I can still LOVE YOU and LEAVE YOU!

[@jennifereaddy]

"Unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance. "

[@queendee1393]

Thank you.

[@q.t.gamingfamily]

Hell naw

[@susanparker9877]

Bang on!!!!

[@billpincheon23]

Well put..!

[@lisashealingjourney5283]

Very well said!

[@blaquepearlent6015]

YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!! My ex husband said I never loved him because I left...I told him no "I LOVE MYSELF MORE "

[@michelleanthony1591]

I agree 100 % with you, ....

[@denisegladden-peters4435]

Me too!!

[@harrietdancy7255]

I know that’s right sis!!! Me too. Love you from a looooooong distance!! Boy bye!! Threaten my life!! Won’t kill me! It’s been over 20 years🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️. I’m out! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

[@6933Kimberly]

Me 3

[@jashonjones4682]

Mine said the same thing. I just blocked him from everything.

[@CoachCarolBernice]

I loved my husband deeply but got fed up with how poorly he treated me and so I decided to leave....but he didn't think I would leave because he know how much I loved him but I finally realized that I had to love me and choose me.

[@susanparker9877]

Bravo!

[@foreverchelz4152]

Im proud of you. That’s hard to do. Add kids and family it can end in disaster.

[@VershyTheQueen]

I am so grateful that this conversation is being had an brought up. The day before yesterday I decided to walk away from a gentleman I was dating. I sincerely liked him ( a lot) and I was very interested. However he has an avoidant attachment style paired with putting his career first. No matter what I did, no matter how hard I tried to get to truly know him, grow close to him, ask thought provoking questions as well as learn how to love him properly he wouldn’t allow me too. Anytime there needed to be a serious conversation happen he wouldn’t acknowledge it, just listen to me without saying anything, start singing, or just be silent but never address anything that I stated. It was hurtful. Not to mention his communication started to change and become off so I decided to walk away and let him know why. It truly hurt me because I like him a lot but I had to let him go. Too many times woman choose to stay when we need to leave because we think we won’t get better, we don’t want to be alone, or we care for someone. However if our love/consideration is being taken advantage of or not recognized we need to leave. Women need to stand on business and walk away. Hence why the narrative is women get praised from how much they take from men and staying through it. That will not be me!’

[@toniwilliams9817]

They never believe that you will leave ❤

[@yokithabridges9768]

When a person keeps belittling, hurting, manipulating, and cheating on you and then says they "love you" at the end, it is not an act of love, and it will be a repeat cycle if you don't get out!

[@lotusgsxr750]

I love and left, I still love and I'm still gone. Because emotions aren't everything!

[@kittkat1996]

"It's a dangerous thing when a person figures out you don't have the power to leave" OMG that is a POWER statement!!!

[@elindio7545]

I am a man , and this hits me hard !!!!!!!. Ace , I thank you my brother 🙏. Loving her from a distance from this very moment onwards.

[@marykinuthia954]

Not a good idea

[@queendee1393]

Yes agreed I moved 1500 miles. Because I love myself MORE...

[@lizsnipe4406]

So True...my dad taught me that he never raised his voice toward me and never placed his hands on me always... protected, love and provided...that baby girl is your standard for men

[@Genxmom]

Yep. It took me a long time to learn this. It is completely fine and healthy to cut someone off and not hate them. If honesty, respect, and integrity exit so do I.

[@Im-me504]

I wished someone talked to me like this during my childhood, it wouldve saved me a great deal of pain in my adult life . I wouldve been able to take heed to red flag signs and not saw them as imperfections that will get better in the long run .

[@archanasrivastava7136]

If only I could hit the like button 1000 times. The energy in your voice has done its work ❤

[@rosewanda2]

Say it loud!!!!!!!!! You on here preaching!!!!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@breeminor498]

@Wanderful Rose God have sent a blessing to earth. Preach wisdom to women. So, women that are in toxic relationships can get out of those relationships. Message to women that are thriving in their dreams and goals to keep moving towards their end goals.

[@hereforit2347]

I have left a *few* people that I either loved or was IN love with. In the words of Robin Harris, “Gotta go, gotta GO!” ✌🏾

[@Magicallotus333]

Yes! Love thyself! Even if it was so hard to say goodbye, and I will always love you! But I picked me now first! You are 💯 he was lying the first night. I left 3 weeks ago! It's painful but WORTH IT. LET GO and do you!

[@jacydyer5489]

If you know these things for yourself but you still can't get out or stop this pattern, and the self-betrayal has hurt you over and over, you probably have childhood trauma that you haven't dealt with completely. Men are not the start of this problem, your parents were. And, if you had to work to be seen with them, you're still working to be seen, meaning still trying to feel worthy of being seen, only men have replaced your parents as your primary person. Remember, as children, parents are our primary people, or person, or, whatever adult raised us during our FORMative years. This becomes our lovers once we leave those people and our childhood home. Your soul will continue to give you opportunities, meaning new relationships, to work this out. Self-love is the only answer and until you start gaining it, you can understand all of this intellectually, but that deep need to feel worthy will cause an attachment to other insecure people that will feel like an addiction. All it is is us saying to ourselves, "I may not have been able to make my parents love me, but I will not fail this time." See, it's not the particular man, it's you. You're choosing people who will make you work for their love, because your brain is actually wired where your internal belief about love, is that it is something that has to be earned. If the neurons in your brain are literally wired like this, you cannot just turn it off. So, while in these relationships, you can feel like, until you are successful at "winning over" a person who does not love nor respect you, you cannot feel worthy, but this is false. You can, you just have to admit to yourself that you don't actually like the person, understand that you have become temporarily, literally mentally ill, from dealing with self-betrayal, and that your focus should be on self as the one responsible for you being in this. Don't focus on the indecency of the other toxic individual that you've attracted, focus on why you're attracted to toxic people. This is even if you're still in the toxic relationship. You're not mad at them, they are literally interchangeable, you are mad at self, for being here again, and, with another person, who is indecent, when you already know better. Self betrayal is what won't let you rest. Check out CPTSD. Childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or ComplexPTSD. Just knowing that relationships trigger old childhood patterns of behavior, will give you so much empathy for yourself. But, you must constantly tell yourself the truth and be working to get out of a toxic relationship or to make sure you never enter another one. Gotta do the work no matter which category you fit into.

[@wyattmeeshellie3068]

This is TOTALLY TRUE for Me. I finally figured this out and now doing the WORK ❤

[@prettypri1740]

Idk who you are jacy. I really wanna give a big thank you for writing this out . Literally read this everyday . Thank You 🤍

[@LVARockets]

Thank you

[@tanea7942]

Never felt this way but there are people that think it shackles you to them!🙅🏾 Amen 🙏🏽

[@trulylexa]

I love your show has gotten me through my break up ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@blaquepearlent6015]

Here is What I Tell Men "You dont have a spell on me, there is no certain amount of wowing me that makes me be here or make me Love you....Me Loving You is a CHOICE...MY CHOICE...So I can choose to Not and Leave!!!!! So keep taking Advantage of something that's not yours and see how far it take you

[@shannontalley9686]

If I could smash the like button a thousand times on this I would. Absolute truth. Thank you for this video.

[@angelahuntley807]

Never let your time, effort, and love be taken for granted❤

[@beautifulone4904]

So true facts

[@janelleLee81]

Accceeee....you are heaven sent! I'm married and going through this! I struggle between my religion and getting divorced. I need so much help. But your videos give me hope.

[@lisa196409]

Have you shown him Ace just send him one of aces shorts then leave

[@janelleLee81]

@@lisa196409 oh no honey...that's the quickest way to make a narcissist go off! I'll leave in peace!

[@ericabelcher8760]

I know this is late, but I hope you are doing well! Whatever you decided on, I hope you made the BEST decision regarding your mental health & PEACE! Don't let anyone take those things away from you no matter what religion you're in or what you believe! Blessings to you love! ❤🙏

[@janelleLee81]

@Erica Belcher hi sweetheart...I ended up getting the strength to divorce him. He was abusive in so many ways. Our divorce will be finalized in a month

[@janelleLee81]

@Erica Belcher and thank you for your empathize may God bless you, and I wish you well in this journey we call life

[@marlojackson3983]

My ex blessed me by breaking up with me. It was the best gift he had given me in 2 years. 💯

[@ladyvee01anderson54]

Can love you & walk away with smile On my face 😁❤😁❤😁❤😁❤

[@lynnwhite546]

No gas, no movement!!!!

[@brendanash-milton9277]

Yes, I am able to leave you and do not want anything you can keep that alleged heart.

[@yokithabridges9768]

I have had a fraudulent relationship for 3 years, and this person has gaslighted, love bombed, emotionally drained me, and did all of the above to hurt me in the relationship and think I'm stuck to leave the situation.

[@Ashley-id2cb]

I have no words for how great this is.

[@beautifulone4904]

Yes

[@jpetty2935]

I just got out of my toxic relationship 4 months ago and now he begging to come back nope

[@susanparker9877]

Nope, nope, nope, never.

[@glendamcgaughey3898]

ACE, U're always on point, and I've learned from you. 👏🏽✌🏽👊🏽⚘️👌🏽👍🏽👋🏽 🌻🙌🏽😇🙏🏽

[@fromtheprojectstothepentho4820]

Bro you preaching and teaching

[@EeshsSweetSpotBakery]

We share the SAME sentiment on Love- I always say: The BEST way to deal with mishandeling of You? IS TO DEPRIVE THEM OF YOU!!! Why on earth should they be allowed to view your lovely face and smell your wonderful scent and they don't appreciate you... LOVE THIS🎉🎉THANK YOU. Really LOVE the car analogy! SO TRUE 👍 I've left many folks once my value to them is QUESTIONED. #TrunkTime

[@simplynisha8703]

Beep beep put gas in me we rolling!!!!!!!! Omggggggggggg your on point

[@sarahgrohmusic]

Love your longer sessions. Preach! I have already - been - to - church!! Woohoo! 1. I just opened the door to loving me! Being my fill, my best friend! 2. Don’t have to love forever! 3. Ready to be alone

[@donnaharding9604]

Veni Vidi Vici. (I came. I saw. I conquered.) That was my life motto starting in high school. Thank you for that reminder! ❤️❤️❤️

[@sandrastubbs581]

you're amazing and wise.... thank you AGAIN for your encouragement and wisdom....

[@MsKB7]

I healed myself with Jesus alone🙏🏽

[@orrethagrey1460]

Every freakin problem mi have inna life is really and truly seated at a man fi true. Real chat mi G

[@elenabond9789]

I hope you practice what you preach because you soooo right!!

[@terriestewart5830]

This real talk..❤❤❤

[@RemydaBossKing]

This was a whole motivational speech.

[@NinaEvans-bz7xu]

Ok, love you from a distance ❤️

[@sharoneh8929]

This is truth and real talk 💯‼️ You need to Love yourself more❤❤❤. Do not let your Love hold you hostage in a fraudulent, toxic, and unhealthy relationship/situation ship! Choose Peace and Yourself. Be empowered; you are worthy💟💟💟.

[@mildredbell3960]

Boy I wish I heard you years ago and I am 71 now and that's lessons learned to me THANK YOU FOR THIS BECAUSE THERE IS A LOT OF STUCK PEOPLE OUT HERE GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS LIFE LESSONS INDEED

[@michelleanthony1591]

When you continue to LIE, .... You will always LIE.

[@diamondoverdimestv]

So so True. As they say in Church..."GOOD WORD"!....❤

[@mariagilliam6783]

Your back! I hope your tour went well! Thank you 🙏🏽 for all you do with your meaningful and inspirational advice. 🔥💯

[@diamondstar9438]

ace u are my favorite n u helped make me stronger n i salute u

[@blaquepearlent6015]

I APPRECIATE YOU ACE SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!!!!

[@itsgoodforthesoul]

🐐🐐🐐 This Was On Point From The Reading Of The Title To The End Of The Video! Just Blew My Mind, Took Me To Church 😂😂😂 No Lie! I Felt This In My Soul! I Had To Listen To It Twice Back To Back!! I'm Already Out The Door After 10 Years & I'm 31, However This Was A Message Sent To Me From The Goddesses To Never Allow Me To Look Back! You Are A Beast, Thank You 🎯🙏🏾💯

[@BENNI8659]

Love should be a commitment not a feeling , 2% of it should be a feeling or 0.5, I picked a lot from this video

[@Virgoflower-h2w]

Come on now!!!!!!! When that happened I dipped so quick 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Love you but I'm not attached baby. I love me and I danced my way on out his life 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 😁

[@molakiya1]

I agree...in fact, the more I love you, the faster & easier it is for me to leave you...I can be rational with others & calculate what I am getting out of the equation with others but if I love, my heart is at stake...that's non negotiable...I will leave you as quickly as I realize you are not as invested or more & yes, because I love me & know my worth...I may love you from a distance but you don't get to indulge in that love...it's a garden...no watering no havest...simple

[@debbiel3593]

This happens because there is lack of worth and love for oneself. Took me many years but this is the answer. Thank you for addressing. This will help many people.

[@shellieshellie7135]

Love is the descriptive name for a emotion. Emotions and feelings are not facts. They can change for whatever reason you have. if someone is not right to you. Leave them alone

[@crystalsingleton3528]

Thanks you so much you talking to people really helps open our eyes to the truth thanks keep up the good work

[@sherry2250]

I luv him but I luv ME MORE 😁👍! Ladies, if you have to go to the battlefield and make a spectacle of yourself just to get his love and affection 🙄. Imagine what you'd have to do to keep his love and affection! After it's all said and done, you still never received what you see out to get in the first place. The reality is if he failed to see and acknowledge your value and worth then he is NOT your king! You shouldn't have to show him your "diamond" status...he should've seen it right off the bat. Don't allow any man to treat you like a piece of cubic zirc!!!!

[@Chosenoneforever]

My ex-husba6told people I never loved him. Dude!!!! I loved you for 30 years and you did the unthinkable to me. You was the only man I ever loved. It hurts still today. And the only thing I asked today is to leave me be. Stop with the mess!!!!!!

[@DashaTheDivineDivah]

What's crazy is even when I warn mofos... they try me. Smh

[@nunibabi3338]

Somebody asked right for a year or two and they deserve a lifetime of love from you...? That hit hard. I remember when I was about 12 years old and my dad told me it takes years to get to know somebody. Until you know the real them, with no filters.

[@Mentagasm]

Great Car Analogy!

[@emperorshe1644]

Why am I just finding you?! Lol TELL IT! This is me now after realizing people will tell you anything, in order to hold you in place.

[@marrisajoseph379]

I. Feel. Attacked! Omg this was a word! I needed to hear all of this 😩

[@loveisserrene]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 That's right!

[@KeepitpushingIn]

Said even if he is a soulmate or she is a soulmate love yourself

[@thetea3424]

I love this guy

[@sonya6800]

Shout out to you you are so successful so 100 and more above you are telling the truth or everything you speak of I wish we had more men anymore man cuz I know there are some Few Good Men like you to know about value of a good woman God bless you and your family and I know that for a fact God will bless you

[@reneemccoymatthews7170]

Amen. I have a friend here who does this and I'm seriously to the place where I am so done . Thank God I'm not afraid to leave. He works and never.comes home that's strange . He help with bills but there's nothing else. I already advised him were roommates only. I need some stuff in my house done. He doesn't realize once my house is fixed . He had lost everything he was companionate until began to work. His game isn't even tough I am focusing now on what God wants then I'm out.

[@Realness4sho]

Absolutely 4Sho! 🔥

[@susanparker9877]

So well said. BANG ON!

[@hasiynaaluns3679]

About time the brothers are stepping up. Thank you!

[@francessuggs1457]

Yea I need you to keep preaching to me and I'm broken already preaching it brother!!!

[@carlahutchinson3490]

Thanks for all of your awesome advice!! I agree with everything you have said in all your shows

[@karengrant4135]

Most of the time the people who say I LOVE YOU are the same people who hurt you.

[@Heisadoni]

So true...!

[@Faustinembeh_backup]

🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️thank you bro 👌😘just because I'm in love that mean I cant go lol!

[@marlojackson3983]

I respect your Candor. Thank you

[@evelisisdavis7242]

Agreed 💯

[@marciaparks807]

Amen! Preach!

[@vintagecopycat]

Wow you have a beautiful mind... I love the way you think! 🙏👏❤️

[@AndreMoss-f7c]

Big facts man and I completely understand ❤

[@therealsandraweise]

Love & relationships are two different things. Love is unconditional but relationships ARE NOT, nor should they be. You can love someone deeply and NOT be able to have a healthy relationship with them. Relationships ARE conditional. Healthy relationships ARE conditional based on mutual agreements, participation, reciprocity, personal values, and honesty. Work, romantic, family, or even neighborly relationships can't thrive without agreed boundaries. Relationship boundaries are required to build trust, create respect, ensure dignity, and nurture emotional safety that leads to sustainable intimacy between two people. Loving someone actually has very little to do with a functional relationship.

[@ATMorgan]

Well said, Sir.

[@erincardenas2927]

Omggg I miss listening to you! Love your work. Forever a fan.~ ❤💯

[@JazzyBlessed1]

I been to myself so long I forgot what being in love feels like.

[@kenishah.784]

Hey there I am not on any social media other than you tube for listening to music and these type of things but I appreciate your content❤👌🏾💯

[@kiagreene4900]

I agree with some of it but not all. I always say if you put me in a position where i have to choose between you or me I’m always going to choose me and that’s for ANYBODY not just relationships. But you don’t stop loving a person if it’s real love but you just love them from a distance. Doesn’t mean you need to be with them.

[@abigalestoll]

I totally agree with you ❤️.

[@KeepitpushingIn]

Hey this is where I'm looking for the 10 like ❤️❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥😉😉😉😉❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥thumbs

[@amzngmo.e]

Yaaassss!!! Men stay taking about picking right like these men don't present us with their phony representative. Glad I am over this stuff.

[@AlahjeLLC]

My love is like a car…and I need some love gas juice to keep going 😂😂😂😂

[@quaneishagresham79]

You said that brother👏🏾👏🏾

[@dantesinferno6874]

Bro I'm floored, because I didn't know I was the only one who felt this way.

[@6933Kimberly]

Real talk-same person different bodies 🎉

[@roea7846]

You better preach!

[@pebbles1829]

FACTS NO LIES TOLD

[@beautifulone4904]

The second I feel u don't appreciate ..n.............take me for granted I'm on my George Jetson shyyytt...Toodles..........I luv me more..

[@tanyawinstead8265]

❤ Absolutely 💯

[@devinebeaut]

I had no choice but to leave. Now, any red flags, I gotta leave. I fell in love with who I met. Who I ended up with was a masked up decoy.

[@kimdelaney1825]

Oh such truth!!!!!!