I Think I'm Genderqueer

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@ohkaypoh 4 ай бұрын

i feel the EXACT same way with feeling strained calling myself a 'woman', ive felt this way since i was 11 years old. the only times i ever call myself such is as a joke or to prove a point haha. i identified as genderqueer for a shortwhile, but recently i feel that agender fits me the most! i like 'king' for myself in terms of silly royalty names, i go by either she/her or no pronouns, and sometimes say im no gender with left girl 😅

@s1mone477 Жыл бұрын

I'm agender, but I do fall into some sort of genderqueer spectrum (?). And congrats on this milestone!

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much ! It’s been rlly fun doing this KZbin thing lol

@jay-arts Жыл бұрын

great video, congrats on discovering that you're genderqueer! as a nonbinary person who uses any pronouns, i related quite a bit to your talk about pronouns. it took a while for me to start openly identifying as nonbinary, and part of that was because i never felt a particular draw towards they/them pronouns specifically, nor did i hate the pronouns associated with my agab. i've since realized that i like using any pronouns, i like having people "mix and match"- one set of pronouns feels too limiting to me.

@navigatorbree 4 ай бұрын

RELATABLE. When I found out I could use any pronouns without calling myself nonbinary (as you expressed, it did feel “too extreme”) it was a complete game changer. Dresses always made me feel bad, and I’ve never been too comfortable with makeup or traditionally feminine things, but she/her was never offensive and being a man wasn’t appealing… still, the strain in calling myself a women was and still is real. I’ve gained a lot of confidence in how I present myself now that I’ve been getting funky with pronouns and gender. Good video

@disauci Жыл бұрын

Congrats on your journey of self-discovery! I’m a transmasc viewer and relate to much of what you said. The knight comment especially resonated with me. Can’t wait to see more videos from you. You’ve got the best vibe :)

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching, I’ll appreciate your support! And thank you :”)

@softfirecrow Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

I relate sm to what you said. Thanks sm for sharing your experience with us!

@mk-aka-morgan8386 Жыл бұрын

Congrats on figuring yourself out!!! I know figuring out your gender can be really hard, it took me awhile to figure out and accept I was non-binary. I know it’s really hard for people under the trans umbrella, especially right now, if you ever need an outlet to talk about your feelings with your gender or society you could always use this channel for that, you could even record videos expressing your emotions without posting them if you think that’ll help 💕

@t.k.5088 Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you’ve found a term that is comfortable to describe your identity! 🎉 That's honestly really relatable. I even run away from choosing pronouns for online profiles. I deliberately leave them empty if I can. It makes me uncomfortable that people might assume things about me based off pronouns, even though the queer community knows better. For people who know me IRL, I still stick to the pronouns related to the gender assigned to me at birth because, like you, I'm used to them, and they don't really bother me. Also, I speak a Latin language on the daily, which has no neutral pronouns. However, I feel uncomfortable being perceived in the AGAB in public, so I go out of my way to look androgynous... I really don't want to be seen by strangers as a man or a woman, especially trying to avoid their negative aspects. I'm relatively short, so, when I "pass" masc, I notice people are much ruder to me like I'm a clueless teen dude; when I pass fem, I notice some predatory behavior, especially from old cishetmen. Yuck. It... Feels like hell to me. I do in private enjoy presentations and hobbies that are commonly associated with the gender assigned to me at birth, though. It just feels weird and unsafe to perform that presentation in public to me. Like I'm going out naked or something. I've been thinking of the genderflux label because, at least to me, I feel like my identity fluctuates between a gender that (by mere happenstance I daresay) was assigned to me at birth and feeling like no gender at all. Still, I don't really feel a need to come out to family about it. Not like conservative Christians gonna understand a fluid identity when my binary trans cousin doesn't even get to hear his proper pronouns... In fact, when I think about this, I wonder how legal rights would be granted to queer people like this. How do we explain to a binary, allocisheteronormative society, that, some people just... change genders every day? And that these people also need the same protection from bigotry and violence that other queer identities would require, even if sometimes they are lucky to pass and relate to the gender assigned to them at birth? 🥴 The future scares me... I'm sorry, I shouldn't have rambled with negativity/uncertainty on a video that's supposed to celebrate you. I just... I don't know. Maybe if we discuss this between queer people, we might reach a conclusion that gives me hope. Don't feel forced to give me answers, tho

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

It’s perfectly fine to comment your experience, that’s what I want people to do. I really relate to what your said too and I’ve also realized that I’m treated a bit rudely by older men when I look more Masc or androgynous . as if some people(mostly older men) don’t “respect” me if I’m not a feminine presenting woman. Also I get it with the no beautiful terms in Spanish cuz I’m latino. I’m just kinda lucky that my household isn’t rlly Spanish speaking. Plus don’t feel rushed or anything to come out to anyone if u don’t want to. I totally get what u mean cuz I was nervous to even post this video cuz I’m worried of certain people seeing it. It’s just very hard to explain your queer identities to people who won’t even accept u. But good luck with your situation and I hope your cousin one day hear their proper pronouns.

@t.k.5088 Жыл бұрын

@bmudangel I hope for the day when we'll reach proper gender equality and the erasure of gender norms. I think that's the only way we'll have respectful environments for all people regardless of their identity or presentation, then, hopefully, queer and trans people will experience safer lives, too. As for my cousin, at least my brother and I are using his correct pronouns when talking about him. My parents won't accept or understand it, though, and neither does his mom. I don't really know why, but they mix FtM with being sapphic. My brother and I have tried to correct my mom when she mentioned him one day and... Well, it escalated quickly and poorly. When I tried to explain the concept of dysphoria to her another day by saying, "What if people called you sir or father, wouldn't you be annoyed? It's the same for trans people," to which she replied, "If you ever call me something that isn't mother, I'll make you swallow your own teeth." My cousin called on his birthday and told my mom he's taking T, but she kept calling him fem pet names. My brother and I were screaming internally at the situation, knowing that correcting her wouldn't end well and make it awkward for him on the other side of the call... Tbh, if I were my cousin, I'd never contact my mom ever again.

@Lucifer00606 Жыл бұрын

I'm agender, I used to think I was non binary coz the definition is not quite man and not quite woman and I thought that fit pretty great. My entire life I didn't take gender very seriously, the only time I took it remotely seriously is when I was referring to people by their correct pronouns, so guys he/him and girls she/her, don't ask me why, I just did for some reason. I never referred to myself as my agab seriously, ever, I can only name a handful of times I've said it and it just seemed so insincere, I would say; “I'm a [instert agab here]” and it would go in one ear and out the other. Also amazing thumbnail, it looks great!

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

I relate with a lot of what you said . I’m still learning and agender is smth I’m trying to learn about too so thanks for sharing. Also thanks sm! I’m glad u like my thumbnail

@yourgrunklestan9709 2 ай бұрын

“Straining” okay yes, that’s the word i’ve been looking for. It did feel that i was straining to label myself as a woman before i realized i was trans

@OtakuGunsoNY Жыл бұрын

congrats from a fellow genderqueer :P

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@OtakuGunsoNY Жыл бұрын

@@bmudangel somehow I am reminded of when I learned I was genderqueer way back when xD It's nice that folks have more information on these kinda things nowadays. When I found the term genderqueer I waited 2 years before I made a video about it xD

@dvffYT Жыл бұрын

Hey im agenderqueer! Which is like. Combination of agender and genderqueer. I was wondering do you consider yourself trans? Also so proud of your coming out!

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

Oh personally I wouldn’t call myself trans. I know a lot of non-binary, genderqueer, etc folks do but I do not. I more see transgender as a term for those who are like mtf/ftm type situations. But I understand why people would use transgender for other identities since it is an umbrella term

@kaseyford1490 Жыл бұрын

Whooo! Welcome baby enby. I identify with She/They as well 😊

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

I appreciate the welcoming :””)

@sophiasmusic335 Жыл бұрын

Hey 👋 I just want you to know that I support you no madder what😊. ( What's your pronouns?)

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much, you’re sweet. She/they btw

@sophiasmusic335 Жыл бұрын

@@bmudangelalso I think this vid help me In some way😅

@bmudangel Жыл бұрын

@@sophiasmusic335 I’m glad it was of some help! I always hope making videos like these can leave a positive impact to at least one person. I appreciate your support