i'm comin out

[@ecooper1028]

"Every time someone steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place. So thank you."

[@MecNataliaMec]

Captain Raymond Jacob Holt ❤

[@allisonchaplick6207]

Ahhhhhhhhhhn your making me cry

[@yesha2448]

Whoo hoo

[@angelabrauner5270]

Agreed! So beautiful!

[@jesswinter]

I grew up with a gay uncle and an old lesbian couple as my neighbors. I am straight but it was nice to always know that if I wasn’t, my parents and grandparents would still love me. So many others don’t get that love. I plan to give my kids that same comfort.

[@rinnbin]

My neighbours growing up were/are a lesbian couple as well. I joined a soccer team with them and my mom is friends with them. Half of my girlfriends and at least three guy friends came out in highschool in the 90s. My mom, as a superintendent in school in the very early 2000s began what was called "the gay-straight alliance" (in Canada - I'm sure there's a different name for it by now) which was about gay rights and trans acceptance and getting the stupid washroom issues sorted out etc. So, like you, I may not be bi or gay (maybe bi-curious) but I 100% support anyone's process and so does my entire family. It's so nice to see someone else who didn't have to struggle through it themselves, but is still sharing that kind of true, supportive and accepting love. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@meowgir47]

ahhhh. as a bisexual woman who grew up in the south and also survived an abusive engagement, this is such a relatable story for me.. I’m so happy for you that you’re in such a good place now! I’m crying along with you.

[@kawehi13]

Me too minus the south but I did grow up in a very Conservative Christian (Mormon) family and my parents are homophobic/transphobic. I was also homeschool for highschool like she was so I can relate to so much from her story.

[@peneleapai]

Sending love 💕 to both (all three) of ye women on this thread. I'm sorry it was difficult in ye're childhood and youth. I actually love *homeschooling* , but whatever 'system' one chooses, the depth/calibre of the individuals in a kid's life is by far the most important factor 💜

[@fishiefishies3245]

@@kawehi13 I was Mormon until I was almost 39. What a toxic environment, no? Good for you for creating an authentic life for yourself!

[@kawehi13]

@@fishiefishies3245 so very toxic! Everyone preaching about “loving thy neighbor as thy self” while talking shit about everyone at church behind their back. The cliques of people playing who’s a better Mormon. The parents talking about their kids like they’re pawns in a game of chess, making it a competition of who’s kid is the better Mormon. Out of all the people around my age I grew up going to church with, only 3 are still active members & they’re all cishet men. So, they benefit the most from the church. A few of my friends who came out as queer, their parents left the church to support their kids. Their parents were the ones you’d consider perfect Mormons too. It’s amazing seeing them love their kids that much. My family isn’t anything like that. In fact, my uncle came out as gay, was excommunicated, disowned by my grandparents & his siblings. He recently went back in the closet to get re-baptized & become a temple member again. My heart breaks for him. I’ve been disowned & I couldn’t care less. I rather be happy & be my true authentic self, than be miserable my whole life just to have my toxic family around. I’m in therapy for all the trauma I faced from the church. I was groomed at 15 years old by a 21 year old man, I got pregnant at 16 by him, & the church tried to force me to marry him. My parents fully supported it. He ended up abusing me in every way possible & they turned a blind eye. When I got pregnant, I was forced to do an interview with the bishop alone while he asked me detailed questions about my sex life. A 16 year old child alone behind closed doors with a man in his 40s, so he could ask that child very detailed questions about every sexual encounter they’ve had. That’s disgusting. My parents completely supported it too. They act like the bishop can solve all problems, like he’s Jesus Christ himself. My parents went bankrupt when I was 7/8 years old because my mom has a shopping addiction. Addiction runs in her family & she chose shopping over drugs or alcohol. She went to the bishop for help & nothing ever got better. 10 years later & they’re in the same spot again because she put them hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt. She isn’t getting real help this time either, she’s going back to the bishop for help. Also, when I was 5 my mom had to be airlifted from Colorado to Utah for an emergency hysterectomy & the state trooper drove us to Utah. My dad was driving cross country 18 wheeler semi trucks, so he couldn’t get us. Instead of calling a friend to have us start the night there, or having us stay with social services, we stayed the night with some random bishop they’ve never met before. I was 4 or 5 years old & my sister was 1 or 2 years old. I can’t remember everything up until we got to the bishop house & got into the room. I don’t remember my dad getting us, I don’t remember several weeks after going into that room. I’m not sure what happened, if anything happened. But I can’t remember everything before perfectly. I have flashbacks to all the events leading up to it. So, I’m kind of suspicious about what happened after that. I have so much trauma & a lot is due to the church. Sorry if I’m trauma dumping. I just hate the church with a passion & I wish it came crashing down.

[@kawehi13]

@@peneleapai I feel like homeschooling can be good if done right & if it’s for the benefit of the child. But if you’re in a toxic environment like I was, it’s very harmful.

[@gc_idk7433]

"I have a heart that is prismatic enough to love multiple genders" that is so beautiful I have never heard before! So excited to know you're part of this community! all the love x

[@RebeccaLane]

Side note of being so incredibly happy, your voice totally sounds different? I feel like you're always "ON" in your other videos and this feels so much more real you just talking to us, and I like it. Both are amazing and you're a wonderful gem!

[@MonicaMettert]

I noticed this, too 💗

[@IMakeupStuff]

Yeah, I noticed it too. It's like, way deeper?

[@RebeccaLane]

@@IMakeupStuff totally!

[@laurendaniels6817]

I think it was just because she was so emotional in this video!

[@RebeccaLane]

@@laurendaniels6817 Yea I think so too! And she just was being totally laid back and honest and not the normal type of video. I think the deep voice was pretty sexy ahha.

[@leilam3154]

I've been a casual watcher, so I can't say that I have been invested in your content, but this has made me so happy for you you don't even know. Everytime each person has the strenght to go against every shameful thing they have been taught about not being straight and cis and live life as their true self, the world becomes a better place. When you started talking about your girlfriend, this brought tears to my eyes. Love you lots.

[@IxiaRayne]

I literally watched you back in the green curtain days. When you weren't yet married. It seems like ages ago - and I bet it feels like it to you too. I'm so glad you're finally in a happy, non abusive relationship. And that you found love and comfort and acceptance within your partnership, but also within yourself. We love ya. Can't wait to meet your girl 🌈

[@aeri_taylors-version]

wait, what happened to her? i’ve missed her youtube vids for years n only recently started watching her again

[@peaceloveluck4]

"Staying silent and afraid meant that somebody else owned my story." HOLY cow, this is powerful. Thank you so much for sharing your story-your strength and courage is really inspirational, and I hope that someday I'll be able to speak my truth as bravely as you do.

[@kathychapman3131]

The grace and humility with which you told your story is truly amazing. 💜 As a mother of an LGBTQ son, I am heartbroken by your story, but so proud of your strength! Celebrate your progress and be happy!

[@ByCatJ]

Working through that "I'm a monster and a murderer" feeling is brutal. It takes guts. You're a badass.

[@הכנהלראיונותעבודהסופישומר]

you deserve to be happy and live loving yourself!!!

[@brinaf2857]

I'm so angry that she was made to feel that way to begin with... It's just horrible. I'm so glad she's in a better place now. ❤️

[@zairabandy8695]

just goes to show you that religion is bad, essentially. It just educate young people into thinking terrible things about other humans. It teaches guilt and not belonging. Is horrible.

[@ByCatJ]

@@zairabandy8695 exactly. I'm sure some churches are beautiful communities of love and support, but I haven't seen one yet.

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

Never set yourself on fire to keep others warm... So proud of you.

[@kisabel028]

Wow when you said, "I felt like I couldn't understand reality without a translator." That resonated with me so much.

[@DebZava]

I just can't wait to see Kayley braiding her girlfriend's hair

[@ashleyluna309]

Why?

[@bibliophilecb]

I know right? I’m so excited to see her girlfriend as long as she’s comfortable being on camera!

[@bibliophilecb]

@@ashleyluna309 because it’ll be cute as heck

[@DebZava]

@@bibliophilecb yes, no rush. Doing it on her time, but she's already warmly welcomed

[@ashleyluna309]

@@bibliophilecb yes it will be 🥰

[@DominoKati]

Girl, I just wanted to leave some love for you. Obviously I'm super proud of you and I've also noticed your glow-from-the-inside and I absolutely LOVE it! 😍 Just wanted to let you know how much you've changed my life probably without knowing about it. I've started watching your videos when I was 15 (that's almost 10 years omg) and I've watched EVERY video and tried out most of the hairstyles and practiced like crazy. Well.. 9-10 years later I'm one of Germanys biggest hair-KZbinr and I now also have my very own hairbrand. Little Kayley with the green background didn't know it yet and had her own struggles to go trough.. But I'm just so proud of you and thank you for taking us along and teaching me all things hair. Love, Kati ❤️

[@Unitedleo1]

Süße 🥰😘

[@nina-thi]

Wait, Kati? Hätte ich hier nicht erwartet.

[@marieschneider9450]

Voll lieb von dir sie so zu supporten! Ich selbst folge euch beiden seit meinen Teenager-Jahren, weil Haare (offensichtlich) und weil ihr beide euch einfach immer treu geblieben seid 😊 Normalerweise weniger der Kommentierer, wenns nicht grad um politisch-moralisches geht, aber das find ich grad mega lieb von dir 😍 LG, eine Haare-Katzen-Kaffee Liebhaberin

[@DominoKati]

@@nina-thi bin Fan der ersten Stunde hihi

[@AdventureswithAmirah]

💕💜💕

[@mathi3933]

This might be a bit of a superficial observation, but: the wording, storytelling and metaphores here are so good. This is a style I would love to read in a very cool magazine or something!

[@bonniebaldwin1760]

I’ve been out for like 5 years and this video made me realize so much about my whole journey as a kid as well. Very well worded. Words I’ve never been able to say myself

[@lovelavenderlily]

I don’t think that’s a superficial observation at all. That’s what I was thinking about the whole time. The way she speaks sounds like she wrote a story, and she did. She wrote the story of her life to us, and that’s powerful. She could absolutely be a writer.

[@peneleapai]

Looking forward to the printed version soon ✨⚡✨

[@nonez9539]

at 8 minutes my heart broke when i heard what she said, pleading with god. im so happy for you kayley, for having the confidence to be who you are. xx

[@UnePetiteAmie]

I’m disgusted that you were given that explanation by the adult on your field trip. I’m so sorry

[@melaniequintero6256]

Ikr, that's terrible.

[@imyourhappydrug]

I can 100% relate to ignoring a whole half of yourself and acting on male crushes but ignoring female ones because of being scared of being punished and discarded. The truth is we deserve better. Welcome to the rainbow family and the bi family beautiful!! So proud of you for coming so far, you are radiant!

[@andreagoes3021]

I am 32 and still ignoring that half of me for all the reasons I dont even have to name bc I know many can relate. Luckily for me, I can speak freely here to be able to say that without the fear of someone I know seeing it.. I feel sad to even have to acknowledge that 😢 but Kayley's courage (along with all the other LBGTQIA+ people) is so inspiring! Thank you for your comment. I feel seen and it makes my heart feel full 💖

[@kurb4261]

As someone who’s been watch since “green bed sheet background” days and who also came out a few years ago, I am so PROUD of you! Congrats girl!

[@mariahflorez7005]

Also- watching you gush about your girlfriend was the wholesome I needed in my day❤️❤️❤️ I’m so sorry that you had a rough start in understanding yourself. But I’m so happy you learned how valid you are as a person.

[@elladuchesne2682]

I remember watching this three years ago, multiple times and feeling so comforted, happy and accepted by it (idk how to explain the feeling) but I would still deny to myself that I was queer at all…. Now I’m out and proud of it (maybe not out to everyone though….) so thank you Kayley for helping me on a little part of my journey

[@amandaharris421]

“I had worked through enough stuff to survive, but I wasn’t thriving.” Holy cow. I FELT that. I’ve been surviving for years. But I haven’t thrived in a long time. My goal for the next few years is to start thriving. I’m so glad you’re finally thriving and happy ❤️

[@sierraocelot8137]

I randomly got this recommended and I still support this.

[@chiapia54]

Oh my gosh, this feels full circle. I was 13 and ashamed of myself for having a crush on Kayley watching her videos back in 2013 and trying to surpress my sexuality. Now out as bisexual at 21. Man, life is crazy😅

[@Xnedrashallan]

Same. Although I started watching her when I was 24 and am now 30 ❤️❤️❤️.

[@blueprint-edits]

Gaydar on point 😅

[@lightrose01]

ME TOO. I just remembered how I thought (when she did safiyas wedding hair): omg, she is just so beautiful and kind. she is the kind of woman, I would love to date.

[@lotta3664]

Yeeah, I think I had a crush on her too and didn't realize it. I didn't understand why I felt that way. And I'm still not out, still struggling at 21.

[@andreakilin]

OMG 😳 same, girlfriend, same. I found Kayley today after i "abandoned" her when she married a guy. It's been years and I feel so validated !!!!!!

[@Ida6326]

Dear Kayley 🧡 I’ve been a silent viewer since the “green” days, but I just have to put a comment on this. This video brought me to tears, not because I myself am gay or even bisexual, but because of the way you told your story. If it was a book I would’ve said it was the most beautifully written book I had read. The words you had chosen, the metaphors you used, it made my ears happy and sang directly to my heart. You’re a fantastic creator both with hair and words. Congratulations on coming home, you’ve deserved it🧡 I salute you 🍸🌈

[@rainuhface09]

"with a heart that is prismatic enough to love multiple genders" 🥺

[@brinaf2857]

That's just beautiful ❤️

[@jenschultz3354]

That got me too! ❤️🌈

[@redheadrunaway4734]

made my little trans heart cry.

[@sjayy290]

As someone getting out of an abusive marriage without questioning my secxally I can only image. Thank you for this. I needed this. And I am so happy for you! It's nice to know my road isn't over

[@kykomal11]

You have no idea how happy does it make me feel. I still remember the day when you were crying while making a video regarding your divorce and ever since I've been supporting you even more but now that you've come up, I feel so proud to be a subscriber of your channel. So personal, yet informative. So fun and entertaining. I like to hear you speaking and I love to see you smiling. Sending you lots of love and warm hugs all the way from India. 🇮🇳🥰

[@kailagarbarino7892]

Girl, when I say this broke my heart to hear about little baby Kayley thinking she was evil 🥺 you have all my love and support!

[@amber-jeanzischke6826]

My heart broke when you’re talking about how you pleaded with God to take it away. I am so proud of you and for the world changing and understand and accepting. I’ve been part of the braidaholic family for years and you are so strong! Thank you for sharing your journey 🌈

[@lindapaterson-ruck]

{My heart broke when you’re talking about how you pleaded with God to take it away} God gave us the gift of choice. One may wonder why humans are to make any choices at all. God gave us each a mind to think with reason in the hopes that we will follow His Will.

[@riv05060]

I don’t think I’d ever heard your voice being SOOO deep not even when you spoke about your divorce

[@anetastepanova8465]

Kayley, I’ve been following you for at least 10 years now, and you’ve never looked happier than you do now. I’m so sorry for all the bad things you had to go through, and I’m really proud I could be here and follow you through this journey ❤️ I’m really happy for you. Thank you for opening up!

[@Kelly-ib1hf]

I can't wait for a time when people don't have to "come out" anymore and can just discover themselves freely and without fear. Love is love!

[@feliciakamga9983]

Why is coming out bad?

[@emmao6578]

@@feliciakamga9983 They obviously aren't saying coming out in itself is bad, they are saying that society making you feel the need to hide who you are is bad.

[@user-di6cn2ne7u]

@@feliciakamga9983 it's not "bad" , but no one has to 'come out' as straight. They just ARE straight and no one questions it.

[@BritniRobots]

I completely agree! No one should feel obligated to prove their sexual identities to others by "coming out." They should just be able to love whoever they want to love without anyone questioning it.

[@daireanthony1231]

Ah, you had me crying. This was so much more than just a discussion of your sexuality. Wow, so beautiful. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing with us ♥️

[@LALA-yy5tm]

AS A 55 YEAR OLD STRAIGHT WOMAN , IM PROUD OF YOU !! BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE !! LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES !! LIKE I TOLD MY PRECIOUS COUSIN WHOM I ABSOLUTELY ADORE, YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE ITS NOT A CHOICE IT IS WHAT IS IN YOUR HEART !! DOES IT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE ? NO !! DOES IT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON ? NO ! IT MAKE YOU AN AMAZING PERSON WHO IS SECURE IN YOUR LIFE !!!

[@BuffytheRealSlayer]

I might be ridiculously late to watching this, but I wanted to say how much this video touched me. I, too, grew up in the church and am having to deal with undoing all the trauma those years caused me. We are made to feel like being who we truly are is wrong and shameful. You have to conform, conform, conform until you are made to feel that anything outside their "norm" is wrong. I had a best friend come out as an adult and I remember telling him that I "still loved him, but could not support his lifestyle". It took stepping away from the church and beginning to deal with healing my own traumas to see how hurtful those words were and I have since humbly apologized to him. Years later, I became friends with a girl who is bi and I have had many, many conversations with her. Because of these conversations, my own journey of sexual discovery began. I searched deep and realized I really wasn't attracted to anyone, but thought men were more physically pleasing to me even though women were stunning. Then I had to dig deep to figure out if my lack of attraction was deep rooted, leftover, purity culture indoctrination or truly me. Figuring out I am indeed asexual was so liberating. I wasn't broken because I had never been in a relationship. I was simply not interested. And your talking about losing that wall and embracing every single part of yourself hit SO close to home for me. I am still dismantling that wall. But you have given me such hope. ❤❤❤

[@heymbecker]

I’ve been following you for many years now and I’m glad that you’re happy! You’ve seemed so happy and relaxed recently, which is lovely.

[@allisonringold1023]

I did not expect to be on the verge of tears at the end of this, but I was. THANK YOU for being so open about your mental health and sexuality. You made me realize that, though I’ve grown up in a liberal area and was never shamed the way you were, I still have so much shame I still have to address. You gave me hope for my journey, and I can never thank you enough for that.

[@1MegArbo]

This is such a great message not just on sexual identity, but on having the courage to accept all the facets of ourselves. Thank you for your courage, vulnerability, and for being an example to women of all ages. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@romanhill263]

I was near tears this whole time, I've just started my therapy journey and have a lot of shame and feelings of embarrassed about myself, years of trauma to work through, some of it involving my experience as a lesbian. So I really resonated with what you said, thank you for being brave and sharing your story ❤

[@littlestjenna]

Holy shit, your bit of being terrified to date girls because of internalized homophobia hit so hard for me. I was in Catholic school from K-8th and then did a bunch of church stuff all through high school. I'm just now starting to unravel it all but just thanks for this video Kayley. It means a lot.

[@brinaf2857]

I'm straight, so I can't say that I know what it feels like, I just know that it made me so sad and so angry to learn how much she suffered (and I realize, not just Kayley) and for what? I'm just happy she found a person who loves her the way she deserves, and I wish you the same ❤️

[@brookenjonas]

I straight up had a lesbian couple who attended my Catholic Church growing up every week

[@colleenrose22]

Good luck on your journey of self acceptance.💕🌈

[@AnnMMaine]

I've been following you since day one and it makes me so happy that not only do you have the best hair advice, you're such an amazing human. This is brave and beautiful and will speak to so many. Thanks for being you!

[@kath_erinelara]

It's so sad when the wrong people make us feel so bad about how we are, but i'm so happy and proud of you for being strong and accepting yourself.

[@ellefrench483]

I’m so proud of the comments section right now- everyone is being so sweet!

[@mgr3969]

Kayley, I've been a folloer for many years, I just wanted to say that this video has made me so happy for you. I cried genuine ters of joy listening to your retelling of how you survived. There's so much beauty in the strength you've shown, the strength to overcome and overall, to decide to take steps to be happy! This video shows how being true to yourself and letting go of guilt unburdened you and made you thrive, and that's beautiful! The genuine happiness you show is wonderful! Also, you were extremely eloquent, sensitive, kind and wise in this; the wording of everything was amazing. I loved your phrasing and metaphors, it made it very personal. All in all, a great, great video! Sending much love your way and may you continue on your path to self love, happiness and finding your best self!!! Thank you for sharing!

[@addiepage2214]

Kayley, I'm so proud of you! Thank you for including us in this important part of yourself. I've been watching your channel since 2014 and I'm sorry to hear you went through some of that. That's something no one should have to go through but it's amazing that you are where you are now. I'm so excited you've been happier lately now. You have our support.

[@BeautyOnABudget]

Haven't even watched yet, but just remember for every hater out there, there are so many more people who love you and are proud of you for living your truth. You are already a role model to so many and now you're giving folks another reason to look up to you.

[@ellabruniges3108]

@ConstanceMozart doesn’t agree with the fact that someone is happy and true to themselves?

[@BeautyOnABudget]

just finished watching - can't wait to meet your special person on this channel and shower her with the love she deserves for being a part of your journey and your healing

[@gabriellaberglund3651]

It’s not for anyone else to agree or disagree with. It’s none of anyone elses business!

[@amyhammer2707]

@ConstanceMozart I think people can disagree with her but one becomes a hater when they aren’t polite in their comments.

[@acl8857]

@ConstanceMozart Hater: Anyone who doesn't agree with it and thinks their hateful opinion actually matters. Which it doesn't. You can disagree and still be kind.

[@ashleyparisio9579]

So this video is AMAZING. I truly hope you feel the love from everyone here, because you are surrounded by support!!

[@hannahmaher7831]

"I'm gonna go take a tequila shot and cry and hug my girlfriend." 🥰🥰 🌈

[@ohheyscarlett]

Right!? That made me cry happy tears (like I wasn’t already, but even more so!)

[@florenceq9660]

I’m crying in my kitchen I’m so happy and so proud ❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@florenceq9660]

I am also bi and queer and I’m so happy you’re able to express yourself 😭🥰

[@Raymondinakangolhat]

I hope we can all one day say "Oh I'm happy you found someone who loves you and who you love" irrespective of their genders and sexualities

[@MC-ko2mx]

This. Love is love.

[@Zanthia494]

I am so impressed by how elegantly and clearly you described these complicated and tough feelings. It really shows how much you've thought this through and how hard you've worked to fix yourself. You should be very proud of yourself!

[@ereteshk]

You literally taught me how to braid almost ten years ago, and I am sooooo happy for you, you’re just glowing and it’s obvious how wonderful and genuine your life is!! Best best best wishes to you and your girlfriend!!

[@stefanielow6915]

I've been a casual lurker on this channel for almost 10 years now. You helped me feel confident and beautiful when I was at my lowest and most insecure. I can't express how happy I am for you, having seen your transformation into who you've become. I'm so proud of you and I can't wait to see what you'll accomplish in the future

[@shawnamartin8054]

The pride I have for you is immeasurable. I’m so so so proud of how far you’ve come and how you can embrace who you are! Absolutely nothing changed in how much I respect who you are and how far you’ve come! I’ve noticed a big difference in you and am so happy you can be happy with who you are and who you love ❤️❤️

[@arm014]

I'm so happy you've found a relationship where you feel loved for being you and that you don't feel like you have to hide or change any part of yourself anymore out of fear of being accepted and loved. I love your channel, your tips and your personality I can't wait to see what comes next! :)

[@sophiemariealex]

out of no disrespect, this was the last thing i was ever expecting!

[@brinaf2857]

I didn't see it coming either, but I'm happy for her ❤️

[@tieganmagill7988]

I’m so happy for you! My sister came out as gay about 5 years ago and she’s truly blossomed since, so I’m so happy you get to have that too

[@Jane-gx7mz]

“It is calm, sweet, and nurturing.” Thank you, thank you for sharing this truth 💜✨💜✨

[@brinaf2857]

That's what true love feels like, I'm so happy she found it ❤️

[@MomnSajie]

I felt the same way. I was 13 when my mom told me that she knew I was Asexual. I did not understand it. I thought that was impossible and said that I loved boys and girls. I just didn’t want sex. I wanted love. She was the only person I opened up to but I didn’t know my cousin was listening and told my entire ...Strict Catholic family. And the shame poured in. So I “renounced” my sexuality before I understood it. I got married. I had a baby before I was looking into some lgbtq educational videos and learned the term Demi sexual. I felt like I woke up for the first time. I finally had words to describe me. And that’s when I decided that I was never going hide again.

[@peneleapai]

💕⚡ arrgh I'm so .. { feeling anger } at your Mother for choosing to act like that to you when you were *THIRTEEN* 😡😠😡🤬😡😠😡

[@freyaporter99]

A kid being told that they are as bad as a murderer for not being straight or cis is just ... it's terrifying. It's why our children complete suicide in staggering numbers. It's why we lose the children of our community without ever being given the chance to help them. I'm so sorry for those kids, and I'm so sorry you were one of them. And I'm also so glad you are one of the ones who got a chance to be loved for who you are. Owning your trauma like this is so powerful, and I hope you're proud of yourself too.

[@AndreaS-Og]

The word cis needs to go. Idk why it's even a word.

[@cmast8772]

As someone that has watched you since (almost) the very beginning, it was been so amazing to watch you grow as a person and I have watched your videos since I was a middle schooler that wanted to do cool hairstyles! Your channel has turned into so much more than just hair videos. Coming out to us is going to be so uplifting and inspiring for others that may be struggling with what you struggled with. I think I can speak for everyone when I say- we’re so happy you’re happy! Can’t wait to see what is in store for you!

[@LoriVasconcellos]

Same here!

[@Aurriel]

Dear Kayley, I have been watching your videos a lot in the past. And I remember that I stopped around the time you got married. And now in the last 3 or 4 months you popped up in my feed again. Your energy changed soo much. I am happy for you that you allowed yourself to be you! 🧡

[@laura_w3586]

It’s so great to see your progress over the past two years❤️ It’s been a long way and we are so honored that you allowed us to be part of it. We support you no matter what and you can’t imagine how proud we are and how much we love you!

[@snapsslm]

“A heart that is prismatic enough” What beautiful, inspiring words. Thank you for being YOU.

[@Pauina009]

I still wonder if I'm partly bi. I never considered that I was allowed to see girls in that way, yet often I still find myself occasionally saying things like "If I was a guy, I'd date her". And there were so many times in my childhood that I would wish I was a boy as well. I'm married now, and if I ever decide how I feel about myself, and maybe, just maybe decide I'm bi or something close; I at least know that my husband would be supportive of me.

[@mcord07]

That happened to me but thinking that if I was a lesbian I would date that girl. Figuring out your sexuality can be a long journey, take your time, there's no need to rush :) You can watch videos of people's experiences and that might help you understand your feelings better or you could talk with someone that you think could be supportive. Either way, I hope that eventually you find the clarity that you're searching for and that people around you will accept you no matter what ^^

[@emcrawford9225]

this must be a sign bc ive started to accept myself and my sexuality too! we love you no matter what and we're all proud of you

[@brinaf2857]

I don't know where you are in your journey or if you have the love and support you deserve, but you are important and worthy of love just the way you are. I wish you a safe journey. ❤️

[@amyhammer2707]

Briana F said it perfectly! As you progress in your journey, remember you are perfect just the way you are!

[@Anniloves21]

You are loved!

[@khills]

That’s /awesome/ - #TeamYou!

[@emcrawford9225]

@@brinaf2857 thank you love :)

[@starlight737]

Thank you for speaking on this, especially your experience with being bi 🙏 bi erasure is very real and there are lots of misconceptions out there (we can turn it on or off, etc.) Lots of love and support 🏳️‍🌈

[@strangeduckling]

Bi-erasure and biphobia are so so real, out _and_ in The Community

[@charlayincharge]

I don’t usually comment on KZbin videos, but I just have to let you know how beautiful this is. The way you describe your experience and your journey to get to the place you are now is inspiring. You put words to something that many people struggle to express. Thank you!

[@sstaton1771]

I had the exact same realization when I discovered "what" I was and what that meant. I'm not religious but my mom is a very devout Catholic. I did find a good man who helped me through the years. You are seen. Your experiences are valid. And I'm also telling this to myself ❤️

[@asteriaerudite]

The way you explained your story was so beautiful. Yesterday I talked about my sexuality for the first time with my therapist. It is like fate that your video came up. It was so nice to recognize myself in your story. I felt less alone. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️

[@rebeccam4956]

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 thank you for sharing your story and thank you for still being here. You are valued, you are worthy and you are loved. Thank you. And thank you for helping even just one person by sharing this! You mean so much. This means so much.

[@molchkrote3141]

I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship of 2.5 years and last summer I finally found the courage to leave him. This moved me to tears and even though I‘m straight I can resonate with your story more than you know. I am so proud of you for reclaiming yourself and your story and for being so incredibly brave! You are visibly thriving and it makes me so happy!❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@stellarpanda1266]

So glad to hear you’re free now, it is brave to recognise that you’re in an abusive relationship and it is so brave to be able to make the decision to leave. Wishing you well!

[@molchkrote3141]

@@stellarpanda1266 Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate your support. It truly was one of the best decisions I ever made.

[@carolescott5731]

I've watched you for years like back to the green curtain days. I found you from a Lauren conrad updo. So proud and happy for you. 🌈

[@maryltake1449]

Life is so hard and I'm so proud of you! My grand daughter is in her teens and most of the family gave her so much grief that she was put on anti-depressants. So happy to be one of your followers and so proud of you having the love and courage to be who you are, Way to go!!!!

[@marianne8352]

I’ve been watching you since the pre-cosmetology school, pre- marriage, voiceover days. In fact you were the very first person I ever subscribed to on KZbin! I have connected with you since the very first video I watched, & the more you open up to us the more I realise why! There are so many similarities in our life story, & I’m so very happy to see you enjoying your life so much now!!!!

[@marisastracner3973]

I am so damn proud of you for coming out and telling us your story. I’ve been out as bisexual for just a bit over a decade. Similar to you, I grew up in a catholic home and was taught to believe homosexuality was wrong. I never believed it, and I’m so glad. In high school, I was scared and thought I hid my relationship with my first girlfriend from my family. I ended up coming out to my dad after we had broken up, to come to find out, he and all my family already knew and supported me. Enough about me though. I have been a big fan of your channel for years now. I am so happy for you and your girlfriend. Thank you again for sharing your story with us

[@tngirlz4622]

So, so sorry you felt so awful for so long because of something those around you believed. I wish I could hug that suffering 13-year-old and tell her God loves everyone - God IS love, and will love you no matter what gender, colour, culture, or faith you are. Bless you and your girlfriend, wishing you every happiness! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@lindapaterson-ruck]

God hates our sins but He forgives us if we repent and confess them to Him (1 John 1:9) but if you say you’re not a sinner, then you are actually calling God a liar (1 John 1:8, 10) because every human that has ever lived has sinned (Rom 3:23). For those who are His own children and are born again God loves us but He never loves the sin.

[@strangeduckling]

BISEXUALS RISE UP We stan a bisexual queen, an ICON

[@juliarachel5327]

Thank you for being a role model to me in so many ways. Knowing this has been part of you the whole time makes me feel so seen and validated because it's a lot of stuff I've been going through too. Feeling joy for you!!

[@dashaalbert1228]

I’m so sorry you had all these scary emotions. You’re such a pure person that doesn’t deserve it. I hope going forward you’re surrounded by love and support for who you are. Sending a virtual hug and positive vibes your way. You’re beautiful and perfect just the way you are.

[@KestralWolfe]

As an old (ish) married (to a trans woman), queer, genderfluid, demisexual/demiromantic, pansexual, I have only one thing to say. Welcome to the club, and I'm so proud of you. Thank you for sharing, and I'm so happy, so glad you finally felt comfortable enough to share.

[@lazywonderlandwhispers]

YAY WELCOME TO THE LGBTQ+ FAMILY WE'RE HAPPY TO HAVE YOU

[@kristinabissonette1620]

Every time I see someone else tell their coming out story, I am reminded of how lucky some of us have it. I was able to come out because others were out and proud before me. Thank you for your bravery. You are paving the path for those who come after you.

[@Channel24377]

Hi but how do u meet people? because I’ve had a hard time meeting someone I know is too but idk what to do to meet someone like me. Also I’ve met many opposite gender but not same gender so I feel it’s super hard to find someone like me any advice?

[@kristinabissonette1620]

@@Channel24377 I'm 40 and still don't have the answer to that one. I mostly flail awkwardly and stutter until someone else makes a move.

[@IlexOpacaLP]

From a fellow bi girl and a longtime follower, HECK YES GO YOU!!! So proud of you for coming out!!! 💕💕💕

[@JackieWyers]

So happy for you♥️ adore you!

[@alliealvarado4999]

❤️

[@marcellefreitas505]

you're one of the only people i've followed for as long as i have (a decade, at least!) and it has been incredible to see you come into yourself over the years. i wish you so much happiness and am very proud you have finally told your story! All the love to you always

[@lachingontoyou]

My reactions to this video ranged from an empathetic series of "oh"s and "oh no"s to progressively louder "Yes! Yaaaasss!", with the final, almighty "YAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSS" when you said, "I'm going to go hug my girlfriend." I can't coherently express how happy I am for you. We love seeing you thrive, we love seeing you be happy. You're a friend, Kayley, and we all want the best for you, always! ❤️

[@bibliophilecb]

Congrats!! I kind of had a feeling this was coming (literally yelled out “I knew it!!” out loud when I saw the notification). Not that I’d ever assume anyone’s sexuality, but as a bi/queer woman myself, a lot of your recent posts and comments felt very familiar to me. I’m so proud of you for realizing who you are in spite of an environment that told you otherwise. I’m so proud of you 💙💜💖

[@brooklynsieloff3188]

Bro I did the same thing

[@bibliophilecb]

@@brooklynsieloff3188 yeah my bi-fi has been going off so much with her lately haha.

[@beautybylyssa21]

Me too! I didn’t expect it but at the same time I wasn’t surprised lol. But when I saw her IG post I said OMG YES!!!

[@biancab181]

As a bisexual woman, my journey to come out has been a long one as well. I tried to come out in high school and my family shamed me. My mom caught me flirting with a girl in my facebook dm's and she was furious. After that I suppressed it for years and years. People know I'm bisexual and a year ago I tried to go on dating apps and go on dates with girls but that moat of shame that you described was so deep for me as well that I never made off the apps and on an actual date. I kind of felt like a girl wouldn't want me or think I was damaged because I had suppressed it for so long. I'm so happy for you that you made it out and that you found someone!! Thank you for sharing your story

[@Voxaints]

Kayley, you're such a strong woman and I'm so so happy for you that you're finally able to live as the person you want to be. I'm so proud and you should know that you're valid and always have been, just like every single human is. Lots of love. ♥️

[@camasbrown-fortin9164]

I love how she is wearing a rainbow sweatshirt

[@taiyabazaheer9492]

Yes, the first thing I noticed. 😀

[@VC-mo5yg]

@@taiyabazaheer9492 it's an HBC shirt

[@jadevt1939]

Yeah, moriah's idea of a nightmare rainbow 😂

[@VC-mo5yg]

@@jadevt1939 lol

[@DefyNottheLoris]

My heart is "prismatic enough to love multiple genders" 💕 🌈 this is so beautiful and validating.

[@SaltiestBlonde]

All I’m saying is in the last video, Kaylee said, “WHEN i get re-married” and I’ve been thinking about that all week and this makes sense. I’m so happy that you have found a relationship that makes you HAPPY, Kaylee.

[@brinaf2857]

So true! That hit me as well after seeing how hurt she was after she got divorced... I'm just happy to see her happy! ❤️

[@MrsRen]

Honestly, I thought at the end of this video she was about to say "I made this video now because the woman I've been with for two years just proposed."

[@SaltiestBlonde]

@@MrsRen I thought her girlfriend was going to pop up in the background or something 😂

[@juliaekblom9419]

I can’t wait to see those hair experiments!! 🥰😍 “Take a tequila shot and cry and hug my girlfriend” best and most relatable quote ever 😂🏳️‍🌈💗

[@simsamsammie]

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[@annaforbes-rogers1323]

This is the most wholesome video Ive ever watched, I was sobbing by the end of it. So much love for you Kayley and we are all so happy for you!

[@LisasOddities]

When I saw the title of this video, I clicked so fast. I completely understand and relate to your story, Kayley. My family and friends and community are all Asians and I was told my whole life that being gay was wrong and not normal and being so meant you are unworthy of life. There was no representation in media of queer Asians and I didn't know anyone who was LGBT+. I grew up questioning my sexuality for as long as I can remember, but I shoved it down and away because I didn't want to be ostracized. I didn't allow myself to truly think about my sexuality until a few years ago and I came out as pansexual/bisexual, but in the past year, I recame out as a lesbian because though I questioned if I liked girls, I never questioned if I liked boys until I read the "Am I a Lesbian?" masterdoc that an LGBT+ KZbinr shared. Everything made more sense after that realization and I feel more myself than I ever have before. It's still hard, but I have since met a lot of queer Asians online who get it and my irl friends accept me. It makes me so happy to see a favorite KZbinr of mine come out. I've watched your videos since 2012 and I've seen you grow and become more confident over time. I'm so proud of you and all that you've accomplished. Can't wait to see videos with your girlfriend! Love is love. 🌈❤️

[@stefaniabosa9886]

Can we get a “grab tissues” disclaimer on this video please?!? GURL!!! I’m so happy for you, that you’re finally living your truth, happy and thriving. ❤️

[@Justcallmekatlion]

I was crying when you talked about taking up YOUR space and stretching out in it and being your true self. I’m so happy that you’re happy. I haven’t been a subscriber for too long, so I’ve always seen you as this kind, lovely and happy human being that you are. The way you talk about your girlfriend makes me so happy. Sounds like both of you hit the jackpot :)

[@brivalenzuela216]

When you talked about god, it really hit home and I started crying. Thank you for sharing ❤️ I hope you find nothing but love on KZbin for this video!