Husbands Talk About Travelling To The UK As A Dependant

[@Journeywithnkay]

The first guy kept it 100% real😄 it's good for people to hear all the negatives and positives as well, so that your mind is absolutely prepared for what you are about to face and your decision is based on facts. This would psychologically prepare them. Welldone girl! Dis is by far one of the most honest and hilarious video I've come across on youtube 🤣🤣🤣

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much. i really appreciate his honesty, he spoke the ugly truth and if we are honest, so many people can relate to what he said.

[@RandomMZ1412]

I totally disagree. The 2nd guy was more reasonable. The first guy has unresolved family issues that he needs get over. Peharps divorce his wife and return to Nigeria. The success rate of Nigerians living abroad is overwhelmingly positive. He sounds angry and sour

[@proudlyafrican6240]

@@RandomMZ1412 Why do you guys feel it is appropriate to attack and demean whoever wants to live in Nigeria?? Why do you say someone who wants to live in Nigeria is bitter, have family issues and shouldn’t be listened to? Like, are you serious?? Some people won’t move abroad for N200m and that’s ok..What is this craze and madness for abroad?? Some black Americans are relocating to Africa..some hav E owes never to move to America again..Some British guys are living in Nigeria and living comfortably so..Yes, I do NOT want to move abroad and if my wife prefers to live abroad then we can live apart…This is going to be one of the many reasons most Nigerian families will scatter in the near future…home care abroad..Better talk about it before jumping in if you are still single..Don’t just assume everyone is crazy about going abroad…

[@RandomMZ1412]

@@proudlyafrican6240 I did not demean or attack the fellow. My comment has to do what he said and how he is saying it. Like I said in my comment, if he wants to return to Nigeria he can divorce his wife, return to Nigeria and live happily ever after. I agree with you that there millions of Africans/Nigerians that careless about moving abroad. However, that does not negate the success rate of those who did. Nothing in my comment was in the form of attacking or demeaning the guy. He sounds and look unhappy!

[@proudlyafrican6240]

@@RandomMZ1412 I am not sure why people think it makes sense to be saying that a lot of people are successful abroad..of course people are successful everywhere..You think there aren’t successful people in Nigeria, Iraq, US, Japan, Afghanistan, Yemen, UAE, etc..People are successful in many countries and there are unsuccessful people everywhere too..The point the guy is trying to make is that if you are successful in Nigeria, think twice before leaving your job etc and relocate to start afresh..Some people never recover from that..and some do…Yes, he isn’t happy in the UK and May eventually leave UK..or stay..he just shared his opinion since the host asked them to be honest..don’t attack his views…you may disagree with it but who really cares what you think about his views..

[@ademolaonashile5251]

Life in the UK is very easy for me oooo. I have changed jobs like pure water because I know what it takes to get them & God has been on my side. Thanks to these awesome men to have shared their experiences

[@goodyjerry4]

Please can you guide me,I need a job

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you @ademola, would you like to be a guest speaker on the channel? You have lots of information people can benefit from. Biko help your country men to move forward. 🙏

[@oyebolaasekomhe7589]

Abeg show us road

[@michaelariyo8940]

Okay, good for you. But, please, all the jobs you've had and changed are what kinds of jobs? I mean every single one of them, and how did you go about getting them so easily like you said? Thank you for your response.

[@tundeola-adeoti6518]

Demola. How far? Long time.

[@bubusboulevardtv]

This was really enlightening. Kudos to all the husbands. Their sacrifice are truly appreciated. So much respect for the first guy (with the black hat) who was super detailed and spilled the tea on his reality. All will end well.👏 Great video, Scholastica.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much for appreciating him. He really did not sugarcoat anything

[@nirvanawellness3619]

Very real guy

[@onlinemoneyhub8513]

I love the first husband's exposition! His candor and realistic opinion made it a balanced show which I appreciate. He is actually more real than others because after he gave his opinion, others started tilting towards his view. They literally made it look like there was no iota of regret at first. Common! It's an unfamiliar terrain and masquerading to be perfectly fine isn't helpful. I love both views as it made it a robust experience. UK is great but potential entrants need to be intimated on the good and the bad. For some people, money isn't everything. Great show!!!

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much for this. some people have been criticizing his opinion but he said the bitter truth without sugar coating it.

[@monsurahhamzat5026]

I think it is because he was pressured into coming to UK. He was not convinced he needed to relocate in the first place

[@ferdimako]

@@ScholasticaUgboka why is he still there?

[@proudlyafrican6240]

@@ferdimako because you can’t just wake up and leave your children behind

[@ferdimako]

@@proudlyafrican6240 ok

[@oladiamonds]

From 15:00 mins, the real conversation started. This is the realest part of UK migration. Thanks guys for sharing.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😀 thank you so much

[@vivianobioma3146]

Thank you so much....I almost gave up until I saw ur comment Great content

[@charitymakwara8886]

The guy in red has seen it all,I like his determination.Well done bro.Thanks Scholastica for this

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you. He didn’t even say all the jobs he did oo

[@mariamadeyemo8709]

Very informative video. Most important lesson is 1. Have a plan, don’t just up and leave because everyone is doing it. 2. Read and know what it entails to relocate to whatever country you’re going to. Be aware of the negatives and positives. May God help us all

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Amen. you have said it all

[@ebere4897]

I can’t continue to over emphasize the important of skill. When you have a skill back home and brings it to UK, it’s only a matter of time, you will be a hot cake. My hubby arrived here in late October, wrote his CSCS test and just recently got a job of £40k per annum with company vehicle and a fuel card. Please nurses spouse, don’t be in a rush to get to UK. Get a skill esp those in construction, welding, fabricating . It’s really worth it. With time you do course and climb up a managerial position. Please take your time. Xx

[@sofiachioma4799]

Hello what about if your husband is into motor spare spare business, what job will be suitable for him?

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

wow, congratulations to you and your hubby.

[@sofiachioma4799]

Thank you, but I am asking what of spare parts business man is there any skills that will be suitable for him

[@naijaukmuse480]

Woow

[@ibyabu]

Exactly... I love these Men! Very supportive gentlemen! Don't rush to follow Madam till you have something to fall back on. Absolutely. Construction, Plumbing is super or you do Taxi Services like one of my Nurses Husbands. Honourable jobs no carrying shoulder up. Yeah! BRP Biometric Residence Permit with NINo on it for Tier 2 visa holders.

[@iamrising7176]

To the first man, sometimes it is not just about you. You need to take solace in the fact that your kids will have access to world-class education and healthcare. I was a mariner and travelled around Europe a lot between 2006-2009. My colleagues then advised me to relocate but I refused. Later I lost the job in 2010 and never got a meaningful job until 2014. While I was on that job trying to pick up my life, Buhari happened and we were relieved. Some of my colleagues are in the village since 2016. You’ll think you’re comfortable in Nigeria until Nigeria happens to you: Currently, I’m looking forward to relocating permanently.I worked in the UK last year on GE gas turbines and met a girl from the East. I’ll move to the UK for the sake of my unborn kids. For their sake, every suffering would be worth it.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Wow.. thank you for this

[@proudlyafrican6240]

As you are relocating, pray that abroad does not also happen to you and your family..19 elementary kids were shot in Texas US for just going to school..Before then, about 10 blacks people were shot and killed in same US for being black..So yes, as you are in Nigeria pray that Nigeria does not happen to you..As you relocate, pray that abroad does not happen to you too…Just saying On the other hand, why do some people always think whoever does not want to stay abroad isn’t thinking about their kids? Funny that the same UK comes to same Nigeria to recruit nurses and doctors and engineers..Why aren’t they hiring those children that you stayed in the UK for their upbringing? How come Nigerian-trained professionals who Nigeria happened to are the ones the same UK is coming to recruit?? Pls explain

[@iamrising7176]

@@proudlyafrican6240 no where is heaven on earth. At least they will mourn and find ways to avoid it happening again. 100+ people were killed in Nigeria, Kogi precisely. The next day was just another normal day. Your elites even your president travels abroad for medical checkups. Nigeria is not a country to start with. It’s indeed worse than a shithole. You can write to their embassy to ask them.

[@nurseverything]

@@proudlyafrican6240 you want them to recruit children? Or what exactly is your question? 😒 Anyways on the issue of recruitment, it’s no news that there has been a global shortage of health care professionals (which worsened during covid). Most of these developed countries that have an ACTUAL plan on how to bridge this gap to the advantage of their own citizens are doing so the best way they can. What is Nigeria doing with what it has? 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@williamsolawale4208]

What you just typed clearly shows that you never accepted the reality of nigeria and didn't prepare for it

[@davida9802]

This guy on black face cap is saying the truth,UK is not advisable for you if u are comfortable in Nigeria,if I new this before now,I wouldn't had invested into the immigration system, honestly it's not easy here in the UK.More of this kind of videos should be recorded to create awareness for our fellow brothers and sisters back at home.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much. I wish more people will learn to accept the bitter truth without thinking the Person saying it is bitter.

[@williamsolawale4208]

Them no go agree

[@nikkijayne4451]

Go back then. Nothing is keeping you here. Sort your own country out. Then we might have a chance to sort ours out too.

[@zainabt7133]

I can feel this man's pain.... nobody can truly understand him sincerely. He knows what he's facing. May God help us.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

True talk. Thank you for watching

[@oyebolaasekomhe7589]

It became very emotional at a point when the first man spoke genuinely. This is how I've been feeling in the last 3weeks. Living in the UK needs a lot of pre- planning and really making up ones mind. When you even think of the country you left, you have no choice but to forge ahead. May God bless our hussle.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Amen. welldone. we are planning to create a group so the men here in the UK can also network, recommend each other for jobs and just share life in the UK tips.

[@oyebolaasekomhe7589]

@@ScholasticaUgboka Ooh that would be amazing. I wish you well in that. I'm all for it.

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@ScholasticaUgboka beautiful

[@mutevaniv4865]

Thank you, please do more of the talk and include different topics. It's very informative and do it with these guys I like their realness. Love from 🇿🇼

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much, we have plans to make more videos

[@reubenmwangi6902]

I love this conversation. I am a Kenyan living in the UK.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you. 💖💖

[@RichyOkpara]

I love how honest these men were, especially the man with black cap

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you

[@trustremmy4371]

Thank you for bringing this up, I pray the first husband finds where he will get his full joy, the second husband is an intelligent one, he clearly outlined how both systems differs....the third and fourth husbands have a flexible lovely personality they are prepared for this. They are all lovely.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@Wallay_101]

A Very impactful organic show, packed with grooming content for all sort of emotional and social challenges for migrating folks. Now this is the kind of channel you don’t need to plead for subscribers, I gladly subscribed. Looking forward for more rare content like this.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Aww thank you so much

[@tv9ine]

Wow, the first guy was so detailed and natural. I give him 💯

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@thefoxaay]

Thank you for this candid discussion. For the first man, you basically just arrived, it's not easy at first. Don't worry, Just give it some time, it will get better. Also, because of your family dynamic, it is a bit more challenging, but it can work. He said he's a business man, so eventually he can start up a business in the u.k. Many immigrants have come and started successful businesses.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

That is true but it will be hard for him to start a business now, maybe when he has ILR he can venture into business at least by that time he would have settled down and gotten more knowledge about how things work here

[@ganiyyaha5276]

Very educative piece from you Scholastica, thank you. Btw, what does ILR mean? And how long does it take for one to get that? Pls consider this as coming from someone who is working on relocating and would love to establish a business over there. Thanks again.

[@stellamarisnwabue3283]

I can understand his regrets, he did not mix words,but it only gets better with time. It is challenging and it can be hard, many will still revist this years from now and pack up and go back. These men are not playing here, they are living the reality.The struggle is real....the main thing review your own situation and aim to make a good decision.if you have lots of money in Nigeria, if you can burn generator 24/7, go around with armed escort, have every thing at your disposal and still fly out for health care. Don't bother coming.Bang.

[@ihuomaanthony4130]

That guy who was a business man in Nigeria, I understand everything bit of his explaination. If u re a business man who is really doing well where u re, especially u re they type that travels alot it's not going to be easy when u come as a dependent. I love him cos he's so really!

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you!

[@tayokarate]

U love him ke? I will tell his madam ,I know her

[@Fisayoluwa]

@@tayokarate 🤣😹

[@NanelleGriselda]

This is a good one. Well done Scholastica

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you 🥰❤️

[@Moralsandlessons]

See who is here 😂😂

[@branicenanyama2418]

Hey Nanell

[@ihuomaanthony4130]

The guy in black cap spoke bitter truth! People may not understand until they find themselves there.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

That is right, it's the person wearing the shoe that knows where it hurts most

[@ademolaonashile5251]

God bless my brother from Right buses . He understands the UK system. We are not in the UK because of ourselves as men but to form a beautiful future for our kids.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right

[@olufolakeejigboye2355]

Let the first guy come back, if he is not happy in the UK. He can be visiting his family. His happiness matters too.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you

[@onyiugwunwa2328]

The first guy has not gotten his dream job but with time he will get his dream job. Time is everything.

[@mosezmunzwe]

But kids need him in UK otherwise he must pay for nanny, who are expensive here

[@honeydate]

Great video, love the honest accounts of each person’s experience. The 1st guy had great advice! What kills us here in London is the rent😱 and other bills. We cannot live with other people because we have to keep our 3 little girls safe therefore we minimise risk by having our own private space. But we are left with little savings after sending money to parents in Africa etc and we have no choice but to support them. We are basically sacrificial lambs so our children can have the best outcomes for their futures. Thereafter we can help our nieces and nephews to improve their lives..it’s a domino effect and we honestly have NO REGRETS!

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right, this is the reality of most africans abroad, it almost seems like we are working for those back home and its with that mentality that i moved to NI so i can spend less money. Living in london as a family takes a lot of courage and i salute your bravery. I hope to host you on this channel one day so we can talk about living in london as a family. pls let me know if its something you will be interested in. My emailis [e-mail] Thanks.

[@Kaka-dr6kv]

It’s quite an emotional video... God bless them all and give peace to those who have regrets...

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Amen, thank you so much

[@haridabeauty]

Very interesting, I applaud these men for this thanks Scholastica for bringing them. As it is now in Nigeria is not about being comfortable or doing well, for some people it’s safety/working system that matters. Nigeria is no longer safe , you go out and come back it’s a testimony. I feel for the man who says he’s not happy being there and doing a minimal job on top of that. I’m sure if he has option he would rather choose to be visiting but he needs to think about his family he needs to be there for them. I pray he finds a job that will make him happy. Guys let’s keep praying for Nigeria 🇳🇬 it is well

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Amen o, Nigeria has really failed as a country, if the standard of living in Nigeria and UK were the same, a lot of people would not consider leaving Nigeria.

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@ScholasticaUgboka yes you are right but we have to put in our mind that the currency may not go back to been string anytime soon but it's not about the currency but the purchasing power in each country and proper planning

[@monsurahhamzat5026]

I have truly enjoyed this video. Some hard truths were told. I believe nobody should be pressured into coming to the UK. It can be frustrating especially when you have enjoy doing what you do in Nigeria. Some people are still comfortable with security issues and other issues (epileptic power supply, bad road, poor education and many others ) going on in Nigeria. A couple should truly agree and take the best decision taht will favour the children

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Exactly, you are absolutely right

[@NurseDeo]

Guys! Let’s learn soft skills and get certificates that enables us work from home. There are a lot of opportunities in the Uk that doesn’t revolve round healthcare. Also, look into the property ladder, especially dependents who do not need sponsorship. It’s not easy but let’s learn to spread our wings. Nice video babe 💙

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are absolutely right

[@deboti1822]

What are the courses to be done for property jobs

[@micnatworld]

Nurse Deo,Please could you kindly explain what you mean by (Looking into the property ladder) I would be glad to learn from you.Thanks!

[@nwankwoloretta6280]

Please explain more

[@ibyabu]

Absolutely!

[@greenculturemedia]

This is one of the few organic content on KZbin. I love it and I love the honesty.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Awwwnn thank you so much 💛💛

[@greenculturemedia]

@@ScholasticaUgboka hope to vist you guys soon.

[@tundeola-adeoti6518]

Thank you Scholastic for putting this up. I am a husband too in UK and my wife is studying Nursing. I have a lot to say. Because I left Nigeria as a senior Banker so I can relate...May I suggest that you do a virtual chat next. I am volunteering to be a guest. U can contact me directly

[@nosajoyidoni9248]

Please how can I contact you?

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

wow.. thank you so much. how do i reach you?

[@olufunkeyetunde6744]

That would be great. Thank you for wanting to share

[@owaoluwakemi6978]

I love this. Everything was kept on a real level. God bless you for bringing these wonderful gentlemen together.

[@owaoluwakemi6978]

I love what the second man said as a responsible parent who needs to fix his children's future and give himself a better life which money can't buy here in Nigeria.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@ebehionerhime6993]

The second man to me is the most honest and practical. Might I also add that here in the UK you can be anything you want no matter the grade u had when you were in uni. To me there are no regrets. Even if you have all the money back in Nigeria how much can you really buy for yourself. Lastly not everyone starts from square one. Everybody get their own grace and favour. People are here who have dream jobs from the get go.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much, UK has lots of opportunities to offer those that are not lazy,

[@chroniclesofanafricandiasporan]

Interesting conversation. I like the idea of the one already thinking about what he will do when he returns to Nigeria in future, something most people don't have in mind when when we are keen to travel abroad. Its great to travel and experience life abroad but its also great to have have an exit plan if that is suitable for you. Everybody's situation is different and ultimately you have to do what is best for you.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Yes oo, thank you so much

[@tayokarate]

I have a 10 year plan to return to Nigeria, seeing Nigeria there are untapped opportunities with not as much tax as one would pay in the UK.Nigeria is very slowly crawling to develop .

[@chroniclesofanafricandiasporan]

@@tayokarate True. Africa 🌍 holds a lot of potential. Its depends on one's perspective.

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@chroniclesofanafricandiasporan I love your mindset unfortunately most don't think like that. This abroad thing was supposed to be hustle and back and not to die there. But our people lose guard completely

[@collinsdmessenger]

Ani, thanks for your contribution. I love your views on things. Considering the Children, security, and well-being of the family is my priority too. Kudos.

[@omobabaomobaba7173]

The most important thing missing here is information. Having right information and having right people around you makes things easier for you. It is not about working but it is about working smart.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

100% correct

[@proudlyafrican6240]

Funny how we make it look as if everyone in Nigeria is either dead or about to die

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@proudlyafrican6240 I tire

[@laurahubert55]

Thanks for this video. Am not thanking you for myself, but for the guy in black and white. This interactive session was an opportunity for him to pull out his pains. Who knows for how long he has had to keep all this in his heart? You have in a way, reduced his possibilities of getting depressed by a bearable minimum. Please, you guys should always look out for him. The fact that the others guys made him look ridiculous in a way. But in the end, they had to bend to his point cos that's what the truth is at the end of the day. It's an ideal video. Well done!👏🤝

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

🤣🥰 thank you

[@ibyabu]

Absolutely, Many Husbands do not need to come into the UK to stay permanently. They really can be flying in and out. It is tough but it is possible. No point dragging our middle aged Husbands across the Atlantic if he doesn't want to start from scratch. I won't do that to my husband too. So Yes, It isn't the ideal for many husbands who are comfortable and settled back home in Nigeria. Too stressful a move. For the young ones, please go ahead and move together.

[@afolashadeakere3143]

I can feel him too

[@afolashadeakere3143]

The man is been sincere

[@benedictkanu6062]

I admired the brother with the black cap, he is just so real, he is doing his job just to put food on the table...they best people who could relocate to the UK and be very fyn are they footballers.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you

[@ademolaonashile5251]

To get a desired job in the UK , you need to have professional certifications or skills like SAP, Oracle, Business Analysis, Agile Scrum, KYC etc. You to position yourself for the job. I have MBA from Finland & I haven't used my certificate but I have only used my professional skill to work. You can even get some jobs working from home. Talk to me if you need advice.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Wow nice one, you came prepared. How can I contact you?

[@nnamdiray9279]

Impressive.. how easy is getting a remote job as a front end developer in the uk... Remotely..

[@hellodaniesblog]

Hi! How can I contact you ? Via email maybe. I’m interested in learning more. I have a background in IT

[@DrEzinneErhirhie]

@Scholastica, please bring this man on the show. Loads of options for everyone only if they have the right info

[@Walenji]

Ademola please share your email for viewers to reach out to you!! Thanks buddy!

[@Courageourititie]

Wow! Very touchy. Well done guys. And thanks my schola babie for putting this together

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Aww thank you 🥰❤️❤️

[@thechiefmidhusband]

I like the truthfulness and the openness of the men, they are the real MVP .... men who will stand with their woman ... they are what i call a good support system good job @scholastica

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you, you are absolutely right. these men are heroes

[@Elekande]

Let's talk about UK since that's the country we are talking about. UK is most good for singles. The moment you are married, forget about yourself and think about your children. You can have a good life anywhere, whether UK or Nigeria, what speaks for you is your money.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

True talk

[@faaizakinwumi6778]

Really funny and educative. That uncle wasn’t having it all. But I know his stance is going to change for better when his kids are more independent and he grows into a more desirable job/role.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right

[@tyke1620]

The first guy is so pained, he should have really stayed back in my honest opinion. Yes when you have money there are certain things you can't offer your children back home. Things like good schools, good medicals , good roads, good exposure, social amenities and so on. I will rather my family is safe and their future is secured than thinking of my self. The UK is routined because that is how they function and sorry to say many born and bred African Nigerian men are not used to routine and think of themselves. Everything abroad is an insult to their integrity especially if they have to do certain things that they are not used to. It's good to know their honest opinion. Lovely to watch

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😂 thank you. A lot of African men back home can relate to him. It’s actually not easy to adapt to the lifestyle here but in the long run it is absolutely worth it

[@tyke1620]

@@ScholasticaUgboka it's not easy for a lot of us both women and men but just like I said when you think of the safety of your family as opposed to the corrupt lifestyle of back home with no definite future for the kids we are bringing up, one should see it as a good thing. Thank God the narratives are changing and our men are getting to understand

[@kole1ful]

The first man can still be living in Nigeria and doing his business but visiting his family. It’s not the best but the man seems unhappy. I don’t completely agree with him that if you’re doing well stay. My Husband and I are doctors, and my Husband was doing very well in Nigeria. (I didn’t study in Nigeria, and I had no intentions of living there either) He was a millionaire BUT he looked at the country and said his children will never grow up in a country like that. He was almost at the peak in his career in Nigeria with many businesses. He left and came to the UK to start again almost from scratch. His mates were consultants already while he was starting another training all over again. There are situations that money will not help you in Nigeria eg insecurity, education, health and certain opportunities are absent. For instance during the Covid lockdown many of the rich couldn’t travel and they died in Nigeria. Also after working in the UK you have pension and you’re taken care of in old age. You might be rich but you’re one sickness away from abject poverty in Nigeria. In the UK it’s GOD’s grace and consistency with a plan. It’s a working system that you build up gradually. No short cuts. I sense that the first man is used to the patriarchal system and “faux elitism/classism” in Nigeria so it’s difficult for him to adjust to the life here. I pray GOD Helps him

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😀😀 thank you so much for this. You are right about it all

[@tayokarate]

It's not really a good idea especially if u are not a professional ; medicine is in high demand so one can take such risk .If you are doing great in Nigeria and you don't have prospects of a good job don't risk it all e.g selling everything and leaving to go and try it but going first to test it and see if it will work for you while keeping things running in Nigeria.Personally I am considering a 10 year plan of going back to Nigeria to establish things ,by then I will have ILR and I can go and come as I wish.

[@kole1ful]

@@tayokarate I agree with you about not taking an “uncalculated” risk and just coming to the UK without a plan. But sha don’t take your children back to the trenches (Nigeria) if you have any.

[@williamsolawale4208]

Aunty how many people died in naija let be objective nau. More people died in UK, Europe, US, and Canada than anywhere in Africa. Your husband reason to move is good for him but might not be good for everyone. Those Richer than your husband are making changes in their little way and your husband and a millionaire could have easily paid the school fees for his children easily if he wants to but the truth is the travel is for him primarily and what he wants.

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@kole1ful your children can one decide on their own they want to go back and contribute to the growth of the country. You guys made a good decision for your family but naija or Africa is not dead yet. The Chinese, Lebanon, India are moving in, in drones and they are seeing what we are not seeing

[@tobiadewusi7365]

I can relate with the first guy. Flexibility is not one of his core skills. He is so focused on himself and neglects the positive sides of living in the UK. He should ask his children if they want to return to Nigeria. As parents, relocating is not about us...you are giving your children the opportunity to make a choice. If he intends to stay in the UK, he must drop all the titles he has as an African man. I love my time freedom so much, but if I must work a few years to finally get what I desire then I will adapt. Can we drop this mindset about care work? Work on yourself, you have so many transferable skills that are needed in the UK. All you need is just one or two interviews.

[@akintadeeniola5382]

God bless you for this comment. The man is so focused on himself forgetting the kids are the reason why we do the things we do once you become parents.

[@lovellmomodu6879]

@@akintadeeniola5382 as much as we make all the sacrifice for our kids, remember our happiness matters too as patents. We have to be in our right frame of mind for our kids to enjoy us. Not everybody see Nigeria as a bad or terrible country to live in.

[@nirvanawellness3619]

You people should stop using children as excuse for suffering. Stop sugarcoating.

[@michaelariyo8940]

@@akintadeeniola5382 So, becoming a parent should mean forgetting yourself and living solely for your children? It means not having a life again and living for the kids, not caring about your own happiness anymore because you're now a parent? It makes no sense. There should be balance. Only a happy parent can raise happy children. His wife shouldn't have forced him over and probably just leave him doing his business in Naija while he shuttles frequently to the UK to be with them. Simple....instead of making him an unhappy man while she is happy. It's called selfishness.

[@hauwasuleiman105]

Thank you jare!!!

[@ebriubana6263]

I so much love this conversation, thanks for putting up such program. The dudes are so funny and lively, I also love the fact that they all kept it real, hoping to meet them when I come over to the UK

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much. we would love to meet you too

[@RandomMZ1412]

That routine life the 2nd guy talked about is why we have developed and developing nations. For success to happen, there must routine, well oiled running machine that requires every bit of the machine to play it’s roll. That doing whatever at whenever attitude is the reason things do not work properly in Nigeria or other developing nations.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right

[@joannnamani6963]

My husband is so watching this, man is more enthusiastic about going to the uk, this video is very realistic!!

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😀😀 thank you, let him watch it oo so he will know what to expect

[@_drlee]

The lack of security alone is all that’s needed to relocate from Nigeria 🇳🇬

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

True, I have been watching the news lately and the contents are so disheartening

[@estahadassah9470]

Thank you for your insights 👍🏾 🌟. This will help those who want to relocate there. It's not easy to get the job you want immediately after landing in the UK 🙄

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Exactly, I wish people will understand that fact. You need to start somewhere, no matter how small. The more you work and meet people, the more chances you have of getting a better job opportunity

[@DrEzinneErhirhie]

This interview is testament to the saying: 'Attitude is Everything'

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Hmm

[@babajideadeyanju5518]

I must commend you for responding to people's comments, you are indeed different among youtubers. Kudos to you ma

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Aww thank you so much

[@makindemary9021]

You just got a subscriber. We need to see real things like this

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

awww thank you so much

[@Flower-dy4zi]

Thank you for this very insightful discussion, what an eye opener ! Honest men opening up talking about their struggles and challenges that they are facing. So often people only talk about the good when they arrive there. Much appreciated 🙏

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

you are right. thank you so much for watching.

[@kajethanosondu4000]

@@ScholasticaUgboka In Lagos we wake up 4.30am to bit traffic and get back home at 10pm or 11pm

[@user-pf4ij7vr5b]

Very enlightening video👍. kudos to the husbands not easy anywhere abroad o but it's all a phase in life and better days ahead it requires patience. The guy in black and white is one of d luckiest guys whose wife is even a nurse in the UK, and if they plan well they can establish something huge in Nigeria. Benefits in UK still better than being in Nigeria, the kids future matter too. No Pain No Gain.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right. Thanks

[@kennethadebola]

Nice one Ugboka. I really love the insight your platform brings to bear. Which ever way, life goes on

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much 🥰

[@Zebbyzee]

This video is so unique and different. Thanks Scolastica for this 🥰

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@felemuwale8240]

This is really deep Thanks a lot for the commitment to guide others

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thanks for watching

[@sheddychunu2931]

this is beautiful Scholastica....the 4 of them with diverse views brought balance to the conversation. I understand the first guy, there is a level of comfort you may have achieved in Nigeria that it would take a real mental shift to start from scratch. the 2nd guy countered well. THE SACRIFICE IS REALLY FOR FAMILY. And for the first time, I appreciate the time I get to bond with kids, back then it was all about getting the funds to make them happy with no quality time spent.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right, thanks a lot for the feedback

[@olufunkeyetunde6744]

Very true. This is my story right now

[@tamunotonyeigbikstamunokon4694]

I honestly feel the first guy should go back to Nigeria. He can have an agreement with his wife and find a way to make things work so they are both happy. Because I don’t think it’s fair that he’s where he doesn’t want to be. It’ll tell on him and the family sooner or later. A lot of people in the Nigeria have thier families abroad, they could make it work. Life’s too short to be so unhappy, I understand him.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

it is not like he is not happy oo, it is his job that he doesnt like, he loves his family that is why he was able to gather the courage to leave his comfort zone to come over here to start from scratch.

[@aishasule4378]

Wow , I love this video thanks for bringing it out here .

[@ifehansson2254]

A marriage across continents doesn't really work. A family is a unit.

[@adewalejoeladebisi1342]

I am in the United Kingdom too. The guy in the black is the only realist among them all. my take

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😃 thank you

[@proudlyafrican6240]

Exactly…For some Nigerians it is ok to live abroad..If you are settled in Nigeria, do not let Instagram and Facebook fake posts make you leave your good life in Nigeria to relocate..you will regret it

[@ritarogers2657]

Brilliant insight guys! Thanks for your honesty. But for those doing care work consider going into Nursing and then utilise your background degrees to move into Health management, operations, finance etc. Men are in demand and loads of training. Loads of opportunities and which are transferable to other countries.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

This is true

[@pillaroffireministriespfmu8668]

Very good content 👌 👏 👍 thanks for putting it together and the men for their honesty

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@AnkaraHotspot]

My advice for my brother in the black jacket is to get some qualifications here. You are never too old to redevelop and retrain. You can do a Masters or do a short course that gives you a certification. Your life does not have to end as a Carer. Scholastica, biko give him this message.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much, he is working towards this already

[@TamunoOpuboCooksCookeyGam]

@@ScholasticaUgboka Amen. I was going to suggest business certificate or project management

[@regnurse_aisha]

I enjoyed this so much 😂😂especially the first guy Very sincere

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you, he spoke the honest and bitter truth

[@ejikemeonuoha3272]

Nne thank you for this programme. The testimony of these men are encouraging.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you for the feedback ❤️❤️

[@ovo5491]

This UK routine is the same programming workers face in Nigeria. This is why people avoid paid employment in Nigeria and go into business for flexibility

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Exactly, business is the profitable venture nowadays.

[@shelleyphilcox4743]

As a Brit whose parents moved and worked in other countries, and then doing the same as an adult with my own family, I understand the opportunities but also the prices you pay in other ways and the sacrifices it takes, whether its career and job opportunities for the other partner and taking a knock to your own, loneliness and learning to live in completely different environments and also the effects on your children and other extended family and adjusting to other cultures. Its not for everyone and has its challenges. You do have to be on the same page as your partner, because it can bring big stresses and can break couples and families when someone is very unhappy and lonely and becomes frustrated. Sometime the partner who has come into an established job and meets people in work and strikes up some social outlet, with career going well cannot fully understand what it is like for the partner having to construct a life from nothing to something, especially when they are making sacrifices on career and not doing what they aspired to do and worked hard for. It takes time! I genuinely wish you all the best and hope that you and your families achieve everything you hope for together.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are 💯 absolutely correct.

[@dorcasn6443]

Soo much love this ,it’s so real,I just subscribed,the man on black jacket is soo funny ,real Igbo man 🤣🤣🤣….thanks to all the men in the house …

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Aww thank you so much and welcome to the family

[@sicklecellman2456]

I'm telling you, a real formal business man and may be then he may had boys serving him and life was so simple for him. I really understand his pains.

[@victorisrael9941]

Everyone has spoken well. Real discussions as e be not faking anything. Thanks guys.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Exactly, thank you so much

[@Yvonnecollection2000]

Wow never seen such reality show as this, husbands so real but the man in black said it all. The truth is safety first and that's all that count for our kids okay, I love you all.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right. We just have to look at creating a better future for the kids . Thanks

[@Muyosikalubya]

One of the best videos ever. Bravo you are great🎉

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

wow 🤩 thank you so much. i'm happy you enjoyed it

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

wow 🤩 thank you so much. i'm happy you enjoyed it

[@evaristaozegbe7257]

Thank you for this. The man in black and white was forced to come to the UK so he is not open minded at all. You advise those who have money to stay back in their country but you enjoy all the basic things of life that you must buy in Nigeria. Early in February, we had money but couldn't buy fuel, no light, very hot weather. Our children were covered with heat rashes and mosquitoes no let person hear word. It that not hell. You say we can use money to buy good roads? Na wa oh. Sir, have a open mind. You can even start up a business if that's what you are good at. The beginning of the road maybe rough but it gets better with time. Just change your attitude or better still, return to Nigeria and visit your family from time to time.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you ❤️❤️

[@owowenukingsley4135]

Thanks Scholastical for this expository show. And thanks to the husbands for making it real.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@mylifeisinhishandsamen4167]

The problem is that most Nigerians abroad were suffering back home before they relocated so they will never understand that first brother. They are talking from the mindset of lack and scarcity that they experienced. I have been in his situation so I perfectly understand him. My brother, don't let anyone make you feel like you are wrong. I know the pressure will be there bcos they are in the majority and you are in the minority.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😀😀 thank you, this comment is so funny but a lot of people are actually applauding him for saying the bitter truth

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😀😀 thank you, this comment is so funny but a lot of people are actually applauding him for saying the bitter truth

[@adiatoluwole1704]

Good talk my brothers did perfectly. And the host God will perfect your doings ijmn. Amen

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Amen.thank you

[@ifeomat.615]

Just like the second man(the technical man) said, decision to relocate is way beyond whether you are doing well in Nigeria or not. One should put the kids future into serious consideration. As a parent you owe them the best of upbringing you can afford. Or is it the insecurity ravaging the country. I know no where in the world is totally secured but at least, a place where there is hope.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

You are right.

[@Jango174]

This is one of my major reason relocating to the Uk, not for me but for my children i owe them a better life than the one i had or the one my father did try his best to give to me. I must give them the best and the best is not accessible in Nigeria 🇳🇬 i am sure if Nigeria was like the Uk many people will not leave but say in the country...

[@jrrynwosu8737]

If you are doing well in Nigeria and can sponsor your kids to university abroad, then there may be no need relocating because of kids

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@jrrynwosu8737 Thank you. I think most not all people hide under the umbrella of I want to give my children the best to satisfy their own desire because you can give your children the best but it must start from you been the best of you and not necessarily been abroad. The best of you may be abroad and may be in Nigeria.

[@daliaa5294]

Then just send your kids for schooling abroad. Stop using children future as cover up. Children suffer all over the world. Is your child the most special ?

[@ifymimi5795]

I love this video God bless you all. And give you guys strength

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Amen, thank you so much for the feedback

[@DrEzinneErhirhie]

The first guy's wife should gift him with a flight ticket to Nigeria. His sadness would poison their marriage. Since he made so much in Nigeria, he can send money to her for child care.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

How much will he send that will be enough to pay for 12 hours of child care every 4 days in a week considering the exchange rate? He will adjust with time. If he is able to get a better job or make enough money to invest in a business here then it will be better, for now he has to be here to support his wife and kids. There is nothing wrong with their marriage right now o, they have come to a compromise and everything is working well for everyone in the family

[@preciouss.achalu8240]

I agree. That man Is not happy at all

[@naggalyejanet8874]

No dear, he will get used to it. It's the same everywhere. I came to Dubai and had the best nursing job but still felt I wanted to go back home. But after getting good money and seeing easy life and safety, everything changed. He's right

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Exactly, this is his story now. that guys makes more money than i do as a care assistant.

[@abahesther3994]

He's unhappy

[@miriamiyoha]

This guy on white is a realist and the most honest amongst them all, the other guy who talked about good educational system for the kids and all just wait until ur child/children turns 18years and then you will wish you had left your kids in a good school back home. Uk is not the way it's painted. If you are comfortable in your home country is best you stay back there and enjoy your life and family cos I tell you, you can't stay even 1 week without working else you and your family will be on the street.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😀😀😀 thank you for your input

[@mpram5522]

The second husband just summarized life. Wow. Freedom doesn't earn you anything. I am here sitting in SA wondering how is it possible that labor laws allows 12 hours working day, but I know that even in SA "foreigners" are abused. Thank you for an eye opening interview of the husbands. Love how they are taking it all so positively. This is what summarizes the failures of our African leaders.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

thank you, i still think 12 hours is too much but that is what it is, we have to adapt

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@ScholasticaUgboka yeah it's too much. It's just what's required for now.

[@ihuomaanthony4130]

I love that fair guy, that was a banker in Nigeria. He was so real!

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Aww thank you 🥰

[@JesuslovesU001]

I like how real the first guy was. It was so interesting listening to them. How about trying to go back to school, or taking diploma or certification programs. Would that be possible for a dependant with children? Incase a person wants to to transition to white collar job role In the UK.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Yes it is possible to go back to school on a dependant visa However that option is Available right now cause his kids are still small and his wife needs his support and attention now to cater for them

[@sureboyhajyboller8958]

After watching this video I realized that it had buttressed the point of view of a slang "THIS LIFE NO JUST BALANCE" Come to think of it, they all said their candid opinions, while some are fully ready to relocate (probably they initiated the move from their home country), some are compelled to (forcefully with some conditions) If I start to talk, we go dey here till tomorrow But one thing I've learnt lately is that do what makes you happy not at the expense of your family (if they are loving)

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

😊 thank you

[@FUROTV]

Don’t shut him up he is saying the true. If u ve money u can pay for good school. We should stop trashing Nigeria

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

He said the bitter truth

[@ifehansson2254]

You can pay for good schools but after all that education where are the jobs? The fact that people leave Nigeria to do menial jobs abroad says something about the country and we need to stop pretending otherwise

[@Dfabfamily]

Just what I needed. Thank you very much 🙌🏽

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you for watching

[@graceaina7486]

To be a care assistant you don't need to go to school Care assistant is for the citizens who is not educated 9 pounds per hour stressful job

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

you are right that is why they said it is the easiest job to find when you arrive in the uk. any body can do it

[@ufuomaayodele5138]

Well done, this is really a good video. The guys are real.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@godwinejiofor8064]

It is when people leave Nigeria that we value the country I miss home.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

True. I miss Nigeria but I dont think I can live there anymore unless when I'm old then I can consider going home to retire

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@ScholasticaUgboka that's not fair oooo. Nigeria no be retiring ground come in your prime and contribute to the nation. The good thing is you can always have your UK citizenship and return anytime you want

[@NabiiMercy]

Guys you are very funny. ❤And Nigerian are very united. Even here in South Africa.they live in community. I like it. Listening to man's experiences. Thanks

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much. i'm happy you enjoyed it

[@vividbaby4157]

I like the akwaibom guy already..😄 let me continue watching ooo. Workable health system is understatement. Uk has Excellent health system. Nigeria health care system is wack. That is the thing I fear most for my kids and family. And you wonder why we pray a lot here. That Is the only option available to most people here. And God comes through most times for me and my family tho. The first guy has some serious issues tho. I am still coming to the UK. Thanks to the other two guys too. Wrapping chicken is not bad period.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Lol, you are funny, please come to the UK o the good parts outweighs the bad

[@sandrawhite2628]

This is really nice. Thanks Schola for putting this up. Well done sweetheart 💋

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you dear

[@funmie_hobs]

The first guy is just telling the honest truth

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Abi ooo, thank you so much

[@ve4438]

Loved this video as it’s real life! Keep up the good job.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@destinyehis9287]

That first guy still have an option to go back to Nigeria is not a do or die thing. I think is still there because his making a lot of money from the health care work. Which yeye business was he doing in Nigeria, he can still go back to the business now. You don't know what it means to live in a secure environment. People's life are not safe in Nigeria, traveling is a problem because no security on our road, by grace of God u go out and come back to ur house without been kidnapped, that is one major reason u see big guys relocating with their family. Was the first guy working with is certificate in Nigeria? Why does he think he can now work with it in UK; Oga if u wan use certificate work for UK take a master program and stop complaining or u come back to Nigeria.

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

He is here because he loves his family and wants to support his wife. it is true that he is making more money here but he was also doing well for himself back home in Nigeria that is why he never thought of living abroad for greener pastures. it is not easy to leave your comfort zone to a new place to start all over from scratch, He merely gave his opinion which was the bitter truth, if the tables were turned and we as nurses are expected to leave our Matron position with all the respect and money back home to come over to the UK to be a dish washer many of us will refuse and be bitter about it too.

[@adoraszone]

Oh my Gosh.....I like the first man's sincerity

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@sunita3902]

Most people between the ages of 25 and 45 in lagos Nigeria leave their homes by 5am and get home by 10pm everyday and they still earn peanuts!

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Exactly, thank you jare

[@amajubenjamin1272]

Very true

[@anthoniaiheanacho6764]

Interesting! I enjoyed every bits of your discussions and I enjoyed it so well!

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much

[@CynthiaOluoma]

Awww bless them…even myself feel like that first guy sometimes .

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Exactly

[@polyvalentnurseidy9831]

The best and most honest video I’ve seen here. Mr. Anny my brother I greet you from Akwa ibom o, songidem. Mrs. Scholastica I love this video. It’s quite insightful. We need more of this kinda earnest talks

[@ScholasticaUgboka]

Thank you so much