(How to) know if he's your husband | Q&A | positioned, signs, marriage, relationship with God

In the last few videos, I received many questions related to my experience, which I tried my best to answer. However, if your question wasn't addressed, kindly drop it in the comments section below, and I'll make sure to answer it in my upcoming videos. Thank you for your support.
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[@BevTymeTV]

Sometimes, people are just vehicles to get us where we need to be!! Omg, that is so GOOD! 😭

[@janaecarlee]

😭😭😭 so true

[@c0373]

Wow, GOD is so good! My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago, and I believed he was my husband. He said he didn't get an answer from God that I was his wife and he didn't like my father. I was confused and wondering why and the lord kept pressing on my heart to be obedient and have faith in his purpose, not my desires. You said,” God will not bless disobedience.” that opened my eyes to realize my obedience is my blessing and worship to the lord. Thank you for truly speaking the word of the lord. Your video gave me a desire to trust the lord even more! ❤

[@janaecarlee]

Wow! Praise God for the process. Believing God’s best for you on your journey 🩵

[@danilaroche1156]

My boyfriend left me abruptly. I was upset but God revealed to me that he was lukewarm. Who wants to marry a compromised believer?

[@janaecarlee]

Nobodyyyyyy@@danilaroche1156

[@danilaroche1156]

Right! Sooner or later you can only fake dedication to Christ. His mask slipped and all I saw was fear, insecurity and a horny, grown boy.

[@gracelovepeace1]

Wow, Thank you for sharing this. I was in a similar situation, praying to release him.

[@QueenZsWorld]

gorl I was watching this vid then my phone glitched. I was still at the prayer, and I was in agreement, enjoying the vid so far... then when my phone glitched, I tried reopening youtube, checked my history... the video was gone. I didnt know your username and I forgot the title! but because I had peace while watching the video I knew I had to find it again. I prayed and asked God, if it was His will for me to watch it, for me to somehow find it again. it was nowhere to be found on my timeline, history, the "something new" tab on KZbin's page... 3 hours later I open my phone and saw this video at the top of my history-even higher than the last video I watched since then!!! I praise God for getting this vid to me again and I praise God for you! I have no idea what the rest of this vid has in store, but I'm all ears now. this is a miracle. 🎉🎉🎉

[@janaecarlee]

Wow! Praise God! I’d love to hear your takeaway when you watch 🩵

[@lisai1315]

I ended up here because I processed the title as GOD being my husband as it is a topic I am currently meditating on. But didn't know that I actually needed to hear your testimony. Blessings.

[@janaecarlee]

I can see that 🥹. That’s a unique thought process I haven’t taken. Thanks for listening 🩵🩵

[@preethiprez]

"Faith and expectation will sometimes look like each other. Faith is the assurance of and expectation is the strong desire for. If you're not careful because you have a want and a desire, it'll be an expectation, and you'll call it faith. Then you're disappointed when it's not met when God never said it" oh my LORD. Praise God for using you as a mouthpiece.

[@janaecarlee]

Whew! Your transcription just hit me 😭 thanks for pointing this out. It’s a beautiful reminder 🥹

[@Lalaa618]

As a poet, I’m in admiration of the words God engraved in your soul. Praiseee him 🥺🙌🏽

[@janaecarlee]

Wow!!! I need to do more poetry. Thanks for your kind words 🩵

[@nickia6848]

Last August/September, after feeling dead and TIRED (deep inside), I decided to give my life to Christ again. I gave up friends and friends naturally left my life. I have also decided to dance again, because I have been hearing that it is my ministry for about 10 years. I gave up sex (relationship with someone who is not of the Lord)..just to get closer to the Lord. Now I'm going through my breakthrough and this video has filled my body, soul and spirit. Thank you sis

[@janaecarlee]

Wow! Believing God’s best for you as you navigate this space. So excited for you to dance again!!!

[@nickia6848]

@@janaecarlee Thank you very much

[@_artbyatomtania]

Not even 2 minutes into the video, and your prayer touched me so deeply, I know God was speaking through you. I got news today about a lot of rapid changes and had to release it all to God before I spiraled. I no longer feel burdened by anxious thoughts but still had many things on my mind. I was led by the Holy Spirit to watch this right now, thinking it was an odd topic for the situation I'm in, but I see why now. I'm so grateful that our Father is so tender and caring in His thoughts towards us. I'm thankful for you, Janae, and the journey you have shared with us so far. May God increase you greatly and continue to grow you into the woman He created you to be before the world began. Much love, sis!❤

[@janaecarlee]

Wow *jaw on ground* God is intentional about YOU 😍🥹 WOW!!!! Praise God 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank you for your kind words. Believing God’s best for you 🩵

[@abeverly2005]

I needed this, thank you! A similar situation happened to me. Those signs initially had me caught up and confused on what I thought I heard and I am processing it and have surrendered the person and situation to God to move on. 🙏🏽 this came at the perfect time.

[@janaecarlee]

Keep surrendering 🩵 God will guide you where you need to be.

[@theamazingdoubleA]

God has really given you the gift of word. Thank you sister for the prayer, the poem, and the overall word from God.

[@janaecarlee]

You are so welcome! Thank you for your kind words 🥹🩵

[@BriannaSimonexo]

Thank you for sharing this. Your opening prayer made me subscribe- I am working on praying deeper and articulating what my heart feels. This whole piece was needed, thank God for allowing this video to cross me. Love from Charlotte!

[@janaecarlee]

Wow! I’m from Raleigh 👋🏾 Hey, girl. Thanks for this encouragement. I’ll look into adding prayer to more videos.

[@anaiyaboyd6635]

That poemmmmm 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🌹 thanks for sharing sister !!

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you so much 🩵🩵

[@joyfireceo8019]

So much revelation in this one video. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you for watching 🩵

[@DaughteroftheKing_Sasha]

THIS WAS FOR ME. GLORY BE TO GOD !! ALL DOWN TO THE “22”. GOD BLESS.

[@janaecarlee]

Amennnn🙏🏾

[@Fedanad]

You have an amazing teaching gift 🙌🏾

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you so much 🩵

[@riiyaahdior3922]

I needddd to watch this video. I’m so here. I prayed n kept asking for signs even fasted Chile. n my prayers were answered, so I thought. The guy even prayed n was showed things. But we both felt it wasn’t the time. I’m soooo heartbroken lol. I wish I didn’t rush but it just makes me want my Jesus more 😂.

[@janaecarlee]

That part! All of it should lead us closer to Christ 😭😭😭😭

[@DrQueensCornerTV]

Thanks for sharing this timely, powerful, and encouraging message. God bless you!!!

[@janaecarlee]

Thanks for watching and supporting me 🩵

[@amberpalmer3708]

This is one of the best KZbin videos I’ve ever watched. Thank you for the honesty and praise you gave us in this video ❤

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you for watching, Amber 🩵

[@nnekawalson9850]

Sister… I admire your vulnerability so much❤️. So many gems dropped. You encourage me to be naked and exposed, and though it’s unknown territory for me, it is somehow is freeing! Would love for you to break down faith and expectation deeper in a different video. How can we as believers pray *effective* prayers? Love you✨

[@talkswithzharia]

Right ? Janae really has the anointing to push people into authenticity

[@janaecarlee]

🥹😭 living Naked and Exposed!!!!!!! Thanks for the reminder of my why. I appreciate you 🩵 It hits different because you know both parties involved 🥹. I will answer these in another video.

[@HisMightyPower]

What exactly were your "signs"? How in the world can we truly know when God is speaking to us if we can't trust His signs? This is so troubling to me to be completely honest.

[@janaecarlee]

The signs I received God used to bring me closer to him as father, NOT confirm that the guy prior to my husband was my husband. My wants and desires had me seeking signs and when you want something you’ll find ANYTHING to affirm your desires. The point is to grow in relationship with God, going Proverbs 3:5-6, and God will lead us to what he has for us… not what we tell God we want. Our wants must because God’s wants for us through relationship. God used that guy to lead me closer to God. Those were the signs. Not that he was my husband. God speaks! It’s just not what we want to hear.

[@joyricherson4570]

It's easier to know when he's not the one. Ask yourself if he leads you to God. If God says a man is my husband I wouldn't tell him, I would let him come to me and then wait for confirmation.

[@joyricherson4570]

Me 2! 22 I see it every single day!

[@caribbeankpoplover]

@@janaecarleeWow Amen about God speaking but us hearing what we want to 🥲😭

[@danilaroche1156]

​I feel my ex definitely lead me to God. He wanted the best for me but what hindered things was all this romance and making out. We should have laser focused on Christ. The attraction was so STRONG! I advise singles not to make out. So though he lead me to righteousness our flesh got in the way. Even though there was no fornication..too much kissing isn't good.

[@joyricherson4570]

Yes I do believe he has a person or people ( if your spouse dies) . If a person doesn't choose you back, that was never your person.

[@janaecarlee]

I think our person is the one who chooses us back.

[@resha1995]

Much needed! This is powerful!

[@janaecarlee]

Amen! I appreciate you.

[@brittani.inthecity]

What an amazing testimony! It was nothing but God that led me too this video because I feel like I am going through a similar situation. Thank you for sharing this ❤

[@janaecarlee]

Wow! Let me know how I can partner in prayer with you 🩵

[@S.O.F87]

I went through this I thought God was telling me this woman was my wife she did not line up with God ‘s will she was a counterfeit the devil use familiar spirits to lie to me

[@janaecarlee]

WOW! A familiar spirit. That’s a good point that’s often neglected. I forgot about that. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾

[@LifeAsDrJenn]

I went through the same thing for over a decade, thinking this man was going to be my husband, but I didn't know until 3 years ago when I started working with him that he was seeing someone else for 4 going on 5 years at the time, "almost married". Boy, was that a waste of my time....

[@Boldfaithheals]

This was a timely word🙌🏼 thank you for your obedience sis❤

[@janaecarlee]

🥹🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@CheyaneKN]

Wow...felt like God really gave it to me straight by speaking through you 😮

[@janaecarlee]

Amen 😭🙏🏾 Keep going

[@amirahmoore1304]

Sis this was so on time for me my God. I Thank You ABBA Father and ask that You continue to bless this woman in Jesus name. Thank You for Your Holy Spirit guiding her . Thank you for your obedience sis🙌🏾 Glory to God Thank You Jesus!!

[@janaecarlee]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for this 😭🩵

[@amirahmoore1304]

@@janaecarlee 🫶🏽🙏🏾🙌🏾💕😊

[@joyricherson4570]

It can work both ways. Some ppl are looking and then they find or the find and realize you're the one. The point is to have faith in God either way.

[@tktheshinobi]

I’m glad I came across this and appreciate your responding back to ppl. I’ve gone through this and believe The Lord speaks to me in numbers and things I watch. I thought someone was for me and the last thing you said gave me what I needed to hear. I will have to take it to the Lord for confirmation as we should but this was so good. In my case I met someone through a dating app when I was into divination they pursued me but ended up leaving. They told me they drink and believed in being S active and I wanted to get to know them and wait. they asked me about my views on God and I realized I backslid because of a church. Although we’re not together that counterfeit got me to repent and now on the praise team with my tribe. Rejection is Gods protection. I met her when I was no where near serving the Lord. Soon as you said that 🤯. I only want what his will for me and if it means with a partner equally yoked is now a deal or no deal.

[@janaecarlee]

Wow! What a testimony 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Praying God’s continued peace over you as you walk in obedience and faith.

[@tktheshinobi]

@@janaecarlee very much appreciated and same for you God bless!

[@gatheik]

Thank you so much for posting this, it was such a blessing to me 🤗🤗

[@janaecarlee]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for helping with dialoging around questions to answer.

[@alanaodei2844]

“Were you seeking God and I showed up, or did I show up and you realized I would be a good wife?” Whew 😭😭😭

[@janaecarlee]

Whew! That part 🔥

[@uduakpeter55]

Hello Janea, thank you so much these words came in timely. I heard God concerning who my husband is when i just met him and we became friends and started dating two years ago. We were planning our marriage when he checked his genotype and discovered its AS and I am also AS, he has always thought he is AA cos he said he checked when he was younger. I am not doubting it was God that spoke because i didnt have any thought of him the day i heard God's voice clearly. But i am confused right now because of the genotype incompatibility. I believe God can change mine, but with your words right now I leave everything to God.

[@uduakpeter55]

Thank you 🎉

[@janaecarlee]

Let Go and LET GOD 😭😭😭

[@kimsvlog8765]

Somewhat yes, everything is supposed to point to Him but God doesn't expect perfection or for you to have everything in order, just your heart in the right place.....He would have sent him to you if you would have asked

[@janaecarlee]

Thanks for your insight!

[@806nena]

What a great video!❤️‍🔥 I needed this! 🙌🏼🙏🏼

[@janaecarlee]

Glad it was helpful! 🩵

[@writeousrhema]

Beautiful poem!

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you!

[@swannmelange]

Love this!❤

[@janaecarlee]

🫶🏾

[@MichelleChiku]

This was insightful. Thanks for sharing Janae! I’ve learned a lot from this video 🙏🏾

[@janaecarlee]

You’re so welcome 🩵

[@joyricherson4570]

Its always funny to me when ppl say God isn't gonna send your husband to your door...then my friend's doorbell rings and now hes her husband lol

[@janaecarlee]

God can. I’ve heard stories lol

[@danilaroche1156]

The man I hope to marry..he lived across the street and literally came looking for me. Pray for us.

[@danilaroche1156]

This sister is phenomenal.

[@janaecarlee]

@@danilaroche1156 Will do!

[@KahirahOniqua]

Thank you for the clarity God bless you 🙏🏾

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you for watching 🩵

[@EricMabel]

Thanks dear your testimony really bless me bcoz I was in the same situation,but in all I thank GOD 🙏

[@janaecarlee]

Thank God! 😭🩵

[@lifeinspirations2244]

Thank you so much for this sis!!

[@janaecarlee]

You are welcome! Thanks for watching 🩵

[@justicexskye753]

Glad I came across you on threads ❤

[@janaecarlee]

Me too! Thanks for being here 🩵

[@danilaroche1156]

Beautiful poem. I published a book of poetry in 2014.

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you so much! Where can I find it?

[@danilaroche1156]

​Publisher went out of business. I since published 2 more books. One for young women to help them find purpose in Christ, not the culture. The other on how to manage and deal with loneliness. To learn self care, help others & grow closer to Jesus. Both available Barnes & Noble.

[@joyricherson4570]

That's right, Bible says iron sharpens iron. Some things wont be healed until marriage.

[@Daijalean]

Women of God! I got free in the first 8 minutes 🗣️🙌🏽🔥!

[@janaecarlee]

PRAISE GOD!!!!! Celebrating with you.

[@joyricherson4570]

Curious to know how many of the ppl that thought that was the relationship, sinned in the relationship.

[@janaecarlee]

😅

[@danilaroche1156]

You'll never know but many have sinned. It takes knowledge, discipline and grace to be abstinent till marriage. Let's aspire to obey God in all things.

[@joyricherson4570]

@@danilaroche1156 Right that's why it's important to wait. The enemy says,"You may as well go ahead and do it anyway. It's just LIKE you're married." He is the imitation light. Living together IS LIKE being married. I know I have been in situations where I really thought that person was the one. One of the situations I even married! Nothing like knowing everyday you're with the wrong one. That's why , when ppl scoff, because it's now been 12 years for me, I remember I told God if he got me out I wouldn't move again without him. The Bible if you Acknowledge him in all your ways, HE will direct your paths. HE MEANS IT!!

[@danilaroche1156]

​ I know the Lord warns us about people but often we don't take heed. This got me in alot of hot water & abuse. Violent men sent by Satan. What kept me stuck so long was sex. I'm now abstinent and moving according to God's will.

[@lynnd.5135]

​@@joyricherson4570did you end up divorcing?

[@Pacifica74]

I have a crazy, wacky story that is not even concluded yet. Too much to type. God did arrange a way for me to contact the person who I thought was going to be my husband. He was clueless when I vaguely asked what this situation was about. I could tell God didn't tell him a thing. So I heard it from the horse's mouth, but all the signs are baffling. I will never trust a sign again. I feel jaded by them.

[@janaecarlee]

Praying for God’s peace and clarity 🙏🏾

[@uguruchiamakaeunice3821]

You're soooo beautiful ma'am 🌺😊

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you!

[@danilaroche1156]

What do you think of sisters waiting years on a man who is A. Unsaved or B. Uninterested? I'm so tired of these Your Kingdom spouse will propose in 3 days videos. Sisters are waiting YEARS for a man & I used to be one of them. No more.

[@janaecarlee]

It took five years for my man to show up and he found me about my Father's business!

[@danilaroche1156]

​Right, sis. We must be about Abba's business and trust He will bring the spouse in due time.

[@lynnd.5135]

Uninterested I don't get. Unsaved I get. Let's be realistic. Not every woman is going to get a Christian man. There are not enough to go round. Just pray for the man God has for you and who knows you might be the one to lead him to Christ. Not every Christian man is genuine or good. Not every unbeliever is bad. Are any of your unsaved friends or family horrible people?

[@emmelinaa]

I prayed that God would confirm a man was my husband if he gifted me a cross necklace. I don't know why I set those terms, but I did. I never told anyone - the only time I can think of was complimenting one of his family member's jewellery pieces at a dinner event one time. A few months later, I got that confirmation and was ecstatic. Unfortunately, that relationship didn't work out. I had to come to terms with it with the phrase 'my future husband would never do that'. I'm not quite sure why I got that sign if he wasn't the one, and I don't wish to hold out hope that he'll change - but ultimately I do feel like that experience made me depend on God a lot more.

[@janaecarlee]

That part - “that experience made me depend on God a lot more.” Sometimes our immaturity or strong desire for something will make us see a sign in everything - and sometimes that sign could be God shows us himself in the process. Be encouraged sis.

[@danilaroche1156]

Be careful looking for signs. As far as a cross necklace? Nothing in the Bible advocates wearing a cross on your neck. Did Paul wear one? Peter? Chile....Just be about your Father's business and let HIM arrange a marriage when it's time.

[@joyricherson4570]

Boaz showed he was husband material BEFORE Ruth was instructed to go glean in the field.

[@janaecarlee]

Yup… but this is a message on being in position not how to know if he’s the one.

[@007lamiss]

💖

[@janaecarlee]

🩵

[@joyricherson4570]

I see 22 EVERY SINGLE DAY IF MY LIFE!!

[@janaecarlee]

Wild! I haven’t seen it lately.

[@mimap275]

Ive noticed something that in bible there are a lot of oxymorons ie opposites etc , he says if u want to be great be small, u hv free will but u it says not ur will be done but urs, i will do it quickly though it tarry, so at this point it seems like the opposite fact is always true , ask for confirmations but u cant rely on them , becos its ur desires , so how do u know which ones which . It says will give u ur desires but mostly wat u desire is not his will , Im just trying to understand how really u know if God is telling u something for real without getting confused 😮

[@janaecarlee]

Great point. The first point says to delight yourself in him and he will give you the desires of your heart. As you learn God as father and friend, studying and encountering his natural by way of Holy Spirit, through transformation his desires become yours. He gives you the desires as you yield and surrender to him orchestrating your path. It requires trust and not leaning on your own understanding. He knows! The fact you wrestle with this, lets me know you’re exactly where God wants you to be. Keep Matthew 7:7 and 6:33’n 🔥

[@mimap275]

@@janaecarlee thanks hun , I'm really searching out

[@bigromuzic]

🔥

[@janaecarlee]

Thanks for the support Ro!

[@danilaroche1156]

My ex wanted to marry me but he had such fear. Plus he wasn't ready to surrender to Jesus wholeheartedly. If he decides to do so, we can marry. If not..oh well. I'll be ok.

[@janaecarlee]

Let go and watch what God does 🩵

[@danilaroche1156]

​I have. It took a while but I've let him go. I'll only marry him if he's for the Lord. No half stepping.

[@danilaroche1156]

Do you have an email? I want to marry and it isn't an idol. I was BUSY with Gods affairs. I've been engaged 3 times last 10 years and it never worked out. They all pursued me. I wasn't looking.

[@janaecarlee]

WOW! You have a testimony.

[@alnisawilson]

Wow your poem 🔥🔥🔥 Your testimony is everything !❤️🥹

[@janaecarlee]

Whew! Thanks for supporting me 🩵

[@joyricherson4570]

My bday us 9/2/72 and I was born at 2:22 pm

[@janaecarlee]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@Ariela_Lionessa_F2F]

Beautiful 😍

[@janaecarlee]

Thank you!

[@CharisseKara]

I’ve noticed the Lord has been speaking to me using 22 as well. Can you go more in depth on what it means?

[@janaecarlee]

Sure! When you look across scripture the number typically references revelation, insight, or light (no angel numbers; that’s not biblical) When I see 22 God is confirming a thing or getting my attention.

[@cass2883]

As a person that was a deep believer in angel numbers, I’d be wary of applying meaning to numbers or anything that is not specified in the Bible.

[@danilaroche1156]

​People are obsessing over numbers. I wouldn't put too much stock in it.

[@miaxoxo9967]

Ok but what about Leah? :(

[@janaecarlee]

What about her?

[@jessicajones5476]

🫰

[@janaecarlee]

😮‍💨

[@bernardmartinez1275]

😮 Is God a liar or a crook? How to believe him?

[@janaecarlee]

God is constant and true. It's usually our thoughts, wants, and desires that are the liars.