I Accused My Best Friend Of SA And Ruined His Life, Believing My New Friend's Manipulations. It's...

[@RepellentJeff]

It’s really scary how some women can just decide “well, I’m gonna ruin this person’s life because I’m jealous.” And then just *_do it_* with zero consequences.

[@Khasym]

Guys who get jealous of another guy's relationship with a girl will usually throw hands. Girls throw words...but the pain is still real, still the same. Women often get a pass because they're "weaker" or "more emotional" than a guy....It's what we allow to happen.

[@thatoneguy9816]

@@Khasymhow tf is that the same? Are you really saying that? I’d rather get beaten down than live the rest of my life with my family and friends spreading word that I’m some sort of deviant. Wow.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@sonnysama16]

I've seen men do it too, it's just not as common.

[@patsypersaud]

@@sonnysama16”Man’s life ended by false accusations, women most affected”

[@brokengiblet7271]

The fact op chose to believe Samantha on the spot over his best friend shows how little of actual friend was to Tom.

[@nikkonreinold3317]

I dont know. I mean obviously tom is the only victim here. But if the scenario would have been as samantha said, i dont think that the early aftermath would have played out any different. Without any proof, how can you make the right choice. How can you find the truth if one person is definitely lying. But obviously, op fucked up here.

[@judohunter1]

Correct. Tom wasn’t a friend and OP is a simp. I was in college and a similar event happened. We questioned the girl in question and lo and behold, she was lying her ass off. And of course she did it 2 more times to the point that the cops told her to not bother them w this crap, either.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

@@judohunter1 What. The. F. Crazy I bet the people she accused were expelled but she got away scot free

[@devhxh1558]

OP was a narcissistic Piece of crap... She was so fast to reconnect TOM to make her feel better... Even tho it wouldn't change anything for TOM... 14:20 But when it comes to confronting her friend she makes excuses, and doesn't wanna take responsibility...

[@nikkonreinold3317]

@@devhxh1558 that's where i definitely agree on. There IS No good Intention on her Part to apologize. At best IT would drag Tom down into a life He worked hard to leave behind and the worst IS what actually happened.

[@maskednil]

If OP really wanted to seek justice for Tom, she would write a full article with her, Tom's, and Samantha's real name and with her photo, and publish it on the internet and Reddit.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

EXACTLY

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Best comment here

[@TheMcGuinness13]

Well it’s an AI generated story so that’s not possible

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

OP sure can take steps to kill an innocent man, but definitely can do anything against Samantha who caused the issue. Because you know, it "won't bring back Tom", there's always an excuse

[@SteffenF]

@@TheMcGuinness13 I think that secretvoices reads mostly real stories. Ai voice yes but I have heard some of them on channels with real humans reading stuff. It's not clear because secretvoices doesn't present the Reddit user name. With other channels like fyra it's clear as day that's generated content but here I'm not completely sure

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 ruined a innocent man's life and probably drove him to suicide. Rest in peace to tom. He deserved so much better. As for the op it doesn't matter what she does to atone for her wrong doings. She's unforgivable.

[@patsypersaud]

There’s only way she can atone now, follow in Tom’s footsteps

[@DefeatedElite]

​@@patsypersaudthe difference is people will miss Tom 😂

[@StefanVeenstra]

Encouraging suicide are you? Even if she caused his despair that led to overdosing, which is speculative at best, but probably compounded by it, following him would accomplish nothing. But she's just as manipulative as that other girl she mentioned, even now blaming her for decisions OP made herself.

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

@@patsypersaud She needs to bring Samantha with her

[@naughtyhieroglyph669]

These are the stories that have trained the AI that the corporations are using....

[@Jake23115]

32 year old guy here I went dated and dealt with a girl at 16 and 17 who was my first girlfriend, and then falsely accused me of SA about 8 months later. Both of these women should be in jail. Both conspired against someone who eventually left this world. That, if I'm not mistaken, is a federal crime.

[@lolarichter9415]

Only Samantha should be prosecuted. OP was a victim of Samantha too

[@humbertougalde6880]

If this is real then these people are monsters. They didn't just kill that boy, they drowned him. They killed him in the slowest and most painful way they could ever kill someone. He died alone and broken and these two monsters will never see the consequences. One because she's a coward and the other because she doesn't actually care. I'll bet they're happily married and living a decent life.

[@karthikk7545]

The first op is a coward and a murder.

[@MizzShortai]

"I didn't get to say goodbye after destroying his life over something I don't even know if it happened." Some friend she was to blindly believe Samantha when there was no proof. She didn't even let him defend himself.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Story 1: At this point, saying "Sorry" isn't gonna do anything. OP destroyed his former friend's life over a lie, there is zero coming back from that. Especially seeing that he was quick to believe "Samantha" over Tom at the drop of a hat. If anything, it sounds like OP wants to make himself feel better. I really hope the guilt eats OP alive for the rest of his life.

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

Too little to late, this is another woe is me post for op to feel-good about herself for ruining her best frieds life. Just justification and excuses avoiding accountability

[@berserker135]

Op is a girl

[@alphazero022]

I thought OP was girl?

[@berserker135]

@@RandomTrinidadian Op is a girl

[@bcamplite621]

​@@alphazero022it is a girl.

[@iamhector24]

As someone who has been falsely accused it does follow you. It haunts you. There are days I wish I was dead.

[@veeru593]

This is why never believe women with out proof

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

that's an exaggeration

[@NahuCommNS]

@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 No, it's not a f*cking exaggeration. It is NECESSARY.

[@Sg190th]

@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 It's facts. Why believe someone's words without proof? Foolish.

[@Hisuko]

​@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259in some cases its not

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

@@Hisuko in SOME cases NEVER believe women without proof. Do you not know what "never" means? Also how are women supposed to get proof exactly?

[@rohanchalke3378]

Story 1: so she just going to move ahead without clearing that innocent mans crime. Op and her friend should be in jailed.

[@Nicho_Ldn]

S1: She didn’t even stay in touch with Samantha after high school? My God, so she made an SA allegation against her best friend of years based on the word of a fly-by-night person who intentionally got her drunk? Why the hell would he want to hear from his false accuser? It sounds like she’s alone, which is a kind of justice. It says a lot about her old high school Friends that they would dismiss a false claim of sexual assault as nothing. Indirectly she and Samantha very likely caused Tom to end himself. So sad. If she has any self-respect remaining and wants to make a gesture, post a statement on social media admitting to everything. Out Samantha for who and what she is. Visit Tom‘s grave if he has one, confront the consequences of your actions in a way that is unavoidable.

[@blackfire6009]

Lol, why indirectly? If the story's true she 100% responsible for his death as surely as if she fed him the drugs herself. Not that she would ever understand Also that she never tried to look him up in 17 years shows that she's not actually remorseful

[@gavinwilliams1288]

What a disgusting OP in story 1. She made a false accusation, and it lead to his death. Nothing she does will absolve her guilt. What a shameful person

[@Rogue_Centurion]

What a terrible person OP in story 1 is

[@patsypersaud]

Samantha is even worse, don’t let the woman off the hook

[@Rogue_Centurion]

@ of course

[@viceramirez2563]

Honestly Samantha is the real villain and chances are she'll keep ruining people's lives just out of jealousy and spite and is a menace to society just waiting to happen. Still even if OP was a "victim" of manipulation, she still aided in ruining someone's life and never came forward cuz she was afraid of the consequences. She still has Tom's blood on her hands and no amount of penance is gonna make up for that.

[@matthewt.6976]

“I let myself believe Samantha because it was easier than facing the possibility that she might have been lying.” I guess it was “easier” to believe that her best friend tried his level best to rape her. That’s the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard.

[@irinanikolaeva786]

"I've been telling myself that I wasn't fully responsible for what happened" Oh no! OP was fully responsible! It's that rare case when one person is responsible for what happened to another person

[@rmhartman]

Two people were responsible.

[@fyoutube9410]

If only OP and Samantha follow in Tom's footsteps.

[@patsypersaud]

The comments better not let OP feel a moment of peace

[@Absolute_Zero61]

If that first story is actually real, then all I have to say is rest easy Tom. He didn’t deserve that type of treatment

[@devhxh1558]

OP was a narcissistic Piece of crap... She was so fast to reconnect TOM to make her feel better... Even tho it wouldn't change anything for TOM... 14:20 But when it comes to confronting her friend she makes excuses, and doesn't wanna take responsibility...

[@trentberry6968]

Her entire friend group were terrible people.

[@Alessandro_Batistuda]

She needs not just confront Samanta but put her in prison for false accusations and Tom's death. Because if these women don't suffer the consequences, they wouldn't learn the lesson and wouldn't stop acting that way

[@ZenoDovahkiin]

This is what teaching your daughter to be wary of men and only men achieves. The women you never warned her about will use and abuse her freely. Because we as a society don't have the balls to talk about women's horrific actions.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

The story is very tragic. However the biggest threat to a woman's life is the closest man to her. This is a universal statistics used by police departments whenever a woman's body is found. The numbers of unreported SA outnumbers 1000× false accusations. Lastly the SA end up with brutal violence, pregnancies permanent physical and psychological damages. There is no equivalency and the women struggles was going for thousands of years. Injustice is bad and should ve fought but men seem more active and vocal when it comes to false accusations more than the real SA.

[@Soothar]

Story 1: make sure Samantha’s current and future partners all know she falsely accuses people of SA…. Shes as much a danger to others as any other unrepentant abuser

[@Soothar]

I also hope the OP publicly admits everything. This will clear the victims name and the OP and Samantha can hopefully face consequences for their actions

[@patsypersaud]

OP herself is a danger to any men around just for how quick she is the believe the worst about them

[@doqas]

Story 1: the OP should clear Tom’s name, especially to his family, that’s the least she can do

[@AA-ed6ek]

What a terrible person OP is. In group bias at it's best. She knew Samantha was being dishonest that's what makes her worse. She believed her because she was a woman.

[@summerstorytrue]

This is an incredibly heavy and painful situation for everyone involved. It’s important to acknowledge the harm caused by false accusations, as they can destroy lives and trust, not only for the person accused but also for others who are genuinely seeking justice in similar situations. It’s equally important to recognize how manipulative people can prey on emotions and create devastating consequences. Moving forward, taking responsibility, seeking forgiveness, and learning from this experience is critical. I hope all parties can find healing and closure. Let’s all remember to approach such situations with care, thoroughness, and empathy to prevent misunderstandings and ensure justice

[@raeishimura]

This is what makes false accusations so absolutely disgusting. They are devastating to the real victim of them. The "accuser" (read: criminal) destroys an innocent man's life, they don't care. They are perfectly happy with it. In fact, they do so with glee. And a person who never did anything wrong, an innocent person just trying to live their life, has to suffer, and sometimes are beaten down so badly that they take the most precious thing they have from themselves. And that accuser? They know. And they don't care. Story 1 OP was used as a pawn to do this, sure. But she still did it. OP chose to listen to someone she hardly knew over her best friend. She destroyed him, and now he's gone. OP, live with the guilt. You are at fault, and you need to never, ever forget that you ended that man. You did.

[@Indian_Germany]

OP in 1st story is a reason why today man's Scares of Womens

[@irinanikolaeva786]

Last story: a woman and a mother leaves it to her boyfriend to talk to her child because he's better with emotional issues? That confirmed what I had thought from the beginning: OP's GF is pretty deep in psychopathy spectrum

[@naughtyhieroglyph669]

I don't think people fully understand how common these stories are, and i wonder how many more decades of hurt men will it take before society crashes.

[@biqppguy]

Yeah OP in the 1st story is the reason why Tom is dead, she should really think herself and Samantha as murderers, I wouldn't wish such kind of treatment even to my enemies

[@Zerohero_007]

Post the truth on Social media, and tell Tom the truth so he can sue both of you for slander.

[@jwbrooks55]

Fellas remember this, women or women first. They will take whatever their female friends say at face value without question, even at the expense of much longer more important relationships. This woman ruined her male friend’s life over nothing but the word of some new female friend.

[@patsypersaud]

Exactly, this is why you don’t “Believe All Women”, you shouldn’t believe ANY woman without evidence

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

@@patsypersaud how are they supposed to get said evidence? If it happens behind closed doors?

[@DefeatedElite]

​@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259that just means females ary lying lmfao 😂😂😂

[@AA-ed6ek]

That's because women have in group bias.

[@samymounir7336]

​@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 The moment we open this door, it is finished. Innocent until proven guilty that's it. If you have no evidence, it sucks but there is nothing we can do about it. It is sad but that’s the harsh reality of this world: sometimes bad people do bad things and there is nothing we can do because they executed their plan too well. We have only two options: we can accept the risk or on the contrary avoid any situation involving it. However, we cannot decide to put people in jail or socially alienate them without any proof. If we do then people like Samantha will start to weaponize false accusations and ruin lives on a whim.

[@todo8328]

It’s everybody’s fault but her own! I HATE that trait in people.

[@emilys8971]

Story 2: OP if you are better with emotional issues than your fiancée the mother - this is a GREAR RED FLAG!

[@Arkryal]

This is why I don't date single moms, lol. It's not the kid that drives me away, it's the mother. If they are getting married, they have to be partners and make those decisions together, trusting that their combined experiences and reasoning will lead to compromises that are overall objectively better than either would have arrived at alone. She doesn't view OP as a partner, in her mind he's just a boyfriend who gave her a ring and will soon be taking over more of the bills, lol. That's not a great foundation for a marriage. But I don't think she's a bad person. She made a very common mistake. She's used to parenting her child unilaterally, and delegating some of those decisions is going to be hard for her. She ignored what her son wanted, and that hurt him. She feels bad about that. When OP called her out on that, she became defensive and doubled down. That's not ideal, but it is pretty typical human behavior. Everyone makes similar mistakes from time to time, it's not an indictment of their character, but it is something they need to be able to acknowledge (and it sounds like she did... eventually). But yeah, as a man, that incident would have had me questioning my future with her. Of course she is the kid's mother. But she can't have her cake and eat it too... ask him to be a father to her son while shutting him out of any meaningful decision. And single moms do this a LOT... not all, of course, but I would say it's very much the norm.

[@shalucard107]

She is still trying to come off as a victim through all of this? I can only hope her and her friend meet the same end.

[@rajarshiish]

Story 1: you practically unalived someone else. Congratulations

[@rmhartman]

What sort of apology could you even make at this point?

[@andrewunderwood4570]

Op is trying to ease her guilt. And is delusional to think she can make up for ruining someone's life.

[@patrickh6571]

Story 2: I don't care if she says this out of anger. Some things can't be taken back. Don't marry that Person!

[@rmhartman]

"did he ever manage to find peace?" Clearly not. You. Killed. Him. SAMANTHA killed him. At your next reunion you need to publicize what happened to Tom, and Samantha's part in it, to the entire class. If Samantha has married, her husband needs to know what she did.

[@DigiDragoh]

"i wonder if tom ever recovered and found happiness" ... OP HES GONE THAT HAPPINESS BROKE AND SHATTERED WHEN HIS BEST FRIEND THE FRIEND HE TRUSTED THE FRIEND HE KNEW FOR A LONG TIME .. let that sink in op and you call yourself a friend you to quickly believe the words of another person without asking anyone else at the party if they saw tom there or not you wouldve gotten your answer if they saw tom at the party when wouldve he been in your room if he was somewhere else

[@kyleanuar9090]

Understand this about karma, if you caused someone to commit suicide then your ending will also be from suicide no matter how you believe it's not going to happen to you.

[@VR00100]

Usually reddit stories are fake (or exaggerated), but for story 1 I really do hope it's fake but I have a feeling that it wasn't fake or exaggerated, as the statistics speak for themselves

[@SinNombreYQueWea]

It's not a reddit story, it's an AI story that was never posted to reddit. It was made up by SecretVoices with ChatGPT.

[@Elmerweird818]

Story 1. OP should contact OP’s family and have them sue Samantha for defamation and emotional damages.

[@Censorthisbananahamock]

Zero accountability on ops part, and both the accuser and friend should face charges for filing a false report, even so long after the fact, especially since it ended in the death of the accused. S2 break up with the single mom, her ignoring his advice is just going to be a constant if they get married. She is a terrible mother and he should call CPS on her and leave her on the streets.

[@MARCUS98765]

I already knew he had ended himself as soon the linked in profile that wasn’t updated it years came up really sad

[@Vipershadow1]

S1: no leave him alone you’ve done enough and You’re an idiot. And he passed tsk now that makes her even worse S2: she ruined the kid’s self esteem. This is another example of why no single mothers if it works for you sure but this happens all the time when they feel like they’re right your opinion/input doesn’t matter.

[@trevsdead]

I didn't get to swy goodbye is crazy to say after ruining someone's life

[@VeryGoodDeals]

everyone says that she shouldnt contact Tom bc it might bring up bad old memories again, but nobody thinks about the possibility that maybe Tom is the type of person to wants his name cleared and want to hear an apology from the accuser herself. if he's someone that doesnt want to hear from her again, then he'll hear from her again once, it'll bring up the pain again, but then he'll never hear from her again, and he will forget about it again. if he wants to hear the apology, he would go the rest of his life wondering if his former best friend still believed that he would do that one is temporary pain, the other is permanent pain, so logically the best decision is actually to reach out to Tom since it's up to the accuser or original victim to make the next move he died by overdose and signs point to that he never got over it. perhaps if she found out and reached out sooner, it would help him to recovery knowing his name was cleared. people don't tend to think about this perspective

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

In the first story does she get he’s dead because of her? Likely an addict because of her

[@nicknitro86]

She ruined a man's life then wants to traumatize him all over again. It's her guilt to carry while not telling anyone of importance. Such a martyr.

[@tasbard8545]

"The latest thing i found of him online was his resume which hadnt been updated for years." Me: he dead, probably by his own gun. "He died to drugs" Me: i hate even being close.

[@rmhartman]

"i didn't have any memory to contradict her' You didn't have any memory to confirm her either.

[@michaelalanbaker7339]

"Believe all women", right? smh There needs to be serious jail time and/or financial consequences for those who make false accusations.

[@NotDevilman]

S2: don't date single moms.

[@patsypersaud]

You get all the responsibilities of being a father with none of the rights

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

vast generalization

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

@@patsypersaud that's true, know what you're getting into, discuss with partner

[@devhxh1558]

​@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 its not, most are like that, absent parents.. and their partner stuck raising the kids... Mean while they throw comments like MY CHILD and sidelines all your efforts.... . Its a fact, single moms come with baggage

[@Hexenkartothek41]

@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259but a good one. It usually means that the woman makes bad decisions.

[@emirmasinovic]

I wouldn't want to be her best friend

[@patsypersaud]

Story 1 is a prime example is why men should NEVER be friends with women, even if you have nothing but platonic intentions throughout

[@KX-12345]

This.

[@saravananrs6563]

Don't marry single mom with daughter

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

lmao it's a risk sure but that's a generalization. Yes, I had a female friend spread rumors about me (that I was staring at her) instead of talking to me but all of her and my female friends took my side. All of them, didn't expect them to but they did. Because they know me. Most women with a brain would take their "best friend's" side but yes there's a risk. But I can't live life in perpetual fear, I'm already so alone. I don't want to not have female friends. if I can help it.

[@patsypersaud]

@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259Fair enough, just be prepared to spend the rest of your life as a social pariah or in jail when you upset the wrong one

[@rekslegiune6004]

This is why people who lie about SA need to go to jail, I'm sick of this S, it doest take much for a man to lose everything.

[@keybearer26]

Nah, you're a coward ma'am. Being unable to tell the people who ge was either family with or that Samantha girl they deserve to know from YOU.

[@thegreenmonster1103]

Contact his family and tell them the truth. They deserve to know.

[@ValeryKamov]

Say it with me boys! Women ☕

[@richardmiller622]

OP will live with her actions for the rest of her life. Tom will forever haunt her in memory.

[@Groverismyspiritanimal]

The OP needs to stop reaching out, forgiveness is not who you wronged forgiveness is for the wronged. The OP needs to learn from your mistakes and become a better person and move on, if their forgiven cool if not it is what it is.

[@Left-2-stray]

Don't seem like much of friend to me People like this is why I stick to myself

[@miceltusav88]

Reconcile? You need to give yourself a short drop with a sudden stop

[@leepalmer8819]

Sounds to me like you and Samantha killed this guy with your lies. Now you feel guilty. You should have to carry this guilty to you grave just like he had to carry your betrayal to his.

[@stevealexander5415]

Story one op and Samantha should be put in prison for false accusations and story two this story shows why men shouldn't date/marry single mom's

[@Spacemanct]

So you didn't believe your best friend over some girl you barely know. But 17 years later, you believe some random comment at a wedding. Op if this story is real. I feel like you knew it was fake the whole time, and now you feel guilty.

[@JDubs1464]

“17 years ago? Huh, that must’ve been in the late 90’s-early 00’s” 17 years ago was 2007.

[@Zan140]

That’s why Ill never settle with a single mom. Nothing will matter if your name isn’t on her children birth certificate.

[@rajarshiish]

Story 2: that's why no matter how, never get involved with a single mother

[@alvinchoong1188]

Look what false me2 did to that poor man. If this story is true i hope his ghost will haunt her for life.

[@TechnoMageB5]

Other commenters on here have adequately covered story 1. Story 2: Ladies, you should be GRATEFUL to have a man that will take a son of yours that has a different baby daddy. Be warned: more and more men are catching on to the double standard of you telling him "that's your child" when a bill needs to be paid but at the same time that's "not your child" when discipline or hard decisions need to be made. Pick a lane and stick to it, or risk losing the new man in the process.

[@SabakuNoShuhei69]

Stories aside: I love the game played in the background! Powerwash Simulator is my favorite!

[@georgeprchal3924]

And this person was your friend? Wow.

[@StubbySquid-1]

Story 1 - 😂 a very simple rage bait. Story 2 - if it’s a single mom, OP NEEDS TO RUN! It never ends well.

[@alecmoon8895]

I hate this “bond” thing she says if this kid actively said he wanted to spend his bday with just the 2 of them also kids are easy to read if your kid says something listen it usually is them telling you something they don’t want or like

[@harryking4007]

O p was never Tom's friend. He was hers but she was wasn't his.

[@bennyfugazzi1054]

Leave him alone

[@bopbopanna]

What a gutless PoS OP in Story 1 is. Hideous.

[@OTDinosaurScrubs]

Samantha is a waste of life

[@kenpojeb]

No words for OP 1.

[@grandparedpill2695]

Run, don't walk to the nearest exit, and keep running. If you apologize. At this point, he's not going to believe you. He's not going to care. You destroyed this man's life for 17 f****** years, you have no idea of the damage you did to him, nor did you care. There's no way you can make this up to him. At least no way I can mention here.

[@lariemunoz873]

So you were willing to bring all this up to Tom to ease your guilt ,but you don't want to bother Samantha? Wow! Also you wonder what type of life he had if he managed to move past it? Are you being deliberately blind ? This poor ma had his entire life destroyed and was betrayed by someone he trusted implicitly. No he didn't manage to move past it and have a good and fulfilling life, he became an addict and died of an overdose !

[@timparry5277]

You should go to jail.

[@blackfire6009]

Story 1 is obvious ragebait lol. If it is, well... Op certainly isn't a good person and I wouldn't be surprised if she actually did worse to the guy than what she discloses. After all, she spends it all on her pity party of "I'm not trying to shift blame but it's not my fault". In any case the simple fact she doesn't want to confront the girl or find his parents is enough to have an idea of her character. As for atonement? Lmao get out of here, you think victims want to hang out with their abusers or somethings? How delusional is she?

[@MrCreepjo]

Secretvoices ai story is honestly someof the worst in the web and that people even thought it's real.

[@StorytimeHaven3979]

The fact op chose to believe Samantha on the spot over his best friend shows how little of actual friend was to Tom.