by God. ❤

[@JC-tz8vi]

Stay strong, you are not alone

[@Allforlove78]

#1. Do a self worth audit. --Take inventory of your self esteem bank. #2. Anchor yourself to a growth mindset. --Shift from Lost love to Learning from the experience. #3. Reframe the loneliness. --Accept loneliness and attend to the values that make you more of who you truly are. #4. Take the occasion to Define your Needs. --What do you really need from a relationship? #5. Forgive and Flourish (let go) -- Let go of those things which you can not change. #6. Ask yourself; Was this Happiness? Or Was this only Comfort in familiarity? --Differentiate between the fear of the unknown And What is best for your emotional well being. #7. Develop future oriented Goals --What are your Ambitions and Dreams?

[@thelmadouglas8942]

I’m not attached to anyone, but it’s great for my future learning and lessons of life. Thank you, Dr. RC Blakes

[@charmee4045]

Trauma bonding.........the worst parts of you bond with the worst parts of them. Usually childhood wounds on both sides.

[@Kemi116]

Wow!! I’m incredibly grateful RC Pastor Blake’s is dropping this video as the previous one on ‘Signs That A Man Is Grooming A Woman’ (limbo relationships as how it’s demonic) spoke exactly to my situation. I need to leave asap and begin mentally detaching ASAP. Thank you RC Blake’s for allowing The Holy Spirit to work through you, you are truly doing God’s work here 🙏🏾❤️

[@Rev.EleanorGlasgow-Layne]

It is sad to discover that such warped personalities do exist in an otherwise beautifully created world. But, it is what it is! As a former Aviator, one learns to control what is within one’s sphere of competence to control: SELF!!! As one who has endured the abuse of an extremely toxic marriage replete with all the classic components of a narcissistic spouse, I made the decision one night to detach and move on. It was painful after 32 years of marriage. I have grasped my new reality with tightly clenched fists and living freer, lighter and more purposeful. I did it, so can you!!! May you have clarity of thought as you decide your way forward. Blessings!

[@aprilexceptforgrace5920]

My experience, Precisely. TY for sharing...❤

[@lala5061]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@RedFeather11]

Never abandon yourself! ❤ God bless you sir. 🙏

[@GHO5tMod3]

The art of not giving a cahoot! Learn it , it will help you to move on quick!

[@KathrynMyers1074]

I came to know Christ in Australia🇦🇺 women convention in 2015 by reading a book, "Overcoming spiritual blindness" by James P. Gills MD. The veil was taken off my eyes. Heaven came through for me in my finances too, getting $25,000 monthly. I can now support God's work and give back to my community. God is absolutely more than enough!

[@KathrynMyers1074]

Thanks to Cathie Wood

[@KathrynMyers1074]

I Met Mrs Cathie Wood last year for the first time at a church program, where she greeted a friend of mine also a church member, and fortunately for me, we exchanged contact and got along. What God cannot do, doesn't exist" I truly believe this word 100 percent❤❤❤

[@KathrynMyers1074]

Life is good when you have multiple streams of passive income. I'm so happy because It's good to have a trusted professional like Cathie Wood. I feel lazy whenever I receive my pay lol. Gradually paying off my loans now and looking forward to retirement!!

[@AjaySingh57667]

I have heard a lot of wonderful things about Cathie Wood on the news but didn't believe it until now. I'm definitely trying her out

[@KathrynMyers1074]

I'll leave her info below this comment

[@normabarros3124]

Thank you for this powerful video. Now I understand my self worth has been hit hard from an old relationship. 🙏🏼🙌🏼

[@ladyd6877]

Pastor Blake, may our GOD continue to bless you, your family, and your ministries. I live 500 plus miles away from you; however, your ministry has blessed me as if you're were a local pastor in my area. Your teachings have awakened my spirit to stop taking accountability for the negative behaviors of others who have abandoned, disrespected, and rejected me. Their behavior was not a reflection of me but their true character and warnings. This man was not sent by my GOD. GOD bless you, and thank you.

[@patriciamitchell1924]

Pastor Blakes I would love to hear u speak in person,wow God knew what he was during when he brought u into our lives...God bless u ❤

[@Miss_Tika1]

“TOXIC NOSTALGIA” REMEMBERING THE 3 GREAT THINGS BUT FORGETTING THE 300 CATASTROPHIC EVENTS - Yes that’s what I was doing & stuck on the familiarity of the person - afraid of change🥴😢🥴😢SOOO TOXIC

[@Sonya21786]

This is a very serious conversation that I appreciate Pastor so much but I had to pause this video and laugh when you were talking about smelling the shirt with the Creed❤. You really bless us because you help us break this down into real life situations that really occur. Thank you

[@oliveevergreen5401]

5. Forgive and Flourish! 🌳🌳🌳 This free your emotional space, to accommodate others into your life. Refused to hold on to the past of what your ex did to you. Forgiveness is an act of self empowerment. It's a spiritual healing. Wow! That's what I did too..writing a letter to my ex totally healed me. I forgave whether he apologized for his wrong doing or not. I feel much better at the top and the Victor. I Am free from the chains and bitterness of the past allowing me to move forward. It opened the door for new possibility and Peace. Forgiveness makes me not to hold on to what he did to me It releases me from carrying the burden of bitterness. Colossian 3:13

[@jbreezecoleman5345]

2. ANCHOR YOURSELF TO A GROWTH MINDSET

[@gwendolynpatrick6539]

GOD have taught me so good on how to detach from people. Sometimes I forget I have children. Some men’s will walk up to me and ask me how I am doing. I say who are you. We were classmates in high school. We dated I will say old ok. My ex-husband spoke to me one day I said who are you. He said I’m your ex-husband. I said sorry 0:00. GOD is the only one no matter how I try to detach myself I can’t

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

This!

[@seekinghiskingdom1st009]

No joke, I prayed for this kind of detachment last night. Thank you for confirming it’s possible. 😂

[@victoriabradley-gibson194]

This man knows what he’s talking about.

[@starr970]

Definitely does

[@patriciakimes1795]

Becoming a stronger person is possible with support like RC’s cool videos. I am liking these and the good content helpful vibes.

[@akeishaharris]

I need this badly .

[@nicolast.catherine7947]

Greetings everyone, I just want to add my heartfelt thanks to pastor Blake's and his dear wife. Their message has been a lifeline and a game changer for me these past four years. I've only now been able to be on this platform waiting for my first live. Praise be to God!

[@patriciamitchell1924]

We have to do a Self worth Audit🙏🙏🙏thats true because I tried to hold on to a marriage that had ended

[@LindaVanGalder-jt6yf]

I love the illustration of the person looking at the wreck in the rearview mirror and driving forward as a reminder of how we are supposed to view our dead relationships. ❤

[@tizianav_di_tullio2436]

This resonated so much with me. Sometimes I feel regretful about past relationships that didn’t work out. Even relationships from 25 years ago…

[@finallymyturn613]

Forgiving FAST so my heart can heal appropriately. 💔

[@ALICEPOOLE-es1xq]

Thank You Lord Jesus For Freedom, Comfort and PEACE 🙌🏾♥️

[@angelb.7191]

Without God & the teachings of RC Blakes I would not be where I am today

[@bridgettehollie1499]

Many of us try to fill The space The Holy Spirit should inhibit with a human. We won't be as lonely if we allow the Holy Spirit to have his way with us. It took me over 40 years to realize that.

[@meli7315]

Amen 🙏

[@lala5061]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@angelinazimmerman9519]

Amen. I just detached 2 weeks ago and decided to dive deeply in God's spoken word. Now I find myself every time looking forward and can't wait to spend intimate time with my King Jesus. It's been hard but Jesus has given me strength through the Presence of His awareness to be comforted by His helper the "Holy Spirit"!

[@LizAnderson-rj2sj]

Thank you so much for this! I want to move forward to what God has just for me.🙂

[@cee1164]

I used to think I was a person who could easily detach from toxic relationships and look forward. I learned so much about myself these last few years, particularly due to narcissists in my life and being more alone with myself. Now my relationship with God has grown even closer and I learned I have so much to learn about my mental/emotional growth. It's very humbling, yet I am grateful and look forward to waking up to His lovely lessons every day. So, thank you, R.C. and Lisa. Because you're two of those who provide those lessons❣️

[@Rise-ce1wb]

I humbly agree.

[@carolyn8387]

I was guilty of settling for my Xhusband but no longer. What was meant to destroy me, I ran to GOD and He delivered me. I would not be healed and have learned lessons from this marriage if GOD had not been here helped me. I forgave him. And I choose to walk in forgiveness and love daily. Thank GOD for JESUS who redeemed me and can do the same for you.

[@bridgettehollie1499]

My sister your words are beautiful. The same thing happened to me. JESUS helped me to stop being lonely! GOD Bless u!!!

[@jessiedeg2822]

I am looking forward to this sir blakes! I try really hard to move on and stay busy, but cannot seem to escape at nighttime. i am having nightmares all the time nowadays😢 You always give me hope and perspective. Thank you in advance!! ❤

[@peggyboss4960]

Hi Pastor. This was wonderful. I loved how you used a variety of scenarios and how each woman handled her new life without her partner. I also appreciated your acknowledgement of the mental fallout of a bad situation and the stronghold it can create.

[@loveneedandwantu]

Im glad i detached myself completely.

[@kimmathe6701]

Unhealthy soul tie is ruminating , rehashing, hilding on to personal items, replaying memories, replaying emotional memories, not moving on, isolating, etc etc. I have been asking the Lord to help me heal so i am not in bondage. I took on excessive responsibility when i never should of came to the rescue , and treated him like king. It was such a toxic , abusive relationship. I didnt even know how much i abandoned myself and lost myself and 2 years ago he died from an overdose. Its still teking time to detach and let him go because of rhe trauma bonding and coedepdndency. Im learning to live myself and trust myself and place God first. It does take a while to heal. I finislly am totally focused on my self care and allowing holy spirit to heal my heart.

[@onevenus6040]

Thanks to the Lord for your freedom 🙏

[@corrinebonvella4651]

It takes a strong woman to choose better for yourself instead of remaining in a bad situation. I am so proud of you! You're story is soo victorious, and encouraging. Continue to stay strong and let God use you

[@iishalanae]

Today I rededicated my life to god. He is in control I have been trying to write a story that already written and making a mess out of my life. Holding to relationships that have been over and living in fear of my god giving talents. Today I lay it at the feet of the father

[@Verlene-x2m]

I say there's sooo much peace in that quiet, sometimes alone place.... ❤ Silence is golden 🙏 Ask me how do I know, Bless God 😇

[@jbreezecoleman5345]

THAT MENTAL RESIDUE IS STILL EFFECTIVE!🚨

[@piciulnostru575]

I m not ruminating anymore, and I know I made the right choise. What baffles me, îs that he had everything, and basically said no, after he told me I m his soul mate

[@onevenus6040]

Mind games

[@BrendaBaBoom]

Guys lie. 😢

[@joannejoseph2622]

Looking forward to this video ... great timing. Thank you ❤️❤️

[@Unebellecreole]

Thank you so much, Pastor. Please know you are so appreciated.

[@kwilpalm08]

I work on this everyday. It’s hard work!

[@carylopez5949]

I remember feeling lonely, phew so happy I am past that emotion.

[@starr970]

Yes ma’am. I’m proud of you and I am getting there myself. It took a lot of heartbreak and putting others before myself in order for me to get past this feeling. Still a work in progress.

[@msme9790]

Solitude is a time for growth. ❤

[@Thisisbeautyllc]

I had to get off the phone with the one I need to mentally detach from just to tune in, Amen 🙏🏽

[@lisabrown2965]

😅😅😂

[@LadyBugShaun]

​@@lisabrown2965😅😅

[@LadyBugShaun]

😂😂😂

[@onevenus6040]

Block, Delete, and don't call back 🙌

[@sonyagutierrez1557]

I was in a practical colma for 7-8 years. It felt like I was given a poisoned apple and my auntie let me know what she thought of my life with my parents. I was blamed. I blamed myself. I tried to commit suscide 14 times they told me. I wanted to die i was weak and i felt dead.What did I want to live for. Until i found the answer and I improved for the better.❤

[@etcwhatever]

God loves you and this is why you are here watching this precious message from the Pastor. Im glad you are blessed to self improve and succeed ❤

[@sonyagutierrez1557]

Amen🌈🎻🎹🎼🎸🎠🐦💝

[@tammy_lynn1628]

The hardest thing for me to move on mentally is trying to figure out what went wrong after this man promised to love me and my boys from the very beginning, and then two years later decided it was too much of a sacrifice to be all in committed with a marriage and walked away. The mental confusion torments me of why he walked away after saying what he said, investing the time he spent and love he claimed he had..

[@BrendaBaBoom]

LOOK AT DEEDS way more than words …. thus the person’s true character is on display. 🧐

[@rachelross5829]

Now that scares the crap out of me so I just don't get to close. Sad either way. Grounding and sniffing frankincense oil are 2 things that help keep emotions balanced. Maybe it can help you. Take care and hope you feel better

[@ruthbyrns8841]

Good evening family.. Im on the edge of my seat for this one❤❤.. Pastor, can you have a discussion on "how to mentally detach yourself from your type?" Im attracted to unavailable or men who would be a challenge to get his attention. After listening to you, I know it's wrong, and I need to change 😢

[@jillg9587]

I'm on the process of healing and I'm so greatful that Knowing who I am in Christ helps me to keep moving forward to pursue my purpose God has plans for me.. ❤❤

[@ginafaena7725]

Grateful to be here. ❤🙏🏾♥️

[@tamara9762]

Amen Pastor! 👋🏾🙏🏿♥️ Being alone does not equal loneliness if you are living a fulfilling life and maintaining positive connections with family, friends & community.

[@jbreezecoleman5345]

RECONNECT WITH MYSELF & MY OWN INTEREST!!

[@patriciakimes1795]

I can’t move forward with my relationship with this guy because he deserted the relationship. He feels he needs acceptance from other people in my family above me. He doesn’t respect me or hold me in honor or priority. I feel abandoned after he wouldn’t call me back over this issue. We have been on a three year relationship and he just gave me a ring. Suddenly, he has abandoned me and is ignoring me.

[@onevenus6040]

He's very manipulative, giving you a ring and then disappearing. That's to make you hang on and wait while he does whatever. Take that ring off, get on about your business forgetting all about him and get ready for God's plans in your life 🙏 I'm sure he's not included in this

[@queeenpeechez]

1. Do a self-worth audit Take an inventory of your self-esteem level 2. Anchor yourself to a growth mindset. This involves shifting from a focus on lost love to an understanding of growth and learning from the experience. 3. Reframe the loneliness You can learn a lot about yourself, what works for you, what you need, what you want while alone. Use the time alone to strengthen your relationship with the Most High, your family and yourself. Solitude is a divine opportunity and an important part of spiritual life. 4. Take the occasion to actually find your needs Define your needs and Define your boundaries and enforce them. Without clear boundaries toxic behavior will continue to be allowed. Guard your heart. 5. Forgive and flourish Holding on to resentment and regret does not serve you or anyone else. Forgiveness is an act of self-empowerment 6. Was this just comfort of familiarity or happiness? Recognizing the difference between comfort and happiness is important. Do what is best for your emotional well-being. 7. Develop future oriented goals. Envision a positive future for yourself. By focusing on your future you can disentangle yourself from the past.

[@oliveevergreen5401]

7. Develop future oriented goal. What are your future goals and future. Envisioned a positive future for yourself, your dreams, makes you detached from the past. Have a power to create a fulfilling life for yourself with or without a partner. Take steps towards that future starting today and that loving partner you have envisioned i n this new steps you take, will also come along. This is My Testimony Today. THE LORD have opened a new Chapter in my Destiny Today. In my business, career and marital affairs I AM GOING HIGHER TODAY!👸😇🙏 AMEN🌳🌳🌳.💑👩‍👩‍👧‍👧👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👬👭💃💃💃💃

[@ewaaymer7130]

Praying to God that I will detach from a man who treat me like a hotel comes 1 a week get what he wants and leave.....God help me

[@etcwhatever]

Block him everywhere. But before tell him! Im not your hotel! The Lord is already helping you sister. You are here. Be strong. Life continues. It really does. Ive been through the end of an engagement. Almost died from illness last year. Im alive. Hallelujah ❤❤❤

[@vanettabrown4213]

not the t-shirt/white beata is in the trunk UNDER the tire in a ZIPLOCK bag with the smell of CREED lol! Okayyyyy... And the brotha's have the panties in the back of the drawer! I am done 😂😂.. Chile let us pray!! I love R.C Blakes. You bring it to life R.C

[@patriciaharris2259]

My self-worth is not base on relationship status 💪🏾

[@Mildred-b7r]

Blessed Monday night Bishop, 1st lady Lisa Blakes, and everyone ❤🙏 Greenville SC

[@ladielox]

I think I may struggle with this for years to come if not, for the rest of my life. We share the same birthday. I'm 1 year older. This year made 4 years that I left him. He's called/text me on our birthdays every year since. I have vowed to not answer his call or respond to his text this year. It still hurts and I still love him and will never forget him because of our birthdays 💔😪💔. This birthday, 3/29, I will be getting baptized in the name of Jesus Christ. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@zuli7hernandez80]

Pray for me as I’m fighting an unseen enemy 😓😣 My ex was toxic and basically using me (by feeding me lies and stringing me along) He broke things off, 4 days before my bday nd shortly after celebrating an anniversary. In hindsight I realize, it was all for the best bc I had become attach/codependent of this person. In listening to your videos/lessons I see that it was my low self esteem/confidence that was holding on to an unhealthy person/relationship. Although we broke up in October ‘23 I can’t stop thinking about him and the fact that we’re neighbors, makes things that much harder. He has already move on nd I have to deal with the pain of seeing him parading around with his “new lover” while I’m still dealing with my broken heart , trying to get over him, heal and keep moving on. 😢 I pray to God to help me growth through this nd become stronger nd wiser. So I don’t keep making the same mistakes bc I feel broken n damage n I’m tired of hurting 😔😞😭😭😓😓

[@trishapoirier8440]

I have a soul tie right now , it’s so difficult and I’m not sure why I even crave this man

[@LavernBrown-im5ws]

Can't wait to listen to what my Dad needs to say!❤

[@sjtamara93]

I am in such a struggle with this!! It’s been months and my mind is consumed still from the hurt & rejection. I have fasted and pray but it’s been so hard and I kNOw this is the trick of the enemy.. Nothing seems to work.

[@etcwhatever]

For me its been 6 years after the final breakup. Sometimes i still remember him. You are doing great...i pray but i think i need to pray more. God is infinite and only He can fill our infinite thrist for love.

[@jbreezecoleman5345]

AN EMOTIONAL ENTANGLEMENT!🚨🚨

[@nadejapeace384]

"Anyone who has talked to me for more than 3 minutes can see I'm not gay...Ray Charles was blind and is presently dead and he can still see and testify that ain't nothing gay about me"! ...lololol😂😂😂

[@shangaziciru]

Awesome as usual!!! 👑🎉 I distinguish positive solitude as Aloneness..very different from Loneliness. Loneliness can happen even in a relationship and in a crowd but very rarely in Aloneness because this usually Voluntary, Scheduled, Structured ( activities) and Liberatng!!❤

[@alexandraclemente-ue8qb]

You need to choose how you want to spend your lifetime: listening to RC videos every day and becoming the best version of yourself, or listening to your clowns bs every day and becoming a shadow of yourself. Come on now…

[@Rise-ce1wb]

This was a helpful and informative message providing the tools to see oneself in moving out and from under this type of crippling issue many of us have experienced. 😌

[@ginafaena7725]

I need to put this into practice and change my life. Giving glory to God for your teachings. Thank you for sharing your gifts and talents with the world. May you and yours be blessed. 🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾