I’ll Be A Trans Parent | r/LGBallT

[@nightcrawlermon1512]

as an ace, im not sure I'd eat cake by the ocean. like, what if I drop it in the water, and now its covered in sand and seawater??

[@JoULove]

True but you could have a little picnic blanket and enjoy your cake! Watch out for seagulls though, I assume this is all covered in the song.... right?

[@Idkmwillow]

Sand in the cake… poor cake

[@grasstails9737]

extra flavor

[@Bunny_Bill]

Seasoning

[@nightcrawlermon1512]

@@grasstails9737 no XD

[@hillabwonS]

The genderfluid and ace joke is that they became a bigender fluid.

[@tristantheoofer2]

OOOOOH thats what that was lol. i just thought 2 genderfluids = bigender

[@hillabwonS]

@@tristantheoofer2 bigender can also mean that you fluctuate between genders but you always have 2

[@tristantheoofer2]

@@hillabwonS i mean fair ig, and that probably is how i actually am (its never 100% of both tho :P) im going with trans for now though cus that seems like the closest fit

[@hillabwonS]

@@tristantheoofer2 i am actually surprised i had a talk thats 1 comment and 4 replies long with the hit youtuber

[@angelthompson9572]

YESS im bigender-flux. its so perfect!

[@prageruwu69]

hello lgbt people, i'll be 3 months on t in a week, and my own mum said she didn't recognise me 😎

[@xxmyharturhandzxx]

yippee!!! i'm 6 months on ^_^

[@Blake-ij4kw]

Hey YOU. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

[@timothyisstupid]

Did she mean it in a good way or bad way? Anyway happy for you mate

[@thulium_3169]

OMG LESGOOOO

[@Anthony_GrayCat]

Nice! Congrats!

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

22:26 The meme of banging on the table saying "X is X!" comes from the scene in _Incredibles 2_ where Bob says "Math is math!"

[@AlexQuinn-f2r]

- Me about to have a moment because I keep forgetting how gimbal lock works in Blender -

[@dragonsarebutterflies3663]

My mother recently started to avoid calling me by gendered terms (mostly things like "your brother/sister" when talking to my siblings) but because there isnt really a word for "sibling" in my language she comes up with increasingly creative synonyms for it. Its really cute ^^

[@Lizard_Ri]

That's so awesome!!

[@dooblom]

that's awesome, w mom lmao

[@quicksilvertaint]

do any of the synonyms translate to english? i'd love to know what kinds of creative solutions she's coming up with X3

[@dragonsarebutterflies3663]

@@quicksilvertaint the closest i can come up with is "fellow genetically aquainted person"

[@dooblom]

@@quicksilvertaint same

[@pjwhite6829]

When I was a child, I was OBSESSED with Sir Elton John. I told my mother I would marry him. She told me I couldn't, because he was gay and only liked boys. Jokes on you, mom! I'm trans! And also still a bit obsessed with S.E.J., but now I do drag in outfits inspired by him!

[@stephens101student]

The older generation getting upset over gender non-conforming is so weird to me. Some people I know have a son and he was talking about how much he loved my daughters Pikachu themed dress. I made a comment about how they should buy him one too since he likes it so much. I cannot exaggerate when I tell you they went on for about 15 minutes about how he was a boy and that dresses are for girls and that he was never going to wear a dress. Both of these children in question are 6 years old

[@legosi2736]

Wow..

[@Nino-xp5df]

Yeah! Like, what's the harm done by someone amab wearing a dress? I work with little kids in childcare and one of the boys occasionally will show up in a dress - and literally no one cares. Not his kid's parents, not my colleagues or the other kids. It's like: that's what he wanted to wear that day.

[@ShinyTillDawn]

Older, right-wing people think their ways of life are correct and want to keep them as the status quo.

[@AmarisFrede]

Do they know the show Pikachu is a boy? (you can tell by the tail) Also, how does a dress threaten masculinity? Do they fear that feminists might lunge at the sight of a dude in a skirt, and dive under it to cut off his balls?

[@stephens101student]

@@Nino-xp5df the only people who care are the other parents sadly. It's none of their business though 🙅

[@Blake-ij4kw]

17:06 The cis boy ball goes from straight to hetero-flexible which is under the bi umbrella (basically bi but with a very strong preference for the 'opposite' gender OR hetero but with some exceptions) hence the middle bit peeling to reveal the hetro-flexible flag. Incase anyone was wondering why the comic may have been made like that and not the cracking egg style we typically see.

[@Blake-ij4kw]

19:33 That flag is the unlabeled flag for anyone wondering 💚🤍🩵💛

[@thinecyber_cat]

I was gonna say this, so here's a reply to boost the comment

[@Blake-ij4kw]

@@thinecyber_cat Thanks!

[@thinecyber_cat]

@@Blake-ij4kw np (here's another boost)

[@Blake-ij4kw]

@SuperCoolPersonCalledLillith Yep! Homo-flexible! Thanks for reminding me

[@Silentgrace11]

At least to my understanding (as a late 20s ace person who is still trying to learn the memes) the “ace is scheming” thing is kind of an extension of the general joke of “aces are like: who has time for romance when you can X”, mixed with the ongoing joke of them taking over Denmark due to sheer population size that is statistically likely to be acespec ~ Frankly I love it 😂 especially since it also defects from the idea of ace spec individuals being squishy uwu naive folks due to lack of sexual or romantic attraction being misconceived as being unaware. As for blending the gender fluid, I can’t begin to decipher that lolol

[@jijitters]

Wait, can you explain the Denmark thing for me? Are there more ace people in Denmark, or is it that the estimated population of ace people is the same as Denmark? I assume it's one of those 2 but I've never heard of this lol

[@SassyGirl822006]

​​@@jijittersthe establishmented number of Ace people exceeds the population of Denmark. Therefore the Aces could take over Denmark.

[@CommanderBlastem]

@@SassyGirl822006shhhhh… don’t tell them our secrets.

[@Lokear]

As a gay agender myself, absolutely make that pun.

[@galaxygorl]

as a gay agender myself, i have made that pun

[@Lokear]

@@galaxygorl As a gay agender myself (ctnd.), I will make that pun in future.

[@emmetlover206]

I'll explain the Ace and genderfluid joke in exchange for a dragon.

[@GayDemiDemiboy]

Rawr 🐉

[@ame1ias_wife]

Here 🫸🐉 now explain🥲

[@Taeschno_Flo]

@@ame1ias_wife Simply chemitry. Mix two genderfluids to see wether or not they mix and what happens to their genders. Turns out, the individual gender parts of the genderfluid are polarizing, making the outcome Bigender. Thanks for the dragon, now can you tell me where i can find the nearest Garlic bread factory?

[@thenexus8384]

What kind? True dragon, Wyvern, Lindwyrm?

[@boothillkissr]

hi im an otherkin dragon do i count ill live with ya

[@PokhrajRoy.]

LGBallT is one of the most interesting SubReddits. Also, love decoding the colour schemes.

[@Milesmorales-spidey]

I remember my mom telling me that when she was pregnant with me she wasn’t fussed if she had a boy or a girl as long as I was healthy .. Plot twist , 19 years later I tell her I’m FTM and she’s hysterical and tried to get me sectioned. 2nd Plot twist , 7 years later , I am working in the shop she comes into in the shopping centre after being estranged and she tells my co worker “the man at the door is putting out joggers, do you have them in black “ I’m that man mom, have a great life

[@jimmybobsqusher5897]

I am confused

[@ParsureArts]

Dang! Glad things are going better for you-

[@waffles3629]

Yep. My spawn points "totally didn't care about your gender, we just wanted you to be healthy" adamantly insist that my gender (ie my assigned sex) is super super important. Also I'm not healthy but they refuse to accept that either. Shocker, our relationship is a total sham and they know almost nothing about the real me.

[@waffles3629]

​@@jimmybobsqusher5897 OPs Mom didn't care about his gender when she was pregnant, but when he came out as trans she tried to get him hospitalized. Years later she didn't recognize him in a store and called him a man.

[@rev.rachel]

WILD journey. I hope she's learned how to be a better person to other trans people, even if you never get to a place where you feel safe being around her again.

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

17:36 More specifically, the black-and-white straight flag with a narrow rainbow stripe in the middle is for heteroflexible, or basically, "mostly straight with a few exceptions".

[@KAW-69]

" Im Straight but 20 dollars is 20 dollars"

[@Xanderj89]

So bi with internalized biphobia got it

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

@@Xanderj89 I wouldn't say that. Heteroflexible does fall under the bi umbrella. I can imagine people choosing it over bi to make it clear that even though they can sometimes be attracted to the same gender, it's pretty rare for them, so others shouldn't count on it. In that way, it's just a more accurate descriptor.

[@JazniaDraw]

​​​@@Xanderj89there's also homoflexible so that would be internalized biphobia in your eyes too? There's a lot of other -flexible labels, even biflexible! when you're bi but sometimes you feel attraction to just one gender, using flexible it's just a way of saying "I'm mostly attracted to X gender, but sometimes I'm attracted to Y gender, but being attracted to Y gender is such a rare occurrence that i don't consider myself bi" still it's classified as a type of bis3×al so it's not biphobia, just a microlabel

[@Madi_H210]

Yay, a new video to watch! I needed it today, since there was an incident at my school lgbtq+ club😕some boys from the school keep on entering the club and sitting down, making members uncomfortable, crowding the door and one time throwing rocks at the wall outside in an attempt to intimidate us all😢My school has become pretty homophobic recently, people are just allowed to walk around using the F slur so it's not too great. And I've even heard kids talking to the teachers about not accepting trans kids, and the teachers agreed! I cannot wait for Uni, I have looked around a few times and I can tell it is more accepting.

[@mezbezls]

That sounds awful!!! I hate that people are trying to make you uncomfortable in a space that's supposed to make you feel safe. Hope you find somewhere where you can be yourself

[@Madi_H210]

@@mezbezls ty❤️

[@mezbezls]

@@Madi_H210 yw yw

[@Blazearrow]

well that is horrible I hope that the best for you

[@AmarisFrede]

Is it possible to get a councelor or a parent involved? Teachers are paid to keep all students safe and educated, so openly siding against certain students is a no go! I'm very sorry this is happening, I hope the club can keep each other company and lift each other up. You're a wonderful, valid person and deserve kindness and respect! 🫂❤‍🩹🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

[@misxfitx]

i had to come out to my dad as trans twice because the first time he convinced himself it was a "phase". the second time i came out to him, he literally told me as much. there was about 1-2 years between both times, and it took him around 3 years more to actually become supportive, but im glad after the second time he accepted it and started at least trying to gender me correctly and use my chosen name

[@axeljeanlindsey1584]

As an ace, nothing made me more angry than the day I found out Cake by the Ocean wasn't about having a picnic on the beach.

[@PAPAYAHAWAIA]

Aggreed

[@Butteredprawns]

Agree as a bisexual guy

[@Elizabeth-mf4oj]

It’s not about eating cake by the ocean? :0 :(

[@breadstickthereal]

Wait whay

[@rev.rachel]

big mood here

[@ArturGlass.C]

The "what happened to friendship" about gay people dating, is so funny to me because it often stems from the person not having ever picked up on gay coded relationship in media back when they weren't allowed to show it clearly so suddenly they're like "why are all those friendships suddenly turning gay".....because they were always super gay.

[@sage.81]

"No balls in women's stalls" Me to my little sister: "Well I guess you have to use the men's restroom because we have no where to put your bouncy ball"

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

23:41 "It's Adam _and_ Eve, not Adam _or_ Eve!"

[@thenexus8384]

YES I LOVE THIS!

[@melodycuthbert4840]

Well, I mean….if they’re open to that sort of thing I can be down for trying anything once.

[@missnaomi613]

As a Bible-reading, bisexual gal, I love this!

[@dooblom]

if they're down, im down, ykw im sayin?

[@rev.rachel]

@@missnaomi613 There's actually a whole tradition of interpretation that reads the adam/human as intersex before Eve is created. The word for 'rib' is usually translated side, so it's probably less of a "created from a tiny piece of" vibe and more of a "split down the middle" vibe. Plus, the word for "helper" that Eve is created as is almost always applied to God. This ain't a story of God creating servants for men, no matter how much conservative Christians want to make it one. - from a queer, ordained, Hebrew Bible scholar :)

[@dishevelleddev]

One of the running jokes of asexuality is that because we aren't thinking about sex, we have time to think about other things... Like world domination. You know.... Just as an example. Not super sure what ace was doing to Genderfluid, though.

[@j.apenrose7896]

At Christmas last year, my uncle and dad were making transphobic jokes, and my brother laughed--I think because that's easier than the awkwardness of not--and it was just so uncomfortable and stressful for me. I'm still not out, because they've gone and made it clear that they're not going to accept me, and that just sucks.

[@AmarisFrede]

Please stay safe and keep building other support networks. You are valid, and deserve respect and love! 🫂🌻 And just as a sidenote, a lot of bigots can change, once they actually meet people of their prejudice and find how normal they are. Maybe ask your uncle or dad seperately, if they would hate the other, if one of them came out as gay or trans. Maybe they'll rethink it, if it hits close to home. And if not, you know for sure to keep quiet about it to stay safe.

[@j.apenrose7896]

@@AmarisFrede Thankfully I don't live at home anymore, so the worst thing that could happen is I get cut off from seeing my younger siblings. I do have a great and supportive community of my own which is amazing! 💜 They might change, but they still refer to my older sister as being "cured" of being bisexual when she married a man, and are highly religious. I've got a book I'm planning on giving them if I come out that's basically "You don't have to agree with your queer child, but you do have to love and respect them" that's a Christian book, so maybe that will at least get some level of acceptance. We'll see I guess. And also thank you, you are so valid and loved too! 💜

[@Joey-kd8lj]

Oh gosh that's tough, I'm so sorry.

[@Pure_Spite]

​@@j.apenrose7896 im going to touch you

[@Fairiegurl101]

I'm sorry that your family isn't accepting and make jokes that hurt you. I hope they make their jokes out of ignorance and not malice, but you would know them better than I. Sending you internet hugs from a stranger who loves you for who you are.

[@rinkuraku5251]

Meanwhile, as an asexual trans woman: "Yes, that gay couple is nice, but I ship those two straight girls together! Also, the male lead and his male rival! Their rivalry is actually love because they can't recognize their feelings! Also, I'm not saying the character is actually trans, but this episode is totally a trans allegory! She spent the entire episode voice training and learning how to socialize! She even has a deadname!" For the record, not talking about the same show for all three.

[@AmarisFrede]

Well, you could'a fooled me! I'm sure I've read fanfics with all those bullitpoints about every major tumblr fandom. 😅

[@samtheking5759]

>> "Their rivalry is actually love because they can't recognize their feelings!" Huh?? It doesnt even matter if the ship is straight or gay its just that this dynamic just infuriates me. If they are arch enemies, they are arch enemies, you cant force love and say "they just cant see it yet", they would have seen it if they actually DID love eachother and werent arch enemies... >> "I ship those two straight girls together!" Im not straight nor a women but this is just wrong. You cant ship two STRAIGHT women together, if they are straight it means they are attracted to the opposite gender, so shipping them is also technically forcing.

[@rinkuraku5251]

@@samtheking5759 do you not understand what shipping is?

[@samtheking5759]

@@rinkuraku5251 yes i do understand what shipping is, its just it doesnt feel right to me for two arch enemies to be shipped, it just doesnt make that much sense. Yes, i guess maybe thats fine in some way, and maybe its my opinion. But the "i ship those two straight girls together" is as bad if not worse.

[@rinkuraku5251]

@@samtheking5759 what exactly is wrong with it anyway? Like half of the anime made in the past forever deliberately teases ships like this. Even the original Gundam deliberately did this with amuro and char.

[@minestar2247]

1:30 yeah, i kinda hate how many unnecessary straight romance plots exist, like, can't a man and a woman be friends?

[@ShinyTillDawn]

There are shows that ask people on the road these kinds of questions, and many claim that men and women can't be friends

[@minestar2247]

@@ShinyTillDawn yeah, I know, adults have told me that before, its just cultural background, which doesn't mean it can't be done

[@AmarisFrede]

I wish we would just let them! I think most older generations still see interactions between sexes as having to have a net-win turnout, like the 'niceguy' who thinks he pays compliments to gain sex. So men and women seeing each other as equals would erase that, which is why they hate gender equality (and also same sex relationships), because it's no longer able to be dumbed down into: he pays her for this, so he deserves this, she gives this to him, to earn her (safety, living, food, shelter...) The controls shift. Sorry I can't explain it clearer, I'm off to bed now. Maybe I can edit tomorrow.

[@leonelzubieta8636]

Ok? Just don’t watch the show lmao, if you want friend relationships watch gravity falls or something

[@kurjaesitys]

@@leonelzubieta8636uhm if you didnt like this comment, just scroll? lmao

[@Bohne3]

I met a trans male a few weeks ago in class. We haven't really talked yet because my social awkwardness exists but I'm trying to talk to him. I'd love to be friends with him ngl. He seems like such a nice guy. I sit near some transphohic people so its really awkward when they talk about him and I'm just sitting there questioning if I have a crush on him (they don't know I'm lgbtq) Also, there are tons of homophobic and transphobic people in my class and when I hear them saying some really homophobic/transphobic things it's incredibly awkward. God I'm just yapping on and on XD

[@AmarisFrede]

⚠Above all, stay safe! But, if it is possible for you, maybe find some comebacks to their rhetoric? Something that makes them think. Like idk, if they comment a boy can't wear nail polish, ask if they think masculinity is so weak and fragile, that a little paint would destroy it? Also, if they say stuff that you know is wrong, but can't argue with, try to do research on that. Like if they say, religion is against it. I've seen multiple mentions in reels and tumblr posts about how in the Thora and Old Testament, they describes 7 different genders. That God and the angels are genderless and thus perfect. Or that the favorite phrase "man shall not lie with man" originally meant "man shall not lie with boy", thus not condemming homosexuals but pdf-iles. I'm sure you'll find sources if looking it up. And I hope you soon get a chance to talk to the trans guy in peace. Best of luck to you both, hope you can be friends! 🍀🌈

[@Ebrill_Owen]

I hope you and him become friends!

[@Bohne3]

Thanks to everyone giving me advice

[@radioactivebirbchild]

8:24 they also could have used "I have the bi ground"

[@HumbleWooper]

That's where I thought they were going to go with it, until they didn't.

[@Gl1ch_6677]

I was a little confused by it. Was the joke like bylaser = blazer or something?

[@rodgerwrinkle9078]

I get top surgery tomorrow!!!!!! I am so excited!

[@rosieg6989]

Best of luck!

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

Good luck on getting that off your chest!

[@AmarisFrede]

💐 Best wishes for a speedy recovery, and lots of supportive friends around you.

[@TheVortexCollective]

Sup! How did it go?

[@Justme45671]

How did it go ? ( If you're comfortable sharing if not that is fine to 🫶)

[@NadirEatsRocks]

6:20 Apparently that's the cisgender flag! So the comic is just establishing that the mom and aunt are cis while the kids are nonbinary

[@angelcollina]

Oh cool

[@aer0a]

"Sigma" is another level of male above alpha, but outside of the manosphere it's mostly a joke

[@Xanderj89]

Just like alpha was a joke, when you hear someone say sigma you know it’s “i want to call myself alpha but people will make fun of me for it now, what’s a new word sigma that’s it”

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

9:46 Just wait until Ace actually reads the lyrics to Barbie Girl...

[@Augustt01]

What do you mean 😨

[@minestar2247]

Oh, not even i knew that and i want to forget it

[@isabelcarrasco4528]

@@Augustt01 "You can brush my hair, undress me everywhere Imagination, life is your creation" ... "I'm a blonde bimbo girl in a fantasy world Dress me up, make it tight, I'm your dolly You're my doll, rock and roll, feel the glamor in pink Kiss me here, touch me there, hanky-panky" "You can touch, you can play If you say I'm always yours, ooh woah" ... "Make me walk, make me talk, do whatever you please I can act like a star, I can beg on my knees Come jump in, bimbo friend, let us do it again Hit the town, fool around, let's go party"

[@ShowierData9978]

​@@isabelcarrasco4528 I still don't get it - aplaroace

[@Cillana]

The lyrics are not at all subtle. I don't know what hidden meaning Ace people (like me) would not understand.

[@coasttocoast2011]

As a cis woman, I find it hard shopping for shorts because most shorts for women are short shorts. I mainly buy boys now because most men’s are too big

[@ShinyTillDawn]

It's always those assumptions that all women want this And that...

[@marinasplaylist2251]

And large collars. I wear mens shirts because I absolutely hate the large collars

[@coasttocoast2011]

@@marinasplaylist2251 or really wide necks on t-shirts and don’t even get me started on everything being crop tops

[@lorifiedler13]

And male pants have pockets!

[@PersonOfUnidentifiedOrigin]

I've come out as transfem to two of my online friends because I have no real ones, my family is anti-lgbtq (except my lesbian cousin), I'm a minor and I live in BRITAIN. How can things get any worse😢

[@tinaa091]

Having on-line friends is also great.. 😊 Do the best that you can in school and learn as much as you can about stuff that you like and/or you're good at (hobby for now) so when you turn 18, you have more chance to get a job you like, earn money, try to get your own place (rent for start, I guess), move out of your parents' home and start to live your happy life.. ❤ Till then, try to survive and know that your time will come.. 😊 I hope you're 17, not 12.. (less time for waiting)

[@wendiwasden7088]

It'll be okay

[@PersonOfUnidentifiedOrigin]

@@tinaa091 14 xd

[@tinaa091]

@@PersonOfUnidentifiedOrigin Uff.. 4 years and you'll be free.. 🙂 I know it's not the same but I have ADHD and my mom was 'if they don't know it does not exist'... So I learned fully about it when I was 33 cause my kid (then 1 yo) was soooo much like me and I saw in one ep. of Supernanny about kid who had ADHD and had problems with homework.. So I went in hiperfocus and all I was watch and read was about ADHD... Childhood trauma for life because I didn't know about ADHD because no-one told me.. 🙁 My life woild be sooo much easier if I knew, my depression wouldn't be that extrime and I wouldn't hate myself for 30 years.. 🙁 Some parents can be great... But some can destroy their children.. 🙁 You know who you are, and that's great.. You have 4 morr years and (I hope) you'll be able to move out and live your life as yourself.. ❤️

[@rev.rachel]

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry most of the folks around you offline aren't supportive at all. Hang in there. Treasure those online friends, and make more, as many as you need. Online spaces can absolutely be real spaces for real friendships. Be yourself as many places as you feel safe to be. Those four years will go by soooooo slowly now, but with any luck, when you look back on them from your 30s, they'll be just a blip in what became a full and wonderful life as your whole self.

[@SteppefordWife]

This is so stupid but the bi-ble joke made me think; "Bi-bull gives you wings" lol

[@cecildesist]

8:35 “it’s over! I have the bi ground!”

[@TwilightThyme666]

9:38 WAIT WAIT WAIT- ITS NOT A SONG ABOUT EATING SWEET DELICIOUS CAKE BY THE SEASIDE???

[@nito8066]

why did i thought it was about eating cake on a cliff by the seaside

[@Xanderj89]

Words in songs have meanings? I just use them like musical notes

[@jaidadraco]

@@TwilightThyme666 songs can have any meaning we want when we listen to them

[@isabelcarrasco4528]

"I fell asleep during that movie, I think I was 5 or 6 years old" No need to make me feel old!!! XD

[@Awesometrans]

I saw the title and thought Shaaba was pregnant for a second. XD Great video, Jamie!

[@FabricFool]

Hello to all. Hear me out. As a theater kid raised in a conservative neighborhood but not family I’ve given this a LOT of thought over the decades. What is it about not-straight that gets some people the Willie’s? It was ”oh won’t someone think of the chiiiiiildrennnnn” gave me the clue: it’s because, when you explain “gay” you have to (not really) use the suffix -sexual. That’s what gets the shorts in a twist. Having to say sexual in front of a kid. The other thing of course is that lgbtq+phones are inherently obsessed with what’s in everyone else’s pants-and are projecting that now on to the kidlets. (Underfunded undersupported schools in the US are performing nonconsensual gender reassignment?! I need a nap.) Edited to add. Never mind. Don’t hear me out. LGBTQ+phobia makes no sense.

[@dietotaku]

funny, because i remember explaining it to my kids without having to say "sexual" at all. i think one of them said something about having to marry a boy/girl (whatever was the opposite of their sex) and i just pointed out that they don't have to if they don't want to. because some boys like boys and some girls like girls and some people like both and some people aren't interested in marrying anybody.

[@Xanderj89]

It’s literally just anxiety about something they don’t get, and indignity that they are responsible for their own actions, thus it’s your fault for making them have to consider it. They’re children who don’t own up to their own actions, they shift the blame to the stimulus *they* are having a reaction to lest they have to manage their own reaction like a fucking adult. They feel entitled to comfort, and it’s everyone elses responsibility (never their own) to not expose them to difference, it’s your fault for being noticed actually you must be trying to get attention that’s the flip that happens to justify their inaction and pass the buck. Your crime is costing them any effort at all, they shouldn’t have to ever be considerate to another person you should all be considerate of them and them alone.

[@Tonithemeloni04]

You know gaydar, now introducing: A-DAR! HELPS YOU FIND FELLOW ASPEC PEOPLE!

[@maskedmallard537]

I need this in my life! I'm surrounded by a miasma of alloheteronormativeness. Where's my beacon of hope? Where's my lighthouse?

[@Froge2112]

How much for your best one?

[@CataArtzz]

Clearing things up with flags I recognize! The pink and blue one with the heart is a version of the hetro flag, and the one where the skin is "pealing" i believe is hetroflexible! It's like bi, but mostly hetro attraction, with occasional gay attraction

[@thenexus8384]

With the Star Wars lightsaber thing, i was expecting the bi flag to be duel wielding lightsabers

[@minestar2247]

Oh, thats so cool

[@thenexus8384]

@@minestar2247 yeah, I believe the Japanese actually have a word or term for duel wielders (two sword user is what it translates to if I'm not mistaken) and was also used as a euphemism (I think that's the correct word to use) for bisexuals

[@minestar2247]

@@thenexus8384 ah, didnt know that It also fits star wars because it was inspired by Japanese movies

[@thenexus8384]

@@minestar2247 yeah especially "Jedi" being taken from "Sengoku-Jedi" if I'm not mistaken, kinda funny though since there are Jedi "knights" despite being inspired by the Japanese samurai in the name

[@minestar2247]

@@thenexus8384 well, there were a lot of inspirations, the original name for the jedi was "jedi bendu",

[@hellochildren3780]

As an enby person, I have finally gotten to a point in my trans journey that I disregard the whole men's and women's section and just think about the style/look of clothes I want to find and think about where in each store they'd be. Also I got my first bikini the other day and I'm super excited to wear it to the beach when the weather gets better.

[@lilymarie6996]

The sister ball in the leg dysphoria comic is unlabeled pride. Typically used by those in the community who do not want to use specific labels or if they do not feel like existing ones fit but are part of the community in some way. It’s a fairly newer one as well.

[@GrimMortbane]

We were all younger last year 🤣 I had someone look at a picture and say "You looked younger here" and I said "yeeeees, that's how pictures work."

[@KateJulca]

4:10 Genderfluid + genderfluid = bigender (In this comic, not necessarily irl)

[@KateJulca]

Also I’m genderfluid :D

[@alexjewett7455]

Wouldn't that just make more genderfluid?

[@KateJulca]

@@alexjewett7455 yeah, probably but shhhhhhhhh let your disbelief be suspended

[@thenexus8384]

Genderfluid squared (mathematically)

[@HistoryandOtherStuffwithBV]

I'm not completely sure if I got the flag right, but... I think that was bigenderflux, or something like that?

[@shark_girl]

4:17 I'm Ace and I have no idea what's going on either but if I had to guess maybe they're mixing liquids of all the gender fluid colors and hoping it will turn into a gender fluid? I genuinely can't think of anything else the Ace ball could be doing.

[@ash_vanilla_therian]

The genderfluid turned into the bigender flag.

[@chilljelloton2089]

17:16 it actually peeled off in a way that makes it match the heteroflexible flag! heteroflexible (and homoflexible) is something thats either a sub category of bisexuality (attraction to one gender is so rare that one most likely will end up with the prefferred gender) or a subcategory of hetero/homosexuality (there is literally one maybe two exceptions in your monosexual attraction)

[@_StarlightRose_]

Crows can talk but it requires a process called "freeing their tongue" Is it immoral to train a murder of crows to say things like "run" or "they are coming for you" and release them on a hiking trail late at night?

[@minestar2247]

Yes, but stopping you would require more effort than i am willing to put

[@zachhoover8557]

It is actually not required to free the tongue of crows to enable them to talk. It is simply an abusive practice.

[@outtathepantry]

I just looked up what freeing the tongue meant, and that is absolutely fucked, it literally means to split the tongue of a crow, and it does not actually result in a bird that can talk

[@outtathepantry]

Also, from googling, you are almost word for word repeating a Tumblr post by crack--attack Their post saying "Fun fact! Crows can talk just like parrots do! It requires a process called "freeing their tongue" (don't ask) but yes I want to train a flock of them to say "Run" and release them onto a hiking trail"

[@_StarlightRose_]

@@outtathepantry I know I am Thats the point

[@Ruby2P]

The skin peeling is referring to heteroflexable, which is someone who is normally straight, but have rare and specific times of liking someone of the same gender.

[@acidsprinkl3r8744]

Lets do a chain of trans parent jokes. I dont have one, you start

[@KaoticWhisper]

My friend tried to tell me they were a trans parent, and i had to keep insisting that, i could infact, see them, and not through them

[@sahar1213]

you cant see this reply, its a transparent

[@_W0rm_F00d_]

I was such a good fem boy as a child people used to think I was a girl 😭😭

[@StaticDesicVA]

Normal parents & phobic parents when child comes out as trans “I no longer have a (son/daughter)”

[@RimHellworth]

My family used to love me but now I feel like I’m transparent

[@torqueoz3449]

When it comes to clothes shopping as an AFAB NB, I feel like I have double the choices, manly-man 'and' lady-lady. Growing up, long before figuring out my NBness, my mum would regularly find me in the boys section, and would be like, "This is the boys section!", "Soooo?". I can totally see why it can be triggering for other NBs though T_T

[@Elli_Hamato_Todoroki]

I discovered “gendervoid” or “void” yesterday and realized that I feel very connected to that label while still leaning toward nonbinary which I have identified as for more than a year

[@Your-mum-when-she-sees-this]

Nonbinary is an umbrella term for all labels that don't fit the man/woman binary. You can use both labels

[@Xanderj89]

Hey a lot of things are under the NB umbrella, if it makes sense to you it makes sense period! I used to go by no label for a similar reason but it’s never wrong to try things on for size and see what’s a match for the you you are today

[@eliannadickens4816]

Seriously concerned about Jamie because he says he wants to become a trans-parent (good for him), but that will mean less bisexual visibility. XD

[@quillofmysteries]

I was today years old when I learned that cake by the ocean is not just about eating cakes at the seaside.. 😮🍰

[@starfishgurl1984]

Aro ace AFAB demigirl here, I was born into a family of big people as the smallest baby of siblings at almost 9 Lbs. and have big hands, big feet, a big head, big bones, broad shoulders etc. but no buns so growing up it wasn’t always easy to buy things in my size and frequently had to buy things from boys/men’s departments just to find what fit. Now as a demigirl I realize I actually love my mix of clothing from men’s and women’s departments and am grateful for my body allowing me the easy excuse to mix and match, lol, especially when dysphoria cones into play, I may have hated it as a kid but it was definitely a blessing in disguise!

[@sarak-h4m]

congrats for having a clothing style. literally everyone has a personality. stop obsessing about gender.

[@katyamcadams]

​@@sarak-h4mstop obsessing about being weird and incorrect first.

[@MrsBifflechips]

As an ace person, yes, I took "Netflix & chill" literally for a very long time.

[@kurjaesitys]

As someone who’s aspec, so did I, I only read recently about it being s3xual.. I read a lot of fanfiction too so I was just always like “well theyre not netflix and chilling anymore I guess?”.

[@roryandbro1561]

Netflix and chill was a Ben and Jerry's ice cream flavour. It was great and i didnt know until recently the other meaning of netflix and chill

[@kurjaesitys]

@@roryandbro1561 That's so cursed

[@roryandbro1561]

@kurjaesitys Yeah it really is

[@phiend-c4l]

Math isn't mathing Study isn't studying Brain isn't braining

[@Omneyvdwatering]

My favourite was the straight ball who fell in love with a girl who turned out to be a trans man and was still in love and the straight skin was peeling off. Rainbow was good, but more precise that would be pan colors

[@WildCosmo]

"its like the skibidi"-Jamie 2024

[@Rose-uf1eh]

I've never been homophobic and I wear it like the biggest pride flag I just loved everyone until I loved everyone lol(I'm bi) I'm happy I can say this. I've also never been transphobic, the first time I heard of it (I was 8) I did research to the best of my little ability and just said "I mean yeah ok" then went back to life with new information

[@AmarisFrede]

"I did research to the best of my little ability and just said "I mean yeah ok" then went back to life with new information" THIS! Can this become the standard for everything? Please and thank you!

[@Idkmwillow]

Awesome!

[@faith-by-faith]

I can't tell you how many times I've had a very confusing attraction to a "man" for them to later come out as a trans woman or trans feminine in some way. It's amazing.

[@venessalipps9921]

As a Trans woman who is a parent; it is very difficult for me to explain to others "Transparent" joke. Lol I really don't understand why it is that hard of a concept. Lol

[@maskedmallard537]

I guess they just don't see it. 🥁🥁📀 I'll see myself out. After all, I'M not a parent. 😉

[@Cloudy_does_scribbles]

The captions changing "I hate dysphoria" to "I hate Florian" I CANT-

[@dishevelleddev]

I'd heard of gaydar before but I just about spit out a huge bite of my dinner when Bifi came after. 😅

[@Pizzaetertje]

Someone told me women would be jealous of my hair (closeted transfem) and it absolutely made my day

[@Chungussy]

me (cis male) who grew up to like dressing up pretty and my sister (also cis) who grew up to play football.

[@rainbowtropolis]

I'd love to see old balls with gray hair with all the genders, I'm approaching 50, and it's amazing how different it is than the younger balls coming out. We're mostly out, or figured out who we are but haven't told everyone. That would be a funny new idea to send over to the art department! I hope you have a good day!

[@nonamegiven202]

9:30 the aro/ace experience of completely missing the sexual/romantic subtext.........while also just making the dirtiest jokes in your friend groups.

[@Kotifilosofi]

The "just friends" trope (used incorrectly when we're talking about gay & bi people) doesn't hurt only gay & bi people. It also hurts the aroace people who actually wanted "just" a platonic relationship, no matter how deep and committed the relationship was. If the relationship really is "just platonic", you do not act like a gay person xD Sincerely, an aroace

[@waffles3629]

Yep. I'm aroace and in a queer platonic relationship and people LOVE to invalidate who I am because of it.

[@Kotifilosofi]

@@waffles3629 what, of course you can't be an aroace if you're not an antisocial world-hating hermit?!?? 🤔🤔🤔

[@Kotifilosofi]

@@waffles3629 what, of course you can't be an aroace if you're not an antisøcial world-hæting hermi?!?? 🤔🤔🤔

[@Sillylittlemanhehe]

Honestly the way i found out I was trans (i used to be non binary before) was because of acting. I didn’t really like dressing feminine, so i asked for a male role. After playing as him, it made me realize “hey… i prefer this.” And then became trans:3

[@AnAbsurdistFemaphrodyke]

I luv you and Shabba so much, thanx for being you. I will never find my tribe, I do not have a tribe, I do not fit in anywhere with anyone, never have and after 61 years and I am still so utterly alone, I realize, I simply do not belong here and never will. I will be alone in my soul until I return to the void. Until then, I so enjoy that you share your self so truly, thanx.

[@adrienstarfaer]

I got to use the coveted, "Thanks, I chose it myself!" In response to a compliment on my name, today!

[@thelittlestpika]

Something that I find funny is that, at all the jobs I've ever had, most of my coworkers have been LGBTQ+. I'm not sure how but we all choose the same places to work.

[@The_Top_Hat_2]

i think that the majority of the male homophobes are just pissed that they couldn't find a guy who liked them back XD

[@AllesJamiie]

6:13 my comic made it into the video :D The flag of my aunt & mom is supposed to be the cisgender flag btw

[@AmapaenseBakedBacon]

The cisgender flag is actually just the bisexual flag without the stripe in the middle

[@DinosaurNick]

I'm agender transmasc/transneutral, and I do like some women's clothes depending on the style ... but I mostly prefer men's clothes. I had some awkward moments that triggered big sadness and confusion. First: I was shopping with my now ex-BF's mother and we were going clothes shopping. We passed the men's section, and I saw a shirt I liked a lot. I stopped and checked it out. Then I hear it. "What are you doing? The women's clothes are over here." I longingly looked at the shirt as it slipped over my fingertips as I walked away to follow her. She then pointed out adorable girlie outfits that she thought I'd like. I did not. Another moment is I was shopping with my brother and we were in the clothes section. I saw skirts, and I got excited. Then I was like, "Wait, I hate dresses. Why would I wear a skirt? Oh no, am I actually a girl!? Would I be mistaken as a girl if I wore a skirt!?" I'm already constantly called Ma'am and lady and girl, etc ... but this triggered a new dysphoria. Skirt dysphoria. I'd like to get over this and just wear clothes I enjoy without fear of a gender label being forced on me.

[@minestar2247]

2:58 yeah, i love steven universe, and it was so age appropriate that even the arab and cuts couldn't get rid of the lgbtq rep (which kinda made me predisposed to be an lgbtq ally)

[@matthewkrallek5477]

@jammidodger, the joke with the trans guy coming out to the boy who had a crush on him is that the hetero ball changed to a heteroflexible ball.

[@samarchist74]

Jamie need OT to teach him to make sound effects 😂

[@SpacedOut925]

Lgballt is how I got into your channel! Glad to see it being covered again! (Also Jamie struggling to describe the subreddit at the start is so iconic)

[@BiDisaster327]

About the Sigma thing: It's the same as alpha males and stuff on the mansphere, but a while back they invented "sigma males" like they're better than alphas, because they are lone wolves and don't care about recognition os something stupid like that. Alphas and sigmas started fighting with eachother and it's really funny Now people use the word sigma ironically like saying "based" or "chad" as a joke

[@TerrariaGolem]

The appeal of Jammi is how awkward he is. How do I get such charming awkwardness?

[@Acedragoncakeeater]

6:36 Yes correct that is cis (not necessarily an ally though. I think the heart is there so it’s easier to tell apart from the bi flag iirc)

[@katie17330]

21:50 As a cis woman I've started buying men's pants (for the pockets!). Living in a conservative area of the U.S., I hope it helps a little to normalize a femme presenting person in the 'mens' section.

[@alexdavidson7498]

I’ve always liked the phrase “straight as an arrow” mostly because arrows do not need to be straight.

[@AshR42IsAll]

My friend group growing up was pretty small, but only one ended up being cishet as far as I know (the rest of us were semi-closeted towards the end). We were always kinda the weird kids, but we were happy.

[@bastienfelix4605]

Hey, jamie’s comment section! I had an idea for a t-shirt but I need feedback on whether it’s too cheesey/heavy-handed or anything. So basically I’m aro/ace/agender(not entirely sure on that last one though). So I thought of having a T-shirt with “call me a LR03, because I’m AAA” written on it, with each A coloured as one of the flags representing me(plus maybe a drawing of a battery to make the joke more understandable). Do y’all think it’s funny or should I change it some way or another?

[@ArAsDeCos]

It's so dorky and corny I love it

[@ScootsLounge]

The pointlessly gendered talk reminded me of Atlantis and how the mechanic girl's father wanted 2 sons and got 2 daughters instead, who both went on to fulfill his son fantasies anyway.

[@shadowstorm06]

I finally have seen a gay, agender ball! The immediate smile and validation from that just made my day.

[@Cranberry_Juice935]

4:23 the ace ball, wants to watch the gender fluid try to escape

[@EmoNightDragon]

11:31 Indeed, like so many friend groups finding eachother, then later one-by-one find out they are queer 😂

[@Kennedy_Struggles]

19:31 i believe the mystery flag here is the unlabeled flag

[@marybdrake1472]

Don't worry about the Sigma BS Jamie. It means literally nothing.

[@buffydimock7164]

Just sharing some positive vibes- my friend just got approved for top surgery and he’s getting it in January !!!!

[@ssghosthunters7471]

Four months on T today 🎉

[@Blazearrow]

congrats 🎉

[@old_soul99]

my journey to discovering my bi-ness came from my period being super late (i was 13-14 before getting it) so i thought i might be a guy. that made me think "okay well i have to look into women now, because they're the opposite sex" so i did. and i learned how attractive women are, but men are, too. and my period hit. and i got scared. the only people i'm not out to are my parents, which is fine for now because i believe i have found my forever person, and we are in a very straight-presenting relationship.

[@-a2games-]

I keep forgetting that you're not a cis man lol, you pass so amazingly!

[@PoopcakesTheThird]

It still weirds me out that there are some lesbians who refuse to date bi women- I legit cannot imagine caring about who my partner used to date. I’m not dating their ex’s, I’m dating my partner.

[@trinstonmichaels7062]

The balls are so much superior to us just one line to make them unlike a 1000 line to make us.

[@milabirch7356]

I'm a sex-repulsed ace, yet Take Me to Church is one of my favorite songs of all time. Make it make sense

[@Lantispitfire]

Another ace here, I've been jamming to Dinner and Diatribes recently