I Was Scammed By Taylor Swift’s Boyfriend

[@KatBlaque]

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[@madisonc6928]

You’re welcome ❤

[@sunshinehoover4630]

Those nails are 🔥 ❤🎉

[@NanaNaima1]

I'm excited to read your blogs!

[@AmberAmber]

TY & ILY❤!! You are stunning and fascinating & intelligent. Also ty for caring about humans. Too many dont. #jewsagainstgenocide #endingwytsupremacymatters #TransRightsAreHUMANRIGHTS

[@makeitmakesense2616]

19:40 yea you came hot and it made me paranoid about everyone I was following cause I don't know if it's y'all or AI But I understood why you were so upset though

[@XYZ-kb3mm]

this is CRAZY. the fact that your agency fell for this is unacceptable. they’re supposed to be on top of things like this. so sorry for the amount of anguish this caused you!!!

[@goblindude4242]

THIS IS WHAT’S GETTING ME. And the fact she was worried about harassment, but the agency was excited and just pushed that despite never even getting further confirmation from the guys.

[@colinejayne]

@@goblindude4242So gross, I would hate working with them again after this situation. THIS IS A GENUINE SECURITY CONCERN.

[@randallflagg3700]

What's crazy is that Ket fell for the _Nigerian Prince scam_ version of podcasts. The friggin' cam was turned off, zero credentials, no meet-up before, "give admin access quick plz the stream is on" lulz How do you protect her from that?

[@Shamazya]

@@randallflagg3700 By actually verifying that the people are who they said they are. Like, part of Kat falling for the scam seemed to be the security of it having been verified by the agency.

[@makslargu5799]

@@randallflagg3700she’s paying a management company to represent her, to manage her professional calendar and to do due diligence for exactly this reason. If the responsibility was soley on her that would be one thing, but this is such a bad look for her representation because the whole point of them existing is to field and vet propositions like this and to ensure favorable terms for your client. I’m pretty sure companies like this even have a fiduciary responsibility to their clients, and putting your client in a situation because you have not done due diligence exposes them to risk of financial fraud and loss of future earnings due to relational harm that may come from an imposter running their social media account. In short, she could have been protected by her reps doing the job they take a percentage to do.

[@teehee9096]

The dead Internet idea is so true everything online feels so fake or just there for rage bate and nothing on the Internet feels real anymore

[@catkin-z8g]

A panscamic.

[@alisonmercer5946]

So much rage bait on tic Tok n all other social media it gets them engagement

[@greenonionbabey]

I've stopped using everything except youtube (and would love to use youtube less/not at all, but I'm not a tv show watcher so this is all I got) but I'm still subbed to a couple "social media commentary" type channels just because I'm nosy. Almost every time there's some apparent big controversy now, especially anything that's trending on tiktok, I'm just like ".....this is what we're talking about? This is what people are doing now? People actually think this/fall for this/care about this in a serious way?" because it all feels so ridiculous and hollow to a point I want to believe everyone's doing an elaborate bit

[@franciszekdo]

@@greenonionbabey lool I hate the viral controversies, It's always learning about the existence of someone I absolutely don't care about and it's always so petty and mean and bad faith to generate more engagement.

[@1-eye-willy]

dead internet theory is that 65% of links and url's will be unreachable every five years

[@agnesvandal]

new kat blaque lore just dropped

[@eggzuki]

her lore book is updated everyday

[@Milk_bbctwinkrapist]

Naurrrr cause like why the lore is spillingggg

[@scattered9brain]

@@eggzuki😂❤

[@Young4eva121]

What does lore mean I keep seeing this word everywhere

[@eggzuki]

@@Young4eva121 basically the history of a topic

[@camipco]

Theory: facebook is making more money from the hacked pages than they were before, so they will never be interested in fixing the hack.

[@snuzzle]

oh my god exactly

[@peripateticAvian]

This.

[@MunchkinWheels]

Literally what I was thinking.

[@quantumfluffyflapjack]

Definitely, but at some point advertisers are going to figure out that their ad spend is reaching nobody but bots right? Right? Actually I think a lot of them probably know but have no other ideas 😐

[@lizz83]

literally!! feels like an “infinite money hack.” fake content for fake accounts 🫣

[@Marxnchill]

Scammers thrive when people are too ashamed to admit they were scammed. I super appreciate this public service announcement! 📢

[@miriamlevenson9430]

👏👏👏

[@milesfurther4395]

Agreed scammers aren’t just “African princes” anymore it really can happen to anyone

[@lucysee2633]

This.

[@Flow-Fi-]

@@milesfurther4395 Definitely. I’m not sure if this counts as a scam but once when I was in a mall this person offered me a sample of their services, explaining that they wanted to “test” on me. Me being the people pleasing ass I am didn’t know what to do and so I just obliged. Well after they were done doing their hocus pocus shit they asked for a couple of dollars… after saying it was free of charge. They weren’t really demanding it so idk if this counts as an actual scam as much as it is just manipulation, but it still sucks 😭 just glad it was only a few bucks and not the thousands of dollars some people have tricked out of them

[@mikaylasmith7600]

Girl, being hacked is, top ten, one of my greatest fears. I feel for you and forget Facebook. Meta is hot garbage.

[@lasvegasbeet]

yea for sure, IG is trash

[@fawnieee]

​@@lasvegasbeet they keep banning dutch people becayse their language has that pesky "unalive" word in it. Because according to meta, no other languages exist.

[@chrisp7044]

I hate social media that encourages to put your IRL persona online like FB. No way do I want to curate my own personal target for scamming and data harvesting. The only problem is that I don't really get any actual social interaction at all anymore, much less keeping in touch with anyone that I don't see in person on a regular basis.

[@mikaylasmith7600]

@@chrisp7044 Exactly. I got off insta a year ago and I talk to basically no one. Though...life is pretty peaceful without it ngl.

[@fetB]

she wasnt hacked, she gave away her access

[@CanIswearinmyhandle]

I hate hate hate how fucking hard it is to get any support now. I recently had an issue with nintendo and I spent about a month emailing with "Michelle" who was definetely an undisclosed AI so obviously it was of 0 help and I asked to please talk to a real human to no avail until I had to give up and accept that I'd given nintendo a lot of money for nothing. Like Nintendo and facebook are multmillion dollar companies that can afford good customer support but instead it's just the worst fucking wild goose chase meant totire you out and give up

[@sharkofjoy]

File a complaint with the BBB. There's not many ways for an individual to express a bad experience with a company, but there's still that one.

[@TyrannisVirtue]

Really? whenever I contacted Nintendo support I almost immediately got help whenever I had an issue.

[@jennyjune9667]

Man same shit happened to me with THREE different apps it’s ridiculous

[@tamagochi_egg]

There is also the possibility they were real underpaid outsourced humans all using the alias Michelle

[@darkshadowrule2952]

​@@sharkofjoyin my experience complaining to the BBB just gets you connected to a separate PR edition of a company's customer support, where they say in more flowery language that they aren't going to do anything for you

[@smurfette_blues7922]

What a nightmare. We really are approaching a post social media app era. Bring back personalised websites!

[@viridianacortes9642]

That might just happen tbh.

[@ames-inthe-grass]

it’s already happening!

[@catarcela1997]

Bring back tumblr! Yes, some communities were toxic but the personalization features were really cool

[@ealusaid]

If you're not paying for an online service, you 👏 are 👏 the product, so WE NEED TO OWN THE GODDAMN SERVERS

[@sarahoftheice]

People tried to bring back tumblr when Elon bought twitter. It didn’t work. Plus, tumblr never really went anywhere. People just didn’t like the rules.

[@tayzonday]

“Taylor Swift’s Boyfriend” is both SEO and Shade 😎

[@kingqunt8567]

Too true Tay Zonday of “Team Fortress 2 Livestream Gone Wrong” Fame

[@mdragon12]

Return of the king ^

[@DewMan001]

Hey, Tay! How's the crypto grift going?

[@altarriq]

chocolate rain

[@buriedpet]

Holy shit it’s Tay Zonday 😳

[@AJ-cq5pw]

The fake stories was what got me off of Facebook. I used to read those stories and actually believe them until one day I read something that was so incredibly fake that I felt embarrassed for sharing those things in the past and so I just left and haven't returned.

[@starsandmoonsabove]

You're so right, the permission to share the access to your page should be reversible. It should be impossible to easily gain full access to someone else's page, and block the actual owner, the way it was possible with your page. Makes no sense. Should be a little more difficult than that. But they don't care about safety it seems

[@starsandmoonsabove]

@@Dimpdis818 that's victim blaming. We're talking about the fact that it was too easy to give away full access. It should be reversible. You should be able to allow and then take back access to your page. what you're saying is not helpful to anybody except scammers and corporations like fb who don't care about the safety of their users. Yiuu know how you can block your banking card if it gets stolen? Something like that should be possible where we can at least block the page if it gets hacked or taken over the way it did in this case. Are you a conservative or a centrist by any chance? I'm confused by your opinion.

[@MorganChaos]

@@starsandmoonsabove I kind of agree with both of you -- I do think it should be harder to fall for this kind of thing, but I don't think it's victim blaming to say that making such a change reversible in every single instance would just create more problems. I've been in situations where people handed over this kind of permission for legitimate, agreed-on reasons and you wouldn't want them to be able to take it back at will (e.g. someone agreeing to give up ownership of a discord server because the owner is a toxic presence in the community). I think the best thing would be a warning in clear language that mentions scams. Like at the top in bold, "Read this entire warning. If someone is telling you to just scroll past it, they are scamming you." And then the warning explains exactly how powerful this permission is and explains that it's possible you can get locked out of your account by giving it, so only give it to someone you trust. This would at least put a barrier in place that would get most people to realize "this doesn't do what this person is telling me it does, so I should stop and get more information." (Of course, as someone else pointed out, Facebook probably makes more money on the hacked pages so they're never going to fix it.)

[@sedwards6337]

👏 👏👏 happened to me 3 mos ago. Hacked - tried everything to prove my identity. But the hackers of course were protected and maintain my page to this day smh

[@ariellelyons]

the fact that meta doesn’t have a customer service line for this exact reason is despicable. if i’m having issues with my phone, i can call apple and a human can help me fix it for free. just a couple days ago i tried to transfer access to a facebook page to the person taking over for me as the communications chair of a student org (i just graduated college) and couldn’t do it because the password got misplaced by the other exec members and we can’t seem to find the email that set up the facebook page. and there’s nothing i can do to figure this out because i can’t just… talk to facebook

[@amoureux6502]

I ran a page with one other person a few years ago, he was an Admin and I was an Editor, and it was all fine and well until his account got hacked and deleted. Just completely destroyed. He made a new account just to realize that I, as an Editor, didn't have permissions to add him back. The page literally had (still has) no Admin to fix this issue and despite my repeated attempts to get through to anyone at Facebook to fix it, I never heard a word.

[@kerinwills]

Ai is definitely making platforms more miserable to use. A lot of it is like the internet version of space junk. And I hate that I can't choose a category on a streaming platform and just look at everything available to watch anymore: instead I now have to deal with an endlessly repeating stream of thumbnails I already saw and wasn't interested in. And this may very well be my last comment on youtube ever because I'm really tired of having the majority of my comments either removed or shadowbanned: banal, innocuous, boring comments being censored for no discernible reason. I wonder if this one will get through. I could go on and on, honestly.

[@wen6519]

THIS. I wouldn't even mind if it was the new videos of creators I follow. But it's like KZbin only wants me to rewatch things over and over until I know every line by memory

[@LunarRaevyn]

It feels like every time i try and correct misinformation in a comment section on KZbin, all i get is my comment deleted with no warning and no notification. The comment with crazy, wild misinformation just flies free, uncritiqued. It's incredibly fucking obnoxious

[@pig3292]

Omg I feel this so hard! I have to use third party websites to figure out what shows a streaming service actually has 🙄

[@celestialbunny]

i always notice my comments getting deleted. and it's always when i'm saying smth kinda important? like someone said above me, correcting misinformation. or calling out what a youtuber said, its like "no bb girl. you cant say that." and it's so annoying.

[@amber7591]

​@@wen6519ok I thought it was just me. It keeps showing me stuff I already watched and then the majority of videos it's suggesting are 5+ years old. Wtf. It's been doing this for a couple months at least now. Also the video navigation bar is cut in half so try to seek in videos is almost impossible. That's been going on for at least a month. And I'm paying for ts, they better get it together!

[@MissRyukkie]

The fact that you still don't have access even after months of trying to get a person at Facebook who would know what to do is telling. It shows that facebook doesn't care about creators or users. It makes me nervous as a user of Instagram and Threads if the same things will happen there.

[@jaybee2337]

FB is the cause of its own demise. They don’t care about creators or users, who are leaving, and their stock is dropping so I’ll bet they start to “care” soon.

[@darkshadowrule2952]

And the worst part is when they leave hacked accounts out there, it just gets more people hacked, making the platform more unsafe. Their lack of care is a direct cyber security risk

[@alisonmercer5946]

It's wild that such a rich company can't be bothered

[@wlk3607]

the same things are happening on instagram and have been for years

[@samanthadelahunt3698]

You can't just get hacked out of nowhere. Don't click any links from Instagram/reels and don't contact those sketchy "ambassador opportunities" and you'll be fine

[@dancinmadz]

Girl the mood of trying to balance knowing to expect the worst while trying to hope for the best is so real

[@ReshonBryant]

😂

[@chapomon]

The trend of self-censoring on KZbin, especially when a content creator is talking about a serious topic, is so frustrating. I'll be listening to a great essay but then suddenly it gets derailed by usage of abbreviations or homonyms rather than clearly stating what they mean and sometimes the explanation of "I can't say that because algorithm." I get the reasons and I understand the reasons to why wanting a different or competing platform but my question is what's the differences between KZbin and the blog sites you're writing where you don't feel the need to self-censor? Is it just because it's free of the pressures of visibility algorithms and monetization?

[@kyramoonrise9064]

So she’s click bating. Fair game atp

[@goober479]

It's shocking that this has spread to comments now. I'm constantly replying to young people saying d3ad and telling them they can say dead... their comment won't be deleted

[@kennyl4699]

@@goober479 I have had several comments auto-removed for using more innocuous words than that, so it's not completely irrational.

[@ladyzoe5734]

Facebook is such a cesspool now. My timeline is barely comprehensible

[@roseeze166]

So is KZbin

[@KateCat420]

​@@roseeze166 depends what corner of youtube you hang around

[@tyman209]

Kinda wild that the internet is getting so bad we're going back to everyone having a personal website like it's 2006. As someone who never experienced that time of the internet cause I was a kid, I'm here for it!

[@moustik31]

My uncles and aunts are still on Facebook. It's full of conspiracy theories and bigotry in my experience.

[@pig3292]

Mines full of cat and Twilight memes lol. You gotta curate it and cut out any pages with toxic comment sections

[@petrichorbones]

​@@pig3292 i think in order to do that i'd have to unfriend most family members and cause all the family drama lmaoe. best for me to just leave facebook entirely instead. bc family members promote the conservative conspiracy theory garbage

[@pepperonipete8928]

@@pig3292That’s hard to do with some interests, I love local history for example.

[@pig3292]

@@randomy2bhandle yes, the comment sections can definitely be mine fields, I agree 😞

[@daymon6868]

GIRL! I’m sorry. I’m glad you out META’s ass ON BLAST! I feel you . I had an account hacked and lost some deeply personal stuff lost. Girl I watch you all the time ! Like I turn down my lights and kick back and watch. Kat ,have some Champaign and cheesecake! You’ll feel better . That combo always does it for me

[@LegolasTN]

It is staggering to me that Meta could not handle your case in 24-48 hours, given you are a verified user, especially with a years-long history of posting and access that they could easily witness has been modified. I could see excuses for a week or two maybe to clear things up given you actively granted access, but over a month with no resolution (and most of that time not even communicating with a person) is absolutely inexcusable. And they wonder why people are leaving the platform.

[@rubyy.7374]

Social media isn’t an escape from reality anymore, it’s just the worst parts of it dialed up to 1000. It sucks if you’re not in the largest US cities with likeminded people (I’m in a small-ish, very conservative city), but I’m definitely way more happy having left most social media and focusing on my passions instead.

[@KimandKamJam]

I deleted my Facebook YEARS ago lol. Had no reason to use it and frankly HATED being reminded of how shitty I was as a teenager 😂

[@BlanBonco]

Facebook always recommended people i was so glad to be rid of or weird strangers. You weren't that bad the internet needs emotional engagement good or bad $$$ otherwise its a library.

[@n00bitaww]

SAMEEEEE

[@alexistired3790]

i'm quite sad because i haven't been on facebook for 10 years or longer, but i think my page is still up and i don't have access to my old email! my digital footprint HUANTS me

[@KatBlaque]

Ahhahaha the memories are so embarrassing omg

[@n00bitaww]

@@alexistired3790 me too and I've tried to report my account 100times but nothing happens. Last post was on 2014 maybe.

[@vtop1c]

I mean... As a dev, I instantly understood that this is a scam. But I've worked with plenty of people who are in general quite good with tech, but aren't too familiar with all the various loopholes that are used by scammers/hackers. Since there are so many various tools used for security, pretty much the vast majority of hacking nowadays is more like "tricking the user into giving you access", instead of "getting access".

[@randallflagg3700]

book smart *X* internet-streets smarts

[@JayEyedWolf]

I feel like part of it is diffused knowledge versus specialized. Someone with a following has to know the basics of five to ten different platforms, running around with a bunch of tools they mostly know how to use, but not how to fix or break. Someone who focuses on backend, like a software dev, will know the structure of sites and where their security loopholes are, will know how to make and break these tools, but won't have the time or know-how to make a profit or presence on those platforms. Doing both is probably possible, but exhausting, and an uncommon convergence of interests besides. All that said, I do feel like at this point, any group claiming to do social media management should probably consider putting a cybersecurity or software expert on their payroll to consult on things like this. It probably wouldn't prevent every scam, but presumably it would at least hinder a lot of them...

[@CommanderLexaa]

I knew it was a scam because the same thing almost happend to me but w PayPal, I was desperate for money, but thankfully my brain decided to work when they asked for more than my email. (I do commissions so I am VERY familiar with how people can send you money)

[@CarysCreatesThings]

So many people have had their Facebook pages hacked this way recently! It’s happened to Francesca Leigh Ramsey, Muppet History, and a few people I know personally. One of my mentors got really screwed over as they’d recently started teaching beatboxing lessons online, and most of their customers found them through Facebook ads. Once their account got hacked, they pretty much had to start again from scratch. I’m so sorry this happened to you too, Kat. It’s more sophisticated than other scams, so it’s easy to fall for. I hope that through you, Francesca, and other influencers sharing your stories, potential victims will notice the red flags before it’s too late.

[@honeybreeworld]

you visited. my university in NJ back in 2016 and it was genuinely one of the hi-lights of my entire undergraduate experience

[@KatBlaque]

Awww ❤️❤️❤️🫂

[@LP-qf6ue]

Wow, I'm so surprised your agent(s) didn't recognize this as a scam. This is so horrible. Please don't blame yourself for a single moment for trusting these people. Sending you love ❤️

[@msg3tr1ght]

This echoes a lot of the feelings I have about being online. I deleted Twitter, IG, and I don’t use my FB besides messenger to keep in touch with a few. I don’t like the idea of sharing myself online anymore but wish I had a safe, encrypted space to post my musings. I’m really sorry you got scammed and although you were trying so hard not to self sabotage, I really wish you trusted your gut. I hope nothing like this ever happens to you ever again.

[@MajorArlene]

This is terrifying to hear about because being in the video game development world, the studio I work for and many of our friends get requests for podcast interviews. Thank you for sharing your experience and I'm sorry to hear this happened to you.

[@JayEyedWolf]

This makes me wonder if this is the sort of scam that caught the Iron Gate studio when their discord got sunk a few months back. They were lucky that Discord was more responsive on the matter than Facebook has been for poor Kat, but they still lost the entire structure of the server and entire chat history when the hackers were noticed and went thermonuclear in response. The loss of the community record and lost trust was really bad, but they're very fortunate it didn't reach anything more front-facing or official...

[@mewmew6158]

Wow! The dedication to stealing accounts is mindboggling.

[@legendaryfrog4880]

AI will kill the internet. It's about to get much worse. Sorry about you losing your Facebook page, but I'm glad you found a path forward. Looking forward to coming along with you on your new journey.

[@maxwellversed]

The fact that this all happened after you were finally able to convince yourself to trust someone and accept an opportunity is so hurtful. You deserve all the success and praise without the bullshit!

[@DireDandelion]

This scam! This has been happening to a lot of KZbinrs recently. I'm sorry it happened to you, it seems like it was some really hardcore social-engineering. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@tauntingeveryone7208]

I think we are moving towards the era where public social media is dying. A lot of creators and just people who want to connect with people are moving away from traditional social media like Facebook, Twitter, etc. and going to social media sites that require you to know someone to join like discord. My use of social media has always been limited but from what I hear from my friends is that they mostly use apps like discord to get the engagement that previously social media apps give them. One reason why I think a lot of people are moving towards private groups for social media is because it requires more effort to join, you know everyone you are talking to has similar interests to you, and it is way easier to remove not accounts from one of these private networks than a traditional social media website. Now with the push by social media websites to sanitize their pages, I wonder if creators will start posting more of their content to these private groups. For example, I know a lot of KZbinrs are adding a free tier to their Patron so that some of their videos that KZbin does not want people to see can be seen. To me, it is a matter of being able to control your accounts and get rid of bots from your community that are causing this push to more private group social media.

[@amethystdream8251]

Interesting. Are ppl on twitch these days for non gaming hobbies?

[@emmie297]

the hacked accounts and pages full of stolen content keeps facebook going and its soon going to be all ai posts with bot comments. sometimes things need to end

[@gothiccbae]

It bothers me to absolutely no end the way that Facebook is by far the worst social media when you need help. There’s zero real support.

[@sapphic.flower]

It’s really so annoying how these big companies that people build careers off of use AI for their services so it makes it so hard to get your needs met.

[@tomasallende9583]

Being scammed really ruined my trust for people online, maybe that's a good thing but it's something you have to mourn. And you feel so stupid and so much shame that whatever you lose, unless it's massive, feels secondary.

[@user-ft3pj1nr6c]

Oh my gosh!! I saw about this before when you talked about it. I’m so sorry. You are fantastic and cool enough to be on a big podcast

[@BlueMagicite]

Wow, shame on your agency for letting you fall through like that. It's their literal job to help prevent shit like this from happening. Hope this reached any other clients of theirs.

[@HulluMel]

This is the juiciest title I've ever seen. Cant wait to see what its all about 👏

[@sherthetruth]

the title isnt even clickbaoit... it's actually false and didn't happen. She was just scammed by an impersonator. Nothing to do with the podcast. Sad she felt the need to lie to her subscribers for views. I used to like this channel.

[@jayy4651]

Omg I recognise you!!! I used to love your warrior cats map parts!!!!!

[@HulluMel]

@@sherthetruth yes I know we watched the same video. Honestly? I don't rly care if the title is technically a lie. I'm here for Kat and I can appreciate a masterfully crafted title even if it's clickbait 🤷

[@HulluMel]

@@jayy4651 WHOAH thank you so much!!

[@KatBlaque]

@@sherthetruthif you’ve followed my channel for a while, this title shouldn’t surprise you at all. “I was hacked by Indonesian hackers pretending to be producers for travis kelce’s podcast” doesn’t quite grab people’s attention and that’s why we post content on here. In a way, that’s another argument for using my own personal website. In order to get paid for what I create, I have to make clickable titles. Your comments disagreeing with the title are engagement that feeds my channel. The best way to hit a creator is to withdraw your support and engagement all together. I am aware of each point of the story I told. I gave the video the title intentionally.

[@jaybee2337]

I, too, go back and forth thinking about deleting my FB page. I’m never on there so I should just do it but it’s like you said, there are so many memories in those posts.

[@unseenmolee]

i feel your pain. trying to talk to a real person and being met with nothing but robots is insanely frustrating to say the least

[@scooterbooter]

Omg Kat, I'm so sorry 😭 as someone with ADHD I very well know the feeling of realizing that I have made an unfixable mistake... Not at all blaming you here! I just feel for you.

[@PENGUINGIRL1210]

The self-sabotage behavior is literally me, too. It’s a hard thing to overcome, and it’s even worse when you finally decide to go for it, and it doesn’t work out or turns out to *actually* be manipulative or ingenuine, and then you go “see I was right” and tighten your fortress a bit more. I feel you ❤

[@homesick_]

I'm sorry this happened

[@allywon]

this reminded me of why i like posting online to begin with. just having creative outlets and making connections with people who resonate with the same things as me. very excited for u kat !

[@kaliora7047]

Hearing that a website like twitter, broken and full to the brim of bots, is more effective is crazy to hear about. Really tells me all I need to know about facebook these days (left around 2016ish).

[@isabilia]

You have so much lore it's insane omg

[@Boahemaa]

I am so sorry this happened to you. Facebook was pretty spammy when I left as a New Years Resolution in 2018. I can see it getting worse. I found social media in general dystopian so I have avoided all the platforms. The platforms just don't care. They're very ghoulish in that way. I hope they resolve this for you.

[@p2p2p2p2p2p]

you should fire the management that didnt immediately realize this was a scam

[@eewahnah]

The first part about hearing you getting much more pleasure and connection and safety whilw doing IRL stuff feels like such a 'paying it forward' moment. I discovered you 10 years ago, still sticking around for what's to come and the gradual shift and evolution you've made not just from having a platform, but seeing people reach out from their points of discovering you and going forward with a positive experience of opening so many horizons ❤

[@natescott3832]

First, I’m sorry that happened to you. That had to be incredibly frustrating, and scary. It’s terrifying to think about someone you don’t know putting whatever they want into the world and thousands of people believing it’s coming from you. That said, I’d think you’d be more sensitive to putting out content that’s misleading. Not only is the title of this video clickbait, you don’t reveal that it was hackers who scammed you and not Travis Kelce until the video is more than half through. I’m surprised to have scrolled through several comments without having read one person point this irony out. Perhaps negative comments are being deleted… who knows. I guess we can all agree you can’t believe anything you come across on social media anymore.

[@aishahb8336]

So excited to see this new era, I've been watching you for over a decade now and it's been amazing to see how you've evolved so much- from the piano tone intro, the animated videos, your coming into your own with BDSM and being poly, it's really been wonderful ❤

[@KatBlaque]

❤️❤️

[@ronoc9]

On aside, I too struggle with balancing self-deprecation and self-promotion.

[@l.p.5703]

The fact that this happens without any push back from Facebook is so gross. I can’t stand Facebook.

[@KnaveMurdok]

THAT'S what Dead Internet Theory is? Someone tried to explain this to me a couple years ago and they did such a bad job at explaining it that I just rolled my eyes every time I heard the term after that. They were like "you know how the internet is all ads now?" and I'm like "yeah" and they're like "that's dead internet theory." And I'm like "The internet had been mostly ads since X10, you aren't exactly breaking any new ground with this theory." Then he got mad at me and wouldn't explain it any further. Either way, i am so sorry this all happened to you. I too have been kinda tossing up my hands in frustration with what to do with myself online. Facebook has been choking my engagement ever since it flagged some punk lyrics I posted in a thread about punk lyrics as "hate speech", and it feels like no one sees me no more. I feel like we lost as soon as we lost net neutrality all those years ago. Now they wanna ban TikTok in the states. This internet ain't ours no more.

[@amethystdream8251]

Well this is what happens when we act like treating each other as sacred is corny. That has a way of ruining the quality of things

[@lindsay9600]

Wow, I would be *livid* with your agency too. That's like, your whole job y'all. I can't imagine how frustrating that is, to have them verify this fake podcast.

[@lexidarling]

I miss MySpace so much

[@GothMusicLatinAmerica]

Spacehey is basically a ripoff MySpace

[@Lucifersfursona]

We ever figure out if there’s a reason we don’t go back to livejournal

[@franciszekdo]

​@@Lucifersfursona People migrated away from LJ for several reasons such as increased censorship and the popularization of other sites. Like the thing is, any and every space online where we find community can be taken away by the arbitrary whims of a CEO (usually to make the site shittier but more profitable).

[@thrillhouse4151]

Pretty sure I originally found you on Facebook as a mutual friend of my sister like over a *decade* ago. As soon as I learned about the data brokering and stuff I’ve tried my damnedest to not put pictures of myself or my family online. AI art would make me even more reluctant now.

[@josf9616]

The lack of customer support on sites like Facebook and KZbin is absolutely ENRAGING. I had a KZbin channel that was deleted with no notice. I asked why and never heard anything back, then after pushing it for years I finally got the response that I "violated community standards." I asked what I did and never got a response. Still no idea why it happened and I lost everything I created

[@CupcakeofEmotions]

I feel so validated by the fake internet thing. I used to post art on IG and while I wasn't raking in likes I felt like my art was reaching people. I posted so consistently and eventually I felt and saw my reach dwindling and I just stopped posting at all.

[@brendawggq187]

This sucks big time Kat, I'm sorry... you're ability to reflect and express how this impacted your peace internally is refreshing to hear. Because I also self sabotage and think catastrophically due to all I carry. Thanks for sharing this and I truly hope with time it doesnt eat at youre peace the same and you are able to get your account someday🙏🏽

[@sindraxo9249]

I'm LIVING for the theateresque intro, this video format is so good!

[@theburgersystem126]

I feel so sorry for what happened to you but I love how you're finding a silver lining in it and new ways to unleash your creativity. Take your time. You don't need to upload as often as you used to. Even just getting an update here and there is great.

[@pingidjit]

You and other creators this has happened to should mass sue facebook. I really hope you do. They need a reality check.

[@SorasShadow1]

please tell me you cut all ties with that agency. while anybody's at risk of falling for schemes like this regardless of who they are, it's so much worse to have people who's job it's supposed to be to prevent this sort of shit from happening lead you straight into it.

[@urmomsushi]

as someone who has been hacked before on a relatively big account, i completely completely understand your pain. I am so sorry and I really hope you get it back

[@snuzzle]

i’m so sorry you had to go through this queen

[@DontMockMySmock]

every time you say "always remember, and never forget. . . " my brain automatically fills in "the alamo, and 9/11, respectively"

[@jimmypad5501]

You can forget both of those

[@DontMockMySmock]

@@jimmypad5501 i wish i could!

[@shibibi1]

I genuinely think building offline community is something we need to go back to doing. Online community is important. I'm a queer disabled person living rurally, I rely on online communities. But in person will always be healthier and more productive and since most people don't live out in the stix, more effort should be put back into in person community efforts. Hell, even us rural folk have community groups where people meet up. Less frequently, fewer people and limited topics... But we have them

[@__morticia__addams__]

Who the fuck is still on Facebook: Why the hell are concerts still set up on Facebook even? I mean, it's still better than stories on Instagram with its calendar and invite features for such a cause, but it would so great if there was an independent website where everyone congregates so i can finally leave that shithole .... i've noticed that many underground concerts are picking up methods from outdoor rave culture and only get announced in telegram groups for which you need to know people to get in ...

[@zinja0830]

So THIS is the scam that almost got Franchesca Ramsey and may have nabbed a page of one of my fave drag queens. I'm one of the dinos still on Facebook, but being born in 1990 keeps me on there so I'm in the loop with family events and occasionally see an update from peeps I met in college. Also I just can't be bothered by TikTok, never really clicked with Twitter and finally left in 2017, and hardly use IG. My KZbin account is nearly 18 years old, so the algorithm is already trained to my extremely eclectic tastes. Thanks for taking the time to share your story! I'm happy to hear that you have a solid offline community. I'm not there yet, so seeing you blossom in recent years by making offline connections with people is encouraging to see.

[@petrichorbones]

this is so infuriating and i can see how scary that is. its never shameful to be scammed, anyone can get scammed at any time none of us are truly immune. it really sucks this happened to you though, im so sorry :( bc thats awful i hate facebook though. i deactivated but i'll prob go to the trouble of deleting it entirely one of these days. even when i was trying to use it to see family members posts, my feed was fulllllllllll of "suggested posts" that were so random and half of them were AI images. it was difficult to even see a single post from anyone of my friends on there. im only still on instagram to stay connected to my internet friends around the globe bc at least on instagram i can actually see when they post (even if they do make it an extra step for chronological order, i still see their stories posts and can connect with them easily that way) ugh i hate the way censorship on the internet has become so much

[@petrichorbones]

will def be keeping up with your blog! the internet is concerning lately but im also kinda looking forward to seeing more people have individual personal websites like this where there is no algorithm

[@simmerway]

Maybe I’ve been out of the loop but this feels like such a different vibe of production and I love it!

[@rebekahramos4497]

Someone hacked my first facebook too and was messaging my friends. I genuinely hate what happened to facebook

[@Sclasspsycho]

You're so right about your brain feeling better when you stop using socials so much. I have a lot behaviors I do online (listing, picture gathering, etc.) that I'm trying to pull away from and read more.

[@barbietarbox]

29:59 I never understood why ppl would intentionally abandon old accounts and remake, until i decided to ditch the blog i had maintained for over a decade, and made a new one with the intention to keep it authentic. I post more than ever before, and get 0 notes on most my posts. it feels freeing to participate and legitimately engage with social media instead of passively consuming.

[@muticere]

I literally only use Facebook anymore for recipes. There are some banger recipes all over the place from accounts that just push new recipe videos every day. I cook most of the meals for my family and anytime I'm stumped on what to make that day, I just go on facebook and scroll for a bit and I'll have some new thing we've never tried before and it'll be amazing. That's about it, though. Otherwise, yeah, Facebook is a trashheap now.

[@MandVersusNature]

Xanga brings me back! I’m so, so sorry about your loss of your Facebook and it was an eye-opening story to hear about. It was so evil to steal your page.

[@Cyn_The_Vixen]

Your confidence is on a whole another level for this new era and I love it. 🥰🥰

[@wlk3607]

so sorry this happened to you. thank you for sharing though, that’s the best way for other people to be aware of these scams

[@PatronSaintofChaos]

That was a hard experience to watch, and I'm sorry that you went through that. I'm excited for the new content that's coming up!

[@escritora84]

Reminders to self: never ignore that Virgo intuition. I'm so sorry that happened, and I hate what social media has become. The only place I feel remotely sane is Tumblr, and even that it feels like it's a dying era of the internet that doesn't exist anymore.

[@shannond1511]

I do this in my life a lot too and dammit it sucks when you let that guard down and you’re dead wrong and when you put it back up you’re also dead wrong.

[@Brassroses]

My friends that are less online have been getting fooled by AI generated "recipies" and sharing them en mass. Its ridiculous

[@mayakashisagan4025]

I hope this gets around so more people know of it And I'm sending you a virtual hug cause this is painful to go through

[@JLB0880]

This is horrible, I’m so sorry you went through this 💔

[@michulafrance117]

18:03 I have PCOS and grow facial hair. My fiancée is a man and he has alopecia so I’m literally hairy and he’s hairless. I literally grow a beard and I’ve named it Billy. I’ve embraced my body hair and don’t shave/wax often. Maybe once a month because I used to get so obsessed with “perfecting” womanhood/girlhood. I am made up of both feminine and masculine energy and traits. I live in my masculine often especially because I run my own business and work in sales/marketing but at the end of the day I’m a woman with high testosterone levels and it’s okay. I’m still a woman and I’m still perfectly fine as I am.

[@greedbun]

i am so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad that it seemed to be a bit of a wake up call though. Fuck FB fr fr. I'm in my 20s and I still have an FB account to keep in touch with old friends, especially since I moved out of state and left a lot of people behind, but honestly, this makes me want to delete it and never look back lol.

[@HUeducator2011]

29:57 your joy exuded when you spoke on your blog. You inspired me to get back into it 💗❤️

[@MainelyMandy]

I'm so sorry you got scammed, Kat. It seems a lot of people are getting affected by this scam in particular. I remembered Francesca talking about it as well as the Kitten lady. I'm kind of surprised this story hasn't hit more news outlets

[@animalunaris]

Lost my 18yr old Facebook account a couple of years ago after posting something anti-racist that the algorithm flagged as hate speech and on top of a couple of other similar warnings, despite months and months of trying to contact them and sending in photos of my ID, with no response or just some kind of communication loop that went nowhere, I gave up.

[@whalechief]

many years ago i needed help w facebook support and even then i realized "oh.....nobody works here that you can contact" which is very true for anyone without internal connections, but even then as we can see it doesnt mean shit

[@abigailrhodes4231]

It's honestly a really interesting study in how self doubt and other maladaptive cognition and behaviors cause one to completely lose perspective. You were combatting the doubt and self sabotage so hard that you were overlooking significant red flags others who don't have to fight with their minds would have been free to easily spot. Please appreciate - in no way an I moralizing or indicting these decisions, I just think it's really interesting and very relatable.

[@saxviars9749]

Ahhhh- I remember I needed help because i was being over charged for instagram ads I never ran. I guess it’s fairly common, to the point where the state of California had to create a separate phone line for this specific issue to help its residents/build a case to sue meta. Thankfully I was just able to dispute it with my bank and replace my debit card, but it’s unfortunate such a big company that has the money to help its users refuses not to. The fact that they could not even bother to help one of their own verified users speaks volumes. I’m sorry your account is lost :(.

[@Krillacreat]

As a chronically online bozo, once you mentioned that the scammers were asking for you to remove your page's verification, my eyes widened in fear.

[@amichau]

You aren’t lying re: Facebook. I quit using it like 4-5 years ago completely. Deactivated my account and quit social media. Then this year I logged on for the first time just to grab some photos and wow is it terrible now. It’s all ads, and most of them are fake AI-generated bullshit. For every 2-3 posts from someone I follow, there’s an ad now. Who wants that? Who likes this?

[@whitneym.9358]

Thank you for speaking up about this. I feel like many of us think of ourselves as too clever to fall for scams, so hearing someone as intelligent and tech savvy as you describe being scammed is helping your audience firstly by humbling us- if you aren't immune to scammers then I know I definitely am not, and also by detailing how they did it so we can have a better idea of the red flags to look out for. The dead internet theory stuff is so bleak. I wonder if people will just create some new form of communication in a few years that's essentially Internet 2: This Time With No Bots! (For Now)