I Was Almost Dishonorable Discharged For This…

First and foremost im so glad to be out of the military. I feel as if I was targeted for being African American and pregnant while in the military. I was treated differently by one doctor and when I spoke up about it I had to suffer for it. This is MY SIDE of the story. This sucks ! But this is real! HG is a medical condition only 2% of women in the world get. It caused near death experiences for me. I weighed 160LBS in the beginning of my pregnancy and by the end I was 119lbs. I couldn’t eat nor drink water. I had NG tubes twice and I received hydration from IV’s ever 2 days. After showing my hospital records, and my doctors statement my commander at Nellis AFB still decided that I should be given paperwork. I wrote my rebuttals and so did my OBGYN.

[@em55527]

Hi, retired military. You need a lawyer. I am not familiar with AF regulations, but the VA should help you. Also, I am not sure why you would need to see your commander and your senior would not have known how to counsel you on this. You seem like a young service member, and this could have been handled much differently. I am not entirely sure, but I believe you still have a right to medical privacy, unless there's reason to believe self-harm, or harm to others. I'd get a lawyer - so surprised you had no one in your corner. A man telling a woman how to experience pregnancy - sounds like something to me.

[@thomaswoods3421]

Sounds like a failure of leadership. Unfortunately, some leaders slip through the cracks. Scoring well on a test to promote doesn’t equal being able to lead people. Some of the best leaders have poor academic skills

[@Mariescott3380]

That leadership at her unit sounds like a pile of horse dung.

[@serenityismine714]

I had that twice!! It’s miserable I thought I was about to die I couldn’t eat or drink anything!!❤ throwing up all day everyday until I was about 7 1/2 months pregnant 🤰🏽.. that’s messed up 😢

[@Zaneika]

That sounds extremely stressful America, I hope your recovering from all the stress now that your out

[@SuperFritoGaming]

so proud of you and glad you stood up for yourself!!! especially with the state of maternal health for black women in america! stay strong mama! praying for you

[@joshsmart1714]

I’m soo sorry you went thru this

[@showmeyourdaleel6568]

That type of stuff is why I got out of the military

[@brigittecarolemeffoyengni9221]

Be strong great Lady 🙏🏻

[@claytonboyd9257]

WOW. NOT FAIR !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@itskingkaddy]

u goodddddd enjoy your freeeeedom!!!!

[@cjbrooks8577]

bless your heart. so sorry you were treated this way.. sending love 💕

[@TDown-gh7cn]

You gave me a new perspective on Woman that bare child while serving.

[@By_arria]

Damn cousin I love you. Im so sorry you went through this. I’m so glad this part is over.

[@Gaby-wm1bo]

Wow thank you for this. I am sorry this happened to you that is not ok. I’m glad you’re going better and finally out. God bless you and your family 💓

[@thomasryan2679]

After every war there were drawdowns in personnel. After Vietnam it was RIFT (Reduction in Forces). Other programs were Force Shaping, Blue to Green, etc. Many career men with families were kicked out with Honorable Discharges. Others weren't selected for reenlistment. Uncle Sam can be ruthless to commit yourself to.

[@jaqhass]

While militaries don't exist to be nice they should at least give their own maternity and paternity leave. Pregnancy is not a "situation".

[@lovelyjabree]

Omg did you ever get justice from the mistreatment , I’m sorry this happen to you 🥺💗

[@Prettygo0d]

This was hard to watch 😢 I got mad for you. You are so strong. Sorry this happened to you. Good that you separated and stood up for yourself.

[@Mariescott3380]

I know this is a super late response but I am just curious: While some airmen may like the Active Duty Air Force, there are a few that don’t like it in the Active Duty component. Maybe you might have probably been happier in the Air Force Reserves or Air National Guard instead of active duty. In those components, you would only see your unit one weekend a month and have more personal freedom at home to take care of yourself to the fullest in between those times without the worry of possible reprisal from leadership based off your situation. Plus that would allow wiggle room for flexibility juggling between drill weekends and self-care if you did Air Force Reserve or Air National Guard. Ever thought about giving the Air Force another chance but trying the reserve or national guard route?

[@claytonboyd9257]

HELLO THIS IS RETIRED E 7 USMC. YOU DO KNOW STARTING OVER. JOBS OUT HERE, IS 28 30 YEARS. MILITARY JUST 20 YEARS I DID 25 YEARS. RETIRED ,WHAT ARE YOU THINKING ?????????

[@thomasryan2679]

Who cares. Unlock your caps.

[@claytonboyd9257]

MY PHONE WILL DO THAT CAPS. ALOT

[@iFlankHD]

Oh no thats not right at all .. no one can tell you how to feel or to just do it. Keep your head high, pray! pray! pray! everything is gonna be alright😞

[@kimwatkins1892]

Sorry to hear you had such a hard time. I too am an A.A. woman who served and had two children while active. I hope you find your calling.

[@jmaciel89]

This is literally happening to my husband right now at nellis we have 3 kids😔

[@Biden_83]

😮😮😮😮

[@ghanafo]

Hey hey Tony here, from Africa, Ghana. Like you alot, lets hang out sometime!

[@vicpsyops4095]

Yeah it wasnt for you. Requires alot of sacrifice. Some not made to do that. Should do more with sales. Seem great at the sales pitch. Good luck.

[@tommyp280]

Why not just finish out? One year left? That’s easy.

[@Wsportys]

😭😭

[@brianharrington-ws2kj]

boring

[@RKnVa]

They should have given you 6 months separation from your freedom.

[@dirtyoldman3]

What do you do that is so hard?