I told this to my SISTER…

[@mothertrucker936]

She PUSHED for the truth and now wants an apology. For what? Cause the truth hurts?

[@GiannaYoung-e2y]

Exactly

[@rjs821]

And all this AFTER she tried to say OP’s wife wasn’t a good example of a woman.

[@vvitch-mist20]

my ex best friend pulled a similar stunt as if she didn't know me to be 100% honest when asked.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

Pregnant, unwed, without an income that supports 3 people, so now she's begging to live off your income source. Housing is the largest bill most Families have. All poor choices that your birth family pays the price for. She is not modeling intelligent life choices. Let the Family enablers content with her.

[@Sasu123456789x1]

Exactly 💯

[@rachelrecycles369]

She didn't accept a polite 'no', so she got the harsh truth. Tough shit, sis.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

@@rachelrecycles369 Tried to gaslight her way into her brothers house. She mistook his kindness for weakness.

[@00videovideo]

Honestly I’m tired of people pretending to ‘keep the peace’.

[@ravynjay321]

Exactly this. In so many of these stories everyone just wants to "keep the peace" even though it completely disrespects the poster almost every time

[@janniemaynard505]

Yup! I'm the proclaimed whistle blower, and I LOVE it here!🙌🏽

[@pattidrier9593]

You did the right thing!! Stand firm. You are protecting your daughters!! The audacity of saying she is a better role model than your wife !! Keep her away from your daughters. Sis might poison the girls against their mom.

[@silviaflorez-ramey6350]

“ I’m sorry it hurt your feelings but I don’t want my daughters to grow up to be like you” your sister is a bad example why would you want her around them. You have to raise your children right that is your responsibility and obligation, if that includes not involving your sister in their lives so be it!!!

[@Lucean627]

“I’m sorry the truth hurts but I need to raise my kids to be the best they can be, and having you constantly in their lives would be detrimental to that goal”

[@keenanhero3392]

@@Lucean627 Because she is a struggling single mom? All of you are evil.

[@larissagomes451]

​@@keenanhero3392Because she makes dumb decisions. She have a kid and was a stay at home mother to a dude that made it clear she was not goos enough to be his wife, not good enough to ruin her life, she got pregnant by another loser and the little she could offer to her kids, now it is even less. She put herself into this position

[@Lucean627]

@@keenanhero3392 struggling single mom? Yes. But a struggling single mom that got to where she is because she didn’t make smart decisions. Stop being idealistic and be more realistic. Should he help her? Yes, probably. But at the cost of impacting his daughters in a negative way? No. Parents have a sole responsibility to their children, to raise them the best way they can. Just cuz one set of parents chooses to not let in another parent that has a history of bad decisions doesn’t make them bad. Makes them realistic to the negative consequences

[@greenapples1149]

​@@keenanhero3392and whose fault is it that she's a struggling single mom? Ding ding ding! It's her own fault.

[@staylor3483]

Never apologize for honesty!! You can regret the manner in which you put the honesty but never regret honesty.

[@holicandy01]

Tell the family "if you think Im a jerk, let her move in with you and show how much better you are"

[@Uf7f7d6cufihud6dgco]

The freaking nerve of this woman, to be that judgemental in her position. At first, I thought OP was being too harsh, but the sis is out here disparaging his wife and actively trying to influence his kids while also wanting to leech off of OP. Hells no, OP NTA for telling the truth and holding firm.

[@ivymerritt7577]

It ALWAYS amazes me when people can't handle the truth.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

@@ivymerritt7577. . . or consequences. Don't make babies that you expect others to afford.

[@croissant7425]

Sometimes the truth is mean and can hurt people’s feelings

[@v._.ntablack]

and it's not even just that. it's that most of the time, they keep pushing and pushing for the truth saying that they want it, and then when they get it, they get pissed. they call you a jerk or rude and want you to apologize for telling them the honest truth that they DEMANDED from you. it's just simply ridiculous.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

@v._.ntablack They go to friends and family because the truth about themselves hurt. They will take no accountability for their true behavior character traits. So, they mix lies with the truth and work their phone bank 🤳🏻 🏦 of enables.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

@@v._.ntablack They keep asking because they want you to give them something that you have refused. Now that you have refused again with hard facts, its time to run back to friends and family to get bullying assistance from that peanut gallery.

[@curtdottiesundell]

I’m with you 100% she is not a good role model. Plus as far as I’m concerned she is looking for a hand out by moving in with you. RUN FAR AND FAST FROM HER.

[@boredpersonstory553]

Their Mom is THE BEST role model. Has a lovin Marriage, great career and health habits and OP shouldn't apologize bc she pushed for the answer.

[@tinaskubin9402]

The truth does not need apologies.

[@tammybrooks1854]

You're right for telling the truth. She needs this tough love. Hopefully it will help her grow into a better person. Besides You're not her husband or baby daddy. She needs to ask herself why her own baby daddies don't want to live with her and take care of her. If anyone is a victim in her life, it's your sister's kids and their dad's need to step up. Not you. You're already a dad. What's your wife think? I hope your wife supports you. Family is great at gaslighting and making us feel like they're doing us favors when they need or want support but don't realize how draining they are emotionally, financially and physically how their bad choices affect others. Stand your ground.

[@susettegoudeau1155]

Preach! 🙏

[@alicemcknight6335]

No appology! Don't ask the question if you can't handle the answer especially if you push.

[@kimberlydyle269]

She pushed for the truth and she got the truth and it hurt her feelings. He was trying to spare her feelings by saying no to begin with, but she pushed for it and got her feelings hurt. That's all her fault.

[@aleksandrapestych2915]

Very reasonable. No apology needed. Completely on this guy’s side 😡

[@hopeausbyn1734]

@@aleksandrapestych2915 🎯

[@Rachel-k6e]

The children already have a female role model (and a male one too) as their parents both appear to have a happy and loving marriage where they both seem to have respect towards each other and are amicable with each other - dad also defends his wife from familial criticism so he at least respects her which is very healthy and good for the girls to witness since that’s what a loving spouse does. So long as mum is a good mum (because some marriages work better as a couple rather than as parents) the girls already have a pretty solid role models as their parents have a relatively supportive relationship where they both seem to love, respect and support each other.

[@ReddRover]

Sometimes the truth hurts 😂

[@mariefreeman4235]

Stand your ground. She asked you , you said no. Cased closed

[@angiefoster8987]

You are not wrong!!

[@keenanhero3392]

Yes they are

[@ShauryaSinghal-v2k]

​@@keenanhero3392 pls explain y Or r u the sister😂😂

[@miamizama7949]

In what world would a full grown woman with almost two kids moves to her MARRIED brother’s house who’s also HAVE A WIFE and kids???? That is just awkward I find it bizarre lol

[@kidman2911]

In the non western world

[@miamizama7949]

@ I’m not from the west tho.. and we don’t do that here.. I think it’s not about an entire country maybe it’s about religion I think🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lindsayhobbs6536]

I just love it when families expect you to either lie or just withhold the truth to not be offensive. Your sister has made crappy life choices, and now, presumably in her mid 30's based on the timeline, she has nothing besides 2 fatherless kids! I have 2 daughters, and believe me, I've made some grave mistakes, but they watched me finish a higher degree, work up to making even more than my husband, and I've stayed strong in the face of adversity many times. Your sister has the chance to be strong and independent now, but all she has proven so far is that she wants to leech off of others.

[@CompostWatcher]

You gave her priceless information.

[@shawnycoffman]

Family needs to back off. This grown woman asked for an honest reason. She got it and now she's the victim? Please.

[@Lee_Rins]

Never ask questions, you don't want to hear answers to

[@grimm8402]

If they think he's wrong.Okay, prove that he's wrong.Show him the facts

[@Breenndda]

Maybe if she'd had someone more heartless and cruel aka: honest in her life it wouldn't be in such a shit place to where she's relying on others.

[@Angel_dustSLAY]

If they are on the sisters side, why don't they let her live with them?

[@ladyofthemasque]

NTA, she demanded to know the truth, and WAS told the truth.

[@aaaham5726]

I have a very similar story, but I regretfully let my sibling move in. One of the biggest mistakes I've made.

[@jeannettecampbell8862]

Sister is the example of the consequences of poor decisions and entitlement/victim mentality

[@flamedance58]

If the other family criticizes you on it then they can take her in. Your house, your family, and your rules.

[@juliel5945]

I think this voice is the best for these stories.

[@HelenaLewis-px7ih]

OP's sister needed to hear the truth about herself

[@dobi-u7x]

If it's your house( which it probs is) then you can legally tell her no. She asked for the truth and is now offended by it so it isn't your fault at all. Your also right for wanting an independent person for your daughter to look up to

[@heidirobinson8734]

Fair comment! What parent wishes f their daughter to be an unmarried single mother living on the edge of poverty with little hope of advancement in life?

[@C..1776]

If the family thinks you're heartless, then they can take her in. . Problem solved

[@Panwere36]

There are axioms of life that are always true and the one that applies here is: "If it is destroyed by the truth, then it deserves to be destroyed by the truth." The OP is right, and the sister needs to grow up. The fact she in any way sees herself as a "role model" with her history proves that.

[@sandrasutherland8001]

She pushed you for a reason. You gave her your reasons.

[@Unknown-xyz-x]

woman they can look up to , i chocked on my water

[@Nym-rt2hq]

Im always calling my siblings out on their shiz. Not that it helps. People will do what they want so ive learned just to speak my mind to make myself feel better so atleast i said what needed to be said and they cant blame anyone else but themselves when things go to shiz. It clears my concience and any guilt i might feel later. At a certain age certain behaviors should be delt with especially if you have children because its no longer about you but wjats best for them.

[@kallmejay3662]

“Help those who can’t help themselves” just started living by these words but it’s already made me a better person and a much more humble one too.

[@keenanhero3392]

Wtf is wrong with you? She was a stay-at-home mom and is struggling after a divorce with a child and a pregnancy. You people are fucking heartless.

[@BookWorm4Eternity]

Okay, maybe I am confusing your words 😅 The sister CAN help herself. She is an adult. With kids. And at least her HS degree and maybe an AA. She can go back to college, she can try to get an office/reception job, and if she doesn't already, she can go after her baby daddies just to ensure her kids have child support. She at least knows one, and unless she slept with so many people before her current pregnancy and has no idea who the baby daddy is, she should go after him for child support as well.

[@Sasu123456789x1]

Good for you but not everyone can be like that for a variety of valid reasons

[@croissant7425]

@@keenanhero3392 nothing is wrong with him he is just forgiving don’t attack him for stating that

[@ronimartel2215]

You owe sis no apology.....you were honest and that's what she doesn't like.....she doesn't want to be there for your daughters.....she wants a free ride.....you did the right thing....tell the rest that you won't pretend....you told no lie.....and they are free to take her in.....

[@KalebContreras-j6s]

Honesty is better then lying

[@marybrown2081]

The truth hurts

[@kadeenmendez8543]

Moral of the story: Don't ask if you don't want an honest answer

[@foolishgenius]

My one pet peeve with humanity is that people say oh you over rely on people everybody relies on someone quite literally nobody does things on their own it might seem that way but every single goal that you achieved was because somebody else let you just let that sink in you want to get a job you can put in the application somebody has to accept your application it's just a little thing that people seem to overlook about life quite literally nobody does things on their own you have to rely on someone

[@memonos]

She wanted the truth and she got it, she made her bed now she can lay in it no one forced her to make poor life changing decisions.

[@AraAra6367]

I’m not one to shame people for the paths they choose but OP’s sister doesn’t seem to have anything to actually look up to. Unless the problem is that she believes in traditional gender roles and that’s why she’s so critical of OP’s wife? Nothing wrong with wanting a traditional lifestyle but talking like nothing else compares to it is where the problem is. I can see why OP said what he did.

[@sierrafairbanks7776]

Lol She said, "give me a reason!" And then she said "NOT THAT REASON!" 😂

[@shanreynolds2197]

I find the dynamic strange here. She became the total opposite of OP yet they were raised, presumably, by the same parents

[@luxgh]

Op probably used a thing called condoms

[@DragonsSpirit559]

I would say sorry but i would be like "I'm sorry my opinion hurt your feelings."

[@angelafahlenkamp9311]

The truth hurts real good sometimes 🤷‍♀️

[@doyscherr]

OP is Fair. Daughter went asking questions when the answers would be unoleasant.

[@AshW-l5e]

I’m sorry but I’m with you i wouldn’t want a daughter to be looking up to someone whose only achievement in life is just popping out kids.. I’m not a Rhodes scholar but I at least have my nursing and education. Even though I’m a stay at home mom n wife I at least achieved something and then decided my family was more important to raise. Education I can always fall back on if I decide I want to go back to work.. which honestly some days I REALLY miss working instead of being mom 24/7.. really miss it sometimes 😂😅

[@JulieHall-q6b]

Truth hurts.

[@littlewifelora2182]

But there’s more to a person than just their social successes

[@ZarahChetty]

Now that is what you call a disappointment of a person

[@DontInterractWithMeBetween9-5.]

Honestly any relative who takes the sisters side is more than welcome to invite the sister over to their house before talking to the OP

[@KimberlyLaird]

Though you might be right in your opinion. Is that your sister and that She might need you can't help her in that way. At least point her in the right direction.

[@estherkeeling777]

NOOOOO WAS THE CORRECT WORD. SHE wants to live off y'all accomplishments. Constantly asking for money but puts your wife down. Never let someone in your home that HAS ALREADY SHOWED YOU what she is about

[@Sasu123456789x1]

This!

[@luxgh]

Her putting the wife down sounds like jealousy, just saying....

[@ruthdragon962]

You are not wrong

[@kmon1324]

OP has every reason to resent his sister for the way she tried to manipulate and exploit him, and it's appropriate for him to significantly reduce contact with her and her accomplices. The truth simply hurts, and she will have to deal with it.

[@fandomgirl94]

Not gonna lie, I'm not on OP's side. Dude spent half the time tearing his sister apart for "graduating high school and starting a family"? Just like he did?

[@croissant7425]

That’s not it bro she hasn’t got a stable life, dropped out of college and has kids with 2 different farthers and has never been married

[@zachcelistene5332]

He didn’t just tear her apart he told her that he didn’t want her living in his house and she pushed for an explanation and he said the truth if you are bothered by the truth then that’s fine buddy

[@cynthiathomas4463]

She didn't accept a kind no the truth hurts she wants a apology because she can't handle the truth

[@moniquethong798]

Good on OP for protecting his daughters. Also, those naysayers can go host his sister and her leeching ways.

[@LunaFlame]

Ok your husband needs to start acting like a wife. She needs to be at home for yalls kids. Poor girls are being neglected by her

[@roof3932]

If the family feels so strongly about it let one of them take her in. I bet none of them would.

[@kor405]

Ur sis is Not Ur responsibility but Ur Kids r !!!

[@kmubanga]

No lies, don't feel bad

[@DixiePhifer]

Well done you.

[@Annmarie-l3y]

You were honest

[@carmenlitacalderon6960]

No you are in the right😊

[@sandiebradley7523]

Some people can’t handle the truth .Some refuse to take a look at their own reality . Many are in both categories. OP’s sister is both ,

[@Issa.nicholas]

It ain’t called “the ugly truth” for nothin

[@michaelsanoski5095]

Good call

[@MissDebbye]

The truth hurts!

[@linashoes]

I was against it at first, as having a family is an accomplishment and just because it isn't a life you'd want for yourself (or your kids) doesn't make it wrong or not valuable. But then the rest of the information about her came out.

[@candicehenderson1888]

Do not ask questions you do not want the answers to

[@Nick-chanVOX2010]

truth hurts honey try getting two kids with the same father and a ring on your finger before you judge a woman with a carrier.

[@sillamoala7056]

Truths hurt so she better suck it up and get over it and besides, she's the one who got herself in that mess. Btw if the people who are supporting her and getting on your back tell them if *IF YOU SUPPORT HER THEN WHY DON'T YOU LET HER MOVE IN WITH YOU*

[@plumppassion]

You’re not wrong

[@AnneNicole_Harris]

Nope you're not the jerk

[@leebianco3824]

Not the butthole she’s literally trying to force her way into your house she keeps on being nasty toward your wife and she is a bad influence. If anything she needs to apologize for being so rude and nasty to your wife and for pushing you too far she should just took a no for an answer and just left it. After all, you wouldn’t have had to say anything if she didn’t kept on pushing you on an answer so why you didn’t want her to be there

[@Sasu123456789x1]

Exactly

[@jashanpreetsingh4433]

The other familie members still exist!!!!!!!!

[@MichaelWilshusen-w4d]

Run away stay away from them

[@stephanierademacher7818]

Too Harsh = Tough Love

[@Lady_Rowan_MacGyver]

If you don't want to know the answer to a question don't ask the damn question. She asked the question with Force and she got the answer just not the one her ego had counted on.

[@kathyhoot7277]

Truth hurts!

[@TGuard00014]

Strong independent women die alone. You don’t want your daughters to be strong independent women assuming you want grandchildren. Instead you want to teach your daughters how to find good reliable partners that they can count on. Something the sister also failed to do.

[@luxgh]

Give a half assed apologize like "im sorry if you felt this way but i still don't want you around my daughter, byee hoooe" so the family get off ur butt, or go nc which us better since they are taking the leech of the family side, she sure sounds jealous that the wife has an actual career, marriage and gets to travel (even if it's for work i would still consider it a trip) while sis works in fastfood. Also i love how the people who get so mad are never the ones to offer a place for these people to stay, it's like they know it will suck so they just complain and hope others members of the family take these people in.

[@katelynbenson8671]

Does anyone know who the guy in the background is? I really want to watch more of his videos.

[@rachelleswain1034]

While i dont disagree that she isnt a very good role model, i really hate that the op felt the need to comment on her SAHM status. That is not a failure. Her failure is her inability to step up after that relationship fell apart.

[@chestasingh2836]

Sounds like my sis

[@daverod9730]

Wasn't completely heartless ... it was just facts & stats dont lie

[@RebeccaLunsford-qe2kt]

Plus she puts down their mother. No she is not a good example.

[@lidahavard5454]

If family is so worried then let her free loading butt stay with them. U are an adult u ain't living with me unless u are sick

[@johnlmorse9068]

If people was more honest to women there would be more stable families, less single parents, and children with better educationed and self-sufficient.

[@hopperskid381]

If men didn't create harmful environments for women and actually allowed them to live the way they wanted, encouraged them and live like men did, THEN there would be more stable families, less single parents, etc. Your gender made us feel trapped, so of course we wanna branch out because its our first time experiencing it.🤷🏽‍♀️ I don't hate men, but you can't deny the fact that you guys did some f'ed up things to women and us crashing out was reasonable.

[@dylanmcdade6816]

How it sounds like your sister is not a person that I would want my kids to grow up to either if I had kids

[@marlenevanrensburg9160]

My same kind mom is the one of two.dothers wife of the guy talking good one