Husband Abandoned Me When His Ex Manipulated Him Into Believing That I Was Pregnant With Another...

Husband Abandoned Me When His Ex Manipulated Him Into Believing That I Was Pregnant With Another Man's Baby. So I Left Him but 8 Years Later He's Back & Want to See His Son.
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[@low-keydrama1260]

Surprise surprise, he was cheating with the ex who rejected him and was looking for a way out of his marriage to be with her. Accusing OP was all projection of his own unfaithful actions. He only came back because Jessica cheated (surprise surprise) and he hoped that OP and his son would just be waiting for him. Nah screw that. He threw that family away, and cannot just come crawling back thinking he can take over. OP and their son are basically second best. He made his bed, now he has to lie in it.

[@FullMoonOctober]

Kid's probably better off the way things happened. He never had to deal with the divorce, he got a good stepdad that cared enough to adopt him, and he never had to meet or be in any way hurt or negatively influenced by the OP's ex. OP might have been petty, but she's keeping a toxic, wishy-washy person out of her son's life.

[@kumailmehdi1005]

@@FullMoonOctoberDoesn't change the fact she's deliberately keeping the son away from his biological father at this point we get it she's angry and holds resentment about all the pathetic things he did by cheating on her and leaving her and his son for 8 years but if he really wants to be just in his son's life again that's a right she can't snatch from him or better yet sue him for the 8 years of child support he's been missing out on if he agrees to pay the past dues aswell as the current dues going forward then I think we can say he genuinely wants a relationship with him

[@darklordsatan4383]

@@kumailmehdi1005 Being a sperm donor doesn't give him the right to the child. He wanted the child dead. He wanted her to abort him, so he was never born. Why should she let him around the boy he wanted to kill? He doesn't get to come back later like; "I know I tried to force mommy to kill you, but I wanna be a daddy now, take me back plz?" Stop being delusional.

[@kumailmehdi1005]

@@darklordsatan4383 nothing delusional about it at all/all the bickering your doing here won't change the fact he's still the biological father even if given all the facts about what he did and stuff like that what if the kid grows up even after knowing what his bio father did but if he still be's like i want to meet my bio father a few times just to know him cause at the end of the day no matter how much of a cunt nathan was as a husband and we can't change that biological fact but now he actually wants to be in the kids life that doesn't mean he has to be in op's life

[@YesNoMaybeSooo]

@@kumailmehdi1005 to get to adopt a child the father has to “ give up all rights “ . So he gave up rights and abandoned the child . This a child you don’t get do overs to be a parent!!

[@Joeylikesgames-ku9mx]

"I hope you didn't sleep with a dead beat," Bro, she has been since she met you

[@aaronwishard7093]

That is almost word for word what I said!

[@ReinaAfricana]

I thought the same thing

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Yep, I said yea, she did and he just walked out the door!

[@arianawishart2303]

He went straight to anortion not even a dna test first. Though I could missed it I have to reread it.

[@ChrisSmithBass]

Pure facts.

[@reillycurran8508]

It was harsh but I disagree that OP took it too far. Acknowledging him as the biological father could have opened up a court challenge for rights and Nathan definitely cannot be trusted with a child.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Exactly! Who wants to deal with that stress and he doesn’t even stop to think that the kid doesn’t even know him because he couldn’t be bothered to come visit or see his baby…so adios scumbag!

[@MsLaetitia26]

It would be very challenging for him almost impossible. Why? He didn't sign the birth certificate, neither care or gave 1 dollar to the child for 8 years. Never called. He already lost his parental rights. I'm not sure but I think they lost it after 3 years of no contact. The court will not side with him. The mom is stable and can provide and he's jobless. Even though he has no right. He should still know. She was wrong for lying to him. But it's good she's working with a therapist.

[@Rosa52]

That isn't the child's fault. I lose all sympathy for parents who keep their children from their other parents

[@mariegiardini]

@@Rosa52 nah. in this case it was just. That man is for the streets he should have thought of that before he let a roach putr nonsense in his ear. The child is innocent but deserves to have a stable two parent home and Nathan gave that up when he threw his marriage away for nothing.

[@ashleyt6840]

@@Rosa52he’s a pos. He denied kid was his and wanted the pregnancy terminated. She wasn’t keeping him from him. He has a dad now and doesn’t need Nathan

[@nekorei2023]

If they cheat *with* you, they will cheat *on* you.

[@boxingfanazM.O.B]

Or like what I did and slept with her cousin. I should have gotten the sister but she was out of state and I wasn't going to fly sand to the beach.

[@rubi6330]

@@boxingfanazM.O.Bbrother what????

[@amyhughes5926]

Pp

[@darthmadeus]

No truer words have been said. This comment needs to be pinned and a billion upvotes

[@calico_queen8976]

Imagine bragging about getting someone who's not loyal or has no respect for his partner.

[@sophiaisabelle01]

Husband didn’t know what he was getting himself into. Leaving a pregnant woman safe and stranded on her own.

[@Ballinawalrus-t2z]

At first it seemed super suspicious that the wife got pregnant during the time the husband was as going on the “promotion trips” but his reaction seems like he was just trying to dump the baby because of stress

[@FullMoonOctober]

@@Ballinawalrus-t2z It's not like he was gone months at a time, and it usually takes several days/weeks before most women figure out they're pregnant.

[@LillianBartlesby]

​@@Ballinawalrus-t2z Why would her getting pregnant be "super suspicious"? She was married and in love.

[@wednesdayschildfullofwoe]

​@@Ballinawalrus-t2z "super suspicious"?? Yea, because you know EXACTLY when he was away, and you know EXACTLY when she conceived!🙄

[@jdjsksbsvsn]

@@Ballinawalrus-t2zyk she said he was going on quick trips once a month? even if we assume that the trips were a week long event it leaves us with like 23/4 days to concive a child u r a rly dumb individual

[@ReinetteRenee16]

My petty ass would say you didn't want him as your son, so I found a man who did. Making it clear it was his son and that he lost all rights.

[@southernflight5078]

Just wait. I'm pretty sure there's a process to get her new husband's name on the birth certificate since the father's name was left blank.

[@shells500tutubo]

@@southernflight5078 That usually happens at the time of adoption.

[@jdjsksbsvsn]

@@shells500tutuboalways lmao

[@DarkEinherjar]

It's shocking to see anyone having the NERVE to defend the ex-husband... let's see what he did: 1. He was cheating on OP with his ex and lying to her about it all along; 2. When OP got pregnant, he projected his infidelity onto her; 3. HE DEMANDED OP TO STOP THE PREGNANCY JUST TO PROVE HER LOYALTY; 4. He refused to see the son after he was born; 5. Now, EIGHT YEARS LATER, he wants to play happy family with the son he didn't even want alive to begin with. And people think he deserves a second chance? Why? OP is absolutely right: Nathan was never the kid's father, he was just a sp--m donor. The boy already has a father, which is OP's new husband. Nathan has no place in OP's or his son's lives, and deserves every consequence he's facing now.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Yea, 100% guaranteed if she terminated the pregnancy, he wouldn’t have worked on that marriage. He would have just walked away with no guilt of abandoning his child. But should have guilt for asking for the termination to begin with!

[@cerbus6597]

The friend giving the ex a benefit of the doubt and wanting to tell the truth didn’t sit well with me. She probably wasn’t there during her depression.

[@LFanimes333]

Doesn’t justify what she did.

[@shells500tutubo]

@@LFanimes333 It most certainly does. Children get ONE childhood, and Op's son doesn't deserve an occasional drop-in sperm donor disrupting is life. He can look him up when he turns eighteen if he wants to.

[@dokuganryu1565]

​@@LFanimes333When you have a guy not even be willing to get a paternity test after all of that then I'd say he gets what's coming his way.

[@KTA-oc8nw]

he ain't a real husband...

[@i.am.not.a.robot1]

Yea

[@Reikotsu]

Even considering him a “human” would be questionable, let alone “husband”

[@bryn1063]

Its one thing if he left for a few months but 8 years? He had so many chances to just come back and get a paternity test. I agree with op here. It's clear he didn't want to be the child's father until he lost Jessica. If Jessica haven't cheated he'd still be gone.

[@darklordsatan4383]

Imo, he lost the right to be a dad the moment he tried to force the mother to kill the son.

[@lastofadyingbreed4850]

Yeah, even as a men's rights advocate, I can't side with him, he willingly abandoned his own son for eight years, it would be different if OP hid it from him but no he's just a dumb*ss

[@ThePawerStation]

This is kinda the best ending. - Op had her revenge. - Cheating ex got what he deserves. Cheated, alone and realizing he has no chance to have a relationship with his bio-son. Being miserable and knowing how he was manipulated into this. - Op also, realized the value of her mental health, moving on from the past and start therapy. And don't forget, she married a great guy.

[@areszeudion5153]

OP is nta. Ex chose his own ex than his own son. Op made the choice of not putting his name on birth certificate and he's never obliged to pay for child support. Now, 8 years passed. He wanted to be involved in the child's life? Yeah, no. Too much has been said, and too many things have been done. He has no ground to stand in, so deal with it.

[@MisterPuck]

Nah she is the asshole. Not for denying him to see his son you're right he gave that up, but for how she handled it. Lying to him about the situation all those years ago was a huge asshole move. If she had either not replied at all, or simply said something like "You gave up any rights to seeing him when you abandoned us." then that would've been fine, but what she did was horrific. She really proved herself to be a shitty person with that.

[@dvdm7525]

​@@MisterPuck Lol....he wanted to kill the child he now wants to be a father to. Touch some grass, that's not how life works

[@dearinsaniiity]

@@MisterPuck cheater spotted.

[@elithluxe7568]

@@MisterPuckgosh that’s some extreme projection

[@shells500tutubo]

@@MisterPuck What she proved herself to be is a very smart person who has let Nathan believe that the child isn't his, thereby hopefully assuring he won't bother her again.

[@devhxh1558]

3 year with Jessica, 3yrs with OP, 8yrs with Jessica. He is such a time waste. Walking red flag, gud thing OP totally shut him down'

[@kittymilojustice6509]

Funny thing about "I hope you didn't sleep with a deadbeat," cuz she actually DID sleep with a deadbeat (not realizing it was himself)

[@nothingnothing7958]

This husband is such a liar, he apparently never showed up when he knew the kid was his due to shame? No he never showed up because he knew he would have to pay alot of child support.

[@dave4803]

No real man would act like that, she did the best thing moving on.

[@monicasalyer8875]

Why is OP the AH for echoing what her ex had been accusing her of? Telling him the child wasn't his was probably a great catharsis for her.

[@DarkEinherjar]

Yeah, there was never any doubt that he was totally cheating on her with the ex. Cheaters love to project their own infidelity onto their spouses. Oh, and Jessica cheated on him? Who could've seen that coming, right? She was probably cheating on him even before he proposed back then.

[@shells500tutubo]

OMG, she DIDN'T cheat on him.

[@ashleyt6840]

@@shells500tutubohe’s talking about Jessica not op.

[@MrMK211516]

The husband came up with the story the kid wasn't his. Jessica may have egged him on but he thought the baby was an inconvenience for him. When OP told him his first response was cold. He was already bummed. He wasn't manipulated on anything.

[@DragonicGamer32]

Dude was projecting SO hard when he accused his wife of cheating. Not once did he apologize for putting her through that or even admit his fault in it. It was all about him and how HE had been cheated on.

[@MrSircharles05]

OP should have never told Laura what she did. That's the kind of thing you keep to yourself for life.

[@shells500tutubo]

A thousand upvotes to that comment. Too many people just don't know how to just keep certain things to themselves. If she just had to tell someone it should have been a therapist or priest or someone who is legally bound to confidentiality.

[@cerbus6597]

I swear fuck op’s friend for even suggesting she reach out to her ex. It only feels like what she did was out of line when what he did was worst. It just scream holier than thou, so what if he’s spiraling? He didn’t care about op while she was spiraling. He dosent deserve anything after throwing away a good life.

[@southernflight5078]

Someone needs to question that so-called friend.

[@rachelsl4492]

Sounds like Ex was never really over his ex, so OP was a rebound relationship that went on a bit too long; once his ex was back in his life he just needed to find a way to exit, which he did in a deceitful manner. Now that he's been duped by his ex he thinks he can use his family as back up. He thoroughly got he deserves. The ex is extremely fickle and would have let down OP's son in the future, if allowed contact etc.

[@AmareW]

is anyone else annoyed by the OP husband and friend siding with her ex-husband like he refused to see his son gaslighted her cheated on her and tried to get her to do a termination? and now 8 years later after he broke up the women, he cheated on OP with because surprise surprise she cheated on him and now he wants to see his "son"' after he refused to believe it was his 8 years ago??? and now that the cheater broke up with him it's his son now? and he didn't care about her feelings when he left her while she was pregnant but now all of a sudden, he is struggling with not seeing his "son" ppl are siding with him? sorry for the rant but I just had to speak my mind.

[@jeebanjeeban87]

Giving him second chance to see this kid he suddenly decided to call "his child" will only mess with the kids head. He already have a family that loves and cares for him. Nathan left and he should live every consequence of it. He should permanently go away and don't destroy their family dynamic. He;s not even in the BC. IF I'm OP.. I would tell the kid his father dead a long long time ago and his "father" is the one who's raising him.

[@heartsmyfaceforever8140]

You never lie to your child about their father. It’s better to not answer than to lie and have them find out when they’re older.

[@shells500tutubo]

I always say a child gets ONE childhood, no do overs. Adults should not get multiple chances to fuck up that one childhood for their own selfish reasons.

[@Devilish420]

Classic case of projection. Literally cheating on OP as hes accusing her of cheating, only for him to get together with the ex that dumped him and got cheated on for it. Karma got Nathan good.

[@ppunion]

Look... No matter what Nathan suspected, he has only himself to blame. If he truly believed that OP had been unfaithful, there would at least still be a chance that he was the father. Nathan could have chosen to leave OP and have a paternity test done once the baby was born and made his decision then. He chose not to. IMO he lost every right to be a part of the kids life. If nothing else, he would at minimum owe 8 years worth of child support.

[@blueflameSM]

So, Nathan now wants to be a dad to HIS son. After months of gas lighting and saying the child wasn't his and now he wants to be a part of his son's life. Dude can go pound some sand. The new husband is a king man, good sense of humor how he got a laugh from the petty revenge.

[@tammydownes2413]

When they accuse you of cheating, they are the cheater.

[@neatgamer5999]

It always makes me mad when a significant other accuses there wife/husband of cheating without any proof while they in fact are the one cheating 🤦‍♀️

[@NourAmsterdam]

Unresolved feelings for his ex, saw a way out and took it. Refreshing to see a OP that has a spine and acted accordingly.

[@melindaflick631]

I don't like that she told Nathan he had been right, and she HAD cheated on him and the baby wasn't his. I don't like that at all. BUT I also don't really see a way for Nathan to have a healthy relationship with his son, because Nathan is a hot mess. I think it's mentally better for the boy to have no contact with his bio dad.

[@chanayplease]

Yeaaaah no, OP shouldn't have to do anything. That man said "I hope you didn't sleep w/a dead beat" like excuse you??? He deserved all of that but I'm glad she went to therapy

[@darthmadeus]

Anyone who goes back to an ex is just asking for trouble/more heartache. Furthermore, cheating is wrong in any scenario

[@Alice15210]

People who runaway from their children and come back years dont really care about their children. They want to see if your life has completely been destroyed, if you're struggling or if you're doing well. When you're doing well, they want to finish the job of destroying your life. If you're struggling with your children, they will make promises, fail to keep those promises and run away again. If the children are old and formed relationships with step parents, they get in their heads to destroy those relationships... Or they just want money, they have cancer and need to be taken care of, or they need an organ donor. Runaway parents are just shitty, selfish people and they dont care about their children at all

[@taylordaenzer4852]

It's not your fault it's your husband's fault because he abandoned him for his ex's and falsely accused him of having another man's baby and that's not right and he should pay for his actions and go to hell for what he has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and he doesn't deserve anything.

[@IndestructibleMandelbrot]

Either you don't know what "him" means or I have no clue what it is you're saying 😅

[@areszeudion5153]

​@@IndestructibleMandelbrothim as in OP's son. Remember, ex-husband contacted OP because he wanted to be involved in the child's life. Honestly though, the ex has no ground at all. OP decided not to put his name on the son's birth certificate, hence he's not the father and is not obliged to provide support. Now, it's been 8 years and he asked to be involved? Well, sorry no sorry. He's far too late for it.

[@IndestructibleMandelbrot]

Thanks so far, @@areszeudion5153. I don't really have the story in my memory right now, but what about "accused him of having another man's baby" Who's the him there? It's the husband who accuses so it can't be him, can it?

[@kumailmehdi1005]

​​@@areszeudion5153but you do realize the ex could just take her to court if he wants something to do with the child it's not all about the name on the birth certificate but maybe this might be a nice test to judge what his true intentions are like if he actually full on agrees to settle the past 8 years of child support dues aswell as the due's going forward then i think it's safe to say he genuinely wants to see,meet and have a relationship with his son that's something op can't stop him from doing or else he'll just take the whole matter to court which idk op might not be able to afford so might aswell just settle it all amicably outside of the court

[@areszeudion5153]

@@kumailmehdi1005 okay... that's a fair point. I reacted that way because of how easy it was for him to gave up on his life to be with his ex, whom, if we're to look back. Ditched him like years ago. I know the past isn't something to dwell on, but for people like him... He got what he deserved, and he's best to stay out from his son's life. But I admit, the son will eventually needs to know the truth. So, yeah...

[@Doczlady]

he deserved everything he got and more...smart move for your sons birth certificate and i am glad to see your new hubby is his dad

[@strikersub1814]

telling the truth and saying he will never be his father would hurt so much more

[@johnnyhall9154]

Usually, I'd say to let the dad be in the son's life. But Nathan did everything in his power to make me hate him. Like at least do the paternity test

[@shells500tutubo]

In ten years when the kid is 18.

[@janiebeauxbanie]

8:52 spoiler alert: he didn’t even have half a brain cell.

[@shortangel333]

What op did was HILARIOUS.

[@Lazyspaceout]

Cheaters always accuse you of cheating

[@voiceofafreeamerica9854]

On the story: Was it harsh? Yes. Was it necessary to protect her way of life and her son? Also yes. Saying this as a guy. A sonb does not need a dad that's so easily manipulatable. What hapens if the dad gets with another woman who hates the boy because he's not her child with him. At best, he gets abused by stepmom until he can refuse to see dad ever again. Worst (And having suffered both, I can say this is worse): the new stepmom gets \Dad' to withdraw from son's life, making him believe he's unlovable.

[@NeoCreo1]

I’m totally fine with her being vindictive. I do think that she shouldn’t have claimed she was cheating though. She demeaned herself with that and it could have backfired on her if he was more cunning and spread that admission around.

[@maebell227]

Absolutely not. He didn't care before he don't care now

[@jayhokum5413]

The cheater accuses the faithful for cheating while the cheater was cheating 💀

[@nancysmith4129]

When I hear this type of story, I always think "was it worth it" on what you did.

[@caffeinedelusions]

There are ways in which I feel like sticking a paternity test in Nathan's face would help drive home how he made the wrong call, but unfortunately doing so would also give him grounds to potentially establish paternity and pursue some level of legal custody, so even as much as it would be good karma, it'd be bad legal strategy.

[@shells500tutubo]

It doesn't matter nw about DNA. he legally abandoned the child by not being in his life, no child support, not on the birth certificate. He has been legally adopted, and for all we know Op notified him of the adoption at the time and he did not respond.

[@KpopOpinionator]

Imagine growing up and realising your dad refused to love u and take care of you because he was screwing his ex and was looking a way of the marriage so he wanted to end your mother's pregnancy.This comment legit sounds like instruct forgrowing a manchild .Oh I am a father? Give me paternity then only I will believe you (on serious note .If u really have a doubt (do a court mandated test) and then actually be a good Father )

[@starhwas]

I’m all for forgiveness and moving on etc etc but even more for petty revenge! He left her and divorced her while she was pregnant and accused her of cheating when he was the one cheating. Then it blows up in his face and he comes crawling back and OP is supposed to be kind and gentle to him??? He’s even lucky he got a response and he got exactly what he deserved. Good riddance.

[@chessieray1465]

I'm here and living for the pettiness. I'd have deleted and blocked the email address though.

[@kennycai8695]

Another one of those "f around and find out" stories. OP, let me be the first to say what happened with your ex is not your fault, although the whole "treat me like a queen" remark is a red flag for her current husband. You living your life well without the drama of your ex and his smug ex-GF is already the best revenge against the latter. If possible, I also say you should put some distance, so those two can never come after you again, cause I am fully aware what people are capable of when backed into a proverbial corner.

[@prestow]

If he was that dumb to believe someone who is invested on him divorcing...

[@FullMoonOctober]

And she didn't even put much effort into convincing him, either. You hear stories where people make fake messages from the supposed affair, or fake dating profiles to frame the spouse, but nope.

[@jamesrippy1161]

In the words of the great Ferris Bueller “One: you can never go too far”.

[@sensoramp07]

Jessica is a master manipulator tbh

[@DarkEinherjar]

I guess she has to, in order to be a serial cheater...

[@marcusmagnificus1984]

Nathan and Jessica deserve each other.

[@FullMoonOctober]

She really isn't, he's just looking for an excuse to stray.

[@Gregour-j6u]

You lost the chance to be in our child's life when you didn't sign the birth certificate. I'm married now and my husband is a better partner and parent than you could ever be. Why would I take that away from me and our son. You left me depressed, a single parent and a truckload of trauma just cause you wanted to believe and ex over your wife. Why would I open up old wounds . That's what I would've told Nathan

[@clearmind89]

Look I think she should tell the Ahole only for the fact that he abandoned his then pregnant wife and unborn child without clinical proof that’s on him and his name wasn’t on the birth certificate so yeah and also OP’s current husband has adopted the child already so he should not have any legal standing anyway, that’s my opinion I’m not sure how that would work given each state has their own laws on paternity and stuff

[@jdangel6892]

Projection much. He was cheating , so he thought she was cheating.

[@horrordragon2010]

Okay I seen a bunch of folks blaming OP for keeping her son away from his *SIRE* ;not father/dad, *SIRE* . I just paraphrase what my Dad told when it came to his *SIRE* / biological dad. "A father isn't just someone who you share blood with; its someone who raises you, cares for you. A man that just made you, but didn't raise you; *isn't a father, just a sire* . My father, your grandaddy isn't my biological father. But he raised me and cared for me, along with my mom, your grandma. My biological father, lefted me, my three siblings at the time, and my mom. *He is not my father/ dad, he's my sire; all he did was impregnate my mom and left.* " Nathan is OP son's *SIRE* not his father. OP's second husband *IS* her son's father. Because he raised/ cared for him along with OP. While Nathan here, *cheated on her, demanded she abort her son, accused OP of cheating, and then lefted her for an ex* . Nah, OP made the right call. And besides what morals do you think Nathan would install in her son, after doing that, hmm? Plus OP didn't put Nathan's name, on her son's birth certificate. So riddle me this how can OP get child support from Nathan, if she *refuses to put his name on that sheet of paper* . There are plenty of cases, where the mom is clearly trying to keep the father from seeing his kids. *BUT THIS AIN'T ONE OF THEM.*

[@onebg3450]

10:17 bro said it he said a fact he indeed is a deadbeat

[@andapandacongufanda]

I always find it funny in these stories when the man just always seems to assume everyone is just on stand by waiting for them to walk back into the room not like they’re full people who move on themselves as time passes

[@Mimi_917]

You did sleep with a deadbeat, him. Anytime they randomly start accusing you of cheating that usually means they are cheating.

[@slayermoon666]

I got red flags 🚩… for the first couple minutes into it… there’s a lot more going on. Op think about it, if they’re gonna do it with you, they’re gonna do it to you… Op do you, you got this!

[@chenlee9835]

And to think ex could have gotten a paternity test…

[@goatkiller666]

“… he said I didn’t have to be so petty.” Uh… duh. But I believe in full service customer support… pettiness is free of charge (Favorite t-shirt: I know violence isn’t the answer. I got it wrong on purpose.”

[@RedditFamilyTales]

It seems the ex-boyfriend was never truly over his previous relationship, making OP a rebound that lasted longer than it should have. Once his ex returned, he found a deceitful way to leave OP. Now, after being tricked by his ex, he wants to use his family as a fallback. He got what he deserved. The ex is unreliable and would have eventually let down OP's son if they had continued contact.

[@TOMMY716]

Can we talk about how she said OKI will get ADN a test?Then he said no abort the baby So , like probably was his son , so he that's really messed up that he wanted that

[@areszeudion5153]

He'd made up his mind to be with his ex rather than being bound under obligation for child support.

[@timothyhansen6581]

Hell hath no fury like a loyal woman who's been accused of infidelity.

[@adiarainfoster]

A cheater will always accuse the person they are cheating on of being one too.

[@harrisondejoux8520]

If I were hubby, my spiteful ass would start laughing like Mark Hamill.

[@christinesinclair6938]

"I hOpE yOu DiDn'T sLeEp WiTh A dEaDbEaT." Since Maury Povitch would tell that jerk he WAS the father, unfortunately, she did.

[@uwph]

cheaters tend to accuse their spouse of cheating, out of the blue. it happens in most cheating cases. it’s crazy actually. the projection is wild.

[@jkmoon7937]

I don’t feel OP did anything wrong to Nathan. He deserved what he got. But by telling him a lie in the end, OP may make it hard for her son in the future if he wants to know about his biological father, his side of the family or any kind of family related illnesses that runs in the family. OP may have gotten what was best for her right now (and maybe also what she thinks is best for her family?) But is it best for her son in the future? DON’T GET ME WRONG! Nathan clearly was the deadbeat. Just trying to see it from the child’s perspective.

[@Madison.0MG]

[8:50] At first I thought he didn’t have any brain cells but his is just confirmation that he didn’t even have half a brain cell

[@Reallillycurxe]

Did he think he was wrong 😑

[@aerolitecm]

I wishhh I could have seen his face when he realised he threw away the best family he could hope for

[@mathewbuendia1038]

This shit makes my blood boil

[@yui_._himari]

Bro…

[@Mock.d]

This is why women dont trust us

[@ZuriSmooth]

Fr

[@andapandacongufanda]

If someone accuses you out of nowhere about something it’s likely projection cuz they’re doing it themselves

[@imweirdfiteme593]

I get why she was oblivious but girl there was red flags EVERYWHERE

[@Prettyprettyprincessa]

I understand and support OP being petty but saying that he isn’t the father and that he was right all those years ago was a bad move imo

[@GenGamesUniverse]

I think what OP means is that he is not the father as in he WAS not around for the baby, and that he was right in that she was mocking him.

[@MrallwaysCAP]

​@@GenGamesUniversewhat she wanted to do is actually inflict her own form of judgment Still crazy tho she should have told him he isn't on the birth certificate instead of that

[@Forevanity]

Well, tbf outside of petty revenge, it probably was also the easiest way to avoid him trying to get any rights to her child. While I can't say it wasn't shitty, I could see a pretty rational argument for what she did... and also, yeah, he did deserve it. In her shoes, I'd make sure the people who matter know the truth so he doesn't have the opportunity to attack her reputation. Outside of that, all I can say is good for her.

[@allrequestsdenied1321]

Just to add to what other ppl have said, in this specific situation its the best decision for the child to not include the bio father. OPs ex husband is jobless and has developed a drinking problem, and there's also the possibility he would lose interest in the kid as soon as he got a new girlfriend. Why risk putting a kid through that when OPs husband signed the paperwork and is already being a stable dad? If the kid wants to talk to bio dad, he will reach out after turning 18.

[@nyanya2757]

Honestly I think OP shouldn't be talking like they cheated for the childs sake, don't want rumors about them going on.

[@elsajones6325]

Should not have sent a family photo if you didnt care about him. You exposed husband and son to possible harm

[@sam2x13]

What about Nathan's parents? Her son deserves to know his grandparents. Don't punish the grandparents for the sins of the father.

[@dvdm7525]

Nahhh f*ck them. Where were they when their son was emotionally abusing a pregnant woman, telling her she cheated, ignoring her calls and requests to meet while pregnant, divorcing her - why didn't they step in when their useless son abandoned her? Lol. They can go ask Jessica for a grandchild

[@sam2x13]

@@dvdm7525 for all we know the grandparents may not have even known she was pregnant.

[@dvdm7525]

​@@sam2x13 Not her problem now is it. They should talk to their son who wanted to kill his child

[@KpopOpinionator]

Were they mentioned in the story ? Nathan probably lied to them or maybe if they are not mentioned in the story (maybe they ain't around 😢) .

[@brianaschmidt910]

Can he even get parental rights of another man adopted his kid?

[@KpopOpinionator]

Would any court grant custody or even visitation rights to man who didn't bother seeing his bio son for 7 years .

[@axelsmom7257]

Totally understand the sentiment and not wanting him in your son’s life. Unfortunately he IS his biological father. If the day should come when your son wants the truth about his father- you will have to decide whether you want to risk the possible consequences of not being honest.

[@shells500tutubo]

At that point the child would probably be old enough to see the situation for what it is. In his formative years he would not understand why his "father" is so flaky, not showing up when he says he will, etc.

[@blindbrad4719]

Firstly, you've certainly got a keeper in your new husband. Secondly if your ex takes it to court paternity test can be pushed for so there's no real way you can keep him out of your life and your sons if he tries hard enough. I think if I had been in your position, despite texting him at the time that you've had the kid, in the latest text to him I'd have made him wonder and doubt himself by implying I may or may not have had the abortion. at least that way if he tries to pull up any communications between you in Cawte, there would be some implied doubt that a paternity test is needed and could be argued against by your lawyer more effectively.

[@shells500tutubo]

It won't even get to court. The kid has been legally adopted and the new husband's name is on the birth certificate. No take backsies. Even if Nathan had never known about the son and just found out, it is highly unlikely that a court will order any kind of visitation.

[@blindbrad4719]

@@shells500tutubo we need more information on the state/countries laws to be able to figure that out I think. it's easy enough for a private investigator to find out at the kid was adopted and sow doubt in the court requiring a paternity test. can't remember how old the kid is, but I'd definitely be asking about backpay on the child support 😂

[@KpopOpinionator]

Even if the ex takes it to court ,what kind of justice is it serving if it forces a kid to bond with stranger who didn't want him in the first place (and if he changed his mind (yeah like the kid is a fancy clothing item ) and wanted to be a parent now only after his ex broke up him . Then the court should start with by all the unpaid child support and also isn't the kid adopted right now .He already has two parents .I don't think u can for another one so easily.

[@blindbrad4719]

@@KpopOpinionator absolutely none at all. I'm just pointing out that she can't prevent the X from doing it. The only "justice" that I could think of, would be the exes delusional mindset that they haven't had access to the kid at all, which is just an extension of their own actions.

[@jennifergarrett1449]

you can get court ordered paternity test so you can get child support

[@goatkiller666]

As a bit of a thought experiment… if both parents are in the same country (I’ll use America, since that’s the jargon I know. But it doesn’t matter that much.), the father could get a court order to compel a paternity test, then ask the court to add him to the kid’s birth certificate. We’ve seen the process brought up on other Reddit stories. Even saw a story where an American and a Canadian meet in France, get married there, conceive a child there, then move to America. American dad’s family is toxic, and the emotionally mature Canadian woman says “Tabarnac!” and moves back to Canada, where she gives birth. Also files for divorce. I do not recall if the two parents being in different countries had much impact. The Canadian mom was the OP, and she mentioned that the kid had dual citizenship… I assumes that means dad is on the birth certificate. She was financially fine without the father’s income, so she didn’t bother chasing him for child support. (I disowned my dad, knowing I’d lose out on a decent inheritance… so her decision to walk away from the money, if it means not having to deal with him, makes perfect sense.) But we started to move into situations where multiple jurisdictions interacted. Between states in the US… the constitution says you have to honor all that stuff. I assume the various EU nations are similar. But if the dad is a bad person, and is not on the birth certificate, I don’t know how National borders play into that. Does the dad have to go to where the kid is, sue to be added to the birth certificate, and then work out some custody arrangement where the kid flies to another jurisdiction for visitation? How could this be weaponized? We all know about murderers moving to non-extradition countries, so they’re safe from punishment. Can the mother (and kid) move somewhere that… maybe they extradite murderers, but they won’t compel a local woman to take a paternity test? Or once the test is taken, and the birth certificate updated, they won’t compel the mother to fly the kid abroad every summer.

[@goatkiller666]

Wait, what? It’s naive to trust your husband fully? Nah. If you cannot trust your HUSBAND, then don’t marry him. If you cannot trust ANYBODY that much, on principal, you have no business marrying anybody until you’ve been through some therapy. That’s the whole point of having a home and a spouse. When you get home, and shut the door, you’re safe. Don’t gotta stay sober, don’t gotta keep track of that person you don’t trust. By contrast, you’re out at the grocery store, and there’s some dude shouting at the pigeons for spying on him… you know exactly where that guy is, because he’s dangerous. That feeling of being on edge because there’s a dangerous person nearby… that’s what you’re escaping when you step into your own home. And anybody who’s lived with an abusive parent or romantic partner… you know what it feels like when the dangerous person makes it inside your safe space. You can’t relax. If leaving that place and that danger means you have to leave a kid, or beloved pet, or less often a parent, behind… you know exactly how strong that sense of danger can be. If you are incapable of trusting people that much (it happens… I’m not judging), then you shouldn’t bring dangerous people inside the walls. You owe it to yourself to understand that that level of trust isn’t possible right now. Go OUT on dates if you need to get laid. Put on your best battle gear (nice clothes, fresh haircut, whatever), go out, get laid OUT THERE, then return home to relax in safety. Some apartments even have a couple short-term units that residents can use, for when your large family comes by and they won’t all fit. Get laid out there, then go back behind your walls. Letting people you don’t or can’t trust inside your walls… you will never feel safe. And you need some time every day to decompress. You can skip a few days, but then you need more decompression at the end. Dog people are realizing that all dogs are trustworthy. They may not all lurve you, but that fact is always clear. Cat people as well. (Ironically, cat people will argue that dogs aren’t… and dog people will say cats aren’t. Their body language is different, but if you know the signs… both cats and dogs don’t lie.) I only know those two, but my exotic pet friends (‘Cause you always know one dude who’s into giant snakes or tarantulas.). I’ve even conversed with some iguana people, or bearded dragon people. You keep them in cages because they aren’t potty trained, not because they’re dangerous. I’ve strayed off topic. My point is, find a space, make it yours alone, and go there to really rest. Only invite people you trust IMPLICITLY inside that circle of trust. Do your due diligence on everybody… make sure they’re safe first. If you think you COULD trust someone, wait until you know for sure. And know yourself well enough to know if your discomfort is because there’s something about THEM, or something about you. Seek help, if it is available. But above all else, that space, small or large, is for you to feel safe in.

[@skeetskeet7041]

As good as the revenge feels, this is going to backfire *massively* if the kid wants to have any contact with his bio dad. I’m not saying don’t get revenge, but specifically telling him “he’s not yours” is going to go wrong a thousand ways south from shore. Nta, but not the play

[@shortangel333]

Just lie to your kid saying you don't know.

[@shells500tutubo]

@@shortangel333 NEVER lie to your child. If he asks about bio-dad, tell him you will be able to look for him when he, the child, is older. But odds are he won't even care until he is a teenager, if at all, because he has a father now, so he isn't the odd kid out at school.

[@KpopOpinionator]

They could have a mature discussion about this when the kid is old enough to understand.i am sure the kid might talk to Nathan a bit but I don't think anything meaningful will come out of .Just because they are 50 per cent of your DNA doesn't mean u should defend or love them 100% .If people can be disgusted with people being terrible.then why would a kid be happy or even want to reach to a sperm donor who was so ready to get out of a marriage and abort his child because he wanted to be with his ex.yall babying deadbeats parents too much .The only purpose of getting in contact with the bio parents is to get genetic info .

[@allthingsjustice6465]

Then men wonder why women get do defensive. Like sorry but ive heard more stories where the man is so easy to manipulate into thinking their partner is cheating because they themselves are cheating

[@marciaspiegel5280]

So he doesn't get to see his son. Period.

[@artemislove2941]

such a great ai story 💀 can always tell when they spend way too long on unnecessary details and over the topic language

[@stevepaul6842]

can we get a story about a person who gets accused of cheating but she did parthenogenesis? i don't even care if it's fake, I just want to hear story like that

[@Tamara_Middleton]

OP is wrong…. She is only thinking of herself and her hurt. While her Husband is a piece of work, her kid deserves to know who his Bio dad is and have a relationship with him. She needs to look past her pain and set it right for her son.

[@calico_queen8976]

What her kid deserves is a loving stable environment. Not a person who bails out on them cause he wanted to get laid. Having only one bio parent won't mess up a kid. You know what will? Finding out your dad wanted to abort you, projected his infidelity on you and your mom then ABANDONS you. He already has two loving parents.

[@Tamara_Middleton]

@@calico_queen8976 the kid as a fundamental right to know who’s his parents are. Good or bad! No one can make that decision for him.

[@-Anjel]

I don't really know how I feel about this story. I have to look at it from the child's perspective. It is clear that the ex husband would cause chaos in the child's life, and he is a stranger to the child. However, he is the father. When the boy grows up, how will he feel? Will he be resentful that his mother kept his father away? Will he blame his mother if his father spirals even worse? Is she willing to keep this a secret all her life? Will she lie when her son asks who his biological father is? Will she prevent her son from trying to find his father and therefore finding the truth? I don't know what the right solution in this situation is, but I do think this will backfire on her and end up hurting her son in ways she cannot imagine.

[@KpopOpinionator]

Having a mature conversation would help .also if the father spirals ,why would OP be responsible for it ,when the kid is ready to hear the story he will hear it .He has two amazing parents ,if the kid resents OP for keeping away his father ,then shouldn't the kid resent his father for not wanting him in the first place(for 8 years ),the dude only came back cus Jessica cheated ,had he married Jessica and had another kid with her ,he would have never remembered His son .So.... the Father doesn't deserve any huge role in his sons life .

[@nyanya2757]

Like... if your cheating... why are you even trying to accuse someone of cheating.

[@P_T4]

Wow

[@vashonm]

She is as blind as a bat! All signs pointed to cheating lol