'I don't have time' - and other lies you tell yourself

“I shouldn’t prioritize myself; other people need me.”
“I don’t have time or money for self-care.”
“If I focus on myself, I’m neglecting my responsibilities.”
“If it doesn’t make me instantly happy, it’s not working.”
These and other sentences you are telling yourself is the reason why you constantly feel exhausted, tired, and burned out. In today's video we say goodbye to some of these self-care myths and reflect on how to start treating ourselves with respect and care. Do you have any (witchy) self-care favorites?
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[@tammycantarella4727]

I am embracing naps as a form of self care. They’re free, they make me happy, and my cats think it’s about time I figured this out, they’ve been modeling good behavior for years. (I just got that oracle deck a few weeks ago, and how wonderful is it?!?! I liked it so much I bought the Ostara one, too.)

[@Thewitchescookery]

Naps are amazing!!! And sleep is so important for the body ✨️ haha I bought the ostara one too 😅 I now have all of them

[@rosymelanie]

I deleted the Facebook and Instagram apps from my phone. I also don't check the news anymore, because it's just too stressful. I read books, organize social events with friends, and go to bed early so I can wake up with the sun and exercise first thing. It's made a huge difference.

[@Thewitchescookery]

That sounds like a great gameplan to gain some sanity, peace of mind and heart back ❤

[@RoxyanneYoung]

“You don’t have time to wait” for self-care. Wow. Thank you.

[@Thewitchescookery]

The longer you wait, the harder and more ineffective it gets 🙏

[@Thewitchescookery]

Hi lovelies! How are you going to weave a little selfcare moment into your day today? Set your intention (big or small) here ⬇️❤

[@pagancrafting]

when I get home , Ill take an hour break first, ground and recharge, instead of going to creator work right after I get home after my day job.

[@maribelsantana157]

I am going to pick up my cellphone less today and clean up my kitchen.

[@krispen4]

I’m watching while weaving in my art studio. Yes Bex, yes. Thank you for addressing this. ❤

[@evereletkline8732]

Get the antibiotics that Im NOT allergic too & stay thankful

[@PeppermintPatties]

The more you say you haven't got time for self-care, the more you need to do it!

[@Thewitchescookery]

This 💯

[@brian9480]

I am an older grandad now and no longer feel guilty about doing nothing. Gosh it took a long time to realise this . Yep your message is spot on well done. Great video as always.

[@Thewitchescookery]

As you should 🫶 and sometimes it takes some time to learn those lessons 😅

[@HouseGecko6]

'Self care is not a luxury. It is survival.' I really NEED to practice this. I can't help anybody, if I'm burned out. Also, I love that wall calendar! What is the name of it?

[@Thewitchescookery]

1000%! That is the kitchen witch wall calendar- I got it as a gift from a friend and love it so much ❤

[@Mikie-in-the-Mist]

My favorite self care is sitting outside in the backyard reading a book.

[@Thewitchescookery]

Oh that sounds lovely! I am more of an audiobook girlie but love to listen to one while outside in the garden too 😄

[@Mikie-in-the-Mist]

@Thewitchescookery I'll need to turn on an audio book the next time I'm in the garden. That's a great idea!

[@PocketKanin]

5:28 Being unable to afford healthcare to do self-care is the main issue I think. I consider self-care as being able to actually (like plants and pets) take care of ourselves. no spa day retreat, just finally being able to visit a dentist. 😞

[@Thewitchescookery]

1000% - or even less expensive and time-consuming: Taking 10 deep breaths or going for a walk 🫶

[@Catherine-h3f]

It's helpful that you make it clear that there is a difference between self care and indulgence and that self care can be unpleasant.

[@Thewitchescookery]

So glad it resonated 🤗

[@aariley2]

I have come to the point of just saying no, to myself or others. Some days I simply don't have the energy or desire to do things.

[@Thewitchescookery]

Amazing! No is a very very powerful word and more people should use it

[@craftyshark17]

Unbelievable timing. I keep pushing back a hiatus from work due to burnout and, surprise, everything is getting worse.

[@Thewitchescookery]

Go and rest ❤

[@jessicam9625]

Please also be aware that once you take your hiatus and begin to recover, if you go back to doing the same things afterwards, you will end up in the same burnout that you did before.

[@craftyshark17]

@@jessicam9625 You're absolutely right! I'm also looking for a new job. I've white knuckled my way through four years at my current job and it hasn't been good for me.

[@outdoorgurl2474]

I have been putting off self-care for so long. Then when I get sick or run down, I feel guilty for having to call out from work or just sitting down doing nothing. I'm going to take time to heal both body and mind. It's sad that it takes a complete stranger clear across the world to bring this to my attention, smh. Thank you , sister, for reminding us😂❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

I am glad this made you refelct on it and yaih for that new intention to focus on healing and shifting this 🫶 let's make selfcare a priority ✨️

[@jadelee6363]

Self care can be wonderfully self indulgent, like a guilty pleasure.i swim on my lunch hour. I don't think about anything at work, and I go back to my office calm, feeling like I just had a vacation.

[@Thewitchescookery]

Oh that sounds perfect 👌

[@christinemccullough8765]

I am allowing myself to practice fermenting things, just because I like fermenting!

[@Thewitchescookery]

Yessss 👌😄 I like it too haha

[@ColonelIzabelleThorn]

I hang out with people that make me smile and laugh, I do one of my many hobbies and I find something to learn. I keep my mind creatively and logically nurtured! Sometimes though, I get so busy doing those things I run myself into the ground. Still learning balance!

[@dianekay5201]

Gosh, this was such a great video❣️ fantastic points with lovely aesthetics as usual 🙂 I so agree that self care isn't some luxurious, expensive thing in the future. It's not eating that whole chocolate bar or visiting with that person that makes you feel bad about yourself. It's making a meal that nourishes your body. Having that cup of tea. Doing some physical activity that makes your body feel good. Reading a book, listening to a podcast, watching great KZbin content 💚 Literally just taking care of yourself in ways that feel good! Society sells us an image of what self care is, that isn't real, so they can profit from us.. unfortunately. People who are content are harder to sell to. Thank you for this reminder today 🌱

[@AubreHill]

Great reminders & thoughts on this. I didn’t prioritize self care until it became a matter of absolute. This is a lesson that can be hard to learn, but as a cancer survivor I cannot emphasize how deeply important it is. We eat away at our health when we don’t. Time to thrive. The workshop sounds beautiful too! Thank you for always sharing such beautiful, heart felt, and inspiring videos.

[@Thewitchescookery]

As someone that has gone through such a challenge I am sure you throughly have understood the importance. Of course it would be lovely of we could learn those lessons without having to have such shocking wake up calls ❤

[@aariley2]

😂😂I had my readers off. Your cape and the scarf...you looked like a cute little gnome!❤❤❤❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

Ahah thaaaank you 😄 that is how I feel (well, maybe not small - as I am 5'10'')

[@krystina7488]

Love this! Such an important but underrated topic.

[@Thewitchescookery]

I totally agree!

[@martyvanbaak5542]

Watching you with your adorable children is extremely therapeutic and calming. Thank you

[@Thewitchescookery]

😊You are so kind

[@RDebroux]

Thank you for this reminder, wisdom and tips ❤ much needed. It’s time to let go of the guilt that I want to have some alone time to do what I want even for an hour, it doesn’t mean I don’t love spending time with my partner. I just want the time to enjoy my hobbies ❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

I am so glad you had that insight ❤ you are two seperate people with two seperate sets of need, wants and cravings. Time away from each other can be so recharging and makes the time spent together much more specail

[@margarethall1625]

Just what I needed today. I'm dealing with an upcoming change in my work schedule. It's needed for me to progress even though it is causing me tremendous stress and anxiety. I took the time today to talk it over with my developmental counselor. She helped me in so many ways. This video and your calming voice helped me to relax to the point of having trouble staying awake to write this comment.

[@mandipai]

Thank you dear. Lately my favorite self care is silence. When I catch that moment, I feel I am coming back to my body with the gentle, softness of my true nature. 🌺

[@Thewitchescookery]

It is the best!!! Even better: silence alone in nature ❤

[@marilynmeyer1619]

Thank you for sharing.

[@Thewitchescookery]

My pleasure 🙏

[@amyjudy33]

Thank you so much for this wholesome, encouraging video. I really needed it. I'm going to take your suggestion to write lists of what replenishes me, and what robs me of time and energy. I think off the top of my head, one of the key things that replenishes me is the act of artistic creation and expression. Right now, I'm in a place where I'm feeling motivated and empowered, so I'm going to spend some time thinking of routines I can incorporate more regularly, and develop a few personal rituals that are low-effort so on days when I don't have as vigorous a fire in my hearth I can still tend to my needs and care for myself. I love your videos, and I'm so happy to have found your channel!

[@peachykuromi2447]

One of my selfcare activities is watching ur videos! Definitely refreshing and full of practical knowledge not like plenty of those 'selfcare' videos out there that may make one feel even more miserable. Thanku for ur work 🤍 u re my comfort creator n i aspire to be like u when i get older (im 23)❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

Awwwwww that is such a sweet comment!!! Thank you so much ❤❤❤

[@briarrosecottage8115]

Was just commenting a similar type thing on Facebook when as how an path can let go. Empaths are like sponges. Absorbing. Often way too much. However, a sponge can be wrung out to release excess unneeded energy just like with a sponge releasing water when squeezed. I've been working on casting off societal expectations of me. I have Fibromyalgia amongst other things and will never again be able to be productive like it's said I should be. One of the kindest things a person can do for themselves is make time to take care of themselves. Sometimes we can share them with others and create an even greater healing for everyone involved 😊

[@claudine9662]

Cleaning my home is a huge pain for me! Even though the satisfaction afterwards also brings me peace of mind, it's not enough to get me started. So, cleaning time is now also my burning-essential-oils time. It makes me feel like I'm also clearing the air of everything that happened in my life during the week, so that I have a calmer mental and emotional space from which to start a new week.

[@RachelBayati]

I am working on exercising more often, especially going for a run or going to the climbing gym. Most days it's hard to feel motivated to get myself moving, especially if it means I have to leave the house (I work from home). But I never ever regret when I actually get out and run outside in nature or push myself a little at the climbing gym (I have a fear of heights). Even on days when I'm not feeling my best before, I always always feel better after, physically and mentally. I feel more capable and confident, like I can actually do what I set out to do! It's such a confidence booster for someone who struggles with that.

[@denisehill7769]

Might sound contra-intuitive but have done a couple of chores, then picked up my tarot study book. It's been a crap time lately and spiritual things have been a little neglected! Thank you for the video :) BB xxx

[@Thewitchescookery]

I hope you are able to build more of these spiritual and cleansing self care activities in your day in the next few weeks ❤

[@denisehill7769]

@@Thewitchescookery Thank you so much xxx I've been getting my a&& back in gear, with some kitchen witchery and very simple tarot-based rituals in the morning. And listening to music a lot more, which is a huuuuuuuuge spiritual lift. Have a fantastic week, and brightest of blessings XXX

[@ExcaliburOfYuletide]

Lovely and accurate. I also have that deck, and am now slightly obsessed with eventually having all of them. Lol

[@Thewitchescookery]

Hehe I have all of them 😅 keep reasoning with myself thay any new oracle deck os technically a 'business expense' 🤣

[@ExcaliburOfYuletide]

@Thewitchescookery OoooooOOoooo I should do the same thing!!!

[@paulamichelle9471]

Everything that you just said, is exactly what I say to myself..Word for Word. & I am Aware that that time is not coming. I have been on a personal journey to Clear my Path. To clear what is in my way to my My Well Being . You are a True blessing to me at this time in my Life. This is Exactly what I needed.. another voice echoing what I already know is true. So that I can pursue what I must to survive. I don't feel so alone knowing another women has voiced all that is true. 😊

[@tracymackey9089]

Beautifully and honestly said 💜✨

[@Thewitchescookery]

Thank you 🫶

[@hcc792]

So thankful to have somehow found your channel…and your website! Very intrigued by this uncommon combination of psychology and witchy/pagan/nature living/being…feel something sort of awakening inside…💓

[@Thewitchescookery]

Oh I am so happy you feel that way! Welcome in my little magical corner on the internet ❤ maybe one day we will (e-)meet in person ✨️

[@hcc792]

@Thewitchescookery absolutely! I’ve joined your Patreon, there is such a huge back catalog…enjoying going through it! This is brightening my winter so much. 💓❄️

[@aariley2]

It's really hard living with toxic people and not having enough money to get out. I stay away as much as possible. It would be lovely to relax at home. Not going to happen, ever.

[@Thewitchescookery]

I am so so sorry you have to live in a situation like thay. I hope you will be able to turn things around financially to get away from there ❤

[@elizabethsmith3416]

Oh Bex 💕 you couldn't have said this any better. It's so true for a lot of us. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

🤗

[@ldarbes]

Loved this video. I'm so glad that you pointed out that self-care can sometimes feel uncomfortable. Thank you Bex.

[@Thewitchescookery]

Glad it was helpful!

[@mariamia2472]

Selbstfürsorge ist das Wichtigste für die psychische Gesundheit, merkt man leider erst wenn es zu spät ist. Danke für den super Content!❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

Absolutely 💯

[@TheEmpressgoth]

Doing things for everybody else need to say no more Thanks for sharing 😊😊😊😊❤❤❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

absolutely! No can be a very freeing word of selflove :)

[@andradanielleparrott]

I really appreciate you and your perspective.

[@Thewitchescookery]

Tyabk you 😊

[@aariley2]

Brilliant!!!

[@Thewitchescookery]

🫶

[@CatherineVerrilli]

I just made myself some hot chocolate and whipped some cream for the top!

[@Thewitchescookery]

Delicious!!! Enjoy that

[@atreehuggingpunk]

needed this. after a very turbulent three years (mom got cancer and ive been her caretaker my whole life, sibling moving back home, family trouble, car crash just last month that left injuries, just to name a few) i really have started to finally prioritize myself no matter what. its as radical as rebellion to me and as important as one. thank you for all your videos. during yule i clung to them for my holiday spirit! and now i use them as tools for my own betterment.

[@jacqslabz]

I try to make the first thing I do when I get to work be making myself tea. Yes I'm at work, but I still come first. If I don't take care of me I can't do my job effectively. On the weekend it's putting away laundry. I hate putting away laundry, but I hate even more having my laundry a mess when I trying to get dressed & leave for work. All 5 mornings of the week are much easier when I put my laundry away during the weekend. So I put on some music or similar to help me get through folding & hanging the clothes.

[@thelilbrans]

Spot on, thank you so much, as always 🙏 Your content always carries meaning.

[@Thewitchescookery]

Thank you ❤ I am so happy to hear this

[@nadineberti3611]

Selfcare for me is watching my free-range hens and rooster or going for a walk in the forest or by the lake. In the evening, when my 3 children are in bed, I take a shower or read or do yoga 😊❤️

[@Thewitchescookery]

Chickens staring is the best selfcare 🤣 we will be adding to our flock next week when the weather gets a bit warmer haha

[@thewildwitchofappalachia1266]

Man I seriously needed this video. Lots of love from Appalachia 💚

[@Thewitchescookery]

sending you all the love from over the pond :)

[@Sageoftheforest7]

This video found me in just the right time 😅😊

[@Thewitchescookery]

So happy to hear 🤗 take wonderful care of yourself today 🫶

[@CrimsonWolff]

Thank you for this, Bex. Beautiful landscapes! Miss you. ❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

And thank you for watching. I cannot waaaaaaaait to see you at the retreat again ❤❤❤

[@595bernadette]

Watching this on my 44th birthday and I’ve been finding to hard to look after myself at mo usually I can put myself first but really struggling at the moment

[@Thewitchescookery]

Happy birthday lovely!! I hope you have a most amazing day ❤️ and I hope you can find back to yourself And your needs again

[@595bernadette]

@@Thewitchescookery Thank you

[@aariley2]

I love your mug!!!!

[@Thewitchescookery]

Me too haha it was a present from a friend

[@heatherlundquist-buffalo]

10:12 you should try Swedish cinnamon buns. So much nicer than the glazed kind! 😊pearl sugar is used on top not frosting or glaze ❤❤ Your kids are adorable 😊 Thanks for another great video 😊 Blessed be ❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

Ohhh I should try that!!!

[@melissaloyd1058]

I love you, Bex❤ Thank you❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

❤Any time!

[@DestinyGodden]

Self care for me right now is gaming. I should be reading or working on my practice but I spend hours in front of the tv playing video games. I need to get better with this. I have tried not being on social media as much as the news is nothing but gross. Video games are my escape.

[@Thewitchescookery]

I feel video games can definitely be a form of selfcare - as long as they don't become a patch that is actually harming instead of helping in the long term 😊

[@melissaloyd1058]

Truly magical video❤❤🥰🥰🥰

[@Thewitchescookery]

Thank you ❤

[@ButtercupBerry1234]

i just needed to hear it...vielen Dank ! 🙂

[@Thewitchescookery]

❤

[@nairbvel]

Thanks... I needed that. 🙂

[@Thewitchescookery]

You’re welcome 😊

[@sandrashevel2137]

Thank you❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

You're welcome 😊

[@askanthonyy]

I loved this video. At nearly 34 I’m still finding what self care looks like for me. Sometimes it’s a focus on spiritual practices, sometimes it’s actually just keeping busy. I really love that calendar in your kitchen! Where’s it from?

[@Thewitchescookery]

I think self care will always look different depending on what area on the wheel of life we currently need to boost 😊

[@Thewitchescookery]

The calendar is the kitchen witch wall calendar - a friend sent it to me😊

[@askanthonyy]

@@Thewitchescookery I totally agree! And thanks for the calendar info❤️

[@evereletkline8732]

I Love You

[@LeeAndrew-p4e]

I'm a pagan from England just come across your channel new sub I'm a nature based person who worships my ancestors from the past and the present day who have gone now I have a pagan alter mount in my bedroom

[@sandraoettle1476]

What if my self-care is total hibernation mode? Me and sofa have a special relationship this winter 🤣🤣

[@Thewitchescookery]

Sounds completely ledigt 😄

[@nisischmidt9137]

Wo findet man denn dieses wunderschöne Karten Set ??🥹🥹🥹❤️❤️❤️

[@Thewitchescookery]

Das ist von season of the witch - es gibt einen zu jeden Jahreskreisfest :)

[@witchynoneveryday3866]

My self care is having that beautiful cloak! Where did u get yours?! I need one 😂😊

[@Thewitchescookery]

Ahahah it is from a vendor at a medieval market - so unfortunately I don't have any website link for you

[@honeyvitagliano3227]

❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

🤗

[@SimpleHealth83]

😊

[@andreatonz6078]

Hallo liebe bex wie geht’s euch denn so Gruss aus Bern, Andrea❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Thewitchescookery]

Liebe Grüße zurück🫶

[@jennglow4647]

😀

[@dazdazduadoia]

🫶👏👏👏👏

[@Thewitchescookery]

🫶

[@Geek_Time_But_Israeli]

I wanna share something I love to do, an energy generator, In hope whoever reads this will try these out. There is a video called "Solar System through my telescope" Made by J.W. astronomy. They made a stunning video. Just gazing at planets from a telescope, Marveling at how far they are, how amazing and how beautiful. The music makes it even more awesome. I think you would like it.

[@Thewitchescookery]

That sounds so cool! I will have to check that out ✨️

[@jadedjhypsi]

Your children are such cute carbon copies of their mother 😉 🐡 😘

[@Thewitchescookery]

😊 thank you

[@rachealmaurer5937]

🥲 this something I needed to remind of thank you, 🤗

[@Thewitchescookery]

I think we all need that reminder occasionally 🤗 have a beautiful day today

[@NoorNoor-nx5gf]

Fantastic video, really fantastic. I’ll be coming back to this video more as a gentle but clear reminder 🙏🏼🪻

[@Thewitchescookery]

So glad you enjoyed it ❤

[@mandipai]

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