I want to clear some things up before continuing with this YouTube channel..

[@RockBoxTGA]

Don't let trolls get to you man, they are just trying to get you to bark. You will find most people will support you and some may even be able to get clean with your inspiration. Please stay strong man!!!

[@itsoktotalk]

Man, feels like a lifetime ago I made this video. So much can change in such a little space of time. I don't regret making the video though, it seemed to share what I wanted it to. Much love!

[@catsrpeople2494]

I’m the one who made the comment to which you addressed in the video. I am truly stunned to say the least. You said in the past a comment like mine would’ve triggered you. That was never my intention. In fact some of your videos obviously triggered me based on my comment. I am the ex-wife of an alcoholic who was left with the weight of the world on my shoulders being responsible for our two young children. I embraced the fact that they were better off with my consistency rather than their fathers inconsistency. I always felt he was selfish coming and going as he pleased, (hence my “saltiness” towards you). I didn’t mean to imply that you should be with your girls mother. The consistency of co-parenting is what is important. The timeline in which your videos are uploaded are a bit confusing so I appreciate taking the time to explain your current situation. It especially hit me hard when you said there was a time you thought you were a burden and better off not being here. That is the addiction talking and SO glad you did not listen to that false voice. Commend you for having the self-awareness to try to break the cycle for your girls. You HAVE to stick around now or they will question why they weren’t good enough for you to do so. My kids have expressed that sentiment to me about their own dad. Although your story mirrors mine but from the opposite end, there was no excuse for me being so nasty or judgmental. You are 100% correct that we are all human and have I not made mistakes? Absolutely I have without question and continue to do so. I appreciate your honesty and directness while addressing my comment. I live in the states and wish I could talk to you directly since we have much in common having experienced opposite sides of this demon addiction which robs so much from our families. I will remove my comments and again my apologies to you. Sorry for the very long comment. Wishing you and your girls ALL MY BEST 💕

[@itsoktotalk]

Hi! Thank you for responding, sharing your story, and understanding mine. I appreciate your well wishes, and I send them back to you. All the best!

[@carmenl163]

It takes a lot of courage and character to admit you may have been too outspoken. I'm sorry to hear about the situation you have been struggling with. I hope your circumstances will change for the better. Lots of good wishes!

[@Stephansan31]

Haha well done on how you dealt with that comment! Too bad that comment made you spoil the story but SO happy to hear you’re a month + sober and to see all the benefits you get from that. Massive inspiration again for a lot of us. Thank you! All the best.

[@itsoktotalk]

Well I only spoilt it up to a certain point, we are another 2 weeks on from there! Stay tuned, thank you for the comment and the support. All the best

[@AudioNumeric]

Jesus Christ has Got you, my man! He is working even when you cannot see Him. He created you, and will always Come for you and Heal. He is Lord. Pray to Him and ask Him to reveal Himself. Nothing but Love my brother! Thank you Lord, Amen 🙏🏻

[@Thatsbannanas-d8c]

Thank you for your prayer. I liked the comment.

[@del666mart]

Nice cat ❤

[@itsoktotalk]

Thank you! Same to you :)

[@HarryDuBois616]

I saw the comment you're referring to and it just made me feel sorry for them. They seem to have so much pent up anger, it's kinda concerning. In trying to tell you how to live your life all they really did was give us a glimpse into their own life, because anyone who acts so aggressive and rude is a deeply unhappy person. People who are truly at peace with themselves simply don't act like that to others.

[@catsrpeople2494]

Yes you are correct hence the deletion of my nasty displaced angry comment. I also left a very lengthy comment to replace the previous one. No excuses but as you say a glimpse into my own life. Trying to repair the destruction brought upon me and my children from their fathers addiction but now realize it does NOT give me the right to rip apart someone trying to better their life ✨

[@HarryDuBois616]

@@catsrpeople2494 Thanks for replying. It shows a lot of character to acknowledge these kind of things about ourselevs, and even more to learn from them. Sorry to hear about your past

[@catsrpeople2494]

@@HarryDuBois616 THANK YOU

[@itsoktotalk]

@catsrpeople2494 I want to thank you for commenting and for watching my response video in full. I think it was the "WEAK C**T" part that forced my hand lol.. I could have sworn you would be from Australia or New Zealand after that but alas, no. All the best for the future.

[@catsrpeople2494]

THANK YOU! I normally do not speak that way so it’s quite embarrassing. Although I am from the U.S. and am from 100% Italian decent, I have family living in Australia. They will no doubt get a giggle that I was thought to be from Australia or New Zealand. Compliment or not, I’ll take it! 🥰

[@Kimikosnoh]

Question - do you feel that your children, growing up in a household where the parents are emotionally distanced, so much so that they don’t speak to each other under the same roof, that they will emulate that in their future relationships because it was normalized in their childhood? Thanks for sharing!

[@mkf628]

IFS (internal family systems) is an interesting and helpful type of therapy and self-help method worth looking into great insight for everyone

[@itsoktotalk]

Thank you for sharing :)

[@carmenl163]

IFS is the most intuitive and helpful therapy I've ever encountered. It's not judgemental; it goes to the core of your (unhealthy) behaviors, and it's very well-equipped for handling addiction. It's the only therapy I know of that goes beyond rational thinking and is, therefore, the only thing that really makes a lasting change.

[@mehDOGIESRATS2222]

My old man was a real drunk when I was growing up , scary guy to be around . I think you have a good heart . Thanks for sharing . Congrats , I was a super health nut then I started drinking when I went out for a skate because it was fun at the time with all the guys at the park . Meet most of my gfs at the park , single mums etc . One of the them was a real piss head like me . Turned out she has bipolar , so that didn't last , I really loved her at the time . Her daughter use to love skateboarding with me at the park after school . Never did have kids , I think you are blessed man . Was actually the best time in my life I found , good memory's . Took me years to get over her . Dislocated my right should drunk on year when I was young skateboarding , bloody truck hung up as I was coming out of a 50-50 , feel 7 feet and smashed the side of my face . Had to spend 3 hours waiting for pain meds . My friend was a funny cunt at the time , he goes bro that looked funny as I'm just going to skate for another hour . I'm like the hell you are mate you are taking me to the fcking hospital , most intense pain I have ever felt in my life . Have a good one . She had an abortion to me , so I guess she had to end it with me after that .

[@itsoktotalk]

Thank you for sharing your story man, really appreciate it and I'm sure others will too. I feel blessed. I love my kids to bits and they've taught me much more than I could ever teach them. Unconditional love, it's a nice feeling. I laughed when you said your mate said that looked funny as, I'm off for a skate hahaha I can see it now. Dislocated shoulder, nothing funny about that. All the best.

[@mehDOGIESRATS2222]

@@itsoktotalk Most people will never know pain like that , it's so fcked . It was so bad all the muscles exploded on the inside lol . Amazing how I can still skate at 44 tho . I suck compared to how good I use to be . But what do you expect at 44 . Going blind in one eye doesn't help either , shit use to be so easy for me at one stage . But that's life I guess . I had my prime lol , when it was great it was epic as fck . Many people look at me and would never know what I use to get up to when I was younger . They would be like no way in hell you did that shit . I got some stuff on film , I have a few photos etc . Oddly enough the best things ya do often you never get them on film . Ya kinda had to be there . One of my best friends when he first saw me he thought I was a pro lol . I was like no way bro , I just love skateboarding . Was never about being a pro or nothing like that for me , I just like having fun . I could of won a composition I guess when I was going hard at it , but never was interested tbh . Everyone is different and I never skated to be popular etc . Just doing my own thing , love it or hate it . I have a friend he use to watch me and say you are way more consistent than anyone at the park lol . I feel way more unco these days , it's so weird . Probably fried my brains too much from all the booze .

[@Thatsbannanas-d8c]

@@mehDOGIESRATS2222you take the gentle path. Give yourself a hug. Pain changes people.

[@mehDOGIESRATS2222]

@@Thatsbannanas-d8c Thanks , sure does : )

[@Thatsbannanas-d8c]

@@mehDOGIESRATS2222 I hope you are safe, and connected to a healthy life. You deserve it.

[@ForTheSakeOfTheSongs]

Doing some kind of therapy could help, most addicts including myself struggle with other issues in their lives, alcohol being not much more than a way to cope.

[@itsoktotalk]

I guess these videos are my kind of self-therapy. Maybe in time, but for now, I'm doin the thing myself. Thanks for sharing!

[@Knightcommander69]

Bro you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Ignore the troll, I’m very very proud you are over 30 days sober and off the green. Amazing work. People don’t understand addiction unless they suffered it.

[@itsoktotalk]

Thanks for the unwavering support mate.

[@matthewthechalk]

Smoke alarm 0:07

[@AnnLocke-fb5hl]

May 2024 How are you doing now ,good I hope.

[@bonbonS1969]

You've sacraficed so much for your kids. it's admirable but you've got to find a way to live your live as well. You were so happy before with the sport stuff on your channel.

[@itsoktotalk]

It has always been a really hard one. But, I do know that I am genuinely the most happy I can be, when I'm around my kids. They bring fun and happiness to my life. As annoying as they are haha.