I didn‘t let my MIL do it…

[@TheGrandy123]

NTA it is dangerous!!! It is ok "since the kid is fine"?! What are they waiting for to tell her to stop????? An accident? A death?

[@davidreljac1707]

The argument they always use is: "Well, nothing bad happened, so what's the big deal?", completely ignoring the fact it shouldn't have even come to that in the first place. Some people are just way too desperate to defend the people they love instead of admitting when they're at fault.

[@Mask-m5y]

Tell me this, how the fuck are the fruit loops gonna get past that nipple cap thing, the milk will be fruit loops flavored at worst

[@josieegold6758]

Sounds like my baby daddy when his mom purposely got our son sick and it ended up being covid!! He was really sick and recovery took a month. He then claimed I was trying to guilt him when I would send him videos and pictures where he would be asleep and with a wet rag to help his fever or he'd be crying... when he asked for videos he's not doing well I said and he's trynna sleep it off ur not here to witness all of this My poor innocent baby boy crying from pain and a fever but since he's okay now he wants me to make "amends " with his mom.... like wtf?!! She's the one who wronged my son The multitude of issues... being her entitlement and kissing my baby, not taking accountability and she claims to have been a nurse who specifically work with special needs kids which I feel make her actions worse because children can't always explain what they're feeling or going through... and she had the audacity to blame his fever on his vaccines he had gotten 2 weeks prior Amd when I told my baby daddy she's not to be around my son he began yelling berating and degrading me claiming he's fine now so it's time to stop being childish and move on... my baby had a urine analysis done in the er nd he cried in pain nd I wasn't finished talking when he yelled omggg!!!! As in what my son went thru meant nothing... ill never forget what my baby went through

[@SkylarDear_466]

FR!! ARE THEY (the MIL and the family that sided with MIL) WAITING FOR A CHILD TO DIE IN THESE VIEWS TO REALIZE THEY'RE HORRIBLE PEOPLE?!

[@lanclincunningham12]

Fruit loops are not healthy...so that's crap? Mil get a life.

[@danielwozniak8411]

Yes, in Europe it would be tant amount to childabuse to feed your children fruitless from the US with all the crap you can put in them.

[@jennyfab312]

OMG!! I couldn't believe she tried giving a baby such garbage. Yikes

[@WifeMamaArtist]

When she said cereal, I was envisioning a teaspoon of porridge oats or something. Adding Froot Loops to a baby’s bottle is psychotic!!

[@tiffanytroutt5727]

That's what I was thinking. Rice cereal, something. But Fruit Loops? Wtf

[@behindthescenes8293]

Same

[@patriciaalikhani9269]

That baby mush stuff. Still not recommended until 4-6 months minimum. Fruit Loops aren’t even legal in Europe!

[@Lulu_moth1294]

I was thinking of something else more natural and less artificial colors but froot loops 💀🖕

[@Michelle-s6f]

Same here. My granddaughter is 16 and I don't feed her fruit loops!

[@Bugplaysgames1]

mother in law it doesn't matter if it's your son's house if you don't live there and someone who does live there tells you to leave you get your sorry excuse for a grandparent butt up and leave! If one of the property owners tells you to leave you leave otherwise it's trespassing!!!

[@RaccoonRecluse]

This! More people need to realized that if one person who lives there tells someone who doesn't to leave... it doesn't matter if someone else who lives there also lives there, the person asked to leave doesn't and has no right. And the person who does live there they are visiting has no right to force others they live with to suffer the bad behavior of guests. I had a friend of a friend have the audacity to tell me I don't live in my own apartment that it was my roommates when we are both on the lease equally.

[@jollylin]

SHE HIT THE SIL KIDS??? WHAT DA HELL

[@nicholnixon7310]

Surprised she wasn't in jail because of that. I know I'd be filling a report and a restraining order on her azz.

[@Debilitator47]

Yep. That's child assault right there. A popo report and successful prosecution would see her doing jailtime. (assuming the DA will pursue the case, DA's have far too much discretionary power).

[@elisabethdesaint-juste758]

Did I miss that part?

[@Debilitator47]

@@elisabethdesaint-juste758 Towards the end. Sister in law admitted that mother in law is no longer allowed to watch her kids because she was caught hitting them (spanking, I assume?). So glad we're generally moving away from child abuse as a form of child rearing.

[@Corruptionenjoyer]

Helicopter parent??? For their BABY?!? WHATTTTT🤯🤯🤯

[@shadowcollins4589]

Exactly It's a BABY Not a 16 year old

[@bcase5328]

Especially a baby that is only a few months old

[@Phephe00]

Some of these grandparents need to learn that just because you raised your child like that does not mean you get to raise your grandchildren like that. YOUR GRANDCHILDREN ARE NOT YOUR CHILDREN.They are the children of YOUR kids, and you need to respect the boundaries that YOUR KIDS SET

[@Will-O-thee-Wisp]

I’ve gotten really peeved when my dad had spanked my son, as what my dad views as “respect” and “enforcing the rules” I had viewed as abuse and fear. I have told my mom many times how I disagree and do not stand for it. As that is the exact reasoning and acts that had made me dearly not respectful of my parents, and how a part of me forever hates them for what they did when I was a child. I still have a hard time and fear my dad, even though he raised me, I want little to do with him when he is in those states of mind as I always have to fight with a trauma response. Which is why I usually tell my mom, as she tells him everything and will be able to speak to him in a way he’ll respect instead of him getting all heated with me for having my own rules and boundaries. We need to do better, and not settle for “well it didn’t kill them”! Just cause it didn’t this time doesn’t mean it won’t next or do permanent mental damage. (I’m just grateful all my family will stand down when I tell them about my son’s allergies, instead of trying to force it like they usually would. Not lethal, but cusping on dangerous, which he has an EpiPen for.) My son is only 3.

[@littlewifelora2182]

It doesn’t matter if the kid was fine, the parents said NO and that’s final

[@darronshirley7886]

Some parents are just to stupid to agree with and bring our world worthless criminals over productive people all so they don't have to be a parent and teach the children there is consequences for not following the rules

[@strxwberrymoki5031]

I'd say file a police report for a civil matter like this. The government doesn't need to be involved, but they need to be aware. That this is what that woman will do to your child and how you want her kept away. The police can give you a legal document to show schools, baby sitters, and inevitably the court when something happens and she's the cause of it.

[@nickzhaosun]

That's rough. I had to ban my mom from seeing my first son because she kept kissing his face and got him sick more than once.

[@gaylenewood7707]

I think I remember there's a story about some dumb grandma kissed her grandchild with a cold sore on her lips and the grandchild had to go to the hospital and be in icu.for months poor baby had all sorts of problems after that..

[@nickzhaosun]

@gaylenewood7707 That's worse than my experience. My little guy got a couple of colds and ear infections.

[@nicholnixon7310]

FRUIT LOOPS In The Bottle. Oh hell no his side of the family expect his sister would be banned to until i out the cameras up. Nah he ain't going over her house to see everyone to.

[@samuelbrown1283]

What are fruit loops?

[@nicholnixon7310]

Colored rings that consumed in cereal 🥣​ mainly for 5 and up. Basically sugar not intended for babies. @@samuelbrown1283

[@kaykarahalis829]

FRUIT LOOPS?! They’re full of sugar and artificial ingredients!! Definitely bad for baby!!!!

[@gaylenewood7707]

Its depends on where OP lives at like up in Canada or uk??

[@RevIlo-q9b]

Nah. They sre reslly sugary no mstter whst country​@@gaylenewood7707

[@NuGg3T-T3]

@@gaylenewood7707wait there are different ingredients for fruit loops in different places!!! See most of the time if your getting fruit loops it is from the same brand with the toucan bird as the mascot (as a person who is actually allergic to food coloring) I have to read the box labels where I go to make sure it doesn’t have food coloring

[@basbarbeque6718]

@@gaylenewood7707 It doesn't really matter where OP lives more than it mattes how old the baby is. Anywhere below 6 months they should not be given any Fruit Loops. Way too much sugar for a Baby

[@maihaiki888]

Its a damn miracle her husband is even alive.

[@juliebrown422]

OP you are 1000% NTA here. Don't ignore your instincts mama bear and protect your little one. Clearly your MIL cannot be trusted around your children. This is one time you both need to be completely on the same page to go NC/scorched earth here with your MIL. She has repeatedly disrespected you both, disregarded your boundaries and knowingly endangering your child's health and well-being without remorse. OP you need to document everything that's happened and get a restraining order against her. This is not a one off incident but a blatantly repetitive pattern of reckless behavior that needs consequences. DO NOT ALLOW THIS TO BE RUG SWEPT. While the cameras are a really good idea to catch evidence, it won't stop your baby from choking or scumming to SIDS bc she neglected to check him.

[@ThrillSeekerTTV]

NTA if she does it again call the cops to get her arrested, get a PRO, and sue her for attempting to hurt your baby.

[@PleaseBringTide]

I don’t think we’re focusing on the husband enough he deliberately didn’t tell OP about his mom tampering with the kid’s food then is now trying to get OP to Keep The Peace and forgive his mom, put those cameras up for both of them

[@AnneNicole_Harris]

She did not over react you do not give a baby cereal in a baby bottle that baby boy could have choked on that

[@PhoenixPhlame79]

FRUIT LOOPS?!?!? As if baby cereal doesn't exist! This MIL is unhinged!

[@diablo2078]

Mother in law still believes it’s the 1950’s

[@caseydreamuslpsandmore2582]

True times have changed since then. 1950 to 2024 almost 2025. That was 74 years ago still right about now. It is soon going to be 75 years ago.

[@shmoopyroo2650]

Doing what’s best for your kid? NTA. I don’t think anyone is an asshole when they put their kid first and ensure they are safe. Doesn’t matter if it’s a stranger or a mother in law if someone is putting your kid at risk get em outta here

[@michellesmith7704]

Even if what grandma did was benign, THE PARENTS SAID NO. Grandmas unwillingness to take that as an answer means she isn't trustworthy atound children.

[@VanessaLewis-Simpson]

She gave him a bottle with Froot Loops in it😮? Oh no,she can't ever watch your baby😮!!!!! And the relatives who agree with her are crazy as hell too😅!!!

[@shardonayM]

Also excess sugar in a bottle can cause rooting in baby teeth, leading to excessive pain and possible bone related issues

[@Gojo_miku]

Tf!?!? She hit a kid, she needs to go to jail for child abuse!

[@animegumdrop6613]

Yeah... NtA.. Don't let MiL around the children in general because you know it's bad when their own kid don't let their own parent around their child..

[@darronshirley7886]

There is a rice cereal made to be put in a bottle sounds like mother-in-law is brain dead Sometimes kids cry without a reason so crying it out is all you can do

[@zoozo7046]

Seriously! That's what I thought op was talking about and I was thinking she made that hazard up, then she said fucking FROOTLOOPS!!! And even if the hazard for the other kind of cereal wasn't true it's ops choice

[@shadowcollins4589]

I thought the same thing but even then there's an age where they can't have it Sounds like the baby is too young for even that

[@WifeMamaArtist]

Baby’s DON’T cry for no reason! They only have 2 emotions - ‘like it’ and ‘don’t like it’. They cry for all the ‘don’t like it’ reasons, which range from pain, hunger (they have tiny tums), or cold, to discomfort (being wet), loneliness or being overwhelmed or tired!

[@strawberryfox8819]

What's the point of putting cereal in a bottle? Is it to ween the child early? I've never heard of this

[@zoozo7046]

@strawberryfox8819 for my family, it's to help give them more nutrients and partly to ween. When the baby starts getting older but has yet to learn or be able to eat other foods it's helps the get that nutrients, fill them up, and prep them for foods other than plain milk

[@tabicat.puccino7425]

NTA that’s not parenting that’s abuse, if your husband doesn’t defend you divorce him immediately, the fact that he isn’t reacting to this serious situation, is he is enabling her

[@loqutisborg5416]

MIL would not be left alone with the child. A parent would ALWAYS be present.

[@sebastiancristea3143]

I just realized that the back round is from a Romanian chef cus he makes mici- meat rolls that are very good whit mustard in the park "poiana ciuc" using some pufuleți which are made from corn to ignait a fire to cook the mici , and the mil is the a-hole + he's old mindet and crazy cus the risk of Sufocation is very high

[@aaron4504]

NTA people who have the mind set oh nothing happened what’s the harm? So it’s ok to continually put a baby at risk until they are harmed before MIL is held accountable for her actions? Wtf?!

[@foolforyou1228]

Don’t give a damn what her family thinks, you’re the parents and the choices you make should be respected, if she can’t do that then she’s on her way.

[@sillamoala7056]

They'll only change once something bad happens to the child. *DONT LET HER NEAR ANY KID.*

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Somebody should tell MIL to lay off the cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs because it’s effecting her brain!

[@moonprincess500]

This isn’t helicopter mom mode! This is normal protective mom mode!

[@ThoseTexts]

babies fine, until it isn’t

[@TheOneandOnlyAlexis]

Right! I was expecting like rice Krispies, which is NORMAL

[@jeffreythomas6497]

I can’t wait until the mother in law ignores the husbands side of the family too so they can see how she really is

[@loudandnerdygames5986]

Why I thought she meant the baby cereal that goes in baby's milk to start slowly introducing them to solids...you know the thin oatmeal type of cereal... not freaking fruit loops. 😐 just cause the husband and his siblings managed to survive their mom doesn't mean she was a great mom.

[@bcase5328]

And you don't introduce such foods until the baby is old enough. It sounds like this baby was too young. The MIL also sounds like the type that wouldn't believe that a child could have a food allergy.

[@nancyoyola7166]

❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing your story

[@Talvi_Sota]

My mother actually had a good reason to "let me cry it out" When I was a baby I had these HUGE screaming attacks. I would scream and scream and NOTHING anyone did would calm me. The midwife then, after a lot of trying on her, a lot of crying on my mothers and a shit ton of screaming on my end came to the conclusion that it was me burning of energy. I had too much energy for me to handle. My body wasn't developed enough to be able to burn off all that energy in any other way so whenever I did that, my parents would put me on the most soundproof room, put the TV or music on for them selves and let me get all the energy out of my system. Now I'm questioning if it has to do with me being an AuDHDer because I still have those massive bursts of energy, where I don't know what to do with my self, how to let it out, i feel like I could sprint around screaming from the top of my lungs for half an hour. But it's usually only physical energy, my mental energy is drained so easily. Also, OP is so NTA. At that age, feeding the kid anything remotely sugary cereal like is child endangerment at the least. And spanking, aka hitting aka using physical violence on children should by law be punished with equal violence. The fact that this is ok in some places still baffles me. "It didn't mess me up" the hell it did. Or did they feel safe with their parents? Did they get afraid when their parents showed anger? Violence is only ever the answer when it's self defense and you can't do anything else or when it comes to people being absolute vile creatures (gr@pists, PDF files, things like that) If you actually read all that....damn, thank you and you have my respect. Take a cookie 🍪

[@zombiemom3380]

When she said fruit loops😂 I was like that's crazy I was thinking she was saying baby cereal I would put a little bit of baby cereal in the bottle

[@RockDay-wv8jq]

The baby is way too young for cereal, especially Froot Loops. MIL is crazy to think what she did was okay.

[@lolabigcups7121]

When they said cereal i thought they meant baby cereal not effing fruit loops.

[@EYEamWoman]

Bunch of adults who grew up thinkin the way they were raised was normal and now they wanna push it on a person who found a better alternative for their baby…sounds about right 🙂‍↔️

[@SillyBilly334]

" gngn but nothing happened " WELL THANK GOD ? WHAT WOULD THEY SAY IF THE BABY CHOKED ??🤦‍♂️

[@v4ni11aciti3s]

Edit people keep saying this is fake because I “don’t know what rice cereal is” I know exactly what it is and I work with children for a living, I’m a pediatric nurse. That is still 1. Not what she used 2. Not what I wrote. I know the difference between a cereal intended for babies I STILL Told her no to anything mixed in my babies bottle. I thought she meant that cereal as well but I still told her no. You’d imagine my shock and horror when she had rainbow cereal crushed in my babies bottle. She said she used Cheerio’s when her children were younger. She knew what she meant, I thought I knew what she meant but I clearly gave her too much credit. Just because you don’t understand doesn’t mean the story is fake

[@moonlightcorelyn]

Of all cereals, FRUIT LOOPS?!?

[@jacobc8036]

FROOT LOOPS?! By cereal I thought they meant that oatmeal grain stuff you feed to babies. And even though I I agreed it is still a choking hazard I could see where someone could see no harm. But Froot Loops?! How?

[@user-zz4wr2hm1y]

It feels like she cant trust her husband either😢

[@PurpleSageShay]

When she said cereal I thought she meant baby cereal, like mix with formula or breastmilk baby cereal not child and adult type of cereal. It is one thing to give a 8+ month old child a couple handfuls of Cheerios to munch on as like a snack But who the hell would put fruit loops of all things in a baby bottle. What the hell Is wrong with that woman and how the heck did her children survive infancy?!

[@Mushrooms_King]

SHE WANTED TO DO WHAT!

[@Bigbear-pk3rq]

Tell her to pay you to install the cameras

[@JamaicanFujoshi]

Giving a baby sugar is evil.

[@StormscapeX]

The husband doesn’t even care either! Divorce him and save that child from that evil woman

[@SundarW]

Horrible idea. She wouldn't be able to watch the child when it is at the fathers house.

[@StormscapeX]

@@SundarW if she can prove the father didn't care when the daughter was hit, she can get full custody

[@SundarW]

@StormscapeX its horrible you think a father should completely lose custody of his daughter because he was trying to defuse and argument. He should learn to do better but not completely lose his own daughter.

[@StormscapeX]

@@SundarW he literally didn't even care that his mother HIT an INFANT. psychically abused a BABY. he does not deserve a child

[@elainadorn212]

My father had almost the same parenting views minus the cereal in a bottle

[@yohishi1221]

. . . Ask dad if he is fine when the baby die chocking

[@Pherim_]

"The kid is fine" until they arent you mean. Just cause the kid didnt die yet, doesnt mean the Mom will not kill them

[@RandallHallKaizenReiki]

NTA. SHE DOESN'T GET A VOTE IN HOW YOU RAISE YOUR CHILD! PERIOD!

[@chelseapaige886]

Wait wait wait... I heard cereal in bottle and thought it was just 90s parenting "baby cereal in a bottle" thing... Nah she meant straigjt up fruit loops? Lmao I can't

[@thompson8354]

What some parents used to do is add BABY CEREAL! BABY CEREAL, WHAT KIND OF DUMB MOTHER WOULD ADD STUPID FROOTLOOPS! MOMS BACK IN THE LATE 90'S WOULD ADD BABY CEREAL! ITS NOT OKAY BUT WHOS STUPID ENOUGH TO ADD FROOTLOOPS! OMG IM SO MAD.

[@martinaru2111]

Cereal in the baby bottle? Never heard of someone doing that.

[@yangland2692]

Fun fact: infants swallow in a different way than anyone who eats solid food and if someone fails to have the instinct that says to switch from pushing the tongue against the gums/teeth to pressing it against tbe roof of the mouth it can cause difficulty properly eating withoht choking. I know this partially bc I have this problem and now need to forcefully reteach myself so I can eat without choking or damaging my front teeth

[@ZYNAHAlishahjillani]

Why is this basically my life 😭😭 I'm the kid 😭😭😭

[@PumpkinKing33]

Mostly noth ntah, but the first part, yes

[@Touay.]

letting babies cry it out will leave them with LIFELONG mental health issues. it is abuse.

[@SirenaRosewood]

I'm sorry you said what now she put her hands on your sister-in-law's child😮 no that's a straight-up felony right there my mama didn't even have to deal with that with my grandmother because my grandmother never put her hands on me or my cousins or my little brother for that matter😅

[@tytoalba605]

How did hubby survive with a crazy abusive like that mil.

[@joybernard7359]

I don’t think you’re wrong. Need to take your husband to talk to the baby doc. Maybe if it’s a man he will listen and back you up as a good husband and father should!

[@RebeccaLunsford-qe2kt]

You are absolutely right it's dangerous to feed babies cereal. And that's not her baby and she has no right to tell you how to raise your son.

[@mandyhill3621]

Dangerous!!!! Your not wrong

[@dessipoo9915]

The minute another grown ass adult puts a hand on my child is the day I go to jail 💀

[@rachaeldee85]

Baby cereal should be introduced at like 6 months, with formula/breast milk. If it needs to be introduced earlier, that should be discussed with the baby's pediatrician.

[@SakinahCausey]

When she said cereal, I thought she meant baby cereal, “I was like okay, that’s not terrible but wouldn’t it clog up the bottle?” No she mentioned cereal cereal, and not even like Cheerios bruh

[@Moh4m0d]

BROOO ITS 6:00PM AND ITS ALREADY THE NIGHT

[@ElricAF]

I mean, thank you for the parenting advice but don't push the boundary lady, that's a mama bear, you're a mama bear once and you learned everything from experience but everything is different from ages ago some might help, others can harm, well done Op for standing for you and your baby and you might want to have a serious talk with your husband about his mom.

[@InsaneLaughter01]

I’d tell the family to listen to my next message very carefully: You can either side with the person who actively abused kids (the mil) OR be involved in the children’s lives. But not both. Anyone who supports the MIL and then tries to come near my kids will have the police called and charges pressed.

[@alorarhodes1568]

“You stopped the incredibly dangerous thing from happening, therefore attempting to do the incredibly dangerous thing shouldn’t have consequences”. God enablers are dumb. Like how do you bend this far back in logic?

[@pamthompson3170]

The mother in law insisted, took credit for potty training the little boy. What she had actually done was call the kid in every hour or so and told him to go to the bathroom. Which he did. She considered him potty trained. He went when she told him to, but hadn't taken the care to teach him to recognize the "feeling" that your body has when it is time to go. So her technique didn't work. She, of course, thought she had.

[@p2Universe]

I thought she meant baby cereal.

[@MsKyrakitty]

I have never even heard of people putting cereal in a baby’s bottle. Like why??? Babies only need milk. It’s nutritionally complete for them unless they have a medical issue.

[@The_Tcat]

I have heard of people putting rice cereal. But in those cases they blend it up then give it to the baby. Maybe the mom just read the cereal in milk and just ran with it

[@Itz_Tataie_boyz]

Mamă ce bine arată mici

[@CarterWilson-g9y]

So if the baby died what would she say then

[@alexishall6826]

WHY WOULD SHE HIT THE KID?! SHE IS A CRAZY WOMAN! This is NOT ok! And the fact that she Fed the baby TWICE with cereal in it is just crazy!

[@thehungarianwitchhasspoken6039]

Absolutely not! Every paret has a right to set a certain way they would like to raise their children (unless it's proven to be harmfull). Even if mother in law was just like "Santa exists" when the parents specified they're not doing Santa, she would still be in the wrong. Not to mention cases where they're doing something harmfull

[@kitty_paws13]

Your a good parent for not allowing your child to be spanked or to have them cry it out. Cuz my parents did that, and it only made me not talk to them and not try to seek help from them. Your a good parent

[@richardaragon1391]

Clowning got to clown

[@BorshSochivko]

who is the man cooking in the backround?

[@Krimson-do1st]

Dammit now im really hungry. Sigh good reddit story as well

[@staylor3483]

So bc the baby hasnt choked to unalive yet, its fine for granny to keep doing what could eventually unalive the baby???!!🤬🤬🤬

[@niece585]

Watch her and you did the right thing

[@lulkuna]

children shouldnt be eating sugary cereal until about age 3. MIL is dangerous.

[@Reddit-Cornelia]

It doesn’t matter if the kid was fine

[@gionniramirez2017]

The amount of redit post I see of grandmothers almost killing there grandkids all because they wanna do things "their way" and ego is actually crazy

[@almatusha3776]

It is dangerous to put front loops!! How is the group chat defending her!?!? They said “the baby is fine” like are they waiting for the baby to choke!?!?!

[@samanthaperez616]

Family friend mom tried to the something similar to me when I have my son tell me just Ignore My baby when he would cry tell me it go for him help to build independence… my baby was just a week old… so ya never taking her parenting advice again

[@Jimin-143]

How did MIL’s children survived

[@dottie7297]

An elder spanked my daughter while babysitting after it was made clear nobody was to spank my child. I got my daughter calmed tucked for s nap and this family member seen me walking toward them dropping hoodie, earrings and realized i was about to see how she liked it. Never again has anyone touched my baby.

[@MandiraGhimire-r3i]

Make all the people 😊😊siding with your MIL eat an apple whole wuthout chewing

[@bennyworm4384]

She’s literally known for abusing kids in the family already and then she pulls this stunt?? Bruhhh