hozier // cherry wine lyrics

Another upload ! I've been busy with finals but here's a listen :)
i feel like this song has a "winter" vibe to it idk but check out more songs by hozier :)

[@weebnoah1804]

Fun fact, Hozier recorded this at 5 am on the top of an abandoned building thats why you can hear the birds in the back and it gives of that cold breeze vibe

[@kitesandcurtains]

this is so beautiful

[@imsotiredokay]

the coolest thing ever

[@esterkapadia9304]

NAH I LOVE HIM SO MUCH WTF

[@skylert6124]

wow

[@a_rising_pullet2448]

😲 and I heard this song today at 5am, coincidence😅

[@cadence6002]

I found this song on a “romantic love songs” playlist and thought it was so sweet until I heard the open hand or closed fist line and was like hol up-

[@LunaaJane]

cadence can you please explain this line, I didn’t quite get it 💕

[@shelbydostal9679]

@@LunaaJane open hand (slapping) or closed fist (punches) would be fine (he doesn't care about the abuse because he craves love too much) 🧡🧡🧡

[@LunaaJane]

Shelby Smith ohhhh that is heartbreaking ): thank you so much ❤️❤️

[@LilChuunosuke]

It's rough because it sounds like a beautiful love song. But I think that just adds so much to this song because it really helps people who've never been abused understand how it feels when you're still under their spell, but are aware their behaviors are abusive.

[@astralsheepu7379]

@@LunaaJane yeah the whole song is all about domestic violence. Throwing things at him, hitting, cheating, general horrible abuse, but the guy stays because the good times are "worth" the pain. The same way almost all abuse victims are so caught in the love they think the pain is no big deal. Almost every line is about hitting/hurting/verbal abuse towards the guy. "blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine" = yeah she hurts me enough to draw blood, but I can take it, and love her so much I write it off as part of her love.

[@deadhouseplant7862]

The part where it says "open hand or closed fist would be fine" gets me every time

[@the-factoid234]

Dead Houseplant yeah, the fact that he’s so desensitized to the pain that either one is interchangeable fucks me up too

[@xoxoriat]

Oh god

[@deadhouseplant7862]

hol up why tf do i have so many likes jesus christ

[@silverco2560]

Hozier was so on point with that line! Being indifferent to pain is a common thing survivors of abuse do because when you’re abused for long periods of time, it comes to a point where you unconsciously decide to be numb to your emotions as to not suffer so much anymore, it’s a defense mechanism. It takes years, sometimes decades of therapy to learn how to be comfortable being vulnerable again because the biggest scar abusive relationships leave are emotional scars. I don’t know if this song was based on his personal experiences, but if they are not, he totally did his research right.

[@deadhouseplant7862]

(Thanks for so many likes holy jesus)

[@TRexRAWWR1]

many men never speak out about abuse because people expect them to not feel bad or sad, also because women get abused more people are more inclined to reverse the blame. Its sad but its true, abuse of any kind is wrong, male on male, woman on woman, woman on male, male on woman. Its never ok

[@mori2959]

It's not more common in male to female abuse its that woman are or will paint themselves as a victim and as the weaker party

[@corakeys5445]

Are you saying that female victim’s abuse is less valid. Abuse is abuse and that you would even think less is disgusting. For a long time society made women the “weaker party” male to female abuse is more common because it was the norm for so long. This does NOT make ANYONE’S abuse invalid.

[@mori2959]

@@corakeys5445 no im a victim myself I mean men won't speak up because woman will act the victim when it is in fact the man who is the victim so people won't believe the guy as much and this causes men to speak to a lot lot less, sorry for the misunderstanding

[@corakeys5445]

PeppermintValentine Goth ok thanks I’m also sorry for the misunderstanding, I reacted harshly.

[@alyssadyer4096]

I find it interesting how he frames it as a love song. Only realized when I heard open-handed or closed fists.

[@runningwolfpup1293]

"I walk my days on a wire" God I felt that. Always one wrong word or minor fuckup away from getting it.

[@eatyourdamnapples5658]

completely off-topic, but I feel like I've seen you before

[@icebiirb9440]

moonkitti! also you dont deserve that kind of treatement- nobody does.

[@jellyfishyy]

same :/ except it’s not from my s/o, just getting yelled at and upsetting my dad

[@brooke7750]

the "oh mamma don't fuss over me" line makes me break down crying every time

[@Elucie7575]

fuckin' same. gets me everytime.

[@corinthian55]

same!!!!

[@peeppeeped]

same bro idk why it always gets me 😭

[@EzekielAcevedo-z2l]

That part 💔

[@rawr6947]

to all of you males: your pain is valid. your feelings are valid. you are valid. you aren’t weak, you are human. i love you, stay safe.

[@marienoca8108]

My bad I accidentally disliked this comment for a sec, I fixed it tho!!

[@edvardhermano8697]

thank you ava

[@edvardhermano8697]

Donovan Reign wtf...

[@prod.byangelus1671]

Needed this. Thank you.

[@manofthemist2714]

really needed to hear something like this, thank you

[@nadija7697]

y’all are undermining the line “blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine” idk why but that just hits harder than the rest of the lyrics to me

[@kyle996]

i never understood that lyric. what does it mean to you?

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

@@kyle996 imo opinion here’s what it brings to mind: The abuse is emotional and verbal as well as just physical, and even the physical abuse doesn’t tend to leave a mark. On the rare occasions that any visible damage is caused, it’s likely the abuser makes attempts to compensate for that by being overly sweet and pretending to be concerned and really remorseful. That is at least how it’s been in bad relationships I’ve experienced. So I always kind of took it to mean something along the lines of “it’s not that bad because you rarely ever physically hurt me, and even then it’s bittersweet because that’s when you’re the most attentive and lovely to me.”

[@gsiya4023]

I ducking know

[@gsiya4023]

@@kyle996someone said this but In Japanese paintings cheeries are considered rare and death ig So him saying blood is rare kinda draws to that See the OG comment on the original video

[@thejadedcommenter7371]

Does it hit harder than she does?

[@jamiehatesyou9175]

As a male victim of domestic abuse, this song means so much to me. Like I can relate to songs about female victims as well because abuse is abuse but there's something about hearing one specifically about a male victim hits different. I don't talk about it to people coz there's a deep level of shame surrounding it, but this song makes me feel so heard and understood. I'm so grateful to Hozier for making this❤️

[@f4iryc4tm0th3r]

you’re so strong

[@jamiehatesyou9175]

@@f4iryc4tm0th3r Thank you

[@Virtualexist]

Love you bro! Hope you are good now. Take care of yourselves. I have huge respect for you. I have been kinda emotionally abused by someone who left me and moved back to her ex, leaving me stranded. She went back to her world, and mine collapsed. And well guess what, I still love her, and shedding the aches slowly. A lot fo men are victims of the abuse which might not even be visible from the exterior and they themselves are unaware of it. Please take care okay? You matter so much. A kind heart like yours.

[@bubblegum03]

Oh but she loves Like sleep to the freezing Holy shit this line gives me chills, what a desperate warmth to crave despite the danger.

[@MoonlitPhoenix0]

as someone freezing right now, this line hits differently. also read your comment as it came up so here's my like

[@cesscaellao3052]

It's really impactful. Drives it home that even tho it's what you want above anything else, it's not what's good for you.

[@thejadedcommenter7371]

Being so cold, so desperate for warmth that you’d willingly drift off into unconsciousness to escape it, even though you know that, without that warmth, you may never wake up.

[@Neutral_Tired]

Also, when someone is freezing to death they get very tired, but if they go to sleep it'll probably kill them

[@louisemuir1492]

But seriously who did this to him I'm gonna throw hands

[@kay-zk7jv]

im so sorry but "i'm gonna throw hands"

[@nathanmiller9381]

@@kay-zk7jv swing fist? push knuckle? propel pain?

[@gnarlybastard3353]

Louise Muir Lol, I don’t think it’s been done to him. That’s what I thought at first but he said his songs aren’t based on his real life experiences.

[@xfairy3800]

Honestly

[@carolinestafford4960]

Gonna have me holding them down with talons

[@kingabroad1452]

“You don’t understand. I must’ve done something wrong for her to be angry with me. It only happens sometimes..... I could never hit her back! I love her too much to lay a finger on her. If she feels it’s necessary then I will accept the blame” A friend of mine who went through this heard it with me for the first time and he burst into tears knowing what he had with her was toxic. This happens too often than we think. A light should be shed on all kinds of domestic abuse. Especially mental illness of men who have gone through this!

[@Ratking008]

I hope hes better now

[@ghostpercs]

she’d be mentally and physically abusive. she’d always play the victim and would tell others i’d abuse her. one day i just got up and left on my motorcycle. i remember the cold wind biting my face and my nose and cheeks growing cold and rosy. once i got home, yeah i cried. we guys go through it too, but we won’t say anything in fear of being called weak and such. i’m tired of that shit so yeah, there’s my story. edit: thank you guys for the kind words. i get teary eyed every time i see the supportive words. i’m doing way better then before. of course i still struggle, trust issues, anxiety, depression, etc, but i’ve learned to manage it. your kind words give me more motivation to strive for the better. thank you again, and i hope you all are doing great, i’m proud of you. :)

[@ookreek5374]

God, that’s terrible... people need to learn that women aren’t the only victims of domestic abuse. I hope you’re doing better, you deserve to be happy.

[@ghostpercs]

i’m doing way better. sadly i haven’t opened myself up for a relationship with anyone, but it’s okay. i still got as long as i got. :)

[@itswoozi]

hey, im so sorry you went through that. your story isnt any less than others just because youre a man. im proud of you for walking away, and im proud of you for telling us. i dont know you, but im proud of you. you are so strong, being abused doesnt make you weak. youre valid. youre loved. you deserve nothing but happiness.

[@ghostpercs]

thank you so much. it truly means a lot, you have no idea how much these words i’m receiving mean. :)

[@huntera.5801]

Men are always brushed to the side when talking about abuse and it makes me sick. Just because youre a man doesnt mean you cant be abused too and its even harder for men to get help because of this. Im so sorry you went through that and im so proud of you for getting yourself out of that horrible situation. Sending my best wishes for you

[@feedmepaperr]

Let's all thank him for bringing attention to F to M abuse. It's more common than you think (especially mental abuse), but us men can be too.. Idk, embarrassed? To bring it to attention.

[@daniellebrown3700]

Mr. Goldfish Amen! I really feel sorry for you guys. In today’s society, you may struggle a bit more than us.

[@simultaneouslyimuserfriend1476]

Yeah I agree, I'm a woman, but unlike most women today, I believe in equal rights for BOTH men and women, not just for women *cough Metoomovement*

[@avocadoguacamola7872]

If you look at the video, the woman is the one who's abused, contradicting the lyrics. I'm not giving opinions bout anything bcz I 100% agree with you.

[@woodlandpricess]

Men: your feelings and experiences are valid and fuck who says otherwise

[@MoonlitPhoenix0]

in some cases, too kind to bring it to attention

[@sin9346]

as a wlw who was with a girl in a relationship like this... (I got out a little over 3 years ago now) it is so dangerous to think that girls cant be abusive too. and I almost didn't leave her because of that

[@krisztinarieger3233]

I hope you know you are very strong because you left for your own safety. it's the hardest thing to leave someone who is abusive and toxic. my ex girlfriend (I'm a wlw as well) cheated on me, threw me out, then got jealous and angry whenever someone tried to approach me and she hit me all the time even if a girl just tried to be my friend. at first she did it with a pillow, but the last time (a year ago) it was with her closed fist and his full power against my head. I've never seen her like that before, but I thought I got to know her in our 1 year relationship (that ender half year before this incident). at first I thought it was my fault, but then I realised it's not me who is guilty. I also came to the realisation that I need to let go of toxic people. so here I am, in a healhy and happy relationship now with a wonderful girl :) I wish you the best and I hope you have already found happiness :)

[@stormy7334]

as someone who just got out of an abusive wlw relationship as well a bit ago, I'm so so proud of you for leaving. I know it was hard and you did it anyway. I hope you're doing okay

[@sin9346]

stormy ! thank you and I’m doing much much better now. :) I hope you are too, I’m so sorry you had to go through that

[@alexstowe2669]

I feel that so much like 2 years ago I had a relationship like that

[@sowhat5509]

You're a man

[@cas6174]

he loves her so much and it’s clear she doesn’t love him back. he’s become so dependent on her, so infatuated with her, that whatever she does to him or doesn’t do to him just...doesn’t matter. as long as they have semi-sweet moments together, he doesn’t care. this song is so heartbreaking that i can’t even describe it

[@cas6174]

The one girl Depends i hope everything’s ok now but if it’s not, please reach out and get some help❤️❤️❤️

[@cas6174]

The one girl Depends i’m glad you’re ok❤️❤️and you’re welcome

[@britneymybeloved2979]

yes true i think this can also go with feelings there are plenty of abusive relationships where both parties have feelings i think thats one of the main things as to why people dont leave they cant see that you dont hurt someone you love

[@rileee.2834]

@@britneymybeloved2979 sometimes both sides are blinded by manipulation, so they continue to love. even though they know they're abusing, or being abused, theres a part of them that genuinely tries. that wants the passion, the tenderness, and craves it no matter the consequence. such a bittersweet love.

[@elisebrito2402]

at around 1:17 you can hear birds in the background. that wasn’t edited in, that wasn’t added in post. hozier snuck onto the roof of a building (at sunrise i think?) and was recording this live and the birds were caught on the recording. this song was recorded in one take and was released with no editing whatsoever. he did this all in one shot with no autotune, nothing. raw dogged one of the greatest modern classics of all time imo. ethereal

[@moramaraschio8911]

Hozier doing the lyrics about a woman who abuses a man but the music video a man that abuse of a woman its just-

[@Pepsithegoat]

Right

[@tamaradimarco878]

Maybe it's to show that abuse is genderless and can happen to anyone?

[@fortune5903]

well i believe that it's actually both of them abusing each other as the song actually says "the way she shows I'm hers AND she is mine", so possibly mutual abuse

[@xtonibx5770]

@@fortune5903 Pretty sure the "and" is not a sign of mutuality. She's showing that he is hers and *also* showing that she is his.

[@amani.1865]

@@fortune5903 I think it's to show more of the two sidedness of her ways by being abusive but yet seeking validation and love in the same breath

[@rougemochi429]

the part where he says "oh but she loves, like sleep to the freezing" made my heart sink so much its amazing. you know when you fall asleep in the ice and snow while freezing you would die. (unless soneone saves you but yeah) edit: also when he says "it looks ugly, but its clean. oh mamma dont fuss over me." i think that part is saying that his mother saw one of his wounds and hes trying to play it off as something else. which really adds a lot of dimention to the story hes telling. idk its one of my favorite parts

[@sskrbhusal7847]

"Oh but she loves like sleep to freezing" The depth this line holds is beyond mentions

[@areomorales6511]

The “oh mama don’t fuss over me” line gets me every time.

[@bushrat97]

these lyrics are straight up poetry 😭💖

[@Rain-zh6lb]

Check out Coraline by Måneskin if you like beautiful lyrics like this. It’s in Italian but there are lyric videos on KZbin with the English translation for you

[@joeyoey9456]

@@Rain-zh6lb i have one on my channel :)

[@masa.dragana]

I know this is about an abusive romantic relationship but this reminds me of me and my mother . Not in ALL lyrics but she is mostly sweet but then so so sour

[@hurricanechild217]

I hope you're okay. I don't know your age so I hope you've escaped that toxic behavior or will be able to escape that too. As someone who also has a toxic mother, I understand the hurt of it.

[@boner7042]

I hope you're doing okay and you escaped the situation. Please, take care of yourself

[@jadensteely9719]

honestly same. this is my first time listening to it and im in big boi tears

[@koscbiodrowapelagiusa]

Oh, same.

[@lucile-7374]

I have a toxic mother too, love

[@ladybugscanswim]

I was watching "Things your FBI agent says" and he said, "you've been listening to hoziers cherry wine on repeat are you really okay?" Or something around those lines and I feel personally attacked.

[@Jisungsleftbabytoe]

i understand this song is about domestic abuse but the music brings me such an indescribable peace. with covid going on rn, this song is almost a nice little pillow to hug before going to bed

[@Sevren_]

It’s the melody and the soft voice

[@tyresen.5523]

I’m glad you never had to experience this

[@Jisungsleftbabytoe]

@@tyresen.5523 thank you, i’m sorry if you have

[@abandonedstairwell]

Hey it’s been 4 years how are you now?❤️

[@Jisungsleftbabytoe]

@@abandonedstairwell its been four years and I’ve seen hozier in concert twice! This song still gives me the same peace and made me cry in concert lol but it was amazing

[@whosaprettykitty5076]

Third verse kinda hurts me the most. “Her fight and fury is fiery Oh, but she loves like sleep to the freeze Sweet and right and merciful, I’m all but washed in the tide of her breathing”. He ignores the pain because of the love he receives. When they have sex is when things are peaceful, and when things are peaceful, the abused are reminded of why they love the abuser and why they can’t leave. I also take note that this part being about sex is yet another male victim’s curse. We as a society has not only made sex so important to women, but men. The difference is, most women are taught about consent and taught that it’s okay to not want to have sex. Sex shouldn’t be the way someone shows they love you. I notice that with a lot of the abused women, men manipulate by doing things like buying flowers, or going on dates, but a lot of abused men are manipulated by sex. This is the way their abuser “rewards” them. It makes me cry because no matter how much pain is caused, the abused stay because of that hope that the person they love will change, and become the person they were when they first started. So many people asked the abused, “well, you stay int the relationship, why? They’re hurting you, leave them”, but they forget that the abused has once fell in love with a different person and that hope that that person will come back isn’t going to go away. Love is powerful, and although it is good most of the time, it can be the thing that kills us.

[@em12837]

Not crying. Totally not crying.

[@barkbarkbark2940]

This was really deep, thank you. Like actually thank you.

[@radachelkollie4048]

This song exposes a feeling in me that I cannot explain. Apart from its meaning, the melody is so beautifully played.

[@mouldylungs]

"She is not around most of the time" actually reminds me of how I felt like I didn't know my (ex)girlfriend, and felt like she wasn't there. It wasn't her, it couldn't be. This can't be what I fell in love with, can it? I honestly still don't know

[@krangitebacon5039]

abuse tends to stem from massive ego issues, abusers arent really "themselves" when they are abusing, usually their controlling toxic side is the result of a defensive ego that came about from trauma in their own lives. none of this excuses or makes it okay, but thats probably why it felt like you never got to know her, she was always protecting herself through a lens of ego and control, showing her true self would be a weakness, and she learned long ago to never accept weakness.

[@beetljam792]

this is about domestic abuse if anyone didn't pick up on it

[@xtonibx5770]

@@EhvanTea "if anyone didn't pick up on it" not everyone knew. don't be a dick lmao

[@SacrificialOrange6218]

You don't say

[@xtonibx5770]

@@SacrificialOrange6218 ??

[@icecreamciara1882]

omg idk why but i thought he was talking abt period blood tasting like cherry wine... dont attack i love the song....

[@hotcheeto8076]

@@icecreamciara1882 same he even said smthn abt her staining the sheets of someone else

[@professorsad7195]

This brings back memories of an ex, that...wasnt the best, I was trapped in that relationship, my stuff would often get broken, sometimes on me, she treated me like hell, but I never shared my story at all with anyone, this song makes me feel like its okay to finally share

[@sunshi4929]

This hit so hard.. though it’s about an abusive relationship, all I can hear is my toxic friendship with my best friend of almost 8 years. Having to tiptoe around, changing, molding myself to make her be okay with me, and although it’s with words, she knows my weaknesses and how to hit the hardest. I still can’t let it go.

[@ramsay___]

I hope you'll be okay. (:

[@alien5724]

What sucks is this isn't a love song but it sounds like one but that's what i love about his music he trys to talk about a sensitive topic in his own way his beautiful voice

[@timelordrose9074]

my first relationship was with a woman who was mentally abusive, once i got out of that relationship, i went on a string of short-term relationships, simply because i couldn't stand feeling "alone." my most recent relationship was with a man who was older, and also mentally abused me by using his power over me and playing the victim. this song makes me feel So Much, because it is exactly how it feels in the early stages of an abusive relationship. you're so intoxicated with the other person, you don't recognize the warning signs. i love this song and it's quickly become a comfort song for me.

[@niicoleoreilly]

im so sorry i really hope you find the person you deserve and happiness comes to you

[@pumpkin8188]

i normally never let things get to me but this song is so so heartbreaking i can't even begin to comprehend

[@Tea.and.Wonderland]

I had a time sort of like this, every vibe and message is so accurate and real. She would never love me, and I knew it well. I would almost beg her to just hurt me instead of ignore me. I would rather be hurt than ignored by the only person I could ever want. Falling out of love with her has made me another person entirely. She blames me because I wanted to feel happy and loved.

Her eyes and words are so icy Oh, but she burns Like rum on the fire Hot and fast and angry As she can be I walk my days on a wire It looks ugly, but it's clean Oh, momma, don't fuss over me The way she tells me I'm hers and she is mine Open hand or closed fist would be fine The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine Calls of guilty thrown at me All while she stains The sheets of some other Thrown at me so powerfully Just like she throws With the arm of her brother But I want it, it's a crime That she's not around most of the time The way she shows me I'm hers and she is mine Open hand or closed fist would be fine The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine Her fight and fury is fiery Oh, but she looks Like sleep to the freezing Sweet and right and merciful I'm all but washed In the tide of her breathing And it's worth it, it's divine I have this some of the time The way she shows me I'm hers and she is mine Open hand or closed fist would be fine The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine

@I don’t exist yes, i wanted to sing and the lyrics are a little slow in the video, is there a problem?

@I don’t exist It wasn't for me :D

[@natalietaytar7854]

@I don’t exist wasnt useless to me either 😄

[@alexstowe2669]

Thank you I was having issues paying attention and not going through comments and this helped

[@annecardoso8934]

this helped me, thanks Rebecca :)

[@louisemuir1492]

This is the black parade/northern downpour of hozier

[@daniellebrown3700]

Louise Muir fr

[@PrimrosePetals]

And if you're unfortunate enough you can suffer the effects of all three Like me

[@aidennance292]

@@PrimrosePetals same

[@ed-xq5jd]

Yup

[@theroyalmilkteamelted3883]

@@ed-xq5jd your username is the best

[@phillinedenniezejulle]

TIL this song is sad.. I rly liked the intro, the tabs, the tune, it made me fell for it as it's very easy and clean to the ears, sweet and mellow.. I listen to but nver rly knew the exact lyrics, not givin it so much attention and it changed today.. Ohdearme

[@sadCasserole]

This is my first time listening to Hozier, its been in my reccomended a lot latley so I figured I'd give it a go. I'll be back with my final thoughts after i listen. Edit: My Opinion: I really loved it, his voice was so calming and it had that natural sound, the soft guitar complimented it perfectly. I definitely will be checking out more of his music.

[@ghostlemons5793]

I agree I only recently got into his music but its very beautiful to listen too. I'd recommend, if you havent heard it, 'like real people do'. It has that very acoustic, gentle sound to it

[@linn6701]

Replace “sweet as cherry wine” with “reeks of cherry wine” when you sing along. You get the actual meaning of the song. Holy shit.

[@Cc-hl6lv]

this song being my #2 in my Spotify wrapped 🧎🏻‍♀️

[@drawingjordy]

This reminds me of The Oh Hellos’ album, Dear Wormwood. Especially Bitter Water. Both make me cry every time, and are about being in abusive relationships

[@fayelockwood7656]

When this applies to your family members too...

[@mydiaryentries5109]

close family members💔

[@skyhideaway]

I listened to this song in spotify so I didn't pay much attention to the lyrics but now that I understand what it's about damn I'm just glad that more people are speaking up about men getting abused.

[@lovelyladyfeet3940]

As a feminist I believe that men and women should be seen and treated as equals. No matter your gender identity, or sexual orientation no one should be abused or mistreated in a relationship

[@ginger6readspaceman]

Exactly, true feminism

[@migel2843]

I think that song's like this accually have a power to turn people to the main character.Or just to turn people into better version of themselfes.I hope it makes sense to some of y'all,but song's like this have magic in them. -English is not my first language,i'm sorry if I made any mistakes-

[@jaymie5752]

This song hurts me on a level I didn't know I could be hurt

[@opinionatedhuman5551]

I am a female so I don’t know how this feels but people forget men have problems and horrid things happen to them too but everyone focuses on the females as the show there pain more (in other cases females hide pain too) at the end of the day we are human and shit hurts . Have a great day :)

[@beckyloughrey1849]

This man is so talented, most of his songs have a beautiful deep and important message, like this song, its speaking about f to m domestic abuse, take me to church is about how the catholics treat lgbtq+. Its all so beautiful

[@minitureharlot6131]

As someone who just got out of an abusive wlw relationship this hits hard. She would ignore me for weeks and refused to say she loved me constantly. The things we go through when we wear rose colored glasses..

[@IzabellaFullerton5sos]

this song is so beautiful and powerful, thank you hozier for making such a beautiful song addressing male victims of domestic abuse by the hands of women! so powerful and the lyrics are so loud while being sung so softly.

[@ragingnovice2712]

I haven't seen it brought up but the, "mama don't fuss over me" line makes this feel like a young guy with no idea the damage being done to him, or that it isn't normal in healthy relationships, and it hurts so much more

[@stevecooper7883]

I feel like it refers also to the mother who abused him as a child, the pattern continues

[@nefelitsakiridi]

Open hand or closed fist, that line reminds me so much of Johnny Depp and Amber heard, screw that woman

[@amaranthasmr5052]

I believe it was Johnny who was threatening to burn and drown Amber, not the other way around.

[@nefelitsakiridi]

@@amaranthasmr5052 the media have reported only the things Amber had said in the original lawsute, putting aside all the proof there was against it. You should look up the proof and witness testimonies, I think they are all gathered somewhere, it's really chilling

[@stonedlasagua3043]

Amaranth ASMR, bro have you actually done any research on the issue? johnny depp has proof of most of the things he said amber has done to him, amber has no proof whatsoever and as someone who’s gone through a similar situation in my life it’s very disheartening to see the woman with no proof being believed over the man with proof simply because she’s a woman and viewed as ‘weaker’ so yeah idk what ur intentions are with this comment but honestly fuck you if you’re defending her

[@Sevren_]

@@stonedlasagua3043 I feel for you

[@abby1909]

@@amaranthasmr5052 yeah for sure dude. cutting off someone's finger, that's nothing. threatening someone, however, is evil. you're dense as fuck

[@Elucie7575]

i want so dearly to catch this song in a tiny vial to drink. i love it so much.

[@myselfat13]

this is just so pure.

[@tylerhernandez5116]

If you pay it sounds sweet but it talks about a abusive relationship

[@ikrame8442]

Its about abuse

[@mf-zd4zq]

Rᴇᴀʟ ᴍᴇ im guessing they meant the love that he still has even with all the bad times

[@magmag8256]

@@mf-zd4zq I think they mean the protagonist is pure. they love wholly despite the abuse- isn't that the most pure thing? the innocence?

[@adelaide6946]

Ooga booga I am a coogar nah dude, romanticizing the idea of loving someone despite their abuse is dangerous ://

[@java4656]

Binged this song about 7 months ago. January 2021. I never properly listened to the lyrics for a good few weeks. And then I realised why I was so addicted to this song - it was about learning to love abusive relationships, the same thing I was going through. Every last word resonated with me once I read through it. I got out of that relationship after a year in June. She left me for another guy she had been talking to for a few months. This is coming from a girl who constantly accused me of cheating on her with people that stretched as far my step-sister. I'm very happy now, and I really hope that anybody who's currently trapped in toxicity can make a break for it. You *can* do it. It doesn't matter what they say. You can.

[@camillevroegryk5585]

that warm good feeling you get when you discover a new song, and have it on all week

[@JayJay-vm5sc]

Growing up I watched my father get abused by my mother, he never talked about it or did anything to try and get away from it just took the hits and the abuse and carried on so I thought that was normal in relationships and sadly I got into many abusive relationships with different men. But I just got out of one and my father has been separated from my mother for years now and we are both doing better.

[@babi6174]

I've been listening to this song for years without actually trying to comprehend the lyrics. I found out recently what the song actually means and man, i love it more than ever.

[@andrewan6326]

The lyrics are so poetic it’s crazy

[@noahsalemhattingh7362]

hands down one of my favourite songs

[@jm4rshh]

Ooooh this so nice just give me a few hours to cry I'll be back

[@Sam-xx6hq]

to everyone, you matter. we may be a very small part of this universe but every speck of the world matters. don't give up. take it from someone who has tried it before. this life is only the beginning and you never want to miss a part of the first few chapters. please just take this message as you need it. life is worth the fight. life is divine if you make it that way. blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine.

[@revokedlight6843]

I really appreciate the narrative of this song. Most of his music is in a sort of first/second person pov, but this is more like a telling of a story, but from first person. It's like he's telling someone else of something he's currently going through because he can't bring himself to confront the woman he's with, all the while finding excuses for her actions and why he stays through the abuse.

[@amandalefaye1889]

I've been listening to this a lot lately; it reminds me of a trauma bond I still have and makes me feel not so alone or so abnormal for missing him.

[@twigsforthem]

Me: listening with headphones while studying Me: this is a beautiful son- The end: HDGHSJUTRCFKUSS Me: checks my ears to see if I'm deaf

[@deima74123698]

Love it 🖤 I love that I found your KZbin account, you choose the best songs and images for them 😍

[@lol.whataloser]

"𝑯𝒆𝒓 𝒔𝒎𝒊𝒍𝒆 𝒉𝒊𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒇𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒕𝒐𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒄𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒔𝒕 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒍." -𝑱𝒐𝒉𝒏 𝑴𝒂𝒓𝒌 𝑮𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒏

[@labyrinth2008]

This is such a beautiful song i swear

[@angelmcpherson2085]

“Calls of guilty thrown at me all while she stains the sheets of some other” is just pointing out how the abusive partner can place all the blame on their victim for their own wrong decisions and horrible actions, like cheating. And the victim truly believes that it is their own fault

[@jade.r4947]

Listening to this at 2:00am on repeat while crying because its the only semi healthy coping skill I have

[@unscrupulous_shrimp3266]

Yay! My journey through KZbin recommended has brought me back to Hozier!

[@densvictory5194]

Not really a victim of domestic violence but I am a victim of emotional abuse, I am the youngest of three and being the youngest just made me be the punching bag for everything regardless of whether it was my fault, partially my fault, or not at all. As a child I was always called a liar, a useless worthless child, an airhead, and many others and I grew up with those words that i wanted to change but no believed I changed. They kept calling me those kinds of names despite the fact that I have changed and soon, I grew desensitized to hearing them that I became a distant child to my family. That only proved to be the wrong move because not only did I keep hearing them more often but they upped it, making me feel worse than before and its harder to keep a strong front when inside I just wanted to disappear. My only solace is running away from them and sleeping in my friends' houses but even that has its limits before I return back to that toxic place called home.

[@_squishy]

It really breaks my heart that in this day and age that we still have people who believe that men can not be abused whether it be mentally, emotionally, or physically😔 let’s hope for a better future

[@rooowtwx]

someone needs to give this man the Nobel literature prize please

[@momjeanzz]

hi lesbians

[@magnoliapalmgren2637]

schlatt profile pic :)

[@momjeanzz]

@@magnoliapalmgren2637 yes! :)

[@erickakeller907]

hi

[@alexisramos904]

hi

[@user-ym7rp9qb8d]

bi but v close! hi

[@francesca-810]

Who actually disliked this?!

[@shi2222]

Francesca•-• its satan

[@Kaiisdreaming]

The abusers

[@noppera3495]

People who dont like it

[@xsenpaailx9934]

Do everyone have to like anything u like ?

[@scorchedrosearts7821]

The people who were crying too hard to see they clicked the wrong thing

[@sophiamacgregor2011]

I'm crying his voice is angelec God and the story behind it is sad but he tells it so good

[@Lee-tl9iw]

i know this is about two lovers, but am i the only one who thinks about their mom? like, even though she hurts me, i keep coming back for her love and acceptance? even though she makes sure you know no one except her will love you. idk, i guess i don't make sense.

[@mariesayer781]

My mom does this too when she’s mad, but when she’s not mad I swear she is the best mother to have lived and all the times she’s mad and made awful remarks wash away. I wish I can make up my mind but I love her too much

[@Lee-tl9iw]

@@mariesayer781 I am so sorry that this happens. I know exactly what you mean - but after some time you get so used to it that a trust issue barrier comes up. I know that you'll be okay, maybe not now or in a year's time, or even 10 years' time, but we'll be alright someday

[@opinionatedhuman5551]

End of the day we are all human and shit hurts. Have a good day :)

[@angelamello7720]

Is the "And it's worth it, it's devine. I have this some of the time" for me that makes me cry like a baby

[@fgeste4409]

Sweet. Hozier can't seem to remember the words to this one But who cares 247 ❤️

[@nicollcortes7765]

I love this song

[@koolaid1364]

The hardest part about being raised in an abusive household is that it’s soooo hard to make healthy relationships with people because you’re so used to being mistreated that you seek other abusive people in your life.

[@28MUSE]

OKAYYY!! This just got too relatable too fast🎶 Funny how we only need one line or 4 words, to relate to the whole song I'm a huge fan of making stuff relatable

[@muttthingy9908]

i know this song isnt about a mother and child but this song reminds me of my mother a lot.

[@soph4081]

this song is so important

[@aldamis8384]

"But I want it. It's a crime. That she's not around all of the time." How he says it's a crime, as if to describe something bad, but then follows it up with that next line. What poetry...

[@lisamariemcc5270]

I always hear beautiful melodies first then have to look up the lyrics.. now I'm crying 😭

[@Aaria-k]

I am here after my bestfriend (basically my sis because we are so close) sang this song. I absolutely love this song! I have it on repeat!!!!

[@eelder7144]

Why does this song remind me about my mom? Just like, what she's done to me before, how she's treated me.

[@boosay1146]

I love Hozier

[@lostperson5482]

Some girls at my school performed this song in assembly. I’ve finally found it

[@thedepressedpainter8880]

Me: I like this so- Me: [Listens to the lyrics] Me: Wow I love this song. This is so sad but good... Damn.

[@sopita8841]

besides the lyrics this song is like a lullaby lmao

[@soph4081]

this guitar melody is the default soundtrack of my mind

[@Rain-zh6lb]

Ok but this song is super nice for daydreamers and people who struggle to fall asleep so please put your best fantasies below for us to dream about to fall asleep to. I’ll start.

[@Rain-zh6lb]

You can stop reading this and carry it on in your own imagination at any point in the story but here’s how far I went: You’re in the woods with your friends. You’ve sort of lost the path but it’s ok because you’ve found a small clearing amongst the pine trees. The sun has almost set so you light a fire whislt your friends go and find some big tree stumps for you all to sit on around the fire. When you’re done your friend gets a guitar out and you all take it in turns to sing to each other in a slightly competitive way. It’s all in good fun though. You’re teasing each other but also complimenting each other’s voices. One person has been watching you a bit more than the others. They tell you your voice is super calming and then they smile at you and then look away and pick up the guitar and starts singing themself. You then join them and eventually everyone else joins in singing around the fire. Then you hear a crack from behind you… (finish it off in your head)

[@emersen2952]

i’m sorry but the “it looks ugly” has me on the floor

[@imbreakingdown2683]

I have some sort of connection to this song. I've been bullied for years by girls. Their abuses still pain me every time I remember. I don't know how to put this in words but please, if you bullied someone in your past, try to reach them out. Saying little words like "sorry" even though in DM's would help them alleviate. You can't fix them but you can help them with the least to build themselves. A little acknowledgment that you're the one who did wrong would maybe save a life.

[@sageauthor31]

One in three women and one in five men. Domestic abuse affects everybody and it’s a lot more common than you’d think.