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[@WisdomCav3]

The rest of the story: I talked with my wife about it, she told me "you don't own anything to your parents, they failed you, so did your sister, I would let her die with her mistakes unsolved, but that's me, I will support you in any choice you make" I agree with her, but a part of me want to see her, but I don't know if I could control my self if I see her, I asked to my best friends and they both said I should go and give peace to her, so now I don't know if I'm doing wrong or I should let my anger away just for now at least until she passes away, so, Aita?

[@traggrad9115]

Nta it's your choice and she practically ruined your life

[@trinidadperez160]

I wouldn't do it God is the one she asking for forgiveness please no haters 🙏 💯 😌

[@jacktreetop]

If you think of seeing her means you need peace, you are trying to close the door. See her but don't accept that apology.

[@kim29817]

Go and have a heart felt convo. If she gets peace you should get it too

[@Saib8002]

NTA but personally I would go.

[@austin17721]

I agree with the wife (and many others I'm sure), he doesn't owe his family anything. Your forgiveness is yours to give as you see fit

[@lauralfreeberg2179]

Just because he forgives her doesn't mean he has to give her peace. Forgiveness is for you to live without hate in your heart so you can move forward, not so others can.

[@piratekit3941]

@@lauralfreeberg2179 He could say "I forgive you, however I don't trust you even when you are dying. You can die with the knowledge that I forgive you, but I will not see you in your last moments." Though something tells me that won't be enough for her.

[@Pirates.27]

Forgive but not forget. He should forgive for his own sake but that will never neither erase nor excuse the sisters wrongdoings. And he should do it on his own terms, whether by seeing the sister or not. People nowadays missunderstand forgiveness for blamelessness.

[@tobiasnivalis2655]

​@@Pirates.27Even if he forgives her, he doesn't have to tell her. OP's right. He owes her nothing. She could have set the record straight and asked for forgiveness at any point, just because she's dieing doesn't mean she magically gets to have a wish granted.

[@oTouchMe]

He can forgive her after she’s dead. It sounds cruel but forgiving her when you’re not ready would be a lie.

[@Jelaime11293]

Id let her apologize just so I could tell her "I do not accept your apology".

[@daverod9730]

And that's another way to do it

[@The_wannabe_Annabeth]

Same 😂

[@veannegilchrist9925]

Nicely played❣️

[@maryjflanagan1922]

You should always face and communicate your feelings with people instead of avoiding them.

[@redeyes3847]

@@maryjflanagan1922wrong

[@mothertrucker936]

NTA that witch will take her peace and will laugh in your face. Had she been repentant, she would have never allowed you to be thrown out but she let the lie go on almost 2 decades. She’s lived the life of the poor little princess because of her own actions.

[@CALL1.1]

LMAOOO NTA!!!

[@ForthrightSatire288]

What's NTA

[@yoshi4126]

​@@ForthrightSatire288 it stands for "not the asshxle"

[@ForthrightSatire288]

@@yoshi4126 thanks

[@justacommentator129]

Lmao bro thinks if u making mistakes=horrible person, you probably have wronged someone and never apologised before. Imagine judging someone solely off of 1 mistake, just shows the kind of person you are. He should make peace and be done with it instead of regretting to see his sister for the last time.

[@fionna_cool_girl]

She's only feeling bad because she's dying. She could've came clean at any other point but from the sounds of it, she's only waiting til the last minute to say anything or have any guilt about it. People like that don't deserve anything, let alone forgiveness that isn't deserved

[@bettyhoo6604]

So her soul can be forgiven by God? Lol

[@The_wannabe_Annabeth]

Fr tho! She wants to "repent her sins" and "make everything right" so she can have a slightly higher chance of getting to heaven when she does finally die. But nothing she does now is taking her off the Hell list. Not when it's buried down under many years' worth of other people's names from after when she first lied. The longer she waited, the more her original sinkhole of a sin got deeper, until now she can't climb out.

[@BernadetteShalala-zu5vb]

I liked this half way reading this, then finished reading and I was gonna like it again. Low key wishing there was an extra like button🤣🤣🤣

[@Emma76126]

NTA she protected her ABUSIVE boyfriend over you and caused you to get kicked out, plus your parents never apologized for what they did. She caused harm to you to protect someone who's hurting her, she's doesn't deserve anything

[@Chrome_Sipher]

Protecting someone who abuses you and hurting the people you love for it is crazy

[@CMissShelleyMichelle]

​@@Chrome_SipherThat, there, this. Perfectly and expertly said. 😊

[@Iplayprofessionalmeatball]

💯 any decision made is to give yourself peace. She threw hers away a long time ago.

[@Honukura]

This. Exactly this!

[@DummyThiccccc]

Wait the sister admitted she lied to the parents and instead if either of them apologizing for kicking out and hurting there child that ask him to speak and forgive his sister? Are human beings really that dumb?

[@yusuftalhayasar3092]

They surely are

[@moniquethong798]

Unfortunately so.

[@mtoingehs]

I mean (especially the father) your child is dying and I think the mother didn’t really approve of the father actions as it was a bit too cruel but she probably couldn’t do much (maybe because she doesn’t work anymore etc.) You will probably prioritise the dying child 1st. (Like I said especially the father) I will say the sister still is fucked for blaming the brother when she could easily said any other excuse. While abuse is hard to escape from which is somewhat understandable why she did that, still pretty fucked to blame it on the brother. But this could be another reason why they think they don’t owe a shit to their son which is just plain right stupid.

[@nastyachernomorchenko1065]

​@@mtoingehs that's not a question of priorities, it's once again babying the sister and not acknowledging that op was wronged. It takes less than 5 seconds to say "I am sorry". They don't care that they have a second child, they threw him away without a second thought and now want him only because of their little princess. And in normal marriage even when somebody isn't working, it doesn't strip them of deciding power. If "I bring the money, I am only one deciding here" is used, that's abuse, whatever small or big the decision is.

[@jayw2443]

Yeah brother alien thos humans are very Unintelligent apes

[@bently_june5960]

He can forgive them if he wants but even if he doesn't, he owes them nothing, he shouldn't be guilty about not forgiving the sister either because she lied and the parents blindly believed her, he doesn't need to forgive anyone

[@issnake1109]

He can accept her apology without forgiving her and honestly that’s as far as I would let them go

[@sternritter_d]

@@issnake1109yeah

[@josephlabriola6008]

How did the father react when she revealed it was a lie? That's what I want to know cuz if he hasn't tried to in contact to apologize then there's no way in hell I would forgive any of them

[@Lily.M.]

I was wondering about that as well. That man helped the daughter destroy him. He does not owe them anything. P.s the mother included!

[@sweetambitions2381]

He probably made excuses for her. He doesn’t sound like a rational person anyway given that he didn’t even bother thinking about the impossibility of OP being the one abusing a woman who he didn’t have the time or place to abuse.

[@meta-sus5247]

In the whole story I find the father as in fault the most

[@nastyachernomorchenko1065]

Hey, mom started with demands, do you really think dad is better? He didn't even asked for son's side, just threw him away and washed his hands. I understand being angry and believing the daughter, but he raised both of them, so he should at the very least ask for the reasoning.

[@youknowwhatelseisbig484]

I kind of hate the father, but the Mom was at least decent enough to give OP some money. And the sisters case is understandable, since abuse is extremely hard to get out of, and the boyfriend could've threatened to unalive her if she told any body. Although it's dumb to blame the siblings, like, siblings hit each other all the time and it isn't abuse 😭

[@hopeausbyn1734]

When your apology comes when you're terminal, it not about your victim. It's still all about you.

[@Coffeishellagudfam]

The only reason she’s apologizing is she wants to die with a clear conscience. She’s done nothing but hurt him even in her last moments. Absolutely disgusting

[@idrumsometimes]

i thought it was wholesome at first, like an “i don’t wanna give her a last goodbye because i love her and will miss her dearly” but then i heard the first sentence and thought “nah that’s fair too”

[@3173alejandramartz]

Me too. 😅

[@Kiran-kira]

she decided it was time to apologise on HER DEATHBED??💀💀💀 edit: yes i started a war and yes i still stand by my own opinion, and i repeat OPINION. if you can't express your feelings about the topic in a sane manner please refrain from wasting your time.

[@RaccoonRecluse]

Let alone, their parents are not profusely apologizing for harming their son right as they pick up. Instead, they demand he make peace with his dying sister, who only just now regrets it.

[@GGMARCVZ]

The person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts. 🤔🤔

[@Kiran-kira]

@@RaccoonRecluse FR

[@ShipCreek]

It makes me feel like she's screwing him over again. Because if he doesn't accept her apology he's the bad guy. Dear lordy she's evil.

[@gancuber4204]

Facts but like then again like when else lol

[@choreomaniac]

I would expect a face to face apology from the sister, mother AND father before even considering forgiving. And don’t forgive to make the sister feel better. Forgive to make yourself feel better.

[@SimonIsVeryHandsome]

Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but *YOU* , deserve *Peace* "

[@Hiagain69]

Sounds like quite the timeskip and it sounds like the dad isn't around either. My only question is, "Did the daughter confess to the father so her brother had peace?" If she didn't confess with no strings attached, then why should he "give her peace of mind".

[@kos2919]

What if the dad died during that 20 years? But it's worse since it means the dad died without knowing the truth

[@Hiagain69]

@@kos2919 Exactly, so it's a lie she never had to take the consequences for. That was until she was on her deathbed thinking she was going to be punish in some sort of divine karmic way by the great unknown that she wanted to 'repent'. She's definitively more evil now if she didn't give her father the chance to repent.

[@tobiasnivalis2655]

NTA. If she wanted forgiveness she had two decades to ask for it, and the parents had the same. OP owes them nothing.

[@MaryAnn_621]

I agree with him…people always want to ask for forgiveness when they are about to die after making someone suffer for years

[@maxpugboyyi7]

You cant almost ruin someones life, and expect them to owe you peace

[@elenaadrianacirjan7380]

Its too little too late! She made her bed now she has to sleep in it! Now that she's near death she wants to say sorry?

[@Chrome_Sipher]

Thats what im sayin

[@Toe_fondler]

You’re heartless

[@Chrome_Sipher]

@j3yv Average person that cant download a image without it being low quality

[@CapuTheGuineaPig]

Isn't that her sister? Her sibling? So i think the 18 year old is a bad person cause you should never hold a grudge on someone, and especially do anything like that in their last moments.

[@Chrome_Sipher]

@@CapuTheGuineaPig Wtf is your pfp

[@johnathangreay987]

110% justified. Her shelfish behavior is nothing short of unspeakable.

[@user-kf1ed4if4g]

She is completely wrong what are you on about

[@johnathangreay987]

@@user-kf1ed4if4g why do you care what I think?

[@user-kf1ed4if4g]

becasue my fanum tax got mooggged by ishowspeed and im trying to have a gyatt like Kai cenat@@johnathangreay987

[@xprincessxbreyennax4544]

You dont owe those that hurt you peace. No one does.

[@CazCraven]

Just speaking from experience, forgiveness is way overrated and OP’s sister deserves to live the rest of her life with this guilt but just because that day is coming sooner rather than later doesn’t mean OP owes her anything.

[@NeverGonnaGiveYouUp-jt2ye]

Go, turn her apology down and leave. That will sting like hell which is where she's going soon.

[@adamyalahow1992]

She doesn't deserve peace, neither do this parents

[@NorryaParsa]

NTA Sister chose to cover up abusive boyfriend and ruin the relationship with her brother?! Yeah she did that! Let her take it with her to the afterlife.

[@user-kf1ed4if4g]

What does NTA

[@user-kf1ed4if4g]

Mean

[@NorryaParsa]

@@user-kf1ed4if4g Not The A**hole

[@reyrex4938]

Weird how she wanted to wait till the last possible moment when she would have no consequences to do the right thing. All those years passed and I doubt she even thought about it at times

[@A.CMc1997]

If it were me, I would probably go but I would tell my sister that her apologies are not accepted, I would ask my father "how does it feel being mistaken all those years ago with kicking me out without trying to understand the situation first?", and I would tell my mother thanks for the money but now we are even. That's not a "family", that's just blood relatives. 😮‍💨

[@sionc1372]

I wouldn't talk to the father. Just ignore him, pay back the money that the mother had given him, and leave.

[@kazzuo32]

Agree with Op, she doesn't deserve forgiveness

[@jessicademumbrum2386]

Good for you! She didn’t deserve your acceptance.

[@Jan_P0]

Literally apologizing in the last minute

[@s4meerbankupalli164]

Remember She is apologising FOR HER. It's not because she did wrong by you, no. It's to clear their own consciousness. Block them. You deserve better.

[@sadjaxx]

Like she can wave the magic wand and all the pain and sorrow and despair just goes away. The entire damn family owes him an apology.

[@mothernature8903]

I love how she waited until this to the point that she was dying to tell the truth in the way that she stabbed her brother in the back for the person she decided to love who is actually hurting her

[@user-zb6rh6kw5m]

I find it funny how people always want to make peace in their death bed. But want to live in hatred in their life.. Some might say she made your bed now it's time to rest in it.

[@mcvenne8935]

She doesn't deserve his forgiveness. He doesn't need to see her. She stopped being his sister as soon as she said that.

[@user-fv1kr7wi6s]

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

[@tinah4295]

You don’t need to do anything as anything said or done in anger probably means they wanting to either say that or do it for long time and they picked a day and time to do so or say I hope you are doing well have a good day today

[@katelin_mgood]

My sister did the same except I went to jail for her lie. I cant get a good job now. It's been almost 10 years and I can't get it off my record cause she won't come clean about it.

[@gluttonouswolf980]

I think that people who wait until they are about to die to ask forgiveness are crappy people. They are not seeking forgiveness, they are seeking peace for only themselves. And people who think that you need to forgive someone, just because they are dying, are crappy people as well. They rather bring peace to someone dying, who is a bad person, rather than support the person who was actually hurt. He was kicked out of the house and she protected her abusive boyfriend.

[@no.9725]

Who tf prefers a boyfriend over a sibling? Ntah.

[@itmethang]

Bro was savage 😭

[@mrmrhmi3947]

Now that she is dying she remembered to apologize? She is still thinking about herself because she wants to die in peace

[@stephanien6237]

Yes, that’s generally how deathbed confessions and apologies work.

[@eeee7950]

The parents aren’t even apologizing. I bet if the sister revealed the truth when she was still fine they wouldn’t have wanted to contact OP. And the fact they want you to empathize with them after literally kicking you out for no reason proves their stupidity.

[@Nooneatall098]

It's like she wanted to cover her back so she dies in peace even tho you'll always feel neglected

[@bigzubber]

I’m petty, like petty bro, I’d call her ex get him to come with me, I’d even pay him, and when we see her we laugh, say tick tock, laugh a little bit more and leave, if you know why she’s dying you, let say she has brain cancer you can come in with your head wrapped up dripping fake blood and saying “I’m almost gone I need my peace” 😂

[@mr_lander31]

False accusations should be a crime

[@Brandy-yn5vt]

If she lied and never came clean in all those years then only go to tell her off. Liars are the worst, lies destroy lives

[@healanimatthews1140]

I would be honored to show compassion beyond my scars.

[@alisambrano]

I would go. However, I would say, "I want you to know that in spite of what you did to me, I made a life without you and my family. I do not forgive you, I want you to go to the grave knowing that I will never forgive you" then turn to my parents and say, "You chose a lie over me, I came to tell you all, that the day you did that you were dead to me. I want you to know that I will never forgive you either, and I will be leaving now and never have anything to do with you from this point on. You kicked me out of your lives, and now I'm returning the favor. I will not be at any of your funerals. From this point forward, I will never think of you again. " Then leave.

[@cantlivewithoutyou]

choosing boyfriend over brother is crazy

[@huychillin3575]

And her boyfriend was abusive

[@pongangelo2048]

I don't get the psychology of women defending people abusing them. The sister reminds me of my own mom.

[@caffelatte103]

​@@pongangelo2048 Its called manipulation and gaslighting. Maybe the boyfriend threatened her or she was too dependent on him. Anyway, nothing justifies what she did, not apologising for years and only doing it on her lasts moments is pure cruel.

[@darkeve4013]

That’s tough, and no I don’t believe you are the asshole. The events that transpired and what happened to you and what happened to her weren’t any of your fault at all. I hope things are going alright for you and your wife.

[@lynncomel]

Victims have the right to choose whether to forgive or not. It's their rightful choice to make. Others have no right to tell victims to forgive just because they are not the ones experiencing it. Only victims will understand the emotional and mental turmoil of another victim who was put into a situation not of their own fault. They have a better understanding of the situation than those who don't. Leave the victims alone to forgive whenever they are ready if they ever choose to. Abusers are not entitled to tell victims when to forgive the abuse they intentionally did. OP can choose to go listen and stay quiet instead of forgiving or just not go at all if he wishes so. They've cut ties and financial support when he got kicked out so suddenly. No contact until the sister felt it's finally time. If anything, he and them are already strangers. No use playing the family game after all those wasted years. Do the parents expect him to take care of them after their daughter died? Do they feel their daughter deserved such easy closure instead of asking forgiveness sincerely for as long as it takes to gain forgiveness? Do they not feel any guilt towards the son that received the short end of the stick? So what if the victim chooses to forgive 2 decades after the abuser said sorry? She did wait 20 years after the fact to come clean. So victim has the right to wait too. She can go receive punishment in hell for the next 20 years until she receives her forgiveness. Others cannot victim blame people who were wronged.

[@MilkyLeakyCarton]

It's her peace that will be met not yours with that forgiveness. She neither deserves it nor do you deserve the stress it will bring to see her unrepentive but just wanting peace for herself. You go there and tell her that she can go to hell and leave immediately.

[@Privadevs]

The first to apologise is the bravest The first to forgive is the strongest The first to forget is the happiest Forgive them, not because the deserve forgiven, but because you, deserve peace

[@mariefreeman4235]

I agree with PRIVADEVS If you forgive her, you'll finally get the peace you need

[@user-pv2fz6wm2g]

hell no if YOU were wronged, YOU should not be the one apologizing what do you even apologize for??? being a victim these people who say to forgive people no matter what have clearly not had someone avtually bad in their lives

[@Privadevs]

@@user-pv2fz6wm2g don't forgive them for them, forgive them for you

[@nastyachernomorchenko1065]

People should be held accountable, if they don't, they cause more pain. Forgiving just like that multiplies pain. Maybe not for you, but remember there are more people than just you.

[@Privadevs]

@@nastyachernomorchenko1065 she’s dying, who will she hurt now

[@xxfoursevenninerxxclawcrus6000]

Op’s choice is plain valid, and why now on her deathbed?

[@sebastianmercado4661]

Personally I have learned that forgiving is letting go of hatred and anger towards someone; that is separate from not wanting to associate with those who have abandoned you.

[@Jake_Gotthard]

Im so proud of that man. He made the hard decision of not giving people that didnt deserve his attention, his attention, due to guilt. He resisted guilt just to not give people what they didnt deserve. That actually made me want to cheer out Loud for his bravery on that.

[@shieldwolf65]

Its a complex situation. The *METOO* & *Believe Her* crowd have made such a fuss that parents are caught. Do they believe thier child & support them, doubting them at the same time? They get the flak from the noisy opinionated ones. They're forced to choose bn kids & if the *Victim* plays it well then a decision has to be made. So they have a Solomons choice thats going to suck. I get it, as my sister went loopy, accused her husband of molesting thier 1 yo child, left him & made a whole song/dance about this. She's not particularly truthful. Was a savage bit¢h about access& played the victim to the hilt. We, incl my parents, had lots of doubts. In the end initially, they took no sides but that of thier grandson. She then went into therapy & *Discovered* by "repressed memories" that our bio Dad , a family friend & I myself had m0lested her as a child. Funny, I think I'd have remembered THAT!! SO I've been on the receiving end of the false allegations. About that point we rallied around her ex husband who was going to pieces in a $ui¢idal way. A horrible situation all round. But we did know my sister pretty well. Attention seeking, What we call call W0ke now, vindictive & able to convince herself of absolute BS. It's bc of this & too many cases of false allegations that I dealt with as a cop years ago that I learnt to be very cautious about allegations like this. They can destroy a man for life, yet are easy to make& fake & the Laws scramble to defend *Victims* . So does society. I don't envy parents having to make this call. Particularly in this case when parents are present & should know whether a child is bullying or being violent to another. If it feels off it probably is. Women who falsely lay these allegations deserve every bit of contempt society & the law has to give. They threaten those who ARE victims. They deserve NO forgiveness whatsoever. What theyv done is unforgivable. I include women who vindictively accuse thier husband's of mistreating them & the children in order to refuse fathers access & involvement with thier children. No forgiveness.

[@opencoloringbook6744]

How many years has it been? Did shitty dad or sister ever apologise? Did sister ever tell the truth? You owe NONE of them anything. Remember, mom didn't believe you either. You just eve ed it out by responding to your mom. Tell your friends she should have NEVER lied, and she should have reached out BEFORE she was on her deathbed. Continue no contact with exparents and ex sister. Then go low contact with said friends and find new ones too.

[@Ender-wi5og]

Shitty mom too. Took 20 years. All of them are shitty

[@Lendalounet]

If this story is real: GET KARMA'D!

[@indianex-muslimbano465]

Some people are mean enough to not even apologize..such a shame. How disgraceful these people could be.

[@kowoteao]

It is harsh, but sometimes things a person has done can be unforgiveable. There is no must to forgive a person who has wronged you, and they signed up for that when they did wrong you. But remember, forgiving somebody is not only for their peace, but for yours too.

[@issnake1109]

But other times, forgiving someone that you aren’t ready to forgive can only serve to bring you pain, feeling like you forgave someone without them ever doing anything to make it right to you

[@kowoteao]

@@issnake1109 youre absolutely right

[@oTouchMe]

@@issnake1109you’re right. He can forgive her after she’s dead. It’s sound cruel but forgiving her when he isn’t ready would be a lie. Who wants to live a life of lies?

[@kos2919]

Dude, he was casted away for 20 years. Some bs hallmark style sad scene will not wash away 20 years of suffering. She enjoyed being the single child of the family for that 20 years while her brother and spent years without love, probably poor and hungry and cold.

[@kowoteao]

@@kos2919 yeah! Youre definetly right, and if he doesnt want to forgive her i completely understand and agree with him

[@darkside1234444]

Maybe he should go, not to give peace to her, rather make peace for himself

[@oTouchMe]

Doesn’t need to. Honestly I think he has peace when he’s by himself, going would disturb the peace. Also he can forgive her after she’s dead or when he’s ready.

[@northernalpine4350]

He already had peace for himself He has a wife and his own goddamn life, why does he need to comfort a Lying narcissist?

[@kos2919]

He's already at peace after that 20 years 😂. I bet you're like that sister and you just afraid the same thing happened to you.

[@darkside1234444]

Yall are hateful for no reason. I visited my father after abusing my family and abandoning me after years. Not because I wanted to, rather he made my life hell for not leaving me alone and so many people telling me I was the bad person because 'he's my blood and my father' and making me feel bad. I felt guilty for years after that and he's old. So I felt like if he would die I would still feel like the bad person. After seeing him it confirmed he's still a narcisist piece of shit and he can rot in hell. I feel a lot better after that. Also he doesn't have to do it it was a fucking suggestion, so pull yalls head out your ass and leave me tf alone with your bold assumptions

[@darkside1234444]

​@@kos2919you dont know shit

[@canvastherabbit5011]

You can always hear the apology, but you don't have to accept it.

[@Scaracatiscute._.]

Peace is always the better option.

[@Cosmic_Radiation68]

I mean she sure doesn't Not having social media accounts is practical for someone like me 😂

[@dameshaparr3058]

Who else thought it was going to be a sad wholesome story about how they don't want to let their sister go? 😭

[@kos2919]

No one. Imagine making someone suffer for decades and it just poofed away in an instance like some hallmark movie scene.

[@lizzybach4254]

Hell no. In fact, I was expecting him to go to his sister's place and take off her life support lol.

[@hellowendy1029]

The sister has the right to try to reconcile and ask for forgiveness before she passes, but the brother has the right to decline to give it to her.

[@TheTreenity]

I say meet and decide in the moment if you want to forgive or rinse her out, she deserves both and neither but op can only kno when faced with her.

[@sirgavanator8794]

This is something OP will regret on his deathbed. Forgiveness is not just for the person you forgive. It's for your own good. You hold on to spite like that and try not to let it affect how you live your life. Obviously he's still angry about it, so it's going to need addressed at some point.

[@oTouchMe]

He can just forget about it. I mean forget the whole thing and move forward without looking back. His parents and sister isn’t worth looking back at and he should just forget and move forward.

[@ryan7541]

I have a great relationship with my family, so this whole scenario is foreign to me. I'm personally big on forgiveness. The sister clearly made poor choices, and being the daughter, the parents believed her story. Do you owe them any of them anything? Maybe not but you have a chance to be the best version of yourself and show mercy to someone who probably doesn't deserve it. I'd hope someone would give me that in a time of need.

[@oTouchMe]

His best version of himself doesn’t include forgiveness to those who are unworthy. Also if he wanted to, he can forgive her after she has passed. Forgiving doesn’t mean the other person should know about it.

[@korn3701]

Some people really thaught dying is an excuse for forgiveness. Like hell if I was on that situation, I would go to my moms funeral but my sister and my dad is I don't think so. What's the difference between forgiving them or not? Whatever you choose will make you regret it. You will regret not forgiving her in her deathbed, but you will also regret forgiving her for accusing you because it will be forever tattooed in your mind your whole life.

[@0.0표범]

Sensational 😌 he is a wise man. Finally a story with a wonderful ending he didn’t second guess himself asking if he is the a##hole and just didn’t entertain the thought

[@AnAlbanianMafiaMember]

Sigma ✊️

[@togsana]

12 year old

[@AnAlbanianMafiaMember]

@@togsana 12 years of your dad still being dead 💀

[@togsana]

@@AnAlbanianMafiaMember your dad wishes he was

[@AnAlbanianMafiaMember]

@@togsana just like I wished for you mom to stop asking for more after the 100th round lol

[@togsana]

@@AnAlbanianMafiaMember at least I have one

[@sparkyblue7016]

Honestly, i dont blame the parents for thinking he actually hit, me and my brother have gotten in lretty intense fights, with mostly me being harmed, with bruises etc, and once he even flung a stool at me. So if op had a history of hitting his sister, i can see why the parents believed the sister and thought enough. But the sister is a huge asshole for lying about that, for putting him in trouble, when she couldve asked for help against her abusive ex.

[@TarisLuna]

Go to her and tell her, that you don't forgive her and you will never forgive your parents. Then go back to the life you build without them.

[@ItachiUchiha46784]

Your enemies will become your friends When you get a sister like that

[@Wwhy468]

Such respect as closure is earned not given

[@nessat6335]

LIFE HACK for situations like this one: Instead of trying to forgive her - it'll be much easier to forgive yourself for not forgiving her. Ta-da! :) I would hear her out and say "Back then, your lies ruined my reputation and took my family away from me. You had years to make things right, and you never did. I forgive MYSELF for not accepting your selfish fake apology. Rot in hell." ... and just walk away. If/WHEN she yells back something negative, I'd take out a piece of paper and hand it to mom. The paper will say: "See? Evil selfish liars can't hide their true colors." and I would NOT. SAY. ANOTHER. WORD. as I walk out. :D I'd just silently repeat the mantra to myself in my head: "I forgive myself for not forgiving a selfish fake apology."

[@Rosepetals436]

bro i had to rewatch this to folllow the story because i was so invested in the food

[@ValerieONeal-lw9ee]

Talk about favoritism, like you kicked your child out to protect the sister, and left him with such little money and turned out there was no reason to kick him out and you want him to forgive her

[@theserpentinewarrior7142]

I say, go see her not for her or anyone else, but for yourself. So you may see her at her weakest & let out how you feel. You do not have to forgive her, but you do need to give yourself some healing so you can move on. Seeing her at her weakest will allow that.

[@nicolejones3686]

NTA. He doesn't owe them anything, they made their choice a long time ago. And now she decides to apologize, Please 😒

[@jtjr26]

It’s not about what’s best for her but what’s best for you. Clearly this still bothers you after all these years. I would see her and before letting her unburden herself, tell her how you feel and what her actions did to you. Then you will have the full picture and can go from there.

[@TraciPeteyforlife]

You owe her nothing. You owe them absolutely nothing. 💯 percent your parents failed you. Your forgiveness is yours to give or not give. You have every right to continue to live free of them. F them.

[@emilylee9894]

Your parents and sister owe you an big apology. Write a letter clarifying how you feel and why you don't feel the need to assuage your sister's guilt. All of them can apologize via video conference. You shouldn't have to go out of your way to get an apology. Alternatively, you could ask for written apologies from all 3, to avoid any 3D drama.Then it's up to you how to accept or reject their apology. I don't understand how your father or mother would assume you're guilty without proof. Whether you accept or reject the apologies, I would not trust any of them in the near future. For your sister to blame you for this long, she could have been harboring some hidden resentment or immature & distorted sibling rivalry that even she herself didn't recognize. It seems too convenient for her to now want to apologize after reaping whatever benefit she could and after you being victemized for this long.Your trust must be earned and should remain conditional.

[@Fae_Lady13]

Nta. If that were me, my petty ass would have posted on Facebook "Hell gained another Demon". Best op can do is carry on, and live well.

[@user-kf1ed4if4g]

Why’d you like your own comment

[@smlnerdfan3015]

He should tell her that she shouldn't cover up her abusive boyfriend like that. And that she should've spoken up AGAINST him if she didn't want more bruises from her abusive boyfriend. Putting the blame on someone else, ESPECIALLY your own family, would make things WORSE. If he said that, she probably wouldn't have been in this mess.

[@sambodyknows]

I'm petty, so I'd want to let her live her last moments in the same pain and anguish I felt for years (probably a decade or more tbh). But I also hate making people feel bad and would be tempted to see her and just make sure she gets to say her peace and see what happens.

[@randompersonsfather6077]

You ain't petty for that

[@Flamebo99X]

My guy made the best decision of his life. Keep up the good work 👍

[@Hillybonus8]

EMOTE ON HER

[@user-ic4ud1mg7k]

The last regrets and fears of a life are terrifying.imagine haveing not done much,or careing about someone butvsome how always seem to nitpick and cant help it,now your dying,you want someone to knoe your aaware you messed up and couldnt help it.u love them and your sorry

[@parzvalonlyone3278]

Only in true suffering do we recognize true humility

[@azucenamontague67]

I agree with you!

[@Wayward_Insomniac]

Finally one where the wife doesn’t call the OP an a-hole and stops talking to him 😀

[@diablo595]

I’d go just to tell her you don’t forgive her to her face then leave without another word.

[@maroxv0]

MY JAW DROPPED

[@jacketandbeard8732]

Nta. I believe in forgiveness and some people should have it but i’m also smart enough to know that not everyone deserves forgiveness and closure. She is a grown ass adult that chose to protect the actual abuser and thanks to her fib,she fucked up her relationship with OP and OPs’ relationship with their parents and their life. Not to mention she had so much time to apologize and try to make things right but it took laying on a death bed for her to finally realise what she did. That damage can’t be undone. I’d say go to ease the parents’ minds but don’t forgive her.

[@radhikasingh5052]

You owe your family nothing. Forgiveness is yours to give. Though if I were you I would go and see them and listen to her just so I can leave the past behind and move on with life.

[@oTouchMe]

You can leave the past behind by forgetting and moving on with your life. He doesn’t have to go and should not go.