I screwed up.

[@sbudzinski]

Oh crap just watched the rest of the video! Those so called friends are "mean girls" I'm sorry you were hurt. Good for you for taking care of yourself by not subjecting yourself to that anymore.

[@karenwaller8929]

I agree with you Margaret...you don't need to put yourself in a situation that you know isn't right for you. Sometimes we just need to move on and at our age (70+) do what makes you happy.

[@CarrieCollins-tq6vs]

Way to go Margaret! I totally agree on your decision.Have a great week.

[@susanstephens4892]

The friend thing has happened to me down through the ages. I finally realized a few years back that it’s ok to have friends for a time. When friendships fizzles organically it often is just an expiration date on commonalties. Good for you on being firm to the landscape fella.

[@Katie-rz9dp]

Hurray for you Margaret. I'm so glad you decided to let go of the people in your life who no long help uplift you. It took longer for me to "put my foot down" and let go of family who caused me to feel less than the person I know I am. Its so nice to not to have to put myself in situations which cause such anxiety for days before and always days after.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Agree!

[@joysmith2468]

Bravo to you. You took the high road with much grace. I’ve been where you are and it’s disappointing and not easy, especially during these trying times. But you have to save yourself and you did that...

[@cindyscullion5289]

OMG Margaret! When you started talking about your 'friends' I couldn't believe my ears!! I felt like you had lived my life! EXACTLY the same thing has happened to me. I totally, 100% share your feeling in this matter. I try to be rational, understanding, hard on myself - not them. But OMG the hurt and pain. I, like you, eventually pulled myself away from them for my own self love. I am better than being treated like I am a 5th wheel or non existent in many cases. I had been, what I thought was friends with these women since 6th grade! I am also your age. Good for you, and me, for knowing that we deserve better for ourselves.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for sharing!

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

@@MargaretbeingMargaret I appreciated this comment because many of us have people in our lives who now are not good for us.

[@allioakley3372]

I think you handled the lawn guy and your past friends with a lot of class and a lot of grace

[@Locou]

I have so much admiration for you. You have the guts to be honest with yourself, and the bravery to expose your vulnerable side to your audience. It is hard to conquer our egos enough to admit publicly that we were hurt. It’s a quality that not many people have. You have my vote, and my admiration.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Wow. Thanks so much!

[@catparker2078]

I absolutely agree with Locou. You are a class act, Margaret, and I admire your gumption and courage. @@MargaretbeingMargaret

[@madelinem3216]

I agree with you. Some friendships just fade away and there is nothing wrong with that. Why put yourself in that situation.? You do you.

[@redlikewineagain697]

Oh, Margaret...those old "friends" don't sound like friends at all. Don't keep toxic people in your life. Life is too short for that nonsense. Don't compare yourself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. We're all fighting some sort of battle in life even if it's not visible to the outside world. Even the ones who have "money" have problems. I know of 3 very wealthy families who have been cursed with cancer and the death of a child. My point is that no one escapes problems. So many people erroneously believe (thanks to social media!) that everyone else is living THE LIFE, except them. It's a lie. We all have a battle of some sort. You could trade lives with them and you might even find their lives are harder than the one you have (you never know!). Hang in there ♥

[@shirleysnyder546]

So sorry you had that issue with the landscaper. ☹️. And then the “friends!” I totally understand your thoughts and feelings! At our age we have experienced a lot of loses... and it’s sad that includes who we thought were friends... it shouldn’t be that way. So there are times when we have to draw a line to protect ourselves. And that’s okay. Enough is enough is ENOUGH! You responded beautifully

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for the feedback!

[@trishajo5743]

Margaret, you are a doer & shaker for sure. You are where you are meant to be. Doing, caring, needed & loved. NOT with phony friends. You did the right thing. Sadly we’ve all had an issue with scammers. Good luck!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks so much!

[@SharonG-ip3ll]

Good for you for not being bullied by that lawn guy. You also did the right thing by not going to the "mean girls" party. You're absolutely correct in not needing to put yourself through that. You have plenty of people who truly love you and want to be around you. I'm sorry for your breathing issues. I'm in upper East Tennessee and the heat and humidity have been very oppressive. Even inside the house if it gets too warm, I can't breathe. Thanks for another great video. Hoping we all get some relief soon from the heat.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for checking in!

[@jb914927]

You are such a wonderful person… I hope things turn around for the better for you soon! If I lived near you, I’d stop by and lend a hand! Hang in there Miss Margaret!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thank you so much!

[@margaretgreen2826]

I realised early in my life that most “ friendships “ are seasonal according to the stage of our lives, I have a couple of people in my same suburb where I live who I went to primary school with we see each other in the shopping centre and chat for 5 minutes but that’s it we have nothing in common with. And you handled the land scaper very well , sadly work ethic is not the same now as it was . Have a good week. 🙌🌹

[@nancymandle5215]

so enjoyed this friendly update!!! As for weather, i an in northern new jersey, and our hot and humid air is also unbreathable, and is much worse than prior years. I am very impressed with how you handled the landscaper and the clueless friends. I think you did the right (and mature) thing. In my book you are the BEST!!!!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Oh wow! Thank you.

[@deborahshaw9077]

Don’t set yourself up for that again!!!! You’re done with them. You DO NOT NEED THEM!!!!

[@kathyhoward3961]

Good for you Margaret life is to short to put up with some people from school , they just wanted to make you feel uncomfortable again. It all makes sense . Thank you Margaret for letting us be a part of your life. You always make me smile.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks

[@BR-kk9qu]

I understand what you are saying about the landscaping company. The BBB is essentially a paid membership. It doesn’t mean as much as people assume. Things will calm down. The heat is oppressive! - Belinda

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

It just helps to have it on file if he continues this way. Thanks!

[@RMHMimi]

It’s unfair that people think theBB will help them. The BB is a type of business advertiser. Business pay to have their names posted there. You may have already been told by the BB they will not be helping you and your complaint is going to drop off their site. Your landscaper is not accredited by the BB. Your complaint is going nowhere, it will disappear. Your complaint to the credit card company is also going nowhere. It’s a she said he issue. He will get to keep your money. Going forward, with any service you always pay only when completed! If material is involved give them maybe $50. And be willing to pay for material with an invoice upon arrival of material. Labor is never paid for until all is completed. If money is involved write it down and have it signed. Any type of scape paper will do, nothing formal is needed. And by the way his name is David S not Steven. Calling him Steven just looks like you have problems keeping facts straight. So like you said lesson learned, be grateful it was only $1000. Many have lost much more. Sadly, I think you were an easy mark to him. An elderly single woman who gave him a thousand dollars, he’s done and you just keep complaining and you cannot be satisfied.😢

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

Always take a before picture which can be sent in a text with clear instructions Next time you are threatened, tell him you would love to talk to a judge about this and give me a date and I will be there with my documentation. I did this once with a flooring guy who I subtracted 25% of his bill for aggravation. lol Project confidence. Remember you are the boss. Don't worry about your weight. You look beautiful. I just started to watch your channel. I want to warn you about heavy gardening. If you have medications, breathing/allergies etc. please do not get into brush that may have poison ivy, stinging nettle, pine needles, all are allergic. I know people who got severe allergic skin/breathing reactions even going to the hospital. This is a time in our life when we don't need to do these things. Be protective. I have a couple of friends who are mean too. I went online to research it and it could be a type of narcissism that I never noticed before or they have gotten worse with age. It's their problem. I can't keep up with their money/lifestyle either and yet I am grateful for my beautiful home and property. I am happy with little. I began to notice in recent months that they pressure me and my health was being affected. Very prying questions, manipulative, and put downs...why? I don't treat them like this. They may wonder why I didn't stand up to them but like you did, I would rather show grace. Margaret, you did the right thing!!! God will protect and comfort you.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for a great post!

[@sunnyday4589]

I completely agree on your decision to not attend ‘rude girls reunion’. Between your nasty landscaper guy and your former classmates you’ve truly had a time of it! I admire your self control. I hate when people throw their wealth, education and or station in life around as if it makes them any better. 💕 Hugs my friend! Can’t wait to see the wooden elephants!

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

deep down they are insecure IMO

[@elizabethmeyer1529]

You just ‘grew up’ by saying NO to this invitation. Putting yourself back in high school is rough and at our age we now get to pick and choose who we spend time with. I love the fact that NO is a complete sentence! Good for you. 💕

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Exactly!!

[@Felice-hc2dh]

You did the right thing in not going Margaret.. and you did it with class.👍

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thank you! 😃

[@bmiller106]

Margaret, at our age we outgrow our high. School friends . It’s been 20 years since I even bothered to attend any reunion activities. I moved away I’ve lost contact . You do what feels right to you. But after I was told I was a bitch , hell could freeze over before I gave them anymore ammo to use against you . Times are hard you have a great life and you don’t n eed to try to fit into their lives . Sounds like they never ventured out and grew up . Money doesn’t bring happiness at all. It can be a very sad and lonely life . We love you just the way you are . None of us are perfect but we are making it one day at a time. You have sisters who know your worth you don’t need to lower yourself to their standards Thanks for you talks , I so enjoy listening to you .

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks so much!

[@fionafrazer8820]

This Summer has been brutal in Massachusetts. We usually eat lunch and dinner on the deck, and it's one of the lovely Summer things we look forward to. We have only been able to do this a handful of times - just way too humid to be enjoyable. Like you, I find it hard to breathe when the air is so heavy. Would love some relief - some days of 75-80 instead of 90-98 with 70% humidity. You handled the landscaping situation, and the high school friends situation very well. Good for you!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for checking in!

[@ericamar1241]

Thank you Margaret for being real and honest. I love that about you. Stay well and have a great week.

[@sweet-n-bee5793]

He didn’t write that response. He is shady and knows he is taking advantage of you, like you said, it’s not the first time he’s done it.

[@BeautyOver70WithLea]

Margaret, our air here in Tennessee is horrible as well. I’m laid up with back issues and awaiting a procedure done August 16th. Take care because our lungs are older now…🤗 Lea

[@Petro-wp8xt]

Try some indoor plants for your home, the are not only pretty but they filter toxins from the site and provide oxygen during the day. There is quite a list to choose from but there are studies that indicate which plants is better for which situations, which are non toxic to your animals, where, you should place them in terms of lighting and how to care of them. I hope this helps you.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Good luck!!

[@Thebeach22]

BTW Your hair looks especially nice today. I think you were very diplomatic the way you handled the landscaper. Good workers are really hard to find these days. And the “friends” behaviours are appalling. I’ve experienced similar things. Toxic people have no place in my life. And unfortunately sometimes that includes family.

[@amn8827]

I’ve had that problem as well, it always needs to be in writing…..📝

[@bonniewalker6340]

Our lungs are no longer a ‘young set’. Breathing exercises help a couple times a day. You are a strong lady. And inspire other females like me. I an 80. A young 80.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

you are right

[@bonniewalker6340]

Re your request to comment after your friends disrespected you, I have had this happen. Also with friends from HS times. I quit going to the monthly meetings. I am friendly to all, but felt like I was on another planet. Best said, another sphere. It is inferiority plain and simple. Let’s find new friends. Let’s be a group where acceptance is paramount. Let’s show understanding to one another. Not preaching but it is stated ‘be ye kind one to another’. Nuff said! Keep on, Margaret. Be you!

[@DP-ez1kt]

The humidity, air, heat are all out of control. Di from Uxbridge

[@jeannepotter3051]

It's brutally hot here in Northeastern North Carolina. Like you, I can't go outside for more than a moment. Sometimes we grow out of friendships. We grieve the lost relationships, but in the end, we must do what's right for us. That's not being selfish; that's self-preservation. We're in our 70s. Time to take care of ourselves. Thanks for sharing your angst at both the old and gone relationships as well as the landscaper. He didn't do the job, and he knows it.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for posting. Have a great week.

[@gardenalways]

I've learned the hard way. Pay half up front and the other half when the job is completed. It's a different world these days and contractors of any type can't always be trusted to do the job right or even finish it. I wish I could send my yard guy to you. He'd do the job to your satisfaction and at a reasonable price. He just trimmed my trees back for $20. Which is good pay for 15 minutes of work but still affordable for me. I've gotten less tolerant of 'mean girls' since I've gotten old. I don't need the 'drama mamas' in my life at this age. The reason I am skipping class reunions now is because of the teenage angst you spoke of. Who needs it at our age? Not me! I think you handled the invitation very well. I've mentioned before that I babysit for a family who treats me like I'm part of their family. Their 4 yr.-old daughter is on the spectrum and basically non-verbal. I spent the afternoon with her last week while her mama went to the doctor and did some shopping. When I arrived the little one was out on the porch with her mom. Her mom asked her, "Who is that?" and she said, "Gramma" with that cute little grin of hers. I gave her a little hug and said, "I love you." She said, "I love you too." OMG! My heart melted and tears came to my eyes. That's a big milestone for her. She's picking up new words and phrases more often now and progressing slowly with language skills, but she is learning words and how to use them and I'm so happy about that. At the end of the month I will be staying with her for five days while her mom and dad take her older brother to New York. They felt the trip would be too much for the little one so I will stay with her at their house. Wish me luck. She has bad sleep habits as many autistic kids do. I'm told she has meltdowns but I've never seen her do that. I've only seen her have a 30 second temper tantrum when she's told 'no'. She loves to dance and sing (even though you can't always understand the words she's singing). That's right up my alley though my stamina isn't what it used to be. She has lots of art supplies too so we'll have some creative fun as well. I'm looking forward to it. I may be an exhausted mess by the end of the five days, but time with her is well worth every little ache and pain. Have a great week, Margaret! See you next time!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for talking about your upcoming special week! Enjoy every minute.

[@pollycowley631]

Hey Margaret, It's a beautiful life and thank you for living it in strength, heart and honesty. Take that invitation as a compliment--your laughter and joking must have been sorely been missed by those girls at their get-togethers. You have turned the page gracefully and never need look back at underlying viciousness. Life is too short for that. Let's hope a lesson is learned for them in kindness. I just bought myself a mini sized chain saw that I know you wouldn't be afraid to use with all of your experiences. It cuts one to two inch branches/roots well for me. Watch out for poison ivy sprouts. Poison ivy never really dies around here. Okay, I'm done.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Great post! Hmmmm…a chai. saw. LOL!

[@lindaduncan5541]

Margaret….I just love your humor! As for the high school angst…..it’s funny how that never leaves us. We are many years beyond that time, but those years formed who we were. It’s their loss and I don’t blame you for not subjecting yourself to it! Blessings to you and little squish. 😊❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thank you so much.

[@allioakley3372]

Lol that's what you should have said to the lawn guy and to your friends. "I'M DONE!" 😂💚💜💙

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

lol

[@valerierandall3640]

What excellent responses you gave - both the review and I’m proud of you for protecting yourself and your wellbeing around those old “friends”. I was left wondering if as time passes you may come to the conclusion they always treated you different than each other. I’ve experienced that in my life before. I enjoy seeing people at reunions once in awhile but I don’t really seek anyone out any more. Probably not a good thing since I’m at the point where my friends are actually just acquaintances, other than immediate family. They say that friends and social interactions are important to our health, and while I believe that, I just really can’t deal with the fake of many people. Boy, you must have “hit” on something with me to get all that!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

We learn so much in the aging process. Wisdom?

[@valerierandall3640]

@@MargaretbeingMargaret Yes!

[@barbarasmith622]

Hi Margaret, well, you are not called Margaret doing Margaret. You are very savvy and sooo much more. These people are not your true friends, l say the way you handled the situation was spot on 😅 .You ROCK, so keep doing being Margaret, and are a very fair person. The man who did you dirty won't be able to build his business if he continues on the same path, and you were more than fair and patient with him, and perhaps he will learn from his mistakes. Hope your cough clears up with the change of the weather. Thanks for another great video, Margaret, and I hope you have a great week 😊

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for posting, you too!

[@suekurtz1024]

I wouldn't go. Move on. You are ok by yourself. I am going through something similar. You are a great person.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Good luck to you.

[@beckyvaughn6435]

You did the right thing declining the invitation

[@nancymartin2329]

I bet his brother in law wrote his response! I have the same umbrella, love it!❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

I love it!

[@tinamartino9343]

Margaret, you shouldn't have to go anywhere that you don't want to go. I think you handled the reply perfectly.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks.

[@JerseyGirl50]

You handled the issues with your “friends” perfectly. Maybe someone had a 💡 go off about how they treated you. Personally, I wouldn’t put myself through that again.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Yeah, not going to happen. Thanks!

[@grettalemabouchou6779]

I have noticed that people rarely change. This is why I don't do reunions. If they were mean,pushy and without class then..... that's pretty much what you will receive no matter how many years pass. TRUST ME. Get someone to be an advocate for you.....a son, nephew....a good neighbor or Pastor.❤

[@jackiekozeliski6193]

You are so smart to not go to that get together! I’ve found out that when a friendship means more to me than them….Let It Go! In the last 10 years I’ve let go of two friendships that we had been friends for 40 years. When I’m doing all the calling and keeping in contact and they do nothing it’s like Tyler Perry says…….Let It Go……and I did! You are so sweet Margaret, you are NOT a bitch and shame on them for telling you that! You don’t need these bitches in YOUR life! Glad you turned it down and sorry you feel hurt. You don’t need those kind of people in your life any way. You so deserve better my friend!❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for the sentiment!

[@joanstrader4243]

Oh Margaret the weather here in Ohio has been so hot and humid I’m not able to go outside for long either. We had rain but that only makes it worse. So I’m stuck in the house and only going out for errands. We are getting a break next week….Yeah 🎉🎉. Hope you get some cooler weather. I love the fall season just not what come after it. Hang in there.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Have a great week.

[@gingerkitzerow5079]

As far as the "friends" situation I think you are right not to go if you don't enjoy it and it makes you uncomfortable. Sometimes you just have to let people go. The weather here in North Carolina has been 95+ and very humid. I also cannot stay outside very long. Take care of yourself. I enjoy your videos❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks. Have a good week.

[@cat-t7d]

Your hair looks nice today despite the hot weather and humidity. You are doing great. Keep on being Margaret 😊❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks!

[@christinatimney3979]

Hurrah you are such a strong beautiful woman, good for you for telling the “ to go away” 😂 great video Margaret

[@Anita-vk3vy]

Margaret, I don’t blame you for not going. You don’t need that aggravation from people who don’t even really care. You deserve much better. Shame on them for the what they said to you! You’re a better person than they could ever be. You be you! We love you!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Appreciate it.

[@tinasteer2507]

31:12. As soon as you said they wanted to know what you would like to bring my brain said instantly “A BASEBALL BAT”. 😂

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

That’s hysterical!

[@vikkienos6807]

I appreciate your honesty.

[@Patticake176]

Margaret, I agree with you about your friends. Always listen to your instincts. We get wiser as we age

[@katherinejohnson8705]

"To everything, turn, turn. There is a season, turn, turn." I am in my early 70's. Throughout my life, I have reflected on my friends - whether they were adding value to my life and whether I was adding to theirs. My first indicator that it might be time to stop a relationship was when I came away from my time with them feeling either angry or hurt. I can be grateful for the time I have spent with them, but sometimes, either I changed or they did. Either way, the relationship was no longer working for me. I have never regretted my decision to exit from a relationship. You free your time and energy up for making new, value-added friends in your current stage of life. BTW I know how to have long-lasting friends and relationships. I have those, too. Just not every relationship is meant to be forever. 🙂💞

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Agreed.

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

Great comment. Yes, we go for a nice time and come home feeling worse. Does not make sense to put up with that.

[@stephsf6695]

Margaret, I have been watching your videos since the beginning and enjoying them very much. The increased editing stops and starts are disconcerting. You didn't used to edit so much. Just be you. We love you just the way you are.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for the tips! I saw that too.

[@amycorley1658]

Make sure that umbrella has no plastic on it. The one I owned had a piece of plastic at the top and spontaneously broke and came crashing down and almost killed my small dog. Would not want Squish to get squished.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Good grief, I will check that!

[@Liz-zb1sv]

Calling you a bad name was unacceptable no matter what and even in jest, was very cruel. Family and your closest friends are the people you need. It is hard not to have some project, glad your son and Nickie know that about you. We had a yardman who told us our irrigation needed replacing, so we had him do it. Then the lock to our private back yard was broken when he was here one time. Then he said the yard was not getting any water. Well, I checked the wiring to the water valve and it had been disconnected!! What a disturbing realization and probably every extra job he did was a lie. He is gone. We had our son discontinue his service, and our son was using him too because we had recommended him. I have to say , the gardener came across as a very nice family man, a little too nice actually!! I think because we are older we are stupid too!!! Love you and your spirit ,never let anyone get you down. Liz

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for sharing. Have a great week.

[@allisonspeer649]

I have one of those umbrellas, they are really nice and sturdy. Definitely show us the elephant display. Sorry about all of the trouble with the landscaper. I think you made the right decision about the get together and now you have to let it go. It's hard, past hurts tend to hang on but just decide that these people are just not needed in your life right now.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Agreed

[@Savannahstitcher]

Now you know what we go through the whole summer in the south. I live in Savannah, Ga and our heat index this week has been over 100 and humidity is very high. But I will put up with the summers so I can enjoy the winter. No boots, coats, gloves, shovels etc.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

I need my winters more the older I get, isn’t that weird?

[@hildatyburczy8221]

Totally agree with the no coats, boots, etc.

[@hildatyburczy8221]

Margaret, I feel for you on the landscaper scammer! My brother who has dementia and my dear SIL who’s battling cancer have also been scammed by a handyman ! 😢 He’s the son of their former neighbor so my SIL thought she could trust him. No contract, money upfront $2500…..4 months later the work isn’t finished! Comes occasionally does a little work then disappears for weeks! They live in Putnam County upstate NY so I don’t see them much because I live in NJ and gave up driving highways especially since my husband passed! It breaks my heart to see them suffering with their respective illnesses and this situation on top….. she wanted so badly to be able to enjoy her deck (work was to repair it) before the summer was over!! About friends I was from NY and met my late husband of 49 years in NJ when I was here visiting. I came from an overprotective mom and dad who kept my sisters and I shield from others, particularly HS kids. We moved a couple of times so it was hard to grow roots and make friends but we had each other. My husband was very popular in HS and had a ton of friends! When we got married his friends became my friends but I was kind of an introvert and consequently never felt like I fit in. Sometimes in the beginning it bothered me but I got over it when I started having my kids….. I live alone now and I’m fine since my kids & grandkids visit often…..🎉

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thank you for sharing.

[@BR-kk9qu]

I’m just now watching the end of this episode. I think you have grown past that group. Sure, it hurts! They were very cruel. You have evolved to a mature adult. - Belinda

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

LOL…now you may be pushing it. (thanks)

[@JacquelynHerron]

Oh yes, I can relate to the weight issues! So darn frustrating. I try eating healthy with low calories and get on the scale and have gained weight! I am mad as heck about it. I love sweets and deny, deny to no avail. You're not alone with this ongoing struggle.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Well…misery loves company! lol

[@WillowNook]

I have a friend since 7 th grade. She is not a great friend. I've known her so long and I because I moved so many times don't have a ton of great friends. Our mom's knew each other and with my mom gone now.... I just can't seem to want to just never talk to this friend again . She knows all about me and like I said I am 50 and friends since 7 th grade. When she gets boyfriends I don't hear from her unless it's about her. Always about her and I stop my world to be there for her . For me.... nope. She doesn't call back or answer most times. One time I didn't call for two months. No kidding. I have learned what she is and isn't and I just don't expect much of her. When I needed her most she really hasn't been there much in the last years. Use to be years ago we talked every night.

[@lollys9041]

Margaret, I would done exactly the same. It has happened to me too. When I moved to a different area with my then fiancé, friends kept in touch for a few years but eventually I moved on but they hadn’t and expected me and things to be exactly the same as once was. I had had different life experiences that had changed me as had they. I think I am peculiar to Margaret, I used to feel really uncomfortable and insecure. But truthfully I found it very easy to walk away…well drift off over a period of time. I have great memories of times I had when I was younger, no regrets but I also love the very very few friends that I have now. I could count them on less than one hand but they get me and I get them and that’s good enough for me. I am a people pleaser so I have always found this quite strange because I would hate to think I hurt anyone’s feelings but it’s almost that it’s has to be, what do they say everything has its season, I am sure this is true.😻🙏❤️

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Love reading your thoughts. Thanks for sharing.

[@denisemclaughlin3218]

Margaret, regarding the " friends" issue, i believe you have done what's best for you. Their past actions of excluding you say it all. Hypothetically, you attend and even have a nice time, how will you feel when/if they exclude you from the next get-together? You will most likely be hurt all over again. Since there is more than one of them, it is curious how each one has apparently not advocated for including you in the past gatherings. You dont need folks like that in your life. Go by your instinct. It will serve you best in these instances. You are worthy of better treatment. Stay well❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for your input!

[@lmak4380]

Your response to old friend was just you following your gut feeling about reunion, neither wrong nor right, just you looking out for your emotional equilibrium. This heat has made any summertime activities previously enjoyed impossible! Might as well be dead of winter, stuck inside with portable AC. Hope your trip to Rhode Island is fun!

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks, have a good week!

[@dedelovesbling2313]

I agree that we do grow apart from some friends and it sounds like that is what happened. I think sending your regrets is logical because why make yourself miserable hanging out with women who apparently like to make low blows. I know I wouldn't want to expose myself to that type of behavior. Friends should lift each other up not tear each other down. I also think your review was professional. He was trying to threaten you and that's not okay especially as a business man. He apparently doesn't understand customer service the customer is always right. Although, I don't necessarily like that saying because some customers cannot ever be pleased.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for posting. Have a great week!

[@dothatch5147]

Girls may I say. Getting old is not for old people.

[@sunshinegirl4101]

I think the saying applies to all of us when we do something stupid is, To soon old and to late smart😉

[@ellab1323]

Dear Margaret, I’m so proud of you that you decided to exclude yourself from that toxic high school group of ladies! It’s not ok to tell someone she was a b….ch then and she is now. It’s not funny by any stretch of imagination! You made the right decision ❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Yeah. It’s too bad.

[@NanaGigi2025]

When I hit my 60s no matter how little I eat counting calories and such the weight want leave...its like nope I've moved in and you cannot evict. Lol. Totally agree with how you handled the friend situation and the lawn person. You're a strong wonderful woman Margaret always be you. Have a amazing week.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for the vote of confidence!

[@karennorris6135]

Please please call the contractors board too.

[@Teresa-11]

Good work Margaret you have probably helped some of that landscapers future clients. I think you scared him ! I’m not surprised you’re going to rip the poison ivy down yourself. I’m glad you said no to the get together, and don’t think it’s you at all. ❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks.

[@nannibeni3286]

Your video was so funny and honest ❤I let go of the mean girls way back when. People who put others down and leave people out will be left alone themselves someday 😉

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Oh I hope not. I would never wish that on them! Have a great week.

[@susanb9796]

As for the "mean girls"... I found myself being horrified by their behavior and cheering you on for not subjecting yourself to their BS. You are way out of their league. You have more class and genuineness than they would ever understand.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Nice of you to say that!

[@karenkaren9526]

So awful this weather

[@bethcramer1232]

I know what you mean about the weather, I too have lung problems and I can’t be out in the air for more tha a few minutes, I live in Texas and it feels like the air is so thick, I have to stay inside . I hate it

[@MarchandP]

Margaret, you are being gaslit! Too bad he doesn’t have a conscious! In todays world honest people with integrity are few and far between. Unfortunately we all have to accept that not everyone can be trusted. You did good by placing the review! He will either finish the job agreed to or deal with the negative review. Little does he know that all has been documented, shame on him! I love the umbrella, I’ll go to your link! Happy you had a wonderful visit with Karen. Monday with Holly sounds fun! I don’t think you are the problem you think you are with Niki. Maybe she likes having you around, her mom passed and maybe she needs you more than you think! You have a wonderful week, Margaret you did good to go with your gut, some people are just toxic. Have a great week! ❤

[@elizabethclark8374]

Hi Margaret, Many years ago ( about 42 years ago when I was married) I made the mistake of paying for a glass and brass coffee table before I got it. I waited for at least 4 months to get it. This was a BIG deal because I was moving out of state. I FINALLY got the table right before I moved. Flash forward 4 decades ( or a bit more) and at this point the only person I pay in advance is my cleaning lady because over a period of one year she has done a BEAUTIFUL job ( consistently ) and is honest to a fault. Also, her husband and she work for my landlady and are relatives of hers. Anyway, the ONLY thing you did “WRONG” was to trust someone. Diet tip- try Keto. I have lost 65 pounds on it since November. I tweak it a bit and I do limit my healthy fat intake to between 2-3 tablespoons daily. For the majority of the time I have not been hungry. I have also been doing intermittent fasting ( between 14-16 hours). Also, just listening to how some one of your former friends called you a B- - - -! What a JERK this person is!! You did do more than okay with that “friend” of yours. This summer ( weather wise) has been HORRID- lots of flooding!! Elizabeth in Texas 33:14

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks so much for checking in.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for the post and the keto idea.

[@teresahalliday3680]

My guess is that his "brother-in-law lawyer" wrote that answer to your review! Sad story, but unfortunately, it's all too common. Here in central NY, we are having the same horrible weather!! Very nice note to decline the invitation. I don't see ANY people from High School. I have made wonderful lasting friendships from my adult life. No use spending time with people with whom you don't really share things in common. Life is too short...spend time with those you really enjoy. You did very well. Those feelings you have about their "success" in life are yours to work out, but you don't have to spend time with them to do it! Just my opinion (you DID ask😁)

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

I Enjoy your perspective, it’s helpful. Thanks!

[@cherylduvall4714]

I live the northeast as well. I am having the same problem. You have green grass, but all of ours is burned up.

[@bevfitzsimmonds3382]

Hello Margaret...your video played automatically, after one l was listening to whilst cooking my dinner...and l have sat here, continuing to watch as l eat. Thankyou for this. I really enjoyed it. You did the right thing over the Lying Landscaper, and the Fickle Friends. Well done, and good on You. And yes, l understand about feeling the angst of high school, all these years later. And yes, some of us have to pull away from worn-out relationships, when we get to a point of maturity and see things for what they are, sometimes what they always have been...things we have gone along with, maybe, and now can no longer tolerate. When we grow up, and mature well (like a good wine, or cheese), sometimes we turn around and notice (much to our surprise!) that others have just gone stale and sour... And we know what happens when good and rotten apples stay in the same basket... Thankyou for an interesting evening... Thankyou for sharing your stories, and giving me a chuckle, and almost a tear! Love and hugs. May God guide and bless you. I have subscribed from Australia 👋😊 ❤🫂🦘🦘🦘

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thank you so much!

[@wholman8159]

oh I understand how exclusion feels!!!

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

sorry this feeling happened to you too. For me, I felt so stressed one day that I almost forgot an appointment. That's when I put a stop to it.

[@Mrs.Peachthriftyliving]

❤ Hello there.I totally enjoyed your video today.I normally don't like videos this long but ❤ I enjoyed every bit of it❤ First off, you did fantastic when it comes to dealing with that business twas, not business like... One of the things I felt in this when you were talking about your old high school friends and all that I felt like they probably were jealous of you and your success in life, Being a business owner, and Even The success you've had on youtube that can make a lot of people jealous.. Keep hanging in there, my friend.You have a lot of people that love you❤ I prayed God bless you completely. Enjoy your journey❤❤ The

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for checking in. Have a great week.

[@twohourteacher]

Oh Margaret, the exact same thing happened with my friends 10 years ago in my mid forties. Me always been a single mother, worry about money, living & work, friends very comfortable even well off. I made a decision when children were little that I couldn't join them on a regular weekend away due to finances. So for many years they didn't invite me. When circumstances improved for me through hard work, they still didn't invite me for this yearly weekend away yet would talk about it in front of me, clearly I was excluded. Sometimes they'd even text on the Sunday of the said weekend & ask me to drive up for (couple hours for lunch). The story goes on, but I totally get it, it's not you. People like this have no insight, lucky them, our struggles (meaning everyones) are different to each others. But like you I can't talk about the small stuff, just the real stfuff - however I'm a joker & I feel these friends liked having me around for the laughs but not for my struggles. Anyway long one but totally get it. You have done the right thing becuase they will exclude you again when it suits them.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thank you for sharing.

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

You know, some women who married well do flaunt it but they are insecure because marriages don't last these days and they could be struggling. You are probably a confident single mom and they are jealous of your independence.

[@maureennorth9927]

Hi Margaret from Cape Town, SA. After this video I admire, respect and yes love you, even more than before😊

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Wow, thank you

[@doloresnash287]

I cannot believe they had the nerve to say that to you! I would be done, you don't need that negativity in your life!! The yard guy, just be done, he's not going to give you any money back because your wrong and he's right! Lesson learned move on!! I enjoy you very much Margaret, keep the stories comingaa

[@jeannineenos2758]

I really like your hair . Did you style it differently? It’s sad how nobody can be trusted these days. He had no idea, I’m sure, who he was dealing with. Good for you Margaret. Stay in the a/c with this humidity ❤

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Just pushed my hair back from my face today. Thanks!

[@nancyjason446]

You don't need to question your response to that "invite". That door to the past, closed a long time ago. You don't need to look back. You are moving forward and living a GREAT life in the present, future. Your gut made your decision to decline. 👍Imagine going and the whole time wishing you never went, thinking of ways, reasons to leave. GREAT, SMART DECISION! NOT A BITCH, JUST SMARTER. 😻😘💖🦋🌺

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

lol. love it.

[@MargaretMountin]

Someone once told me that if it doesn't smell good, don't go there. We are at the stage in our lives where we don't have to "should" on ourselves. Enjoy the life that you want, and no apologies needed.

[@PatriceWelch-z4z]

I’m not

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Well said.

[@kathleenmckeithen118]

I do get it, Margaret. Laziness, a lack of integrity and work ethic has become a real problem at this point. Things didn't used to be like this.

[@kayeprescott8228]

Agree. It’s difficult to get anyone to do any work anymore. People will take advantage of the elderly. Next time get it in writing and their signature. We recently had a $10,000.00 Generac installed so we’ll have power when our lights go out. They gave us a contract and wanted a deposit. They did the work when it was scheduled and did a great job. We paid when they finished the work and we were both happy. My husband handled everything. I’d like to think it would have been that simple if I’d done this myself but who knows…

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

@@kayeprescott8228 Good comment.....In many cases it is harder for women. Some may take advantage. With a large purchase like that, it doesn't hurt to have a friend, family member be present. You don't have to say they are not a spouse. I have done this. Anything that helps us to look capable. Sad that the world is like this now. You were lucky to have your husband take charge. Learn what you can about household matters. It will help you feel more confident. Maybe you do but I say this for all women who are alone dealing with house repairs. Watch to see who your neighbors use like plumbers etc....this can help along with good references from friends.

[@kathleenmckeithen118]

@@kayeprescott8228 It is sad but true that we, women, are taken advantage of without a man to help us. Feminists, of course, would disagree with that but they are wrong.😊

[@christineosberg6079]

Margaret I would never presume to tell you what to do but the only thing that I want to say is always get everything in writing and always take pictures of the before and afters when it comes to your landscaping and hiring people

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

And you would think I would have done that, wouldn’t you? I can not explain my lapse in judgment! Thanks!

[@christineosberg6079]

@@MargaretbeingMargaret don't beat yourself up over that. Most people wouldn't even think of it. I only thought of it because I used to be an apartment manager and we always had to take pictures of everything. And another thing that I wanted to mention but I didn't, was I think you were spot on with your response to your old friend. I too have had to end friendships because if they're not uplifting to you they're not worth it. I'm 71 years old and I don't have time for friends who aren't really friends. Keep doing what you're doing Margaret. I think You're great and I love your Channel

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

@@MargaretbeingMargaret I think you may have been in a hurry and it seemed like a simple job. you know how we like to check it off our lists! And you felt comfortable with a local and small company as you said.

[@ChrisS733]

Margaret get yourself a jigsaw puzzle it’s good for the brain. It will give you something to do x

[@cat-t7d]

I really like the Umbrella.Nice!

[@luvsabeach7952]

Put all contracts in writing not verbal, sorry you had to go through this.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Yeah, I know better! 🤷‍♀️

[@tutbell6564]

You did ok.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

thanks

[@lyndab2068]

Hi, loved your video…….as always. You’ve dealt with the gardening situation really well, & kept your sanity! Well done you. As for your reunion “friends” …well…..I wouldn’t give them a second thought, you go with your gut feelings girl you sure don’t deserve to be treated so shabbily. At 73 (me 😉) I’ve learned that life’s too short, grab what you can & what you enjoy & look to number 1 it is so important for your mental well being. You’re so lucky to have the love of Squish & your son & his wife right there…..take out of life what you need…no reason to feel bad about not fitting in with other peoples ideas. So sorry your cough is so troublesome I could invite you over to Scotland where I live for some breathtaking fresh air 😂😂 would you come? 😉 Take care dear lady, give yourself a little Pat on the back for all that you cope with & I look forward to your next video. 👍🥰🌻

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

Thanks for the post. Scotland has always seemed like a rugged and beautiful place to me. Would love you to share some photos on our private Facebook page. facebook.com/groups/2100006130345469

[@lyndab2068]

@@MargaretbeingMargaret yes I will do but have a project to do first & that is to sort my pics out into a ‘get at able’ file 😂 they’re all over the place so bear with me 😉👍

[@BobbieJeanM]

Don’t be impressed, he didn’t write the response, his BiL, the lawyer, wrote it. The manner and style of communicating/speaking are completely different between the two. Hard lesson learned. Common denominator is them, not you. Perfectly polite and sociable response. I would have just said I’m sorry I’m not available, sounds like it will be a fun time for you. Polite but not even very friendly much less sociable. They killed it (for me) asking what will you bring.

[@labnurse1]

Margaret, you're the one who has grown up. I've been in your position a few times. Listen to me- leave them behind as a memory. Do not subject yourself to their abuse.

[@MargaretbeingMargaret]

I agree.

[@kathyjrat]

You are great. You did the right thing and reply was good. It’s Miserable hot here too