‘I Feel Exhausted All The Time,’ Says College Student Who Supports Her 56-Year-Old Mother

A 24-year-old college student says she is her mother’s sole caretaker and means of financial support. She says she feels exhausted, angry, and emotionally manipulated.
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[@highpsi7463]

Look at the poor girls eyes. She looks extremely exhausted. Put a ring on her man, shes a keeper.

[@ForeverCuteDog]

Its too risky! that man should run and find someone else.

[@janeb533]

Yes she can take care of her children not her man because he is grown

[@ebu7665]

@@ForeverCuteDog She deserves happiness 🤗🤗☺️☺️

[@Wei_Huynh]

@@ForeverCuteDog Wtf ??

[@MultiSmartass1]

@@ForeverCuteDog I agree. It's moving from one form of caretaking to another.

[@_moonlightsonata]

She looks so tired bro, she has STRESS LINES.

[@yusufmiah1712]

I just saw her eye bags

[@BellaRose-oh3il]

I know poor girl

[@contentdeleted1723]

Yes even if she had makeup on i can still see the streets lines

[@Blizzard757575]

Or it could be genetic you know. I've had bags since i was like 9 years old

[@fujitamagicuser8287]

MsPuggles like itachi from naruto (idk how to spell his name)

[@ashm2338]

If her mom is so sick she needs a nursing home.

[@jeanroger4738]

Nursing homes are so expensive

[@sniperalice9617]

Jean Roger Yup & some of them don’t treat patients well or worse abuse. But usually they’re expensive , they might not be able to afford full time nursing, unless the boyfriend helps out but I doubt he will

[@huldatachiri9613]

@@jeanroger4738 well she's already paying all her bills so I think it would balance out

[@jeanroger4738]

Hulda Tachiri it’s around 8k a month for a nursing home without insurance. I don’t know who would have that money.

[@victoriawhite3662]

If she is really disabled there is help for a nursing home through Medicare. For that matter she should be trying to get disability if she really can’t work. There are resources if you are willing to put in effort to find them. But she probably won’t, she seems to mired in her own helplessness.

[@antrey5142]

She seems like such a good girl. That guy better realize he is with a saint.

[@wanefelicia8779]

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 we are all sinners sorry. She isnt a saint

[@z_.v]

@@wanefelicia8779 you are braindead

[@ScreamingDucksShotMyMother]

@@wanefelicia8779 Sin isn't real so nah. But on that same level neither is being a saint.

[@HappiiWheels]

He looks like a nice boy

[@masamune9082]

@@wanefelicia8779 i think you should go get some amnestics

[@OGitGirlJess]

The fact that this woman is not on disability but depending on her daughter’s money makes me wonder how real the sickness is 🤔🤔

[@GoodnightJLH]

To get on disability, the primary doctor must be proactive in getting a diagnosis and maximizing function with treatment. Dr Phil reads her medical record and the PCP Nurse Practitioner says that this patient might have EDS because she fulfills some of the criteria. Okay... So why not get her diagnosed? She likely has a combination of physical and mental illness. But she can’t either get better or get on disability unless she has a proactive doctor.

[@zari2662]

To be fair even when you have "real" sicknesses is difficult to get approved for disability. You could have an arm hanging off and be imobile and it would still take years to get approved 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tyriexs5]

Uhmmmmmm SHE HASN'T BEEN DIAGNOSED SMFG

[@tgc-wm8dp]

J. Holan instead of blaming the medical community for not diagnosing this person with a disease and starting the transition to full medical disability should be your first indication that she doesn’t have a disease that qualifies her for medical disability. She is morbidly obese and a parasitic parent who is ruining her daughters life. She probably has depression , main issue is narcissism and laziness.

[@reneegardner2286]

Exactly. I have mental health issues, and I'm on Disability for them. But my mother still doesn't understand why it hurts me that she never calls me to see how I'm doing. She says "when do you ever call to check up on me?" I shouldn't have to worry about her when I'm the one on Disability. Narcissistic mothers are the worst. They always feel entitled to play the victim. Children of narcissistic parents are the ones who need help. Not the other way around. If she got divorced 8 years ago why should her daughter support her, and cook for her, and basically be her slave? She chose to be a parent. Now she's manipulating her into being her caretaker. So sad.

[@catkay9528]

This poor young lady is exhausted, she has bags under her eyes that she shouldn’t have at her age, it’s so unfair!

[@Sophia-tf9ty]

Cat Kay Lmao say that to the kids at my school.

[@Catsss1017]

Sophia no one cares about the kids at your school

[@geli7598]

@@Catsss1017 Shut up

[@giselaxx5407]

Oyun Ochir shut up

[@TaeTae-df3wy]

Wait I’m sixteen and I have baggy eyes lol

[@adc2327]

I did this for my mother when she was in her 90s. I lost her about six weeks ago, she was 99. She always thanked me and wanted me to know that she appreciated what I did for her. This woman is 56! I was still going out to the clubs when I was 56! This is shameful. That young lady should be enjoying herself.

[@boredpanther1092]

Rip

[@Ashineesa]

Rip but how old are you?

[@morkopubgm8655]

AD C sorry for your loss

[@MAD-nx3er]

Delusional Slob y’all forgetting she got these "diseases"

[@szasbabe]

I'm so sorry for your loss but dang your mother's lived through a lot

[@mariahalbrecht9360]

I went to school with Cheyenne. She has always been the most respectful and beautiful soul. Cheyenne if you see this, I'm so proud of you. I never knew how bad it actually was. I relate to you so much on this.

[@chloeolut0868]

nice!

[@deseraesahar8527]

My name is Cheyenne too! Lol, this video was weird for me.

[@selma8337]

Deserae Sahar are you on somebody else’s account

[@deseraesahar8527]

@@selma8337 No, I just use a fake name for my account for privacy reasons.

[@bverne5167]

Were you friends? Maybe you should reach out?

[@yalimoski]

When she peeked her head into her mom’s room and said “Mommy?” My heart just BROKE for her.

[@abijahabigail5719]

I love how the daughter's boyfriend blasts the mother...he is savage!!!!

[@rhinoblessnyc8324]

Oh he won't confront her he Respect her but wait till she watching the show (mother)😄

[@abijahabigail5719]

@Cass M i agree!

[@MS-df8ss]

Cass M exactly girl

[@moodmeditation4458]

Yeah now he's the new leech and leave her with new responsibilities. Father and husbands are getting extinct. Feels like watching Animal planet.

[@rasheeda1303]

I dont care what the situation never disrespect your Mother/Father.

[@anikabutler8945]

My mom took care of my grandmother when she was dying of cancer. My grandmother tried really hard to do things for herself until she physically could not. This lady is a narcissist. Most sick people WANT to do things for themselves. They don’t want to sit around and do nothing. Her mom is just lazy, doesn’t want to work, and wants sympathy. The daughter has a good man, she better take her man, get married and RUN!

[@sophiatran7014]

Yesss!!! Finally someone said it my grandma was on a wheel chair and walked down stairs just to help in the kitchen and to help clean the house. Older folk don’t wanna lay around and feel useless. They want to feel needed and a necessity to their kids/ grandchildren’s lives

[@scrapdog2840]

I agree she is definitely a narcissist. Or pbd. The daughter should RUN. Move. Get away fast.

[@discogoth]

Exactly. I have a chronic illness and do my absolute best to do everything I’m able to do. There are days that I have to lay low and rest up, but it’s so rare for someone to be in their 50s and completely not able (or willing! Which is way worse!) to take care of themselves. I’ve certainly never met a single chronically ill person who deliberately won’t do anything for themselves.

[@anikabutler8945]

Yeet Fleet yess definitely!!! Me and my mom would get mad at my grandma because she would still try to cook, help us clean and get up by herself. It was actually really hard for her to accept she was so sick. Which is how I knew this lady is full of BS. (My grandma had lymphoma btw)

[@ashlynn1652]

Absolutely my mother in law's health is dwindling downhill & downhill fast. She does what she can but it makes her condition worse. I took time off work to help her but I haven't been going much lately because the way she's treated by her husband. He's not a bad person it's just she catered to him all these years & now she can't & I think it angers him. I now try to avoid going over. I went for the first time in days today & he was a bit better buy not much.

[@calvinli9801]

It's weird when your kids end up parenting you.

[@lindsaymctavish154]

I’ve had to do this to my parents 88 year old father (I’m 16)

[@dianaval6082]

lindsay mctavish thats normalish

[@poonamshinde9597]

Some of us have such parents.

[@fairlysleepy]

it's fine but when your parents emotionally manipulate you for their own comfort, that's just wrong.

[@breadgod8579]

lindsay mctavish oof feels bad

[@celineterra8107]

She’s doing a great job However she should be enjoying her youth, going to university for her career. What’s going to happen when they have a baby? The mom needs to go in a home

[@ashleyeklund.586]

Celine Terra would you put your mother in a home?

[@nathanieldelucia4554]

Ashley Eklund. If my mother acted like this woman 100%. It’s obvious the mother can do a lot more and pull her own weight. But she doesnt and drains her daughter of everything. Shes got to go.

[@alezandradavila2581]

But is she sick what’s wrong with her ???

[@celineterra8107]

Ashley Eklund. Yes

[@aperson7151]

Ashley Eklund. If my mom can’t take care of herself and I have my personal family to care of I would.

[@xRaineDropsx]

This is ridiculous. First of all, there should be an official diagnosis from a doctor. Go get blood tests, etc. Second, if the mum is that incapable of caring for herself, why can’t she get a home health aid? It’s disgusting how she is manipulating and abusing her daughter. I have a severe illness that requires assistance from my parents, but I would never put them through this!

[@killmydreamdorothy8800]

xRaineDropsx there aren’t blood tests for EDS.

[@-MaryPoppins-]

Tina Cris that’s not true. My ex husband has it so of course our daughter had to be tested. They did blood (to see if she’s got the mutation on her dna) and echocardiogram tests your see if/which type she has.

[@nancyjay790]

I had my diagnosis because my youngest daughter was born "a floppy baby," and rather than the doctors taking a bone marrow sample from her, they took one from me. Not fun, and I imagine there are other ways to diagnose this.

[@ukiss4eva254]

There are lab tests, but they are extremely expensive for most people, so often a clinical diagnosis is given which is an official diagnosis.

[@GoodnightJLH]

There are 13 types of EDS currently recognized. For 12 of them, there are DNA tests. One of the types is diagnosed clinically. Shame on her Nurse Practitioner! A good clinician does what is necessary. Don’t just mention that the patient might have something! Figure out what is wrong physically and what is wrong mentally with your patient! An EDS specialist is a Geneticist. Typical waiting lists to get in are more than 2 years. There are few Geneticists in the USA. It’s common that a patient in need of a Geneticist simply cannot see one in the USA because their health insurance won’t cover it. And EDS workup costs several thousand dollars.

[@TheCynicalBee]

She’s so young and beautiful let her live her damn life.

[@CassiaBree]

This poor girl is so mentally and physically drained.

[@campkira]

That family....

[@elite4124]

Cassia Bree shut up

[@jgomes3369]

@@elite4124 why so rude?

[@Kk4r0]

its true :( she looks so tired

[@elite4124]

J Gomes how dare you!… that’s her mother that held her for 9 months, gave birth to her, fed her, raised her, and that’s the thanks she gets? What a distorted society ugh!,

[@grandmabertha7462]

“In six months we are moving out” Video: *made 6 months ago* Me: you go queen

[@SAKTKcrunch]

Did it happen

[@grandmabertha7462]

@@SAKTKcrunch idk man I hope so

[@sca7068]

The makeup artist on this show needs to learn to match foundation. The poor boyfriend looks caked in a bad way.

[@luiysia]

sooooo orange

[@Tinytello]

I was on the doctors once...they were awful there too! The hair stylist didn’t know how to turn on a blow dryer.....

[@catcanavan]

I think they used dr Phil's shade lol

[@NyeziNkanyi]

@@catcanavan 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ciaa8387]

And the girl’s looks horrible as well. She looked way better in the at home interview. The make up artist must be a stand in

[@hadthisaccforyearssorryfor6274]

Poor girl is drained of all energy- she should be living her life freely, it’s not fair to her.

[@acmromano8400]

Wow you can tell she's tired those bags under her eyes reveal everything 🤔

[@queenbutterfly4888]

YUP!!! her mom doesnt go to sleep until 4am...geez

[@jenniferbates2811]

Poor baby! She needs therapy herself.

[@OGitGirlJess]

It’s very sad. 😞🙏

[@latina_1716]

Mom needs to lose weight n go see an orthopedic surgeon to fix that knee n get to work once the surgeon says it’s okay to work!! This is bs! She is a narcissist n is dragging n robbing her daughter of her life !! Run Cheyenne! Live your own life, marry, have ur babies n enjoy 🥂

[@wolfleader2]

Those eye bags are so clear even with all that make up damn...

[@jasrod68]

Is there a support group for young adults being guilt tripped by their "sick" manipulative mother ?

[@lelaweber47]

There definitely should be it seems to be a common issue.. I wonder if there’s an official name for it

[@elizabethmathews2668]

There are Facebook groups. One is "Daughters with Narcissistic Mothers"

[@jasrod68]

@brown bird No thanks I don't drink.

[@jasrod68]

@brown bird you're so quirky 🤪

[@lelaweber47]

Jas Rod imagine thinking that drinking alcohol is a personality trait...

[@fhantasm]

She is a saint. Lucky guy. And he looks proud of her as well.

[@CC-pf9sp]

She's lucky as well! Kudos to this guy for sticking around with all of this 'motherly mess'😒

[@wanefelicia8779]

Nope. She is just another sinner. .and a weak individual at that

[@rena4627]

@@wanefelicia8779 They were not being literal, they was using figurative language.😑I get that no one I perfect, but that does not mean she is weak. That IS her mother. It is not right, but still...

[@Amanda-fx6gj]

Wane felicia god says to look at the plank in your eye before telling your brother he has a thorn in his. You seem to persistently put this girl down at every comment that calls her a saint. Either you’re trolling or you’ve never read the Bible because what you’re doing is sinful in itself. You have no place to judge or to belittle someone, especially when they work hard to love and take care of someone just as god would want us all to do. Shame on you.

[@pandaplayzroblox4605]

Wane felicia but how??

[@shinobu3817]

She seems like such a sweet, respectful, and mature lady. She will grow up to be an amazing mom, and grandparent God bless her for all her hard work

[@oh2887]

The girl needs to run and never return

[@veganfitmumma2364]

She needs a break poor girl Her mum sounds like a narcissist Gilt trips, mulipilation- yep def a narc

[@alezandradavila2581]

vegan fit mumma horrible enough is enough this woman can lose weight and go to work

[@joedennis5061]

The mom kind of reminds me of my mom

[@sbeverunner6083]

vegan fit mumma do you even know what a narcissist is? You can’t just throw that diagnosis around

[@1dingerr]

Vegan, fit, and illiterate! Also "narc" is not short for narcissist, something else entirely 😂

[@keylexb.9178]

Oh Lord. Even stage makeup can’t hide those tired bags under her eyes. Love her heart ☹️

[@earthchild21]

What a sweet girl! I feel so bad for her but she will come out so much stronger

[@mushroomdance5613]

My grandmother is around the mother’s age and she went skydiving just last year. And look at what the mother is doing smh.

[@kylenielsen4887]

I hate it when she said that her mother has never worked. So she’s been a bumb her entire life?? I find it ridiculous to be 56 and to have never had a job if she isn’t handicapped

[@tianaboyd4978]

Her daughter is gonna be very blessed in the end

[@abcdefg4536-e6j]

My grandmother is 78 yet she’s so active and that is another reason why I love her so much because she doesn’t let her age slow her down I love you so so so much Grandma

[@cenobyt3z766]

This is exactly what every (sane) parent doesn’t want for their children. Poor thing..

[@BaileeXsweets]

My mom deserves this when she gets older. She did it until I was 18 and now I’m gonna help her until her last day. That’s the least I can do for her.

[@charismask7640]

Agreed

[@hibiscus.tea4u]

I get kind of mad when people say "dr google" my mom was able to diagnose my stepfather with lead poisoning when no doctor believed it. She was on google and WebMD. She finally found a dr that would test him, but before testing the doctor told her he doubts he has lead poisoning.. come to find out, his lead levels were through the roof and his body has seriously deteriorated from the poisoning. Always be your own advocate, you look your symptoms up and you make doctors listen to you, they don't know EVERYTHING.

[@boomboom6577]

Anna Michele agree.

[@jakeryker546]

Or, you know... she might've poisoned him for the attention. Since every1's throwing out NPD might as well Munchausen's by proxy

[@hibiscus.tea4u]

@@jakeryker546 he worked with high levels of lead for many years with no ventilation or proper protection. Idk what's wrong with this woman and what shes doing with her daughter is so wrong. But at the same time dr. Phil shouldn't be shaming people for googling symptoms since it has been life saving to other people. That's all.

[@TheCuteWetRat]

That’s one thing but this lady is actually doctor googleing everything just to mooch

[@hibiscus.tea4u]

@@TheCuteWetRat absolutely I just have a problem with him saying doctor Google like it's a bad thing to do when it isn't at all and has saved lives

[@tulipgarden5043]

That poor girl has bags, she looks exhausted

[@nancybeveridgetaylor3256]

I had a dear friend who actually had Ehlers Danlos syndrome, i took care of her during the last 6 months of her life, but that brave beautiful woman worked every day all of her adult life up until her Aorta blew apart (dissected) and she had a massive brain bleed which caused her to become very disabled. All related to her ED. Before that she had had multiple open heart surgeries and repairs to her Abdominal Aorta, over 25 years, and she worked full time all through it. She was a Savage, my beautiful friend. I've known and cared for a few ED patients with ED and related connective tissue disorders over my 30 years in health care. Actually my grandmother had Marfans syndrome which is in the same family. They were all working. Both my friend and my grandmother died from Aortic dissection at 52 years old. Both worked almost until the end of their lives.

[@mohammadrio5378]

She looks so exhausted and tired... Hope the best for her and the family in the future...

[@ajtriforcegamerofhyrule8538]

My grandma is around her 60s to 70s and she still is active as well a survivor of breast cancer

[@coffeeaddictexpress5038]

She is a good daughter, she should be starting her life. As a mother myself this breaks my heart, I can’t wait for my kids to take on the world. I pray all the time I’ve prepared them.

[@ninagezellie4206]

The oldest daughter reminds me of Cinderella.

[@kai8958]

My moms 51 and she is carrying this whole house on her back she’s sick but never rests she barely gets enough sleep and she does everything in her power to make me and my sister happy if I can I’d give her the world but I can’t she always wants us to know that she loves us and that she would never leave us or would do anything to harm us and meanwhile this family has the roles completely switched ;-;

[@NegativeAccelerate]

I’m grateful for my mum too. My mom works hard and always makes sure that we know we love her

[@spongebob2070]

They were holding hands for the whole time 🥺🥺🥺 i CAN'T ❤️❤️❤️

[@thecrazycowgirl338]

This is where I and my mother will be in 5 years. I've been the sole caretaker and breadwinner since I was 16 Dr Google gives diagnoses her with things constantly.

[@franziskahuber9664]

Come over to r/justnomil and r/raisedbynarcissists on reddit. We have the advice to help yourself to get out as soon as possible. You can do it.

[@sixfeetundertheradar6080]

the crazy cowgirl contact Dr.Phil?

[@nela3986]

Oh no. A mom is a mom and it's good to be in her life, yes, even taking care of her, is it is doable and if she is really sick. But parents can become moochers as well. No one deserves to have their life sucked out of them. Find a way out! I wish you luck.

[@TheRealCcE]

Start researching caregiver insurance for your mom if she will be 60 to make sure you can get a CNA to help you.

[@minmarshallarmyxstan6773]

I'm 33 years old, and i have severe hip and back pain, but i push myself everyday to make sure i have a job, and still able to walk.

[@ane5294]

The answer is in the way her mom guilt trips her. Any normal person would feel guilty for being a burden and try to help out in any way they can or at least be grateful.

[@bexanne99]

That poor girl looks exhausted. Even with t.v makeup you can still see her bags. She is so sweet and I feel for her.

[@danielnelsonhighlights]

My grandma is 72 and even though she has knee problems and uses a cane she does way more than this mother.

[@aceofswords8637]

My adoptive mom and my ex husbands family as well. Thank God I removed all of them from my life. I hope this girl does too ❤☄

[@wy5935]

Sounds like my mom, she expects everyone else to do every single thing for her while claiming to have health problems when she’s young and completely capable of working and no matter how much anyone gives her she always says it’s not enough and ends up turning on you in the most vicious ways on top of it. I had to completely cut her out of my life because the toxicity completely destroyed me physically emotionally and spiritually. Haven’t talk to her in years and my life is much better without her. Lost so much money giving to my family, I feel so betrayed. Family is not always blood! They have to earn a place in your life by treating you with care love and respect, not mooching off of you and taking advantage of you!

[@BriannaMcCarty]

Oh my god, this girl looks so exhausted. That girl needs to run away from that lady is draining her and is using her. This girl deserves the world, her boyfriend needs to put a ring on it. Cheyenne! Never change! We support you 😁 your doing such a great job 😊

[@yntjae3402]

56 year old and need someone to take care of u? She probably do it on purpose but my grandma 71 and don’t need no care taker

[@_vivaan1909]

She's acting like a 96 year old nun who deserves to be praised she's in collage she needs to work what an angel do your work yourself

[@bakingandriverdaleandanima9346]

That poor girl! I relate to her so much with a friend I had last year. I know ur struggle girl and I see u!!

[@TeddyBear-vt2dx]

Bruh my mom is 50 plus and she still active, even my friend’s moms. They all work, they’re all healthy. I don’t get why she acts like she’s already 80 plus.

[@UwU-sj9xu]

You can see the bags under her eyes. She’s so tired.

[@TheLicktysplitz]

She's got a good boyfriend he sees what her mom is doing to her .and he's trying to save her from it sometimes you don't know what's happening until you get a fresh pair of eyes on the situation. that's ridiculous if she was so sick she would be able to get disability right!? I think she can handle making a salad at a burger place.

[@GoodnightJLH]

TheLicktySplitz She has a Nurse Practitioner who says “maybe” she has Ehlers-Danlos and that she meets several criteria. Okay... So why doesn’t that NP figure out what is wrong and how to maximize this woman’s functional level? Does she have EDS? Which type? Does she have associated POTS and MCAS that keep her in bed for days? Maybe this issue is mostly mental. Likely it’s a combination of physical pain issues and the mental depression that often accompanies such situations. Maybe she has an autoimmune disorder. Maybe she has a personality disorder. To get disability, her PCP needs to give her a diagnosis and an affidavit of disability. Instead, her PCP speculates on what she might have but does nothing to help her. Sad. I hope she gets the help she needs but I’m concerned because Dr Phil has no medical training. It usually takes several years for people like her to get on disability. I went through this process with a friend and it was horrible. My friend had a Masters in Healthcare administration but she went without income for 7 years until she finally got on disability. She had to hire an attorney and had to pay out of pocket for medical and psychiatric evaluations that her HMO wouldn’t cover. The disability process in the USA is horrible. And don’t even get me started on the “Ticket to Work” program to get off disability. That’s a total cluster f*** too.

[@gabrieladerre2862]

If she is that sick, and cares about her daughter at all, then she would be proactive in getting all the help that she could, so that her daughter can actually have a life, and enjoy what remains of her youth. I love my mother more than anything! But I'd never allow myself to be held in thrall to the person who should want me to succeed, above all else.

[@TheLicktysplitz]

@@gabrieladerre2862 exactly

[@GoodnightJLH]

Gabriel Aderre I just finished the whole episode and I’m convinced that she loves her daughter and wants to get help.

[@doctoreggman7308]

@@GoodnightJLH Nothing says love like threatening suicide to guilt trip your daughter. 1:28

[@YoungTonyVEVO]

Her eyebags really says it all .

[@slimeboyshane]

this woman acts as though she’s 86, not 56 my mother is older than her still working full time for her own business despite having multiple (dr diagnosed) joint and other health disorders come on

[@peanut9807]

I am chronically ill. I have some kind of unknown connective tissue disorder, and status migrainosus. I get migraines that last for weeks and weeks on end, and I haven't gotten working treatment other than Botox yet. I have been diagnosed with these things since the fourth grade, and even I, as a young teenager, don't do these things. This woman is horribly manipulative, and needs to pay for her actions.

[@toruoikawa2576]

*MY NAN IS 72 AND STILL COOKS, CLEANS, WALKS OUR DOG AND GOES TO GET STUFF OUT OF OUR LOFT AND THIS GURL CANT EVEN GET OUT OF BED*

[@squirtr6799]

It broke my heart when I saw Cheyenne’s puffy under eyes and dark circles. She seems so young and sweet. No one should have to carry this burden.

[@gloctic4818]

3:48 just look at her face man poor girl has to get through all that.

[@cheesewhiz6472]

it's sad to know that there are many other parents like this who leech off their children but the children can't do anything/complain bc they're their parents

[@snsn7251]

Cut her loose. Mother or not she is taking advantage and manipulating this girl.

[@arikelly6726]

My moms a hoarder and I’m just endlessly getting rid of junk and cleaning when I come over, I feel this

[@annacrabtree9394]

Her daughter should be able to live her life . I have Ehlers Danlos plus other conditions and I homeschool my son, own a business, and work part-time. I have been tested and diagnosed but just because I have it doesn't mean it is a death sentence. You just have to figure out another way to climb over the challenges in your way.

[@timotemilitoni7277]

BRUH- There's people who's like 70 and they still working

[@avatiede1512]

I have coworkers who are older than her and they function just fine

[@nancyjay790]

Ouch. I officially have Ehlers Danlos, and I would hate to force my children to sacrifice their lives for my comfort.

[@GoodnightJLH]

Nancy Jay I agree with you totally. But... if this woman has EDS, she is very unlikely to be able to hold a job at her age no matter HOW much mental health help she gets. I hope she gets the help she needs but, unfortunately, Dr Phil sent her to the wrong place. There are no Physicians at the PNP Center and Life Coaches have no medical training whatsoever. She needs a team of physicians and mental health professionals to maximize her functionality and figure out what she CANNOT do vs what she WILL NOT do.

[@nancyjay790]

@@GoodnightJLH It kind of depends on the severity of her EDS. For the first ten years after my diagnosis, I was able to pretty much do most things, just not stand for more than 40 minutes at a time, or walk without a cane or crutches on really painful days. But it has gotten worse since then. I probably am lucky, really, although walking now can be like somebody is using an angle grinder inside my knees.

[@GoodnightJLH]

Nancy Jay Yes. But EDS worsens with age and she is 56 and obese. Many EDS patients end up depressed and discouraged and may feel sorry for themselves. She needs a good physician as well as the mental health resources that Dr Phil ordered for her. If this is treated purely as mental illness, telling her to “get up because it’s all in her head” will spectacularly backfire if she truly cannot do it.

[@nancyjay790]

@@GoodnightJLH I'm 58.

[@sarahwalker4241]

Two words restraining 👏🏼 order👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@brokencrayon83]

At the very least this woman should help out financially. This daughter should not have to be a sole care giver

[@LuisLopez-br3cb]

the bags on her eyes says how much she being carrying her mom

[@xxtrish_xx]

She is exhausted and you can clearly see it no matter how much makeup she has on. I wouldn’t want my mama in the home but this lady needs to be. She is killing her daughter slowly 😖

[@bertreynolds8146]

That girl looks 44 instead of 24 thanks to her mother

[@destroyeyryes1346]

Girl, shes litterally working her butt off to help her mom, and her mom is manipulating her daughter. This girl deserves so much better :(

[@undead9999]

poor girl, she's looks completely spent. Yet she manages to keep a positive energy. The mother is simply a narcisistic leech. You should care for your kids, not the other way around.

[@salometipsandtricks2786]

No. The mother care for her when she was young now that she is older she should remember the good and care for her mother.

[@stanstraykidsandotherkpopg6801]

@@salometipsandtricks2786 umm... she's only 56 first of all, second of all, she's clearly faking the joint disease, third of all, she has to do everything! Like come on! Her mom should be paying bills in her own house and doing her own laundry and dishes, and the daughter should be able to live on her own.

[@salometipsandtricks2786]

@@stanstraykidsandotherkpopg6801 be kind. When you are older things will not be the same as when you were younger. You become weaker.

[@stanstraykidsandotherkpopg6801]

@@salometipsandtricks2786 yea but i will still be able to do things for myself!

[@divinelyprotected46]

I did this for my dying mother and it's gave me humbleness but this woman is ridiculously. I move out n find her own caretaker.

[@adley.and.b]

My Grandpa is 65 and works heavy machinery, drives, cuts grass etc. I can’t with this mom🙄

[@fashionfirst_]

This woumen needs to find out what she has . And she needs to get a home aid . So that her daughter can live her own life

[@christinegilmore-woods8502]

This is absolutely terrible for this young lady. This young lady needs to have a little down time.

[@KrystalHarwood-dz2xk]

god bless that young woman for taking care of her mom

[@Juliorios-z2d]

The boyfriend is awful. You help and take care of your parents as long as you need to. Period

[@-FairyGodMother-]

As much as that is true, in this case, the mom is taking advantage so I feel like the boyfriend was thinking what's best for the girl. The mom is literally controlling her and make her feel bad, I'll be disgusted if you want your partner to suffer criticize every day and tell her to keep living and taking care of the one who's criticizing him/her, who knows when they'll eventually give up on themselves

[@davidroseman4917]

A sure sign of poor character. She's ok with her daughter being her servant.

[@Lilak2002]

I would slowly start putting all of my things in a storage unit and when it was time to leave I would run.

[@hmm4369]

I can literally see her eye bags.... When was the time she slept??? Poor girl's literally being worked to the bone... I want better for her, I really do

[@fruity382barrios5]

The mom has to do some work not her daughter and it’s nice she’s doing it for her since the mom “cant” but the poor girl is tired and the mother drains her energy by making her serve her!

[@nayeemclementycaridad974]

1:34 ah yes a horrible mother

[@Tracks777]

amazing content

[@chriskvande8900]

she is to young to loock that tired. Bless her, hope she is free of her mom now.

[@emzz-vc4sy]

My Nana is 62 and you couldn’t stop that woman if you tried. This woman is horrible. Poor Cheyanne.

[@mAn0fOuTcAsT]

She so tired check those eyes

[@BopCentral808]

AnTbEgAmInG97 hahah they small but Huge lmaoooo

[@hippymama100]

This makes me SO. ANGRY! I have (Diagnosed, after decades of declining health.) Hypermobile Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. It absolutely IS an invisible disability, that is painful. It is also very, very difficult to get a diagnosis. It upsets me to hear them being so dismissive of a struggle to get a diagnosis. This is very common for people with hEDS. Many never have the luxury of a diagnosis. That said, this mother also seems to have other mental health issues that are affecting her behavior. Her daughter should not be the only one caring for her, if she truly needs the care. She needs to sort out some other extended care network so the burden is not entirely on her daughter.

[@toebeans31]

Bless this poor girl she's done everything she could and her soon to be husband just wanrs to take her way from that. I hope he does so this poor girl can enjoy life for hersef insteadnof taking care of her mother. I don't see why mothers guilt trip you, it's awful when they do that

[@trinitycross1314]

This is absolutely child abuse on a whole nother level

[@Geenine44]

If she had EDS she would know with all that crappy food she expects to eat.

[@octavia7629]

Shame on that mother shame

[@thundedgameinggg9399]

Moms a lazy. She just taking advantage of her daughter.

[@april4872]

I really love the fact that everyone sees that "mother" Is when you give birth to someone and take as if the children owe you something (the quotes around that word say it all. Nearly every post I read had written it - "mother"- ) being a mother is something entirely different. At least this young lady is moving forward knowing how NOT to be vs following her moms example. For everybody in a manipulative parent child situation I ask you please talk to friends, find someone you can trust and know that just because they gave birth to you doesn't mean they can use you however they want. The days really turn to years and you only give up a shot at your own happiness. What else is super sad, those manipulating parents don't even give a hoot! All the best to everybody, take care and be safe.

[@katherinedorton4562]

sadly, I know what this is like. I took care of my grandma and she was just like this. I feel for this girl. shes got circles under her eyes.

[@melissamariea]

Sick or not, my mom isn’t draining my life like that. Give her the boot, girl. It’s your turn to be happy!