I just got the news that my boyfriend slept with his step sister, next time I see him I'm going to..

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@Alistair102040 9 ай бұрын

Unfortunately it's too common that people shoot the messenger when it comes to exposing cheaters. My crazy ex gf actually disowned her own best friend after her best friend told her that her new fiance is cheating on her.

@allieniner675 9 ай бұрын

My cousin F37 is happily married to her husband M53. And he is honestly a real stand up guy, super lovely! Sometimes age gaps is okay, but I can totally see how in a lot of cases it’s a red flag. Also, no, he wasn’t a creep, they met when my cousin was 30, so it wasn’t super creepy.

@kurotsuki7427 9 ай бұрын

Ya, age gaps get less of a problem the older you both are when you get together. A 60 year old and a 80 year old are a lot less of a creepy situation than a 20 year old and a 40 year old.

@RedX101 9 ай бұрын

Story 1 is weird. “What u doin step bro?!”

@Azulakayes 9 ай бұрын

I am stuck in the washing machine step bro...😂😂😂

@Wizard_money 7 ай бұрын

10 minutes later

@HauntedGalMars 9 ай бұрын

With story 4: I would date a widower... but "the one who got away" is different. I agree with her. If he thinks this ex was THE ONE and he isn't happy that losing her brought him to OP... it'll always be back in her mind that if the ex returns, he'll drop her in a heartbeat. Call it insecurity... but he put it there. Who wouldn't be insecure when your love is saying you're not HIS love and that breaking up will always be a regret

@Azulakayes 9 ай бұрын

I personally don't believe in the whole concept of 'the one' because to me, everybody has a season in your life and I guess it makes it a bit easier for me to let go of exes. I can even be cordial to them but I truly let go and never entangle my emotions with them. OP's perspective is quite interesting though.

@kurotsuki7427 9 ай бұрын

The saveir burnout on the wifes part makes sense. Maybe she can get a part time to make sure she has savings and have work history if something happens. Man, so many of us have hit burnout times and wished we could just stop for a few months.

@empressmarowynn 9 ай бұрын

I was in a somewhat similar situation as the last story. I was working an absolutely exhausting job that was 12 hours a day 6 days a week. I despised my job but it was hard to find anything better at the time because the economy was trash. My boyfriend at the time made quite a lot of money and would have easily been able to support the both of us. When we were talking getting married I was absolutely thinking that after we combined finances it meant I could finally have the breathing room to quit my job and take time to find a better one that didn't make me feel like crying every night. I didn't want to be a stay at home spouse and I actually hate others paying for things for me but if it meant I could stop feeling like garbage all the time I'd take it. We ended up breaking up a few months later for unrelated reasons but I 100% understand where the fiancee was coming from. Looking for a new job takes time and effort and when you have zero energy left from your current job it becomes impossible to break away from it.

@erinwessel2195 9 ай бұрын

In regards to the last story - even before the OP confirmed it my take was that the fiance was burnt out from a bad working situation and just desperate for an escape. The wedding planning seemed like that opportunity to her. I suspect that given a little time to breathe, she could regain her confidence that she could find a better working situation. I see why the ring price is a red flag, but the open discussion the two had was a good sign. She was receptive. Another good sign. As long as they set monetary boundaries and move forward as a team they should be ok.

@jessicagomez7714 9 ай бұрын

Yeah, she didn't even started considering staying at home right when she say he made a lot more money, it took time for her to reach that place. And if they have a prenup and he actually asked her first to pay off the debt and then she refused, she's also not trying to use him for that... And once marries finances are shared, there is no my money your money. idk, may be because my house is like that but my parents join 100% of their money and choose how it will spent as a team.

@SeraidenAF 4 ай бұрын

Agreed ti def felt with how he explained her job and then it went there that "Dang she really seems burnt out and not wanting to mention it directly." Esp with the comments on his desk job/hours.

@Arkryal 9 ай бұрын

Stroy #1 - The Step-Sister. We need more context on this. This could range anywhere between "no big deal" and "Holy shit, what the fuck, dude?!" and anywhere in between. A buddy of mine in high school was dating this girl since Freshman year, they started banging, then like a year later His Mom and Her Dad met for the first time, hit it off and eloped in a few months. So by Senior year, he was technically banging his step-sister, but he was there first, so I've gotta give him a pass. Now if they were raised together from early childhood, that would be weird. At that point it would be like doing your biological sister, even if she's not "technically", the relationship is still pretty much the same. I would be much less OK with that. Not illegal, not even immoral, just icky, lol. And there's a lot between those two extremes. Beyond that, there are verified cases where half-siblings have hooked up before learning they were related. Like married, had kids (healthy, the odds of birth defect in that case are pretty remote still), and then found out they had the same father / sperm-donor. And most people are surprisingly OK with that if they didn't grow up together and didn't know about it first. As long as there's no harm, the majority of people just say "Ok, no more kids, and maybe don't advertise this fact, but we won't judge". My point is people have gotten past worse than this. As OP has no siblings, I think she just doesn't get the whole dynamic and doesn't know what to feel. There are several considerations with Brother/Sister hookups. 1) Is there a blood relation? In this case, no. So at least no inbred kids, and that's not on the table anyway, as they're no longer together. 2) Did they grow up together? I think most people understand if they met as teens or in their early 20s, it's normal for them to possibly be attracted to eachother. If they met as young kids, the whole dynamic should have been different, and questions about their upbringing at that point would raise an eyebrow or two. 3) Obviously, he still interacts with her, so it's basically an Ex-girlfriend who will always be in his life. Lots of people are close with an ex even after moving on, but not everyone is comfortable with their partner maintaining those relationships after they have entered the picture, so that's up to OP. How comfortable would she be if he was still close with any other ex? 4) Asking his girlfriend to dress like his ex.... OK, that's crossing a line, whether it's his sister or not. Women don't like it when you compare and contrast them with other people you've been inside. It doesn't go over well.

@chirondurham 9 ай бұрын

Story 4: the only thing that comes to mind is the song Old Flame by Alabama. “That old flame might not be stronger, but it’s been burning longer than any spark I might’ve started in your eyes”

@kurotsuki7427 9 ай бұрын

Sense i dont believe in soul mates i thonk there could be several "right people" for someone based on things like personality and communication and interests. So you can absolutely have a right person wrong time and your new partner is a right person at the right time. The important thing is to be faithful and work on having a strong relationship now. But i also can see why that doesnt make sense to others.

@m310grass 9 ай бұрын

I believe in soul mates and true love but I also believe you can have more than one soulmate or true love, simply because of the amount of people in the world

@MsPoseidon13 9 ай бұрын

For the girl who was upset that her ex said his ex was right person wrong time, i can understand both sides, for her, a statment like that definalty can make her feel like he is settling for her or that she is a second choice so i get why she feels like that, and for him at least he was honest but still a shitty thing to say

@minus606 4 ай бұрын

Like even outside of the whole ''step sibling'' think He literaly told his gf and BRAGGED about and and told her to dress like her Even if it was juat a normal ''ex'' he had...telling your current girlfriemd they should dress like an ex is a major red flag, yes even drunk! And its just generaly weard! It also meams he likely isn't over her...OP must feel (outside of heavily disgusted) like a 2nd choice... Again if ut was a normal situation and just about an ex it was STILL a reason to break up over this!! The whole step sister....just made it so much worse and more disgusting!!! OP probably IS the wmd choice bc BF realized he can't be with his atep sister (socialy accepted he won't!) And thats why he is with OP instead!! God awfull!!!

@erinwessel2195 9 ай бұрын

I would date a widower so long as we were in a loving relationship. I believe that the heart is big enough that love for one does not diminish love for another. However I believe there are those who would consider the second wife a consolation for the losing the first so you have to play it by ear. In the case of the actual situation of the OP of that story it seemed to me that her bf was maybe a bit too blasé about the whole thing.

@Olimar92 9 ай бұрын

Story 4: all she needs to do is ask "If she moved back, would you break up with me to be with her? Or if you could move to be with her would you do so without hesitation?" His answer will say everything.

@LunaP1 9 ай бұрын

Story 5, NTA. OP needs to run real fast! Stay at home spouse and stay at home parent are normal, but stay at home fiancée is a new one. But the second she saw OP's paycheck, she started going financial communist and bragging like she married a rich man. Also, she didn't pay off her student debt in the whole time she was working?! If OP marries her, he needs to get an iron clad prenup with severe consequences added to it if things go south. But if she refuses to sign that prenup under the guise that "it isn't fair", then he shouldn't marry her. And I don't believe a word she says about why she wanted to quit her job (she's definitely lying and trying to gaslight OP).

@nikkihorn3852 9 ай бұрын

Agreed. She is definitely trying to take advantage of op

@jessicagomez7714 9 ай бұрын

Its only taking advantage if she plans to use him to pay for things and then leave tho.

@codm22712 9 ай бұрын

This is what happens when ppl on the hub say you know let’s see what we can actually do 😂😂 story 2 it sounds like the sister doesn’t want to believe it

@helookalikaman79 7 ай бұрын

He wanted the medical abortion, so if he had his way the child wouldn't exist. They chose to have a "legal abortion" (on paper not a medical procedure) where she had the kid as she wanted, and agreed she won't contact him, ask for child support etc, as if the baby had been aborted. "Legal Abortion" SHOULD be an option the biofather could choose within a set time after being legally notified of the pregnancy. So it protects mom's (like in the story) from the biofather making any claims... It protects the father from having a biochild used for extortion. Making the situation balanced.

@moomoozebra 9 ай бұрын

Dont blame the age gap. My husband is 15 years older than me and he wouldn't cheat on me bc hes been alone for 15 years hes happy to have me

@LegallyinsaneLoL 9 ай бұрын

One important thing to note, it’s not entirely just the age gap in particular but the ages the age gap occurs, if is a 20 with a 35 its weird because they are still relatively new to being an legal adult, but if it’s a 50 with a 65 it is a lot less weird since they both have been adults for quite a long time and it would be a lot harder for predatory emotional tactics to occur since both tend to be less gullible

@gtc9966 9 ай бұрын

Weird. But they were like what, 20?! If they’d grown up together meeting as baby’s, gross. If they met the year previously to the bang fest…it’s fine. Fine but a bit weird.

@Nathan_Bookwurm 9 ай бұрын

Exactly, it all depends on when in their childhood they met, if they were living together as siblings and when they slept together. If their parents came together when they were basically grown up then they dont have much of a sibling bond.

@bandolorian9985 9 ай бұрын

Beyond insecure! This is legit annoying 26:18

@MsWill813 8 ай бұрын

She is not ok 😢

@Nat-eb1ix 9 ай бұрын

Story 4: idk, maybe its because im a polyamorous person, but some of the OP's logic confuses me. She's entitled to love who she wants and date who she wants, and in this situation I agree with her choice, but the not dating a widow/widower thing is just wild to me. There's not just one person in this world that we're compatible with, and that's great! If someone has loved and lost their partner, I feel zero jealousy about their previous relationship - I would be thankful for them taking care of and loving my partner for as long as they could, even until death, and that makes me feel an amount of love for the deceased as well, because they mean/meant so much to my partner

@Nathan_Bookwurm 9 ай бұрын

Exactly, I'm monogamous but I still refuse to believe that out of the billions of people on earth there's only 1 your soulmate. Imagine if he'd be born on the other side of the world, now you're destined to be lonely for the rest of your life 🤦 I have a friend who believes this (but they're both married to other people so it keeps ending in secret affairs with her "soulmate"). He's really toxic but it's her "one and only soulmate" so everytime they have an affair it's big drama, and every breakup with him ends in big drama. No contact is still big drama. But "I can't forget him, he's the one." 🙄😵

@SayItLikeJay 16 күн бұрын

I would date a widower given they have taken steps to properly process their grief. I don’t expect it to not be a thing or for them to be over it, just that they have found the appropriate tools to reasonably manage tough times. My fear is being the only source of someone’s happiness or them relying on me (only) to pull them out of depression. For the last story, it honestly sounds like OP relies on his spouse to do a lot because of his issues with planning and managing and that contributed to her wanting to stay at home. Even if you’re good at planning, it can still be overwhelming to be the only one making decisions.

@HouseofLisbeth 9 ай бұрын

Story 5 sounds like she fell into the trad wife rabbit hole... Never. Depend. 100%. On. Another. Person.

@autumn557 9 ай бұрын

I think it’s reasonable if my soon to be husband is making 15,000-30,000 a month for me to quit my job and look for something better. It’s called supporting your partner. If I could focus on building th Le career that’s been out if reach for me because I have to work a lesser job just to barely pay bills when j just need to help to make a better future I expect my husband to help me. I DO NOT expect to quit and never work again however. so as long as she will work again I think its fine. He said he makes 15 times what she makes. I’m assuming she’s bringing in at least $2,000 a month because that’s only $12 an hour after taxes. So 15 times that is 30,000… yeah. Have the prenup but also help her to excel. Instead of saying “no! You must work this pathetic job just because Reddit said so!”

@hidan8647 9 ай бұрын

Story 4 the lady sounds like a low key narcissist and extremely insecure 🤷‍♂️

@Heartrose7 2 ай бұрын

For Story# 3, I'd wait until my child was in High School before telling them and letting them decide what to do from there.

@metal.gendalf 9 ай бұрын

That some ANIME LEVEL SHIT 😂😂😂Thanks for the stories ❤

@mari.s752 4 ай бұрын

The last story: This could be viewed as an example of why some people consider marrying outside of their pay grade taboo. As for my opinion, ~go with what you know~

@journeyofgrace68 9 ай бұрын

My relative F37 and her spouse M53 had a happy marriage. And he is genuinely a very admirable man-absolutely charming! Age differences are OK sometimes, but I can definitely understand how they might be a warning sign in many situations. Furthermore, it wasn't particularly scary because they met when my cousin was thirty. He wasn't a creep.

@HouseofLisbeth 9 ай бұрын

The problem is the inherent power imbalance. People can be different behind closed doors.

@journeyofgrace68 9 ай бұрын

I agree with you@@HouseofLisbeth

@XxRavenwishxX 8 ай бұрын

I can't believe after all that she is still gushing about her exboyfriend who was cheating on his wife. "He has a lot of good qualities! He is great with his children, he is so dedicated!" For fucks sake

@draumpje 9 ай бұрын

The stay at home fiancee … i wouldn’t be comfortable with it Quitting current job to pursuit something more suitable , i would applaud But suddenly dropping everything and using “to plan a wedding” as an excuse Nah

@gizzyg5337 8 ай бұрын

As a widow I would date a widower

@ABadPassword 9 ай бұрын

Where you get a prenup at? Walmart??

@helookalikaman79 7 ай бұрын

7:00 Single? Great news!!!

@Freelancer837 9 ай бұрын

Story 3 OP is dumb as hell

@Nathan_Bookwurm 9 ай бұрын

The affair partner too. He took OP to his work to meet his teenager kids many times???

@Iflie 4 ай бұрын

@@Nathan_Bookwurm I expect she was working there. And yeah they were nuts, unprotected sex with a cheating guy could give her something far worse than a baby.

@JaboovoDNermel 8 ай бұрын

Wtf you dont have to be happy that a relationship ended and also be happy to be with the new person. What is wrong with them? Saying that you arent happy your past relationship ending and the current spouse seeing that as a red flag is a red flag to me. People are allowed to feel how they feel. As long as you dont cheat i dont see an issue. Then again i have never been in a relationship myself nor plan to be.

@Bella-hk3ds 9 ай бұрын

3:22 5:12 6:41 11:02 26:11 29:21 31:05 32:28

@lcoq19 7 ай бұрын

Of course story 2 is an age gap relationship.

@zola1619 9 ай бұрын

I didn't understand why people were so mad about the op in the 4th story I kind of understood her point I didn't understand why they were calling her insecure

@Keksemann666 9 ай бұрын

Because she is. Its 200% insecurity. And when you live in other people's past they deserve to not be with you. This has nothing to do with dedication or love this is just made up BS. If you make stuff like that a problem you will not have a meaningful relationship with anyone.

@HouseofLisbeth 9 ай бұрын

I'm 36 and anyone in their 20s is a child to me. James is a groomer creep.

@ginihall1234 4 ай бұрын

Story #2 karmas a b .. she’s can’t be that dumb but then again

@dragonstooth4223 8 ай бұрын

Story 4: that is one insecure girl. So insecure. but at least she has awareness enough to break it off rather than be a weirdo. And she's a princess and a half. the BF never told her she wasn't his first and foremost. She just interpreted it that way. The BF never got to the point of the relationship with the Ex that left town where it turned sour. but it would have. The commenter who said if they really wanted to be together they would have made it work. So they broke it off before it went sour so its easy for the BF to romantise the ex relationship. But it didn't sound like he was still hung up on the ex. the OP just sounded like a princess with impossible standards because everyone has exes and everyone had baggage. she's looking for a unicorn.

@guyjackson1261 6 ай бұрын

Storry 3: The mother seems very immature, first having unprotected sex with a guy that can't commit, then deciding to become a single mother then trying to rationalise her own selfish reasons not exploring the chance for the child to have a father she knows is a good and loving father when it sounds like he wants to be in the child's life.

@jestersreign7530 6 ай бұрын

What exactly proves that he's a loving caring father?. After listening to it I'm literally trying to figure out where they mentioned how he treats his kids. Especially seeing as this is the kid that he try to force her to get rid of for his own benefit.

@guyjackson1261 6 ай бұрын

@@jestersreign7530 Because that is how she described him in her own words

@Nat-eb1ix 9 ай бұрын

Narrator, the word you used at the end there to mean swindled/stolen/fooled, g*pped, is a slur against Romani people, as its equating them to theives/charlatans/swindlers. If youre aiming to be kind to everyone, then its probably a good idea to retire that word from your vocabulary. Great video nonetheless