I Don't Have a Good Reason, But I Want a Divorce!

I Don't Have a Good Reason, But I Want a Divorce!
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[@TheRamseyShow]

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[@johnanderson8385]

I guarantee this woman is utterly UNBEARABLE to live with.

[@moctezuma_2]

Geez, calm down dude. Is this really the best you could come up with after watching this video?

[@Hiker2110]

That's exactly what I was thinking.

[@moctezuma_2]

@Frederick Shull You speak truth. I would add, many of the viewers of this video clearly also do not understand this basic concept of love, which is why they blame and insult.

[@Essays4College]

most definitely......the guy should have seen this going in though.

[@georgewagner7787]

People are not a checklist

[@travisb9130]

The first guy was exciting and a "bad boy". She moved on from that and thought she wanted somebody planted and level-headed. Now this guy is too boring. That is what's going on.

[@davem4193]

You nailed it. She went from the alpha to the beta simp and now she's bored and wanting another alpha to chase.

[@schondra1993]

Bingo!

[@pep590]

pretty much true, but I bet she is also not attracted to him.

[@midlifecrisis7888]

She better watch out for the wall though. It comes fast

[@Kaktus965]

Yep. Hot cheerleader type in high school. In the real world, dumb as a brick…

[@jjf1058]

Never marry someone to change the person. Accept the way the person is or don’t get married. Easy like this.

[@LittleMopeHead]

Truth.

[@Primitive_Code]

True. That also goes for family members like sons, daughters, mom, dad. Not just the significant other.

[@MP-nj1qy]

Beautifullysaid👏👏👏👏

[@petecheng1]

or lower your expectations.

[@charlesg7926]

I wonder if nightmare women like her, ever read the comments (from guys and girls alike) and admit they are wrong? CAN she admit she’s wrong? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤔

[@anthonyamato6367]

This woman is a nightmare. I feel sorry for her husband.

[@5thdimension625]

Me too, Anthony. She’s insufferable. She will always be unhappy, married or not. I hope she does her husband a favor and divorces him. He deserves better

[@cabayern9416]

She should divorce - no one should feel obligated to stay.

[@Rubberglass]

She thinks marriage is about finding the guy that meets all her needs. Good luck!

[@annstillwell730]

Ikr

[@AnthonyAlvarado78]

100% selfish

[@zoilalulu3798]

@@AnthonyAlvarado78 Oh yeah, she's so selfish for knowing what she wants.

[@Danny13Green]

@@zoilalulu3798 No, she wanted a bad boy for first marriage, then needed money and stability so went for a nice guy, but is now bored so wants to bail on a person she only has good things to say about. So in essence a dependent woman's usual thought pattern.

[@AnthonyAlvarado78]

@@zoilalulu3798 sounds like she doesn't though...and that's fine. Just dont get married.

[@devinp.2934]

Sounds like she was hurt in her first marriage so she ‘settled’ for a safe option, only to find out she doesn’t love the guy, just the security of the marriage/relationship. In my opinion, she never should have married again.

[@josephinenelan4204]

Yes, having realistic expectations or wanting safety isn't wrong, and I encourage safe relationships for both people regarding loyalty/stability. HOWEVER, when you feel like you're downgrading in future relationships because you just don't want to be single, or feel like you should be married... just embrace single hood. Geezez.

[@davem4193]

She married a beta simp and now she wants out so she can chase another alpha Chad.

[@Vanessabobessa10]

Idk about never marry again. But i do think she needed to/needs to go to solo therapy for a while. Also they both "agreed" on that from a non love point of view. THEY arranged it because it made logical sense.

[@georgewagner7787]

I know a gal from India whose parents arranged marriage at age 18. Doing well 30 years later

[@t-pain3343]

My mother in law has 5 failed marriages. Guess who wants a divorce? Her daughter. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree

[@shawnberthiaume7056]

I hope any woman like this stays away from my son

[@tjj6362]

Exactly!!

[@davidgerke7150]

I hope I can raise my son to stay away from these kind of women on his own.

[@MatthewGraham027]

She sounds childish. This sounds like something you would hear out of high school.

[@roseking8555]

😂😂😂😂💀💀💀. That’s why it’s so funny

[@KittyM-]

True! Some maturity and consideration for the other person would solve it.

[@MrHaypro]

This lady treats marriage and choosing a spouse like she's buying a car.

[@sueshe5953]

As most men do

[@texan903]

@@sueshe5953 actually, woman are more preoccupied by the finances and investments of a potential spouse that she would walk away if her needs aren't met.

[@sueshe5953]

@@elibaker8849 that points back to make behavior

[@schuylergeery-zink1923]

“My old car wasn’t as stable and reliable. I had to get a new one which was more reliable, but I don’t know if I LOVE the car.” Lol yah. I got that impression too. I’m married and some days are just simple and rhythmic. Love is deep and a choice. Not “love spark infatuation.” My husband is not a car. He’s my life partner! We’re each other’s biggest cheerleaders for success. 🥰

[@aleksandrac9335]

Good for her

[@shrimuyopa8117]

2nd marriages have a 75% divorce rate. Make sure you have made the changes necessary in who YOU ARE before making that step.

[@josephinenelan4204]

Amen, the more someone has failed relationships the more they're are the common denominator and should look in the mirror

[@howlbeast]

Really

[@luvmifro1003lovesfamily]

Its actually more like almost 60% for second marriages and almost 75% for third

[@lakeslusher6586]

@@josephinenelan4204 this is so true. I know a woman on her 5th marriage and is about to run her 5th one off. But she doesn’t think any of her failed marriages are her fault. Like at all. Not even a little. I’m not exaggerating either. She lays it all on her Ex’s. It’s sad really.

[@johniii8147]

Actually 2nd marriages have a lower divorce rate than 1st marriages. So incorrect.

[@SensSword]

I feel so bad for the husband having this succubus in his life.

[@deanalbertson7203]

I thought the same thing. For his sake, the best thing she could do is divorce him.

[@ericprieto4348]

exactly

[@caniggiaful]

Idk the situation, but it sure sounds like he's in tome hot waters.

[@rosedewittbukater5763]

I mean…. He picked her too… they’re probably perfect for each other!🤣

[@deanalbertson7203]

@@rosedewittbukater5763 She is setting it up to leave him, and blame it on lack of passion. In other words, she wants to be unhappy with another bad boy.

[@yoitired]

So Chad was too irresponsible but Billy is too boring.

[@ericjennings853]

Exactly. One question i would of asked is if she had kids from Chad who her new Beta male husband was helping to support

[@mbyrd6713]

I hate when women do that 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Goldminks]

CGA would approve

[@genericx2347]

@@mbyrd6713 I met Max headroom

[@zeal4god402]

She misses the infatuation stage😢 well say hello to the WORK and ENDURANCE of marriage

[@cctypcc]

This woman doesn't know what she really wants. She finds stable boiling. She doesn't appreciate the kind and compassionate man that she is married too. She will never find happiness the way she is going about.

[@strawberryrhubarbpie]

Yup

[@motorcyclethings6347]

Her "list" is full of words to which she doesn't likely know the definitions.

[@anneshirley9560]

Very good point! I think we have lost meaning behind the words we use, and that’s one of the reasons we wind up disappointed. Most people don’t even understand the word love. People are too quick to end their marriages.

[@midlifecrisis7888]

She wants to ride the CC. Simple as that.

[@krassimirpetrov7131]

JFlo she clearly is alpha widowed, married a simp and is now not happy and never will be . But yea she does

[@winninginlife]

Where's HIS full list for her...😂

[@soogasooga]

This caller has the same problem most young people seem to have these days: when the going gets rough, they give up and look for a way out.

[@leon888111]

You are right the easy way out generation

[@deepfakesforreal9487]

Nothing is getting rough here, she just isn't wife material! Let her roam around, she will settle down with her cats at 60

[@soogasooga]

@@deepfakesforreal9487 well you and i can see she doesn't have it rough, but she thinks she does. She seems to want to find that perfect guy that checks literally every single box in her head, but doesn't have the life experience to understand that that guy doesn't exist.

[@darex0827]

@@deepfakesforreal9487 if she has a second divorce that quickly after the first, good luck getting anyone of quality to ask to marry you again.

[@KVW110]

It's not just the young people. It's also the middle aged.

[@om617yota8]

The look on John's face when she starts talking about a list of boxes to check off..........

[@havuckofp]

@@saulgoodman2018 can you watch the video?

[@havuckofp]

@@saulgoodman2018 I feel like I've seen you around before...... insert zinger here*

[@icestationzebraassociates2460]

@@saulgoodman2018 Right?

[@darrenswails]

Christy's was even more uncomfortable..

[@sbrazenor2]

She traded the Italian sports car for the Volvo station wagon and now she's bored. Sounds like what you get when you marry a check list or a spreadsheet, like she did.

[@starscream984]

He should give this call to his lawyer maybe won't lose half of everything he owns

[@lenny7773]

@Essene Sea not if I had it before you latched onto me

[@timetowakeup6302]

*lose

[@topcheese2889]

He will

[@JKPrimetime]

If they only married 2.5 years he might able to keep a lot of it

[@seanmathis7971]

@Essene Sea typical female comment

[@humblepharaoh5203]

True love is a choice not a feeling. It’s a decision not a chemical in the brain.

[@newlife45692]

This comment should have the most likes

[@dedalliance1]

Is it though

[@karinef5720]

TRUE!!!

[@caseyporter499]

U mean sparks don’t fly like the cartoons ?

[@anthonyamato6367]

True love is not a choice.

[@karenh.192]

The way Christy looked at John when she said, " we just didnt have the love spark" 🤣💀🤣

[@etiennedegaulle3817]

kind = does what I want stable = when I want easy going = doesn't complain when doing what I want ...

[@mr.quantum4543]

Hahaha facts

[@mr.quantum4543]

She says "in my first marriage" hahaha girls on her second marriage.

[@darylallen2485]

🤣

[@mcamila1993]

Thank you for making me laugh 😂

[@fatmantaxservicesllc7949]

Best comment

[@ChrisHeightsTV]

I chuckled as soon as I read the title. 😂

[@MattyVice]

Yo this title is NUTS. This woman never loved her second husband!

[@Joshua_Cruz]

I’m here for the entertainment.

[@1LORENZOUTUBE]

Whaaa -me

[@Joshua_Cruz]

@Essene Sea no one ever tells the truth.. there’s always two sides to a story

[@pep590]

@@MattyVice I totally agree with you. if you don't love them, it will never work. No matter all the things you can try. I admire and like Christy, but she is ALL in on her marriage, because she Totally Loves her husband. She's not trying to fall in love with her husband, after it's all legal, like the caller is. Easy to be all in, when you heart is all mad about the other.

[@nocigar7730]

This caller makes me sick. I wonder what she brings to the table other than neediness. Makes me even more grateful for my wife.

[@ToneRetroGaming]

And you wonder why ppl are opting out of marriage altogether. No one is concerned with the duty and spiritual meaning of marriage anymore. Everything is about personal happiness or lack thereof. My friend's husband does this and that for her. I'm not happy now so I want a divorce. You gained weight and I now make 200k a year. I'm leaving you for a smaller woman. The duty of marriage is supposed to supersede your personal happiness. If you can't accept that stay single.

[@laurens7492]

Truth!! That’s the definition of Love!

[@LG123ABC]

Mic drop! Preach!

[@FrankS111]

Be VERY careful of whom you chose to marry. If they believe it is your job to make them happy first and not themselves…do not marry them. You will either be miserable always trying to please them or they will leave you in the end.

[@bjkarana]

When I was 13, my dad and I were at a fundraising dinner and we were seated at a table across from this exact flavor of female. After 10 minutes of her neurotic babble, my dad leaned over to me and said "She's the kind of woman who will _never_ be happy or content."

[@susieblanco2722]

She should’ve called a marriage counselor instead of the show

[@localone1597]

Women have all these "lists" when they're not even half those things themselves!

[@tyrecarmon20]

Facts!

[@DumplingDan]

Who hurt you Jonathan? :P

[@darex0827]

@@DumplingDan the caller.....

[@localone1597]

@@DumplingDan you say that like that's unusual. We've all been hurt at some point including you. But that doesn't have anything to do with what I wrote. Women have lists they are not themselves.

[@ebutuoy5088]

Exactly

[@HouseofCastro]

I’m usually accurate on these things: - she’s either crazy and he can’t cope -she’s not attracted to him -or both.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Bingo. Hes a Beta Bore and she misses the Alpha Chads.

[@LG123ABC]

@@GUITARTIME2024 You do know that the whole alpha/beta thing has been thoroughly debunked, right? Or do you just enjoy sounding like an idiot?

[@GUITARTIME2024]

@@LG123ABC not at all. It's more complex than people assume, though.

[@peytonlove2598]

@@LG123ABC who disproved that? I think most women would tell you they like a some what dominant man who can take charge when he needs to.

[@knownonsense2015]

Wow, this woman needs to change her definition of love and marriage.

[@MJ-jw8nb]

"You've got a lot more choice in this than you're allowing yourself" "Decide and practice..." Some of the best marriage advice I've heard in a while.

[@KVW110]

The "love spark" is NOTHING without a baseline of friendship. I've had to learn this the hard way.

[@revnaw639]

This lady is a joke. She needs to fix herself before trying to fix everyone else.

[@HyperCupcake88]

Stephen Covey says "love" is an action word, not just a feeling.

[@pep590]

Yes it is an action, but you have to have passionate love and attraction, which is a feeling or you are done for. She never had that and never will for this guy IMO

[@HyperCupcake88]

@@pep590 Yeah but I think ppl's feelings can change over time. A man asked Covey, "I don't love my wife anymore. What do I do?" Covey replied, "Love her." The man was talking about "love" as a feeling, and Covey was talking about the action.

[@pep590]

@@HyperCupcake88 You make good points sir. Thanks.

[@michaeldalton8374]

Also known as a “verb”.

[@HyperCupcake88]

@@michaeldalton8374 Yes, got me, but I wanted to be more apparent in my wording.

[@bobbyb7672]

Several failed marriages. She obviously isn't marriage material. She just wanted the wedding...

[@somechinesedude5466]

True, blame the idiot who pay for it

[@wiseowl2020]

One divorce and one new marriage does not constitute "several" marriages.

[@googleuser1456]

When the grass is greener on the order side of the fence it's time to water 💧you own grass.

[@olivewoo522]

the looks on their faces when they heard a checklist......

[@thecrackedcocoon5423]

Oh wow! She just needs to stay single.

[@mmcgahn5948]

If she wants to find the problem in her marriage she should find a mirror.

[@northernrednecklife6268]

She wants the tingles. Her good provider is everything she wants but not Chad. Lol

[@chartuck]

Facts. This guy doesn't clap them cheeks like Chad does. So this guy is about to pay a whole lot of money for a ride Chad is about to get for free. Men should not be getting married anymore.

[@angelaonthego]

Unless she’s done work on herself, someone from an abusive or tumultuous relationship will be bored and won’t be able to feel love in a healthy relationship-Because they associate that drama and excitement as “love”

[@allenellsworth5799]

Yeah I'm not so sure she wasn't the abuser. Ever been with a narcissist. She might not be. Just my thoughts.

[@Thebootyrater]

She found another man that she’s more attracted to and she wants out of the marriage 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@RandomVids519]

No shes trying to replace her first married man with this guy and hes proving not to be the one

[@dorisgrainger9692]

Yep Yep Yep!!!!!!

[@mbyrd6713]

Yep, the sad part is the guy she wants is going to be full of passion and addictions 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@pep590]

Could be, but she is Definitely regardless of another guy or not existing, she is not attracted to this guy. He is done for.

[@ebutuoy5088]

Monkey branch

[@iBryanDBrown]

Once I heard there’s a long check list I was done.

[@fannydanniell5057]

He checked most of the boxes? A check list? Like a thing you get in the store. That’s sad. Does she check boxes on her own list? Poor guy 😥

[@kacyandlaura]

I heard from an old couple... If you don’t feel like you love them, start loving them and the feelings will follow. Marriage is about becoming love. Love is self-sacrificing. A lover is not only found, a lover is made in the day-to day choices you make and moments you share. Shifting the way you think about your spouse and choosing to treasure them is a big part of that. I Really enjoyed this show and thought your all’s advice was refreshing

[@JimzAuto]

The caller keeps talking about her ‘needs’- she’s at least partially neurotic.

[@grntsndrs730]

this man needs to lawyer up asap

[@VictoryX11]

"Exit strategy" ASAP.

[@goofygirl1311]

I married a slow, steady, reliable turtle but he's not as exciting as I thought he would be.....

[@NeoEngineCorp]

@karen forever Then you gotta build the passion together, other you're setting yourself up for a life of resentment

[@960junebug]

Love isn't something you feel, it's something you do. It's in the little things we say and the menial tasks we do every day for each other. If this woman doesn't learn that love isn't about sparks, she will never have a lasting marriage. She will just jump from fling to fling looking for excitement, but feeling emptier and emptier as life passes her by.

[@michellebilodeau3882]

So well said!

[@untouchable360x]

She misses Chad and Tyrone.

[@klein2252]

TUH DAY

[@ChrisMFlorida]

You can call on Tyrone

[@midlifecrisis7888]

CC rider for life

[@TopVillain]

Kind easy going and reliable are the reasons why she wants out.

[@Mike-tn2ii]

I really hope her husband sees this and recognize his wife. Hope he divorce this selfish woman. She wants a guy that doesn't exist.

[@flanker0761]

“My first marriage…” That explains enough

[@FaintAura]

So tell me again... what incentive is there for men to get married these days?

[@dougrobinson5830]

DON'T!

[@madmehr]

Suicide rate jumps up a lot, so if your on the fence.

[@MP-nj1qy]

Companionship, love, teamwork, support, life experience and the list goes on. Don't let someone else experiences ruin yours.

[@madmehr]

@@MP-nj1qy true women don't give you any of those things till you get married.

[@FaintAura]

@@MP-nj1qy anything tangible?

[@marionunziodibartolomeo]

as a person from Denver, this whole conversation is such a Denver conversation to have

[@webfreakz]

Glad I'm not in Denver then!

[@pounddog77]

As a Denverite, can confirm.

[@scaldon2]

She's on her second marriage. She doesn't want to work at marriage. Marriage is til the grave. That's mentality people should have . Also 70 percent of divorce is by the wife .

[@laurens7492]

She said there was love and passion yet also infidelity in her first marriage. I would venture to say she’s scared more than to say she “doesn’t want to work at marriage”. Just because people are on their second marriage doesn’t mean they don’t want to work at marriage.

[@laurens7492]

But she should totally work at it! I loved the advice they gave in this segment 💗

[@BlowitAllUp]

@@laurens7492 Quit making excuses for other women. You’re enforcing each other’s bad behavior and decisions.

[@scaldon2]

@@laurens7492 she doesn't even have a reason . All she said is she's not in love with him. Well tough . She made a Oath infront of God and man . Marriage is til death . And dobt sympathize with her thsts the problem with 70 percent of divorce initiated by women. You women think its easy to walk away . It's not and it's wrong.

[@siddheshmirjankar910]

@@laurens7492 It's not about her being scared. What no one is willing to say here but is pretty obvious is that, she married her ex husband because she was aroused by the qualities he possessed (aka 'boyfriend material'). However, later on she realized that her then husband did not possess the qualities to keep a marriage stable (aka 'husband material'). So she divorced him. Now, she married this new guy because he's husband material even though she's never been aroused by him. If she was in her early 20's and single, enjoying life, she definitely wouldn't have given this person even a second of her day. The only reason she even dated him was because he was what her ex husband wasn't even though she is aroused by people like her ex husband. This marriage had a terrible end even before it began.

[@kdel45]

You can practice desire all you want, but if the physical chemistry isn't there, it isn't there. You can't make yourself have chemistry with someone. It sounds like the chemistry (the spark) is what she is missing. That aspect of a relationship is more important to some people than it is to others. For some people, getting along great and being best friends is enough. For others it is not. I feel bad for the husband here because it doesn't sound like she sees herself being with him in the long term.

[@meesh1002]

Exactly what I was thinking

[@chelsimcfarland2007]

I learned that when you're used to trauma and dysfunction, stability can feel boring and uncomfortable. This makes sense

[@allenellsworth5799]

And I feel like she causes it to excite herself or something.

[@childressautosales2846]

Where's Kevin Samuels when you need him?

[@tashied422]

Wrong crowd for that cause you only got 14 likes. These people either don't agree with you or don't even know who he is.

[@markhasenour12]

Wow she sounds like a real catch.....

[@aj9586]

I wish she had called into Kevin Samuels. They are being way too soft on her. I feel bad for the poor guy sitting at home.

[@Scarface_445]

It could be mutual

[@SheBaker]

Kevin would've ripped her a new one for sure! 😂

[@gatewaysolo104]

Or Pastor John Macarthur. He is not known to mince words.

[@Ethiodawg]

I am a woman but I listen to him all the time for some truth. He would have put this woman in her place lol

[@TimHPop776]

Christy: "John do you think Disney has damaged marriage?" John: "They have destroyed everything." (regarding marriage) Seriously great commit.

[@heyhey11793]

Marriage is about choosing that person every day of your life, yeah you love that person but not every day is going to be a freaking romantic comedy. If you both plant yourselves like the sturdiest trees you’ve ever seen and choose to be there with him for each other because that’s where you planted yourself and you’re not going anywhere now that’s a beautiful marriage.

[@raylin2483]

Kevin Samuels: "Maam you're the size of a linebacker, you have lots of mileage, and you're a 5 of 10. What makes you think you can get a better man than your husband?"

[@saramatthews7159]

Kevin Samuels is a closeted fruit

[@Rose-xm4og]

She looks at love as just a feeling. It’s hard work. And love is a choice.

[@foford2010]

2:09 I wished John went there. 😂

[@tj3742]

I know right...

[@georgeahacker]

He probably should have gone there. Sounds like she needed a truth bomb.

[@kch4580]

Getting passed the first couple years after the hormones change is a very hard thing. I hope she makes the choice to love and find how happy you can make your home when you decide to commit rather than demand that passion

[@tomdrummy4984]

Caller has to look within. She is looking for another person to “fix” her from previous relationship. That rarely happens. You cant help everyone……..the individual has to look inward for the answers…….they are there.

[@exvan3571]

She may be looking within Tinder...

[@jonathanmcentire970]

She wants a marriage that's all about her. What a selfish person. Woman up and own your decisions.

[@michaeldalton8374]

Gotta have that drama!!!

[@frytime_media]

Remember this lady next time Dave Ramsey show suggests you get married with no prenup

[@roseking8555]

1:52. 🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀. Im dying here. Did you see that look they gave!!! I agree!!! This Barbie… I can’t!!! I know I paused and made a comment before the end but….

[@aaronosborn7395]

Rice and beans will save the marriage

[@drama-addictic6462]

I love Dr. J. Delony reaction when the caller said “i had a long list of things he needed to check off”

[@IrishMexican]

She quickly got caught that she’s too picky and started listing off easy ones

[@tamaraderouselle7133]

I love the advice. At the end of the day, love is a choice & a daily practice.

[@Tr1Hard777]

Some people are just doomed. They expect others to change for them not understanding they are the problem.

[@davidchester429]

Christ! Her husband is like...... "noooooo don't talk her out of it!"

[@gibblespascack1418]

So the girl makes poor choices. Noted. Did not get the "Love Spark", but got married anyway. Maybe Amber should not get married a third time. The third time is not the charm for her. Maybe its time for Amber to join a Cat Rescue program.... Please let this guy go and find someone who will love him at the time that he says I Do...

[@howlbeast]

She needs a Kevin Samuels intervention

[@TheRSAngle]

@Charles Schwab's you got her husbands number?

[@xraceboyex]

By and large, women don't love men in any way. I've seen it and experienced it my whole life

[@angelag.3266]

The way that Christy turns to him at 2:00 haha

[@Candace-M-]

When you're so focused on the list and checking off boxes you can miss looking for that spark connection and an actual loving relationship. Almost everything is based off of expectations and dreams instead of being intentional. She's bored already and wants someone new. I wish they were able to talk through this more in depth, but I would say that a spark in the dating period is important. My husband and I had a spark in our dating time and it really helps us throughout our marriage in the tough and fun times.

[@mine1685]

If your husband had treated you badly and if it had happened after the marriage...again and again,...... initial spark wouldn't help.

[@Candace-M-]

@@mine1685 That's true

[@anitaknight3915]

@@Candace-M- I think you're right. Although this woman from the call sounded very immature with unrealistic standards & expectations, it's important to have that spark and chemistry like you said. I disagree with John's advice that she can just have "desire" for him if it isn't there.

[@beewest5704]

Now I understand why the divorce rate for second marriage is 75%. Does she even remotely possess what she requires from him. She sounds like a teenager.

[@susanmarie2231]

This second marriage sounds like a rebound from the first marriage and that is a red flag for another failed marriage. Also, it seems there’s no chemistry in the marriage. I hope the caller will go to a reputable marriage counselor with her husband and see if this can be worked out. If not, part ways amicably and keep going to counseling for yourself. Sounds like you have some healing to do before you get into another relationship. Best wishes.

[@mildchaos6037]

People don’t want to put in effort towards anything anymore. “Ope, things got just a little hard, time to bail and search for something easy” and then wonder why they end up in a terrible place

[@jessicarose2548]

The problem is that most people view love as a purely emotional thing. It is emotional but it also has action to it. Love is a choice to serve one another, be committed to one another, and to forgive one another through the ups and downs of marriage. If you're willing to cop out at the first sign of emotional apathy, then you are not living up to your marriage vows, which promise to stay whether for better or for worse. I pray this lady understands what true love is and sticks with it!

[@anitaknight3915]

Beautifully said♥️

[@jessicarose2548]

@@anitaknight3915 Thank you!

[@gusmueller4413]

john's first question makes me understand why you hired him. on point!

[@shattered115]

She also needs the wake up call that after two broken marriages she is going to have a more difficult time finding a third man interested in taking a chance on her.

[@tajiri7]

Sounds like she *can’t* love Likely a pair bonding issue

[@hornetguy9063]

At least Chad got her at her hottest, now Brad gets to pay her alimony

[@davem4193]

@@hornetguy9063 facts, she wants to go back to chasing Chad while Brad pays her.

[@deanalbertson7203]

In the first marriage she wanted the bad boy then she wanted a good guy now she wants a bad boy again.

[@deanalbertson7203]

I think she should stay single so then she can see whoever she wants whenever she wants.

[@davem4193]

It's that SIMPle brother.

[@bkucenski]

You need to have dreams to support. If your partner is supporting your family and professional ambitions, that would be lost in a divorce. If your partner just checks off some boxes, lots of people will check off those boxes. As the good sergeant says, "This is my rifle. There are many like it. But, this one is mine." After being in a toxic relationship, I realized how abnormal that was. There are so many good people out there. The goal is to find the good person and then build something that makes them and you, a unique pairing.

[@derekd1510]

"There are so many good people out there." Really? Where are these amazing people? I'm not seeing them.

[@biolife3274]

She went with someone safe. She's not into the guy.

[@BlowitAllUp]

Back then the safe guy would be chosen for the woman. Left to her devices she would choose the man who made her wet, then he would leave her because most women want him.

[@jvc9386]

You cannot negotiate genuine burning desire

[@justinhamrick1099]

She needs to leave the guy so he will end up happy

[@justinhamrick1099]

Also I’m a Ramsey supporter and a listener! In a relationship she can’t set all the borders!

[@msi8311]

Lol

[@placasowuicho967]

I was just watching another video about why not to get married. Then I stumble across this. Im out never getting married. Ppl today are just horrible. She needs to never get married again.

[@BrandonMinguez]

In this case, the first marriage was for romance and the second marriage is for finance. You still have to love them though.

[@douglasjackson1458]

she likes the bad boys.... and she went for a stable guy I'm guessing and he's just not as "fun" as she wants.

[@krobdawg]

Back to the CC she goes

[@mariavittar6290]

Is this a personal issues section of the Ramsey Show? Or is the same financial advise Ramsey Show?

[@mod8179]

This lady wanted a puppy, not a husband.